My Raw and Real Experience With Cervical Incompetence and Infant Loss | Evelyn’s Birth Story

Disclaimer I'm talking about a sensitive subject and some things that I say may be triggering to some people.
This is my story of losing our first daughter due to cervical incompetence, at 20 weeks and 6 days.
#infantloss #jacobfam #grief

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  • @loreanschaffer2604
    @loreanschaffer2604 Жыл бұрын

    Thank You for sharing your story. In 1971 I lost a Baby Girl. She was a full term Breach . I named her Roberta Lynn. She would be 53 if she were here. I miss her . And think of her often. So even though it has been so many years since I lost her I know exactly how you are feeling. The feeling of losing a baby or a child never goes away no matter how many years have gone by. I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    I’m so sorry to hear about your precious Roberta Lynn. It’s true that no matter how much time goes by you will always think about, and miss your child. It breaks my heart knowing that so many people experience this pain.

  • @invernessity

    @invernessity

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm very sorry for your loss, too. Your child is always your beloved child no matter how long you have them with you!

  • @nanny5217
    @nanny5217 Жыл бұрын

    I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. I went through the loss of my daughter 42 years ago. It’s a loss that we never get over. God bless you.

  • @nubbins1968
    @nubbins1968 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story. I just want to encourage you. I, too, had an incompetent cervix during my first pregnancy. I was 20 years old and expecting twins, a boy, and a girl. Everything was going great. I had no problems at all. I began to have contractions (I didn't realize I was in labor because there was no pain). By the time I realized something was wrong, I had already dilated 7 centimeters. Within 20 minutes, I had fully dilated to 10 centimeters. Still not one ounce of pain. My daughter was coming first, breech, so they took me to the OR for an emergency C-section. I was 26 weeks along. I had never heard of an incompetent cervix before. My daughter survived; however, my son died 10 days later. ❤ I had three more pregnancies, and not one of them did my cervix fail. I don't understand why it happened the first time. I completely understand your wide range of emotions. I had the same ones! I see that you went on to have two more children. Praise God! May the Lord bless you and your sweet family.

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    Wow thank you so much for sharing! Bless your heart. I’m so sorry to hear about you losing your boy. Nothing can prepare you for experiencing something like that. I’m so glad your cervix didn’t fail during your other pregnancies. ❤️

  • @happygurl1971
    @happygurl1971 Жыл бұрын

    from one mama to another who experienced a similar situation you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh bless you sweet mama ❤️

  • @marymikehawkins6682
    @marymikehawkins6682 Жыл бұрын

    Oh honey, I am so so sorry for your loss! My daughter-in-law went thru pretty much the same thing, I went in with her to hear the heartbeat, we were excited, but there was no heartbeat. She and my son were devastated. I stayed with them a few days until the baby came. I hurt so bad, I couldnt' say or do anything! I am so so very sorry for your loss!!! 🌷

  • @S.AnnMarie
    @S.AnnMarie Жыл бұрын

    Sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your testimony about your precious darling daughter. I pray for comfort for you and your family.

  • @terriecrawford482
    @terriecrawford482 Жыл бұрын

    Thank your for sharing your story. My heart shattered many of times hearing you express the love that was shared within the room from your family and hospital staff. She is your angel and will always be remembered and loved. She will also be watching from the beautiful sky above and sending messages. You are absolutely right, she is perfect ❤

  • @juststoppingby390
    @juststoppingby390 Жыл бұрын

    My goodness she was so precious. Thank you for sharing your little girl with us.

  • @shellygreen3014
    @shellygreen3014 Жыл бұрын

    This is such a wonderful video and I’m sure helpful for others, my daughter had premie twins during Covid and they tried to stop her husband from being there! No visitors and very strict protocol….your sweet Evelyn will always be with you, such a peaceful birth and such loving parents ❤

  • @Nix2706
    @Nix2706 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I am certain it will help many people to know that they aren’t alone in their loss. I am so sorry that you didn’t have longer with Evelyn. She was indeed too perfect for this world. Sending you lots of love from across the seas in England. ♥️♥️

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @danielleallred9625
    @danielleallred9625 Жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry for the pain you went through. How blessed that she was alive when she was born, and you got that time with her. My daughter was born June of 2022, at 41 weeks. My water broke and we went in to the hospital, only to find that her heartbeat had already stopped. She was so beautiful and chubby, a perfect newborn. But how I wish I could have had even a few minutes to look into her eyes and hear her breathe and cry.

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. I’m sure your daughter was beautiful 💖

  • @annaclaire9927
    @annaclaire99277 ай бұрын

    So very sorry ❤❤

  • @meglouise101
    @meglouise101 Жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry for your loss 💔😢😔

  • @danielreal9594
    @danielreal9594 Жыл бұрын

    Me crying when she was so little and she couldn't see 5hen she died but now she is in a better pace now and this video probably help so e people that had to suffer over that

  • @jenniferortiz9553
    @jenniferortiz9553 Жыл бұрын

    God bless you . Prayers to you and your family 🙏🏻 thank you for sharing

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @harinishastry2791
    @harinishastry27914 ай бұрын

    I had the exact same experience cervical incompetence in December 2023. Lost my son at 22.5 weeks. Not many have shared this . Thank you

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    4 ай бұрын

    I am so so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much love ❤️

  • @alexachenbach821
    @alexachenbach821 Жыл бұрын

    I am so sorry for you😢.

  • @dontworryaboutme6697
    @dontworryaboutme6697 Жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️ My miscarriage has been so hard. Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤️❤️

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    I’m so so sorry about your miscarriage. Sending you a big hug ❤️❤️

  • @shinkie1200
    @shinkie1200 Жыл бұрын

    Im 75 years old now but at age 20 i lost a set of twin boys. I was not allowed to hold my babies. I had pneumonia so the first baby passed before they would let me get out of bed to go to the nursery. When the last baby died i put up a fuss to go to the nursery. The nurse held my baby up close to the glass window. I held my arms out pleading to hold my baby. The nurse shook her head no and turned her back to me and walked away. We had a funeral and they're at rest in our family area at the cemetery. All of you mom's that have lost a baby and got to hold them are so blessed. The memories must warm your heart. My sons would be 54 now. Thank you for sharing your story of loss. Knowing that you are not alone helps to get through all of the emotional agony and loss. Thank you for sharing.

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    I am so sorry you were not able to hold your babies! I know it is such a blessing to be able to hold your baby even if it’s just for a short time. It’s true that no matter how much time passes you will always remember your children ❤️

  • @aaliyah2btfl

    @aaliyah2btfl

    5 күн бұрын

    My grandma went through the same thing. She lost 3 babies in the 70’s and she wasn’t allowed to hold them or touch them. I lost my son in January this year due to incompetent cervix and i got to keep him as long as I wanted. He was in the room with his dad and I all night and day over 14 hours. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • @karennavarro5220
    @karennavarro52206 ай бұрын

    2014 I lost twin baby girls at 22 weeks. I want to give you hope I carry two rainbow babies full-term 🌈🌈 2015,2018 I was considered high risk and I demanded a Cerclage. Even tho dr’s said they were not sure if it was IC i couldn’t risk it happening again.

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    4 ай бұрын

    I’m so sorry about your loss. I’m so glad you got your beautiful rainbow babies ❤️🌈

  • @begoniaaranda2716
    @begoniaaranda2716 Жыл бұрын

    ❤🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @ainsleejones
    @ainsleejones Жыл бұрын

    You are such a strong momma💙 I love you

  • @TheJacobFam

    @TheJacobFam

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you 💖

  • @Keiry-dew-night
    @Keiry-dew-night Жыл бұрын

    Why?, why?, WHY!?