Honestly, he's probably only reaching out because he heard you're having a boy, which is a whole other level of toxicity. I personally wouldn't open my life back up to people who have disrespected my wife and daughters to that extent--I would either go alone to get my things and not come back, or I'd simply tell them to throw the stuff out so I could conserve my peace and energy. So sorry you're going through all this stress--I know it must be tough. Wishing you and your beautiful family well.

@whydoyoucare27

Жыл бұрын

That was my first thought!

@wantstobeasuperhero6837

Жыл бұрын

Also my thought

@ladyofthecentury

Жыл бұрын

I agree. I hate to bring race in it, but it is all about race. The fact that the kids don’t come out looking black but Asian is also a big factor to the parents. I think with the boy now they want to backtrack because the boy can be very important to some cultures and people. So maybe they’re willing to overlook race now. Especially since it isn’t so apparent in the grandchildren.

@solarsister5228

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I thought.

@MultiDarkAngel91

Жыл бұрын

My thought too. My coworker had two daughters and then a son. Her Asian MIL never came to see the girls and refuse to call them by their names. She never celebrated their birthdays. My coworker said she gained respect ever since her son was born. Her MIL would celebrate his birthday for a whole week and volunteered at school for him. She would babysit him too.

My husband and I went through something similar. They are making excuses to see you by asking you to come to pick up your clothes. Pride is why they are going this route and they are still not acknowledging your wife or children by not inviting them over. To me, this is telling me nothing has changed and is most likely still selfish!

@nphipps9406

Жыл бұрын

you really have a point there

Speaking as someone who has cut out family members due to cruel situations. I would view this with suspicion…

Even though it hurts, I'd ignore the letter as if I've never received it. Justin, you have a wonderful family, so focus on that. If one day they reach you, showing that they accept you and your family, including your wife of course, then, it's different.

@scarlett5674

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. For as long as you really don’t have any use of the things in that room…. (It’s been almost 4yrs so if anything there was important to you I’m sure you would have retrieved them before now)They can dispose of the things if they want to.

@barbtries

Жыл бұрын

ditto

@azedel7151

Жыл бұрын

@@sandrafernandez3839 I don't think South Korea is known for honor killings. But, i agree that I'd be reluctant to go visit them. I think their motive is simply to control Justin and pull him in for more family drama, annoy him and Sarah and not for reconciliation. I support Justin and Sara in whatever they chose to do, but personally, I'd pass.

@nphipps9406

Жыл бұрын

I said the same thing in the passed

@reneegordon506

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you.

Could having a "boy" be the cause? Children are a blessing 🙌🏼

@wen-a8703

Жыл бұрын

I thought of that too...

@who7028

Жыл бұрын

He never asked about the baby so no I doubt it

If you don’t want your things, then tell them to dispose of them. If you do, then make that your focal point. Clean out your room and be done with it. Take the laptop to your father and offer it to him. At that point, the ball is back in their court. If they disappear, they disappear. If they are softening their stance, they will reveal it to you. If they need your help, they will reveal it to you. But let them know you will get back to them on that, because you need to discuss it with your beautiful wife.

Oh, Justin, I don't even want to speculate. Imma have to ride the fence on this one. I do pray that it will be something wonderful and joyous for all of you. CONGRATULATIONS again on having a son 🥰🎉🎊🎈🎉🎊🎈Stay safe and Blessed

I would usually just ignore the parents if they still don't want to talk to me after all these years.

I think it's a waste of time to try to figure out something you will never get an answer to. Get your stuff and continue to move on. One thing I know is they probably thought you two would not still be together. They have disregarded and disrespected your entire family from the beginning. If they want a relationship they should be straight forward about it.

@karenevanoff8586

Жыл бұрын

Well said!

@wendygonzalez3475

Жыл бұрын

I agree.

@reneegordon506

Жыл бұрын

You seem so anxious to want to believe that they have had a change of heart and I understand that, but think about how they have disregarded you and your family for so long! Accept the fact that they don’t want to experience the joy of being a part of your loving family.

Honestly it doesn't even matter because it's their house and you're an adult and built your own family. At this point cling to your wife and let them do them 💯

@seoul73507

Жыл бұрын

👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

Don't go alone. Go with a friend, lawyer, just not alone. Film all items packed in real time. Be sure to catalog/itemize all that you remove from the house and have them sign the paper. There are different times for escrow and 90 days may be their escrow time to do all repairs and move. But I would try to get your things prior...again a witness...work friend or neighbor. Tell him about Baby 3 and that's it.

@shelleynobleart

Жыл бұрын

Yes. Great advice! These people are capable of great harm to this precious man.

@jacquelinejones9121

Жыл бұрын

Yes, Yes! I agree if you go to their house please take someone with you to video for your protection.

@joyfulautisticjesusfreak1997

Жыл бұрын

Spiritual awakening is needed…big time!

@sweetumsDenise

Жыл бұрын

@@shelleynobleart I think it’s more emotional damage than the threat of them causing any physical harm. I know he’s done the visit now, but even before, I never imagined them intending to cause any physical harm. Now his sister, maybe! She’s a whole different player in all of this.

It doesn’t really matter why they want your things out of their house. Given the history of your sister’s behavior and her bullying of your parents, it will most likely just make you feel saddened. Try to drop by when your sister is gone, and consider that your parents may never overcome their views and knowing this, you must also know that this situation exists not because of you but because they are not clear about expressing their own hearts in their own lives in any way, shape, or form. You cannot bring them wisdom or awareness that they cannot see on their own. So it doesn’t matter why they want you to pick up your things. It is a symptom of their own inner misery. Your absence in their life may end up being a catalyst for their further growth.

Justin, if l were you l will ignore the letter. This is strange. Be strong and concentrate on your marriage and family. Sometimes, we have to let our parents or relatives go because they hurt us the most. You have a beautiful wife and two girls. Your baby boy is on the way coming. Justin, please be smart. Don't go there alone if you want. I wish you guys the best of everything. Greetings from Ghana 🇬🇭 Love you all.

I would be cautious with my heart. They are not to be trusted. Set boundries with yourself if you decide to go. Be cordial, not open and inviting. Do not expose your children to them. Get your things, tell them thank you and leave. Remember, don't give them control at any point. Give them choices. This time or that time. This day or that day. Let them bring up the subject of your children. Give brief, but kind answers. If they want to meet your children, they must earn it. Talk with a family counselor about navigating any kind relationship with them. You must protect your family, and yourself.

I believe, in your gut, you know the answers. I think you wife has been put through enough. Your children need to be protected. Your actions should be about the family you have and not the family you had.

i can't imagine being a parent and disown my own son or daughter for marrying a person they dont agree on, it's ridiculous to even think, that they never have meet or seen your kids. how can they even say they dont like something. if they haven't meet someone!. i would be absolute devastated if my parents and brothers did the same to me.

@jacintalong2478

Жыл бұрын

I might not like my daughter/ son in law, but my child I never give up on my child.

@joyfulautisticjesusfreak1997

Жыл бұрын

Ouch.

If you don’t expect anything positive from your mom and dad following this letter, you will not get (too) hurt again. Guard your heart.❤️

Justin the only way to find out is to call or go over. I’m truly praying your parents will come around. I pray for you and your family often. As I said earlier we had a similar situation. Please don’t give up hope! Do not let negative comments weigh in on you. Ultimately it is your decision and your family! Not what we, your followers think!!! Congratulations on your new baby!

I would ignore them. I am from an interracial family and in an interracial AND LGBTQ+ marriage and my spouse is Korean-American. My dad is mixed himself, Nigerian and Indigenous, and his family disowned him when he married my British mother. Yet they loved my brother. If my mum had humored them it would have seriously given me inferiority issues. When you have children it becomes less about what you need and more about what is good and fair for them. I have a twenty- six year old daughter and she is thriving because I never catered to her dad's Vietnamese family's wishes for her to be raised to get married and forgo an education and that sons are more valued. We actually divorced over his inability to stand up to his family in favor of his child. Not saying that to be extreme but toxicity is toxicity.

@janetday5431

Жыл бұрын

I feel it's just an excuse to see you.tell them to burn or sale that useless trash. You don't need to be reminded of the past.tell them thank you, but no thank you! The end!

@wendygonzalez3475

Жыл бұрын

I value your opinion as you are someone who has lived in a similar situation. Thanks for sharing and best wishes to you and your family

Justin I have been following your family grow for years and what a fine job you and your wife are doing! The girls are beautiful and your wife is glowing. You look healthy yourself and that is a result of staying away from negativity and being surrounded by love. I myself have a narcissistic/gaslighting parent and the minute I cut off ties it’s been peaceful. Whatever is over there is it necessary for you to have? You have lived without it this long so let it go. Don’t respond, silence is golden! It throws a narcissist off their tracks and wait for 3 months. Whatever they’re trying to do to the room should not be concerning. The same way the letter was posted, let them mail your stuff with no communication or let them throw it out. Narcissist don’t like it when they lose control of whatever they manipulate, so not hearing from you or you seeking their approval is ticking them off. That’s just my opinion- I would keep away, but if you must know and are absolutely curious so what’s best for you.

Since I'm the stubborn type, I wouldn't meet up with them. If you don't need anything from your old room. Just tell them to throw if out. Wait them out and see what their true motives are. I wouldn't move to their tune. You have a family to take care of. I know your wife has always encourage you to retain contact with your family. She's a kind hearted person. 1. If someone can cut out like that, do you really want that kind of person in your life? If you switch it up with a family member and a friend treated you that way, would you keep them in your life? 2. Asians from Asia are notorious for being old school. They feel they own your life because they gave birth to you. Just because they're family, they don't have the right to treat you that way. Using the excuse that "we're a family", is no excuse. I know it's the Asian mentality that you as a family member have to take what they dish out. Ask yourself, if this how you would treat your own children? Would you cut them out of your life just because they did something you didn't agree with? Love is loving someone with the faults and all. You can pick and choose what you love about someone. Just because they're family doesn't give them a pass for bad behavior. You can continue to love your family but you don't have to like or agree with what they do. Anyhow, I would not do as they say at this point. My priorities would be my current family. March to the beat of your own drum. If you feel that you want to meet with them in three months (their schedule) or flip the script on them. When they contact you next, you make the call of what's best for you. This is about your own health and well being. If you seriously don't need anything from your room, just tell them to throw it out. I would feel bad for you father because he seems like a nice man. But he has to keep the peace in his house with you mother. If I has to guess, they're selling the house and want to pack everything first so they're giving you last minute notice to take your things, so they spend the least amount of time with you. A game of control. But I am wishing for the best case scenario you and your father has convinced your mother to reconcile with you. Best of luck.

Hey Justin and Sara! Justin even though u don't show ur pain I can feel it and I hurt with u, I pray that it's none of the reasons u think they are, may u find peace in all of this. You have ur own beautiful family, dwell on that... My youngest son left home just before Christmas and stated he's never coming to visit again, and he hasn't! As his mother it hurt me to tears and sadness for a while, but I have accepted it and released it and now I'm doing really great and at peace! Just release but still care and move on, it works wonders..take care, sending L❤️ve to y'all.

I'd get a no contact restraining order against your former mother, former sister and your former father. Their passive aggressive behavior toward you is not healthy for you, your wife and your growing family. Their behavior is unconscionable. Why put yourself through any further contact. Is there really ANYTHING of value in your old room? Don't reply to him. Let him deal with disposing the trash. Your wife shouldn't have to deal with this while she is pregnant. Cut all ties. That is my opinion. I could say more but I am trying to be civil.

Oh this is heartbreaking 💔 they are continuing this hateful saga and continuing to “try” to control you in their own selfish way. I’m so sorry. You and you family surely don’t deserve this as no one is deserving of this type of treatment. “Family” can be so unloving and hurtful and not just yours, family in general. Believe me you are not alone. I’m praying that you will receive that letter of apology with an extension of an olive branch very soon. Be cautious and don’t allow them to divide and separate you and your beautiful family. It’s not worth the fee of reconnection with them by sacrificing your unity and connection with your wife and children. 🫶🏽🙏🏽💕

@vamswolfmom4498

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, at this point, the mother and sister could be using the father to get him to house (they would evil so they could harm him). What kind of humans are these people! My goodness, my heart goes out to this family. The guilt that these parents have trapped them in for years is insane. I hope Justin doesn’t get hurt all over again. 🥹

@joyfulautisticjesusfreak1997

Жыл бұрын

When I saw this video posted in the subscription notice, I felt like praying!

Desperate people do desperate things. Please go with someone. Do not go alone for your safety.

@vamswolfmom4498

Жыл бұрын

I fear that the most! I feel like his mother and sister are setting up a big trap here!🥹

I would just stop. Sometimes you have to love from a distance. It’s draining to even have to deal with this level of toxic behavior.

I'm glad you have a family who loves you unconditionally now. I know that aching of having family that chooses to be estranged.

Justin, I think they want you to pick up your things to completly cut ties. I think the 3 month date is what they need to give you for legal reasons. I don't think they can get rid of your things without notifing you and giving you a chance to pick the things up. Go and get your things and give your father an update on the kids and new baby. Don't worry about thier intentions.

@victrola2007

Жыл бұрын

I believe that this is EXACTLY the reason. It would be wise to respond with a witnessed letter and receipt confirmation, set date(s) and remove belongings with AT LEAST ONE friend/witness along. If possible more than one. Under no circumstances would I bring anyone else and go in expecting this to be closure. Should something else happen, it is a separate matter. Justin's family has (almost) full access to details of his precious wife and kids' lives w/o making any effort via YT channel. There is no reciprocity, acceptance, contrition, even bare show of humanity or respect. In fact, from what we have seen there is a concerted effort to show disdain and repulsion. The notion of demands on a filial son and presumption of some parental right to mistreat and belittle without pushback has been twisted into something out of Joseon-era and has no place in modern society, certainly NOT when there are precious lives involved. This feels like a gaslighting power game. There's NOTHING wrong with removing stuff either way. If it's a clean sleight or an amputation does not matter. Two sides are not playing by the same rules.

@lenjon7478

Жыл бұрын

I did not consider that a legal reason is part of the 3 month time, but I think you are right. If they get rid of the things without giving him chance to get them, he can ask for compensation .. I think you are right.. this has nothing to do with love or care .. they are cold hearted. learn to live as they have already passed away. Go get your stuf, but with a friend and indeed film it so they have no chance to say that you steal some valuable things. I Ams so sorry,, but if this so.. you can now close this chapter for good after picking up your stuf. Sometimes siblings push the other one out for the possessions or money.. maybe that it’s what your sister did .

Hope your family eventually reaches out to you guys. Your kids and wife are beautiful. I hope things works out

@ivieta9634

Жыл бұрын

But they are grossly racist, life is better without them

No clue. Your mind went to ALL of the questions I had.. I know one thing, I wouldn't take my family over with me when I went to clean out that room... I would ask them why they wanted me to pick up the stuff. If they were cutting all ties with me, I'd tell them to clean it out themselves. I don't want it. I haven't seen that stuff in over 7 years, surely, I don't need it. I wouldn't give the satisfaction of them seeing me disappear myself from their lives. BUT, that's my Scorpio talking. I know I have no idea of what you must be feeling. I pray it all works out.

Speaking from personal experience with being totally rejected by my sweethearts family for absolutely no reason. They would make contact every 3 years, only to start us up every time. They were told point blank enough with the games grow up or leave us alone. It took the 4th contact and 10 plus years to have what was a perfect reunion. Just let it be known you are to busy for games but are open only if serious inquiries only. God bless your beautiful family.

Don’t mind them at all. Guard your heart and your family from anymore hurt and pain caused by your family. Simply focus on the good in your life and tell them to throw out your stuff if they really need that room so much. Don’t go in 3 months either just keep on living your life and appreciating your beautiful life. Focus on healing from the hurt caused by your family. Take it one day at a time.

Personally I would call my dad and ask what items are left of mine and if its anything significant to you, just go over and pick it up yourself and if not, give permission to your dad to just throw it away. As your reaching this pivotal time in your life of expecting baby #3, keep your peace of mind and don't think twice about giving negativity another chance in your life and family's life. And for the 3 month mark, maybe moving back to Korea around that time is what I suspect.

You guys mean so much to your subscribers. You deserve so much better than the mental anguish and abuse that you’ve suffered. I would go get my things and never look back. Love from a distance.

My heart goes out to you guys… it’s such a shame how ridiculous mind sets are in this day and age and it honestly pains me each time that I see you guys going through this pain. I send love, prayers and encouragement to you all 🙏🏾❤️

WoW! I cannot even begin to imagine what the right answer is to these questions. I will keep praying for a comfortable resolution.

Cruelty is never love.

Praying 🙏🏽 for family healing 🙏🏽

Sorry to hear that your family is treating you and your family that way.

Bless you guys. Keep rising shinning stars.

So sad when there are family tensions like this. Keep the love guys, be of good cheer. Sahra don't need the stress at her pregnant state. Am really praying your family comes around before it's too late.🫶

@vamswolfmom4498

Жыл бұрын

Their timing is so horrible knowing that Sara is pregnant. Why would they do this BS now? We know they follow Justin and his wife to see how “miserable” they are! They wish! I pray God watch over this couple🙏🏽

@leticiaurbach1720

Жыл бұрын

Just pick up the remaining of your things that way you can see if they are moving or what and ask your father what is happening since he is the one that talks to you.

Don't let anyone stress you out, enjoy your family and your life. Anyone who doesn't bring you joy, cut it loose.

All your questions are valid! God only knows your heart! He has guided you this far Justin, continue to rely on him! I support whatever you decide❤. Many blessings to you and your sweet little family🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💯!

i'm glad youre still open to communicating with your family. they have acted very poorly towards you and Sarah and many people would just completely cut ties and close that door. i think it is so much greater and much more rewarding (but also difficult) to continue to leave the door open, giving your parents/sister a chance to learn and see their mistakes and have a chance to experience forgiveness, unconditional love, and grandkids. you can feel good because you have continued to be the bigger person, and they can (hopefully eventually) feel good knowing that they have a chance to rebuild a relationship and know the feeling of a loving family

@ChillyMilly908

Жыл бұрын

but yeah, you should probably document/record everything when you go- not for us but for yourself, in case they try to bring up anything legally (ex. accusing of stealing).. and maybe make it clear to them certain boundaries that you want to maintain. at the end of the day, your responsibility is to your wife and your kids, don't exert more energy towards them than you need to

I have so much respect for men who do not enable racism and sexism. And those who stand up for what is right and call out BS

Firstly, get your stuff out asap. Go by yourself. If having a boy is the reason, then go carefully as they may accept the boy and reject the girls. You are very smart parents and your children and marriage come first. Protect that above all else. Go careful.

Interesting. Don’t keep us in suspense too long! Good luck and wishing the best!

I appreciate your thoughtful consideration of their motives. Showing love and disagreeing with very old ingrained beliefs can both be simultaneously true.

So sorry that you guys are going through this. The good news is you´re not alone, many couples go through similiar circumstances. Keep doing what you´re doing. I believe in the impossible and I hope for a true, genuine, heartfelt family reunion for you guys. Thank goodness for your mother-in-law. She helped you both so much. Heard that she´s in the Philipines from your last video. I´m sure she´s enjoying the warm weather. Life throws lots of crap our way and we have to navigate it with as much integrity as possible. Stay strong and focused.

Wow Justin.. I'm in tears. I've followed this channel for years and eventually lost hope that your parents would ever come around. I've been on this roller coaster with your family and I hardly know how to feel right now. It's a mix of surprise, relief, sadness, frustration, fear, anticipation and worry about getting my hopes up only to have them cruelly dashed. I'm literally in tears and hardly even know what to say here. I'll simply choose to be happy for the good parts and leave it at that.

Praying for your family.

This is so sad but just try to prepare your heart for whatever. It can be extremely hurtful when a parent do things like this. I am proud of you and your family so stay strong new dad.

Wow, that’s random! I would go just to get answers. But honestly I would feel very uncomfortable going by myself. Whatever the outcome, I pray you find the closure and peace of mind you so deserve. 💜💜💜💜

Sending love and prayers

Thanks for the update

I hope it works out!

I am a new subscriber, so very sorry for your parents behavior, do hope they come to see your children.

Wow interesting Sending all of you well wishes 😇😇😇😇

If they didn't give a why maybe it's best not to ask. You have a beautiful family and it's truly their loss! 💜

So sorry for you are going through this

I will pray for you & your family. Hopefully it is an excuse to see you. I pray for your safety and understand your concern.

Best Wishes. Stay in Prayer.

I have followed you and Sabrina from day one. I am aware of your struggles with your parents and Sabrina's father. You have a right to have questions. For me, I say don't get your hopes up too high. Go with caution. This way you will not be disappointed if things do not work out the way you want them to. I will be praying for you🙏🙏🌹🌹

Justin this is so sad I would tell them to keep it it's really sad that they are missing out of seeing your beautiful family stay strong Justin and pray for them maybe one day they'll show up at your house god has a way of bringing family back together much luv to your beautiful family 😊

Congratulations on your baby boy pregnancy… If the babies grandpa finally wants to meet the grandson (but make sure the girls go too)! Wishing you and your beautiful family all the happiness in the world! 🥰

I am sure you love your parents and are concerned about their well-being. Any good child would be and you are a good son. But they are not concerned about yours or your family's well-being. Do what gives you peace. Know that without a heart felt apology for their behavior it will continue. You don't want to get on that emotional hampers wheel but it's your choice. You have a beautiful loving family. Always protect that unity because it is so precious. Love you guys.

Justin, I say just pray that one day,some day they will realize what all of this is doing to you and come to their senses and accept your family. Parents are suppose to love their kids unconditionally and accept the choices they make and who they choose to spend the rest of their life with. I say don't let it stress you and consume your life. Pray for them and that they will open their eyes and their hearts. But until then keep pushing forward and live your life. You have a beautiful wife and kids who love you (even though I know you want your parents acceptance). Just take it one day at a time and pray that they will some day come around. God Bless you Justin and your family. Let Go And Let GOD. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Justin take someone with you if you decide to go. But since you didn’t need those items for these years past I would just call your father and tell him to get rid of them. Ask him what is going on in three months. I know it hurts that they are acting this way but you don’t need the drama in your life. You have a beautiful family to take care of without drama. Love to you, Sarah, and the girls and soon to be baby boy.

Stay strong. You guys are awesome!

I’m hoping and praying your Dad is reaching out to embrace your wife and children.

They'll come around eventually. Glad they're taking steps to doing that.

@mindfulness123

Жыл бұрын

I doubt that they ever will come around. And this doesn't sound like a step forward at all-they want him to get his stuff out of the house. If they ever do "come around," I think they should reject it. They seem toxic as people.

I hope things go well.

I'm so sorry you and your LOVELY family are going through this emotional ABUSE, especially from the people who are supposed to love and cherish us no matter what. These are truly STRANGE days, and I would be very careful about visiting your parents and your sibling INSIDE their house. You can inform them that they can place the items from your old bedroom outside the front door, and you will pick them up. Btw, no offense, but your family had at least one normal member who acts in a loving manner. Kudos to you, Justin, for having the BRAVERY to chart your own course in this journey called life! I really, really admire you AND Sara! Take care and God BLESS you in whatever you decide to do.❤👍🙏

@vamswolfmom4498

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same way! If he doesn’t want the stuff - tell them to throw it out! They are very little years left so I’d be extremely careful! Selfish love is know you do some serious damage!🥺

If you have not missed any of the items in your room for all these years, and because of the way your self and lovely wee family have been treated by them I would be suspicious, and keep a distance. There are people in this world that take pleasure in destroying your happiness, don’t let them. Xxx Keep your own mental health safe. Xxx 🥰😍😘

You are having a boy, that is the answer ❤❤❤love you Justin you a have a beautiful blessed of God family, always praying for you and your 3 angels 👼 with the 4th angel 😇 on his way. Justin, people are watching your family and they are learning how to be a complete unit in the face of adversity. Keep moving forward, I thank ABBA for your family and I pray for HIS continued blessings and the healing of both your families….

I’d have the same questions as you if I were in this situation. Curiosity is strong, especially with people you still love, even though they’re abusive, toxic and racist… It’s such a sad situation.

You are a beautiful couple! I hate that you are going through all this with both your parents. They are the ones who are losing in the long run of creating wonderful memories with their grand children. How sad! Both of you..stay strong! You are the best parents who will teach your children to have loving hearts towards everyone despite color and religion.

You are very loyal for you family. To me you have your own beautiful family your wife very amazing just take care of your family it just doesn't make sense your family they didn't reach out there Grandkids that's a shame if they can't came they should have FaceTime any ways very weird just focus in your family it is not worth it May the Good lord be with your family God bless you🙏

Maybe he wants to get your relationship back where it use to be. Praying you and your family can work things out 🙏. God bless your family 🙏 ♥️

I would have the same questions you have. Sounds to me like they could be moving, but that’s not easy for older people.

Best Wishes!

Good questions.This must be so stressful not knowing.I would try to make contact soon to see if you can get more information.

Hopefully it’s the time to build bridges. Thankfully, by the grace of our Almighty, you all are well. Let bygones be bygones and move forward. It’s good for our hearts and minds to forgive. After all, they are your parents. You cannot replace them. I had seen a similar situation that someone kept the grudges until the end time. Positive things begets good things. We are not here on earth without our parents, I pray that you two try to win their hearts back. Blessings to you two and your family.

At this point I don’t think you should contact them. Just let it be

Regardless of the reason... You may have to accept the fact they have disown you... I have been there so i understand... They have pick tradition over unconditional LOVE... which is sad... you must stand your ground and show the girls and new baby no matter what choice's they make in life... you will always love them... you may not like their choice's but you will never stop loving them or turn your back on them... my prayers are with you and your family...

Keep us posted, either or you'll be just fine amd good luck

hello , all of this stress is sooooooooooooo unnecessary , life is too short . all the best , to you and your family🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰...........

Hi Justin and Sarah your parents reached out after a whole year it's sad the people your immediate family mother and father treated you and your wife , daughters with the most disrespect I can only give you my opinion and that's all it is pray about it ask God to give you discernment on what to do you and your family is in my prayers for safe delivery and birth 🙏💙congrats on your son 😊

Another commenter mentioned possibly legal reasons for the belongings' retrieval period. If intentions were pure, it would not be presented this way, I am sorry to say. I believe that this is EXACTLY the reason. It would be wise to respond with a witnessed letter and receipt confirmation, set date(s) and remove belongings with AT LEAST ONE friend/witness. If possible more than one. Under no circumstances would I bring anyone else and go in expecting this to be something warm and fuzzy. If that is Justin's family's overture to a conversation, that should (imho) be a separate matter. Justin's family has (almost) full access to details of his precious wife and kids' lives w/o making any effort via YT channel. There is no reciprocity, acceptance, contrition, even bare show of humanity or respect. In fact, from what we have seen there is a concerted effort to show disdain and repulsion. The notion of demands on a filial son and presumption of some parental right to mistreat and belittle him and those precious to his family without pushback has been twisted into something out of Joseon-era and has no place in modern society, certainly NOT when there are precious lives involved. This feels like a gaslighting power game. There's NOTHING wrong with removing stuff either way. If it's a clean sleight or an "amputation", it does not matter. Two sides are not playing by the same rules.

I felt they going try one more last time get u to leave your wife and kids again I will not trust them

My husband stop talking to his mother for 3 years. After 3 years, he got an apologie letter from her. It was hand written in Hangul. My husband had the same questions too. He didn't want to go through the drama again , but she rarely apologies so that made it hopeful. He called her and she was lonely because the family in Korea stopped talking her. During their first visit he set some ground rules. * not allowed to visit the house *no contact between wife and mother *no talking about family * no demanding $. It had a rough start but they have dinner once a week.

It's so heart breaking to c your eyes so sad Justin I can c you want you parents to atleast show some interest in you and your beautiful family I cannot say why they want you to remove your belongings out of their house but just prepare yourself to be disappointed 😢

If you have not been in their house for three years, then there is nothing in your old room that you cannot live without, so they should feel free to throw it out themelves. That said, maybe they are using that request as a means of telling you something important, so it's good to go and hear them out too.

You will always love your parents even though they are dysfunctional or irrational. You are trying to be happy n live your best life. You cannot be responsible for your parents unhappiness etc. I sure wish I could figure them out because they are going to extremes n very stubborn. It’s okay to love them from a distant and be respectful towards them as they did raise you well n made sacrifices for you. Just feel sorry for them for missing out on the opportunity to be grandparents. Such a shame because you have a wonderful wife and lovely girls. Pray for them and don’t get angry and definitely don’t let them take your joy, don’t make them make you feel guilty. Continue to stand up for your wife because that is what a real man does, protect his wife and kids. Your mom has boundary issues, too much pride . No one controls or owns their child just because you gave birth to them. Your parents are aging . You must be the better person and stay strong . Nothing wrong to visit them because you will regret it if something happens to them. Forgive them and be at peace and know you did only what you could do. You are a good person so they must have done something right in their life and give them a little credit. I wish you many blessings and just continue to surround yourself with people who accept n love your immediate family .

I hope they are changing their minds

So sad I don’t know what they are up to cause it doesn’t make sense. I’m with you, Justin. But I don’t want to find out, if nothing else just to be curious/nosy.

I have no idea, but if that's all they want from you it could be that they don't want any reminders of the son they rejected; you're not part of their family, why is your stuff in their house? I would have had an entirely different take if he had so much as asked you how is your family? I'm really sorry this has happened but confident that you will never let such a thing repeat between you and your children. Because y'all got the love.

Haven't watched the video yet but hoping this is good news!!

Hi Justin, I felt compelled to respond to this video. First, your viewers have shared excellent suggestions and advice. My Husband and I are in a interracial Marriage. We have been separated from his side of the family for about 8yrs now, 1. Because of a Lie, which kept my Husband and I from attending his sister Home Going Service. 2. Culture clash, 3. Racism. Long story short, my Husband and I reached out to his family, We prayed and gave this matter to God, and rest in the Peace. They closed the door, case close. ❤️❤️❤️

I am not in the habit of posting messages, but I am doing it now because I am so sadden by your family ongoing drama even after all these years. I am not in your shoes- thank heaven my whole family consist of multi ethnic group and cultures and happily getting along So I can not imagine your true feelings towards your family, but please focus on your beautiful wife and children. Your family are only hurting themselves and missing out on the joy of having grand kids. In due time you will find the truth behind the letters, but in the mean time continue to enjoy what is now your family - your wife and children. God bless🙏