I was a creative and fun loving person since childhood. I used to play with clay, draw and sketch and paint 🎨🖌️ and also write ✍️. I used to play musical instruments when I was 15 and do 125 pushups in 1 set. Everything starting from my creative abilities, my beautiful and well toned body was criticised for looking slim. And also my health consciousness. Slowly and gradually I moved away from these things and these playful and joyful parts of myself and became sad, overweight, unhealthy and depressed. But then I started drawing again, writing, journaling again.

@tiffers8821

15 күн бұрын

That is literally me now😂 but not😂

@lottiebrown999

15 күн бұрын

@SandeepSinghKhalsa Don't let them steal your joy. Find the things you love again 💕 and let go of the toxic people. Always be your beautiful self ✨️

@user-xc3zp3vw7f

15 күн бұрын

They are on purpose traumatising the child. It takes a lot of healing to recover.. My father use to lock me in a cage full of birds to 'heal me' according to him from my fear of birds. I was not allowed by my mother to take music lessons and drawing lessons. Who I am was denigrated non stop. It took me years to grasp that I am not ugly. I could only see me in the mirror through my parents denigration . I survived. Healing never stops. It has become a beautiful part of life that connects me with beautiful and activities. I still wish for a real family

My parents have passed away now so I'm finally free as both were narcissists who enabled each other. However it's taken 2 years since the final parent left for the insights to come and to realise that none of what happened in my child hood and adult hood was my fault. Such a relief to be free physically and mentally from them. I can now focus as a grandparent myself on pure loving relationships with my beautiful baby grandson and daughter. I could never behave towards them the way I was treated. I will never understand how people could be so cruel to their preciuos children. All that's left now is love peace and letting go of the past. It can hurt me no more. So much to look forward to now 😊❤🎉

@Lyrielonwind

15 күн бұрын

I doubt my malignant mother can die; the devil takes care of their minions but even if she does, I don't think things will be easier. She has destroyed my relationship with all my siblings. Evil is stronger than love.

That is amazing that in this vid Ms. Nieves mentioned that "the narcissist hates everything about you, even the way that you breathe"=I daily had that exact experience growing up, "mmmmMICHAEL!!!! I HATE THE WAY YOU BREATHE!!!!!" and I would be beaten senseless, spat on, pissed on, verbal abuse daily, "U'r so UGLY, MMMICHAEL!!!! U'R WORTHLESS!!!!" It was a nightmare and affects me to this day. I'm 61 yrs old. God bless Ms. Nieves.

@joseenoel8093

15 күн бұрын

My wanna be narc hubby would always make me lose my sneeze, not funny as you're prohibiting what your body wants to do, he'd always plead he forgot but in reality treating me like a guy, finally I had such a fit...

@Lyrielonwind

15 күн бұрын

I'm sure you have found people who tell you to forgive them when you are still carrying the damage they cause you. Don't pay any attention to those. We will forgive them when we just don't care or we have healed because not even the death of our torturers can set us free.

@tenningale

4 күн бұрын

My narc mom literally weaponized my breathing against me too. I'd be swimming laps and whenever I'd come to the wall to change gear or whatever, she'd be like "you're breathing hard. Did that wear you out?" Like, you know, somebody is exerting effort to get better at swimming, can't imagine... I have to be a total poker face to avoid some ridiculous comment from her.

Parents, partners, bosses, coworkers. The world is plagued with them.

Exactly what happened to me... My father was just horrible. A black belt narcissist. I ended up marring a woman who did the same thing he did, but more sneaky and covert. I got to the point where I gave up (it took 30 years) and that started a new discard. In the middle of this "fourth" discard over 30 years, I got therapy and finally discovered what was going on. Never again!

Same for narcissistic friends as well.

Very Powerful. I've Been Going Thru This All My Life. They Made Sure I Was Surrounded By Narcissists Thanks For The Video

Thank you so much for this. May everyone that comes to this channel find healing

So right Michele - “change the meaning” and I think that means observe the TRUE MEANING behind the narcissist’s behaviours like as example silently saying to oneself, ‘ah ha, I see they are nastily gas lighting me to pathetically try and satisfy their false image of superiority that belies their insatiable low self esteem’.

@davidt9428

13 күн бұрын

Now having given some true meaning context, I found today just observing “that’s mean” is very useful.

I think those tactics can alleviate the situation a bit, but the narc will still suck out your energy. Because the only reason why we actually connect with other people is to love and be loved. To feel safe to trust. To feel seen and adored by someone else. Any attempt to make yourself emotionally immune is killing a part of your true self. But they don't feel anything. So you always lose in the presence of a narc. I prefer to leave my heart whole and stay away from the demons as much as possible.

@lottiebrown999

15 күн бұрын

@lifechangingquotesandaffir9384 beautifuly put. It's so hard to suppress your authentic self especially when its so far removed from a Narcs behavioural system. Best to move on and let them go. It's OK to do this. We don't have to stay.

@kingdomlivingmiami100

5 күн бұрын

Well said. My son's teacher was a narc. When the 1st opportunity presented itself, I got him out of her class for my sake. He like her as a teacher. The kids were his problem and his teacher mine so it worked out for the both of us.

Damn! Covert abuse is strategic

Thanks, this is how they raised me for 27 Years. I'm so very grateful my "parents" fed me and kept me alive in the desert ......

This video gives alot ofclarification. These soulless people the so called narcissists. Are always so critical to stripe you of your true self. All the while they wear several masks faking,and pretending.Never reflecting on their personality flaws. Neither thinking twice about their cruel abuse. They subject others too.

“Amputate.” Spot-on.

Your doing so much helpinge then my Therapist. I looking to change to one with experience with Narcissism.

I am making progress but sometimes it feels like I am chipping away at a iceberg I'll never see the end of. I loved school when I was young including Art. I have a harsh inner critic still that I'm working on yet I push on. It took a while to start doing the coloring but I bought the stuff and started. I still discounted this my friends and partner have told me how I color is not normal run of the mill coloring. The other day I joked if I put a picture someplace I would only do a sketch and the person said "I should have known you were an artist it makes sense". Even relaying this little bit I'm tearing up because for so long the narrative being fed to me was that I'm "the boring, stead fast, stick in the mud, spreadsheet, list organizer". And I forgot so much yet I recently remembered the joy of a poem being on the board as the best in a lower grade and even doing an ink drawing that ended up being published with select others in a local paper. I was good, I still am yet I was told it was a useless skill and I should stick to the boring stuff it was preferred I be good at (the schools/ teachers were just humoring a young child). I'm working on rediscovering the artist side of me yet they were right about one thing I was/ am darn good at those other things too they're just not as boring and meaningless as they always treated them.

Thank you for all these videos, it is a silent battle, when few people know what have been going on, and being scape goat with a covert Narcissist. I have been improving and soon getting more help, hoping therapy will open the wounds of past even though i know going to be painful, but its part healing. I have not been aware them being Nparents until 1 year ago, and started feeling sicker around them, losing myself for so long been 17ish years looking back, i used to be something but i don't know what i am, lossed my self, know i need to see what i need to do to be me without there influence. i hope this will lead into knowing what decisions to make when still have so many wars in mind and with there lasting toxins still effecting me. all of it depression, anxiety, possibly adhd, and autistic habbits that actually been way i have handled survival mode to live through the darkness. to be able to unwire i can't wait to feel better and enjoy things around me. not falling to same habits that used to do just to distract me and disconnect in those overwhelm situations. anyway thank you again for opening up and explain these elements.

I'm starting to act like my narcissistic mom , I don't want to be like her and I'm trying to heal..

This resonates big-time 😢 ❤️‍🩹🌷

That's why I can't forgive my mother.

I appreciate you and love you 😘.

This my case now!!!

Thank you!❤

thanks. Love.

Sounds alot like rewarding the bad behavior and punishing the good! And probably in a sadistic way🤨 is it possible to heal those scars they cause?

This video helped both my husband and I. Thank you Michelle. In case you want to change it; there’s a typo on your thumbnail - imagine vs. image 😉

Took 3 x's through before it finally wormed it's way in. WoW NOW!! WHAT I hit me now is like - i lnew the idea I now know WHAT TO DO differently inside me. I Was Faking it. I'd do gtge la-de-fa IDC on tde outside but I wasn't sure jow I was gonna survive tgecskow burn on the inside for the rest of my life. Been deaaling with life raping resentment... Thanks

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Are there any acceptions for the 50% off deadline?

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They try to for sure, whatever talent you have is laughed at, underrated even if you've degrees in, as in my case, student loan and all other courses all paid for by me so what gives, I've been supporting myself since I was 17 but now 63 haven't worked in 28 yrs when my daughter, a preemie was born, house and bills/taxes all paid, fridge full, kids grown their post secondary educations paid so? I'm not even on board for whining about my crap pension, really have little patience for listening to my narc family whining victims so I don't! 😊❤

45k views and only 45 comments lmao 🤣 that’s them

It's fine to like or not like makeup. The fact of the matter is that ANYTHING you put on your skin goes straight into your bloodstream. THAT's why makeup is bad. No matter how "natural" its ingredients, your body always pays the price for your vanity. Think about that.

@amberinthemist7912

15 күн бұрын

So it's fine to like makeup as long as you remember it's toxic sludge? OK sure.

@joseenoel8093

15 күн бұрын

Is it just me, have you noticed someone on the news, reg folks in a neighborhood talking about how sad/surprised about a murder yet they've the time to put on fake eye lashes? I agree make up ends up on your insides but some people feel better with it, I don't wear any😅 to wanna be narc hubby's disappointment, tell him it makes me feel like a clown so f-off!