when the nikkah is done, you are husband and wife according to islam. No wedding is needed.

@Nour-yb3ji

4 жыл бұрын

Pavel Nedved yes wedding is just to tell people that they are married now

@whateven6757

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah and it’s more tradition

@unknown-gq3si

4 жыл бұрын

yup

@samiraysf9627

4 жыл бұрын

But the walima is a must!

@madina385i9

4 жыл бұрын

True

Prophet (saw) said: “The most blessed marriage (nikah) is the one with the least expenses.”

@incognito9718

4 жыл бұрын

Zeynep Abus Who is prophet saw 🤨

@twnb7733

4 жыл бұрын

Zeynep Abus That’s why Muhammad took the wife of his adopted son? Sourate 33/37

@al.s.5257

4 жыл бұрын

@@incognito9718 the Prophet is Mohammed sallallahu alejhi wa selam (saw)

@HA-df2qz

4 жыл бұрын

Which hadith?

@halima3u885

4 жыл бұрын

Why is walima is a sunnah when it costs?

FINALLY SOMEONE WITHOUT A WEDDING!! Personally i think it’s a waste of time and money, and u just attract evil eye by doing a wedding, all those aunties be like😑👀😒

@karablevins8302

4 жыл бұрын

Lol true

@elopuff8575

4 жыл бұрын

Lol yes and most people are jealous and envious

@hzlkelly

4 жыл бұрын

When I read evil eye I just laughed cause I remembered my fiance

@sodahlianoir

4 жыл бұрын

I had to laugh at this ^^ funny coz it's true ^^

@nl2374

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

A nikkah is actually the wedding. You're husband and wife. Not engaged. The wedding discussed is actually a reception.

@farhanfakhriza6149

4 жыл бұрын

The comment I've searched

@zaraFORSYTH

4 жыл бұрын

@@farhanfakhriza6149 It's the cultural point of view that is misleading.

@farhanfakhriza6149

4 жыл бұрын

@@zaraFORSYTH in my language, wedding is translated into "nikah". So I got confused first time reading the title lol.

@zaraFORSYTH

4 жыл бұрын

@@farhanfakhriza6149 True. It would've been clearer if they explained that they've already done the nikkah but wont be having the wedding banquet or reception. Furthermore, the usual practice in Singapore is to have the nikkah on the same day of the wedding banquet. To cut cost, some choose to just have nikkah in the mosque with close family members and have a light meal in the mosque.

@asmauzurmi7547

3 жыл бұрын

We understand what they mean.

*"If a wedding is gonna cause you more misery than happiness, don't do it."*

@evnas

4 жыл бұрын

What Jasmine's mum said was FACTSSSS.

@aliyaabbas980

4 жыл бұрын

💯✔

@oussamasama4490

4 жыл бұрын

I respect their decision my parents also chose not to do a big wedding. But why will a wedding cause a misery? It should be an enjoyable day for both families and yourself. It doesn't have to be a "big wedding" or expensive. But I agree Arabs attitude to weddings have become too much

@evnas

4 жыл бұрын

@G Ha Some people could literally force themselves into taking a large amount of money just to do a wedding that doesn't even end up satisfying everyone. Moreover, living while having to pay off such debts & loans could be exhausting as you constantly would be having to worry about that & also, you might even fall into a financial crisis due to this which could lead to misery & an unstable state of mind, lacking rest & peace. In my opinion, it all depends on the person's ability & willingness. If someone is actually able to & is willing to afford such thing, then that's all right but some people just go beyond the limit to "satisfy people" by doing an expensive wedding that is mostly paid off by loans that would take years to be repaid. Also, what do you mean by someone can't get married if they got married once in Islam? Would you be more specific?

@evnas

4 жыл бұрын

@@oussamasama4490 I agree that a wedding is such an enjoyable & an unforgettable event in one's life. That's true. I totally would love to do an "affordable" wedding in the future that won't lead to a misery later on. What I believe is that a wedding can cause misery not on that exact day but after the wedding day itself if those people who did the wedding have fallen into a financial crisis because of that "fancy" wedding. Just note that the wedding itself isn't the misery, what comes after (eg. Paying loans & etc..) is actually the misery.

“ we wanted to enjoy our money rather than other people enjoying our money” Completely agree. Now to convince my fiancé 😂❤️

@Nour-yb3ji

4 жыл бұрын

Zeinab Saleh well..... Still having a wedding is something that would be momerable one day 💔

@zeinabsaleh7407

4 жыл бұрын

Nuru yeah I agree but again I’d rather have a memory of enjoying my time with my husband rather than trying to make a perfect wedding for everyone to enjoy. You really can’t satisfy people. I’ll definitely still wear a wedding and take pictures, but maybe do a nice dinner and invite only loved ones and consider that a wedding 🤷🏻‍♀️❤️

@zeinabsaleh7407

4 жыл бұрын

Gray Kin Amen No I am not a revert, I was born Muslim Alhamdulillah My situation is the same as Jasmine and Dawood, I am religiously married but culturally I’m his wife when I move with him. 😊

@utubestud

4 жыл бұрын

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf when he got married, “Give a feast, even with one sheep.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1943; Muslim, 3475)

@kuebrastic1219

4 жыл бұрын

there are going to be many memories with your husband no one actually needs a wedding in my opinion its only to 'show off'

Just announce that you're husband and wife. Then have a small reception feeding the unfortunates, such as the poor and orphans.

@zarahilli7248

4 жыл бұрын

Ty Max This!! My god this was the most beautiful comment ever. Nothing better than helping the less fortunate 💛

@noonismail-hz4zt

23 күн бұрын

I took the note and I hope you take ajur too if I did

I understand I am a different religion, I am Christian, When I got married I had a small wedding at my small Church and the ladies at my Church helped with the food and it really helped me a lot. I have been married 2 times because my first husband died in a car wreak when our son was 5 months old and I remarried and the Church ladies helped me both times because I don't have much money I am not rich and I was paying for everything myself, even my wedding dress was very inexpensive. But both of my weddings were nice and both of my marriages were full of Love and blessed and full of happiness. So whether you have a small only family or no wedding and go somewhere and have an experience, it's the marriage that matters. This year 2019 my second husband and I celebrated 20 years, my son is 27 years old and loves his step dad very much. God has truly blessed me. And I hope he blesses you too.

@samirahsamir6930

4 жыл бұрын

Patty Minger I love your story, you absolutely have beautiful soul May Allah bless you and your family and guide us all. 😊❤️

@kingbutterfly586

4 жыл бұрын

@@samirahsamir6930 aamiin.

@eilahhamdin9668

4 жыл бұрын

@@samirahsamir6930 ameen

@globedriving

4 жыл бұрын

god bless you

@narutothewinnerof100

4 жыл бұрын

God bless you miss that was a beautiful story. Alhamdullilah.

*"We are the type of couple that like to work together to get to our goals."* THIS is couple goals. Mashallah.

Weddings are waste of money. Use the money to travel or start a business and enjoy spending time together! You made the best the decision. Wish you all the best for the future!

@perihelion7445

4 жыл бұрын

Not if you have a child. A hedonistic lifestyle is fine if it's just yourself and another but once a child comes into the equation it gives the child a sense of security and commitment as a family unit. It makes it harder to just *walk away* as well, you're more inclined to work harder not just for each other but for the welfare of the child.

@utubestud

4 жыл бұрын

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf when he got married, “Give a feast, even with one sheep.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1943; Muslim, 3475)

@muniramanka327

4 жыл бұрын

@Dhoha Hussein but wedding is not actually something you choose or not choose. It is up to you family and culture.

@freakinusername

4 жыл бұрын

I completely disagree with that. I recently just got married and we had a wedding with almost 300 people so a small wedding but we made over $20,000.

@zamihah7078

4 жыл бұрын

@@muniramanka327 Salam. Giving my two cents even though it is not needed. Forgive me InshaAllah. May Allah swt make us amongst the righteous of Muslims and that we do things to please Him Only! It is extremely sad that people put so much emphasis on culture and that society is doing something a certain way that we as Muslims should do that same thing, that same way. To have a Nikkah is something that must be done in Islam, no doubt; however a wedding reception has been something adapted over time due to culture and society. Not that having a wedding reception is wrong, but everything encompassed in the wedding reception should be pleasing to Allah swt alone. If we add little things here and there for a couple hours even just to please people, but is not pleasing to our Rabb, eventually overtime there will be consequences. Anyways, you totally did not have to read that, but since I commented on your reply, I'm guessing you might have. Again, not that it matters because my opinion is one of many and really doesn't matter lol, but I do agree with sister @Dhoha Hussein that the best way to start a marriage is in remembrance of Allah swt and going to Makkah. We tryna get to Jannah InshaAlllah!

Imagine, when you guys recorded this there was no Covid and your wedding was planned for summer 2020... you made the right call for so many reasons

I'm an American convert. My wifey is born and raised Hijabi Egyptian. We got married February 19, 2015 (at the Egyptian Gov offices) and then we had the celebration (wedding) on June 5th 2019 at el-Rahman el-aRaheem Masjid in Nasr City. The big wedding was not even big. It was simple. We had snacks, drinks, pictures. Khalas. We didn't want a big celebration because we wanted the extra money to finish paying off our apartment and to take a great honeymoon together and even take her family on a 7 day get a way to Marsa Matruh Her dad and mom supported our decision. They told everyone if you don't like their decision, don't come. Plain and simple Masha'Allah my wife was gorgeous in her white dress and we both set a budget for everything. Almost 5 years later, we are going strong. Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar Mabroooook to both of you. Keep going strong

@reportingassist8242

4 жыл бұрын

mASHAAllah brother, what a great story of how things can be so simple!! May Allah keep you together in this world and the hereafter!!!

@eilahhamdin9668

4 жыл бұрын

@@reportingassist8242 ameen

@shamsoomar8862

4 жыл бұрын

@Dragostea Din Tei how you ask stupid question like that I think you are not ok they are husband and wife. They are happy after 5 years

@Rs-ru1zt

4 жыл бұрын

Mashaallah great story

@somalialoves726

4 жыл бұрын

I dont have anything to say expect Masha Allah Tabaraka Allah may Allah bless ur marriage my brother in Islam

Islamically the best wedding is the most humble one :)

@rafiawaqar4139

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! And it has most barkat in the later life.

@ubahabdi453

4 жыл бұрын

Xenja N Alhamdulilah true

@Jojo-up8et

4 жыл бұрын

Says Who

60 thousand dollars can feed thousands of poor people around the world you took the best decision barkallaha lakum💐💐

@utubestud

4 жыл бұрын

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf when he got married, “Give a feast, even with one sheep.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1943; Muslim, 3475)

@feefs2139

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly lol

I love this. I hate the cultural expectation.

Was Married in the same way...Has been the best decision we've ever made. No evil eye....we are so happy Alhamdulillah. Keep going much love from Kenya 🇰🇪

The Islamic wedding is really the nikah so that was the most important thing.

@PB-si5zt

4 жыл бұрын

The sunnah is to have a wedding and beat the drum so its the second part of the sunnah

@PB-si5zt

4 жыл бұрын

@Borsalino Kizaru Which is what people use the wedding ceremony for

@PB-si5zt

4 жыл бұрын

@Borsalino Kizaru Yes I agree with you that is the Sunnah is to keep things simple but you are missing what i am trying to say dear bro/sis the sunnah also has other preferences such as beating the drum, feeding the people that each individual couple should also look at. I agree Extravagance is wasteful for sure!

@reportingassist8242

4 жыл бұрын

sunnah is walimah too obv if u can afford it.Makes you think, if the guy cant afford a small walimah is he really fit to marry a woman and take care of her ?

@burhohdzc2809

4 жыл бұрын

Remember it is the Sunnah!!!

My nikkah is on Saturday wish me luck. Inshallah kheir

@marzinazara423

4 жыл бұрын

May Allah bless you..Have a happy married life ❤😄

@weirdsoul8757

4 жыл бұрын

Wish u happy married life ☺️

@fatuisokay

4 жыл бұрын

It's today!! May Allah shower his blessings upon you and your partner 💕

@amalahmed9908

4 жыл бұрын

Its todayyyyy May Allah make your wedding a perfect affair and your marriage a blessed one 💖

@dropsmic3224

4 жыл бұрын

Just Faye may allah give you everything you want and deserve within this marriage ameen

I didn't had a wedding either. We just had a nikkah and went to a restaurant after that with the closest people (around 20 people). And it was the most beautiful day ever.

@rosedudesert4389

2 жыл бұрын

How is that not a wedding?!? I don't get it 🧐

@khadijaj878

2 жыл бұрын

A as sa arrr t h

@MissBiMaNi

2 жыл бұрын

@@rosedudesert4389 your are right it is I guess, but it was not what we traditionally consider a wedding. In our culture it's not a 'wedding' unless you book a hall and have atleast 100 guests 😅 and we have multiple events. Like before and after the actual nikkah

OMG, FINALLY!! I have finally found fellow Muslims who feel the exact same way I do about the wedding hooplah! I have no patience for it all and much prefer no wedding at all - just me, the guy, my immediate family, his immediate family, and that's it. Save the money for something that will last for much longer than a 5 hour expensive party - like a down payment to a house, or for travelling, or for Hajj. Applause for the two of you!

I don’t want a wedding either ugh just imagine the anxiety

@maryk8935

4 жыл бұрын

ayxha It’s not that bad to be honest

@mirna294

4 жыл бұрын

I would perfer travelling instead

@user-me6mr3lw5l

4 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly! So much anxietyyyy

@littleprincess2567

4 жыл бұрын

ayxha loool yeah

@maryk8935

4 жыл бұрын

I am shy too and I was scared to death, but it’s honestly the first hour after that it’s pretty chill, because the guests are friends and family. But I understand if someone doesn’t want that for themselfs, everyone should do what they want.

“You can’t impress each and every person in a wedding” that is a very great point but I feel like that’s the case in any large event whether it is a wedding or not people will never be impressed

There was a couple who bought a house and then did a small wedding at their house. It was nice and simple, so I totally agree with you guys.

Is better to buy house, smart intelligent decision

@veiledturk

3 жыл бұрын

true

This is EXACTLY why Ryan and I didn’t have a wedding! SAME REASON! I love this and TOTALLY agree!

@parsa8223

4 жыл бұрын

Noha Hamid Ryan ?

@utubestud

4 жыл бұрын

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf when he got married, “Give a feast, even with one sheep.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1943; Muslim, 3475)

@reezis1619

4 жыл бұрын

@@utubestud Walima does not mean wedding.

@murk959

4 жыл бұрын

Omg you!!!!! You have a YT channel?

I hope we can make this a trend in 2020! Let’s get rid of these big weddings.

@nasrunash2027

4 жыл бұрын

Fatin A yes I agree with you sister extravagant marriage is haram in Islam ☪️

@minazahara5363

4 жыл бұрын

I'm not Muslim but I agree... Big weddings are a waste

@thebabygiraffe4921

4 жыл бұрын

I eloped this year. BEST decision ever! 😁

@TheresaMarieVisagie

4 жыл бұрын

Well I'm old fashioned, I want my wedding. Doesn't necessarily have to be big can be small too. But I want my wedding😑

@sherekhan1634

4 жыл бұрын

Haha no Body will Support that. Traurig to talk to your Family. No was they say ok

- "I don't want a wedding" - "الحمد لله رب العالمین" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

If you done the nikkah then you are good to go. “Wedding” is just a ceremony

Weird how a divorce doesn’t need hundreds of witnesses.

@dammee

4 жыл бұрын

It actually kind of does if you're a woman.

@MineMeMineMeMineMe

4 жыл бұрын

No it doesn't need any witnesses! Her claims are valid if he ended up saying i divorce you three times. Only there are cases where things can be misinterpreted. There are basic rules and regulations and than there are other circumstances just like with any law out there.

@celestialvenus6711

4 жыл бұрын

A wedding needs 4 witnesses. Not hundreds of them.

@firZmuslimah

4 жыл бұрын

@@celestialvenus6711 2 witnesses, the boy and the girl's father (responsible party)

@sabanoughani1624

4 жыл бұрын

A wedding needs no wittness a divorce does Too long to explain (get someone who has studied islam properly to explain)

Completely agree! my husband & I had a small dinner celebration instead of ur typical big Arab wedding, we didn’t want to spend years apart saving for this one day that didn’t mean much to us!

@sobean9309

4 жыл бұрын

did you organize anything else besides the dinner? like having a dj or people giving speeches or anything like that

@sarahhamdan5470

4 жыл бұрын

This is what I would love to do one day ,a nice simple dinner would do...

@utubestud

4 жыл бұрын

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf when he got married, “Give a feast, even with one sheep.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1943; Muslim, 3475)

@reezis1619

4 жыл бұрын

@@utubestud walima does not mean wedding, she said he had a dinner celebration, she invited people to dinner. That is what walima is.

"so pretty much i'm a lucky dude" "yeah you're lucky" "but you're luckier" i'm dead XDDDD

50-60k oh my god!!!! Nope.... fu**k that. My wedding was 3k and it was amazing ❤️

the smartest thing anyone whos about to get married is to not have a wedding, a small family gathering with good food and music is just as satisfying if not 1008439745846 times more, good for u guys

@Fatima.x548

4 жыл бұрын

Fr now if only I had a small family🤦‍♀️😫

@utubestud

4 жыл бұрын

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf when he got married, “Give a feast, even with one sheep.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1943; Muslim, 3475)

@goldenrain87

4 жыл бұрын

Music is haram

@bashscrazy

4 жыл бұрын

@@goldenrain87 ye u right

Why don’t you guys make a super small wedding just for ur immediate family? Just like the engagement!!

@raka4387

4 жыл бұрын

Yara A that’s exactly what I thought too, but the problem is that some people would be upset if they don’t get invited

@Yuyuyaraa

4 жыл бұрын

Ra Ka true but you can’t please everyone and at the end of the day, this is YOUR day like it’s the one day of your life that’s meant to celebrate you and ur husband so you really have to make sure that stuff won’t get to you and feel confident that you have the right to invite who u want and that’s that. No matter how annoyed people will be, I will only invite people I want at my wedding and feel good about it

@lolabint3411

4 жыл бұрын

If you do immediately family, they can't really complain. Just parents, grandparents and siblings only.

@xxsou4547

4 жыл бұрын

@@lolabint3411 I'm an Arab myself and trust me when I tell that there will be drama in the family if you don't invite the WHOLE FAMILY And the crazy part about it is the fact most of Arab families are HUGEEEE At the end of the day you either end up inviting everyone or no one ahaha

@attomicchicken

4 жыл бұрын

@@xxsou4547 fine if they have 100 guests then each one could give $500 beforehand that should accommodate all of them.

Her little “okay” at 5:09 has me dying LOOOOL but in all seriousness mashallah tabarakallah if you’re married islamically that’s all that matters

The people who disliked this are all wedding planners and wedding venues. 🤪🤣

@saraa6886

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂 that's a good one

@EliHz

4 жыл бұрын

Dana Cole 🤣👍🏻

@safiyahassan4360

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@hahhahhahhohoho4189

3 жыл бұрын

you got it, girl!! good one!!

@Raima_Is_Lovely

3 жыл бұрын

I mean I like the idea of family gatherings, but no wedding is ok too

I love this ❤️ this is so mature and smart. Personally im not into big weddings and would rather just have a small get together with close family and friends and spend the least amount of money possible and actually use the money for a house or something. your both correct, weddings just seem to be for others, yet most people aren't that satisfied. Weddings should just be the binding of 2 people and their families, and to celebrate their love. I love the dynamic of your relationship ❤️❤️

do the wedding for yourself not for people, a small wedding that gathers your families and close like REALLY close friends.

@KA-qs3dj

4 жыл бұрын

Ray it’s difficult to do in some cultures where you cannot have a small wedding because it would offend people regardless. It’s just better to not have any wedding since you can’t really pick and choose in some cultures.

@rojda5521

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of Kurdish Couples pay for ther Houses but live still seperare because of Covid. So its very important fot many cultures

I really really really wanted a wedding and “pink house” with a picket fence and a million kids. Life went really different for me. Alhamdulillah I reverted in 2011. I just had nikah in June and I think we’re skipping a wedding...kind of sad, feeling smart tho. Best wishes. May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala put barakah in your union. Ameen.

@jamilasalaam

4 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Ameen!! I’m a convert as well & my name is also Jen 🥰🌸 MashAllah

The story of my wedding: We walked into a mosque and got married 😂 just the 2 of us (AND 2 WITNESSES from the mosque). We spent $0. Of course we made a donation for the mosque but it’s much better to save the money of a big wedding to travel or to invest in a house. Well done guys!

@camillevise8892

4 жыл бұрын

😍

@mrsdin3739

4 жыл бұрын

You need a wali, choosen from your father or male siblings or male siblings of your father or grandfather. side, how it can be two of you only?

@SunshinePearl

4 жыл бұрын

@@mrsdin3739 My father passed in 2008 and I have 2 half brothers that live in another country. My father had no brothers.

@mrsdin3739

4 жыл бұрын

@@SunshinePearl I am sorry to hear it.

@elmidaavdic7622

4 жыл бұрын

How? Without witnesses?

The moment she said nikah i was like "dude! That makes u husband and wife" 😅

Really impressed with how you’re doing what you want, instead of doing what society expects from you! New here but just wanted to say I adore the way he looks at her!!

I am proud of you! I did the exact same thing, and every one was giving me a hard time about it. Bottom line, we own our house, and our life is beautiful! I don't care what everyone have to say about my life.

Totally agree on this and just how hard it is going to break the norms when it comes to the wedding.

Y'all are goals! Mashallah! May Allah bless your union and make it a success and grant you both Al Jannatul Firdaus No wedding or not, WE LOVE YOU!

@naa2921

4 жыл бұрын

Radiyah Temitayo Kareem indeeed ❤️

Islamically the nikkah is most important....nt the whole wedding

Me: everytime i said i wont do the wedding Mymom: having a heartattack face Me: relax i even havent found the husband yet 😂😂😂

@sewingmemory

4 жыл бұрын

same. lol

@badrudinusman3133

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Rs-ru1zt

4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha fight before it happen

@princessofmanner2625

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂some parents do

@ummiramli6554

4 жыл бұрын

😜

Ugh i never wanted a wedding. I legit just want a family bbq and thats enough for me. My anxiety would never.

Good for you. I never had a wedding and i been married 48 years. We are going this year on the honeymoon that we never had, 28 days cruise to Hawaii and Bora Bora , Tahiti . Do what makes you happy and good luck.

My wife and I did the exact same thing! We were so invested, did planning and all. Then realized we could go to a really nice honeymoon instead of a wedding. I also hate having attention on me

I'm glad there are modern people like this " i don't want a wedding "

I just came across your channel thru this video & I loved the perspective you guy's gained. 100% relatable to my own thoughts. Happy for you guy's!

Completely agree! Well done guys, a marriage is about commitment to eachother and the future not just the wedding day there is way to much emphasis put on superficial things like you said!

I just love you guys so much. Such a advice for younger people who wanna get married in the future and love your vibe

Bless you both! I wish you the best of luck in your lives together. Me and My Fiance have been talking about skipping the huge wedding, due to costs and anxieties. Oh and congratulations on becoming Man and Wife!

I also didn’t have a wedding. My husband and I married at the masjid with a couple of witnesses. Now, we are going on our 3rd child and could not feel more blessed. I would not have changed how we got married. It’s so much preparation and unnecessary expenses for one day.

Just do a photo shoot with ur husband with the white gown and suit for memories and stuff

@DiyanaNasiha

4 жыл бұрын

and small eating gathering with close family members & friends. :) That's my dream wedding already. Just a small gathering with meaningful individuals in my life.

@monsterrr1999

4 жыл бұрын

@@DiyanaNasiha and just go travelling or save it for future like a house, business or put it in the saving bank for kids's university tuition(-I heard it is better to put money every month like 100 or whatever you can afford into a bank for the child so in 20 years time, it will be enough for uni tuition so your kids don't have to worry about student debts.-)

@reportingassist8242

4 жыл бұрын

no photoshoot, were not making a magazine!!

@farhiyodahir2457

4 жыл бұрын

Dody Sh I agree with you.

@greatonco7990

4 жыл бұрын

or better pay for somone to photoshop photos or just wait for pewdiepie to make the next the next photoshop video ..

Watching this video literally gave me chills...I was thinking that I was the only one feeling like this. Then, my fiancé sent me this video. After watching, I realized how creepily similar we are to you guys as far as our thought process and wants. Thank you guys for posting this video. Just seems like everyone else wants YOU to do a wedding just so that THEY can be there and be a part of it. A wedding always for sure going to be more enjoyable for the guests than the bride and groom. Again, thank you guys for posting a video like this. Definitely helps mentally and emotionally. P.s. Armin Van Buuren is badass and definitely not underground ;)

i'm just 23 and i would wanna get married when i'm around 30 years old and i'd never want to showcase my big day.

"We want to spend it on ourselves rather than others" 👌

@TheresaMarieVisagie

4 жыл бұрын

And the family says.. "that's so selfish of you guys"..

The best decision you can take, we didn't do a wedding too and we can't be happier Alhamdulillah :) Enjoy yourselves guys and stay wise in all your decisions together, may Allah bless you. Mahmoud

I totally agree with you guys that is a Very smart desicion.

Good for you guys! Your decision really speaks to how mature you two are and how comfortable the two of you are in your relationship. Wise decision, you’ll definitely thank yourselves later.

Yeah i agree with the no wedding idea. I just had my wedding on sept this year. Personally i regret it. Such a waste of time and money. The preparation is so crazy and full of fight with everyone. If time repeat i will do what u guys do. But also a great family picture with the wedding concept is a really good idea and i ageee with that. That's what will be seen by guest that will coming to your house anyway. People won't even remember what your wedding is like.

@hyna5451

4 жыл бұрын

judging from your name, i assume you are indonesian, aren't you?😊 baru nemu channel ini sih, kepo di bbrp video jasmine selalu manggil dawood fiance (pikirku "kok gk nikah2😅), dn baru ngeh alasannya di video ini. btw salut bgt dg keputusan mereka buat ngadain resepsi kecil2an atau bahkan tanpa resepsi (jd inget youtuber suhay salim) dn jujur ini cocok bgt dg keinginanku yg bsk gk pengen ngadain resepsi 😅 (meskipun sebenernya mustahil klo melihat tradisi dan norma masyarakat di daerah tmpt tinggalku) buat mbk maya yg sdh terlanjur ngadain resepsi, wajar pasti ya ada hal2 yg disesali. berdasarkan pengalaman kakak2 ku yg sdh menikah, kurasa resepsi dan tetek bengek semacam itu pasti bnyk faktor yg memengaruhi gitu ya mbk... (gengsi ortu/keluarga, campurtangan sodara/kerabat, pandangan masyarakat, tradisi, dll, yg seringkali di luar kehendak kita dan terpaksa kita ikuti) jd bisa dibuat pengalaman buat pernikahan anggota keluarga selanjutnya biar gk mengulangi kesalahan yg sama (?) setuju sama ide foto keluarga sbg ganti resepsi😂 atau klo gk gitu resepsi kecil2an, ngundang kerabat deket dan temen2 deket, yg gk sampek spend too much money😂 maaf jd ngomong pjg lebar🙏😅 anyway, selamat menempuh hidup baru buat mbak. hope God always blessing your marriage life💕

I have a very similar idea about my WEDDING. I literally dream of getting married at city hall and have my loved ones over after for some food and quality time. My parents did that and they've been together for 25 years and they are so happy and they used their savings to get our first house and that led to them being able to expand our family and give us my sister and brother. which to me is far more valuable and beautiful than an expensive party for OTHER people.

I love your channel sooo much I hope you have a wonderful day I also hope that your channel will grow because it is great quality

Honestly my wedding was a bbq party in our backyard with 20people max including the kids. I got a mini cake, bought a white dress online which cost $500 max. Photos were crappy cause family took them 5yrs later we own our own house and have 2 beautiful boys. Now cause I still have my wedding dress, we’re finally gonna do a professional photo shoot and a professional family photoshoot 😊❤️ I pray you all the best for your future❤️

Love you both, I'm new here but jasmine has such a spark and light to her I love it❤️

The most mature couple ever honestly so much respect for you guys ❤️

Omg I did the same thing!!! We bought a house and had a phenomenal honeymoon! Good for you guys, knowing what wanted and going for it!

Just my first time that I watched a video of you guys and I love the idea that both of you and both parents are on board that the wedding is not that much important then investing/ buying your hard earned money for the house. Best of luck to both of you! Subscribed.

Think it’s a great idea! Wishing you two all the best, insha’Allah! Can’t wait to hear about the journey to find your home! 😊

This is exactly what my fiance and I agreed to and it is so nice to see someone else voice our thoughts

Have a small celebration in your new home with your parents

LOVE how you guys never speak over each other unlike many other youtube couples do. You guys respect each other so much mashallah

bless yall, Idk why I'm even happier that this wasn't clickbait

The part about noticing at wedding that ppl are never satisfied made me sad 😔 cos it’s kinda true... even tho I want a nice wedding

i just told my mom about your story and how i dont wanna have a wedding either and she went off LOL you’re so lucky to have understanding parents mashallah

@zamihah7078

4 жыл бұрын

Omg I seriously wanna tell my parents too but idk how to explain it to them for them to understand. They are very lucky to have understanding parents Alhamdulillah! I never wanted a wedding for the reasons they explained, evil eye, never enough that people will always complain about something, wasting food, wasting money on things that literally last a few hours. May Allah swt make it easy on you too InshaAllah. May we always have conscience of Allah swt first and foremost. We tryna get to Jannah InshaAllah❤️

@danamasa3157

4 жыл бұрын

Zamihah ameen, and inshallah thank you❤️

@zamihah7078

4 жыл бұрын

dana m Waiyyaki sis

@zamihah7078

4 жыл бұрын

xXJokerAtWorkXx InshaAllah I will let them know about the wedding of the companions! Allahumma Ameen and may you be amongst the best of Muslims. InshaAllah my parents understand. It definitely is hard when people put culture over religion. May Allah swt forgive us all.

@utubestud

4 жыл бұрын

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf when he got married, “Give a feast, even with one sheep.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1943; Muslim, 3475)

I've never really questioned whether I would have a wedding or not if I end up getting married. It's just a thing that I feel like is "expected" in many cultures, especially in mine as a Christian in the US. But you guys made me think about it and you guys are so right! I would rather spend my money on a honeymoon or donate it or something instead of having a huge expensive wedding!

I eloped this year. Best decision ever!! 😁 And my husband and I also both work and we support each other to go after our goals.

I agree with every single thing you said! the wedding is only one night and it cost so much it’s really not worth it and I believe that the stress of it in the first of a new marriage relationship is kinda ruining it bc you should have fun together, travel and know each others more and more. Not starting it with stress & regretting having a wedding afterwards since it cost so much. Anyways if i ever do get married then i would do a small version of a wedding with only my family & close relatives and my loved ones. the purpose of a wedding to annouce the marriage & HAVING FUN first. Good for you guys it’s really the right discussion. Love you guys💕 الله يوفقكم

Smart choice instead go somewhere and enjoy each other

Go buy a house and then have a party with your closest friends

Never had a wedding, went on a awesome honeymoon. Been married for 15 years happily and not in debt

@IvanaHonda

4 жыл бұрын

In my country couples usually get enough money from guests so they pay off the wedding and have extra money. Almost seems like they make big weddings so they can profit.

You know it's not about what other people think, wether you had the wedding or not... If you did then stuff what other people think, if they don't like your food or seating, their loss, the wedding is for the two of you, no one else... And if you don't have the wedding then great aswell less stress and if people think you guys are cheap or whatever then stuff them aswell, do what you two think is the best for you both 🙌 wedding or not

@Sarahh_

4 жыл бұрын

Love this! very true , agreed

Wedding culture is giving me anxiety cause I veil according to Islam and I don't want to show off myself in front of everyone. What you guys did is really wonderful and I wish for you guys May ALLAH give you all the happiness in your life Ameen

My wife and I did the same 3 years ago.. and alhamdulillah! It has been a major blessing

I absolutely agree! Just a casual celebration dinner type thing for immediate family is more than enough these days, and more memorable and enjoyable than a full fledged wedding (in my opinion). All the happiness and success to you guys, in your upcoming marriage and your lives as a whole ❤️

It’s just a milestone in a girl’s life, to be a bride, for her father to give her away during that walk that Dawoud called nerve racking lol. It’s sad to be missed, but at the same time guests indeed are never happy, that’s why I support small number of guests (close family and friends). I’m glad you two made the decision that’s right for you as a couple. Perhaps have the dabke group outside your house as your coming out with your white dress for dawoud to see you in? Instead of on your way to the hall, it would be on your way to a photo shoot then a nice dinner with both family.

This’s exactly what I’m thinking about!!! I don’t wanna wedding too for the same reason.. people are gonna complain about it everything anyway and i did all of that to please them!! So, spending the money on ur honeymoon is much better idea 💡 (( if a wedding is gonna cause you more misery than happiness then don’t do it )) . Ur mom is awesome 👏

Omg I'm so happy I'm not the only one who doesn't want a wedding!! I've been saying this for years and my family always thinks I'm crazy. I also hate being center of attention so I know I won't be happy at all throughout the wedding. It's really not worth it.

This is perfect, I had the exact same thought regarding not having a wedding and I’m so glad someone else thinks that way too because life is short and honestly investing all that money to sit in front of a crowd of people who you know will talk trash about some aspect of the wedding the next day isn’t worth it. Investing that money in creating new experiences/ memories together is a great blessing and Alhamdulillah you guys also want that for yourselves. May Allah(swt) keep your love and marriage forever safe from the Hasood and bless you both for as long as you shall live, Ameen.

Thank you guys stay FOREVER TOGETHER love you from Yemen

Bro who’s the two dislikes? How you gonna dislike a video about a couples decisions about their own wedding 😂

@javsrock52

4 жыл бұрын

Poor guy/gal is upset no invitation

@brothertn708

4 жыл бұрын

Ok Boomer it’s their mothers 😹😹😹

Another reason why y’all are my favorite couple 😭😍

That's one thing that annoyed me about my wedding: all of the complaints I heard. Especially from my husband's family. And it's not like they helped us pay for it. My husband and I paid for everything ourselves. Most of our guests didn't even bring a gift. Plus some of my husband's relatives showed up uninvited and stole some of our centerpieces.

The beggining with the filters was funny😂😂

My wedding was at my in laws house with all their relatives, the Nikkah was done and food was served to everyone (awakens). And all done within couple hours, I don’t like too big weddings.

You two are really cute. I kind of stumbled across this channel by coincidence. You are so right in not having a wedding. It is wiser to spend the money on yourselves. Good that both of your parents have an understanding for that. I hope your honeymoon will take you to Hawaii, because this place is so incredibly beautiful.

I agree with you! I've always thought the same thing since I was a teenager ... Party is for someone who has the money for it. Or for someone who dreams of one. Particularly, I'm more practical.