At 40 i thought my wife and i couldnt have kids. I accepted that i would be depressed in my elder years. I have a 1 year old now and nothing makes me happier.

@craigbuckland6584

27 күн бұрын

They are hard work but make life worthwhile

@c.f.okonta8815

27 күн бұрын

Glad that you had a kid. Nothing beats that

@jg5050

27 күн бұрын

Congrats buddy!

@tomasfabianserrut466

27 күн бұрын

Happy for you

@Laoriginal718

27 күн бұрын

Good for you. Not sure why you would be depressed had you not had a kid. Seems pathetic.

Cant even leave an honest comment when KZread censors everything.

@FrankGallagherr

27 күн бұрын

YT is DNC and corrupt

@BonBon770

27 күн бұрын

Yep!

@Rays_Bad_Decisions

27 күн бұрын

Ya they mess with the view and comment count too...

@dbzfan4evermj233

27 күн бұрын

Facts

@Particle_Ghost

27 күн бұрын

You're not allowed to be that smart in the comments sections and you can't post stone cold facts.

Half the panel is single guys in their 40s without kids and they’re talking about how people are selfish not having kids…. 😂😂

@kengy1991

27 күн бұрын

THANK YOU. Practice what you preach and build a family.

@kinsleykinsley5687

26 күн бұрын

I think they'd like to be married, but women today are awful.

@brandonburns5365

26 күн бұрын

​@@kinsleykinsley5687at what point is it them?

@mysticpizza02

25 күн бұрын

Yes, they are waiting until they've made a fortune in their 50's then they will want the 20 year old virgin.

@MarinaNic8

24 күн бұрын

Exactly what I was thinking. lol wrong panel to have this conversation.

How is Adam encouraging men to "test drive" and date as many women as possible, and in the same breath, berate "test driven" women" as having high mileage?!! That double standard and objectification of women is gross. I have zero respect for men who "test drive" women and turn around and want one that hasn't been "test driven". Married 20 years, both of us were totally inexperienced, built a family, a beautiful life and a business together. I'm glad he didn't need to test drive me first, and I will forever respect him for not trying to be some "high mileage muscle classic car"..ew.

@JennyJean.

27 күн бұрын

I was a virgin when I married at 28yrs old after college. My husband was a virgin when he married me at 26 years old I DIDN’T want an STD riddled emotionally disconnected man to be on the mission of marriage with me. Period. If I found out a guy I was dating had sex with someone else it was a turn off for me.

@JennyJean.

27 күн бұрын

Once someone has sex with another person that memory is burned in their brain, and they will never connect completely with the next person they have a sexual experience with so the divorce possibly is higher.

@SK-kp2qq

27 күн бұрын

Typical gew

@Ejehs1

27 күн бұрын

​@JennyJean..that's from a woman's perspective. I doubt men are wired the same way.

@FLGurl

27 күн бұрын

Exactly. And he wonders why he is still single. This kind of mentality really boils my blood.

Let's also consider the fact that we live in a HOUSING CRISIS that nobody ever wants to discuss! Idk about yall, but I'm not trying to build a family in a studio apartment!!!!!

@charliedallachie3539

27 күн бұрын

Sure you can do it… just have one of those 4 bed bunks and such, cook microwave meals. (Of course I’m kidding) lol😂

@angelikazajac9885

27 күн бұрын

I know families who were raised like this and none of them wishes they were less of them because they didn’t had enough space. At times it might feel like other people have more privilege in life but later in your life you can be as successful as people with more money. You would also had something they can never buy which is family and the memories you built in this tiny apartment. A lot is about perspective.

@tonylouis6072

27 күн бұрын

@@angelikazajac9885 I'm one of those people who were raised like this. What you say is true but for me and plenty of others, we see things differently, we see it as a problem and we want to change things

@angelikazajac9885

27 күн бұрын

@@tonylouis6072 agree but every generation tries to give their children what they didn’t have. If you focus too much on the material aspects it can never be good enough. What people debate now is not how to prepare next generations with knowledge about finance but they debate that whether is better to not bring the child to the world because god forbid the child is “poor” by materialistic standards.

@kaylasimpson4458

24 күн бұрын

True 🤔

Nice that I get a “context” warning from KZread on this clip explaining what abortion is. If I wanted your view, KZread, I’d look it up. Stop trying to tell me what to think.

@radheykultura6994

27 күн бұрын

KZread is horrific these days wow

@sthubbins4038

27 күн бұрын

Triggered?

@joshuasepanski8200

27 күн бұрын

Yeah they are one of the worst with that nonsense..

@marylou3995

26 күн бұрын

100% right r

love pbd but rich guys can never understand. i promise you, dump all your bank accounts and then think about having another kid. completely fucking different mindset when you dont know where the next money is coming from

@DeusSalis

27 күн бұрын

Still worth it.

@chriskey7440

27 күн бұрын

​@@DeusSalisApparently it's not, since the fertility rate is down. Another comment you failed to think through haha.

@BroMark1611

27 күн бұрын

​@@chriskey7440 "ha ha"? Did you purchase that upper tier commentary or you got a scholarship to learn it in university?

@chriskey7440

27 күн бұрын

@@BroMark1611 neither, just pointing out facts. I honestly don't know why you questioned me using haha, it's not ha ha you idiot. My comment was funny, hence why I said haha, and you found that confusing?

@katrinaparham7708

27 күн бұрын

MATTHEW chapter 6:26-34 31 “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

It isn't just black-and-white selfishness; wealth dictates fertility. If you can own a home, and have a discretionary income to enjoy a family life, great. If you can't afford yourself a home, you can't support life with kids. If you have kids, you must raise them right, education and experiences cost money.

@cyber6sapien

27 күн бұрын

FACTS!!!!!!!

@DeusSalis

27 күн бұрын

I guarantee somewhere down the line your family was poor too. Yet here you are, be happy.

@shahankhan7685

27 күн бұрын

I agree try to improve once situation .

@xkben90

27 күн бұрын

I’m not going outright say it’s about selfishness, but one thing I can say is that wealth does NOT dictate fertility . Quite the opposite if you look at the stats. The wealthier you are, the less kids you tend to have. Whether you call it selfishness or just wanting a better opportunity to provide for your kids, it’s always the lower income brackets that have more kids. I’m conflicted on how to approach this because I can see it from both ends. My parents had me and my brother when they were dirt poor. We lived in a single bedroom apartment but we got by with what we had. Obviously I wouldn’t have wanted that for my children, which is why I say I’m conflicted.

@lindaostrom570

27 күн бұрын

well you didnt grow up in the 70's. at 18 get out of the house, you are an adult now, bye. oh going to college? how much money have you saved for that? it was all on you not your parents.

I would have been willing to have 12 children had I met the right person whom was financially stable at a younger age, unfortunately I did college, and it took me until 28 years old to find a competent moral husband, we now have six children and I had to work part-time during 11 of my childbearing years because he wasn’t making enough money! The problem is corporations NOT paying even IT workers enough to have large families. The stress of working partirme whilst also homeschooling full-time (do to money issues) caused me three miscarriages in a 13 yr period. The reality is woman’s physical bodies need to be in REST mode during childbearing years as much as possible and THAT is not supported by society anymore.

@victoria3241

20 күн бұрын

Research has shown that many miscarriages are due to issues with male sperm.

When the rich tell you there aren’t enough babies. Meaning: not enough future employees for their corporations/factories.

@cyber6sapien

27 күн бұрын

Yup.

@Across_world_with_u

27 күн бұрын

PBD worked damn hard to become what he is today. What he said in this clip is spot on. If you raise your kids right they too will become fighters!

@Bearsacci

27 күн бұрын

Why do you think they’re letting all these illegal immigrants in.

@johnyates5061

27 күн бұрын

This is why the border is open to new slaves for the rich

@luxurybuzz3681

26 күн бұрын

​@@BearsacciThere won't be any illegal immigrants if their birth rate is down too

One word : Money

@bobsagett

27 күн бұрын

Trump

Who can afford to have kids? Cost of daycare and college is ridiculous today with low pay and losing jobs due to technology

@DeusSalis

27 күн бұрын

Lol what? Imagine thinking daycare and college are a must

@slowbastardo9101

27 күн бұрын

nothing wrong about trades. I tell my daughter this! College can be a waste of time, money and energy.

@chriskey7440

27 күн бұрын

​@@DeusSalis daycare is a must for many families, since both parents tend to have jobs. College is a must for doctors, lawyers, engineers, scientists, etc. I don't think you thought your comment through.

@Mac-qi5nz

27 күн бұрын

Bingo. These guys are so out of touch

@Nitroscion

27 күн бұрын

I’m paying 26k a year for private school because public schools in my area are more concerned with lgbt than math and science. I can’t afford another kid going to private school. Also, we tried homeschooling during the pandemic. Come to find out, we are not good teachers. He regressed that year and had to pay for private tutoring.

Having kids nowadays is such a big deal in a weird way. It’s not the same thing like 30,40 or more years ago. I’m a millennial and I always wanted to have proper family. It was my plan or somewhat a vision to have two kids and was open for more. But I married a wrong man and I learned the lesson of my life. Never again I said to myself. We had one child together, which is the only thing that was not wrong about it, although it is an immense struggle to do the co-parenting with that man. The point of my story is, as a woman you need to be damn sure if the man you are marrying is actually the right one for you. Otherwise you are going to suffer and your kids with you. Society needs kids, yes, but not just any kids in any way possible. Society needs healthy adults with healthy kids. And I don’t mean healthy in just physical terms, it’s more than that. That should be the goal.

@davida4880

23 күн бұрын

Amen, speaking as the father of four children with three women. No relationship with my first, better with my second and gift from God, third and fourth. Gift from God. Because I am happily married to his mother. WHO is extremely important!!! P.S. Having children is the best thing in my life. 20 years ago I would have said differently... but learned. Anyone who's over 40 and glad they never had kids. Sad life they have, missing out. Bill Maher is a good example. Long time fan of his but sad, he's missing out.

When a mammal doesn’t want offsprings, something’s seriously wrong with the species.

There is never anything more rewarding then having children. I love my kids so much and love my grandchildren just as much. They are my world.

No one but these high middle class or rich people can afford it that’s the real problem they need to quit trying to make up an excuse

@gdc6614

26 күн бұрын

No, not everyone is rich and still having kids. I'm not rich! Have 3 kids and don't regret it!

@paodbdauw

19 күн бұрын

@@gdc6614 Oh, so you're breeding children to become a future wage slaves 😂😂

29 year old with 7 kids. It take traditional values and a traditional work ethic, and especially a high quality community. The ability for large families like mine to pass on these values is going to change these statistics going forward.

@khall187

27 күн бұрын

Guarantee you're high income and/or have a ton of family help and support.

@TheWavelengthStudios

27 күн бұрын

I run a framing company that I started at 20. An income that I think the average north American male in his 20s can achieve with hard work. We don't live consumeristic lives.

@blacklyfe5543

24 күн бұрын

7 kids? 29? Are you crazy?

@the_lifeoftimbo

24 күн бұрын

@@TheWavelengthStudios what state do you live in and what’s your yearly income if you don’t mind answering please.

@awsambdaman

18 күн бұрын

Funny cause evolutionary speaking (like redpill types love so much) you’re way more of a success than most redpillers would ever be. I don’t think it’s all about finances tbh, a lot of people are just hopeless and depressed..which I understand

At 55 my only regret is not having more than 2 kids.

@mhodge0890

27 күн бұрын

Why?

@eugeniasandoval3864

27 күн бұрын

@mhodge0890 ..... I had wanted a large family yet I found myself divorced after my ex cheated multiple times. I was busy raising my now adult children & spent 12 yrs single. I am now 55 & well past the age of having children.

@eugeniasandoval3864

27 күн бұрын

@@mhodge0890....... I am very traditional & would never have had a child outside of marriage.

@blacklyfe5543

24 күн бұрын

​@@eugeniasandoval3864are you a man or a woman?

Not just abortion but birth control. Many young people choose not to have children. Not just for selfish lifestyle reasons, but cost of living reasons. The other reasons they are discussing have an impact too. Yes, 42 is old to be a new mommy.

@matrix64

27 күн бұрын

Birth control IS abortion.

@thearmy88ify

27 күн бұрын

If you are in a committed relationship and both people are able bodied, there is no excuse not have children. Poor people have kids too, they just have to be more frugal than the next and having kids gives the man drive to make more money.

@sare3671

27 күн бұрын

@@thearmy88ify I grew up with poor parents and watching them struggle growing up, never having birthdays or vacations, rarely being able to go out with friends, hearing your parents fight over money... It is not ideal. And that can impact a child forever- like it did with me and many others from similar situations.

@hihihihihello

27 күн бұрын

​​@@sare3671and you're here enjoying existence, for the most part (I assume)

@code6charles966

27 күн бұрын

Child support and alimony 😂

Raising children is a MISSION and marriage is the institution to aid the mission, don’t choose the wrong person to go on the mission with you! Choose the BEST person for your future children!

Me : writes anything in the comment section KZread : haha nice try ,we'll be deleting this one too

@map3384

27 күн бұрын

I’ve had many post deleted recently. They know an election is coming so it’s time to cancel our first amendment rights.

@RobertHunterAero

26 күн бұрын

For real. If I mention any of the three companies that own 90% of the country, my comment gets auto deleted

It's just extremely expensive. Most people can't afford rent or even a home now. Average income is $75,000.

Abortion for medical reasons and for poverty resions is very different.

This put a tear in my eye too… At 32 I have fallen on very, very hard times financially after getting very sick in 2023. Lost my fiance, my home in CA, and much of the joy & energy that I used to carry. All I want is to become stable and start a FAMILY! Learning that Tom started in his 40s made me burst out in teary joy 🥲. It’s not over! There is hope for me yet 😊

I have one child at 31 and would love to have more but me and my partner are on minimum wages, still live with my parents, nothing is affordable

Every man on this panel is WEALTHY enough to have kids! You’re speaking from priviledge! It’s not due to social media, abortion or feminism - it’s because (in London) it costs at an absolute minimum £1000 a month - JUST for daycare for ONE baby. Why do we need daycare, as we NEED to work, we are not all wealthy to be stay at home moms. The overall cost on top of daycare is over £2000 a month for just ONE child if you then want to give them a good education, opportunities for additional classes and development. Stop saying people who don’t have children are selfish! The average earner (£50-£60K) a year struggles to meet the monthly costs, and a lot of people don’t even earn that!

It’s easy to compare some imaginary woman to a used car with high mileage, would you say the same about your own daughter that you know her only value is not her sex organ? Most people in that room will probably have “used cars” as a daughter with these high divorce rates. Or imagine her coming to you at 18 with 40 year old male, no loving parent would see that as a good thing

When your stuck in traffic for hours and hours you see all the facts you need on population

Good. I hate traffic and overcrowding. New York doesn’t need anymore people for a few years

hope she gets better quick. always refreshing to hear someone speak about putting their kids first. it's tough, it's a journey, but most of all when having off days, it bring into reality how short of a time we have to spend with them at the age they are because they grow so fast. respect PBD speedy recovery to your little one.

Why not ask the two middle aged men without kids right there?! Went straight to abortion instead of why people don’t want children. 🤦🏾‍♀️

@MaxwellMax

26 күн бұрын

But can't ignore the fact that the majority of abortions are being carried out by African Americans.

Outstanding and remarkable work PBD and Tom exposing and declaring the truth! 💯 God bless you! 💯✝️🕊🙏❤️🇨🇦🇬🇧🇮🇱🇺🇸

There’s more than enough babies. There’s too many babies. The only reason the slight decline is “bad” is because the economy is designed like a pyramid scheme. But it doesn’t have to be designed that way

I had a vasectomy right at 30 and never been happier. I love my brother's kids. But I am fine with my gf and never getting married or having children. Thanks.

@bresev8958

27 күн бұрын

Good for you!! Hopefully you will still feel that way in 30 years.

@akaicruise

26 күн бұрын

@@bresev8958 how will you feel in 30 yrs?

@bresev8958

26 күн бұрын

@@akaicruise I’ll probably be old and tired with my children taking care of me

@paodbdauw

19 күн бұрын

@@bresev8958 HAHAHA so bold of you to say your children taking care of you.

@bresev8958

19 күн бұрын

@@paodbdauw we help each other out all the time. We are very close and they don’t live very far away. Close families take care of each other. I help my parents and I will be taking care of them when they no longer can. We took care of my husband’s mother until she passed away.

These guys can't read the room. Instead of guessing since they're too old to actually know, go out and ask the people in their prime fertility years why they aren't having kids. It comes down to housing , dual- income, unaffordability , career advancement and unequal partnership in the household when a child arrives.

I'm 27 my wife is 24. She's in the army i just got out I make 50k a year. We can't afford children. With government help.. sure. Without it.. we simply can't afford it. Its not being selfish. It's being realistic.

@jking9301

27 күн бұрын

Seems like a great time for you to start a family. If you can think of the many possible adjustments to your lifestyle, and keep the raising of them on the simple/fundamental side, I think you’ll be okay. Perhaps more resources will eventually be available, but with keeping life simple, you can make due with less than most people realize. Love, communication (and basic educational materials for the first many years), simple diet, experiences that don’t always cost much (parks, short trips, volunteering), and your kid will already be doing well in their development. They are truly the blessings that have to be experienced, and cannot be grasped from an outside perspective.

@pfcbaker4217

27 күн бұрын

@@jking9301 God bless brother. Thank you for the encouragement. Truly.

@Western-imperalism

27 күн бұрын

​@pfcbaker4217 ur wife needs to get busy and get a job ur not high level enough for her to be stay at home, 50k is less than interns in my field

@shahankhan7685

27 күн бұрын

I would say try to improve your economic condition in the next 4 years best start an army related busines finence market, or get a master's or bachelor in a high paying sector. And then get your families involved have collage funds and trusts set up for your first kid . No one work there ass of so that they can not have a life and have there children sacrifice as well on small little pleasures and the repeat the same for their kids as well. It's easy to tell someone else to have a kid when you don't have to foot the bill.

@Western-imperalism

27 күн бұрын

@shahankhan7685 he needs to get out of the army quick fast and in a hurry

Well said Pat! You’re absolutely correct

In 2010 I wrote a paper on abortion in my Medical Ethics class about how the founder was engaging in eugenics and she was racist…. The teacher and class said I was wrong. In 2020 Planned Parenthood issued a formal apology about their founder 🙄

It’s all the family courts to me that’s the issue

It’s quite simple actually, it’s the cost of living.

They say we are OVER POPULATED in the 🌎but now SHORTAGE OF CHILDREN 🤣🤣🤣🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑

These dudes are delusional. 😅 Selfish would be bringing a baby into this world and you dont want any kids.

I am 29 with 4 kids and I love it! They give me purpose and I am enjoying watching them grow

Patrick, I went through the same thing with my kids, and I will re-do it all over again, those were the best days of my life, and BTW I am 65 yrs now. But dealing with little kids was a blessing to me...

Just lost my mom a week ago and she had 6 of us. I wouldn’t be able to get through this without my siblings. I have on kid I want more 😢

I know many women who would have loved children but didn’t have them. It’s tough in the modern world with all the conflicting messaging for girls, boys, women and men. Men who won’t commit, women are independent, so many with trauma who fail at relationships, teenage girls are educated not to get pregnant, women think it’s ok to wait until after 30 to start trying and sadly for many that doesn’t work out, motherhood isn’t celebrated…. could go on…

@awsambdaman

18 күн бұрын

Yeah all we did was tear down all the guardrails and now no one knows what to do. Were “free” but completely lost in chaos.

PBD you are 100% correct!

Please, invite women to this discussion and ask what they need to raise a kid. Give them support, because at the end its on them. Ask you the question, what would you do if you were pregnant, what do you need to raise a kid and what you want in your professional life. Give the woman the opportunity to feel secure in this community to give birth, and not the risk to lose in all areas.

I'm 25 my wife is 22 hoping to have our first in November😊

@Xx.Htx.Rol.xX19

27 күн бұрын

this guy fckkkksss, we need you to keep pumping champ

@DeusSalis

27 күн бұрын

Good for you. Most women aren't worth it.

@bjemaja

27 күн бұрын

Congratulations❤

@glendaolsen9158

27 күн бұрын

You sound pretty dang bitter... usually there's enough fault on both sides in a relationship...​@@DeusSalis

@DeusSalis

27 күн бұрын

@@glendaolsen9158 says the woman.

Finding quality women is hard. Most women don't want to be married wives. The trend is single mother, divorce, social media. It's hard if you have standards. Maybe I should just join the club with kids with random women because trying to find the 'right' woman is making me lose out to people that don't operate by standards.

@sharinaross1865

26 күн бұрын

Bummer

@topicalstormofficial

26 күн бұрын

Sounds like a plan. Don’t worry about the kid’s wellbeing, just procreate anyway…

It’s not only the cost of the living but ppl don’t have allot of hope for the future.

@fefetegs8994

26 күн бұрын

👏👏👏

@awsambdaman

18 күн бұрын

Yeah that’s a big part of it. And a lot of people consider their entire 20s, which is their most fertile period, as an opportunity to NOT have kids and to just “explore life” but then that leaves you scrambling in your 30s if you want a stable life and family

The first time I agree with you patrick. 👍

My ex got an abortion in 2011, i thank god everyday she did the logical thing & did not listen to my emotional ass lol i wouldve been miserable & missed out on so many memories that were only possible by being single without any obligations.

KZread THOGHT IT NECESSARY TO ADD "ABORTION HEALTH INFORMATION UNDER THIS PARTICULAR PBD VALUETAIN.

Pat’s description of a weekend with kids makes me want kids bad. I’m 25 and in college for a physics degree, but I may want a kid before I finish. I want to watch my kids grow and flourish

I don’t agree. I know plenty of people who have not seen the world, did not enjoy their youth, and were not able to pursue their dreams because they chose to birth numerous kids and completely immerse themselves in family affairs. They are often the most boring individuals. Before you have a family, you should educate yourself and travel. Anybody could stay in their hometown and pop out babies. The younger generation is more enlightened. I believe waiting is better.

Preach PBD!!

It all starts with seeing children and marriage as sacred, blessed and inherently good.

The wife will just take the kids from you along with everything else

@frankrizzo5262

27 күн бұрын

That’s only 80% of the time. And it’s because we didn’t sleep with enough women first and they slept with too many men. Make it make sense

@blacklyfe5543

24 күн бұрын

Don't get married

Adam Bro! Step it up.

It also makes sense that people don't want to have kids because they see it from a financial aspect and if they're not doing well financially themselves why would they burden themselves and bring a child into the world only to create more poverty if I'm not doing well financially there should be no reason for me to have a child

@blacklyfe5543

24 күн бұрын

Facts I agree so make more money and make more money so that you can have kids.

Adam has zero wives and zero kids. Same with Vinny. At least Vinny had the common sense to not say anything.

@c.f.okonta8815

27 күн бұрын

Adam and Vinny are good looking guys I don’t know why they aren’t married with kids yet

@angelikazajac9885

27 күн бұрын

@@c.f.okonta8815because it’s hard to find a 20 that wants to have a family with you when you’re 45. Sadly when you want women to want you for your status you will not get a family and mother for your kids. You will get women who seek money and expensive lifestyle.

@c.f.okonta8815

27 күн бұрын

@@angelikazajac9885 I agree with you. That is why it’s better for them to date and marry someone in her 30s or early 30s

Another issue is when everyone only has 2 to 4 kids, you miss out on the 5s the 6s the 7s ect. I have 7 kids and there is a character difference in the kids after you have 4. And even the first 3 became allot less selfish after we had more.

@jking9301

27 күн бұрын

What an observation. And mostly absent with less people experiencing it. Our 5th child is on the way and I definitely see the other 4 changing more and more knowing what’s coming. They’re character is definitely becoming more team oriented.

@TheWavelengthStudios

27 күн бұрын

@@jking9301 it's very noticeable. I'm sure you'll see it.

@shahankhan7685

27 күн бұрын

I am a young man in college geeting into college with no home or family home . Going into a bit of bebt in college studying cs want to have 3 kids in the future by 35 or 40 . Could you please tell me how much do you make to afford to blessed to have so many kids and have a house and college fund how much family help did you recieve. Basically please explain your life in short please.

@TheWavelengthStudios

27 күн бұрын

@@shahankhan7685 good question! When we had our first I was working at a grain plant making 21 an hr 50hrs a week. But I did have 3 years experience as a carpenter (framing) because I was homeschooled in high school. When we had our second to make more money I started a small framing buisiness and have worked hard at that sinse. Every new addition to our family an old man from our church would always tell me "when God gives you a new baby, he gives you the bread to feed it too" and that has definitely been true for us so far. We've had virtually no help from family as we both come from broken homes. As a kid we were very poor paycheck to paycheck family.

@jking9301

26 күн бұрын

It’s unfortunate to see many people believe raising yours kids requires more than it actually does. We can desire a college fund for our kids, but it’s not required. The requirements are very fundamental and that’s truly enough. Knowing what a proper education is (not likely to receive it from the public schools), and giving your kids the love, time, morality, discipline, fundamental resources, will very likely lead to strong, developed, and very capable young people. From there they will be able to make due, and likely excel with the proper education and family upbringing. The family life brings so much positive, but people hesitate with the uncertainties.

The "test-driving" babble was pure clownery. If all women valued chastity it would be that man's nightmare. Women refusing to have sex until marriage means no "test driving" would occur. "Test driving" can result in "accidents" and you end up responsible for that car. Then you want to cry about abortion and crime (which is exacerbated by fatherless homes). If you're going to have a jester spout foolish babble at least add a laugh track so less informed audiences know not to take it seriously.

I know that you keeep Adam for shock value of his opinion, but if this isn’t misogyny I don’t know what is …

Adam my response to you is that building something with someone from the start is better than meeting when you’re all set and done. You try to get women younger than you and then you have nothing in common with them. Finding souse and mother for your kids is easier when you are similar by age and you have the same values. When Jen said what attracted Patric in her was her spark and motivation. They met through work and she impressed him. Men want women with whom they can share a life and deep conversation. It is hardly achievable if you have 20 years age gap and the power dynamic is off. It is especially important in being a parent and giving good examples. Being a mother and giving your husband children is a privilege and women do that when they love a man not his status.

@JennyJean.

27 күн бұрын

I agree with most everything you said BUT marriage to someone properly prepared for the mission of children is far more attractive than marrying someone you have to “grow up” with. The stress during childbearing years needs to be reduced considerably for more stability in the home.

Oh my God no. The silver fox thing has left the building. Women, least the ones I know, laugh at that now. Please don't kid yourself. A "muscle car" - don't you get it. Tired of that double standard. One thing tho, trust God. Was told I couldn't have children. Thus I barely dated in my 20s. Was up front and honest with a guy I dated. Most guys do want children, so I waited and met someone in my early 30s. Well, we had our first child when I was in my late 30s and another in early 40s. Here is the hint for not getting depressed if you are told you cannot have children. Accept it. If God wants you to have children you will. You just may have a big surprise around the corner and a second one down the road. Healthy and happy children. Men don't by into that whole, well I can get a wife in my 40s, 50s or even 60s. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. Besides, now a days... when everyone seems to be waiting. Those younger ladies will pick the younger men. The experienced muscle car thing is of the past. Bad analogy back than; even worse now. Men on the panel that think they can wait, stop with that thought. That analogy is one of the reasons we are in this mess. Stop saying women in their 40s or even 50s can't have children, naturally. It's happening. This whole ageism has to stop as well. What was said about the so called "muscle car" is part of the problem. You can't deny it... For the men about Alpa males... the study with wolves, remember that? That was wrong! The scientist who wrote that paper, was studying wolves in captivity. When they studied the wolves in nature decades later, they found something different. The alpha male is really the head of a family of wolves / cubs. There are only 2 alpha males on the your panel. Any male Without a Family are Betas. No matter how much the other 2 think they are Alphas, they are Not. See Anton ... he is a youtuber that uncovered that truth. He is trying to get the word out about the newer study. He is a science dude, follows alot of the discoveries in science and physics. Time to get married, you single guys on the panel - your clock is ticking too - now probably more so. No one wants a used muscle car, especially when we want children. Sorry to burst your bubble. My goodness don't ever give that analogy (it sounds f"ing stupid, it sounds like - it's all about you) Remember what family is? To be able to build something together. You want to build wealth yourself, than give conditions to your future wife. That whole what is an Alpha human male c*ap came out...pretty much the same time the whole male bashing thing came out. I could go on an on... really enjoy your podcasts- I recommend your channel to men all the time. Especially the business aspect. One day, found a guy who already watches your podcast... funniest thing - we high fived in a parking lot. Hope to show your podcast to my future son in laws. Blessings and God Speed

@11rs11

18 күн бұрын

💯 Adam Sosnick and Vincent Oshana should be the last ones talking. Or maybe not talk at all about this subject. Being in their mid forties, they're no longer in their prime. Children are more likely to be born autistic with older fathers. And I hope they don't go after any naiive early 20 somethings, it only shows their immaturity as men.

Having an intact family with children gives the opportunity for the greatest satisfaction in your life. It is a satisfaction that you can't get from anything else. Satisfaction is longer lasting and more fulfilling than happiness, which is very short-lived.

I am one of those people that chooses not to have children because of the same reasons.

These jobs dont pay enough to have more than two kids.The wealthy people should have more than two kids, not the poor, no way.

Women entered the workforce with the feminist movement around the 70s and wages for men dropped dramatically as the workforce doubled and salaries were split between 2 people. Previously a family could be supported by 1 income from an average earning man which is no longer possible. Combine that with the skyrocketing property prices and young people literally can’t afford to raise a family with 2 incomes, let alone in a traditional manner with a stay at home wife and providing husband. This is the number 1 reason in my mind birth rates are plummeting world wide, it literally is unaffordable for most people and is getting worse.

Allright! I have the rare honor of being the first to like 👍 your video today. Always informative, interesting, factual & entertaining!

Ok so blame everything except the absent father and rising cost of EVERYTHING. They didn't even want to raise minimum wage. We can't afford kids anymore. Period. Stop judging the people and blame the government because they're in charge of where the money is spent.

I'd love to have kids, but the laws and women in the west have destroyed any chance of that. In feminist countries most marriages end in divorce and most men don't get to raise their kids. Promiscuity has rendered most women as unmarriagable.

Our jobs won't let us enjoy our families, can't always take off ,either no money or job declines your request. It's stressful cuz I want to be worth my family. Even holidays

My cousin had a geriatric pregnancy and her baby lived for a few months, covered with tubes going into every orifice. She literally wouldn’t let the poor thing go even though it had issues with not only with its brain but every single system in its body. She sent pictures every week if not every day and it was just sad. Everyone knew that baby wouldn’t make it. She neglected her other children just to spend her life for those few months at the hospital. I’m sure her children had some thoughts about that. Like they weren’t that baby so they didn’t matter anymore. That made me not EVER want a baby late in life. I decided there if I wasn’t going to have one in my early 30’s I’m not having one at all. Other factors contributed to that decision too but man, so bad!!!!

I love how everyone ignores how expensive it is to have a child. It’s not always about being selfish. Look at the economy. What about the economy says it’s a great time to make a human being. The abortion conversation never addresses how much money is apart of the whole thing. The more babies being born the more money the economy generates. Everything is about money.

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We young people are choosing not to have kids because we rather live our lives first before having kids not only that it’s almost impossible to live by yourself even with someone in America, so why would I bring a child into the situation when I could barely afford to live?

@map3384

27 күн бұрын

True. Children should never have children.

@gdc6614

26 күн бұрын

Booo! Gen X Herr had 3 kids, own a house and put 2 kids through college. No fancy living here. I don't regret it at all!❤

Even the Romans had a fall in births which led to collapse it happens to all empires in the end.

Why would we want selfish people to have kids?

I can maybe afford half a kid.

I am a young man in college geeting into college with no home or family home . Going into a bit of bebt in college studying cs want to have 3 kids in the future by 35 or 40 . Could you please tell me how much do you make to afford to blessed to have so many kids and have a house and college fund how much family help did you recieve. Basically please explain your life in short please. I don't have any one helping me out i see families helping out with down payments, college fee and trips. I too want to enjoy life after making some money and do things my friend enjoy but also want to be a father of at least 1 and send him or her to the best school and college for a better life.

The difference isn’t phone use and media. If you look at statistics you will see the ability to LIVE in this world has become impossible. When you have a fear of making your next mortgage or rent payment, you simple will avoid kids at all cost resulting in increased abortions as well. Make life livable again and watch child rate grow

I'm not having kids until my 40s or 50s so idc about this discussion because it has nothing to do with me.

People shouldn’t have kids if they can’t afford them. Raising children in poverty is not the goal. Raising kids who are not wanted by both parents is not the goal.

You want more children in the world then the bubble needs to pop first. It’s not practical in America today to have a bunch of children. Thank goodness my kids have an 11 yr age gap so I can attempt to afford to take care of their needs and wants.

All you mentioned are factors on declining birth rates. There is another. Peter Zeihan talks about how as people move to cities birth rates decline. Here look at rual vs city birth rates. In 2017, the total fertility rate for rural counties was 1,950.0 births per 1,000 women compared with 1,778.0 in small or medium metro and 1,712.0 in large metro counties You having a conversation with Peter would be an interesting discussion.

Ugh. I hate the advice of waiting until you’re older to have kids. Marry young, grow in your marriage and God for at least 3 years and have your first. Enjoy your kids’ youth while you’re also youthful. I do BJJ with my son at 38. I love it. When I’m 45 he will be in college and we will still be rolling.

@joshhardy5646

27 күн бұрын

@@robertsmith6188 probably wouldn’t be bad if high school wasn’t a teenage daycare. Too many kids in high school shouldn’t be there because they’ve already made up their minds to be useless.

Its not so much selfishness its just the fact that most simply cant afford to raise another kid or even have kids in the first place a good concern they should mention is dont have kids if you cannot maintain and care for the expense of having a child why have a kid while you your self is in poverty or even struggling to meet ends every month why put a child through that

My wife and I were told I would never be able to get my wife pregnant... WELL, "Life found a way," TWICE! Best legacy and an answer to the meaning of life, i can think of.

Dad died in his 40's. Mom had to raise four kids by herself for 20+ years on a teacher's salary. All well and good to have kids assuming you are able to avoid a disaster. Let people do what they want. The world will not run out of people any time soon. Trust me. The problem isn't fertility rate. The problem is population distribution. I'm pretty sure India doesn't have an under population problem. But certain people like Anne Coulter wouldn't want Indian immigrants in America now would she?

It’s the economy! Especially these days

Selfish society of not having kids? What happened to financial literacy and responsibility? Not having kids you can't afford? Guess what? Most people can't afford kids and have chosen to do just that be financially responsible and not have kids until they're ready.

Called COPS 👮‍♀️ also after ambulance!🚑

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‭2 Timothy 3:1-4 NIV‬ But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God-

*because everybody's gay*

On my way to having my 3rd kid me and my wife figured it out every time, key to having kids is teo people loving ready to go through anything in life together. Oh yeah don't be lazy wake your ass up go to work, make that money who needs sleep when you have children there woth every oz of stress and missed hrs of sleep

it could be a self correcting behaviour in our human pop that when we get to a certain number we start to cease reproducing at scale, or any animal population for that matter. just thinking out loud.