I'm delighted to welcome back Dr. Tali Sharot. I can't wait to hear what you all think of this episode! 💛 Share your favourite part of the convo below 👇🏾If you enjoyed this episode could you do us a favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot 🙏

@suny1265

6 ай бұрын

Do me a Favour: Stop being a beggar for Subscribing...you make 100 k a month not counting sponsorships.

@chipdouglaschipdouglas

6 ай бұрын

This NWO/Satanist Channel continues to not let me down. You guys are fools. Good Luck.

@deancummings5285

6 ай бұрын

It IS hard to believe, but a few of us are not in the banking system, for the now and hence unable to subscribe to favourites. We live in the NOW but aim and strive and head to the future. Apologies that some things have to wait, patiently!

@williampeynsaert

6 ай бұрын

Hi Steven, what happened to the interview with Neill Strauss? Or did I just dream that you interviewd him? It looked really interesting. Also: people just subscribe already, thanks

@soultraveler2

6 ай бұрын

@@deancummings5285😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅o

I love these episodes but how many no. 1 neuroscientists are there? 😂

@jamnoise72

6 ай бұрын

😂

@jamnoise72

6 ай бұрын

​@@michele0324😂

@GlareBoxTV

6 ай бұрын

You have Dr Andrew Huberman who's prob the most well known.

@user-ex3mx7hk4l

6 ай бұрын

I don’t know, but next year my son will be a #1 Neurologist when he graduates Med School. Yea!!! 😂

@deryakarahan7246

5 ай бұрын

😂😅

40:06 "If you focus on hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow."

@yinbambi

6 ай бұрын

a bit more difficult when someone w/money was purposely trying teach u a lesson now that just feels like manipulation

@RhenanMartinsRepoem

Ай бұрын

Bobagem. Essa é a maior falácia sobre pensamentos, a qual ja foi derrubada por Daniel Kanemamm yers ago.

@JCAdolphson

Ай бұрын

@@yinbambiseeking money from someone who is knowingly abusive with financial power makes the pursuer a player in the game, not a victim. Sometimes the pursuer is the manipulator. There are many other directions a person can choose.

@JCAdolphson

Ай бұрын

@@RhenanMartinsRepoemEver notice people who constantly complain about a past partner and then wonder why they attract the same type of partner again and again? There’s nothing to debunk about taking accountability for your own thoughts.

I am personally quite the opposite, in my 40s, enjoying the peace and stability. There was too much stress due to negative events, I moved several times to new places and had to adapt myself to new enviroment and new cultures, and now for the past 10 years I do not get tired of enjoying the fact that there is nothing going on. For me happiness is absence of changes. I think people are so different, and so many factors affect our psyche due to our unique background, that no study can determine what happiness is, it will always be averaged and generalized.

@huevacho

5 ай бұрын

In my 40's also and totally agree with you, less is more for me these days.

@sarkanovotna2207

4 ай бұрын

Yes, this is a view of an economist, a monk would maybe emphasize other aspects of human nature. Joy is not the same as happiness. In fact, chasing joy is direct path to unhappiness.

@susannas495

4 ай бұрын

The problem is that for any No 1 Neuroscientist (and there seem to be so many😮) is that, there are so many differences in cultures plus, the planet has over 8 billion people 🤔 so, it is impossible to generalise in one book, in my humble opinion. Also, they need to explain what socio-economic groups are used in the test studies as that will have a valid distinction between making data analysis. I still find it very interesting to listen to these people, as opposed to not learning.

@money0436

3 ай бұрын

Theres a scientific research about that - absence of changes will lead to dimentia. Be careful

@Refulgent_Rascal

2 ай бұрын

Exactly. She comes from the material epicurean way of thinking which is just pleasure after pleasure. Hedonism in a nutshell, she'd be very difficult to trust.

To summarize the whole podcast, basically “variety is the spice of life”

@clararobin9869

6 ай бұрын

Thanks 😂

@methusharavi5136

6 ай бұрын

literally surfing through the comments for this

@emh8861

6 ай бұрын

Old news 🤣

@thebtk

6 ай бұрын

Wish they had variety in this episode

@dychui

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for the summary ! I think it’s a great summary, but to me it’s still worth listening to the whole episode. Sometimes it’s not so much the message but how one convinces about the message that I find to be the most impactful part of the interviews. An example is the Glucose Goddess episodes - a very short list of suggestions to improve our life with respect to glucose spikes but presented in any easy to understand way. I think this interviewee accomplishes that with interesting examples - showing many examples of how variety contributes to happiness :)

Literally, THE BEST PODCAST ON KZread. There is something about STEVEN as a host. He is not annoying, he doesnt interupt, he asks right questions, he seems to be always interested in a subject himself, he got a good energy, he chooses interesting subject and people to interview.. Literally, he is a recipe for a perfect podcast host.

@najma53

6 ай бұрын

He’s so good I agree ! I can’t get enough of the episodes

@afulay-hy2oy

6 ай бұрын

no need to compliment him: he will not marry you.

@bassoon6997

6 ай бұрын

Beer biceps Is the best! 👌😎

@mannieberhanu3469

6 ай бұрын

he sure does...I love his show...

@robertbrazas9287

6 ай бұрын

My new favorite podcast!

I love change. I love seeing, learning, experiencing new things. I treat life as a book. The book has different chapters. Now at nearly 72, I am traveling in a motor home, writing a book and creating this new chapter. Done The Career, done the bringing up children, done the making money, done done done.

@mariahconklin4150

6 ай бұрын

Good for you. ❤ 🎉

@phoenixrising5088

6 ай бұрын

Brilliant. ❤

@thebestofus677

6 ай бұрын

I’m happy for you 🙌🫶🏽

@jimskeuh

6 ай бұрын

so yo'uve done the things that society expected from you;

@lizscott6911

6 ай бұрын

@@jimskeuh well some of the time, but not all of the time😂

Experienced divorce lawyer here. Without a doubt a significant portion of people file for a no fault divorce because they are “bored”. This video supports my position that the current marriage and divorce system in the USA is broken. Trying to keep your spouse happy with constantly providing new stimuli and new experiences is a fools errand. Eventually, they will become bored and seek another situation. Then repeat the process. This excellent video simply provides a scientific reason why this happens.

@mariahconklin4150

6 ай бұрын

Gah that feels like me. 😮 If I’m bored I lose interest in a lot of things and just move onto the next. Am like that with relationships to. It’s our environment really. It’s a selfish one that’s for sure and independent life style for everyone know one knows how to connect it’s so weird

@7reload777

6 ай бұрын

I would disagree in that a wise and productive human should be in control of their emotions and instincts. The type of person who gets bored in the way you described is extremely dangerous when in situations that require you to work in a partnership or group setting. This is less scientific and more to do with the society we live in as this is certainly not ubiquitous within other countries and cultures

@darrenwalshe8513

6 ай бұрын

Women always get bored first

@calista1280

6 ай бұрын

Marriage is a partnership. As a couple, they should work to keep the interest alive. Each should pursue individual interests as well as things they enjoy together. This allows new exciting experiences that are shared as well as enough different experiences to share and keep interest & a bit of mystery in each other.❤️

@cinthiaruiz3291

6 ай бұрын

@@7reload777definitely agree with you.

Being bored though is essential to open windows into creativity. There is a good book, from back in the day, called Amusing Ourselves To Death. Worth reading. The problem is people lose their ability to notice the world around them when they are constantly engaged in entertainment and consuming through their eyes, ears, mouth and so on. Over time they lose their humanity. They lose touch with reality.

@wherestheparty_

5 ай бұрын

preach! 🙌

@rhysthomas623

4 ай бұрын

Strongly disagree. You don't need boredom for creativity. If anything variety and stimulation cause creativity. Isn't one of the main messages in this podcast that you should fluctuate between action and stillness? People being stuck in the monotonous habit of consuming without the variety of risk and action is the cause of unhappiness.

@kruhenstand

4 ай бұрын

@@rhysthomas623 Well actually your brain needs to be in low stimulation, which we can call a default state in order to create new things and be creative. I don't know you but I get really bored when jogging but I come back home with a lot of new ideas. So what @YashoShasho is actually true. Lack of creativeness and lack of capacity of wonder of new generations is actually caused by overstimulation.

@JessMariaDwyer

3 ай бұрын

This is why mindfulness, stillness and meditation is so important…when we get into the gap we are more creative. Too much stimuli blocks this as you say.

@user-bp6gp2rc1v

9 күн бұрын

I would say that stillness (you called it boredom, but I think it might be one and the same thing?),calmer times, allow us to inwardly digest. And we may well not even realise we’re doing it! Just like children need to time to inwardly digest and reflect when learning, before going on to the next thing. Processing is so important in life, and you can’t do it if you’re constantly running from one experience to another. Whether in a relationship or anything else in life. By the way, I’m not convinced that hedonism is a path to contentment - but I’ve done it when younger, and boy it was fun!

One thing that helped me keep things vibrant in a relationship is to pick somewhere new to go with your partner once per month. The planning process is almost as exciting as the actual trip, but it helps to not to become bored in your relationship.

@victordragos4623

6 ай бұрын

And you are doing this since...few months? Let's listen some happy couples who have stayed together 30 or more yeras

@antoniobarnhardt2788

6 ай бұрын

@@victordragos4623 nothing that I said was negative…positive only. Many times when I mentioned this to people they love the idea, because it helps. If you have nothing nice to say maybe you should keep your mouth closed and your fingers from typing negativity. Your comment speaks a lot about your character.

@dookie1890

6 ай бұрын

Everywhere is the same. Beauty is around you 24/7.

@dookie1890

6 ай бұрын

​@@victordragos4623They endure boredom 24/7.

@J_Dot_S

6 ай бұрын

Appreciate the free game bro!

Thanks for a nice chat. Working for a corporates half of my life, I also fell into the trap of 'lack of meaning' at work. I rebelled, tried to find a job with 'the meaning' and was desperate. But few years ago (going into middle age) I finally realized what is the meaning of life (at least mine own) - it is not to be found at work, relationships, wealth or anything other than life itself. The meaning of (my) life is to be lived and that's all. And to finally experience the realization of this fact is the atmost releaving.

@anxiouscephalopod

5 ай бұрын

Can you define “living” then?

@Pigmyta

5 ай бұрын

@@anxiouscephalopod 🙂 just to exist and take all this world can throw at you - bad or good.

Managing money is different from accumulating wealth, and the lack of investment education in schools may explain why people struggle to maintain their financial gains. The examples you provided are relevant, and I personally benefited from the market crisis, as I embrace challenging times while others tend to avoid them. Well, at least my advisor does too, jokingly..

@GiustinaDewitt

6 ай бұрын

Investors should exercise caution with their exposure and exercise caution when considering new investments, particularly during periods of inflation. It is advisable to seek guidance from a professional or trusted advisor in order to navigate this recession and achieve potential high yields.

@AshleyBroughton-og2zp

6 ай бұрын

This is superb! Information, as a noob it gets quite difficult to handle all of this and staying informed is a major cause, how do you go about this are you a pro investor?

@SharonD.Spiker

6 ай бұрын

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@AshleyBroughton-og2zp

6 ай бұрын

I've come across several positive endorsements of Jenny Pamogas Canaya on various platforms, including KZread channels, seminars, and more.

@joleh6077

6 ай бұрын

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As someone who have been depressed nearly all her life, I think at this point it’s has actually helped me with my expectations. For me happiness is merely what is constant, some may even say it’s boring, but after so more ups and downs for decades, the even ground is a blessing

@dookie1890

6 ай бұрын

We forget we can use spirituality for nature's guidance. We only use ego and soul. Find infinite peace. The highest quality of happiness.😊

@india7536

6 ай бұрын

This sounds like peace. ❤️

@sumayehsoleimani3702

5 ай бұрын

absolutly

@kanwarpalsingh4079

3 ай бұрын

Great insight; for many even ground is a blessing. Well said ❤

@EstherMurphy-iw5jz

2 ай бұрын

Contentment is wealth !❤

I came to realise that CHANGE is the only constant in our lives. Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable makes us less prone to fearing and avoiding it. Strangely enough, by embracing chance we get to also appreciate our positive habits while weeding out the less positive ones. Great Podcast showcasing the importance of change❤

@araxia7205

5 ай бұрын

Well said ! Totally agree

I'd argue this is the most engaging and informative podcast on the planet now. I love every episode and genuinely think this will help others to change their life. Thanks Steven, I appreciate it alot and others should too!

@zabawa444

6 ай бұрын

I'm huge on nutrition and study dietetics so ZOE is my fav podcast but this is my close second even with all the Huberman's and stuff

I was so stressed and unhappy in my late 40s - taking care of elderly parent and high school child etc. she hit the nail on the head.

You know - I’ve always been puzzled by podcasts with audio breaks with a bit of music or a soundscape and it really makes sense now. As for going on vacation, my favourite parts are turning on my out of office notification in Outlook and waking up that first morning knowing I’m not going to work today. It almost doesn’t matter where I am!

@janetmarois1282

6 ай бұрын

I understand very well what you mean, "where we are"...The feelings are within Us.

I used to be a director of a child care center. It was always amazing to see reactions when new themes, decor or furniture rearranging happened. Exciting for the little ones!

@chenanigans

2 ай бұрын

Just like the Sims lol

Our entire reason for being is for expansion through experience. When we experience the same over and over, there is no expansion. When we do or learn something new we grow and expand. Without it, we will wither and eventually die.

@sandrabentley8111

6 ай бұрын

It's called contentment.

@Lifes_Frosting

5 ай бұрын

@@sandrabentley8111 it’s called stagnation. The state of not moving or flowing. Contentment is the state of being happy or satisfied. You can be happy and content yet stagnant. As I said above, the purpose of life is expansion, growth, movement.

@JessMariaDwyer

3 ай бұрын

Yes…growth is ever changing. The same over and over is stagnant…like death.

Mindfulness is obviously the best way to get a freshness in the mundane.

It is kind of comforting to know that our desire to grow and acquire and do more and connect more is natural and drives us forward…that staying stagnant is not normal. I used to be afraid I was too driven and should stay content but yet yes and still grow and that’s okay and that it is normal to want to go out of your comfort zone. Yea very helpful podcast thank you

My husband and I I like to go 40 miles down the road and stay at this hotel with a pool and hot tub to get away for a weekend, there’s no stress from traveling a long way and we don’t get on our phones more than a couple seconds here and there to make sure there’s no emergency it’s really nice.

I think one needs to find the happiness inside of him. Changing jibs, activities, trips and even having short break frim a partner- all will become boring in a while. Learn to Be happy within yourself whether you do the same thing all the time or variaty of different activities or just sitting calmly doing nothing.

@Neesha242

6 ай бұрын

I agree. I just read a book about this and it mentioned the same thing

Habituation is security for MANY. Life is always changing and some people are grateful for the lives they have.

Seeking fun and excitement for their own sake is always a sign of distraction-seeking. Focusing inward is far more fruitful and fulfilling.

After watching numerous videos on this channel and others, I’m fascinated by how contradictory many of them are. Lots of well educated, successful and capable people having very different takes on how navigate life. Now I just have to work out who’s advice best fits my personality while being aware that maybe it’s in the next interview, or the next, or the one after….

@rcjacksonbrighton

4 ай бұрын

The irony of these experts is that none of them is one in the bigger picture.

@rcjacksonbrighton

4 ай бұрын

They all, in some way, just seem to prove what true spiritual practitioners have known for thousands of years

@nataliaalfonso2662

Ай бұрын

People who don’t know anything often go to school and through higher education to figure out the obvious. And they still don’t get it 😂

@richardsmith5366

Ай бұрын

Lol...take what resonates with you and your journey. Simple.

What I really like about this episode is that it validates something I said during my company wellness program. I said I get bored after going to the gym, so I take a break. Everyone in the group and the organizer said it was probably because I was not getting results, and I needed a trainer. But I lost 40 lbs, and they didn't understand how I would get bored when I lost so much weight. It was routine doing the same variety of workouts.

@emh8861

6 ай бұрын

Gym is very boring.

@yizh3020

6 ай бұрын

Yes don’t let others opinions make ur feel bad. U do u and u know u ❤

@qosaghcalnan1045

6 ай бұрын

I find the gym to be very fun I guess I am a freak lol but yeah you gotta switch it up maybe go swimming then biking try a yoga class go hiking so many ways to stay healthy and active .

@MrKrekkie

6 ай бұрын

Same here, I switch up my workouts and goals 3-4 times a year. From fitness to swimming to inline skating.

@GUCC1197

6 ай бұрын

Try a team sport

Pls do not put ads. Let us show you that this podcast is useful, and we are learning within. We will make the effort to listen to the podcast with breaks.

Being fully present, alert and awake with all your senses fully clear in each moment of life brings EVERYTHING to life and makes it new. Take away social pressures of mindless achievement and you suddenly have the basis of a deep spiritual practice. This makes you less interested in expectations and attachments but more involved in heightening your awareness and inner experience of life. Normal ways of unconscious thinking and doing simply do not bring about peace. This podcast is for the every day person who has perhaps not experienced heightened ways of living their daily life with all the beauty that comes from silence, space and simple living x

@rajendrabiswas

4 ай бұрын

yeah if u find real love why look else

I think a mid life crisis is a period where you reflect on your life compared with what you hoped it would be, and mourn your youth as it disappears into the rear view mirror.

@hahamasala

6 ай бұрын

Great description. Feels accurate, unfortunately.

@user-ex3mx7hk4l

6 ай бұрын

I don’t mourn my youth because I’m learning more every year. I’d never want to go back to being young and dumb!

@limeyjoe1632

6 ай бұрын

I'd like to go back to being young, but keeping the knowledge and wisdom that age brings that's for sure.@@user-ex3mx7hk4l

@hahamasala

6 ай бұрын

@@user-ex3mx7hk4l I want to be younger, but when I was still pretty smart. 😄

@gerafinali4384

3 ай бұрын

Exactly what I'm going through.

I feel there needs to be a balance between rituals as a foundation in life and variety as expanding your life, you need both

I love the insights on joy. It really makes it clear how much of so many of our systems fail us ~ and why people are choosing certain things for more enjoyment in life. For example, when it comes to education as we get through higher levels we get less breaks. Many university students experience an almost non-stop school schedule, and so much work they dont get enough sleep. High-school students also experience something similar. Since both have issues with drop-out and dissatisfaction in education, I wonder if part of it could be helped by simply giving people more breaks. Another example that comes to my mind is people choosing remote work over in-office. At home people can take as many breaks as they need or want, whereas at the office there is ALWAYS somebody wanting to socialize or stimulation happening that captures our attention. It makes sense why people would generally prefer to be at home for difficult work, and choose to socialize on their own time.

20:50 That is why some of us like jazz so much! I loved that she ends up mentioning music in that paradigm because it’s so true. For all genres! The things with jazz though is that everything repeats with a little change, which makes our expectations incomplete. It keeps you so glued to the present moment and critical of the ones surrounding it, much like watching a very elegant football game. Great talk! Thank you once more, Steven! Such a good interviewer, it’s obvious that you read her work with a lot of attention.

@TheDiaryOfACEO

6 ай бұрын

So true! Thanks so much for sharing, we appreciate your insight! Team DOAC xx

@slackingoffagain

3 ай бұрын

Yah, the first time you hear it. Then it sounds the same next time as the last time 😁

@lisettegarcia

Ай бұрын

Jazz is a perfect example. Although, to be honest, I mostly don't enjoy it for the reason you mention.. it just puts me on edge

This one is good! Love this lady and the things she shared here. Great talk as usual. Bring more people who really pick the brain. I love people who give me deeper introspection into my own mind and the mind of others.

Love this so much. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistance and Dr.Tali puts the science and the emotion around it. My favourite : lower expectations - perfect advice. x

Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Instead of trying to predict and prognosticate the stability of the market and precisely when the change is going to happen, a better strategy is simply having a portfolio that’s well prepared for any eventually, that’s how some folks' been averaging 150K every 7week these past 4months according to Bloomberg.

@blessingpaul5484

6 ай бұрын

That’s crazy, I’m just doing everything wrong with my portfolio.

@alicebenard5713

6 ай бұрын

The US-Stock Mrkt had been on it’s longest bull-run in history, so the mass hysteria and panic is relatable considering we’re not accustomed to such troubled mrkts, but there are avenues lurking around if you know where to look. My husband and I are retiring this year with over $7,000,000 in tax deferred investments. up until 3 years ago we were 100% in the S&P. During bear markets we had a perfect plan. We got an investment manager in our corner and didn’t look at our portfolio for nearly a year.

@KatherineAnderson-lm8bw

6 ай бұрын

Same here, 75% of my portfolio is in the red and I really don’t know how long I can stomach the losses. I’m beginning to reach a breaking point.

@SophiaBint-wj8wn

6 ай бұрын

Patience patience patience. It's a cycle.... a sucky point in the cycle, but a cycle nonetheless.

@user-cr8nd1sy8e

6 ай бұрын

Wow, that’s stirring! Do you mind connecting me to your advisor please. I desperately need one to diversified my portfolio.

10:28 As a classical Reichian therapist, we often use eye work and homework for increasing contact with the world. Boredom for us orgone therapists is simply lack of contact.

Love your guests and channel / podcast. Love the health mindset and mental health episodes especially. Thank you for your effort and your team.

I have been doing vacations the way she describes for years. Some of my absolute favorites were long weekends. But six days are my max.

@ragetobe

6 ай бұрын

We used to have 2 week holidays and find that we were not enjoying it as much as we thought we would, we would be ready to go home well before the end. We now we have three x one week holidays a year, one at Christmas, one in May and one is August. Sort of tied with school holidays. We have so much to look forward to and we enjoy the holidays way more.

I’m so glad I can across this pod cast. I can’t see myself doing the job that I love one more day. I thought something was wrong with me. I just need new in my professional life! Thanks for giving me the feeling of “feeling normal” back!

Our family loves our annual vacations, fav restaurants, and as a couple we have the same things we love doing together. We’re very happy, we enjoy new things, but we are happiest doing our routines and when things don’t always change. We are very content and happiest when doing those things even though we enjoy both. And we have been married for 32 years. Isn’t this more of a personality trait whether you like a lot of change or not. And somewhat maturity in appreciating what you have versus fomo and comparison?

I liked all that was discussed except for Ad breaks. I pay KZread to avoid ads as much as possible 😉

@tombullish3198

6 ай бұрын

Stop paying KZread and just get an AdBlocker, which is free. I have never watched even 1 Ad on KZread.

This is just about the most interesting and valuable episode ever. I might have to listen again though, as it's hard to remember everything from just one time listening.

This also makes me think of how we get used to our wealth status. Most of us don't think "I'm rich" or "I'm wealthy, even if we're in the top 30% or 40% and billions of people are poor compared to us. We get used to what we have and it's just normal. Indoor plumbing with hot water heaters, air conditioning, electricity, internet, any type of food we want in grocery stores, etc. Much of the world doesn't have any of that.

I'm in the midst of a life changing move to another state though, family is there with open arms. This podcast helped to embrace the importance of jolting the unconscious and subconscious to keeping spirit spicy in all aspects... To new adventures ✨️ 🥂

One of my favourites! I love how factual and research based the conversation is. Very insightful. :)

Great talk, many takeaways, especially the need to increase risk as it becomes habitual. Also, longest study of happiness at Harvard points out that relationships are the main reason for being happy. Thanks, guys❤

3:15 I love that he asks question on our behalfs.

I literally canont stop telling people about this podcast, every episode is a revelation and explains so much about life. This is another stunning epiphany causing episode.. Why do people who have been receiving "good service" from your company naturally believe it's getting worse over time? It's not, it's their perception, they stop noticing what you're doing for them!

I've watched a lot of DofCEO, and have noticed how obsessed Steve seems with sex in his relationship 😂 Yes, it's an important aspect, but respect, friendship, trust and fun are all things that keep a relationship going...if you focus on these then the spark will always be there. Too much focus on the physical side isn't great, in my opinion. Have fun and trust each other and the rest will follow!

@mrnicokrijno

6 ай бұрын

i agree 101% --i think its a combination of his priorities in a relationship and what keeps the viewer numbers up

@JacquesOozy

6 ай бұрын

​@@evamontheiroSpot on 🙏

@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT

6 ай бұрын

@@evamontheiroone women understands at least.

@EncompassingChaos6

6 ай бұрын

...also when you focus on one thing, like the black cross on the page, then all the beauty of the background fades away.

@GetItWithBecca

6 ай бұрын

Like most things in life balance is key! Both partners have to be heard and tended to. I think this is perhaps the hardest part of a long-term relationship or marriage. Being a bit selfless while hopefully simultaneously receiving what you need on the other end.

In my experience, the solution to habituation is gratitude

Omg Stephen please don't put ads in I love it that you don't other videos put me of from other you tubers as they have too many

Yes. I also read books on breaks.. which keeps the interest. But, some ppl think this is inconsistent. Being consistent makes reading boring, dull and I don't really feel I remember anything.

“ANGELS WATCHING OVER ME” is an AMAZING song!! I love gospel and worship music! THE WORST thing is when a YT ad or something else interrupts a song I’m thoroughly enjoying! I DO NOT enjoy that. But, I do enjoy more mini vacays thru the year over one long one, for sure. 😎 God bless 🙏🏽😇🦋

I painted my kitchen and it feels like a whole new experience. It’s not that difficult to keep your life interesting.

We climb up the ladder and then sometimes we trip..I prefer scaffolding...lol Interesting Interview..it is one why of looking at our life..I like the approach of talking to my various parts and getting them participating in an endeavour..the inner Child, the Partent, The Beast, the Divine Within, The Negative Cynical Side of Us..we must listen and integrate what is likeliest to bring us the Best Outcome...I think that once with have Clarity, an Intention, a Life ethic, life becomes simpler.

This lady is extremely intelligent. She never hesitates any of her answers. She certainly knows her stuff!

GREAT episode! Good reminder about the value to always keep doing new things. 40:27-42:40 poses a HUGE problem though. Many times when people quit a new job or relationship relatively quickly, it's because they've seen red flags from the people they're interacting with. If people were to essentially ignore them (give it a chance) as was suggested, we stop seeing those red flags and, as was said, you get used to them. And then you have to deal with the aftermath later. Red Flags do NOT deserve to be given a chance in the work place OR relationships and unfortunately toxic people seem to abound in our culture now. It would have been nice to have seen a distinction made for this!

To summarise, in medicine is called tolerance, adaptation, habituation. Every thing becomes habit. So addicts increase the dose and don’t get the high he gets before. The neurons if excited all the time and die.

The part where she talks about "getting it over with and we tend to suffer less with the things we don't enjoy", reminds me of the bulls and cows analogy. When there is a storm, the bulls run towards the storm, to get out of it faster, the cows run away from the storm just to be in the storm later.

The world really needs a reset when so many are spoilt for choice/have so much and their main problem is 'boredom' ... Whilst the rest of the world lives in poverty, unending crisis, constantly fighting for their lives and barely manage day to day to survive.

@kanwarpalsingh4079

3 ай бұрын

Too great an observation and u seem to be an angel. !

Seems like she's explaining that people who habituate more slowly are more creative and also are more prone to depression which totally makes sense!

The Mac and cheese metaphors absolutely true. I did a snowboard season where all I could afford was craft. Mac and cheese with some burger and it was good for the 1st day or 2. And then it was just what I needed to sustain.

No! No ads definitely!

It's wild. I have been complaining about this exact issue "boredom from routine and habituation" and all I ever heard back from family and friends was "that's life." It's nice to know that there's not just something wrong with me, haha 😅

1:07:50 another thing to create new habits is to link them to current things you enjoy. For example I enjoy coffee and I now meditate before, using coffee as reward.

Her speaking skill is just amazing and with a great flow. I can listen to her talk all day.

Hi Steve I love all the neuroscientists you invite. I suffer with complex ptsd. I don't know how to deal with the trauma so all of this is very helpful . I don't know if you ever take a guest who just had an experienyes I was trapped in the states during covid 2020. I was trapped there and torturedI was trapped there and tortured. My experienceWas extremely catastrophic. I want to heal and if I want to dedicate the rest of my life to helping others

I like to wait until a season is finished to watch the whole season at once. I hate commercials. The only time the show stops, is for food or bathroom 🚽 breaks. AND…please don’t stop my massage. One hour massages are amazing.

i think spontaneity is a personality thing! and it can also be situational :)

Nothing outside of ourselves would ever makes us happy until we find joy in simple thing in life, for me as 50yrs old fit male and now understand the important of having your own value outside of what society tells you, because those thing society want us to chase have law of diminish return. but when you connect your mind,body and spirit together then little moment/simple stuff become joyful and needs for instant gratification negate. What we percieved through senses are temporal but subjective experience about external world do matter..

15:43 - Pull up selecta! Jamaican musicians, producers & DJ's have been doing this for decades now on the soundsystem! Actually there is a lot of example on recording on the web and also in live music shows where the crowd goes wild everytime the music rewind or the band start again. I get my self happy to know that science back it up because for a very long time I wondered why it was just like that. Thank you.

Fabulous guest; I really love her synergistic approach to her analysis of habituation. Amazing stuff.

Interesting that the visual habituation only happens when we focus on the black dot, it doesn’t seem to happen if you don’t. I think this has to be person specific. Some of us hate when things are broken up, like a song. There are studies that show you can cause unease by stopping on certain notes that don’t bring conclusion. What about the fact that most people don’t handle change well? Breaks are great but the frequency and variability, I believe, is person specific. In other words different people will want different amounts and lengths to their breaks.

Insightful exploration into habituation and its impact on various aspects of life, from work to relationships. A thought-provoking discussion with practical insights for finding happiness and maintaining motivation.

20:00 or so, talking about intermittance - someone once told me a piece of advice that has stuck with me and seems to have truth to it. "Everything in moderation, including moderation"

Steven instead of adding more AD, could it mean experimenting with shorter episodes? Having shorter episodes would be like making pause, and would help thinking about each of the topics touched. Similar to the moments you publish on Spotify.

When I saw Dr Tali Sharot is back in The Diary of A CEO, I clicked instantly. I didn't read the title or contemplated the thumbnail. Through Steven's questions and her answers I never fail to learn about what I can do to improve my marriage and my perception of the world around me in relation to how my brain processes it. I did notice something off a little bit. When Steven asked about the midlife crisis, the audio and video felt off sync a little bit. Maybe it's an editing issue?

Forming productive, constructive, habits=principles, has its merits even if you're not currently focused on any particular goal. Habits and routines help us increase the overall quality of our lives, stability, security, virtues, integrity, standars,...., and they also give us more room for creativity and innovation.

Thanks for another great guest! These podcasts are getting better and better. I really enjoyed a neuroscientist's response to that final question - "It's obvious" she said 🙂 I would like you to delve further into "what does meaning mean?". A lot of FT interviewees state that their proudest achievement is their children. Does this mean that our higher purpose is to procreate? I prefer Maslow's take that self-actualisation is our highest need, and therefore our highest purpose. Whatever; if meaning is so important for happiness, we should know what meaning means.

Yet another fantastic video. I really enjoy these Neuroscientist episodes. keep up the insightful content👍🏽.

@TheDiaryOfACEO

6 ай бұрын

Really glad you enjoyed the episode! Team DOAC

@talentmutengarenga1907

6 ай бұрын

I enjoyed,the guest is full of energy

No more ads, please, Steven. I do however take quick breaks when watching these episodes.

Happiness begins with inner peace and self love in a healthy way. If i am happy everyone is happy. 100 pro monotony is not goid so i suggest 1 holiday with wife n kids and 1 holiday with friends or alone. What this requires is TRUST. NO TRUST , NO LOVE.... SO BOREDOM IS ONLY A PERCEPTION. IT DEPENDS HOW YOU LOOK AT YOUR SITUATION. BUT I HAVE DISAGREE WITH THIS LADY ... LISTENING TO MUSIC FULL ON VOLUME AND ALL THE WAY THROUGH , DANCING, SING IS BEST TO BE HAPPY. WE ARE NO MONKEYS ANYMORE TO DO EVERYTHING WITH PAUSES..IT JUST DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE IN EVERY AREA OF LIFE. THANK YOU STEVEN. GRATE POTCAST❤

So true! I enjoy short weekend trips so much better than long vacations. 19:50

I feel like the new generations are living through a constant midlife crisis from the day they turn 16

@evamontheiro

6 ай бұрын

💯

@tombullish3198

6 ай бұрын

Thanks to the Internet and the: be as productive, optimal and efficient as possible mindset and life style. And of course the monetary system.

There are some very odd takes on this- Maybe I'm a bit odd, but my best day would be learning something new and having a world update- and a new perspective. Having that every day would be fantastic, and I'm telling you right now that it will never get boring. This whole "wake up, have the best, best, best stuff" is shallow -it's not the best, you don't know what your favourite thing is because you haven't tried everything ... it's impossible because, in the end, you know nothing.

@Ashley-yy3de

6 ай бұрын

This is soooo true. I agree. Learning has made my life worth living. I get depressed when I stop learning or stop thinking there r things worth learning.

Growth, Novelty, Certain Time Apart, Limitation Creates Desire, Find Balance Between Routine and Novelty, Realistic and Healthy Expectations, Appropriate Power Balances, and Calling Forth the Best and Discouraging the Worse in your partner is the secret to a healthy and happy relationship.

I love change and variety. However, our short attention span and taking things for granted plays a huge role. If we're more present and appreciative, we'll actually enjoy our peace instead of always seeking the next high

It's interesting that I've hated routine since I was a kid. She confirms that people like change and variety but some of us require more novelty to be happy.

Loved this episode. One thing I'm wondering about is, how do we reconcile the danger of habituation with the immense value that comes from making so much of your life habitual and routine, i.e. the Warren Buffet method. Are these ideas mutually exclusive, or are they in conflict? Thoughts?

14:11 House Gospel Choir Feat. Morgan - Angels is indeed a great piece of music!

"Your best life" is learning and improving continuously. On anything, from playing cards to building a rocket to Mars. You choose. If you sit down and watch time passes you'll die sooner. Older people that keep doing things die later and have a desire to live. As simple like that.

I don't really agree that something that you always see starts to get old over time, it depends on the person. That is a tendency in this world, but not everybody is that way. 🤷‍♀️ 😊 In many ways, I think happier people don't always need something new to be excited.

@7reload777

6 ай бұрын

🎯

@James_36

6 ай бұрын

something very hollow about how she sees it, I also think she misunderstand why things switch off... it is to automate things, kids need routines, boundaries and consistency, I do not believe it changes into adulthood either, hence why there are set structures in work etc...

@Dan-hn1lx

6 ай бұрын

Agreed and people who put the work in and improve together grow old together and theres something really beautiful about that. Science can't explain it all.....

@merlinporterarts

6 ай бұрын

Indeed there is some quite mass generalisation going on in this one!

It starts at an early age. Coming from a low-middle class family I knew exactly what I wanted in my life: freedom. I want to explore the world, meet great people, and keep learning...even at 61 years old. In order to do it, I've made choices: 1) Never work for someone else 2) Never get married and have children 3) Stopped university after 6 months 3) Change my occupation/business every 10 years making sure it will always allow me to explore the world, meet amazing people and live unique experiences with two key aspects: having low expectations and never comparing myself. I always made my personal life as simple and disciplined as possible (ex: training daily) in order to create room for the exploration of creativity and innovation internationally in sports and entertainment. I don't care about retirement, a house, investments, and all that stuff. I always invested in me. We are not here for 200 years. My hobby now? Learning DJing and having a blast. My two favorite words? Why and No. The least favorite ones? But and security. Was it easy? No but what a journey!

I have to travel away from my husband every year for about 2 to 3 months, and I feel this is true. We miss each other a lot in that period of tine, then we meet,everything is great, and then slowly we start to get used to each other, and it doesnt feel the same. So this break is really good for us I think. The only problem is that the kids are with me during that time, so it's pretty stressfull

For me, I’m “changing the world” by raising my kids to be mentally and physically strong, capable, resilient and useful humans in order to contribute to our country in the most positive way possible. I know I’ll screw some things up in this endeavor, but my wife and I are giving it our all and will always continue to do so.

That's where it connects. People with slower habituation tend to be more creative, but also experience depression more than others.

@kanwarpalsingh4079

3 ай бұрын

Shows how keenly u listened. I m too creative but because of a narcissist; experiencing depression. Perhaps u r also concerned with depression or creativity !❤

I listened to this in full, and the topic of sex was not at the forefront of the conversation; thus the title is inaccurate. Why also is there always this fixation on sex? Not all of us are obsessed with it, and we just want to learn practical and actionable information. I appreciate your podcast but I’m giving my genuine feedback in the hope that you will consider it kindly.

@michele0324

6 ай бұрын

💯 What's more, there's quite a few self-referential questions making this feel more like someone else's therapy than an interview. :)

The 0:46:40 & 0:47:00 reminds me of the point Betty Edwards makes in the most recent revision of Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain where she asks her followers [practitioners?] to explore the intertextual connections between different fields.

It was funny going from listening to you guys talk about change being stimulating, to then seeing your ads, done by the same guy, in the same room, with the same voice iv been listening to for an hour.. I really noticed how disinterested I was.. I was like man if he changed the back ground to a beach or something at least it would zone me back in haha