When I left my ex he told me I’d never find another man like him. I said THANK GOD! 😂

@Divinely_Guided444

Жыл бұрын

😂💯💥

@ruthiedavis8786

Жыл бұрын

YES thank God and I can stand in agreement with him on that. So funny, I need a good laugh 😂😂😂

@ceraroberts2691

Жыл бұрын

I had a guy say that to me once and I asked him why he thought I'd want one. He was stunned.

@margaret3239

Жыл бұрын

I had the exact same thing, said to me as well, and I burst out laughing!

@jacquelineglitter4328

Жыл бұрын

LoL. I don't want one and haven't for 20 years now. It's all about me now. It's so powerful making all your decisions with no badgering.

Being in a narcissistic relationship is like being scammed. A fake relationship. Bringing kids into this is heart breaking

@carmengomez8062

Жыл бұрын

😢🙏

@sandrathomas2893

Жыл бұрын

Alienated 12 yrs from my kids

@cherylfahey2924

Жыл бұрын

It is and has been for 10+years. His parents manipulate & took advantage of us w their supposed power & "wealth (mid class immigrants😂")-no offense.. milking it & been bouncing me and them around like ping pong balls I'm breaking it while Im still fairly sane

@cherylfahey2924

Жыл бұрын

@@sandrathomas2893 awful do u need help. I have been close to the same, I see them but it's like they're demonized

@happyjoy338

Жыл бұрын

Yep it happened to me 😥

I was repeatedly told I was crazy and I needed 'help' So I did. At a woman's shelter and through a counsellor there, I first heard the term "narcissism'. Changed my life. ( He also said I had a stupid smile. Ironically during the love bombing stage he would tell me what a beautiful smile I had) Both my narc mom and my narc husband each told me I would 'fall flat on my face' without them. Six years later, I'm doing fine, thank you.

@tanzinafarha5681

Жыл бұрын

So l am not the only one.......

@franceshaggitt3104

Жыл бұрын

🎉 🎉 I have narc mum too ex narc husband and ex

@Lou98910

Жыл бұрын

Seems like a common thing, those of us with narcissist mothers end up partnering up with someone just like our mothers, it's messed up. My ex and mother would say the exact same words, I would get caught off guard every time my ex would repeat words only my mother had said to me years earlier like "you have a stink personality" and "don't tell anyone what goes on at home" and "you're crazy, you need help" and "I know you better than you know yourself" and they both also told me I would be nothing without them. I cut them both off 15 years ago and I am much better for not having them around.

@SunshineDawn7

Жыл бұрын

Good for you ! God Bless ! 🙏🙏❤❤

@vivien4806

Жыл бұрын

Sooo happy for you!!🎉🎉🎉🎉 i sure hope i get there. I get told the same❤

Loving a narcissist FEELS LIKE a hating yourself eventually. Not worth it guys. Flee, flee for your lives.

Narcissists also turn their children against each other. The Golden Child and the Scapegoat. The golden child will likely become a narcissist and hate the scapegoat.

@streaming5332

Жыл бұрын

Yes but the scapegoat just becomes normally neurotic. And gets help.

@angieholt736

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

"I never said that; No wonder they don't like you; You're worse than your mom; You're crazy; You need professional help, you're sick; Toughen up, you're too sensitive; You need me and you know it." He said ALL of these things to me!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

I understand completely 🙌🙏💯

@martinyarbrough1609

Жыл бұрын

Boys are taught that to be a man, you must be insensitive, take abuse and be overwhelming and quash any emotions.

@martinyarbrough1609

Жыл бұрын

And girls must be perfect, and self centered meaning that they are “entitled” so they become narcissistic.

@5319Sharon

Жыл бұрын

😢

@wms72

Жыл бұрын

Yep. I had all those weapons hurled at me in a barrage of 33 years.

YEP. That's right. The Narcissist will never give you closure. I have found that one of the hardest things in life, is creating my own closure. In these situations (with Narcissists), we MUST create our own closure. We will be dragged thru the mud until we are completely destroyed, if we keep looking to them for the explanation we will never get. If we DID get an explanation, it would only be lies (like all of the other things the Narcissist makes up).

@FuelForSuccess55

Жыл бұрын

Amen it’s been 15 years for and she was the one cheating on different occasions lol God gave me closure But she converse with our Daughter but me 😱

@dirtbagliberalsnake5729

Жыл бұрын

All i recieved over text after i asked if it was all over was " i hope so". Then ghosted. Then 3 months later she texts me saying she wished i was with her. I greyrocked and havent heard back since.

@marcialussier2467

Жыл бұрын

correct. the last tim i talked to him, he started a fight, accused me of having a secret thing for an ex from 20years ago, i told him to knick off gaslighting, or we have nothing more to say, he hung up. i ignored him, 6 weeks ater he texted...i know your missing me, love....alllll abut him. i sent a picture of me all dressed up out partying. never heard another word. 😂

@angieholt736

Жыл бұрын

The person we fell in love with NEVER EXISTED....just as imaginary as our childhood friend. Therefore, I told myself they were dead.

@dirtbagliberalsnake5729

Жыл бұрын

@@angieholt736 i dont know what to think anymore. I cant accept that she was duping me. I would need her to straightup tell me herself, im stuck on that right now. I just want a reason to give up hope. Btw i should know better, ive been learning for about 4 months now on you tube and websites, no closure. I need to hear it from her that she was using me as a supply and i was just a piece of her puzzle and i dont means shit to her. Then i would truly be able to move on

Some coverts are very "generous" with money and material gifts, and yet they are still Narcissists.

As a footnote, I would add to the list: “I don’t know what you want me to say.” That was one I heard frequently. 🙄🙄. Thank you and God bless you Andrew.

@miovicdina7706

Жыл бұрын

I confirm the "What do you want me to say?". It's sincere, they really think like that most of the time, "what does this person want me to say, I'll say anything to have the control over how they feel about me", and it just slipped out of their mouth and so they said it out loud. Very, very revealing.

@cindynimmo

Жыл бұрын

Yep. So familiar

@cindynimmo

Жыл бұрын

Especially when being asked about infidelity.

@dianne7993

Жыл бұрын

@@cindynimmo trust your instincts

@freedom23812

Жыл бұрын

Oh yes I here this a lot.

My ex told me very quickly that he loves me, probably within a few months of knowing each other. I would tell him, "no you don't, you barely know me". We actually had arguments about it lol. He finally wore me down with his charm and attention and I told him I love him back. I remember thinking at the time that maybe this was a red flag. Next time I will surely listen to my gut instincts.

We went to couples counselling quite early on in our marriage. I had high hopes because I thought we had a communication problem and could work on it together. Epic fail. He appeared calm, stable and reasonable and the female counsellor clearly fell for his persona. By contrast I was agitated and extremely puzzled and struggling to get the right words to express myself. He announced to me after a few sessions that we were wasting money and I had to agree. I can now see what was really going on. Both the counsellor and I were being manipulated and he came out of it feeling like he'd won. I was too idealistic in those days and I'm more cautious and grounded now (mostly!)

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙏🙌😉💯

@SweetColo

Жыл бұрын

I had Exactly the same experience! And was totally disgusted by counselor!! Ended that quickly

@angieholt736

Жыл бұрын

We leave the session feeling like it is our fault, then we try harder to make it work.

@SophieBird07

8 ай бұрын

Yes I had that happen. I also found another, and sh, after hearing both sides looked at us and said flatly …I just can’t help you. I was upset but I realize now she knew what she was talking about. Sadly! She passed away that next week. In any case after finding another therapist I was told, “you just can’t medicate a bad situation”. So long story short, I eventually woke up, left, and lived happily ever after…alone, but with real friends, lol.

So true. They mess with your mind . So sad we can’t see it and get out earlier 😢

@annekerotterdam7499

Жыл бұрын

Yes, that's gaslighting

You are right Andrew, narcs are very bad with money. Every narcs that I have known in my life had money problems. They love to spend money but they don't like to work for it. It has to come easy for them. Great video Andrew have a wonderful afternoon and evening. ❤😊

@mariefrancebourget1749

Жыл бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hi Martha 🤗🙌❤🌞

@truffaut650truffaut6

Жыл бұрын

The narc I know has NO MONEYPROBLEMS. I have them since I met him.

@tmo.48

Жыл бұрын

@@truffaut650truffaut6 exactly!!!

@jodizellmer994

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! They also want the very best of everything, but don't want to work for anything, and expect everything to be just handed to them. Those are the type who would fall for the get rich quick scams.

@mariefrancebourget1749

Жыл бұрын

@@jodizellmer994 agree with you 💯 Jodi. Thank you for your message. Have a wonderful weekend! 😊❤🙏

My wife’s most consistent “saying” has always been “You’re the only person that could ever hurt me” and her second is “you’re too serious, i was just joking”. Meanwhile, her most consistent “behavior” is to ignore me, ghosting, icing out for weeks or months at a time. I never know why she’s mad again and i have stopped asking. I never get a straight answer. But if she was being honest she would probably say “i need my narcissistic supply from you to validate me and you are not giving it to me so i am going to make you hurt by ignoring you because i know that hurts you”. She has said she loves me but actions speak louder than empty words. She has an active social life but god forbid if i ever consider spending time with a friend - silent treatment.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

I understand completely 💯💯😌

@nichill7474

Жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone i keep revising my comment because i could fill the entire comment section with examples. Thanks for all you do. It has proven to me that I am not alone and that female narcs are just as prevalent as male narcs.

@MzUpliftingTea

5 ай бұрын

@@nichill7474 love and light to you! He had EVERY Friday night to go play card with his friends. I ALWAYS had the kids. Even if I did want to do something, the kids went to my moms, and he just went and did something else. I swear I didn't realize that people like this were REAL. I really thought all people were may be broken or imperfect, but not purposely cruel. that has been eye opening!!!

@user-pv3px4nb2m

27 күн бұрын

@@nichill7474 man! You describing me. My marriage of 6 years with my husband has been nothing but a misery. Even tho our relationship are based on a rare circumstance, we met online while he was in Africa, I had to fly out to Africa to get married. Three years later I had to fly out again this time we coming to the U.S together. It’s worth mentioning that my husband is married, Muslim culture but that was not the Ruth of our problem, the foundation of our problem came from my mother whom thanks the KZread videos I. Recently discovered the term NARCISSISM has done a lot of damage in the marriage since day one, the other biggest part of the problem is the fact that he is very very very secretive with his phone that has cultivated and added to my insecurities.

I heard so many of those. Specially the " you need help" and "you're crazy". " you're the love of my life" " my life is empty without you" " It was a joke"

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

9 ай бұрын

💯💯🙏

@gilliangiles7589

4 ай бұрын

exactly. they r the ones who need help

Great video Andrew. Yes in my narcissistic relationship when it first started, he told me he loved me more than anyone ever. I fell for it let him move in it was nice at first. Then he started getting annoyed for little things. I would cook after a long day of work, he would let me finish and then tell me, I actually want to order something instead. If I resisted he would say if you love me you'll do it. Then he would be mad if I took a day off work tell me that I should have gone to work. He would be angry if I didn't tell him how much I got paid for the week, and he's unemployed. He would stop speaking to me all day and if I tried to hug him or something he would tell me to leave him alone. It was a terrible time for me I was in a relationship but felt alone and lost. He would also tell me I was a sick person for being too jealous, all I did was ask him if he was coming home. After being discarded I ran away left behind everything and haven't looked back. Still healing but I'm better. Thanks everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.

@franceshaggitt3104

Жыл бұрын

Hear you... Similar xx

@marthas.4456

Жыл бұрын

Do you mean you let him occupy your house/flat? You lived there first so instead of running away you should just chuck him out.

@carlosgiron1246

Жыл бұрын

@@marthas.4456 Not that simple

@renugaramani1142

Жыл бұрын

,

@ronpflugrath2712

Жыл бұрын

@@carlosgiron1246 they do not give a sh*t if you die....force a stop or keep being abused..

Love the Background! I overheard my Ex on the phone kicking me to the curb, how much she hated me and so on...she didn't know I heard everything she said and 15 minutes later she was hugging on me and saying she loved me! 😂

@franceshaggitt3104

Жыл бұрын

They do that..whine like kids and abuse.. the next day...I love you don't want to lose you

@marcialussier2467

Жыл бұрын

ugh. the s**t that falls out of their mouth...

@dictionarypictionary9872

Жыл бұрын

and two seconds later asking for money and a lift, you couldn't write it.

When I left the narcissist he thought it was a controlling tactic to get him to come after me. He said " You do know I can live without you don't you?". Not the words of one that wants to restore a relationship. What a beautifull day in the beautiful Carolina's Andrew!

Thankyou for this video. This all happened to me. I'm 62 been divorced for over 16 years. N he preyed on me, cause I was a strong woman. He has broken me, I have suffered mental issues all my life. Now I have to pick myself up n it's hard. Know who I was before, n find myself again.

I have been told by narcissists that my mom does not like me!! I was also shocked. Then I realized he wanted to cause divide between me and my mom and devalue me. He also wanted my mom to provide financial favors . What an evil creature!!!

After 3 encounters (at the fair we were both working at), he said, "I think I just found my next wife!" I stuttered out, "try not to say things like that." However his words DID plant seeds of hope and certainty in me.

@marcialussier2467

Жыл бұрын

yeah, they make you believe you have a future with them...

They definitely let you "borrow" money. But they use it as a method of control. They will devalue, verbally, mentally, and emotionally abuse you with it. I experienced it with the last one. Smh

I have found that they will give gifts and money, but you find out later that it was to obligate you.

@qw3rty302

Жыл бұрын

Yes I’m currently experiencing that with my narcissist mom where I’m at the discard stage and she is telling that I owe her back for the money given to me to get me to leave my narcissist dad by buying her things for her next job interview but the reality is all of my friends with normal parents tell them “you don’t owe me anything but being a good person and doing better for others and yourself “, overtime she and my narcissist dad gaslit me into helping them out/buying them things till I was dead broke and in 5k in credit card debt over the course of giving money but then after their divorce they both had money and didn’t need the help. It’s insane the financial abuse that goes on, be careful with your money out in public if your around them,don’t disclose financial information and Grey rock it till you get out. Be safe.

@Amy-eb4gv

Жыл бұрын

@@qw3rty302 oh wow. I went through same kind of thing with my mother with the financial ensarement. I cut off contact two years ago, but she continues to send gifts and really fake, sweet messages that turn hateful the second I don’t fall for it. Luckily, I am about to move and will be able to change my contact info. Of course she smears my character to anyone who will listen because she is my family, she is old, and she is sick, which is supposed to obligate to me to abuse. I know how hard it is. Stay strong. 🙌

The story about a narcissist feeling sorry for our parents because we are "difficult" reminded me of something. Someone said exactly that phrase to me and it was my dentist, I was sedated, mouth open, not allowed to move.... I rolled my eyes in disbelief and well I changed dentist. There are so many narcissists in this world, and a lot are successful, because they try so hard and need it so bad...

@sunset6010

Жыл бұрын

A dentist? A consummate narc huh ?

Besides the romantic part of your break down of what the narcissist says, everything else I was subjected to by my mother and siblings - you are crazy, you need help, etc ....and of course the silent treatment, which was the most painful of all being victim of this toxic, mental abuse

As soon as I said, "I love you", I was TOAST!!!

He said over and over, “you are mine!” He spoke in a nasty disrespectful way too, but I won’t repeat what he said. Just degrading. I used to cringe. I deserve so much better! I know that now. I’d rather stay single then to ever deal with that abuse again.🙌🏻💙☀️

Ugh. Heard them all. Many times from different people. I agree on the "you are your own soulmate", this process has given me the courage to embrace time on my own again, be open with others about that being how I want my life to be and not worry when people judge me for it. I always knew I was an introvert, but I'm getting the same feeling of happiness and contentment from when I was a child returning, now that I'm embracing having time to myself. My ex's lovebomb line was "I've waited my entire life to meet you". But the truth is that I've waited my entire life to meet the real me. Thank you Andrew 🙏

@MattyNelson-rs3ik

8 ай бұрын

Beautiful ❤

“What are you talking about”. I heard this phrase everyday for twenty years ! I’m divorcing now and feel like a new and improved women! Thank u for your videos ! 😉👍

I dated a “licensed professional” who was a textbook narcissist. Careful giving them too much credit. Thanks for the good info.

@july77773

Жыл бұрын

Yup. Mine was a doctor.

This all sounds so familiar especially the devaluing remarks & being told he was just joking and that I couldn't take a joke! Also that I was crazy repeatedly and tried therapy only for him to stop going when the therapist called him out. Praise God I got away 6 months ago and am now in the healing phase and videos like this validate and educate us so we can truly understand what we have been thru. Praying the future holds a healthy, happy, nurturing relationship!!!

Hi Andrew. I can relate to your list. I remember “you are the love of my life.” In the devaluing stage, “you are weak”. over and over again. Toward the end of the relationship, I stood up for myself and said I am not weak. Their response was “I was just joking. Wow, you are so sensitive.” I don’t miss the narcissist at all. I didn’t realize how toxic it was until I left. Freedom is wonderful. God bless everyone on this channel.🌈🕊️🦋🌺🦅

The top 10 phrases from narcissists might vary a bit, but I’d said you nailed it. Instead of “you’re crazy” I would hear “you’re damaged” And THERAPY? 🤣 😅 let’s just say I certainly DID go (alone). These narcs are bad news and the abuse is real. Don’t fall for the charm. 🚫 It’s such a beautiful thing to be OUT of these ensnarements. Have a wonderful evening Andrew and everyone ❤🙏

@gratefultobehere

Жыл бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 💖🦋🙏

@kellybuettner5216

Жыл бұрын

I was told I was a fat pig and a train wreck. So glad I left that POS years ago.

Have a lovely Weekend everyone you are all beautiful people Here THANKS ANDREW,you are keeping us educated, awake and aware , 😊✨✨🌼🕯️❤️🙏

@flowerpower4944

Жыл бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 hi Martha hope your doing well lots of love sent ,hope you have a great weekend 🤗❤️✨✨✨🌼

@ruthiedavis8786

Жыл бұрын

🖐🏾 Hey ❤️✌🏽🙏🏽

@jennifernewton4637

Жыл бұрын

🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗

@desiderata333

Жыл бұрын

Aww you too! have a most wonderful weekend! Blessings and love. 🦋🙏🏽💗

Narc said, “ I’m right even when I’m wrong” 😳 🤦🏼‍♀️ when he had $$, he loaned to a family member, but with interest, 7%. 😮 when he borrowed, he made no mention of additional interest. Never talk about $$ with a narc. Hi Andrew, have a nice evening ✌🏼🌺

Narcissists will never apologize for being wrong

When I asked ‘what happened?’ Or why do you think...? . about something he was upset about or had happened at work, the gym , shopping etc.. all I ever got was “I don’t want to talk about it “. Was always only one side of the story and he was always right and the victim. So frustrating !

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯💯😉

That's for sure. Credit rating is a great indicator to give a clue "You might be with a Narcissist. " ✌️💯

@jessmason2112

Жыл бұрын

Hi Mrs. Martha.✌️ kinda slow 🐌 at work and looks like Thunder ⚡ storms rolling into Chicagoland.😬 We had hail yesterday in and around Joliet.

Whats yours is theirs, and what's their's is their's. TRUTH.

Heard them all, especially, the crazy one. When angered, the vile sexual remarks came full force. Later told "Lighten up Francis ", and that it was only a joke. 🤦‍♀️

@lisamariesmith3610

Жыл бұрын

They’re always joking because that’s their way of not taking responsibility for anything in their life.

@Divinely_Guided444

Жыл бұрын

@@lisamariesmith3610 exactly! Anything to take focus off them and not take responsibility.

I am an empath! To the point where even when I am hurt by anyone, (family, children, etc.,) I end up feeling sorry for and apologizing to the abuser! I am forever told by my narcissistic, “man of means”, wealthy husband ..” I give you everything” (material things) … because “I love you”! Emotionally? … he is bankrupt! No emotional support in times of crisis, goes totally silent when I need to voice my feelings in the aftermath of that crisis, no comforting words or actions, total mental and physical abandonment! (Tunes me out or gets up and leaves) I am invisible to him. We literally live separate lives under the same roof for the past 46 years. Our 7 children are grown w families of their own, the huge house is empty, it’s become my prison, for I’ve lost the will to set one foot out the door. Yet, I forever feel guilty and so sorry for him when I stand up for myself. What is this called? I’m the one who has been counseled since I’m 30 years old in thinking I’m the bad person. Is this what narcissists do? I’m so beaten down now that I literally pray for death! How do I handle this? I am so happy I found you Andrew. Your content is amazing. Blessing to you!

@carieyoung1111

Жыл бұрын

You are codependent- keep going and heal yourself. Help is available out there

Wow, Andrew, you have provided this safe place for so many of us to converse and share and take comfort and strength in each other! Thank you! Namaste and peace strength love and joy to you

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

I've said those phrases quite recently, but I'm a very intense and obsessive person, I wanted to hurt him for a change and it was something as simple and clean as that, I finally saw a way in for the first time and I went for it. Sweet revenge. I just realised today a second ago, I've never been closer to inflicting pain before in my entire life. It's incredibly liberating. Don't see yourself as a victim.

@tonyconnor5691

Жыл бұрын

Both ppl will say these things I've said some of these things but the context matters

Hello Andrew, yes I heard all of these and more. So grateful to be out and almost divorced. 🙏 😊

@flowerpower4944

Жыл бұрын

Ang,🙋🤗👏👏👏✨✨❤️

Let's hope to never find persons like them again. Thanks for the great video and best regards.

I think that one of the best things you can say to a narcissist when they call you crazy (or some other falsehood) is "suit yourself". And if you can smile and walk away it's even better! This drives them nuts!! 😁 It really works with internet trolls too. They never respond to that :)

True Story! I can’t believe i allowed all these to be said to me. Im in tears 😢. Continuing on with my healing ❤️‍🩹. 🙏 ❤

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

😌🙌🙏

The wait staff, bartender always seemed crazy to me that he would be paying so much attention to strangers, when I was sitting with him trying to engage in a beautiful experience! Even on his birthday 🥳 he chose to pay more attention to the wait staff lol Blew me away 😮

Reminds me of the words of an old song, which describes their strategy: 'There is a killer on the road his mind is squirming like a toad'

True, I heard many of these and to be honest, the words: "you'll never find anyone like me again" are so true of them, actually. I'll never find again a person, who would infect my only coping mechanism with perverted and disturbing imagery and then saying it wasn't enough, while calling me too sensitive and conservative... Which I am most certainly not. They gaslit me into believing that there was something wrong in my head for being sick of what they forced me to write, not them being mentally ill and just too much into some crazy, violent stuff. I'll never find again a person so scary and manipulative, who would show me things I never wanted to see, let alone writing them myself, making me ashamed for words written by my hand. This might be a strong conclusion, but... It's worse for me than losing money or being insulted on a daily basis. The fact that they got so deep under my skin and into my head and made me hurt myself by my own art. I swear I will NEVER EVER find any other monster of that sort again, those are rare! (at least I believe)

@mosaicmuse9797

Жыл бұрын

Haa yeah it's like. You'll never find anyone else like me! ...I used to think... Thank God!!!!! 😂.in my head ...because that was the only control I had while planning my escape that he could not reach. Tho mind you quite often...he was a mind reader, so he thought😁!

I couldn't help but laugh outloud because it's so true and happened 😂

@bradmcewen

Жыл бұрын

I do that too at the absurdities that wouldn't have a chance working nowadays. By gosh...i think.we made it !

I am sitting here almost in tears on this video. I had the I think I'm falling in love with you, into the less and less affection over the last 11 years later. Then daily being told I am crazy, he never says that. I need to get meds, so I actually went to a dr and got on meds, he twists that too. I can't talk to anyone when he is around, because he cuts me off and tells them for me. I have no friends because he doesn't like the people I like. He does though. I get accused of cheating all the time. I am so glad I watched this. I have felt so alone in this. I really was starting to believe it was me. I sent this video to my mom.

It's all so often that I watch these video's and I'm amazed at how Andrew seems to be able to reach inside my mind and know what I have been through. Looking at Andrew in this video in comparison to the first ever video I can see peace and happiness that has grown more as time goes by. Thank you for helping me face my fear and say "No" Honestly I would've lost my mind had I not found this channel

She said, about my deceased father. “He worked himself to death for you.” My dad had been dead forty years when I met her. She only wants to say the most manipulative hurtful things. She then got the waitress to pack up the dinner to take out, (we were in a restaurant at night.) We left, walking back to her apartment and she suddenly threw the bags of food away onto a terrace of a house we were walking past, we were in Brooklyn on Henry St. (Coincidentally, my Dads name was Henry) I had no idea, even to this day, why she was angry. I had not said anything, did anything to make anyone angry.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

😌🙏💯

@xenajade6264

Жыл бұрын

I've had similar experiences where the narc suddenly got outraged and furious for no apparent reason while we were out somewhere, then accused me of "ruining everything".

So much truth. My husband of 38 years left 3 years ago with OW because I kept exposing him and I wasn’t going anywhere with him because whenever I went he would totally ignore me and just used me to drive home because he was getting drunk. But I hear that he’s eating dirt these days. I’m happy with myself because I have been liberated from someone who was trying to destroy me. I love myself now and I am so valued by my Creator Jesus. He has now become my everything. I pray for everyone that reads this comment that God opens your eyes to those narsasists/demons so that you no longer feel as if no one loves you because Jesus does and that’s all that matters.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙌😌🙏☀️

@roslyncerro1263

Жыл бұрын

Agape love, give all that love to yourself. I left a 33 year "marriage" 14 years ago. Solo is peaceful and wonderful.❣️

@nachis3

Жыл бұрын

@@roslyncerro1263 I AM-I love being by myself-So much freedom.

@roslyncerro1263

Жыл бұрын

@@nachis3 ❣️

@TorahisthetruthPsalms

Жыл бұрын

Jesus is a idol. And a narcissist loves Christianity because it gets to cast its sin onto a innocent. The Creator is not a creation. Jesus is a human /creation. The Christian Bible is fraud. Get yourself a artscroll stone edition tanakh/Hebrew Jewish Bible & Chumash and May your eyes be open to the truth.

Another great video… my ex husband didn’t say all of these things but did say some of them… but he was very controlling and I had financial abuse and emotional abuse from him… anything and everything we bought was his decision … never mine. He treated me like he didn’t think I was smart enough to make any decisions…made life so difficult every day it was always something … I was apologizing every day for something…and walking on eggshells

@Hatbox948

10 ай бұрын

Hopefully you've left him.

@paulineware-51

10 ай бұрын

@@Hatbox948 Yes I did leave him 10 months ago after nearly 30 years!!! Am divorced now and living my best life in my new home. So peaceful here and I’m happy 😊!!!🙏❤️💕🥰🙌

@Hatbox948

10 ай бұрын

@@paulineware-51 Good for you! God bless!

Andrew I went through every bit of this. They should be a law to lock up people who abuse people like this. It’s life altering and it can destroy a person’s life

I heard all of these and then in the end he turned my sons against me. Thank you Andrew. You’ve helped me so much.

@wms72

Жыл бұрын

Mine did, too. My adult son actually assaulted me, unprovoked, on Jan. 30. I thought he'd kill me.

@user-xe9gv3tr3y

Жыл бұрын

@@wms72 I’m so sorry. Narcissists are master manipulators…they can literally make anyone believe anything.

From my narc dad, one thing I hear CONSTANTLY is “I bought that!” or “I paid for that!”. If THAT doesn’t work, it changes to “Well it’s under MY roof!” 🙄🙄🙄 That’s to make me feel like I own NOTHING in it’s entirety and ANYTHING can be taken away at ANY time. 😒😒 GREAT video Andrew! Looks like a BEAUTIFUL day there! Enjoy your evening, handsome! Love you!!! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗😘💋😘💋😘💋😘💖👑💖👑💖👑💖❤️‍🔥💞❤️‍🔥💞❤️‍🔥💞❤️‍🔥

@flowerpower4944

Жыл бұрын

Jennifer I hope you are keeping well love,light ,and peace sent,hope you enjoy your weekend remember you come 1st 2nd And 3rd tons of love and Healing strength sent,🌸💋🙋🙏🌼🕯️✨✨❤️❤️❤️🤗🌺🌺

@jennifernewton4637

Жыл бұрын

@@flowerpower4944 You too, Flower! Lots of hugs! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗

@flowerpower4944

Жыл бұрын

@@jennifernewton4637 yea tons of love sent✨✨🌼🕯️🕯️❤️🙏💋🌸💗🙋🌺

@flowerpower4944

Жыл бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 ✨🌺🕯️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙋

@jennifernewton4637

Жыл бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hey Martha and Flower!!! 🙌🙌🙌🤗♥️💖✌️🌷🫶😊💞💜🐶😺🌻😌

I heard all of them and finally understand it's just bs. Narcissists can not be believed. Their words are too hurtful and damaging. Best not to talk to them because it's a waste of your time and energy. Another great video!

Andrew, you know the tree is moving. Have a great week!

I’m so thankful for your Channel. I’m going through all this. He threw my childhood up in my face (I grew up in foster care) and he said, “you should know growing up in foster care you don’t always get closure”. This was during the discard phase. The previous woman he was with took her life because of him….

@susanq6398

Жыл бұрын

That is the saddest thing I have ever heard

"You are to sensitive" is one of many of them. Andrew..Thank you for sharing the education on narcissists....more and more I realise how important it is. When I was observing it and then going through it myself I didn't know what it was....after I left I came across your channel and a book about gaslighting...the education started from there. I recently experienced a couple of narcissists in a workplace....I recognised it straight away....others were oblivious to it and had no idea how abusive and manipulative their behaviour actually was. I left...I wasn't prepared to put myself through it all again. In both cases I experienced a smear campaign in different ways.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

4 ай бұрын

Welcome..🙏💜😌

I love that tree behind you. I'm glad you have a warm sunny day.🙂 "I don't want to talk about it". That was a frequent one I heard. Great video 🙂 God bless!

I love her so much but she meets every checkmark on the list. I'm a year in the relationship (on and off, of course). These videos help me realize that I'm not crazy. My friends were right about her. They knew her long before I did and told me she was a narcissist shortly after she contacted me. I thought my friends were being immature, she's perfect after all. She's gradually isolated me, got a job with me, push and pulled our relationship dramatically, demeaned me, and she always breaks up with me by saying "it's not you, it's me", before she reels me back in

Wow!!! This is so spot on , I’m learning so much from your information 🙏🏽

They are the joker! Everything is a joke to them, its sick! How about, just remember, no one will want to be with you, now that you have baggage! I thought this was a very disgusting thing to say to a single parent. Namaste, strength, peace, and gratitude that I am here❤🙏

Brilliant and 100% true. As an empath I have heard these statements also from clients trying to impress me or from ones being helped to see the truth. These "markers" always reveal the true low vibe and can they can pour on a victim mode personality when they are on the "hunt" for a new mark. Well done!

Wow this was very True,ANDREW, I heard all these things.no1, were cut from the same cloth,..2, your like coco cola the real thing,..etc then the complete script flipped over to ,shaming, blaming,guilt tripping, gaslighting, taking my DVDs and giving them away, moving my phone, keys , poisoning me against my 2sons, that was the last straw,I got out for Good,Thanks ANDREW 🤗❤️✨✨✨✨🕯️🌼🙏

@flowerpower4944

Жыл бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 hi sending love ,light ,and inner peace now and always 🤗❤️🙏✨✨✨🌺🕯️

@gratefultobehere

Жыл бұрын

❤🤗

@sunset6010

Жыл бұрын

Leaving is like being born again.

Andrew. Thank you for your videos. They are full of experience and wisdom. You are providing a great service to me because you bring clarity to the torment I suffered through and the agony I experienced for 6 years. Trauma to my soul has been severe but with your help I am sorting through the bonds of hell and recovering slowly but steadily. The angst within is palpable but I am resolute to becoming whole again and rebuilding myself to where I am within the boundaries of my own frame. To those who have experienced the wickedness and treacherous behaviors of narcissists, there is a slight comfort in knowing we, the whipping posts of our narcs, are not alone in this nightmare. It’s work to recover but possible to work through all our issues and become the best versions of ourselves because we are good people with compassion and empathy is crucial to being caring and compassionate people. One lesson that I learned is compassion is expensive and painful when the recipient of our love is an narcissist abuser. No reciprocation from the narc is dreadful/

Listening to this list brought up so many feelings I thought I healed from. I heard every single one of these things over and over for 14 yrs 😭

Somehow this video appeared on my feed. I figured I’ll listen to what you have to say. I have to admit I’m amazed and shocked at just how spot on you are. My sons mom also doesn’t want to talk now that long eventually everything is 15 years ago when I left her due to her ways. I even have a saved text where she admits keeping my son away from me. I drove 18-25 hrs straight, flew many times and moved and gave and gave all to see and be with my son, but to this day she still says what did you do or have done for me then ? She says I’m the narcissist and she lives in a perfect world everything that she does says and thinks is positive 🙄.

Congratulations on 130k subscribers, Andrew! We appreciate all you do!❤❤❤🎉😊

Yes indeed! "Think about that for a minute" Now one of my Mantras 😅 ❤ Thank-you!

The narc who preyed on me would tell me to my face, emails, texts, voicemails how much he loved me, wanted us to be together, marry, retire together, all very ardently. I believed him, swept me off my feet. I would see his flirtations on FB. There were other signs he indicating there were other women he denied. Words not matching his actions really confused me until I came across a new word “narcissist.” Then it all made sense. Now I know that those loving words were just bait to suck me back to servanthood. It was not a relationship but a situationship, a one sided con job. The trauma bond has been very painful. We become addicted to them through various chemicals working together in our bodies. It is hard enough to know who you were so deeply in love with wasn’t real, but you also became literally addicted in the process and a human can find such enjoyment inflicting pain on others like this. Sick!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing ☀️🙌💯🙏

Andrew , the video was so good I had to share it . Sadly I have heard these phrases and many more . Dark night the soul , I don't even know how I possibly survived it . Almost didn't . You are brave enough to make videos and help people through the battle . You are a warrior and a blessing .Thank you Andrew !

@juleshappy741

Жыл бұрын

What a blessing that you made it out! Congratulations 💪🏽

Andrew, I have to tell you, that look you give after you announce what the video is about, makes me laugh each time. How do you keep from laughing? I love your videos, a lot of them are eye poppers and ta das 💡. I am grateful to have found your channel, you really get the gears turning. My narcissists fits tightly in the box you describe them to be. I love that you do descriptions, and then advice, very well done. I'm going to be educated, thank you so much ❤️🇺🇸

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 🧐🤔🤭😊

@itsjuustmedontchaknow4163

Жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone not in a bad way 🙂 thank you.

@itsjuustmedontchaknow4163

Жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone could you answer a puzzling question? 🤔 Why do people leave when a narcissist is in your life? The work narcissist I had made my friends angry, he picked at them manipulating them when they were visiting me, I went in the other room, and came back and one of my friends was in tears. He was just shrugging at me and half laughing. She was happy when she had come over and was only alone with him for ten minutes. He tried to know all my friends, especially the ones that I knew for a long time. I would think perhaps if someone was your friend, they wouldn't leave. But she had a narcissist, really bad, and he tried to destroy all her friendships, got her fired every job she applied to. He made my life miserable, tried to run me off the road and looked back laughing. It makes sense the way you lay it out. He had a girlfriend who would do the same and manipulate everything she could, just to please him. She would call me countless nights crying. We couldn't figure it out. Now I can tell her, thank you!! ❤️🇺🇸

My red flag really ought to have been when a 30yo woman said "you're a really good cook, will you teach me?"

Great video. My narcissist husband has been saying this a lot "at least I know not my fault" Then I found out yesterday that he is having an affair. Thanks for your channel!💖

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 💯🙏😌💪

My narc told me I drove him crazy, he wanted to elope at first ,the list goes on. I now realize I was being sized up , he tried to see what I was open to ! Now I'm getting over the discard. Can't believe how they get in your head , just obsessed with themselves real parasites. But I thank him because he gave me the opportunity to find someone better.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙏💯😌

Thank you again and again, Andrew!!! 😊❤😊

He said something hurtful to me and afterwards he would say "I'm only joking, but there's an element of truth in every joke." Mixed message for sure. ⁉️ 🤔

@hollylorn131

Жыл бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hi Martha ❤️

@KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD

Жыл бұрын

Mine said there’s truth in jest wtffff

@hollylorn131

Жыл бұрын

@@KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD That's interesting. I guess my ex wasn't the only narcissist who said that.

@mariageaney2362

Жыл бұрын

Same for me only from time to time he would say he " joked with the truth"!! Total power control freak. They can be so deeply cutting. Call us over sensitive, he told me I was an emotional wreck , when he was cold to me I would get even worse untill I made myself believe he was getting a thrill out of tormenting me. So then I just started to work on my poker face!! Love you honey 🙏💕 you are strong and galvanised now.😘💞🔥💪💯🎶🌹🌺🌸

Everything you said is Spot on! Thank you Andrew

When he/she says: « You’ll never find someday like me », You answer: « I hope I will never meet somebody like you! Good people exist, I can find them! ».

Good Afternoon Andrew ....always good to gain some knowledge ....

Thanks Andrew for sharing the knowledge! So helpful with the healing! All theses comments were too familiar. Heard all of them and then some...My ex narc BF was of all things a psychologist...me thinking he's a professional, he must be right ...WRONG! I went from being the most wonderful person he ever met to crazy and needing therapy. Luckily, I crossed path with a GOOD psychologist that saw right through him and help me see again. Still healing but I love where I'm heading! Again... Thanks for sharing! You are making a difference! Namaste!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Namaste 🙏😌🙌💯

My heart goes out to the ladies...yes there are men out there that are easily the devil's sons...but he also had daughters and I never knew...my soon to be ex wife of 7 yrs...would always tell me "I've never loved like this"...the sad part is that's what I truly felt...I had a crush on her in high school and 20 something yrs later we ran into each other and I thought I had met the best thing I'd ever half...wow ild give anything to turn back the hands of time...I don't wish this pain on my worst enemy and I can count on one hand how many enemies I have...well I just added one to the list...God Bless to all of you survivors....stay strong and keep me in prayer

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

6 ай бұрын

😌🙏💯🙌

Nailed It. Excellent Talk.- All Accurate🎯💯🔥🔥🔥

Love these kinds of videos! I love the raw , real content that you provide because not only do you give the honest and real, you lift ppl up… thank you for your amazing content ❤️

Part of my ex narc's smear campaign is that I took advantage of him...meanwhile he stayed in my home rent free (his idea, not mine) and that is the real story of why I kicked him out and changed the locks...

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💪💯😉

Oh my!!!! You nailed it!!! Thank you.

Thank u so much for your videos, Everyone of them has helped Me!

I love listening to your wisdom ❤

You forgot one, " no one is gonna want you" ! Sorry you had to go through this but you found your way back!! You look great stay strong!! 😺

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

😊💯💪😉

God Bless and thank you Andrew!! 💐

I used to keep letters, birthday cards, postcards, and other things and these things have been stored in boxes, resorted, organized, put in other boxes for most of my life. My wife's notes and letters are in the mix. I haven't reread through these thoroughly as I'm condensing my stuff that's in boxes, etc., once again at this stage of life. What I have glanced back through on these notes and letters from my wife is really resonating with the content and knowledge that I'm learning now today. There's a lot of that "I can't wait to be yours forever" type stuff. There's many points beyond this. I have a note from her that says something like, "sorry, I took over your room today, but I'll put it back," And, anyway, I came across a 35mm photo I had taken of my old room where I had started doing some painting/art on the wall. I had forgotten all about that one. I seriously only vaguely remember this one. I did another one previously on the wall and I remember that one; only difference is one was where that person, my wife, was in my life and the other was not. One note was even had a "sorry, I didn't mean all that last night" stuff, but looking back..... Beyond that, before my wife, I had a friend that may have been a narcissist, a really good friend, female. She would drop a ton of notes and fun art stuff at me. I probably did the same for her. I didn't reciprocate when I think she wanted more and my boundary at that maybe just repelled her as a friend even. I have to wonder, I mean, even as just a friend as I look back and think about it, that friend really just discarded me. And that was a friend I really liked, too.

Andrew I’m shattered. Are you saying he’s a lying POS. If there’s a positive in meeting one of these evil people it’s that if you’ve met one you’ve met them all. The only difference between them is they have different faces so we can tell them apart. 🙄

Thank you Andrew… obviously I love your name ! Keep up with great work of alarming people to the dangers of narcissistic goons. They are literally like the lion look to whom they can devour!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 😌🙌🙏💯😊

Andy you always drop so many jewels. Keep up the good work.

I am glad I found you chanel, you are amazing!!