Very good and honest video Sam. One thing to always remember, when you go overseas you should open your heart and open your mind, without any preconceived notions and ideas that you bring from your home country, to your new countries realities. Always remember that you are a guest in their country and you are at their mercy. Main rule, never do anything thing that’ll make a Thai person lose face, it’s disrespectful.

As a Thai, I appreciate your honesty. We all make mistakes but we learn from it. We( Thais)'d rather have foreigners who are real and own their mistakes than those who think they are more superior than we are, and disrespect us and our culture in our country. Welcome to Thailand!

Everything Adam told you is solid advice. Listen to him. And as far as you making 3 poor decisions during interactions I say congratulations because you learned valuable lessons and made ammends for it. None of us are perfect. You're lucky because if you get into it drunk or angry with the wrong guy here or any country you could end up dead. You got this. Keep going. A few bumps and the road will be smoother.

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Thanks big guy 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Hey Sam, I highly recommend getting into some kind of activity/fitness routine. It's what mentally gets me through my rat race office job. No gym needed, walk/bike/run/skateboard/pushups/squats/whatever floats your boat and gets your blood pumping and muscles firing. It's free, gives you routine and purpose, makes you healthier, takes up a little portion of the day where you could be worrying or drinking, and the routine and discipline is respected by others. Also those endorphins! It's like free drugs bro, you feel good physically and mentally when you're done and you know you can do it again the next day. Cheers mate! Love your content!

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Love this sentiment brother. I’m going to follow this up

Dude , it doesn’t matter what station in life or nationality another person is , you should always be polite and respectful to anyone you meet.

As a fellow local KZreadr that openly talks about mental health challenges living here I can’t tell you how refreshing it is to hear your honestly on this topic. Too many folks just say whatever they think their audience wants to hear. You got a sub from me and an ear if you ever want to talk. Take care 🙏🏼

@GoneAdrift

11 ай бұрын

Fuck yes mate

Thanks for your honesty. Learning from mistakes is key. We are all young once and make mistakes. But no need to overthink these things. Better days coming 👌

living in Jomtien you have a great beach walkway to get out and cool off your hot head each day by going for a long walk.. you can do two a day, one early in the morning and one at night. I lost 25lbs by doing that in December and January. now I go to the gym every morning to start my day. Shopping at the markets will save money, get a rice cooker, meats at Big c or lotus. develop a daily schedule. you will get back on budget in no time.

You made 4 mistakes, 4th being "Don't swim in that ocean!"

@paulweston285

Жыл бұрын

I agree and i lived there its a sewer

@Dan-uc7vl

Жыл бұрын

@@paulweston285 I'll stick to using the hotel pool

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha classic!!

Head up, man. We all make mistakes especially when drinking and carrying baggage with us. I made plenty of similar mistakes when I lived in Indo in 1996 - most linked to alcohol and letting Western emotions get the better of me. Asia is very different. Rather than despair and fight it, suck in the air, open your eyes, learn to breathe the air and take in all that is around you. There's a lot going on in Asia and the people are great!

That's right mate, pull your head in. Stop drinking. Start hustling and don't settle in Pattaya.

I went to many countries, when I was in The Navy, and I learned (usually the hard way) valuable lessons about being successful when in foreign places - be VERY open minded, be VERY patient, do NOT expect anything to work as well as in your home country, do NOT be defensive in your dealings with the locals (but do be cautious in extending trust) and do NOT get drunk, because all of the other "ways" you need to be are (usually) disabled (by booze), and you fail miserably. I'm "semi-retiring" in The Philippines 4/2024, and I'm preparing well for this, and thankfully, I've spent a lot of time there in the past, so "culture shock" isn't really an issue, as I know what to expect, and I'll have A LOT of savings and income, so money won't ever be a problem. The right attitudes and preparation are the key to success.

I find your honesty and transparency regarding your struggles to be very relatable. Kiesy has a great channel and he seems like a very good friend, but honestly, I can’t really relate to his 100% non-stop enthusiasm and positivity. Anyway, hang in there mate. We are rooting for you 👍. Remember how many blessings you’ve got and be thankful. You’re a young man, living out your dreams in a beautiful part of the world. There will always be bumps in the road but the troubles will pass ✌️

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

He sure is 100% positivity, always. Never gets stressed. Rarely angry. Rarely concerned with Jack shit! Wish o was more like him 🤦🏼‍♂️

Respect. When your actions don't match the words you say, life gets hella stressful bro. It's kinda like you can't even do what you said you were gonna do so you start second guessing and losing trust in yourself. Then every time life slaps you back to reality and you say those same words about changing for the better and doing the right thing, they become meaningless and hold less and less weight and everything feels foreign and foggy. And once you step back and take in the view, you realise the cycle continues to loop on different levels throughout your life over and over and over. Starting again, taking on small challenges like waking up on time, making your bed in the morning, eating breakfast and following through, you start believing in yourself again and the confidence and competence starts growing again, and all of a sudden life's looking up, and you feel capable of tackling those big things again. I'm only saying this because i've been there/done that, and from what you've shared so far I see a lot of similarities. It's all love, bro. We're all gonna make it 🤙🏽

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Thank you mate

when i moved to thailand ,after 1 month i was over it and missed home ,but i stuck to it and never looked back after getting over the first month .just gota keep going mate .

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Thank you brother

Hey man! I truly appreciate this video because I am moving to Thailand soon and I know that going to a new country for vacations and moving there permanently are two completely different things. You sound real in this video brother. Remember we all make mistakes and you going to apologize shows that you are humble and learn from your mistakes. I’m a new sub and also, random question. You mentioned that you gave the girls at the bar “artwork” what exactly do you mean by that? Are you an artist? If so, I am a digital artist myself.

Dude. Being a nice person and putting good energy out there to others will always pay you back in dividends. The younger you learn that lesson, the happier and more at peace your life will be.

@GoneAdrift

11 ай бұрын

Yes Sir!!!!

some solid advice right there. After spending 3 or so months in thailand earlier this year im getting ready for the big move myself. thanks for the tips !

Great vlog! Having the ability to raise your hands and say, "I fucked up" is commendable. And to then also chat about it on KZread? Fair play!

Love your openness with your ups and downs on your new adventure Sam. Youve done so well getting where you are now. And a positive youve learnt some tough lessons early on. Keep going Brother!!

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Love you bro

I am still thinking about visiting/moving to Thailand and have just over 2 years clean and sober here in California. I hope they have AA meetings there - the program saved my sanity and my life, and I am beyond grateful 🙏

@GoneAdrift

8 ай бұрын

Mate I’m about to make a video about this. There’s A LOT of meetings in Pattaya and likely other areas of course.

@summercameron3505

8 ай бұрын

Congrats Sam! Keep coming back!!! @@GoneAdrift

Well done mate, good advice and please let me know anytime you want a chat or someone to hangout and bounce shit off, I’m back from Koh Samui and happy to come and meet you in Jomtien, it gets easier 👍

Good luck on your journey, Just out of curiosity have you ever lived abroad before? Do you contribute all three of your mistakes solely to drinking? If not what other adjustments (physical fitness, meditation etc..)are you taking to address other possible factors that led to your mistakes?

First video I've seen of yours and you seem easy going on camera. We all go through ups and downs, and you've been through a bit of baptism of fire moving countries with the stress that comes with it. Sounds like you understand where you need to be and you have some mates around that will help (I follow Keis and think his last video was speaking to some of the issues you mentioned). Good luck, and best wishes. I'll keep wathcing.

Number one rule , avoid confrontation !!!! Good honest vlog mate, very easy to get carried away with the drinking so good to see you are having a break.

the late Robin Wiliams said it best "Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always."

Glad that you made amends with those you wronged & those that you mean a lot to.👍 Just know that we all can make mistakes & don't beat yourself up to much about it. Be the best person you can be to others, whilst remembering why you moved to Thailand in the first place. Good Vibes & Good Friends.😉 Thanks for your honesty Sam.

I think in your case , its about drinking in moderation when your out at a bar or somewhere , this way its less of a chance you will do something stupid or something you cant take back and it cost you , if your going to get drunk then do it at your place or at a place that your around friends whom know how you are when your drunk and they know how to handle you ... Its best to get away from ANY fights from a Thai cuz you will lose by default ... The key is to know your limits and know what advantages you have that works in your favour .... Mostly , live your best life and make youtube videos that you pay you so you dont have to have many jobs to live .... just saying .

Good to hear that you're learning from those errors and made a point of making your peace with the affected people. It takes a big man to do that, so don't beat yourself up too much. Relax and embrace the beauty of Thailand and the thai's 😊.

Thanks for being real 😊 I plan on moving to Thailand within 60 days, on a budget. Never been there before. I'm glad you have figured it out quickly and got yourself back on track ❤ you got this!

cant believe Ive only just seen this, your transparency in this videos speaks volumes mate, love it!! and so does everyone else looking at the views fair play mate, i know your doing well now, will pop down Soi 7 again soon as i can bro ❤

Wow. You are one honest guy. You may have stuffed up but you have owned it, so dont be too hard on yourself mate. It is an easy thing to do in that place. Just keep the boozing to one day a week and set yourself a limit then go home

We Live and We Learn, experiences that last a lifetime. Thanks for sharing this!

Decompression looks different for everyone. And without the right tools to deal with it, it can surely be messy. Glad you realized what path you were on before it was truly too late. Keep it up. :)

Takes a real man to admit his mistakes and to make amends for them. Good job. Keep doing better.

Self awareness & never lying to ourselves is critical, as you realized. I believe it's a common process for western men to figure out in Asia. Something that I did, that most men will 'eye roll' about is starting a meditation practice, starting with 5 minutes & working up. Calming my Monkey Mind, working on being grateful for the friends and loved ones who put up with me, being alive and healthy, cause we forget it's all temporary. Find a Yoga class, language class, art class, whatever it is that you define as your 'Safe Activity' also been through the PTSD thing, it's brutal being hyper aware for threats 24/7. Anyway, love your content, thanks for sharing, and looking forward to watching your successful transition.

Dude, way to man up and take ownership!, that’s solid my man. Also sharing vulnerabilities and being honest with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up too much about it, just now maintain this mindset, stay positive and kick ass. You got this all the way. 💪🏻. Fully support you moving forward mate, go get it.

4th Mistake is thinking Pattaya is cheap, which it is but it’s very easy to get lost in the sauce in Pattaya. So much temptation and outside of partying there is nothing else to do in Pattaya. Spent over a year living there and now I find Bangkok a much better balance to live.

Yes ..for me Number one thing....do not confront Thai person....so many videos out there saying this.... everyone should know this even before we book ticket first time....

I’ve been many times to Thailand and one thing I’ve learnt: Thais are always in the right, no matter how small your part was in an incident or situation the Thai is always in the right. Thai police will always take the side of a local Thai person.

You have to be respectful at all times, even for one minute in a different country. You mentioned that if you came for two weeks you didn’t care. Just learn for your mistakes, we all deserve a second chance.

Simple & natural is the best way to go bro. In my youth partying has always been toxic for me but the best things in life has been hobbies, exercise, & simple inexpensive things. When you focus more on how to help one person (even in small ways) love will find you. Some of us have been burnt in life because our job was helping others but God wants us to turn that job into a passion to help the one (shepherd leaves the 99 to go after the one). Don’t know why I’m saying all this but feel God has some good things in store for you. 🙏🙏

dude, great video, I like what you said near the end about those 3 interactions gone right.. connections are Key! and will help you so much in life. you never know when walking up to someone, who they are or what they do. the more friends the better.

Dumping the booze is a great move, owning up to and realizing your mistakes were an even better move. Keep pumping out the content boss man 🤙🏽 aloha from Hawaii

Thanks for your vulnerability and self awareness … doing this will provide you some pressure and accountability to keep on track ! You are only 4 months ahead of me in my Thailand dream ( October 15 😂😂) This really was an amazing video Sam

Great video - I've learned in life if you are respectful and smile, make an effort to try to do a good deed each day if only opening a door for someone or when doing a big shop and you let that person with a couple of items go in front of you their reaction makes you feel better than any bottle of Leo could!

Fair play for opening up dude. I think your experiences will help people that move to Thailand. That bloody squirrel looked like a fridge with a head, a massive unit of a thing 🤣 Stay strong 👊

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha best comment! Thanks legendb

I drank too much in thailand, at home I never drink hardly, but here its just too easy to do! When every night is a party night

Live and learn brotha that’s what life’s all about! Props to you for correcting your wrongs. Keep killin it !!

@GoneAdrift

11 ай бұрын

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Good to see U recognise your mistakes mate. Your a good bloke bro

Good self awareness Sam. Well done quitting drinking. Thats the way forward. Give it a month or two and you'll be on top of everything. It sounds like you need a bit of time to decompress and adjust. Drinking wont help but time will. Relax adjust a bit. Be kind to yourself. Good video btw. Very authentic.

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

I won’t quit permanently. Just had a break to refocus and reassess :)

Thanks for sharing. Everyone just wants to front like it’s all perfect and that it’s so easy to make it there. Being humble is so hard sometimes. Good luck to you man.

You went through a lot to fulfill your dream of moving to Thailand, Sam. Of course your emotions had to come out at one point. Shift down a gear, slow down a bit and give yourself time to arrive. Limit your drinking and find a more healthy routine. I have no doubt that you will succeed 🙏

I found this fascinating. I dont know your back story or why you moved out to Pattaya. I lived there for 7 years as a SCUBA insstructor and the one thing I would say is that if you dont have a job or a purpose out there then you will fall victim of the city sooner or later. I wish you all the best mate. I had an amazing time moving to Pattaya when I was 20. I daresay doing it younger makes it easier.

Everyone make mistakes, but this is how we learn from them. 👌💯 I am going to Thailand very soon, can’t wait

It's pretty straightforward, treat others the same as you'd like to be treated. Be respectful to everyone as there are better ways to deal with disputes, especially in situations when you're the only member on your team. Good luck with your stay in Thailand 👍

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate it 🙏🏻

I lived in north Pattaya on Beach Rd for over 14 years ( employment near the city). I never had any issues because I never hit the bars or Walking Street & such. My evening activity was going to the gym. Most of my weekend social life was spent in BKK - a more cosmopolitan venue.

@GoneAdrift

11 ай бұрын

BKK ❤️

As tourists...we must be extra polite with Thai people. They really appreciate it & doors will open for you 🇹🇭😎🇦🇨

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate it 🙏🏻

STRESS is a killer! drives you nuts, try working the stress and aggression out in the gym😊😊and just be the version of you that you want to be, things will all drop into place in time

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Thank you brother

Excellent video mate! When you get real... many of us can relate. I live here in Pattaya as well and essentially you gotta find a purpose. For me... I joined a gym and will begin Muay Thai soon... Keep your head up bro... Just remember it took courage to get here and leave the West in the rearview...

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Great sentiment mate. Thank you

Thailand is nice for 2 weeks. You go home, work a bit and plan your next trip 6 months down the track. I find 2 weeks is my limit there, i cannot wait to get back to Melb

Great video mate - own up to it and move on...love it and want to see more of your videos

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Always appreciate your + comments brother

LOVE LOVE YOUR HONEST BLOGGING. Please keep it up. This can be your FORTE!❤❤

Im assuming this came up in my feed because i watched keis one. Glad to have come across you and subbd . Cant wait to watch more!

Sam stay strong mate. life is never easy and a person can get caught up in the party way to easy. keep up the awesome vids buddy.

You are growing fast.(subscribers).We all make mistakes but learning and moving forward with realization is important.I know the stress one face moving to new country.I have that experience.Reputation matters in every aspect of life brother.

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Brad, I’m learning right?

Good luck man, found your channel from following Keis channel. I found him when planning my own Thailand adventure. Sadly mine was only a visit. Would love to come back sometime soon though. Hopefully see some of Vietnam next time as well.

Been coming to Thailand for about 20 years and have seen foreigners misbehaving over drinking and causing problems its unexceptable and im glad you changed your tune ! life gets better with clear eyes... L.A Rob

Moving to the night-life capital of Thailand probably doesn't help with the temptations to go out and drink nightly. But definitely hope you get on top of things and make yourself into a long-term resident of Thailand mate 👍

Everything done in Thailand is at a much slower pace. Practicing patience is very important if your living there long term. Words get out very fast wherever you are living amongst the locals. Good luck

Great video! Loved your honesty and how great the people are around you. Never judge the people around you. Your honesty was refreshing!

Good video explaining differences in holiday and living there and culture shock.. good luck

Great vlog, Sam. Open and honest. One of the six perfections in Buddhism is giving, and with giving your honest story you have created positive karma for yourself. Keep moving forward mate.

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate it 🙏🏻

Mate, you were making great videos back in Oz and on your previous trips to Thailand. How about doing daily vids? Or every second day? Maybe that could be a focus to keep your mind busy and stay out of trouble? Understandably Sin City would be a tough place to live.

@bgt828

Жыл бұрын

Also a word of advice, always give yourself 6 months in a new place. It is always hella tough in the beginning. But you need to force yourself to do 6 months and after that you'll be happy you stayed. Almost one month down, focus on getting through the next 5. 😎

Good advice, it is. Thanks for sharing your experiences, mate.

Great video, keep it up I moved to Thailand a week or so before you. Everything you said is on point!!

Rough, buddy. The real measure of good character is how you react to the bad things you do to others. What you did after you realized you screwed up shows good character and shows growth and learning from a good person. well done, man. Like I said when you left, there's very few things in life that you cant bounce back from. Keep going, man and if it gets too much, i got a spare room you can crash in for a few days! :D

Yo bro, can’t always be rainbows and unicorns. Well done making this video that must’ve been a tough one. Pattaya can be the best place ever but also mentally draining at times, between the move and settling in you have had alot to deal with and probably not stopped to process it all. No better place in the world to learn about Jai yen 🙏🏻

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

🙏🏻

I’m living in Thailand in Jomtien, Thailand people are nice and help, But they look down on people being rude and nasty to them. I feel safe here, haven’t had and issue. I’ve learned patience here, not rush🙏🏽

I feel you, bro! I have been in Thailand for 5 weeks. I've made a few mistakes, too. Mostly, with understanding/communication. I have had to watch my alcohol intake, too. I joined a gym a couple of weeks ago, and that has helped. Culture Shock is real. Head up, my bro! You've got this!

You know my response so I won't reiterate but good on you man, onwards and upwards. You have got this bro! Also CONGRATULATIONS on 3K SUBSCRIBERS!@#$%@ Wahooo 👌🤙💪👍👍👍

Sounds like some very good advice for people considering moving to Thailand. Stay cool and be safe. You need to consider the long term and stay off the grog

It is wise of you to learn from mistakes. Way to go! It sounds like you are on the right track.

At least you have been man enough and humble enough to see and admit the problems, and i wish you a good long future in Thailand.

I can't visualize you and Keis ever fighting. You seem really good mates!

@keisone

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes I gotta whip the big guy in to line 🤣 Your best friends are the most honest and tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear..

Props to you for taking the challenge of living abroad. I have plans to retire in Thailand so I appreciate your info. Have fun!

Keep your head up, everyone make mistakes. Nice video, not only showing the bright side of living here. I said hello to you and Adam, at Trepprasit night market about a week ago :) Keep going :)

Bro, have to say this is one of your best vids yet! Brutal, honest, truth! Everyone has their demons, trust me I know. Peace mate

You are going about it the right way brother. Remember alcohol is a depressant, and if you are depressed guess what? It complicates the problem further. You need to find something to keep you occupied. Boredom, and loneliness will put you back in the bar. The first part of a cure is recognizing the problem. Best of luck to you Sir. Chin up!!!

Life is sophisticated.Wishes you survive with happiness 😊

Your best video so far bro. Good work.

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Thanks brother

Thailand has a lot of temptation so if you cannot learn to control yourself you will not last. It's very fun but you gotta go in portions and always have control.

Good video and more than the standard ‘mistakes I made ‘ vid that we see from many vloggers in Thailand , Philippines etc. Can’t put my finger on your ‘x’ factor that made me want more - perhaps it was your anecdotes and self appraisal . Anyway maybe you will find your niche with this style. Keep it up.

New sub here , like your honesty champ . You’ll get there mate .👍🙏🇦🇺🇹🇭

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Thanks brother!

A good man owns his mistakes …. Thailand has a way of making a guy humble. Hopefully you can find happiness in yourself and project that on others. Seems like your already on that path. I like how you articulated this video.

Always approach the man with the squirrel politely.

@GoneAdrift

Жыл бұрын

Hahahaha BEST COMMENT ever 🤣🙏🏻🙏🏻

Takes a lot of balls to admit you fkd up, but you did your best to make it right, much respect. I hope you get to live your dream of staying in Thailand for as long as you want, your video's are getting better with each one too, looking forward to the next one M8.

Hey man, you seem like a nice guy. I live in Bangkok, it’s close to 4 years now. I think you mentioned you wanted Thailand to be your home, so just do that, know your limits with alcahol, partying and getting into trouble. This place as nice as it is, can chew you up and spit you right back out to wherever without a penny. Find a hobby, grow your income streams, limit the party life to a day or two every month, have some goals and work towards them everyday. Anyway all the best and tc.

Great video I enjoy watching you and keis I'm thinking of doing some videos of when I go to south korea for 5 weeks this year. My wife from busan. I plan on doing food and short videos. Any tips or advice on daily upload or short videos on my mobile. Cheers.

Subbed, for honesty, humanity, humility, and great advice. I figure if we farangs go to Thailand, we should be so polite and gracious to the Thai and anyone really. I haven't been there for 30 years but am going to get another trip together soon.