She definitely wanted to steal ops boyfriend because she couldn’t stand seeing her happy

Sounds like the family is getting cut off real quick. And sounds like the mom and dad will end up in a retirement home without anyone

Yeah what she was doing is commonly called sexual harassment and would've earned her a 3 points shot through the window into the street speed of light in my house, but you do you.

I wonder if there's some kind of syndrome that describes excessive parental favoritism. Regardless, these people should've never been parents in the 1st place. And I can only hope OP has given up on seeking the parents' approval. If I had parent like that I'd just run away at the 1st chance to do so and watch them self-destruct from a domino of terrible decisions. This is simply not functional family and you cannot convince me otherwise.

@sardoniceheleno.7452

10 ай бұрын

not a syndrome itself but pathological narcissits usually have a golden child to keep their emotional grip to manipulate their children and use them. In this situations moving away as fast as possible and going no-contact until they die is usually the best option for your mental health since its very unlikely they will be self-aware they've been a*holes all along and will be wiling to change and become a non-toxic person

Mother: How can you do this to your sister. OP should have responded before the fuck off part OP: No, how can sister do this to me, trying to seduce my boyfriend and ignoring our boundaries.

....wha?! She had her own place the whole time?!?!?!

@RandoWisLuL

10 ай бұрын

that was my biggest shocker.

@Babidi111

10 ай бұрын

they are all trash in the story. She was clearly enjoying all the drama and letting it build up for the chaos. You can't be that weak and pathetic yet somehow also she has a stable job and a long term, healthy relationship......this was either made up or they are basically all degenerates. to let that kind of treatment escalate until you basically have to cut ties or get the law involved is a level of weakness that the rest of her life doesn't make sense, or its something she was letting cultivate because she wanted the drama. She even says that immediately after it all blowing up how happy she was, thats not how it would be unless you are mentally ill

@8xRedMonkeyx8

10 ай бұрын

@@Babidi111 and the guy obviously let it go on for far too long. Sometimes I think half of these stories are chat gpt anyway, a lot are unrealisitc

@Babidi111

10 ай бұрын

@@8xRedMonkeyx8 totally. Damn i bet you are right and they could just churn out a million of these with that program. Its a gold rush of dishonesty these days.

Oh comeon. She knows exactly what she's doing.

@JoelHernandez-tz3vk

10 ай бұрын

Being a cry bully?

Both bf and OP are gigantic doormats!

@elhombredelsaco3995

10 ай бұрын

The hell is a doormat

@issnake1109

10 ай бұрын

@@elhombredelsaco3995 someone who doesn’t stand up for themself. Someone who “lets others walk all over them”, hence the name doormat

@zambekiller

10 ай бұрын

​@@issnake1109and these people are often raised to be this way

@dcry1003

10 ай бұрын

why tho? in the end she cut ties with her and move on do you not know what a doormat means?

@A-Warthog-cc1wm

10 ай бұрын

@@dcry1003lmao, they ARE doormats. The boyfriend let the sister molest and violate him with little resistance while OP just let her keep free loading IN HER OWN APARTMENT and allowed to keep making moves on her boyfriend. Just because she stopped it now doesn’t mean they aren’t doormats.

At that point, both your sister and parents should go into an LC/NC list and be done with it. You don't owe your parents your life when they don't value it themselves.

Dude her sister has a master's degree in Gaslightology

@AmyPieterse

10 ай бұрын

My mom went to the same university😅

@ashleyyoung796

10 ай бұрын

​​@@AmyPieterseDid she graduate?😂🎓

@AmyPieterse

10 ай бұрын

I think she's a professor now ! @@ashleyyoung796

My mom is a gaslighter. Never does anything wrong. Ever. And I think she honestly believes it. I once caught her red handed doing something she wasn't supposed to do...and she STILL claimed she didn't do it. And STILL seemed like she really didn't realize she did it. But she did.

WHAT THE HECK!!! i didn’t know she had her own home this whole time!!!!!!!

Hearing how she touched all over him and such just made me shake in digust, fear, and anger. I've said this, i was sexually harrassed by a girl in middle school. Not the point, so i have an idea how he feels. Especially the rear thing and it just feels gross.

@danielsterling4918

8 ай бұрын

I remember in HS, a girl that was in the JROTC class I was cadet First Sergeant for (basically a very involved teacher's assistant in a military HS), knew I had a gf and always tried to flirt hard with me as I had no interest in her even though she was one of the more attractive girls in school. Anyways, one time during PT (physical training) when taking a water break, passing each other at the water fountain she full on grabbed my crotch and I smack the shit outta her. Even though it was caught on camera what she did, nothing happened to her and I got written up. Double standards are a helluva thing ffs

The biggest mistake we often do is trying to make others understand us, especialy when it comes to familiy members. I do get it, trying to feel accepted as part of the family or member of any group is one of our basic needs. Maybe we just put too much effort and sacrifices into people that we give too much expectation to? The OP's behaviour is no differenet than what her parents are doing to her sister. Lack of challenge, argumentative confrontations, unsolid boundries. Seems like beeing the enemy of the family serves a very good and stable role of a conditionaly loved child, althou the dynamic in most cases is often reversed ( its the youngest that is usually with more freedom). Beeing the black sheep of the family puts things in absence of colours but it also put things in broader perspective. "Baddie" role has the most amount of potential in it to grow, unlike radiance of entitlement. I am hopeful, GL OP.

Don't complain if you don't intend to standup for yourself. You continue to let them cross your boundaries so they always will

@Yellowbeing08

10 ай бұрын

It's hard to finally stand up for urself. Mostly if it's family. You just keep wishing that they will understand by themselves, and once you understand you're able to stand up. It's a long and hard process. If you think it's easy than you never experienced it yourself, and I'm happy for you, but you can't just expect people to do it. Everyone is always like "you just need to say no" it's not like that, your brain doesn't make it easy and you can truly know if it happened to you, if it didn't just try to empathize. And I'm sorry if I come off as rude, but I'm hecking tired of people who never went through that say things like this as if it was one of the simplest things to do in life. I honestly hope this will still never happen to you because I've been through that and it's freaking awful.

@VRDejaVu

10 ай бұрын

@@Yellowbeing08 "If you think it's easy than you never experienced it yourself" imagine trying to gatekeep life events... It did happen to me and i stood my ground every time. The only reason i couldnt go NC was because i was a minor and every time i fled, the cops would drag me home. Had to flee 3 countries away at 17 and be homeless until 18 to be sure i would not be found and delivered back to my mother. So, your comments is utter BS from a weak minded individual that uses gatekeeping traumatic life events as a way to rationalize your shortcomings.

@Yellowbeing08

10 ай бұрын

@@VRDejaVu you're right, I'm sorry. I said that because the majority is like this, and I thought that everyone felt like this, I generalized and it was wrong. But it annoyed me that people still treat it as if it was simple, I've heard it too many times and I'm tired of it, because I know how hard it is, I've been through that with my brother and a part of me still keeps believing he will change, even if the other part knows it won't. I'm sorry you went through such a bad situation and hope you're better now

@VRDejaVu

10 ай бұрын

@@Yellowbeing08 Nah, i'm the one who is sorry. I still have too much unmanaged rage and some times it spills over to those that don't deserve it at all. For what it is worth, i'm sorry.

@Yellowbeing08

10 ай бұрын

@@VRDejaVu don't worry, and I can understand, it happens to me too. Hope we can both get better at this

when she cries it just because she is emotionally insecure and very likely being emotionally manipulative.

@TheGhostFart

10 ай бұрын

it's not even a maybe, the sister is 100% being emotionally manipulative

@adamgeorge37

10 ай бұрын

@@TheGhostFart yeah thats fair. i should have mentioned whether it was intentional or not im not always sure. sometimes it they just do it without thought.

She should call her mother out on her lazy parenting. Sister is her kid, not OP's.

It's not very often compare the others that people stand up for men. Glad she had the courage to do so, hope they're both doing okay.

Op had something the sister couldn't steal. Thank God

Op, your sister is sexually assaulting your boyfriend. Report her to the police.

Being inappropriate to my boyfriend, disrespecting me and just being a nuisance? NOPE. Your bags would be waiting at the door.

@VRDejaVu

10 ай бұрын

Inapropriate? Reverse the genders and you would be calling it SA... but yeah, call it "inapropriate".

@chessieray1465

10 ай бұрын

@@VRDejaVu Sexual harassment is inappropriate, but that should have been obvious. I'm not downplaying anything here.

@VRDejaVu

10 ай бұрын

@@chessieray1465 yeah, ofc.

@chessieray1465

10 ай бұрын

@@VRDejaVu Stay blessed.

I hope OP and her boyfriend live a happy life together

Wonder what the dad’s role in this is. Even if the sister is his favorite also, clearly he’s not as passionate about it as the mom. Curious to know how a talk with him would go

So they let their sister stay with them on account of her being uncareful about her health and their parents having health issues. Good on them, they're a loving person. OP's sister then proceeded to sexually harass and assault her boyfriend. (Yes, the ass slaps and unconsentual, perverted touchings count as assault and not just harassment.) Then she gives crocodile tears. There's no way she couldn't have known what she was doing was wrong. She was old enough to have already owned a house? She should know not to walk into her sister's bedroom, in her underwear, and ask OP's boyfriend for help. She should know not to touch OP's boyfriend or slap his ass when he walks buy. This is disgusting.

Mom calls mad Hang up phone Mom calls back (Did you hang up on me?!) (Idk did it sound like this?) Hang up again Put on silent and let hell break loose

Cut off the cancer and be happy for yourself. Sometimes blood ain't family, and family ain't blood. You may find that your friends are more family than the blood family could ever be. That's how it is with my fiance and her family. They guilt and manipulate, and try to make her feel bad if she stands up for herself. Her mom was a therapist, and master manipulator. Her favorite line is "what are you going to do when I'm dead?" And every time I hear that I want to say "celebrate" but I can't rock the boat because I'm job hunting and that would be biting the hand that feeds. We have plans, but I don't want to tell the whole world. It's frustrating but I'm doing what I can.

Go no contact with your family, OP

"I have a girlfriend."

violence is the answer!!! Boundaries!!

She knows exactly what she's doing!

Can see us fight if I don't talk to you either mom ✨️

If for whatever reason a parent has a favorite they better do a dam good job of hiding it

Act as you would if they were not like this. If they are unapproprite just ignore. Bye

Dad being like 👀😶‍🌫️

This doesn't make any sense though, the older sister had an apartment all along? So why was she made to move in with her younger sister and her boyfriend when the only choices (apparently) were them and the parent's house???

@thisisastrobbery363

10 ай бұрын

Wanted an excuse to steal the boyfriend I guess

And the bf just let it happen?.

Ask your mom to desown you. She doesn't even treat you like a daughter and you don't need her in your life

I-i know i musn't laugh but. But *i am both angry and horny* for sme reason that line made me laugh hahahaha

First of all, why is he letting these things happen?

You let too many things slide

Hey is there any update ?

- How is this an issue.....you put down a boundary, and you tell your boyfriend that he is to press charges if she continues.....Are you exactly your mother and can't do anything but capitulate to this person. you are a pretty crap person yourself to do this and enable her like that until it gets so bad you have to use the police or cut her off completely. That you somehow are in a stable relationship is whats really baffling, are you a child and being abused cause this might make sense if she were a child. Just amazing how weak people are and somehow we've made it something to have sympathy for when its as toxic as being abusive. Just a family of trash that uses being sensitive as excuse to cultivate drama until they can explode it into chaos. I hope this is made up. if its true I suspect she enjoyed all of this mess, hell she even says that she is satisfied at the end and feels happy and is having a lovely pitty party imagining mommy hates her and how she should cut them all off. Once the family is gone they will be left to make drama with each other and soon she'll be making a post about her ats.

No but even tho op prob suffered the most bc of having to be with such a garbage sibling close to her most of her life + having her life messed up to the point of not having the courage to stand up when the sibling in question is litteraly tryna seduce her bf and take her things, i feel hella bad for the bf like ew. Just don't touch ppl like that and don't act that way towards them when you don't even know them nor have their approval, AND ESPECIALLY FUCKING DON'T IF THEY'RE IN COUPLE. That's litteraly just minimal respect for both the person you're annoying and their partner. You don't fuck with people when they're already taken or didn't consent, simple as that. He prob felt so fucking awkward or anxious because that mf just decided to overstep his boundaries. He never consented for any of her bs and was prob even scared op would break up w him bc of the sister doing advances to him and that he was also not able to stand up for himself. Op was already kind enough to let someone who wrecked her childhood live with her. That mf sister deserves a reality check and to live on the streets for some time in order to mentally mature up and act like an adult instead of a complete brat. Tho it's still mostly the mom's (They never mentionned the dad here soo) fault if the sister is like that and if op too got problems with standing up to ppl who overstep her boundaries. Like bitch stop choosing a kid over the other one, you don't know what it can do to both kids to have an obvious favorite. Of course the golden kid will most likely become the trashiest little brat ever when they grow up, and the one you ditch will prob end up with mental, self esteem, emotionnal and other issues bc you never sided with them on anything, forced them to give their things, books and toys they probably loved to the other sibling but not vice versa, and weren't emotionnally present for them. If you have a kid it's your problem, you're the one who gotta raise both and be fair to both, if you didn't want to then why even having a kid in the first place when you aren't responsible enough ?? Like how is it that hard to act okay to both instead of completely spoiling one and destroying the other's childhood.

Lol narcissist that's a common thing to touch people like you have a right lol

U know sometimes all it takes is a little sMack

This is actually a funny story.

Wheres the dad

Why are you people so dam weak? I would have been said something. My older sister tried that with me and I called her out while she was doing it! My older sister stay competing with me!

yoo tht wass cool

you cant complain when you allow this shit to happen... you say shes a beach and does wtf she wants and you still allowed her in your house and all the shit she did in your house and you still let her stay?! yeah you cant complain...

@elhombredelsaco3995

10 ай бұрын

She kicked her out lol

@nunomateus243

10 ай бұрын

@@elhombredelsaco3995 yeah but why did she let her in to begin with?! thats just being stupid

@12NiBer12

10 ай бұрын

@@nunomateus243 +