Navigating Broken Families // The Nona Jones Show // Episode 7
I cannot begin to tell you how many people contact me everyday to tell me how grateful they are for me sharing my story about my childhood. So many of you are being shamed and guilted into carrying the pain of family dysfunction on your own. BUT, one of my goals for this podcast is to create a safe space for you to explore the dark cracks and crevices of your life without fear of being told you’re wrong or crazy.
Today I am honored to have a super special guest with me who is going to help us zoom out a bit and see how broken families are always the result of generational trauma. And we’re going to use our own family as a case study. Let’s talk about it.
0:00:00 Introduction
0:01:12 Welcome
0:03:40 When Aunt Brenda came back into my life
0:04:59 Her memories of my father
0:10:28 Discussing her childhood
0:11:45 Talking about her parents
0:19:16 The relationship between my mom and her dad
0:21:39 How her upbringing shaped who she is now
0:27:55 Why she became the "responsible" child in the family
0:34:18 Sibling relationships and how her parents influenced their connection
0:36:41 Life after her mother's passing
0:41:20 How a dysfunctional family affected her as a wife and parent
0:49:24 Moving to Florida and attempting to rebuild relationships with siblings
0:58:45 Something I've learned from years of trying to love dysfunctional family
1:00:07 Her advice to those struggling with broken families
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This story is so common among Black families, even now. Awareness and healing is key. Thank you for sharing
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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No apologies ~ that's what hurts ~ but I have apologized to my daughter for the way I treated her for the first 13 years of her life. Although she's still healing I changed my behavior in how I treated her and talked to her.
@tenishakelley9757
18 күн бұрын
Love this! ❤️❤️ I had to do the same…thank you for sharing. 🙏🏾♥️
@Nnaligiselle
18 күн бұрын
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@elisaross5257
17 күн бұрын
That's wonderful. May you have a healthy and loving relationship with your daughter.
@healwithmusic93
16 күн бұрын
Well done Mommy 💞
@IAmTheeRaquiB
4 күн бұрын
That is amazing! ❤❤❤ God bless you! And if you keep at it before you know it you guys will be closer than you even imagined and you guys can move forward as a family even when she has her kids if that's what she chooses!
When Auntie Brenda said Love who’s around and pray for those who aren’t that thing blessed me bc I always say that so hearing someone with wisdom repeat it let me know I’m on the right track. Thank you ladies soo much for your vulnerability 🙏🏽✨💜
@NonaNotNora
17 күн бұрын
So true
I appreciate Auntie Brenda for sharing her story.
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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This is my first time here and I loved this conversation "ima be greedy with you" is such a message of love. I also loved when auntie shared how important it is to wait for the other person to open the door. Knocking down doors regardless of the intention is intruding.
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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That is so true ~ Many people thought our family was the best family on the block but they did not know the trauma that was happening behind the doors of that house because it was not a home..
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Lady Nona and Aunt Gwen, your transparency is such a healing agent. Thank you for walking in obedience.
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Aunt Brenda thank you for the transparency in sharing your story. Love this ❤
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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I am 62 and have not connection with my Mom, Dad, two older sisters, my nephew, my niece. I only have a connection with my younger brother & his Son (nephew). I finally had to create boundaries for the sake of my Children & my peace of mind. I can say I did everything I could to mend broken relationships. It takes two people being honest🙏 I am at peace and now I am a Gramma🤗🍼👍🏼💜 I have forgiven but I cannot allow them to continue to hurt me & disrespect my kids🙏💜
@Mssummer362008
20 күн бұрын
Same
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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@07ikkin
6 күн бұрын
I resonate with this. I'm in my 30s. I have 2 older siblings along with nieces and nephews. It's clear my siblings don't want me in their life. I've prayed for years. I've tried to do things with them. But we've never been close (8 year age gap) so maybe it wasn't meant to be for me to have my biological family in my life. I've changed my prayer to have whatever God wants for my life and to bring supportive relationships into my life. I cannot wait for the prayer to be answered
Nona I went through the same thing ~ My aunt's and uncle's and my Mom's friend would tell me to call my Mom. I would feel so awful that I would walk right back into my Mom's verbal abuse and her horrible treatment of me. I am 51 years old now and I am just now placing healthy boundaries for not just my heart and mind but for my sanity. I cannot endure that type of treatment anymore. Thank you ladies for sharing. I'm so appreciative for your obedience to share. May God bless you both 🤗 HUGS 🤗
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing 🩷🩷🩷
This video gave me so much reassurance! I struggle with the length and close proximity of certain relationships. I am learning to love from a distance and protect myself!
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Thank you! This episode touched my soul. I can empathize and see my own family trauma in some of the memories your aunt shared. I’m happy you have her in your life.
No longer navigating family. I’m out. Starting my own path. Healed and living life!
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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@questionresearch8721
Күн бұрын
I'm with you on that.
This was really good & resonated deeply 🫂
God moved me from Chicago, IL that's where my family is to Dallas, TX. God told me I would live in Dallas, Texas in 2013 but He did not move me here until 2019. I had to forgive and repent within my heart before God opened the door for me to move.
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
Glad to hear you're where God wants to be now! 🩷
This is beautiful, if more families put pride aside and just spoke honestly there would be more resolution and togetherness ❤
@myhunny2006
17 күн бұрын
I agree 💯
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Two beautiful souls,Thank you for sharing...God is faithful.
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Thank you for letting us peak into the “family business” it definitely reminds me of my own. It’s necessary to gain perspective.
Thank you for these series, this is really blessing us. We appreciate your obedience to God!🎀💗
@NonaNotNora
17 күн бұрын
You are so welcome
Wow!! I can relate to so much of her experience. God has blessed me to be my own best friend & family. God Is…
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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"you let me in" so beautiful 💖🙏🏽
So happy that your aunt has been such a blessing to & for you
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
She's the best! 🩷
Your Aunt is amazing ♥️♥️♥️
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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I recently cut my ties with my father and he is similar to her father abusive and suffered with alcoholism. He won’t hear from me again. No apologies either about the torment he put my siblings and mom through. He won’t change. So I changed and left him behind. I also will change my last name soon. I don’t want any identity to him whatsoever.
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
Sometimes that's what you have to do to protect your peace and future! 🩷
Wow this is awesome..I identify w so much..talking and releasing the shame that secrets possess is the beginning of healing. Yasss serenity prayer..12 step programs have helped me and my family heal our relationship s and pass on a healthier relationship to my dgt. In hopes of breaking future dysfunctional relationships. Keep the conversations going.😊😊❤
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing 🩷
Loved this, thank you
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Beautiful interview ❤ Thank you both 🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
17 күн бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
Nona my Dad was shot and killed when I was 5 years old and I always want to hear stories of my Dad because my Mom never shared stories about my Dad with me..
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
So sorry to hear that. Praying for peace 🙏🏽🩷
Thank you for your story. So many of us can relate. I feel like I stand alone but I know that God, the Fatter, the Son, the Holy Ghost and his guiding Angels are with me. To God be the Glory! Amen!🙏🏾🙌🏽👏🏽❤️
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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We can love family to the hilt but we have to come to the conclusion that they are like people who are not family. .We have to let go and let GOD ..Now there may not be be any restoration restoration you have to learn to love them from afar I know that may sound cruel but it is what it is and if you do t let go you will eventually go under yourself ..Please give family to the LORD and take care of yourself
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Awesome conversation🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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The beginning was sweet when telling the story of your father.
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
He was a great man 🩷
Mom was right to set her insurance policy to the beneficiaries of her choosing!
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Good Morning 🌞 from Dallas, Texas 🤗 HUGS 🤗
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Wow what powerful story
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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I’m new here, but this was very good. Thank you both.
@NonaNotNora
17 күн бұрын
Welcome!
Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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I moved home after twenty five years my family is just like that I be the same way I had to just let go do it by yourself 🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
Sometimes all you need is God! 🩷
Even family still need to mind their business. How do you really know how a parent is behind closed doors, especially towards their children.
Good morning 💗
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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Nona u look just Like her❤
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
Thank you! 🩷
Why do I have a feeling that Nona's Mom and Grandfather had an inappropriate relationship???
@elisaross5257
17 күн бұрын
Same here??
Good morning
Real recognize real🫂🙏🏾💫💯
@NonaNotNora
12 күн бұрын
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