As soon as a man, even jokingly, tears you down-walk away.

@faith6575

4 жыл бұрын

Boom! There you go. It’s those jokes that people think is funny that hurt the most. You don’t even have to explain anything. Just say you need space and walk away.

@chelesjulian2340

4 жыл бұрын

TRUE!!! The Joke is On HIM He is A FOOL Unto Himself.

@singuensful

4 жыл бұрын

Spot on. I don’t have children yet and I went to a date with this dude. He told me in a joking manner “you aborted your babies and flushed them in toilets”... i was so shocked i couldn’t even talk. I never committed abortion. He immediately realized what he said and apologized but i was done. I went back to my place dizzy. He sometimes try to message me but i am disgusted by him. I can’t imagine what kind of abuse a man like that can put u through after a few months of dating. Scary.

@ladyshantae6252

4 жыл бұрын

Fact! I'll never let another man disrespect me or devalue me just gain control. If he can't love me just as I am, he keep it moving and find what he "think" is better. Someone will find you one day and want to lock you down because he identifies value.

@sharhughes1086

4 жыл бұрын

I agree he's checking your temperature to see if you will let it slide, if you do he knows he can manipulate and gaslight you!

A man Insecurities makes him feel like he need to destroy a good woman in order to feel complete or in charge

@PSALMS-oe7ri

3 жыл бұрын

So true‼️

@aliciaoliver1579

3 жыл бұрын

My husband would tell me that I wasn’t on his level and that I was ALWAYS negative. I don’t really like looking at myself in the mirror. I was the one working and taking care of my home and he was the one who was on drugs. My dad was in the home but didn’t raise me. I don’t know what a good man is to be honest and I feel like I can’t be in a relationship anymore because my trust for men is gone. No! I’m not into women but I just rather be alone because I can’t get hurt.

@belindagore8125

3 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right

@belindagore8125

3 жыл бұрын

@@aliciaoliver1579 You are not alone

@cindystebbinsroark6673

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

For all the women who are being abused. As soon as you leave that situation the healing process begins.

@suz532

Жыл бұрын

Yes!!

@Jeniffer61867

Жыл бұрын

​@@clickbackbrainso what are you waiting for, just dump his a$s😅

@florencebowden3980

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@crystalgrose

Жыл бұрын

Yes 💯✅

@tiffanysquire3838

Жыл бұрын

Felt the healing taking place as soon as I walked away

"If you can't see your own self worth you always sell yourself cheap. " 🙏🏾🙌🏿

@michellemiggel7484

Жыл бұрын

So true ,I'm in a toxic marriage for 17year being falsely accused, degraded even infront of my kids making me feel less than women .His always putting me down I'm so tired and I know I deserve better .abuse is abuse .

@melodycreatesmusic

Жыл бұрын

@@michellemiggel7484 you definitely deserve better.

@MikaJackson-ht8vv

Жыл бұрын

Right

@gloriatchetgnia6986

10 ай бұрын

Preach it dear!

The 65 people who “thumbs downed” this video must be the type of men he is talking about.

@kcamille5573

4 жыл бұрын

I do believe you got that one right 👍

@loveonpurpose2dar332

4 жыл бұрын

Say that!

@jessxj5521

3 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly

@michellewest8365

3 жыл бұрын

The “alpha males” lol

@loiskidd6228

3 жыл бұрын

RIGHT

Never continue with ANYONE WHO SHAMES YOU. Friends, family, employers PERIOD.

@williealexander6959

Жыл бұрын

That Part

@1010QUEEN7

Жыл бұрын

AMEN

@janeemartin7561

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I literally quit a job because of this!

@tamarag9981

Жыл бұрын

💯

@pcwilb1

Жыл бұрын

You better 🗣🗣🗣👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾💅🏿

I recently removed myself from a narcissistic relationship. He use to tell me that I was too smart, or I would find him giving me mean looks whenever I would get dressed. I guess he was upset that I was attractive. As time went on when he would be angry he would say the most vile and mean things that a person could possibly say to me. I have never been verbally disrespected to that degree ever in my life. I guess it’s a good thing that my self esteem was high because nothing he said ever made me question my worth. I question my own worth by staying and putting up with it whether it had an effect on me or not. I did notice that I began to change. I had to become mean and heartless to deal with him in order to defend myself from his attacks. I broke it off after realizing that I could not be the best version of myself with him.

@trudy-annsmall9600

9 ай бұрын

Smart....I basically had a similar situation and had to do the same and am so happy everyday I did walk away its been over six years and I am single but I know a better mind partner is God's plan for me

@nicholecornes1915

7 ай бұрын

Praise God

@judyyates2763

5 күн бұрын

Your story sounds like mine. Thanks for your transparency❤

I recognized my husband worked overtime in the beginning of our relationship to diminish me. He constantly shamed me for everything, diminished my self esteem with words and then moved on cheating on me for 8 years! A true narcissist, to say the least. More like a demon in human form. It took me 5 years to work on myself and build myself up to be able to destroy the soul tie. Still not over yet, I still need to get divorced. As soon as a men starts to shame you, run for your life! If you stay you’ll end up in a demonic cycle where only the strength of God can get you out off and it will cost you YEARS!

@devapoole4117

2 жыл бұрын

Agree with all

@t4t806

Жыл бұрын

We're all proud if you 👑 God bless

@cosmictruthseeker3796

Жыл бұрын

what happened to you?

@rebeccabrown251

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely right 👉.

@deborahcollins1100

Жыл бұрын

Yes definitely! I am a demonic cycle being married to my very narcissistic husband for 38 yrs. He is trying to destroy my soul! 😢

A man uplifts his woman, never puts her down...great message

@kalelahardin9569

3 жыл бұрын

Amen Real Men

@miovicdina7706

3 жыл бұрын

The problem is, almost all men uplift you in the beginning. Not just in the courting period. But in the lovebombing period, and perhaps in the entire first year, or even 2, 3 years into the relationship. And THEN he starts putting you down. First with the seemingly innocent poking, then the openly hurtful jokes, then just the plain dismissive, hurtful words. It is hard to just get up and leave them then. Children or none, you got attached. You have invested yourself in this relationship, if with nothing else, with empathy and compassion and love for them. What kind of a person would I be if I left my partner within weeks or months of him changing for the worse? I do what I expect of the other side. I try to understand. I try to see if he's right in some aspect, I try to see if I myself contributed to his change somehow. I am proud of this feature of my character. I would never change it just to experience less pain in life. All the pain I lived from a man that claimed he was mine, it's on him. I'm proud of it. It's on MEN to change for the better. For real, all men, all throughout the world. It's NOT ON ME to become more rational and calculated, and a cold observant of pros and cons, while I am chosing my soul partner. IT'S NOT ON ME TO BECOME MORE LIKE A MAN in order finally not to be hurt by a man. It's on men to learn empathy from women and adapt much more to them, i.e. to adapt to our, women's way of loving unconditionally, with compassion, empathy, and compromise. Right, girls? In this sense, the solution would be that e.g. a good pastor, hint, hint, starts preaching to MEN on how they should change. Giving a lot of lectures on how men should behave, and what they should learn to feel. Like empathy, and love. And on how men must learn to cultivate giving encouragement to their woman. Regardless of whether they are pursuing her, or dating her, or have been dating for years already. Good wise MEN must start educating all other 90% of MEN in order for a true change to take place in male-female relations in today's society. I am appealing to all good pastors, school teachers, sports coaches, dads, father figures, big brothers, older cool boys in the hood, etc, here.

@megibg890

3 жыл бұрын

@@miovicdina7706 SO WELL SAID GIRL!! Hats off!!!

@miovicdina7706

3 жыл бұрын

@@megibg890 Thank you, Megi. Thank you for reading through this entire comment of mine.😊 And thank you for your feedback. The fact that you understand everything I said, and took time to say it to me, made me feel less alone in this world. The world filled with men-centered men, and women who are (missing the point by) focusing so hard on how to adapt to the men's way of doing things and men's way of creating interpersonal relationships. We need to stop being stupid, girls.

@SR77736

Жыл бұрын

@@miovicdina7706 your comment was excellent and so true. It's like women are always doing the work, going to therapy and nurturing. Watching videos on how to get the guy while many me focus on how to get the hook up the quickest way. Lies to tell to get laid and don't do the work to be better or are less invested in these videos. They need to step up too! They're quick to put the burden on women and they are also responsible but they don't want to be.

"If you don't see your self worth you will sell yourself cheap!"

@crystalgrose

4 жыл бұрын

So true 💯

@krish.5823

4 жыл бұрын

I'm cheap, and stupid too.

@psalms2346

4 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@dianezielinski462

4 жыл бұрын

Still pecious priceless diamonds ya'll whether Any1 knows it or not!!

@jereljohnson16

4 жыл бұрын

So are you ladies saying y'all are 4 sale....wow! never thought i would hear this....

I cried most of the time in my 4 years marriage..i always thought it was me..coz thats how he put it..tears became my life until i walked out two months ago..i made it through..

@jamarciaclay6001

Жыл бұрын

So proud of you!

@loulifaith6747

Жыл бұрын

How long did it take you to build up the courage to leave?

@bananabana8075

Жыл бұрын

@@loulifaith6747took me 7 years. 2016, I should’ve left him when I first met him. His red flags were loud and clear! But narcs know just what to say and do to keep interested. 6 months in and now im hooked, nice guy shit out the window. He was fucking up my life while living his. 2019 worst year of my life. 2020 I started slowly gaining strength, day by day, but I wasn’t ready, not til this year. I prayed on it, something came over me and got tired. Im in the gym and look the best I’ve looked in awhile. When you’re truly tired. YOURE GOING TO LEAVE, I don’t miss him, I don’t feel anything for him. And I pray my mindset continue to WAKE UP. He’s going to try and try .. Good luck to you and stay strong ❤

@theluxury_hairconnectllc

11 ай бұрын

I walked away in April❤

@MsElegance23

9 ай бұрын

@@theluxury_hairconnectllcGood for you. It took me 10 years to get the courage to walk away. Peace be still that it’s not 11 years.

This is the video I watched a year ago that helped me make the decision to file for divorce and leave my toxic 28 year marriage for good. Every single word resonated with me and brought confirmation after confirmation. I am forever grateful to Bishop & Lady Blakes. They helped me get out of my own way and now I am happy, healthy, healed and whole. Praise God for true deliverance and the Grace to move on with my life!🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️🙌🏾🙌🏾

@lindawhittaker2459

Жыл бұрын

Amen to that 😄

@billyje4726

11 ай бұрын

That is beautiful! 🙏❤️🙏

@fisf.2148

11 ай бұрын

Glory to God❤ please go for counselling and develop healthy self esteem. I just came out of an abusive relationship too in June and he still calls me with new numbers wondering how I could be serious about walking away from him

@chisuwochabu250

8 ай бұрын

Am so happy for you ❤

@nkeirukaanyadufu3607

8 ай бұрын

Congratulations Ma'am 🎉🎉

It's sad at how many men hate women. This stems from a mother wound.

@nataliasolakian6717

3 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!! His mother didn't love him or want him.

@charchar7897

3 жыл бұрын

@@nataliasolakian6717 Or she made him her surrogate husband, and he dispised it but couldnt voice it. Mothers do this all the time to boys.

@nataliasolakian6717

3 жыл бұрын

@@charchar7897 I don't unserstand...

@charchar7897

3 жыл бұрын

@@nataliasolakian6717You don't understand what?

@nataliasolakian6717

3 жыл бұрын

@@charchar7897 the woman made the man her surrogate husband. What does this have to do with a mother wound?

"A true man understands that the Whole Kingdom is dependent on healthy Queens" RC Blakes

@ChristinaSRoss

3 жыл бұрын

I agree

@carrolarnold8701

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely 🙏🏽💕

@lauriesmith4860

Жыл бұрын

❤❤

1 a real man never shames a woman.. a boy does. 2 A real man doesn’t abuse any woman ! Especially one he loves or has any feelings for..he’s suppose to protect her

You are doing irreparable damage to yourself when you stay with someone who is Shaming you, Belittling you, or Tearing you down. Once he gets you he begins to Erode your soul with intentionally hurtful, demeaning words. Thank you so much, Bishop Blakes, for these eye-opening words of Truth! We have to start with our standards and stop being distracted by clowns!!! Stop Allowing these clowns to talk to you any kind of way!

“He knows he doesn’t qualify but she doesn’t know that.” That made me laugh bc he’s right.

@LifeAboutToya

3 жыл бұрын

My child’s father😭😢😣

@miriamhavard7621

3 жыл бұрын

😢

@miaodell8744

3 жыл бұрын

My story lol

@shug_no_avery8172

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a narc ex I had. He was highly under qualified but I didn’t know it

@achaladissanayaka6536

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yeh

As women we go through so much in our daily lives along with hormones, carrying babies, periods, PMS, looking good, exercising, dieting, being virtuous, family issues . We got through too much to deal with UNNECESSARY crap from men.

@tashaequeen8935

3 жыл бұрын

Amennn!

@prettylyricsmarie

3 жыл бұрын

I love this comment.

@artemisappollo1491

3 жыл бұрын

I love your comment..I am trying to leave someone now...I am tired of dealing with unnecessary things * I finally realized I do deserve better. 😑😊

@azucarweber2456

3 жыл бұрын

Amen!!!

@rnbsteenstar

3 жыл бұрын

Held to high standards of perfection, too. Don't forget.

Never Be with a man that makes you afraid.... 🇨🇦 Very good advice ✅

“It’s only little boys that fight with women.” Such a true statement, especially in regards to my ex. He was constantly arguing with me for 3 years about my past mistakes (that weren’t mistakes, it was reaction to his constant abuse and shaming me and I grew sick of it and started biting back despite tolerating it for at that point too damn long). And on top of that, he was fighting with his mom about his childhood that neither of them could change! She disowned him because she got sick to death of her son blaming and shaming her for her past knowing damn well he didn’t know shit about it to be judging her for it.

@stephaniec5215

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your words here. I experienced the same. Any “man” who comes for his own mama is the ultimate coward. God sees that and brings these grown boys low.

My husband of 19 years tried to break me!! I left him!!! Praise God

@terrimehring2137

3 жыл бұрын

See I feel you. But my family put it our heads that we need to stay in a horrible marriage no matter what cause God doesnt disapproves of divorce.

@terrimehring2137

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I could hear more of your story!

@terrimehring2137

3 жыл бұрын

I'm serious! That is if you want to.

@theresahammond6251

3 жыл бұрын

19 years for me to . thank you jesus that you kept me strong enough to leave!!

@fayes9184

3 жыл бұрын

I understand totally left the man I had three kids by & 30 years because to me my self worth finally stepped in & was victorious. God healed the mental abuse I suffered & now He is the one that is guiding my life choices. Without Him in my life I will fall victim or continue not see what He presents to me as red flags to not allow myself under no circumstances to involve myself in a deep relationship with a man with immature qualities that cannot have my best interests at heart in terms of having a real relationship with him because of his low character & behaviors that lack common decency & knowing how to treat me as a woman.

When a person shames a another... That is their self esteem coming out of their mouth... SMH

@tiabooba

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@prisilaj4865

3 жыл бұрын

Pastor, this was actually one of your best videos because almost every women encountered a man that wants to tear them down verbally with his words. This message was led by the holy spirit and the enemy is angry because it's going to wake up a lot of ladies. That's why you're getting so many thumbs down. God bless you and keep speaking from your heart. You are a spiritual father to so many. We love you back. 💕

@indiahindiah7295

3 жыл бұрын

💯👌👍👏🤝💆‍♀️

@stayreal5083

3 жыл бұрын

So true. I always tell my friends, " the meaner and uglier a person acts shows you how unhappy and miserable they are inside. "

@indiahindiah7295

3 жыл бұрын

@@stayreal5083 well these narcissistic people I know must hate themselves because I love Myself

I married a man I was absolutely not attracted to but he portrayed himself as having a good heart. Once he married me and got his green card he turned into a cruel cruel demon. Don’t be fooled, even the not good looking ones are on that game.

Us women, especially sensitive women, we deserve so much better than to be treated like crap by men

Looking at a good man through the eyes of trauma equals having a distorted view of a good man.

@RCBlakesJr.

4 жыл бұрын

That’s very good

@bigj3339

4 жыл бұрын

@@RCBlakesJr. ....thanks for all your videos!

@tessifa2252

4 жыл бұрын

Before I watched this, I had always noticed that I was married to a immature man.

@bigj3339

4 жыл бұрын

@@RCBlakesJr. ...can you do a a segment for young men and women just entering adulthood trying to identify healthy people to date? Parents can tell their sons and daughters all day long that is not the one for you or this is not the right time to date. Sometimes young adults just can't or won't receive the information from a parent.

@wisecoconut5

4 жыл бұрын

Well said Margy I Phillips! My husband is a good man. I know he is from what he does and says. Yet, sometimes he says "trust me" and I once replied "Every man says that, how can I take it (that statement) at face value?".

Some men can only feel good about themselves, by constantly critiquing you. Instead of working on himself.. he constantly tries to belittle.. criticize.. put dwns.. triangulation... gaslighting.. it really whittles away at the love you once freely had for him.

@sheilabrown9051

Жыл бұрын

I am a widow who has a friend from high school that I've been dating for last few months and this describes him perfectly. Shaking my head.

@mariep.harrislivingmybestl2253

Жыл бұрын

So TRUE....

@siriusqueen3476

Жыл бұрын

My ex deliberately got my family involved to try and play with my emotions in front of them and they did nothing. I was 28 a man came through my mother and stated he found a woman he wants to marry but never thought it was me. I think the guy was uncertain as I've known him for a while. He made an excuse why he needs to stay by my place for a week. And the hell started and ended there. I asked him direct bout the woman he wanted to marry, he could never clarify. I knew he was know good but has good prospects following his PhD in Cambridge he took all he knew about me and used against me, belittled me, and tried to pressure me for sex which I declined many times as I was observing him. Unfortunately I gave in but some how I knew to get the pill as I had not had unprotected itamcy with him before but sensed something could happen which was strange and I was the one to prevent it. Him being heavily invested in the church I expected more from him before taking such risks. But trusted him enough to see where he wanted to take things. I stopped it instantly and he said do you not want a baby. I just looked at him like no not like this. After he left he messaged me asking if I would consider civil partnership I said know he can find someone else. And thank God he has since found someone else. But they way i was treated based on him calling woman at night in my home and correcting him and then doing it again and also infrint of my mother to trigger me. Left me with such fury with anger as years before he came I made efforts to keep my distance following his remark after refusing to be his girlfriend, he stated" I have virgins back home waiting for me" instantly I knew the type of man he was. And when he returned I thought with age he would age gracefully. Well he did but not privately. His woman is not a o the radar but academically what can sustain him as him on his own is like a child and he does not invest in women so the woman would need to invest in herself. The way he presents himself no is a false character and I get shun for not going with a disrespectful man. That used my family and my needs as a woman to try trap me and agree to a poor deal. I realised how much I love myself when I left him but the men that come through my mother are destroyers of women. Unfortunately my mother despises my father and has proj3cted that on me since a child. She is evil and vindictive and even laughed about how she encouraged him to come knowing his intentions that he passes through her. She insulted me to have children with any type of man. Because he is in the church has a PhD he has reelected even bad seeds are in church deliberately seeking to defile women. Ephesians 5 teach both men and woman how it is done and it is the woman that will confirm the man is good. For through his actions his wife will submit but women these days take deals that are not a covenant eith God as intended but to cover up what they have done. Then wonder why things happen in their familes. Before next chaper opens how you close the previous always spiritually that man's home based on what I have observed in the community. If anyone asked asked him any man that dame through my mother what they first did to assist me as a woman, they will get tongue tide. And they hide behind close doors like they respect themselves. I never tempted nor sought after these men as i knew their spirit but get suprised that certain men that people will hail and praise are actuallish pure rubbish in sprit and flesh. Now I have another foolish African contacting me to have his baby, he has money but would be the worst head of the home based on how he treats me. If I mention Ephesians 5 he will overlook and refer me to chapter 6. And I'm sure you can imagine which verse!!!!

I met a guy that did all of that towards me and I couldn't understand why but felt it would pass if I continued to show I cared,, I WAS SO WRONG Thank you for the understanding that you've given me. I never gave in and I haven't given up. Only hurt ppl, hurt ppl and he was a real clown

From 471 thumbs to over 35k. This message is so necessary to us fatherless girls. I had to learn this the hard way.

I can never understand how some people/men can have such evil intent to purposely cause heartache and pain

@xenatron9056

4 жыл бұрын

A lot of time, people react to past trauma, not realising....in many cases, it is 'unconscious behaviour'. Once you become aware of how you 'really' act and be, then if your behaviour is not up to your standard, you will never do that again. It's true, self awareness. When someone says I would never do that, you will probably see them doing it, and at that point it is up to you to point it out. Then it gives the opportunity for the person to change. If they don't, then you have to take steps to get out, or build a skin, knowing that they will do it again, as well as be like that to other people.

@naominatural79

3 жыл бұрын

Rn I'm hurting, it's driving me crazy. I have a kid in play, I need provisions. How can I walk away?

@vondivillalba9900

3 жыл бұрын

Hurt people hurt leople

@trob9100

3 жыл бұрын

It's just so sad how many men just hurt women and watch them cry. They're fine watching women cry because they're sorry excuses for men. Pathetic. And it's even sadder that women with suck dads go after guys that suck just like dad then chase after a love that they will never have with those monsters.

@ojalara3937

3 жыл бұрын

Past trauma. I grew up with abuse as the main form of communication. I’m learning to not expose nobody else to that. I be working hard to give my girl positive affirmations and I try to build her up. I recognized some patterns and cut it out. I know how I grew up it was crazy. Can’t pass that on

How he talks about his former relationships will tell you everything you need to know.

@christinamorris3126

3 жыл бұрын

For real tho,and that he does. But what's so crazy about it is,he told me he doesn't ever want to hear anything about my past relationship.but continue speaking about the one's he's been with. Who are his children mother's, and how they did him wrong. But it's like he's punishing for what they done.

@chickwitthagoodies

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I paid attention to this but I do know his ex we are not friends or anything but he talked horribly about her and she's not all that innocent I should of ran then he is equally just as bad as her

@Lanika1979

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes they put the previous relationship on a pedestal to make u feel like trash. He used to do that to me and put me on a pedestal as well when he wanted to her his other childs mother. He broke me down without me even noticing

@Lanika1979

3 жыл бұрын

@@christinamorris3126 yesssssssssss mines did that to me as well I never through my other kids father in his face either. He used to always compare us and I got a government job and she works in retail but he would make it like shit was better or something but could barely provide for her child or barely keep at roof. I had my on place for 21 years!!!!!

@christinamorris3126

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, goodgirlgonebad that's messed up. These men's act just like little boys who never got to go outside to play. They ask GOD for a good woman, but when they get her.they doesn't know how to treat her. But what goes around comes around, cause GOD doesn't like ugly.and he ain't to fund of the pretty

I've had this done to me once, but I can assure you it won't happen again. 2018 with this narcissist taught me a valuable lesson. Abuse me once, it's over, done with and I pray that he understands the N and the O. What this man did to me, it made me never in life quickly trust another man again.

I have endured over 20 years of verbal abuse from my husband- it’s time to go. Thank you for your video. It reinforces what must be done.

@BeyanNYC

Жыл бұрын

What type of things would he say?

@beYOUtifullymelanated

Жыл бұрын

@@BeyanNYChow is that helping her? There’s no need to even reinforce the negative energy by repeating it.

@beYOUtifullymelanated

Жыл бұрын

I wish you happiness and healing sister…May God bless you and keep you safe 🙏🏾❤️

@roshanalall124

8 ай бұрын

I'm going through the same thing. Is like I'm numb at this point I don't even answer him no more I just shut down.

Overall, don't be with someone, man or woman, who brings down your self esteem to extremely low levels, or makes you afraid. Accept constructive criticism, but not hate speech.

@georgiemoran4442

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@CrystalDatingCoach

3 жыл бұрын

Family. Friends. Colleagues and especially your Partner. Keep negative people away...get out of Toxic Relationships.

@carolbrower3867

3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou 🙏🏻♥️

@wandawoods6027

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you for sharing the truth and helping others stuck in unhealthy relationships. You’re a bright light for The Lord.✝️

@wandawoods6027

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for telling the truth in love. It’s hard to believe that we have allowed misogyny has become a norm in this culture. Is this a symptom of mental depression to control? Agape

I dont need a man who has to get ready he should already be ready.

@angelawhite9665

4 жыл бұрын

Thats why I said he has to be ready exactly.

@marissachapman1022

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@charleneyoung1351

3 жыл бұрын

Preach Sis!

@NT-rm8jm

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! It is not our responsibility to build a man. We built ourselves they can build their selves as well! If we can be stable, they can be stable as well. A man that needs to be built was not raised right and it is not our responsibility to raise them. The hold him down days are done! The girls that hold a man down and are ride and die girls are the ones that get played every single time. Don't fall for it ladies!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@natural3362

2 ай бұрын

angelawhite9665choose the person whose nature is good, not his nature is bad

Sometimes as I listen to these powerful videos, I begin to feel overwhelmed at all the mistakes I’ve made and I don’t even know where to start to change myself. Jesus, please help me so that I can help my daughters.😭.

@NELLIE979

Жыл бұрын

I feel you sister, I'm thinking the same thing: I send the videos to my daughter's and encourage them to listen to the messages, and I pray 🙏 💗 The Lord to give them eyes to see, and ears to hear God's voice, and recognize their own value. All things are possible when you pray. We can get this

@mrssheilasworldoffuninspir1919

Жыл бұрын

I share these videos to my fb groups. I am not sure if I can share it with my KZread channel without his copyrights being violated. So, I never share it with my channel. I am not sure how that works on KZread. Better safe than sorry.

@miss_pris1

Жыл бұрын

Feeling you sister, but it's never too late. NEVER!!

@rosemarieLawrence-wf3bn

Жыл бұрын

I feel just the same. We are never too old to learn 🙏🏾. Keep your head up good better best one love

@lorenapalacios01

Жыл бұрын

Yup

A very cruel way men these days have to deal with women and break them is by ghosting them and be extremely inconsistent...almost bipolar. That shakes a woman's peace and self esteem. Ladies, preserve the peace in your castle.

My father always said in warning me against dysfunctional people “Their going down and their going to bring you down with them”. I loved him so much! Thank you for your wisdom-I feel you are a gift to many!!!

@josephinenthoki6659

4 жыл бұрын

Pastor, that message was for ME!! Thank you!!

@dianezielinski462

4 жыл бұрын

Said was going 2 take me 2 HELL w/ him!!!

@roselyngayle8181

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true he"s speaking the truth

@userofyoutuve

4 жыл бұрын

True story

@mariep.harrislivingmybestl2253

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Daddy ❤️

im leaving my husband of 14 years, he is so controlling and shames me continually

@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere

3 жыл бұрын

Praying for you Lois. May God lead you.

@vergenialawrence1443

3 жыл бұрын

I'm going through this right now. I have been married to him 15 years. He gets angry and belittle me tear me down.. Tells I'm not worth it . No black man want me. I would have a life style like I have with him. I'm done!

@Dime.Society

3 жыл бұрын

@@vergenialawrence1443 I walked away from a 8 year marriage an 3 children. He told me upon meeting me he was gonna break me. He did, cheating while I was pregnant, having a girlfriend, told me no one would want me with children. I had my own getting into the marriage. He has nothing. I own my house. He’s in his grandma’s basement bashing me now.

@barbarankwantabisa1412

3 жыл бұрын

Fly birdie fly!

@Childfree334

3 жыл бұрын

@@Dime.Society So a dude told you TO YOUR FACE that he was going to break you, yet you married and had kids with him anyway? He wasn't even trying to hide his intentions or lie to you, yet you got involved anyway. Women like you I cannot have any sympathy for.

I really needed this. I didn’t get this teaching from my dad. He left when I was 6 months. I am 50 now and it’s never too late to learn. I have learned and I am grateful to you for this lesson.

The approval treadmill . I’ve been on it and it wore me out. My hair, my skin, my kindness, my body

I broke free yesterday and changed my locks, I tried to offer him the little belongings he had through my sister or his mother and he refused! God help me please, let me love myself again!

@demetriashafi7858

3 жыл бұрын

Dominique u gonna be ok God will lead abd provide just keep trysting him giving him the Glory and Praise!! 💜🙏

@DominiqueSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

@@demetriashafi7858 I feel so much better now, this was almost 2 months ago ❤️❤️❤️❤️ God Bless you & thank you for your encouraging words!

@BOSSLADY-cu8vs

3 жыл бұрын

Girl....I cut it Cold Turkey right before the new year... 8 years of NOTHING but Heartache Depression and Loneliness. Every time he did something he'll give me some money or buy me something but we never spend no time with cuz he was out doing other stuff... I'm sitting home being faithful..I'm feeling so wonderful and free...no more toxic phone conversations no more excuses why you can't go nowhere with me but you out everywhere else.... I'm living my best life right now... beside the covid LOL..... He's made a couple of attempts I don't answer nothing.... In my second month I'm not talking to him and I know that I would never speak to him ever again...he don't deserve none of my attention... I'm mad at myself for not doing it sooner....Rats need to stay in the Gutter... I will never allow anybody to mistreat me ever again....and that's facts... I'm glad you're doing well

@heathercruz8282

3 жыл бұрын

@@BOSSLADY-cu8vs this is letting i told mt self today 🙃

@kristinakellogg1732

3 жыл бұрын

@@BOSSLADY-cu8vs Your comment spoke to me so boldly. I can understand and relate. You have such strength ! Courage and most importantly God!

Some of these men hand pick women who have been through countless amount of trauma, and without parents,... imagine not having a father or a mother to guide her . After the massive mind games, you become the angry woman, he then blames your trauma.. And now your are left with even more trauma. And convinced it’s you.

@ClowneryAtItsFinest

4 жыл бұрын

I know someone like this in real life. HE LOVES DAMAGED WOMEN. Then he damages them more! A boiling hot mess🥵 !

@lolamonroe5910

4 жыл бұрын

This!!! Also we as women should never reveal our trauma to new men, they will later throw it back in our faces like you said as blame or use it against us to have their diabolical way.

@lovingme1st973

4 жыл бұрын

@@ClowneryAtItsFinest Well, at least you can honestly say you met the devil.

@ajaoadejoke8931

4 жыл бұрын

@@lovingme1st973 Lol. I tell you. That is the devil 😈 for real.

@vfree4579

4 жыл бұрын

A mind Jedi trick

“ if your allowing the same game after a certain age, you moved from victim to volunteer.” 🙋🏻‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️

@rosiesrainbowstars2740

3 ай бұрын

Good gosh 😮😢

His words were like shrapnel, I'm still pulling out pieces of shrapnel from heart, mind & soul.

Whoever is reading this may God bless you with the desires of your heart in the name of JESUS Amen 🙌🙌🙌☝️🙏

@christinamorris3126

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@charleneyoung1351

3 жыл бұрын

I've waited 42 years for GOD to turn my frog into a prince. Now he has shown me I need to hold out and wait for my Boaz to arrive...

@tanyatanya9492

3 жыл бұрын

May God bless you too,dear heart!🙏😊

@giftlicious2936

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@johnhughey4330

3 жыл бұрын

@@christinamorris3126 thank you Rev.i appreciate you...men especially black men is tired of being knock everywhere they go especially the Church they are put down every where.. you got lie down women out here...and men are being put down

I'm 54 years old, and this is the advice I wish I was given 35 years ago, thank you :)

@peacefaith560

2 жыл бұрын

yup....

@yolandagould3425

2 жыл бұрын

Yessss yessssss

@godsprincess465

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@gerijoz5628

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@sanjmalik6282

Жыл бұрын

Me too, I really wish I knew this. Would have saved so many people from heart ache.

It's just so hurtful. Yesterday he called me the B word and I told him that is not okay. Instead of apologizing he said "you can call me a B since I called you one." to which I responded "I would never call you that." All he said was "Good, at least now you respect me." And he kept referring to me by the word. Mind you, before this we were not in any sort of altercation really that would warrant him feeling disrespected, he was just blasting music while we drove. After he said that I was silent and brought it up once more when we parked. When he still showed no remorse I just said I want to go home to which he said "follow your heart" chuckled, and continued to walk into the gym that we had just driven to. It took everything in me to stay calm, and to remain calm while I waited for my Lyft ride at the neighboring store. As soon as I got home I had a breakdown basically and felt so disappointed. He said this the time right after I told him I loved him for the first time, and I had started planning a project to make him that day (I sew clothes.) It just hurt that as soon as I fell for him he showed his true colors I guess. The only way I was able to follow through with my boundary despite my strong feelings for him is imagining what I would want for my future daughter if she was in a similar situation. And the knowledge that in dating I'm not only looking for a partner for myself, but also a father for my kids so I need to be stern in my standards not only for my own sake. Sure maybe I could dismiss this behavior and suck it up for myself if I fall for someone. But the thought of my future husband treating my kids with utter indifference makes my stomach churn. I haven't heard anything from him since and don't expect to so am just trying to get over it but it is hard as it took so much for me to open up to him after bad experiences in the past. And I really thought he cared, and was a nice loving guy but he acted like a completely different person yesterday. I guess someone can only keep up a facade for so long. Always remember: "Love is patient, love is kind." Even if you love them, be strong enough to hold your boundaries, you can always cry into your pillow later and eat ice cream, but you won't alway be able to recover the dignity that is destroyed. Worse, down the line you may not be able to heal the broken hearts of the innocent kids you create with them. And doing so is building myself into the type of woman I would be happy for my future daughter to look up to. I never want my future kids to think unhealthy relationship dynamics are okay, I would feel so guilty if they mimicked it. I'm so grateful my mom chose my father who is an amazing man who I can use as an example of what it means to be the loving, devoted leader of a family, and who normalized healthy love to the point where I'm not addicted to and instead am repulsed by avoidant behavior, and I want to do the same for my future kids.

@connieperrin2499

9 ай бұрын

This is a powerful message you have given. ❤❤Stand strong it's his loss not yours.

@hazeldunson7258

7 ай бұрын

👏👏👏 I hope all is well with you , kudos for taking a stand

Character is key. Material don’t equal qualified. You’re videos are life changing and much appreciated. 💌

"I'm a pastor I'm an author," you're also a spiritual father figure to us as well.

@loismulvihill8483

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I have never heard any man state or acknowledge that woman are reacting to the abuse she suffered!

@marylynewilliams9796

3 жыл бұрын

Thank god for y u wake me up with ur video I play it I learn from it thank u so much

@marylynewilliams9796

3 жыл бұрын

Y are so true

"you're not attracted to the good ones" this hit me hard

@BOOMUMMY

3 жыл бұрын

@chaz Whitfield Wow!

“She’s reacting to the abuse she’s endured.” Nailed it! That will have you lookin’ so crazy. Been there: “stop showing up.” Thank you, thank you

Yes a man said to me, "You wouldn't be here unless I wanted you here" like I was a piece of furniture. How hurtful.....deep wounding from that.

Abuse and love do not coexist. 💜 That’s abuse in any form. Your healed & unhealed eyes choose men very differently.

@brendaborden5954

4 жыл бұрын

My husband abusive but tells me he loves me after he says he hates me pray I'll find a safe way out. He is a pastor's son so he knows the Bible.

@Bear-wc3jh

4 жыл бұрын

@@brendaborden5954 when he goes to work, pack your things, and leave. Praying for you

@mrs.m.9226

4 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@SS-pz6wj

4 жыл бұрын

Brenda Borden That’s definitely not love my sister. No man who loves his wife says those things. He hates himself so he cannot love you. In a healthy marriage we disagree...may even get a little angry, but the love & respect is still there because it is a part of the foundation. In an abusive marriage, you walk on eggshells and the person says the most hateful things. Then they’ll come back around with false promises. Changed behavior is the best apology. God does not want you abused. A man breaks covenant when he abuses his wife. And sometimes God didn’t want that person for us - but we wanted them and He gave us to our desires. Then we ask God to bless a mess He wasn’t in, in the first place. Ask God to show you what spirit you are dealing with. He will show you. Be prepared for the answer & be obedient to His instruction. An abuser will always use your emotions against you so you must think logically for your sanity. Praying for you. May God bless and protect you. 🙏🏽

@valharrym924

4 жыл бұрын

Still luv your GLOBES MY FAVORITE SIR AND HE TRY TO BE REALISTIC EXACTLY THAT DADDY AND THE PRINCESS HAD EXACTLY A NARRISICT SIR SOMEWHERE THAT CAN ONLY SHAME THEMSELVES...DO A MAN NOT HAVE NO WHERE TO LAY HIS HEAD TO TAKE A WOMEN OR MAN TO SOME ARE BI SIR AND SMELL SMOKING A LOT OF CIGARETTES NO MATTER HOW MANY SHOWERS THEY TAKE SIR BAD HABITS LEAD TO BAGGAGE SIR CLOWNS WITH CROWNS SIR... EXACTLY NO BLAMERS FRAMERS GAMERS ONLY USING RX TYPES SICK MEN EXACTLY HIGHLY EXPERIENCED THANK YOU SO MUCH LORD EXACTLY TYE CROSS SHE CARRIES...THANK YOU JESUS...OR NI ONES APPROVAL...YOUR FANTASTIC....AND THANK YOU LORD FOR A FATHER FOR 38 YEARS SIR THAT REALLY MATTERS PARENTS IN MEN AND WOMEN LIFES GOD BLESS YOU ALL

I've never met a man who has tried to build me up and never try to break me down. I see so much greatness in me, yet they all seem to be intimidated or overshadowed by my light. So, I am quick to get rid of ppl and dedicate my time to learning new things and deepening my spirituality.

@shug_no_avery8172

2 жыл бұрын

Me either. Thank u for this

@rebeccabrown251

Жыл бұрын

That's right.

Very much needed . I am going through a separation now from my husband he is cold as ice and claims to be religious and reads his Bible all the time.He left me when I was pregnant and gave him a chance after baby born and he was very nasty to me. I’m praying for a blessing when me and my two sons move out soon into our place .

@stephthecreative6312

Жыл бұрын

Same. I feel your pain.

@bwalk59

Жыл бұрын

@@stephthecreative6312 I’m sorry praying you get through

@stephthecreative6312

Жыл бұрын

@@bwalk59 🙏🏾💕

@user-pe8ls3sc2b

11 ай бұрын

I've been exactly where you are and after 20 years of marriage I filed for divorce in July and I am already feeling free. God is great.

@silinadauda8314

10 ай бұрын

...'he is cold as ice and claims to be religious and reads his Bible all the time'... Very dangerous kind of humans. I'm dealing with one as I type this message. A true narcissist

I come from India and we marry before beginning a relationship.The selling yourself cheap mind is integrated into the system for women even while they go to school and when choosing career.My mother ( biological) literally has said to my face,she is afraid to let me get become overeducated so she has to look for an even better groom after that.That didn't hit me hard then because I took it as a compliment for my good performance at school.But now at almost midlife ,I fully understand what she said.

It’s never too late to hear a healthy father daughter talk. Thank you for the words I needed to hear.

@Brilove1

3 жыл бұрын

My dad passed away I never really got a chance to meet him . and I feel like he’s speaking to me tonight through this pastor .

@lauriel8405

3 жыл бұрын

Amen sister's,!!

@ChaiTogether

Жыл бұрын

This ❤

Yes a little boy trapped in their childhood wounds and scars from their mothers discipline and they disobey and blame their mothers for the choices they make.Then they hurt women, they hate women. Agree Amen

@indiahindiah7295

3 жыл бұрын

🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭😯

@tashaequeen8935

3 жыл бұрын

Deep and so true that's a dam shame to smh

@samlaw4395

3 жыл бұрын

True

This is the best thing I’ve heard as I walk away from a toxic man who’s done exactly what you’ve just said and I’m NEVER going back there

They meant evil and you will never be able to trust them again.

ladies get yourself an account purposely for self esteem, anytime you feel a man or anybody is trying to get to you unfavorably, go deposit in that account to remind yourself that no one can empty it...

@SugarfootHoney

3 жыл бұрын

That’s a great idea

@karenhamilton9927

3 жыл бұрын

These lessons should be included in the school curriculum.

@chelleshcg

3 жыл бұрын

Will do

@rachelcannon9986

3 жыл бұрын

I like that thankyou for the advice

@tinalewis9880

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, that's great advice. I am going to start that today in real need to build my reserves up.

My ex belittle me. Told me I’m not worth loving or being a mother. I am now in the process of divorcing him

@lilywoods1532

3 жыл бұрын

Well done you. All the best 2021 🙏🏻😁

@LadyEliza7

3 жыл бұрын

Not by yourself unfortunately. I’m glad you are making the break.🙏🏽

@gigiamharic468

3 жыл бұрын

And don’t look back. Pls ensure you check your deficiencies so that you don’t attract this type again. After all, you are what you attract.

@lilywoods1532

3 жыл бұрын

Why did the narc ass cross the rd. he thought it was a boundary 😂

@AllEyezOnMeTMC

3 жыл бұрын

You are worthy of everything Olodumare intended for you. ASE

I cooked him a nice dinner, we sat down to eat and I blessed the food. When I was done praying, he laughed and said “your prayers are so boring”…that hurt real bad, I should’ve left then but I stayed for another 2 years. 😢

@Betty-fe9ql

Жыл бұрын

Glad you left

Thank you dear brother. I've learnt that the more he disrespects you, the more you'll believe it and he'll turn you into someone you don't even recognise. You become someone you nevrr thought you'd become. Run to your Heavenly Father for love and He shall fill you 🙏 God bless you all ❤

@CeeSparks

9 ай бұрын

Mere example of being gaslighted

This made me think of women like Ciara and Cassie. They were both with men that society would deem "10s" They left these men and eventually MARRIED men who people constantly say are corny or not as fly as the previous men..but Ciara and Cassie appear to be extremely happy with these "corny" guys who will show the world how much they love them. And yes... Many men hate women. When I say this they think I'm calling them gay,when honestly most gay men I know LOVE women.

@jessxj5521

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss I agree with you :)

@carissam1735

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@falishak6765

3 жыл бұрын

Future never was a 10 a -10 more like it. Russell was always been a 10. Nope never would have talked to future just listen to his disrespectful music towards women.

@leesteal4458

3 жыл бұрын

I would never have deemed those men 10s sweetie. Yuck.

@belizeanhippi3

3 жыл бұрын

Girl you are speaking volumes 🗣🗣🗣

Ladies, ask yourself: What do I want (on a deeper level)? Once you can truly answer that, let that be your standard and don’t ever deviate from it.

@yolandacurtis3474

3 жыл бұрын

Yes thank you my love

@sadetrelove

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! This is it. Thank you

@milagrodominguez1408

3 жыл бұрын

Sochi Knows. Is true .

@autiran.4111

3 жыл бұрын

Yes maam!

@neshayrobinson

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss thank you for saying this

Although, this was posted 3yrs ago this is a right now word for me. This was so needed. I’m so embarrassed by the things I allowed to happen

Thank you for teaching me the things that neither of my parents taught me. Thank you for changing my life and showing me the truth. I’m 42 and wish I had been told this as a girl. But better late than never ❤🙏🏽💪🏾

After a series of situationships, I took it upon myself to start dating god. Through that I found peace. After that the game changed. Anything that was not peaceful, I did not entertain. I found myself in union with god and months later I met my fiancé.

@Britney_StLouis

3 жыл бұрын

ChilliepepperZ D this is so inspiring

@indiahindiah7295

3 жыл бұрын

@@Britney_StLouis I agree👏👏👏

@rosalindmitchell1738

3 жыл бұрын

Yes Ma'am it is only Good who totally has your best interest in Heart.

@TeeYah777

3 жыл бұрын

Amien

@kashaeferguson7861

3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful! Praise God!

"You have been conditioned to believe the 3 is a 10".... THAT IS 💯

No you're right! I am really starting to learn that. I have been through to many years of abuse from nasty abusive men. I no longer take anymore of their shit and I have gotten much better now. Just walking away and blocking them out of my life and moving on with my life. I'm finding that I am happier just being on my own now and loving spending time by myself instead. If I may Pastor Blakes, any man who belittles a woman, put her down is just a sissy who is unhappy with his own life.

@tabathagreen1313

Жыл бұрын

I'm proud of you for walking out of these abusive relationships.

Don't apologize for not being brief. I could listen to your words of wisdom all day long! Thank you SO much, Bishop Blakes & Lisa! Wish I heard this at age 14.

@beYOUtifullymelanated

Жыл бұрын

This!

@theluxury_hairconnectllc

11 ай бұрын

Me too❤

@dianeallen7679

6 ай бұрын

Thank U for your message. I often wonder what age I should start up this kind of convo's. Her dad was very hameful to me.

I just went through this. Everything you are saying is true. He cut me down til I felt like there was nothing left. I finally broke free.

@DeepDivingDiva333

3 жыл бұрын

I know the feeling sister. Thank you for the inspiration 👏👏👏

@Barbara-vx3vo

3 жыл бұрын

Well done girl - Empower yourself everyday and know your Divine Feminine inside you who knows Her Worth!

@LL-en3fp

3 жыл бұрын

Im happy you made out, so many women don't

@bridgetjones6819

3 жыл бұрын

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽So happy you free sis...❤️

@tanyaboyle2173

3 жыл бұрын

Me too! You get tired of getting cut down til you start to believe it you have to get away

I just went through a break up and my mom sent this to me. I’m so thankful to have a spiritual woman in my life who helps me to find wisdom. Thank you for this message ❤️

@elizabethmorales5453

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor!!!! You are a blessing for me! Now, I am working on me and my dreams with the help of the Lord. I am so happy!

@godessjazz3130

Жыл бұрын

The type of Mom I will be to my babies 🥰🙏🏾

This is gold!!!! I love the statement that says that you move from victim status to volunteer. There is so much truth in that statement. When we are young and inexperienced we are truly victims but life should teach us that we cannot continually tolerate that treatment.

Thank you so much for being a father figure for us on KZread. May all my online sisters be treated like queens. May you have a good healthy relationship with yourself, whole & healed. 💕💝

"You're not attracted to the good ones, they turn you off!" Revelation!

32 years old, with no kids and not yet married. " It's definitely not over" Thank you Pastor. 😊

Bishop Blake got so worked up at the end he had to exhale.🤣😂😭😤😤😤😂🤣😭

THIS IS VERY TRUE...WHEN EVER. THEY TALK DOWN ABOUT YOU. . NEVER SAY ANYTHING POSITIVE TO YOU OR ABOUT YOU.JUST IMAGINE. WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE IN A RELATIONSHIP. OR MARRIAGE...🙏...

Everything you said is why I had to leave my daughters dad. Anytime I tried to say what I didnt like about how he treated me he use to say I'm masculine. I know what God says about me and my future.

@Kiradamenace

3 жыл бұрын

It’s nothing masculine about you❤️ very beautiful

@gidgethrobowski3860

3 жыл бұрын

Bravo...!!!

@kitlee7372

3 жыл бұрын

I believe the masculine energy from a woman comes out when the relationship isn't right

@gidgethrobowski3860

3 жыл бұрын

@@kitlee7372 That's a bunch of b.s. This person called her masculine to put her down and insult her. That's what they do. Most of these men are cruel and evil. They don't feel good about themselves, and they will say or do anything to make their partner feel bad about themselves.

@kitlee7372

3 жыл бұрын

@@gidgethrobowski3860 I've been in toxic relationships and me saying it brings out masculine energy. Is the truth we all have a feminine energy and masculine energy and love is the most feminine energy ever ever. Whatever the situation is when we are forced 2 fight it does activate our masculine energy and there's nothing wrong with it

Yes that is true about a lot of people not being fathered. Even though the father was present.

@supa407

4 жыл бұрын

Even though the mothers was present All day long a lot of kids weren’t parented. That would interfere with them being in the loop on Facebook you know

@valerielangley4627

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks u on Point

@lecarolcarr1055

4 жыл бұрын

Man you are so correct. Mine is still here and I still can't figure out why he was there , but really wasn't

@kut3kham

4 жыл бұрын

mine wasn’t in my life til i turned 18 now he puts me down just like bullying i’ve experienced at school sometimes i feel like he’s jealous of me

@holyexperience1976

4 жыл бұрын

@@supa407 Kids generally respect their fathers better, though, and generally won't try to test their fathers as much as their mothers. That is because, at least in a two parent home, they see that the father's are getting the last say in things and mothers not really allowed input. It is even worse if the mother is trying to be a disciplinary when need it be and try to set boundaries and structure and the father vetoes it, and too loose with the kids. A lot of women are taught to go along with what the man says and do not question it, even when clearly wrong.

I was married to a woman hater for nearly 20 years. There are a whole lot of women haters out here, and sadly, they call themselves men of God. It's real scary out here. Thankfully, I'm not looking, because Pastor Blakes' messages helped me to recognize my patterns and correctly identify my wonderful partner.

I’m newly divorced after 12 years of a husband building me up then shaming me and so and so forth; Im grateful to God to be out of it, I can be the God given 10 I know I am now! Praying for the healing God has for me. Preach pastor; every woman NEEDS to hear this message!!

@GeniceTobias-yr7kv

11 ай бұрын

What about men that are not in shape

It's good to see a man giving positive advice to women. Only a man knows what another man is and does and what motivates him. Thank you pastor.

There was something hidden in him, very mean and I did not see it until it was too late.

@candycane146

3 жыл бұрын

You saw it and chose to ignore the signs...including myself.

@thaiworld0718

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder y at the beginning we don't c the signs until its to late. The signs of toxic individuals

@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere

3 жыл бұрын

@@candycane146 me too. I paid dearly for it too. I’m blessed to still be alive. So many people are quick to feel sorry for me but I have to correct them to let them know I take responsibility for my part. I was ignored flags that were beyond red.

@missjaszmine1968

3 жыл бұрын

It's not too late. Moving on is doable. Consult Domestic Violence professional organizations for help if necessary. One day God may use you to help others be delivered in the same way. Project yourself ahead 5 years from now and look back on what you did to move forward. You can do all things through Christ who is our strength.

@missjaszmine1968

3 жыл бұрын

They went to great lengths to conceil their true nature from you. Stop blaming your selves for falling prey to a practiced, professional con artist.

This happened to me and he kept luring me in with huge promises that we never fulfilled until finally I realized his game. His words were always nice/kind but his actions were loud and clear. His abuse were not words but extreme neglect to my emotional needs.

This is so true. You're feeling shame because they're judging you and tearing your down. It also means they don't want you. Walk away. They're using you for their self esteem

You are helping but it hurts! Some of us wasted 20 years with 3's.

@vfree4579

4 жыл бұрын

Don't feel bad you're not the only one but when you find that you've made these mistakes in this is when I'm doing ramp up your self care and focus on you and what you really want

@pamelawinson3192

4 жыл бұрын

You mean third party shit. Always get it dont know why... I give my all and the men choose the enemy...

@pamelawinson3192

4 жыл бұрын

More useful than me...

@tamarawilliams1197

4 жыл бұрын

It's NEVER too late...

@CSykes-yh4tw

3 жыл бұрын

My parents have been together for over 30 years and my Dad is definitely a 2-3 type of man. Watched him tear, beat, and break my mother and us down our entire childhood. I pray that she would leave him now it seems like she's just waiting for him to die off. He's 72 and still the same. I cant visit their home without getting upset I hate how he speaks to her and treats her. She doesnt believe in divorce. My mother is educated and my Grandfather (her Dad) was the total opposite of my father. A truly great man. I dont understand why she chose so low. All my siblings have been one or other. Abuser or victim. The cycle must & will end..

I hear your heart MOG. You are speaking facts I removed myself from even trying to date. It’s been 9 years of soberness from the soul tie. God showed me my exit. Now I’m just looking forward to being a wife one day. I’m a Nurse and raised our son alone and now our 11 y/o daughter alone. The best feeling I’ve had is learning that he married. It may sound weird, but helped me move on. The Lord opened a door for me relocate to Hawaii and here I am on this beautiful island Covid or not I see the hand of God on my life and our children’s lives. Shalom🕊

Not even 2 mins in and already powerful! My father instilled fear in me when he was expecting respect. Thankfully I didnt end up in physical abusive relationships but some were toxic. Thank you Pastor Blakes for your virtual fathering and your energy!

This was so on time. 2 years later and the message is very relevant to where I am in my life right now. Pastor Blakes you are so appreciated. Thank you 🙏🏾 💛

The Lord have been telling me that He wants us to use this season of singleness for a deep healing. He wants us to seek counseling/therapy. They have online therapy named Better Help. Use this time to learn how to play an instrument, learn how to cook new dishes, travel if you can, go to school, and so on and so forth. But use this time to fully develop who you are, and most importantly build your relationship with Christ. Not just follow traditions, but truly seek His face while it may be found.

@taz12184

4 жыл бұрын

Amen x

@sarahreiner6101

4 жыл бұрын

I believe that word is true! I bought a guitar and thought about going back to school Amen!!! I just got out of the qorst shortest lived relationship of my life omg! God loves me too much even let me hurt myself that much.... He was a covert narcissits I swear!! I am praying that God heals my heart b/c all my relationships with men have been soo terrible I am about to give up.... But i know its b/c I need to heal and wait on God. He knows better. !

@sharellejackson2257

4 жыл бұрын

Yes mam, so true. Looking for friends to like waiting to exhale ladies and something new ( movie) true girlfriends

@empressironbladder8942

4 жыл бұрын

You have no idea how important it was for me to read this right now. Thank you for writing this.💝

@heatherainsley6737

4 жыл бұрын

Amen. God needs some strong queens and we're getting ourselves ready 👑

I don't care too much about the toys but when the last guy I was seeing started criticising my Christianity.... I was done. Same guy was always talking about his wealthy ex.... It took 2 months and I waved goodbye. Best decision ever

@mercedeswalker7819

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

That's exactly what I am doing, working on myself, I am so grateful God led me to you.

I am two years late for this message but it what I really needed to hear and was right on time. ❤

Become the person you want to attract. On the journey, you'll fall in love with you and the Lord, others, and forget that you're even alone. What's important, really...

@arnettabryant1463

3 жыл бұрын

Amen... I’m on my journey now. It’s been a struggle but worth every moment

@SR77736

Жыл бұрын

That's not gonna stop these clowns from trying you though. You're still gonna attract various types. Having those standards and boundaries and not being afraid to put your foot down when they start is what helps.

I just went through this in my marriage... it started off as jokes.

@tshegofatsomokonoto4928

4 жыл бұрын

same here all i got was yelling,rage and misunderstood over something that doesnt such reactions...and he sees nothing wrong with the shame he brings in my life nor does he believe his abusive

@4GiftedHands

4 жыл бұрын

Tshegofatso Mokonoto 20 years with a man that has now been diagnosed as bipolar and narcissistic... what a roller coaster ride it was.

@tshegofatsomokonoto4928

4 жыл бұрын

@@4GiftedHands i honestly know that the man i married isnt normal theres something wrong nobody normal acts like that...i respond he screams honestly i know that he hates me due to his actions i believe people with such disorders are capable of something fatal hence i need out before its too late...been married 8 months and i cant live with an energy vampire i don't know how u did it 4 20years u have persistence...god bless,are u in a happier place now?hope u find healthy love and honestly healing is essential...i just want 2 focus on me 4 years without any male destruction coz the eyes are deceiving and the world is filled with narcs

@KJ-pc3rp

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly jokes then accusations to justify demonic actions. I started the roller coaster ride in my late teens. Now 40 married and two beautiful children later. Thanks to KZread channels like Pastor Blakes and other counsel. I deserve better and my kids deserve a peaceful home not a false picture of a family to the outside world. So much shame but I'm praying and fighting for a happy life after 40. Amen

@SRoseBlog

4 жыл бұрын

Yyyeesss. My husband even crossed the line. He tried belittling me infront my father. My father thinks I'm a genius . He know my husband was talking smack. My father thinks highly of all his children. He invested a lot into all his children. My husband with his insecure broken self really crossed the line

I'm thanking God it was only 19 months. It was my first relationship (at 30 - I thought he was a man I could build a future with) but I am seeing all the lies I was put through. God even told me to the leave the relationship but I never found the strength so God made him leave. Now I am healing. I'm in a better place before but not completely whole but getting there. My Dad and brother and my whole family have had a talk with me and encouraged me about my worth. Watching these videos have also been an absolute blessing!

So true. I never met my biological father until I was grown. The man I thought was my father was a pedofile that molested me throughout my childhood. I dealt with a number of abusers throughout my life not really understanding what being loved by a man was about. I'm still learning. That's why I love your broadcasts because you teach what a man is supposed to be and how he should treat me. Thanks for putting this knowledge out there for women like me.