Link to my best resources: linktr.ee/narcabusecoach

@Vladimirleninputin

5 ай бұрын

I'm 59, and I was abused by my mother a well functioning narcissist, due to my low self-esteem through life I have extensive knowledge about predators and victims. Sick people of all kinds are growing in numbers throughout my life in The western world probably all over the world!. I learn to pretend/play the game, I learn to keep mental distance from them, let them believe, they are in controle. As soon as possible I leave them and never return. I start to use an alien name, tell fake addresses, when they ask my address, cause my private life is none of their bussiness. I'm a Christian Muslim, and it helps my sanity a lot, also we religious people know satan/satanic people are everywhere, we grow up learning how to behave correctly, so if someone behave outside religions behaviour we know we are dealing with a lost soul/bad person/satanic person/just a innocent idiot, either way best to have no personal contact with this kind of person. Consider studying what is good Christian behaviour, then you'll never doubt if someone's intending good or bad or even worse than bad, so far I never met a true Christian narcissist. Used to be more good people than bad, it was the time when people believed we are more than just animals, those were the days my friend. Thanks a lot for your short lessons, it's good with short lessons where you repeat the same solutions on a problem from different angles, please try to incorporate some humour perhaps sarcastic humour and some philosophical perspective, cause narcissistic abuse is very painful for a person who is alone without anyone to share it with, just my personal opinion and experience ❤🎉💗💚💖❤️‍🔥💘💝💓💕❣️💞💃🏼🕺🏼💌💟♥️❤️‍🩹💔🖤✨😊

They can only pretend for a while. Their true colors will show through the facade. Whatever we do in darkness will always come to light.

Nothing can hide thier emotional weirdness😂

@MissG8340

5 ай бұрын

And the demons you can see through their eyes 👀

@MissG8340

5 ай бұрын

But was thinking of getting my narcissistic father evaluated but how would that happen they know how to be fake a pretend so they would never be classified they are toooo clever

@MissG8340

5 ай бұрын

@user-hb8nj4gr4gvery true and the narcissist would never believe anything was wrong with them.. their perfect Was thinking of telling my dad to pick any therapist that can diagnose him (otherwise he would think it was a set up) but then realised when they start asking questions he would turn the charm on, go on and on about all the people that he’s helped in his life, talk about all the money he’s accumulated and that he’s the best and no one can beat him He would defo cheat the list of questions but I wonder if a qualified person would see through that?

@theneatlist407

5 ай бұрын

You would think, but victims exposed long enough are emotional due to the abuse. That’s a distraction from the perpetrator

@mr.vargas5648

5 ай бұрын

So behaving like a bully narc makes you less of a narc.

It’s so sad. I can’t be myself because the world isn’t safe.

@m.f.richardson1602

5 ай бұрын

I isolate more

@heatherhall3452

5 ай бұрын

That’s how I feel, I pray you know Jesus, he is the only one we can put our trust in. He is returning soon, all this what’s going on in the world is written in Revelations, Daniel and other books of the Bible 🙏🏽📖💕 Look up touching the afterlife 🙏🏽

@mr.vargas5648

5 ай бұрын

Narcs and their flying monkeys has made it so.

@maryglo1

4 ай бұрын

Right! Bear arms! Know how to defend yourself. Very satisfying. Self defense is essential. We have been invaded and DC says get prepared.

@ritakroll5965

15 күн бұрын

Life is unbearable with an insensitive selfish person.

Listen to your gut. Trust yourself. Believe your instincts.

@mikami9099

5 ай бұрын

best advice and that’s it. that’s the core of all of this.

@maryglo1

4 ай бұрын

Listen carefully for haughtiness and condescending and other many signals they put out. If they l are gaslighting you, it is over! Lies when he knows you know he is lying. Infuriating!!!🤬😤🗽🙏🏼✨

It was only a matter of of time before *Narcissists* upped their game, but as a victim your *gut* is your guide, and feeling confused in the relationship.😏🚩🏃‍♀️

@judyyates2763

5 ай бұрын

So true. Confusion becomes your constant companion.

@dior277

5 ай бұрын

You guys are so right, I was feeling so confused. Then I got to know why.

@angelakeely5859

5 ай бұрын

@@dior277 When you've experienced it is easier to spot where the confusion is coming from.😏🚩🏃‍♀️

@dior277

5 ай бұрын

@@angelakeely5859 So true 🚩

I recently rented to one of these people. He lied and harassed me. I was completely taken off guard. A horrible experience.

@christinagolden6180

5 ай бұрын

I'm sorry.

It's like a criminal becoming better at hiding their tracks. The more sophisticated criminal-catching techniques become, it's not surprising that criminals try to devise more sophisticated techniques too.

@cherylberk4593

5 ай бұрын

You are correct. It is exactly like criminal behavior. The criminal, in my opinion, is not that sophisticated or smart. Technology is the narc/criminal's BFF!

@m.f.richardson1602

5 ай бұрын

Never thought of that. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Peace💕🇺🇸

So, it is a never ending fight: the devil will always be the devil.

@heatherhall3452

5 ай бұрын

And Jesus is the way, the truth and the life - he’s coming soon be ready! Put on your armour of God 📖 Best Instructions Before Leaving Earth = Bible 🙏🏽💗

@valiizajames925

8 күн бұрын

Always...Guard Yourself...Guard your spirit and your ❤️!

They are true abusers

This is why it's so important to know time is on your side. They can hide forever. Soon enough, you'll know. Words and actions will not match up. Avoid traps. They'll let their mask slip and boom. You're stuck. They love it. Follow the actions. You'll know them by what they DO

My takeaway from this is that a narc isn’t just someone who’s selfish or changes their opinion about someone- but they want to destroy people by manipulating, lying, and controlling. The fact that they are learning tricks to outmaneuver other people so they can prey on them doesn’t surprise me with these psychos.

@heatherhall3452

5 ай бұрын

Yes all the traits of the devil, it’s all in the Best Instructions Before Leaving Earth = Bible 🙏🏽💗

@skinnyway

5 ай бұрын

very good. thats exactly what you should get from this. they are emotional vampires. and their goal is to make everyone as crazy as they can. this is the Disrupters Age. or Age of Aquarius if you prefer.

@mrsshahid5117

4 ай бұрын

In other words they are evil

@user-q992

4 ай бұрын

The only way to outwit the narc is 1. Love them less than they love you 2.Do not trust them even 1% 3. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated to do anything you don't like 4.Do not give them anything, not even breadcrumbs 5.But give them more abuse than they give you 6. Be so cold and calculated so that you are always ready to leave them 7 Remember that if you don't value them at all, they cannot devalue you 8.In other words be a worse narc than they are. For eg if you sense that they are having an affair or cheating on you, keep that knowledge secret, but find another suitable partner and carry on with them behind their back. So when they finally come ready to divorce you, pretend that you are shocked and upset so that the nasty narc will take the steps to complete the divorce to hurt you even more. When that is done, marry your partner before they can marry theirs. Then reveal to them how your plan worked. 😂 Good luck to all 🍀

@maryglo1

4 ай бұрын

To prove their superiority. You would be like them if you were superior. But alas, you are inferior or else! Discard, hoover, devalue, dump... How much do you trust a liar? Zero.

Thank you Danish for this important warning about these shape shifting and dangerous people.They do learn from the channels educational videos about Narcissism how to be a better sub-human inter-species predator. Alot of good tips are provided here, like developing intuition and emotional intelligence, proceeding with slow deliberation and testing them. They are skilled actors, performing whatever role is needed to gain supply. This Narc epidemic is seriously disturbing and phenomenal worldwide.

@allison471

5 ай бұрын

​@@jbrown2908this is what I always say! Who the Hell wants to live that miserable life it's not a life at all! We get 1 life, theirs is unfortunately a sad waste of one... blows my f'n mind

As one who has had narcissists in her life always, I have found that I spot them at an accelerated speed as I learn more. It's like I have an interior alarm that screams when one opens his or her sarcastic mouth. I just realized 2 years ago, thanks to you and others like you, that my life has been full of these turds. I spread the word so others will see the light.

@bobbarker1798

5 ай бұрын

Agree with you totally.

@user-vj4sb4hx6q

5 ай бұрын

Exactly right! I can spot a narcissist now real quick because we know what to look for now.

@danmurray1143

5 ай бұрын

I now assume everyone is a narcissist until they prove otherwise. I'm beginning to wonder if more than 50% of our population now has this. Seriously. That's a good question for everyone in the comment section. What percentage of our population do you think has narcissist personality disorder these days?

@lourdesdoty7765

5 ай бұрын

​@@danmurray1143, As many as there are tRump cult members.

@iahelcathartesaura3887

5 ай бұрын

​​​@@danmurray1143 YES! That is wisdom! And this is of course the total opposite of me how I used to be before finding myself constantly surrounded by these people. I now look at everyone as cluster B disordered or having symptoms of such, until they prove otherwise over a long period of time. Abuse victims, ptsd, bipolar disorder, etc can also exhibit similar symptoms. No blame on them, I've just learned to stay away even if it means I'm lonely and isolated a lot. I used to make friends quickly and caringly trust people until the last couple of years! NO MORE

When I finally understood what I was dealing with after 23 years married, I filed for divorce. He is a covert narcissist. He immediately went out and started serving people- like raking elderly neighbors leaves and finding other ways to help people (always where he would be seen). The fact that he would come home and abuse his family would never cross their mind. Because I had finally realized who he was, I knew that the reason he began helping so many people is so that when they found out we were divorcing they would never believe that he had anything to do with a failed marriage. He also subtly told people I was crazy without saying those exact words. He had the most conniving ways of manipulating people. And in large part, it worked.

@sandrathomas2893

5 ай бұрын

They play victim or hero. Never villain!

@rogerr.8507

5 ай бұрын

Hey my mom rakes leaves incessantly, and so does a homeless woman I drive past on the sidewalk. Kinda weird huh? 😕 I expect my narc mom will be homeless in 2 months too. Sometimes I think they share the same demonic spirit

@Cocopepper1111

5 ай бұрын

@@rogerr.8507 hmm… that’s interesting. Ye6, they are not very unique from one another.

It is almost impossible to have friendships or relationships in today's landscape of an overwhelming amount of narcissists. I have been gang stalked for years and now it seems every person I meet is a narcissist playing some time of game on me.

Then you leave them the minute they stop “love bombing you”. This is helpful information; one may be fooled initially but the minute you detect that their behaviour has changed then leave them immediately without notice. I have done that twice; complete no contact. One of them faked illness 5yrs ago as his hoover; I didn’t respond. The pathetic fool couldn’t believe it.

Has 52 years education with narcissistic people, was in the stomach of one, engaged with one, marriged another, I'm finished with them finally 😊

@dct1238

5 ай бұрын

Add siblings and a husband 😅

Just ran into to a “self-reflective” one who was bullied at school. He said he likes/needs to be around people, but gets anxious around them. Claimed he apologized to those who he aggroed at before and to his parent. Was meditating and accepting himself. Said he hates when his bad relative provokes him to “be bad”, because he doesn’t want to be a bad person. Has that fast side eye situation-checking eye movement Darnish talked about in one of his shorts. Interesting species Every time i now meet a good person that is Interesting to me, i know, this is a narcissist. And it always turns out i was right. It gets boring

They could try and hide their ugliness with new tactics, but rest assured the ugly always comes out eventually, just be patient.

@theneatlist407

5 ай бұрын

You got that right!

It’s going to be very difficult to vet abusive partners, but the fool proof way to do this is to take your time getting to know someone. Real personalities emerge after 3-6 months. Stop trying to be in a relationship before 6 months minimum. People rush relationships & that’s out of insecurities. Deal with insecurities & until you’re secure & happy with being single, you’re not ready for a relationship.

@heatherhall3452

5 ай бұрын

I’ve got a better idea, look to our Lord Jesus and let go let God, bring the person of his choosing into our life, and pray for confirmation as many times as it takes for you to be confident that your relationship is divinely chosen, however in saying that, Jesus is returning for his flock soon so I’m not sure if we will have time, or if that’s in his plan, regardless trust in the one who created us, who loves us like no other 🙏🏽💗

@anointedone1995

5 ай бұрын

​@@heatherhall3452100 % we need God now more than ever

@gb3776

2 ай бұрын

@@heatherhall3452 I so agree…a lot of people think this is a small matter and overlook the Creator. He is the only one that can guide us into all truths. Let Him choose your partner. Who knows us better than the one that created us. He would never put us in a demonic relationship. We choose these people ourselves. How many of us got down on our knees and ask God is this the one. Not many of us.😢

Smart narcissist are the worst! 😅 I'm adopting in my life the premise of judging people by their actions and not by their words. Narcissists can make the most beautiful speeches about who they are and what they think... And when their actions don't match that "ideal" they always give convincing excuses, mitigating factors, special circumstances, etc... We tend to believe it, because of their beautiful and well presented description of themselves... Sometimes, we just need to watch life as a silent movie: turning off the sound and OBSERVING what the characters DO (instead of what they SAY), how they behave, how they move, how they make others feel... Then it gets so much easier to understand who is who... 😊

Idealization becomes devaluation when they cannot control you

Its wonderful to be happy and satisfied single. After raising a family with a narc, being alone is true bliss.

@theneatlist407

5 ай бұрын

Tell your survival story. I need some inspiration

Indeed. They are becoming better. No gut feeling, no red flags until sth very distinct happens if you are lucky… one thing can be taken into account though if ANYONE approaches you and promises attention/respects/nice attitude however healthy that may look to you, first sit down and pause and think whaif they are one of those and why would they approach you in the first place and what would you lose later on after trusting them and granting them your company or attention. And Im almost sure many of them do have telepathic abilities or sth of a sort. Know your weaknessses and how they can be used to get to you.

@heatherhall3452

5 ай бұрын

No they have the knowledge from the devil, that’s how they know who is a good victim.

@yuu_miran

5 ай бұрын

@@heatherhall3452 i think you are right.

@T_Nice

5 ай бұрын

​@@heatherhall3452You are absolutely correct because they are demonic.

@lc4972

5 ай бұрын

That is exactly what my nex did. Promised to never lie, deceive or cheat on me. And that is exactly what he did!

I believe you. I noticed the same phenomenon. I felt like I was having a fairly good time with the narcissist in the moment, but as soon as they were out of site I realized that they had been fake during the entire encounter. Also, the percentage of the population of narcissist is even greater than predicted by sources, but that's a topic for another time.

Danish I love how you remind us you can't be open to everyone, stay alert, trust your intuition. If I had listened to my instincts and the gut feeling I would never had gotten into my last Toxic relationship. But now 1 and 1/2 years later I am staying alert like never before. Thanks for the reminders.

My narc husband always would walk way ahead of me and expect me to walk long distances when I have sore feet. When I told him I cannot walk all over the place due to pain he would say “Oh you are just pretending to be in pain because you don’t want to be with me”. He never gave a crap about my discomfort and made everything about him and how I am faking everything.

Love will not pull them out of it. No amount of love, understanding, or benefit of the doubt will heal them. Ever. They are always using your generosity and will do as much destruction to the things and people you love as they can. Sure they have reasons, sometimes they do it just because they can, like leaving your car unlocked and your change gets stolen, they steal your joy just because you have some. Sometimes they target you because they are jealous of you. No matter how willing and happy you are to share with them and let them join you, they don’t want that. They resent you and want you to not exist. They don’t share, they win, they dominate. Sometimes they tell a sob story and you just try to help them. Then it becomes a codependent clusterfuck. You’re too invested to bail, and they are totally dependent on you for food, shelter, and companionship, like some kind of parasite.

@summacumsoap8983

5 ай бұрын

😢they do it just because they can... 😢

Sometimes it's difficult to know who to open up to. When I was with "him" I opened up to the wrong people. Now, sometimes I have talked with people whom I thought I could trust. They were worse than "him". Bt, I did see signs in the first six months. Things went south but at least I saw early. The universe pulled me away. I keep learning.

I was thinking that a way to identify those "sophisticated narcissists" is to pay attention to the consistency between their words and they behaviour. Let's remember consistency between thoughts, words and actions is related to Ethics. Also to the intention of their words and actions. What would be the consequences of my reactions to those words or behaviours? If my reaction is perjudicial to myself, then the person has bad intentions. Take care of yourself, stay safe.

@theneatlist407

5 ай бұрын

Of course! But when you are already in the bad situation with kids, their bad intentions are a living nightmare on repeat, and it’s empowered by the family court system.

When I broke it off with the narcissist and ceased all contact, I had not explained to him why I’d left. He would text my friends and say “I’m so confused.. what went wrong.. I thought she and I were developing a great relationship.. I’m a really good and innocent guy…” I knew he was only trying to gather data for his next target. He wanted to know where he’d overplayed his hand with me and at what point his tactics became too overt, so that he could be more successful with his next victim. He once told me that he watches many KZread videos on narcissistic abuse, because he was in a narc relationship at one time. I do believe that all this info we’re sharing about narcissism is helpful and ultimately they can’t use it against us because they always let the mask slip at some point or overplay their hand. Thank you Danish!

I've noticed that the narcissist likes to play the victim card as their cloake of cover. As soon as you start seeing through their facade and calling them out there they go...

Always be loyal to yourself and make yourself number one. Because the narcissist will always want to be first. To thine own self be true. The more we heal the better we know ourselves and when someone is wanting to put themselves ahead of you kicking you from your rightful spot in your own life as first.

@mvbigmagic4048

5 ай бұрын

💜 I should pin this on my wall above my desk. :)

I was informed by a friend that one of the worst narcissists in our acquaintance had been seeing a female therapist and "really working on himself"! Needless to say, I had my doubts. In fact, my humble opinion was that it was to appear "more vulnerable" to his potential targets. She later admitted that had proven true!

Many years ago an aquaintance of mine fought for the custody of her daughter with her ex (narc.) in court. The little girl wanted to live with her mother which the ex didn't like. He then went on to call his little girl narcissistic and the worst thing was that the judge believed him. They then had to share custody and she had a horrible childhood with him treating her and the mother in the worst possible manners. This was about 15 years ago and even then some of the more educated narcissists used deflection as a weapon.

@heatherhall3452

5 ай бұрын

Many narcissists have full custody of their children through their lies to the courts, and their ability to pay lots of money to the lawyer/judge especially family law courts. One friend of mine, in Western Australia . Her ex-narc was convicted of child abuse, after beating his 3 yr old non verbal Son black and blue, he later went for custody behind her back, he convinced the court their beautiful perfectly healthy mother has mental issues- ( All lies ) he now has full custody of her 2 little boys she hasn’t seen for over a year, he has a restraining order out on her to keep her away with no grounds, he won’t let her see them or even have an independent person deliver birthday presents. The boys are away from their lovely 3 bedroom home with chooks, and pets, with big back yard decked out with all their play equipment, she was homeschooling them and her whole lounge room was a classroom. After trying to have birthday presents delivered to them a couple of months ago she found out that they’re left in the care of a woman who is a stranger to them, in a poky 2 bedroom unit with no yard to play in, whilst he is living and working overseas- he is an absolute MONSTER - he had the police serve her papers for trying to have birthday present’s delivered. I really suspect strongly he has told the boys their Mummy is dead. 😭💔 Her boys would be devastated they were so close to their mummy and feared their father, the psychological damage this has caused them and mum will be lifelong. The police hunted her down smashing in her door trying to steal the children from her , WA police are complicit in kidnapping, the children were hiding under a bed petrified, this went on for 2 weeks whist she was driving everywhere with them trying to get help, every time she found someone who could advocate for her, they phoned the police to try and sort it out and they just put the phone down on the advocate. The police actions were Criminal - they’re didn’t care in the slightest that the father had been convicted pleaded guilty to child abuse. All of this police bullying and criminal violence is on security video camera footage on Fb for you to see. Her name is ✳️ Rebecca Whitehead ✳️ Western Australia, go take a look at her page everything is documented like a professional. She is such a beautiful person, a fantastic now broken Mum, he did this in retaliation for her reporting the beating on her son, the photos are horrendous. The police and family law courts are all corrupt. 😪 Rebecca now supports other estranged parents this has happened to Worldwide, there are thousands that have contacted her❗️🙏🏽❤️ it breaks my heart My ex-narc has also turned my 4 adult and grandson against me, it’s broken my heart 💔 I simply don’t know how she survives this when they are just little boys that need their mummy 🧒🏼💙🧒🏼🩵

This is such good advise. The narcissist I am dealing is playing the victim to the max. He is upset because I am smarter kinder, a real person. All the things he is not. He is the worst person I have ever met . He is in a false word of his own.

@heatherhall3452

5 ай бұрын

He is a demon that’s moved into a very low vibrational body. Look to Jesus 💗🙏🏽

@swissherbgirl2917

5 ай бұрын

Yes even my son said he is noticing how his dad is lying to himself and he is forgetful, too. When the N. was married with me he kept boasting that he has never lost a fight/ battle. So he dealt with me as I am his worst enemy. But now after the Divorce he suddenly plays the victim, saying I left him. When actually he said he rather goes away than seeking help for the marriage. Me filing for Divorce was just the last step , after I tried everything before that

My daughters ex did all the grooming in the beginning, calling on lunch breaks, buying flowers, he said and did strange things right at the beginning of the relationship, but my daughter had no idea who he really was, just used to brush it off because she loved him, she was in an abusive relationship...not narcissistic one prior,, and she even said I think I've hit the jackpot, this person is so much like me, it's amazing, 1 day I will marry this man... I'm happy to say she is no longer under his control, she is raising 2 babies by herself, he never put the kids first, still wanted to take kids out of their routine to visit his friends, I could go on and on. Thank you for raising awareness about these creatures...

This resonates with me, I experienced all of this. I stayed quiet and patient, educating myself, and left when he least expected it. It's vital to one's well being to know your worth and get away from such toxicity.

They tell you who they are right at the beginning - listen carefully. One woman said to me ' I am not a nice person'- so that she could get my ' of course you aren't ' comment, I said nothing . A few weeks later I found out exactly who she was , with her future faking of the friendship... of course the promises did not happen. My ex husband also told me right at the beginning who he was... he said, ' I like to play the devil's advocate. I start an argument, with a casual comment , I watch them argue , I watch them burn, and then I leave the room'. His brother also told me , he shouted , as we came through the door, after our first date, ' here comes Mr Angry! ' How right he was... a covert narc through and through... I should have taken notice, instead of treating these comments as jokes?

@InvisibleWarrior279

5 ай бұрын

💯 - they ABSOLUTELY do. “I can be anything you want me to be.” One of the first sentences out of his mouth. I laughed. 16 years later, I realized it wasn’t a joke 😫

Hey Danish, can you talk about what one may know if they were to be a fly on a wall with a conversation of a mother and 2nd daughter. Both are narcissists, triangulated. Thanks for all of your very insightful and informative talks. 😊

@summacumsoap8983

5 ай бұрын

I do know what you are asking as this is at the root of my experience. We really don't need to hear exact words, as we now know what was going on. A setup for future life. So sad 😢

Is so true! 😂 Once, a woman told me "You are pasive agresive"!. I have knowledge in psycology studies, actually, they just turn the vocabulary they have learned which actually their therapist and other people have told them what they are! Their vocabulary is based on what people have told them before!!! 😂😂😂 If they tell you this words and terms, be sure is because they are just reflecting themselfs on you!!!!

@dsaylor36

5 ай бұрын

I've experienced this too. They pick up anything they can to twist and use on you.

@cynthiaherrera4633

5 ай бұрын

@@dsaylor36 Yes! Totally, there is never a correct answer, no matter which answer you pick, for them everything is wrong!

Dearest Danish, only through half of this video and I am so very grateful that you are speaking simple TRUTH to this increasing phenomenon. This is very sad and heartbreaking in general and in all ways. I want to add simply to my fellow survivors, If something feels 'off' then It IS Off... Full Stop-The End. Trust YOUR beautiful intuition and NEVER let them know that you see them for who and what they really are. Then please save yourself and help others Love and Peace Everyone!

They are the shape shifters from Evil!

I'm grateful that you aren't afraid to say what actually is. People are different now a days, the greed indifference and narcissists behaviors of our rulers is spreading to the general population.

These creatures ...😂 so true..... They are not human.

When they change and come back they appear helpful . they offer advices and suggestions . They pretend regret over some dealings of yours that " they could get better returns for." They express facial regrets for your "not so good deals. "

So true

I really truly appreciate these episodes. Thank you for the sage advice, and for providing us with great content and information. The fact that you are a survivor gives a completely different perspective/insight. ❤

I totally have noticed they are using their children to cover up their deceitfulness jealousy also messing with other people's property I despise these people I've actually had to take them to court of course the judge ruled in their favor saying that we had to get along because we live in the same apartment complex the system is so corrupt

NO CONTACT

What I’ve experienced is people have a hard time understanding gaslighting unless it’s happened to them. As someone who is very creative and open minded, I could not comprehend what was happening to me. And what makes it worse is that my boss, a neighbor I’d known for 20 years, used my trust and our relationship as the ultimate manipulation.

So true Danish. Some are changing their tactics because of all the internet information so I really need to have my raddar/instincts sharp. I cannot go through that experience again. Thanks for that timely update.

@mr.vargas5648

5 ай бұрын

Real problem isnt spotting them its that other ppl protects them. The usually have a bunch of flying monkeys doing their dirty work.

Alright boys, get your poker faces ready. New narcissists just dropped.

This is very easy, do you target people? Do you want the destruction of a person? Do you find joy when another is down? No. So, you're not a narcissist. PERIOD.

@dsaylor36

5 ай бұрын

Aww, don't trust a narcicisst to tell you who they are- they portray a facade of being good. A narcicisst will never admit they are wrong or have anything to criticize. Of course they will say No as they size you up.

When people works with them, they discard and break them of all their supplies and than they have sell most of their propoerty including clothes to survive. They don't pay them for their hard work, they think should have everything done for free.

Hi Danish bless you for all your help. Your the best

I came across a whole KZread channel where a narcissist is recording his girlfriend and trying to make her seem like the narcissist. What’s more disturbing is reading the comments on the videos and seeing people blindly agree with the guy and blaming the real victim.

Exactly.... becoming extremely manipulative people pleasers.....or a short lived charming circus act....of bs.......

Being on a hormonal therapy, with lot of emotional unstability ,I am struggling very hard to cope up with my narcissist husband...Struggling badly with his fragile ego....I need more emotional strength

On the part of “not wearing your heart on your sleeve 17:35 ,” I’ll share this: wear it!…but strategically. I think this works once one gets to a point where they could more easily identify these types. If I get a strong weird gut feeling, then I don’t even bother with “wearing my heart on my sleeve strategically.” I do it when my alarm system DOESN’T go off…but something seems maybe…too good. It seems to expedite the person with NPD (or similar disorder) “get comfortable” faster. It’s weird how similar they mostly all are when the “switch” happens after they get comfortable. That then gives me the information to then choose accordingly how I want to further interact (especially helpful against the types that seem to be more patient).

If you’re very mindful, you’ll notice within 6 months (at the latest) you’re dealing with a narcissist. Even the ‘Covert Narcissist’ has difficulties maintaining the “mask” beyond 6 months. The struggles for ANY narcissist is keeping their public facades intact. Therefore, when they’re with you in private moments, they relax and remove ALL pretenses of love, respect and dignity to reveal what they truly are. Six months, people… that’s all you’ll ever need.

@nernatbentley3778

5 ай бұрын

@@ss84jdtybw I agree with your assessment on needing just “few hours of communication to figure it out.” For those (like myself) that’s been targeted by a narcissist(s) in the past, your comment is spot on! However, my original post above is for those unaware of narcissism or ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’. For me, it took me 6 months to realize I wasn’t dealing with someone with a “Rational” mindset. It took me another 3 years of CONSTANT bickering and almost physical altercations to get rid of the neighbor!! After appearing in front of one City Council hearing, then two Civil Court hearings (all at my behest)…the P.O.S neighbor finally moved. However…. while I was going through all of that, I was TOTALLY unaware of ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’. In fact, I discovered the former neighbor is a ‘Covert Narcissist’ AFTER he (and, his enabling parents) had moved. The moment I saw a video on KZread discussing the behaviors/characteristics of the ‘Covert Narcissist’…. I was SHOCKED to find they aligned with that vile neighbor’s behaviors towards me and my family.

After I became an adult, my mother tried to convince me that she's changing her ways by saying at random, "I'm mellowing out in my old age", over and over. She would just say it out of the blue, for no reason with this dumb, wild look in her eyes. A few years into this, all it took was one single "no" to induce a nuclear, turbo narcissistic meltdown. My favourite one of hers is the unprovoked, "I'm a very deep person", paired with a derisive sniff and a smug face. It took all i had not to react to that🥵🤯 I make no mistake about who and what she is now.

As long as they need supply, they have no option.

They hid it from me for 3 whole years. Waited until I fully trusted them and had lowered my guard. 2 years of narcissistic abuse followed. It destroyed me. Rebuilding and recovering is gonna take me years...

I am prepared. Never giving my heart away again ever!

The end of time is very near... As an empath i keep crossing narcissistic abusers on my path and the craziest thing about it is that they will confess to you so that you gain there trusts in order to use all your secrets as a weapon

After your no contact, your narc will chase you by all means by all costs. The will be more lethal.

@dsaylor36

5 ай бұрын

Exactly, I'm being hunted down to be finished off. I'm trapped.

@dr.muhammadamin1554

5 ай бұрын

@@dsaylor36 cut all contacts with flying monkeys, hide everything about you on the SM. Leave everything with everyone. After 2-6 months of absolute no contact will bring you tranquility. During this period join gym, diet, re-chase old goals.

God damit you are so right!! About to leave after 13 years. You have it right🎉❤

The best strategy for a narcissist is to become completely comfortable with not ever being the center of attention for the rest of their lives.

OMG how can we ever trust anyone again. This is horrifying to know how they are becoming even more predatorial!! It makes one want to never date or ever step out into another relationship ever again. Now, Danish, help us out with this one on your next episodes please. Thank you for what you do.

When my malignant narcissist sister tries to manipulate me, her voice becomes silky smooth, like Angelina Jolie's voice. When this happens, I know that my life is about to go sideways.

@simonpegg1196

5 ай бұрын

My grandmother used to tell me when I was 4 years old, "Beware of sweet-talkers". This is more relevant when it comes to narc, as the narc could care less about being sweet with anyone but themselves.

I wonder if we could ever pass laws allowing us to imprison narcissists. They abuse, traumatise & otherwise hurt people their entire life, is that not a crime? If not, why not?

Thank You so very much!! MR. DANISH. You are a LIFE SAVER.

This is 100 % description of a n that I lived with for 20 + years.

The best thing to do is not attach yourself too quickly to a new relationship. Give yourself plenty of time to watch for the red flags. And don’t be afraid to walk away at any point. You don’t owe anyone anything.

Thank you so much for the update on how narcissistic people are using current knowledge about them against others and trying to hide themselves so it takes now longer for us who know about them longer to figure them out. I am beginning to believe it better not to desperately want anyone in my life. In other words, we must make it hard for anyone to enter your life. Our personal safety must mean something to us on the daily. We must, like you said, test them a lot, especially if it may take us years to know w hat someone's issues may be.

Be cautious

@DR3itmatters

5 ай бұрын

So terrified 15 yrs of this bs but I suffered a horrible loss, then pandemic the hurricane. Im trying BP was 190/150 today no where to go 😢

I can totally identify with the concept of this especially the love bombing that is an illusion..she cooked, cleaned, made sure we had a comfy place…I did my part in terms of reciprocation and when I asked her if she’d like me to help prepare a meal..she’d always say no I got it babe…this stopped gradually meaning she wasn’t as attentive to my physical health issues putting ice on my knees and just making appointments for me .. I held her down for four years financially, emotionally, etc and I was left for two days at a time, two weeks, a month then for good ..

Danish, you are a spirit guide❤

So, Danish, with all the sneakier narcissist out there now, would you be so kind as to tell us on an episode how we may get over the Trust Trauma and trust once again. Keeping in mind all we already know about narcissist signs. Thank You. Your episodes have been extremely educational and I appreciate you for helping us.

My narc sister has been reading on narcissism told me that my smoke and mirrors game that I am playing will not work. Then she projects and says that I am trying to kill her and that I know what she means and that I like weak men because I can bulldozer them over…that I am so jealous and envious of her and that my brother was an easy target…I have had no to minimal unavoidable contact with her for over 20 years. She does not stop.

Thank you so much for this awareness video I had not thought about this but I am not surprised the devils are cunning and will do everything to catch their preys

One.

Creatures. Exactly right! 😢

I always advise folks to read the following. Othello by Shakespeare. Curtain by Agatha Christie. The characters of Iago and Norton are 100% narcissists.

Omg!!! Exactly doing things you neverasked for then blamed for not doing anything !!! Mine was older so he either kept up with these tricks, or he was ahead of the times. Add on that then he would point it out to others....look what i do .... then you look like you do nothing, even if they just grilled the meat and you did all the prep, side dishes and cleaned up, but the whole thing was him

Dear Danish, your videos, just get better every every every second

I knew it! If you look at the number of views compared to the number of likes, it seems narcissists are viewing this content for Intel and they do not like their victims becoming empowered.

Down right scary. I am surprised that so many narcs are that self aware and talk about it

@dsaylor36

5 ай бұрын

They use anything and everything as a source to manipulate- family values, psychology, politics, laws, Christianity. It is all sources of great power if they learn any of these to weild over people

This is such an important video. Thank you for posting it. Yes, they are becoming more crafty. They have to be, because there is more awareness now. :( It's hard. They are everywhere...... It's a constant battle to evade their influence.

Some of them pop up in the comments of this channel from time to time. You can always spot them because they are either attacking survivors or whining, "Won't anyone think of the poor Narcs?"

Gaslighting should be a Felony Charge. Why would it not be?

Very dangerous,from my personal experience,been 2 months,going on 3.He's on his new source,now 🙏

After a while in my opinion the empath becomes the narcissist’s narcissist just too show the narcissist hey give it up y’all time are coming up.

There’s a spiritual meaning behind them they are sent from satan too take out people just leave it too God fam.

Been seeing Angel numbers.. everything I’ve manifested as a child (2007-2012) is now here. I’ve evolved and manifested as a human form of Raquelle from Barbie. I looked up Barbie: Life in the Dreamhouse and it was made in 2012. I realized my childhood was surrounded by all of them. Going through my Saturn’s Return. People start to realize I am Raquelle in real life. My birth date is 2-17 the same as Paris Hilton so… we’ve been exposing these creatures including our crappy narcissistic parents. Paris and I are both scapegoats of our narcissistic families.. Paris is human Barbie and I am human Raquelle. I find out Raquelle is the true star of Barbie: Life in the Dreamhouse which is me. Paris and I are both Aquarius. I don’t believe in coincidences.. I’ve been into spirituality since 2020 where I developed my powers within with a full on awakening. I’ve had mini awakenings when I was younger. All I’ll say is manifesting is real.. and it’s now manifested in the 3D physical realm. I’ve had a past life soulmate in my dreams… since 2020 of my Saturn’s Return.. all this stuff is real.. very real. It’s a lonely experience. But it’s worth it. I was born premature and dealt with these creatures all my life sadly including my own narc mother. It’s impressive I made it this far in 2024 sharing my story. Yes it’s time to expose these creatures since we are in the Age of Aquarius. ❤ Stay blessed everyone. ❤

@gb3776

2 ай бұрын

Satan is so slick…don’t let him lead you down a rabbit hole. Let go off spirituality and find God. It’s too late in the day to be fooled.😢

Thank you for this insight that the narcissist medic your parents.Wow 😮Thank you

They'll waste alllllll this energy 'adapting' but won't adapt their sorry behinds into being an ACTUAL good human smfh 😔

Thanks Danish ,People like you are serving humanity and saving lives