I greatly appreciated this insightful conversation. You are both remarkable women who understand so much about highly sensitive people and narcissistic abuse. Thank you for caring about all of us.

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

The wait is usually a week. If you shoot me an email I can shoot you a link to see before you buy. Tracy@narcissistabusesupport.com

Hey Tracy, great to see you! Congratulations on the absolute success of your bestselling book “DIVORCING YOUR NARCISSIST: You can’t make this shit up”. Another great guest and interview topic! You are always spot on!!!💕🙏🏼😃📚

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Marni!!

Interesting. My mom recently told me she never understood when I was a kid why I cared so much about people. I had not considered that I might be an HSP. Just another possible route to better self understanding.

This explains so much to me about my situation especially the comments in second half of the conversation. Thank you.

Excellent information ladies. Thank you. Love, A woman who cries at commercials n couples walking hand n hand and animals n comments on YT or radio.... I get it. I understand that. As strong as people say I am they know I'm just as sappy n squishy n feel so sensitive. XO to you.

Became chronically ill and severe anxiety bedridden 2 1/2yrs back in 2013. Had to separate from the marriage.

my addictive 'retreat' has been sleep. a small mercy compared to substance or other behavioural self soothing. it has consumed far too much of my potential and life though. i would rather be positive, hopeful and alive! 🙏

I’m a guy and def have the HSP/Empath superpower. My dad would always make fun of me for holding back tears while watching movies and I would tell him to go fuck himself.

Wow Leslie GREAT INFORMATION!!!💕🙏🏼😃

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

Its so important for survivors to understand :)

Thank you!

I know people (often in medical fields) love to go on about how great it is to communicate with people through screens. And in some cases I can see benefits, but we need to become very careful that it doesn't become the "normal" way to interact. People do benefit extraordinarily from actual in person contact. I can see some very serious long term negatives if this trend continues.

I feel so overwhelmed. But what I THINK I need is ... I need the support from someone who, a Here after.. have seen

@melanieaamodt4606

2 жыл бұрын

Ok.. Here it is... Has nobody but me fallen for someone who was REALLY, a person who was an unconditionally NCP person... I had never even heard the term NARCISSIST. Now, I understand it. But having loved him - & believed he was " Evolving.". . And to discover that I had, in fact, been oblivious to 32 years of marital lies and infidelity ioning who REALLY

@melanieaamodt4606

2 жыл бұрын

And my adult children now believe all of his charismatic lies about me... Because I taught them that he was a hero... I worshipped & believed him.....too!!! Eventually.. , pretty soon now. ..) that he would have time for them. And suddenly,. HE DID,,,! The attention they had longed for, He "love bombed" them for.... And all their childhood longing has come true.

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry Melanie, you sound like you need some support. Have you been to my website it has many resources, therapist listings, and my coaching info, support group info and answers. Are you in a Facebook group? The link to mine is also on the site go to narcissistAbuseSupport.com You don’t have to do this alone, let’s get you some hope. ❤️❤️

sensitivity has not been a 'super power' in my life. it has been disabling because of the behavioural fractals that stem from it. anxiety. perfectionism. ocd. depression. suicidal ideation. malignant covert narcissistic abuse. the functional ramifications of these on my education, my chances of a career and my entire hopes of a future have been utterly, utterly catastrophic. 🙏

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry. 😢

@inhale.exhale.2527

2 жыл бұрын

here's a test. how sorry? what does your sorrow mean - for either of us? for me it is just a fleeting comment and a cartoonish emoji against a lifetime of real struggle and pain. it's almost hurtful in its glibness. i cannot even try to be mindful (🙏) of that. it hurts as i go on suffering. as so many others do while some take profit from that. its become a bizness, a market sector and not the diabolically dysfunctional feature of our times. a genuine 'bonfire of the vanities'.

TY, For addressing this for both genders. Namaste 🕊️Peace 🤸 Shalom 🐵

I didn’t know you were on IG!! Very good🌺

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

I am everywhere ❤️

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is an hsp a sensitive codependent? thoughts. 🙏

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

The traits may overlap. Codependency is a series of behaviors like putting other peoples needs before your own, people pleasing… we usually deploy these behaviors when we are in an abusive relationship to survive. If we are always walking on eggshells with a narcissist we learn if we please them the angry bear is easier to deal with.. once the abuse is gone and we learn to heal those behaviors tend to not be needed in our next chapter so we can let them go. Hope that helps

@inhale.exhale.2527

2 жыл бұрын

@@TracyAMalone i don't think they ever go. they are hard-wired from before we were even self aware - which brings into question the very existence of externalised sensitivity. does it even exist or is it just a dysfunctional coping mechanism just like narcissism 🤔. 🙏

@inhale.exhale.2527

2 жыл бұрын

ps. the ultimate victory for narcissistic abuse - short of suicide - is the death of hope. i am absolutely shattered. a shattered onion. layer upon layer of this shit we call a figment of existence. life!

what happens to a male hsp? you get brutalised. a defensive response is brutality. 🙏

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

We all do

@inhale.exhale.2527

2 жыл бұрын

@@TracyAMalone i say this particularly as a male. you get your nose rubbed in this perception of weakness. i would have been a good country doctor or vet. instead i am a broken man. 🙏

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

We love sensitive men! Embrace it and fuck the haters.

@inhale.exhale.2527

2 жыл бұрын

@@TracyAMalone 😁. i was not born in a conducive environment. colonial africa. it was entirely toxic and fathoming the depths of this has taken me my lifetime. it runs so deep. how to now 'recover' is the current problem. a conducive environment and community would help immeasureably but it's a rare thing indeed. 🙏

@TracyAMalone

2 жыл бұрын

Try my Facebook group ❤️