What business does a man who can't manage his own finances have in teaching anyone about financial responsibility?

@Jazzatic2011

5 ай бұрын

Best comment!

@nancythane5672

5 ай бұрын

That's 🐷 code for, "Give me your brat's money, I'm'a gonna waste it on me and MY brats!!"

@feiery

5 ай бұрын

Exactly. Op has more fiscal responsibility than that man-child ever had. His own sister sided with Op.

@WeatherInOrlando

5 ай бұрын

He ruined a $900 item on purpose, he's the most irresponsible one by far

@MegaNumberXIII

5 ай бұрын

Came here to say this. The man put them in the hole buying so much shit they have to pay off and he's trying to say she's irresponsible with her money?

FINALLY! A mother who doesn’t side with the abusive stepfather.

@theredditshow8951

5 ай бұрын

Nah the mother is the biggest a-hole. The step is a POS, but the mom knew this and she kept him around. The abuse didn't just magically start, I guarantee he's done ish like this for years.

@justacutie5201

5 ай бұрын

Umm... did you miss the part where she HAS TO work because the step dad doesn't want to budget her into their lives? Yet her mom is funding step dad and step son....her mom socks.

@Nabee_H

5 ай бұрын

No, the only person in this entire story that was an actual good person that deserves praise is the Uncle. Mother sounds like shes the one who's been enabling stepdad this whole time and the court was right that the bio-dad should've been the original person who took custody which sucks that he got injured. Her story does a really good job at depicting a good father figure vs a bad one. Aunts and Uncles are great Mother/Father figure sub-ins for the times that the original parents can't do their job.

@SRKStar

5 ай бұрын

Gosh I wish mine did that 😭 people forget that emotional trauma is still trauma 🙃

@shizukagozen777

5 ай бұрын

Right ??? I was so surprised ! I'm really happy that everyone has her back. 😢💓

damn she saved 25k before graduating HS! this girl is going places.

@mztweety1374

5 ай бұрын

Ikr! I love this kid! My daughter started working when she was 16, literally the day after her bday thanks to the pandemic. I don’t ask about her savings, I don’t ask her for loans. If anything thing she insists on loaning me money or buying me food because she doesn’t think I eat enough 😂😂😂

@arain764niara

5 ай бұрын

That's not that difficult to do if you don't have bills to pay

@arain764niara

5 ай бұрын

@@Rektspectful exactly, hence why it should be easy...

@lilyyoung1002

5 ай бұрын

Only downside is that she will have some trouble getting some of the financial aid for college due to having so much savings

@user-gu2ux5ob8l

5 ай бұрын

She should pull it out and buy gold. Better intrest than the bank lol and no one needs to know about it.@@lilyyoung1002

The fact that the step dad fled the house right after the daughter left and went to hide out as his friend's house after the fact says a huge amount about him. If he ever thought he was in the right on any level, he wouldn't have run away like a childish coward.

@Rairyuujin

5 ай бұрын

Unk was right to call him a bish lmao 🤣🤦🏾‍♂️

@shizukagozen777

5 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@DeeBraynt2010

5 ай бұрын

He was possibly hoping that he could destroy the dress and OP would easily fall for his gaslighting afterward and hand over her savings to him and his Entitled Brat. He ran when Reality kicked him in the @$$ and reminded him that he's not in an RPG where that kind of 💩 works.

Put the PS5 in the washing machine, "Don't spend your money on things that can be easily destroyed"

@crystalsumpera

5 ай бұрын

If she had, it probably would have ruined the drum or even the whole washing machine and I doubt her mom would have appreciated that, personally if I had to be as petty as the stepdad I would have put the PS5 in the dishwasher because you're less likely to damage it (expect for the PS5 of course).

@wrenbyrd1093

5 ай бұрын

Just accidentally spill something on it……oops! 😮

@Nabee_H

5 ай бұрын

Brothers weren't even involved in this, she even stated she loves her little brother and it seems like the other brother just stays away from this and automatically sides with his dad over everything. Unless the step dad has his own PS5 then destroying them would prove nothing and would just make OP the bad person.

@CherryGryffon

5 ай бұрын

@@Nabee_H I disagree. He purchased them, the boys clearly did not as neither had a job. So the father is the one being punished, not them. If they're mad about it, guess they shoulda stood up for their sister to their dad's bullying huh?

@Nabee_H

5 ай бұрын

@@CherryGryffon What utter BS. It's like saying a cop should arrest a bystander for witnessing a murder.

"I'm going to waste money to show you why you shouldn't waste money!" Nah, the dude is jealous that this teenager can handle money better than most adults.

The uncle is 100% right, the mom is enabling the husband. Just ''defending'' the daughter doesn't do shit if she doesn't actually *protect* her. And she actually has the gall to get angry and defensive despite letting her daughter live with this monster of a man. She didn't even care that her hubby was bullying her only daughter, didn't even bat an eye that her child had to work for years while the sons get to be spoiled. ''No john, don't shoot our daughter'' Man: shoots daughter ''oh welp, I defended her at least''

@MiyaOsamukingofOngi4ri

5 ай бұрын

…😐

@iwritesmut59

5 ай бұрын

You reading too into it. She obviously keeping him from doing something he could have tried any other way to get to op oe her money. Her mama on him and he just gonna be salty abt it everytime

@ElkiaStellar

5 ай бұрын

@@iwritesmut59 it's literally there buddy. OP talked about how the step bitch bullied her for years and spoiled her sons and somehow the mom magically won't know about it? She knows, she didn't care until it got to a point where she can't turn a blind eye as usual. If she actually talked to the husband or stood her ground, the guy wouldn't have the confidence to go this far.

@dominiklis6261

5 ай бұрын

@@iwritesmut59 And Beside that, what other thing could she do? Break up with him just like that? At the snap of a finger. Yeah what he did was really bad but not like "break up with him now" type bad. Thoes people who say the mother should break up with him either didn't had that kind of situation happining to them, they don't know the full story or the situation they were in wasn't so hard to deal with. In my opinion she did really good in protecting her daughter, shot down any idea her husband had to control her daughter, talked back to him when he was an asshole to her daughter and not telling him how much money the daughter has nor giving him the password to her bank account. Sure they had a prenup but they still had a kid toghether so it would just be really complicated. Sure she could've say something about her husband spoiling his sons but not OP, but realistically, she probably already done that and it was futile. Still, when her husband crossed a line in destroying her daughter's dress, she stood by her and eventually break up.

@shanewoody4232

5 ай бұрын

Ignoring the fact that the mom is leaving him

"I'll teach her to be more responsible with money by destroying expensive dress she bought with her own money"

The uncle is the hero IMHO. Not only did he help OP replace her prom dress, he gave the "Step-AH the beatdown he was screaming for.

Stepdad was way outta line with this one, the fact that he said that you disrupted the house by having to move in due to your biological dad being paralyzed. As well as trying to force you to pay for his sons prom outfit because you had one. Screw this guy

"then he accused me of loving my daughter more than him", that was the moment my milkshake came out of my nose. I couldn't help but laugh. That is the dumbest shit I have ever heard. Of course she loves her daughter more than you. wtf did you think? LOL! He's even a parent himself and still he somehow thought his gf would love him more than her own child? WTF? I wonder what kind of relationship he and his kids have if he loves random woman more than his own kids..

Any man that does that to your child is NOT WORTH keeping around!!! He showed his own true colors and took no responsibility of his actions.

Why isn't the 18 year-old stepbrother working part-time and paying for his own stuff/contributing to the household expenses? He's a MAN, isn't he? Such hypocrisy. Good for mother!

@thegayestgoth

5 ай бұрын

She was weak and allowed a man to treat her child like that.

Both the mother and biological father are awesome in this. Maybe they were just better apart and both moved far away cause the mom is also really nice to op

@gostavoadolfos2023

5 ай бұрын

the mother was lucky bc she would ve been trapped taking care of a paraplegic man if they didn't break up.

@hansb.jaeyni8230

5 ай бұрын

I'm guessing the mother was no angel. Courts usually don't award full custody to fathers unless the mother is a Trainwreck. People can grow and change, which seems to be what happened, but she definitely had issues when she was younger if the father got full custody.

@Yo99753

21 күн бұрын

I think the mother cheated on biological father. Look at the age gap between Op and Half Brother.

Me as the father or uncle would send him this message........B you have 20 minutes to have that money for the dress here or YOU'RE CATCHING THESE HANDS & FEET ......PERIOD!

@megaman37456

5 ай бұрын

If it were me: You got 1 hour to get that money back for the dress or you'll be wearing concrete slippers by sundown.

@dylanmortimer5815

5 ай бұрын

i feel like that might be difficult for the father considering he was paralyzed

@nancythane5672

5 ай бұрын

​@@dylanmortimer5815Nah. Uncle can hold the creep down while Dad punches him out. Manual wheelchairs really build up the upper body strength!😁

@RandoWisLuL

5 ай бұрын

@@dylanmortimer5815 they didnt specify what kind of paralized we are talking about here. the dad could be Joe from early faimly guy episodes

@gregorywilks1036

5 ай бұрын

@@dylanmortimer5815 yeah you didn't understand the comment right?

The part that gets me is. I'm the man of the house but you don't even own the house... You can't pay the bills and most of it's our mom... You guys tell her that you'll only provide. The bare minimum , if that she needs to pay her own way even though his kids. Especially because there is little Mand how dare she disgrace her brother by having a nice thing. He deserves just as nice as her even nicer. After all he's a man she's just a woman... She should be working to give all her money to him and his son. He's a real man and real men steal from little girls apparently😢

Take his ass to court. Small claims will make him pay that back.

@melissajill6174

5 ай бұрын

Including all the filing fees (and you can go ahead and set up garnishment just to make sure that the judgment gets paid).

Even with your parents...don't share how much money you have. Ever.

So one adult kid has a console but doesn't contribute but the step child is expected to contribute. Yep, nothing wrong with that. /s

I do love how both biological parents dont fight with eachother

Um... Sorry? That money is OP's. It's not money for stepfather and his family. It's OP's money. End of discussion.

As some one who plays video games in their downtime, that hobby is waaaaaay more expensive than a prom dress. Neither are necessities, but we get them because we want them. The audacity and hypocrisy. Also, not once did I hear that this man was employed. What does he do? Does he do anything? Because it sounds to me that he should be looking for (more) work.

Let ur daughter be the queen of her life while she can. I rock wit the family standing up for each other even tho they are divorced

Sounds like step-father is irresponsible with his own money and expected his wife and step-daughter to pay for all his outstanding bills. Given her reaction "It's just a dress," step-dad's mother is the cause of his behavior.

OP's stepdad is a major asshole who has no business lecturing a 17 year old on financial responsibility when he buys stuff he can't afford regularly. Also for thinking OP should be contributing her finances toward the family when he doesn't make his 18 year old son work and pay for things. Although the destruction of her dress that she paid for on her own is particularly cruel and I'm glad OP's mom is leaving his sorry ass, and that OP's uncle delivered some smackdown as well.

Stepdad learned fuck around and find out the hard way.

Stepdad didn’t cook or clean as he was the Man of the House but the mother had to work hard as fck, the stepdaughter paid for her own PROM DRESS, and he couldn’t pay for his own son’s prom? And then the Man of the House decided to ruin her stepdaughter’s expensive dress, paid with her own money, as a way to teach not to spend money unwisely, WHILE BEING PIS* POOR HIMSELF. Oh this Man of the House needed to be at the end of someone’s fist and I’m glad the Uncle volunteered. What an as*. Mother was also enabling the daughter’s harassment but I at least I’m she came through, even while being in such a terrible financial situation. Hope OP had a blast at her prom night.

The uncle is the real hero here!❤ It's always better when a real man stands up to a man child.

I must say, what an amazing family

It's HER money. He's not the man of the house if he can't provide. These dudes are so dumb and toxic.

I worried about prom dress too since I knew my family wasn't well off, but did my dad get upset? Nope. Because some things are worth spending money on. But this guy? Yeah, he's greedy, thinking all money should just be used on him.

It's crazy how people are claiming the mom enabled this behavior. She always sided with OP and we ultimately don't know what was stopping the mom from "just leaving" like people suggested. Way too many people blame parents for not leaving a relationship when they usually don't realize how complicated the situation is.

@MK-io8ov

5 ай бұрын

I agree. It's stated that mom and step dad are not financially stable. She's probably wanted to leave the jerk for a while, but getting a divorce is expensive and a complicated process.

Never tell anybody about your money. Keep it to yourself, your money is your business, nobody else.

That step father is a bully and of course a coward, didn't stick around because he knew he would face the consequences of his actions.

"Man of the house" comes with a lot of responsibilities, it does NOT mean everyone else is your slave its actually the opposite, they are your responsibility

Damage to property is still a crime.

You can totally sue your step dad!

The Step Dad is absolutely pathetic, he can't manage his money and his genius solution was to beef with a child? Amazing.

Imagine a grown ass adult, who is old enough to have an adult son of his own, being jealous of a 17yo who makes considerably less than him being more responsible with a job and money than he AND his son are! 🤦🏻‍♀️Can’t afford Netflix but thinks nothing of ruining a $900 dress because his lazy ass son doesn’t want to work for his own prom outfit? And thinks he can just steal his stepdaughters hard earned money? Damn! He really representing his low morals and entitled character! Narcissistic dynamic duo would the new nicknames for the stepfather and stepbro!

Want and destruction of property

@Optic3161

5 ай бұрын

Not to mention, it could be argued in court that it was done with the pure intent to cause emotional distress.

Children don't pay for bills, that's abuse.

Why do divorced parents always marry the worst people 😭😭

The stepdad is such a AH.

It's not theft but it's criminal mischief

Listening to stories like this makes me happy to have parents who respect the belongings i paid for with my own money

Small claims court. You can have him booked for ruining your property. Definitely meant to ruin the dress. Anyone with common sense knows you don’t was evening gowns in the washer! Bro needs to work if he wants more money, it’s called hustle-&-grind.

bro I make six figures and I cannot fathom to buy a shoe that costs more than 60$. How can someone get a PS5 and multiple 200$ shoes when money is tight? Also a 400~$ car payment? like wtf?

That man is malicious and spiteful and the mom should leave him

The fact he ran away and hid afterward shows that even he knew he did something he wasn't supposed to do.

There were already a bunch of red flags that the mom ignored before they got married. She should have trusted her gut

Dads the control freak, sons his precious little spawn who needs actually good people in his life that could at least help with his prom, end of discussion

Don’t see the mums attraction to him🥴🥴 he sounds horrible.. she should have left him ages ago once she showed how he truly is, I’d take my daughter away from anyone who behaved that way and had that man’s way of thinking

1. It was the "I put the dress in the washer, He said with a smirk" FOR ME!!! I WOULD BE BEYOND PISSED!!!! 2. He is/was jealous that his teenage step-daughter who is the SAME AGE as his SON has BETTER financial understanding and literacy about saving and budgets than both Him and his son. 3. SO HAPPY you had family to back you up!!!

What a hardworking girl, I hope everything works out and she has a nice prom

I’m not sure where this girl lives but in the state of VA the law’s definition of theft is this - Larceny or theft is defined generally as the unlawful taking or carrying away of someone else's personal property with the intent to deprive the owner of it permanently … The stepfather totally committed the crime of theft. He took her dress w intent to ruin it, totally depriving her.

@vellathewench

5 ай бұрын

I think she mentioned it was GA

What surprised the most about this story is that the mom actually stood by her daugther and actually thought about leaving the abusive asshole. To be honest I think that's pretty depressing.

While I’m glad OP’s mom is leaving the stepdad, it doesn’t erase the fact she basically enabled his behavior/mistreatment towards OP. Her simply defending OP clearly didn’t do much and didn’t even put in much effort in actually protecting her daughter. It’s quite rich how OP’s dad claims that OP throws her money around and should be spending on bills only (which she clearly does) but then his two sons have PS5s and expensive shoes. It pisses me off how only OP is made to work while her mom and stepdad continue to spoil their sons rotten (Though, I’m glad that her 15-year-old half-brother is the only mature one here). I honestly that kind of dynamic where one of the children (Typically the oldest but sometimes the youngest) is forced to work while the rest of the siblings are doing absolutely nothing and the parents demand more (Speaking from experience)

@mizu7662

5 ай бұрын

What do you mean? The only big incident mentioned is him destroying the dress. Which he did while she was out of the house and away at work. What was she supposed to do, hire a security guard for her daughter's closet just in case he suddenly decided to step things up from just whining about her not giving him money and actually decided to get revenge? Its not like he had a history of destroying OP's things or doing other sorts of physical abuse. People are basically complaining that she wasn't a psychic who foresaw her greedy whinging little worm of a husband suddenly greatly escalating the level of shit behavior he displayed and set up defenses against things he had never done before.

People who think she enabling him 1. boi he not a child. He a grown ass adult. 2. She clearly working on it. Also she say, it a lot of money. The dad won the court if you didn't notice. So yes the mom wanna earn good money to win the court. 3. The mom side with her, leaving toxic people isn't easy. I know people say "just leave them" well, we in reality. You don't just leave. You gotta work in long court, paperwork, lawyer, money, and many more. If she suddenly leave, she can lose custody of her daughter for not having stable place. She lose her once, definitely don't wanna lose her again. Remember we in reality, i see story that when they immediately leave, they live in the street or playground. Hotel are expensive, shelter are dangerous. It definitely not pleasant nor safe. If you wanna leave the toxic relationship, plan it and protect it while you do it. Even in the long run.

I’m surprised her mom takes her side at all. She literally told her daughter she had to be financially independent but was willing to take care of her stepsons (Two sons who are NOT her own) and not make them do the same. He got like this bc mom let him

@vellathewench

5 ай бұрын

Of the 2 sons, one was a step son, the other was a child between the 2 of them. She said, I have a step brother and a half brother.

Stepdad has organs. The black market exists. He CAN repay for the dress.

Stepdad comes home to the broken remains of his precious son. Seems he did not handle even one run through the washer on the heavy duty cycle.

The best way to teach a child financial responsibility when they are young is actually let them spend freely the money they earned on whatever they want. You can suggest saving and the long term goal. But when they have their own money and they spend it on crap and its gone, they realize it's finite. When she spent her money on a $900 after saving 24k, GOOD! She deserves that! F and parent who tells her to spend it on "the family" and f that step father and his pettiness.

What an AH!!!🤬🤬🤬 Why didn't you take it to your Dad's house???

@Mr_Astro-Vera

5 ай бұрын

Can I smell you?

@TinaMartinez-gz7hv

5 ай бұрын

Maybe she didn't think her step dad was that crazy.

@l-l-l-l-l-l-l

5 ай бұрын

Because she live with her mom and nobody with sane mind would purposely destroy $800+ dress.

@artemis_justiceaizawa5978

5 ай бұрын

Dad lost custody so perhaps he doesn't have visitation either? Or he lives further away

@dominiklis6261

5 ай бұрын

@@artemis_justiceaizawa5978 Probably the latter since OP mentioned that she visits her father from time to time.

Sell his stuff, ps2, shoes etc to recover the money.

The stepfather is a tool

I don't know what adults out there need to hear this but.... .children DO NOT have an obligation to provide financial support to their parents/step parents.

destriction of Private property. take him to court. make sure to doument everything

Uncle: Proceeds to call Stepdad a bitch. Stepdad: Proves uncle right.😂

Baby I'm in GA too let me find out.

“Man of the house” but throws a big tantrum when someone won’t buy a prom outfit that isn’t even for him lmao. I would NOT be cooking that man dinner, he can eat the baby food I buy him or starve if he doesn’t want to make himself dinner😭😭

“Also my mom has broken up with him for claiming that she’s cares more about me than him” …. Yeah that’s how parenting works. If I could save my wife’s life or my daughters I choose my child every time. And my wife should choose the child every time. That’s how it’s supposed to be. When you have a child your life ends and theirs begins. And the best you can hope for is that they understand that someday

That stepdad is awful and mom was an enabler. She definitely needs an account that is locked down or that money is going to disappear. I had so much fun going shopping with my daughter for a prom dress and it sounds like their dresses were very similar. However, it actually was a waste of money because due to Covid prom was canceled and they had a no return policy due to Covid as well. It cost a small fortune and it is an amazing color on her so maybe she will wear it as a wedding dress. Her dress cost almost as much as my wedding dress for reference.

police - "didnt steal it"... me with a brain - "err, destruction of property?". Which is a crime in most places when its done with intent (even without intent if they have no lawful excuse)

I wanna buy Mom and Uncle a beer!

The step dad is a gold digger and was desperate to mooch of anything of his wife’s possessions, even of her daughter’s possessions because he’s just a jealous looser and compulsive debtor.

I can see the SD saying something as if she were demanding that he & her mother pay for her dress. But, she didn't do that, instead, she planned & worked hard to save up & keep her grades up. Her brothers were welcome to do the same, they could have planned & saved. The Boy is supposed to shoulder the cost of the Prom? They pick & ask their date, he gets the tickets & the transportation & a corsage. So the brother should have been planning long before the month of Prom. Stay away from your kids hard earned money, it is theirs. If your family is having an emergency, then ask the kid for help. But you make & keep a plan to pay it back. Also, just stop & say what you are saying to your kid right now, say it to yourself. Just ask just how you would feel if someone was saying these nasty things To you & they tried to take your money, how would you react? AND be 100% honest, do not treat your kids like this & if you do, do not be surprised when they are adults,... And they no longer talk to you unless they need something. IMHO

Wait! Did a grown ass man just get that petty with a 17 year old? For real?! I guess some people don't grow up... they just grow older.

I'ma just eat chips if I want chips 😂

Mother should have left the abusive stepdad. So yeah the mom has been siding with the abusive stepdad.

Sue him. Go stay with your dad.

A couple of things go with the credit union. Also if you go with a credit union they have perks that the regular banks don't offer. Like Ways to Invest Your Money. So your money will work for you. Third take no revenge karma is a bitc# and cuts both ways. Take the high road which you are doing and move forward with your life goals. Your stepdad will get what is coming to him in time.

She should leave him..if that was my baby I’d flip..I’d make him pay and then I’d id never speak to him again..he can take care of himself from now on…. He makes me so mad.. and a good parent cares more about there kids then some loser man….

Stop paying for frivolous things like Netflix Amazon and Hulu until the dress is paid for.

He should be made to repay the dress what a disgusting thing to do. Why dosen't he get a job to pay his bills.

Can’t they charge him with destruction of property? Or does that only apply to things like cars or houses or land

Girl with uncle meant why he expects your stepdad to pay you back meaning he'll pay for your dress but then you're going to have to give him what the step guy gave you to pay him back

So the bio dad originally had custody because mom …? Then dad is disabled and daughter lives with mom. Is daughter getting SSI? Is there child support? If stepdad is expecting stepdaughter to contribute financially why isn’t son expected to do the same? Why was mom with stepdad at least 16yrs?

If you can’t legally get him back, you should wash his car out with your keys

Wow Rare Mom with a step father W

If thry have a prenup i dont understand why they need a lawyer? Just file for divorce with the court and let the judge know you'll be abiding by the prenup, or would that not work?

My step dad is actually the nice parent😅. My mom owes me almost 9k and stopped speaking to me cuz I said she lies too much. She's psycho. Dad still talks to me tho☺️

It won't be over the dress per se but the money issues behind it that will end this marriage. If you're a saver, do NOT marry a spendthrift. (A man who moans that he Duzzent Have Munneeee but who has a dozen streaming services and gives expensive game consoles to his male children has a spending issue, not a money issue.)

Calls himself man of the house, yet wants a 17 year old child to help pay his bills.

Apparently the mom married a toddler.

They jumped your uncle and beat him to a pulp?! Crazy crazy stufd

How dare he

he can sell everything he owns to pay for the dress

And hopefully, you're going to college and moving out of there soon.

This is a power trip with a power play by an idiot moocher. The OP (whose grammar needs work) should keep the replacement dress at someone else's house, her mother needs to install cameras and change the locks, and the older step=brother should leave with his abusive father.

Theres no reason to wash an unworn dress though right so no his claaim is not valid. He could make excuses to say it had a manufacter smell but since he doesnt wash ever he should know better than to wash it himself.