Men should really work hard to put their woman in a position to free up. Here feminity EXPLODES when she begins to feel safe and secure. That, in turn fuels her love she can free up and radiate her being into their relationship. And God knows that a womans very nature is to take energy, turn it into something bigger and spit it back out better. Life can be amazing with a woman who feels loved and protected and safe.

@soulspirationgoddess

Жыл бұрын

Amen to this 🙏

@imab125

Жыл бұрын

It’s just not financially feasible for most people in the US - even the ones that desire that kind of life. Financing a family on one salary is rough

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Mhmmmm Also some thing I noticed is that people tend to say well it’s hard to afford all that on a budget these days but I think it depends on where you live and being realistic. The most generous guy I met was in Texas and he earned about $65,000 a year but my place and mortgage is not expensive and neither is his. It’s crazy to assume may be in bigger cities but I would be happy to sacrifice my lifestyle more for a man who’s going to take care of me within reason. I have already dialed back my own lifestyle because I just don’t wanna work that much. I don’t need that much Chanel 😂

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

I think we all need to be honest with ourselves and just manage our expectations. I know plenty of housewives who have a modest life in the suburbs but they are all in the affordable red states living in Atlanta for example.

@MrBondSinatra

Жыл бұрын

@@KellyStamps We need more women like you, Ms. Stamps. Cheers to you.

I did not even ask to be born in this world and you think I want a career? The demands of this world is absurd !

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Right? If I could do it all over again I would probably be a golden retriever in Newport, RI.

@jamestaylor7338

Жыл бұрын

@@KellyStamps why Newport Rl?

@swpdisciple

Жыл бұрын

@@KellyStamps very New Englandy. I’m partial to MA myself

@Darth_Bateman

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to post feminism Squid Game World : Where wages are "meh" unless you're some kinda celebrity and now men and women have to live by a simple rule to get ahead : "First the riches, then the bitches."

@cutekitten12

Жыл бұрын

It is absurd, it barely works for men and we're still making it work and trying to establish rights

I’m a housewife. Dropped kids off, went to vote/had lunch with hubby, cleaned for an hour and an on my way to take a nap before pickup in 2 hours. When you’re with a good man who loves and values you AND can afford y’all’s lifestyle without having to work- life can be soooo freeing. Some women openly pity me, but my heart goes out to them because I can’t imagine how exhausted and drained they must feel “doing it all.” To each her own 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Jasmyne444

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! Truthfully you can’t “do it all” without help

@sheeniebeanie2597

Жыл бұрын

That sounds like goalsssss to me!

@nicelagirl

Жыл бұрын

I wanna be you when I grow up. Forreal! And I'm already old. 😂

@jannikapipkins

Жыл бұрын

This comment should go down in history. Signed a loved SAHM and wife. We are HAPPY around here. 😂

@SilasWWE16

Жыл бұрын

Same! We’re very blessed!

Growing up I used to always be so frustrated because whenever I would read a book with a black female main character, she had to be the stereotypical "black strong woman" who is fighting against racism or oppression. I just wanted to read a book where the black female lead was just a regular soft dainty girlie like me and the plot ISN'T ABOUT STRUGGLE! Thankfully adult me has found some more books like that and hopefully it continues to be the norm but I just really hate this narrative and I'm glad more of us are becoming aware of its harm.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

This might be a stretch but I was re-watching “Girlfriends” recently and there wasn’t a single moment where any of them genuinely had peace for at least six episodes. Granted it’s television, but it would’ve been so cool to see one of them just be pampered for a minute 😭 P.S. also thank you for always coming back and commenting. You have earned yourself honor roll!

@itsamina

Жыл бұрын

@@KellyStamps Woah honor roll! I love that for me lol. Much love as always 🤎

@itsamina

Жыл бұрын

@@countessofmontecristo3849 I'm always open to book recommendations!

@emuhu001

Жыл бұрын

Please Amina recommend those books. I would recommend Homegoing by yaya ghasi and the vanishing half. Please I need new book recommendations that are not about black woman suffering.

@itsamina

Жыл бұрын

@@emuhu001 I'd recommend Terms and Conditions by Lauren Asher. The black female lead is written as a desirable love interest and black struggle isn't part of the narrative 🤎

I'm NOT a strong black woman. I'm actually gonna go cry. BRB.

@Darth_Bateman

Жыл бұрын

You are strong. IF Strong men cry. Strong women cry too. *hugs* We. Are. Strong. We. Are. Beautiful.

@soulspirationgoddess

Жыл бұрын

You are gorgeous btw. ☺️

@honestlyamara

Жыл бұрын

@@soulspirationgoddess thank you honey ♥️

@FullyLovingYourself

Жыл бұрын

This right here

@jjgems5909

Жыл бұрын

Their is strength in humility, meekness, gentleness, patience and kindness. It takes strength to have this attributes now and days. You may not be what the world says is “strong” but you are strong. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

I feel seen by the title alone👸🏾

@MyWorld-xw6ic

Жыл бұрын

Yasssssss

@simonescorner

Жыл бұрын

Same

@TheSunflowerGoddess

Жыл бұрын

Sameeee

@AfuwaRenner

Жыл бұрын

I literally just said "I feel you Kelly!" out loud after reading the title of the video 😭😂

@AshontheLine

Жыл бұрын

Yessss

I don't want a "career" either! 💗💗💗 I'm just a simple girl who loves the Lord, the beach, fashion,dance, children, and smoothies.

@soulspirationgoddess

Жыл бұрын

I know that’s right! ❤

@Ota_ku69

Жыл бұрын

That sounds lazy.

@kharyzma4u

Жыл бұрын

@@Ota_ku69 Great! Either way I'm still blessed. It's my life, so it shouldn't really matter to you 😊

@sunnni_

Жыл бұрын

This one right here

@kharyzma4u

Жыл бұрын

@Bigheartoneggshells I think that's awesome. Everyone is unique and that's a good thing!

Being a housewife is a full time job with no benefits and no money going into retirement. You still have to manage the household and do advocacy work, especially for your neighborhood and community. You have to make sure you have your own income and prepare for retirement. It's still a job, and it's mostly thankless.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Thankless indeed!

@camelio10

Жыл бұрын

Not true. It's Only full time if you are doing all the upkeep. Not exactly full time if you have nannies and cleaners. It's a thankless task because it involves work which you'll do anyway with or without a husband. Every adult still has to cook and clean

@adnaali8417

Жыл бұрын

💯💯

@lorenebonsu146

Жыл бұрын

@@camelio10 Nope, child rearing is a whole different beast. When im taking care of my nephews I can barley get a shower in and legitimately work form 6am to 10pm with NO breaks. 9-10pm Is clean up after they sleep.

@misshoneynevercame4832

Жыл бұрын

@@lorenebonsu146 I fully agree. Taking care of kids will suck the life out of you. If men would be the ones having to raise children, we'd be going extinct in half a century.

Everyone is different and enjoys doing different things, but just FYI raising kids and being with them 24/7 is harder than anyone without one can imagine. For a lot, or maybe most people, it’s harder than a jobs.

@annieareyouok7671

Жыл бұрын

Yeah cause it’s the job that never ends. People think being a shm means not having a job. No you’re still earning your keep. Women of leisure are the women with Nannies, cleaners, cook, lots of help.

@augustvirgo26

Жыл бұрын

Yea one of my coworkers only works a few days out the week just to have her own money, but she tells me being a sahm can be lonely but it’s a lot, but it’s better than letting any body watch your kids

@Roses-Peonies

Жыл бұрын

Then why have the kids in the first place?

@erowry22

Жыл бұрын

​@Roses & Peonies that makes no sense. They had the kids because they wanted kids. That's like saying "why get that job if you really don't like to work"

@wildeevolution

Жыл бұрын

@@Roses-Peonies That’s the problem. We have the kids because we are biologically driven to want them. Unfortunately our species has forgotten how to a secure a mate and build a safe nest/home first.

I've made the mistake twice of fully depending on a man. it can work...but unless he is a pure soul and truly sees you as his equal, it is NOT worth it. always maintain your independence and income. make bank & fund that retirement girl!!!

@msliberated3899

Жыл бұрын

Tell ‘em before they fall!!!

@cookiielashea4987

Жыл бұрын

You can do both. I found a woman who her husband funds her investment companies. It's legally her companies. And he takes care of everything

@lourdesterry649

Жыл бұрын

Theres a lot of newly homeless women oldder who didnt have retirement now they’re living in their cars

@Shewas-kathybates

Жыл бұрын

@@cookiielashea4987 what happens if he stops investing though? So many women have been left out to dry

@iStorm-my5fp

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I had a guy try to pull the you don't need to work ill take care of you, a year later I found out he wanted 100% control of me including going with me to the grocery store, gym etc.

This title is absolute goals like who wants to work a job that makes them miserable 😭

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

HULLO Kaitlin

@MrAnsatsuken

Жыл бұрын

Men do. As long as our women and children are happy, we're happy to make sacrifices 👍 We're biologically wired to sacrifice.

@Juscallme_meli

Жыл бұрын

I like my Job and I STILL don’t want to work LOL. Like this is cool and all but….

@AyaNichelle-gi9cd

Жыл бұрын

@@MrAnsatsuken thank God

@originsandcivilizations3983

Жыл бұрын

nope , they like their jobs cause we chase success . it's only successful women who are mentioned , remembered and appreciated not regular ones .

If money was no object & I could do whatever I want I would do nothing! Lay out by the pool/ beach soaking up the sun. Having a closet full of vintage designer and eating pasta almost every night. Traveling & happy! I met a man who’s a workaholic and working/ being “busy” makes him feel whole. He tried to put him down when I took a day off from work and asked how do I feel comfortable not being “productive” I cussed him out and proceeded to relax and enjoy my day off.

@esjay-rh7wx

Жыл бұрын

Hell yeah enjoy your day off; that's what vacation/pto days are for! All that "productive" working with no time off is just a fast track to an early grave.

@9188jenni

Жыл бұрын

Resting is productive

@lolabunny1157

Жыл бұрын

@@esjay-rh7wx right!!

@lolabunny1157

Жыл бұрын

@@9188jenni exactly!!

@SunniDae333

Жыл бұрын

Same

I find this trend of romantizing homemaking in our culture pretty fascinating. Being a housewife has certainly been looked down upon in the last decade, so I'm glad to see woman who truly want that embracing it. But I am a bit baffled at this heavy correlation between a "simple, luxurious life" and being a homemaker. For me personally, the idea of being a homemaker (with kids) seems incredibly stressful and exhausting. I've yet to meet a SAHM in real life who can dress to the nines while baking bread in her spotless kitchen when she has 3 kids to take care of. 😅 Even without kids in the picture, relying so heavily on someone else and their income to sustain the both of you doesn't quite seem so simple to me, especially in this economy. It really puts a lot of pressure on you to find the most ideal partner. And hell, I'd hate to put that kind pressure on my partner too. But that is just my opinion, and it's why I don't pursue those lifestyles. I'm sure others can thrive in it. I think ultimately, you can find the simplicity and feminity in anything you do. For me, working in a career I love, living in my own cozy apartment in a big city within a 3min walk from boyfriend gives me so much joy. I can afford to spend money on things I enjoy, explore cute cafe and restaurants, I can stay at home and be a total potato all day, or put effort into my hobbies that I'm super passionate about (Running and 3D modeling). It doesn't have to be one way of life or the other. ❤

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Yeahhhh I don’t see homemaking as luxurious at all. I see it as a way for me to rest in my femininity and natural role God blessed us with. If anything homemaking with kids sounds sticky, nasty and tiring. LOL. But like many people commented, they enjoy being home with their kids and taking care of their man instead of being at an office all day long. Also I DO know housewives who actually do dress to the nines but they only have ONE kid and they have money for a part time nanny. One of them is completely child free! The key is money and low COL lol.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Right off the bat it sounds contradictory to stay at home just to have a nanny but so many people do it. I’m not talking until I know what it’s like to deal with a screaming child lol.

The part about WOC and children of immigrants so rarely growing up with a relaxed, grounded woman around is so true. Trying to unlearn this deeply internalized necessity for "struggle" all like now and holy fuck it's hard with capitalism as an added flame fanner. At my core I know I am meant to be dancing, making healing music and sharing my gifts. Peace to you Kelly. I am glad you are finding a balance that feels good for you.

@hinkle3634

Жыл бұрын

Capitalism has nothing to do with forcing "struggle culture" on WOC tho, if anything real capitalism helps us express individuality

Currently me. I’m 28, pregnant, married and with a home. None of my friends are in my situation and can’t relate to me anymore. They’re still in the “career is everything” mentality and I think look down on me for only working part time and focusing on family life.

@taneshabeverly6516

Жыл бұрын

Consider yourself blessed because when they get older they're going to wish they didn't have to work so hard.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Would you say that you naturally are more nurturing or did you have to take a step back and shift your mentality to acquire the more relaxed life that you have now?

@Justcetriyaart

Жыл бұрын

In my 30s and not planning to live a life like yours so I can see not relating as we're not having similar life experiences, yet I don't get why people look down on you? It's your life and your choice the same as it's my life and happy that I have a choice. I don't get people's obsession with putting us women in one small box or all the same track. Keep being happy and fulfilled in your family :)

@kbnumber24

Жыл бұрын

You're awesome. High-value men appreciate ladies like you.

@zens8655

Жыл бұрын

They wish!!!

Everytime I see tirmasu in the grocery store Kelly always comes to mind

@LaurenOliviArt

Жыл бұрын

Same 😂

@professlch6347

Жыл бұрын

ALWAYS

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

LOL Trader Joes has some that I need to try

@lovejonelle4822

Жыл бұрын

Literally invented tiramisu 😂 cause I think of her too lol

@bkkid100234

Жыл бұрын

@@KellyStamps the trader joes one is actually kind of gross. When I saw it at the store a few months ago, I thought of you to give it a try lol

I wish I could live in some little sea side town in Italy. I wish I could wear flowy dresses most days. I wish I could cook and be relaxed in a simple bright kitchen. I wish for peace of mind. Live the way you feel is right Kelly❤

@Liz-ic6jb

Жыл бұрын

You actually can do all those things you "wish". You have to pursue it though.

@audriiiiroberts3030

Жыл бұрын

@@Liz-ic6jb gosh and it’s hard. Currently moved to a “fixer upper” house and it’s just hard. But like I know I didn’t have to do things *this* way, I just want a home that feels like home

@Bookshoneyandtea

Жыл бұрын

Write music. You’ll get there. You have a way with words. I read your comment as a song

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

You can totally get there! So many jobs are remote these days, the hard part is figuring out how to actually get hired. I think if you travel and meet these people on vacation you can probably connect with someone who can help guide you that way. I did not expect to be a stay at home meme six years ago but life has taken me this way 🤸🏾‍♂️

@Liz-ic6jb

Жыл бұрын

@@audriiiiroberts3030 Okay. Let's start with one of the easiest things: Wear a pretty flowery flowing dress, that makes you feel beautiful....Let's say, once every two weeks. And go somewhere to show that dress off!👗

Yes, Kelly! Being a strong, independent black woman is not goals. My life has not been easy overall but like you suggested, I changed the narrative. I now walk around like I’ve never been hurt/scarred. I live in my femininity and will never waiver from it again.

Жыл бұрын

❤

@NYKIRA

Жыл бұрын

feel this ❤

Still trying to figure out how Kelly walks around in public without people constantly asking for selfies

@Pleasesliceme

Жыл бұрын

I like to think her viewers (us) are more understanding than typical fan bases

@ashley.taylor174

Жыл бұрын

Not everyone watches her. 😊

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

A lot of people do come up to me but they don’t know my exact name 😂 some guy was like you’re that Kelly Staples yoooo

@balthorpayne

Жыл бұрын

@@KellyStamps Stamps or staples, you still leave a mark, fam!

@khaleesiy.7886

Жыл бұрын

We love you so much Kelly 😂

In the black community, the struggle is all that is known. However, I refuse to embrace the struggle. Even though I know I am destined to be single the rest of my life, I am going to work hard at having a fulfilled life.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

True, my mom led financially after my dad started being a dead beat when I got older. It was so odd and random but it’s a curse in our community!

@yaee123

Жыл бұрын

You are not destined to be alone. Don't fall gor that lie and speak that negativity over yourself. You better refute that narrative!

@luchats

11 ай бұрын

@@yaee123 some people are not supposed to get married or have no desire to get married. God loves marriage but not everyone is supposed to be. Some people really are destined to be single

Thisssss. The only reason I want a career is for the money 😅 I’m trying to build a KZread audience to not have to go back to a “job” ❤❤

@nombimsweli8643

Жыл бұрын

Good luck Jess❤

@nancykerrigan

Жыл бұрын

But technically doing KZread can be a "job" especially when you've reached monetization.

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

@@nancykerrigan maybe should phrase it as “traditional career”

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Doing KZread “fulltime” is like having a part time hobby that pays bills. I seriously am so fortunate. It’s the perfect balance

@polpolpol99

Жыл бұрын

subscribed cause you deserve it girl☺

As someone who spent the whole day sleeping, baking and cooking, and cleaning my apartment, I feel so seen. Also Kelly you look gorgeous.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🥹

Live free, be yourself, embrace your own way of life, your own style and your own rules. Keep up living your superstar life Kelly, and keep up inspiring others to do so.

I'm 45 and enjoy you. You are refreshing. Kelly, you are a rare diamond of a woman, with a uniquely beautiful soul.

@Jasmyne444

Жыл бұрын

Agreed!

I'm not competitive. I enjoy being home with my child. The men where I live are feminine and afraid to approach women. Many of them depend on women financially. It wasn't like this in my late teens early 20s. I'm only 40

@ShakeraShakera

Жыл бұрын

So because they don’t approach women that makes them feminine😳??? Wow.. what if they don’t approach women because they feel like they need to get all these things in place that women require before approaching them🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

@MarciaRain

Жыл бұрын

Date older men😊

@taneshabeverly6516

Жыл бұрын

Facts I'm 42 a lot of these men are weak and feminine in a toxic way and the women are masculine.

@ShakeraShakera

Жыл бұрын

@@MarciaRain Lmfaooo ma’am what??? How does this answer my question. Age isn’t a factor…

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Are you in Washington DC? 😅 I went there for a PR trip and I was so excited to be around bougie Black people that I realized THEY want to be making the tiramisu in the robe. But hey, that’s a beautiful thing about a large population. There are someone else for them who doesn’t mind leading.

The Megan wall lean kick. I’m here for all of it. I’m embracing a soft life while still keeping my wits about me. Being soft doesn’t mean just falling to the wayside of life and hoping for the best outcome. We have to strive for it and build a community together. As women, we can be soft with each other!! It’s much easier when we do things together and try to unlearn toxic traits

@CrystalRose1111

Жыл бұрын

This.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

hi my name is m3gan

I just got recently let go from a job that was literally sucking the soul out of me/making me depressed. Plus my boss was making the work environment toxic to make me quit…. But after being let go it gave me a realization of how I want to redesign my life. I’m taking my power pack. My family and significant other is very supportive about my decisions. I know that I will be in a better work environment that I am appreciated for what I do and not punished for the most tiniest of errors for example a misspelled word. What is meant for me it will come soon sooner than I think. Just got to put in the work to get there.

@Scarlet-Enchantress

Жыл бұрын

Not gonna hold you, misspelled words are small mistakes that is attention to detail important for many fields lol. But I resonated with everyone else you said. You’ll find a better work environment! I got let go too 🫶🏽

@akinakudachi

Жыл бұрын

@@Scarlet-Enchantress Thank you I wish the best for you also! But I am human and mistakes happen every now then, even the best of folks can make spelling errors too. 😊

@Sarah-ve4vk

Жыл бұрын

@@akinakudachiyou’re doing fine! I’m in the exact same position as you. We’ll find better 💪🏽

@darolhines5329

Жыл бұрын

I so appreciate your words.I'm not sure what I want to do but I don't want to give my heart and soul to be layed off. Back to the grown folk drawing board. Thank you 😅

@MadamLolz

Жыл бұрын

Sis I am sending my love and prayers. I literally had the same thing happen to me. My man and family supported me but I did all the grunt work in what I knew could be the best thing to ever have happened to me. Although traumatic, being let go allowed me to secure better opportunities. And I did ! I got a higher paying Job after two months of actively job hunting. I decided I wouldn’t take anything less, but to always strive for better. Never stay stagnant. They were intimidated by your greatness.

Just had a conversation with my husband that we need to change the title of a stay at home parent to Household Manager. It is a tough job requiring good customer service, organizational skills, and working overtime!!!!!!

None of us WANTS to do many things but we dont always have a choice. If you happen to then consider yourself blessed. Good luck in whatever you choose to do or not do. Someone has to make the "tiramisu" though. It wont make itself.

Hey Kelly! I do think, in general, its important to seek Christ regarding how we behave as women (I should probably comment this on your other video haha). Christian femininity is so different from worldly femininity. I think we have to be careful when attributing femininity to caring for children, staying home etc. We erase many women who are called to live different lifestyles (not saying at all you personally are erasing them). It can also go so deep because there are many traumas that can contribute to our perceptions of femininity and what we think we should, and shouldn't, be doing with our lives...but thank God for his grace to guide us through. Thank you for this video and your new channel

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

This!!

@zariachanel

Жыл бұрын

Amen, love this comment

@drebugsita

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree, even as a non-Christian. There are so many empowering conceptions of femininity, irrespective of motherhood. As a Buddhist I draw inspiration from the Dakinis and Taras - female representations of enlightened beings. The Buddha of loving eyes is represented as a female Buddha with four arms, each representing a different type of love: equanimity, etc (I need to brush up on them!). The important thing IMO is to connect with ourselves, and the faith we align with if that applies, rather than bend to fit into the conventions of those around us.

@brooklynforever1990

Жыл бұрын

This comment is so balanced and nuanced. Thank you!

I girl bossed too hard and now i have people that rely on me and ask me questions 😂

@beewest5704

Жыл бұрын

Oof

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@abbieamavi

Жыл бұрын

I feel this 😂

I love helping others so I left my 9-5 and started nursing school Kelly. I will help sick babies instead of a man lol.

Bindi Marc is also a good example of a Christian woman who is relatable to our age group. I’m so proud of you girl💕

I felt this video resumed my 10 years in NYC. That was the first time I was living my life for me, no matter what odd jobs I had or the journey with bad relationships. We are all learning, regardless how old we are. I'm sharing this as this is me ❤🎉🎉🙏🏾

Once again your rants are aligned with my journal prompts. I was saying I’m tired of being the strong independent black woman that has to do everything on her own and not ask for help. I want to be pretty and sit back while someone helps me. Not only that I’m tired of feeling guilty when asking for help. Like society really made us feel like if we didn’t hustle we don’t deserve it or it’s not authentically ours if we had help along the way

@msliberated3899

Жыл бұрын

It’s best black women stay single and child free! We deserve to spoil ourselves. We can always volunteer and help family out cause we know many of them would love some help with them kids!

@Tania-rg7jp

10 ай бұрын

Essentially women want privilege. But women of color are supposed to fight the privileged instead of join them and relax. -mainstream media.

So glad this video exist. It literally wasn’t even long ago where I had the revelation that I just want to be soft. I feel guilty for feeling like that. I just want to be a housewife and make streams of income based off my creative passions. Not labor. I want to hang out with friends who live similar lifestyles. Take care of my man, and being taken care of. Oh and travel 😂

@drebugsita

Жыл бұрын

Just want to point out - as someone who is creative for a living - creative work is labor. If you plan on making money from it that means you will be working. People tend to dismiss creative fields as fluff, and often try to avoid paying artists for their work. Even if we make it look fun and easy that does not mean it does not take time and energy. Creative work is work.

@Waters..

Жыл бұрын

@@drebugsita when I say “labor” I’m meaning using your body beyond physical measures. Please don’t assume that I’m being dismissive by a comment. I just want to share my thoughts. Don’t want to really argue about this.

@myacct8304

Жыл бұрын

@@Waters.. I don't think they were arguing with you. I think they were just sharing their thoughts, in the same way that you were sharing your thoughts. Not everyone understands everything the same way, so it's always good to share perspectives and hear how someone else interpreted what you said, even if it wasn't what you meant. Doing so doesn't have to be combative

@Waters..

Жыл бұрын

@@myacct8304 their original comment was not presented like the edited version is so it looks like that you. Either way, I don’t wanna go back and forth about something as small as this. I used the word exactly how I meant it and I don’t need a lesson on it.

@JinjiSayson

Жыл бұрын

​​​​@@Waters..r language in your original comment specifically mentioned "creative passions" and "labor" as two separate entities, so yes artists like us are going to inevitably comment on it, because it's not a "small" thing to us that people think that because we're doing what we love it's not "real work" hencd why ppl always undervalue and underpays artists.

I love stanning relaxing Black women living their best lives not having to be the tough single woman. I also love that I live in a time period in which I am not artificially prevented from working in the way that is most fulfilling for me, which sharpens and showcases my talents, which interests me, and which keeps me feeling free rather than unpleasantly trapped. Home for me then becomes rest and my person. Everyone is unique, and that's lovely

Kelly Stamps you are very wise beyond your years. This is coming from a lady in her 60s. You are so refreshing.

Sis i don't want a career but also don't want an husband 😂

@luw5244

Жыл бұрын

Lmao, same here. I want a trust fund😂.

@flowerfields2379

Жыл бұрын

😂

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

You just want funds and tiramisu 😂😂

@mothership9234

Жыл бұрын

THIS!! I want a spa type community full of women that just gets pampered all day!!

Chile being strong all of the time can be exhausting and toxic! I need to be vulnerable and that's okay. Success is defined differently for everyone whether that a "career" woman or a homemaker. Tfs

Great advice, My daughter needs to hear this, I give her advice but she doesnt listen and always finds out later that dad was right. She always gets involved with the wrong type of man, I meet them and give her my opinion on them but she doesnt listen. Then moths later she figures it out.

I’m studying law (basically because I didn’t know what else to study so I chose something “safe”) and I’m constantly battling with the conflicting emotions of wanting to live a peaceful, simple life and pursuing a career. Most, if not all, my peers want the latter ofc. Whereas I lean more towards the simple life, doing “simple” jobs to get by. Or if I were to pursue law, I would like to do it my own way, represent the clients I want to represent etc. But that’s totally unrealistic 😂 I’m in a crossroads but videos like these make me feel understood and not alone

@beewest5704

Жыл бұрын

Thats why my friend does contract law. She doesn't even like ppl. Now she works from home. It took her 3 years to draft different templates now she just changes 1 or 2 things & make money.

this self-love journey is so amazing bc it's very important to be happy enough to show up for yourself and in return, you'll be able to show up in a healthy way for others!

Even though I'm a male subsciber I still feel you provide an insight of the ebbs and flows of being a young woman that otherwise aren't either expressed properly or at all, which is not only encouraging for other women, but is also food for thought for guys who WANT to understand women more so that we all make this life more peaceful for one another so in other wirds im saying thank you for existing lol.

This is revolutionary for me. I am softening my life, embracing my feminine side and not blaming myself just for wanting to do absolutaly nothing "productive" and just chill and be in peace with life, doing what I want. Out of the rat race and doing me. That's just so new to me and is very important. The strong black woman is such a bad stereotype. It should not be embraced. I recommend that every woman to take that role away from her life.

I'm loving these latest videos! I'm a solid 10-15 years older than you. Southerner. Wanted marriage and family in my 20's, and to be feminine and cherished. Was living in NYC, and -- coincidence or not -- I couldn't find someone who wasn't threatened by me. After 35, I changed. I bought a house by a lake back down South. And started a family on my own. And you know what? I still love love, but I couldn't be happier with my life. I'm content and feel full. I just wanted to put it on your radar that there can be an unexpected happily ever after. And yes, Whataburger is bomb!

Love your phone case, the volume, the sass and the wisdom. God bless you sweet girl 🤍🙌🏽

Life is really about enjoying who you are, what you do and the bonus is some who enjoys you as well. Knowing who you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Katie is so correct. Find out who you are and you will attract the life you enjoy. Congratulations on the new channel.❤️😊👌🏼

Loving this rebrand (and the rug)! I also love how sure and confident you are, even in your confusing times. It always feels like we’re friends or you’re an older sister who encourages me to be unapologetic, intelligent, Godly, and look cute! It’s tough being a 20 something with goals but not quite being at the finish line yet. In fact I’m not sure where I am in this journey 😭 lol. That’s the beauty of trusting in the most high’s plan and perfect will. I love that there are other black women out there who can relate!❤

Loved this video Kelly. I’m literally in this season of my life. I’ve been getting so many signs from the universe lately to do what I feel is right. Then BAM you drop a video on this exact topic. Thanks for your transparency ❤

Idk I don't feel invested in anything associated with the concept of being 'traditional'. It's so nebulous and easily weaponized, especially against women. Wanting monogamous partnership and to raise a family and be valued in a close community is ALSO part of what society pushes on us through media and other social institutions. The 'high-powered career woman' is so satirized in the rom coms of the 2000s on - it's not framed positively! For most people life is not going to be either/or - having a family and nurturing that, or building a career and hustling through drudgery since, you know, we need money to survive. It's kind of expected to juggle both, and if you want to focus more on one, great. You building your channels ground up and other work you do is a business, and running that doesn't meet some definitions of 'traditional woman/soft life'. 'Traditional' also often comes with implications about modesty and value. All the things often framed as 'soft' (online this is mostly beauty maintenance and household management, but sometimes these channels will talk about building relationships with emotional safety) are also work, some people just prefer those kind of work. IMO people just need to be more honest with themselves about what kinds of work the prefer and try to get as close as possible to their preferred mix (in terms of where they spend their time).

I enjoy my job and I think I'm pretty good at it, but at the same time I want to drop everything and travel everywhere, and also I want to just stay at home all day and read and bake bread and go to yoga class. I want to be able to work when I want and not work when I don't want to and still be successful and not stressed about it.

@xerosbatmanmerch7815

Жыл бұрын

fucking lol, everybody wants that but a tradwife lifestyle and submitting to patriarchal ideas with a new label will not give you that

Before watching I relate to the title on a spiritual level.

I’m 22 and I felt this. We are not suppose to be aligning with other peoples experiences but aligning with ourselves. People are going to try to convince us to not trust ourselves because in reality they don’t want us to depend on our worth and what we expect from life. They use things like “unrealistic” as a way to make us dissatisfied with life when life itself is a journey. Listen to what you want and not what other people want

Kelly you are a beacon of light and hope! 💕 I am thrilled to see someone walking through life with a similar perspective on modern culture. It is so refreshing and less lonely feeling 💖

As a twin mama this video really hit 🖤 thanks Kelly for teaching us to be better and want better. Your videos really make me feel like I can do anything & of course I can 🫶🏽🖤

Oooo I LOVE the five O cups reference! I’m on it Kelly. Ridding myself of outdated limiting belief systems in the pursuit of true happiness.❤️🙏🏾

God bless you Kelly for standing out & being unapologetic and BRAVE

I did start my youtube channel because of your inspiration and I need to get back into it. I do love my current job but I really want that freedom of not clocking into someone's workplace. I have been through a rough life and I have a deep passion to help people with sharing my knowledge here on KZread. Thank you Kelly for yet another push to get back on camera . I needed this.

@ilikeramyeon

Жыл бұрын

Go head girl!

Kelly.....I feel you....I don't want to work anymore either...it's so draining

Thank you. I completely relate to wanting to help everyone while also being on a different plane in regard to my values, goals in life, and the things that are fulfilling to me.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

GOOD FOR YOU

This is so me 🫶🏾 I appreciate how you’re embracing this new version of yourself through the content you post. I’m also more traditional leaning and in today’s society it’s looked down upon! I envision myself as a SAHKM tending to a small food garden, soaking up the rays, and caring for my family. & I too, am allergic to the black girl plight of “the struggle” 😂. Also, side bar - I almost ran into you in Miami! I would’ve said hi, but I watched your video about being stalked less than 2 hours earlier lol and was like nope not today. I hope things have gotten better for you sis.

I'm southern but I do not consider Florida the south for some reason. Florida just seems like a whole nother country or planet to me lol

This woman right here ❤

I’m definitely somewhere in the middle. I’m not cut out to be the top performer type. Yes I can do it, I’m very much so capable but I know mentally for me that wouldn’t be right for me. I also don’t want to be so independent and so successful and so busy doing my career thing that I don’t have time for family or to date or to raise kids when that time comes. But I also want to make my own money and be able to give myself a beautiful life and feel fulfilled doing whatever I do too. ✨Reasonably✨Soft life me please.

Thank you for being yourself and making a truly interesting video. I’ve been waiting all this time for a deeper level of you. 🥰

This is so relatable. I want my own business too though but I wanna be able to run it at home while I'm making dinner for a handsome, loyal, wealthy man lol

Love this! I have my dream job and make really comfortable wages, but I got very burnt out and went per diem a couple years ago. I have been able to develop myself outside of my career in so many ways. Stepping back from the "grind" when I had the chance instead of chasing money and career status was the best decision ever. The women at work and even my family try to shame me for cutting back and not having another job, like I'm lazy or something. It's not their life and health and happiness though, and they don't know everything behind the scenes. Being content with having enough is enough for me, and very freeing. I truly wish more women woud give themselves permission to do that if they want to and have the means.

Loving these new videos coming from Kelly

Your hair looks so beautiful. And thanks for the resistance part. So many go around trying to do what the world tells us to do, to the point that we ignore our own feelings & intuition about it.

I felt that degree as decor 🥲 mines collecting dust.

I was dragged and forced into this video by the thumbnail 👀. And I'm not disappointed you slay queen.

I agree, so refreshing to see this side. I’m definitely subscribing to the new channel.

You are a brilliant light on here. Attitude is everything. I’m lucky to have a few friends who think the same way. Focusing on what we CAN do is powerful. That question, What would you do if money were no object? is one I’ve used often to help myself and friends leap into our dreams. It works. Seek first the Kingdom has allowed me to find everything first within. Amazing how things unfold. Lots of love n gratitude 🙏🏻

Правильно, я работала до 34 лет как проклятая, хотела карьеру и денег, а потом оглянулась, у всех семьи.... Бросила работу и вышла замуж в 35. Чувствую себя лучше чем раньше. 😅

“It never occurred to me that I was supposed to struggle to be happy” - YES! Soft life is all I want. Enjoyment only.

I agree with your video, so glad that you’re video came up in my suggested videos now i’m a new subscriber! Us bw deserve to live the soft life, we as a collective need to burn the capes and put ourselves first always!

haha im 18 & look up to you 💗💗☝🏽 ur one of the only people i watch on KZread these days. the best professer

Hair can really set a mood. Love this for you Kelly, uber soft.

After going back in time and binging from video 1, for the past 2 weeks or so, I am now at real time level.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Starting over just like the Marvel or Star Wars series 💕

I honestly watch you because you’re gorgeous but you’re definitely always very informational and a big eye opener in many ways

I feel so good about watching this and being able to relate to everything you’re saying.

Good for you! I came to conclusions a few years ago. Living in softness and joy. I subscribed to hustling in my 20s...exhausting.

Girlll!!!!!! Oh my God!! I hate this fucking system that we live in and that we essentially have to fucking take it and figure out a way to make it work. I know it’s life. I know it’s “the way it is” but FUCKING DAMN. I don’t believe a majority of us want an extravagant lifestyle. We just want a comfortable one and it’s like pulling teeth.

I’m so tired of being the breadwinner. It’s led to so much anxiety, depression, burnout, resentment, etc. I love my long-time partner, but I wish they took care of me financially.

I am enrolled in the right university. This is how I feel, except I’d be baking various things.

I’m not necessarily the intentional targeted recipient for this message but I received a lot of value from this. Appreciated this !

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

Well thanks you for watching anyway!

I love it Kelly, stay cool.😊

Love this one! I wasn't going to comment and just watch but the narrative part got me. lol Every single person has the ability to control the narrative. Especially their own. If you observe "the reality" deep enough, you can see that everyone already does control the narrative.. Your attention empowers the collective reality. 💯

I love you so much, kelly!!! you crack me TF up while somehow also perfectly delivering sage advice

You are literally the most beautiful woman on the planet ❤

@jadeblackwell6227

Жыл бұрын

Timothy I watch your videos 😀

I hate how work obsessed everyone is! Like is there anything else to you as a human ?? Gosh. Love the hair Kelly ❤

Here's to existing in the middle! I relate that so much. Thank you!

Thank you professor stamps I am snapping out of it! Fr

I understand being tired of the "struggle love"/struggling together stereotype too. Like, I get it, love isn't easy, but why does it have to feel nearly impossible? Why not indulge in a gentler variety of love? As I've gotten older I realise I tire of conflict really quickly and easily (including my own nonsense when I'm in the wrong), I don't have the same patience for it that I used to. I know love and adulthood has ups and downs, but I'm more comfortable expressing my intense need for mostly peace and compatible friend/relationships. I don't get attached so quickly or easily as I used to. Society can't just see women grow into ourselves confidently and leave us alone about it.

I haven't watched you in sooooooo long. I found you when you had less than 20k followers and now I see you reaching 700k. I AM SO PROUD. Continue to be you. My lovely Queen.

@KellyStamps

Жыл бұрын

WOW thank you

This black dress is really AMAZING! I love it.

Your rug is a perfect match for that flower vase behind you!

I just started the video but I already resonate with the title.

This was beautiful! As a christian woman I feel exacly the same way. You explain with much grace and without jugment the dilema modern women are facing today.