It's easy to say no one is to be blamed when it's not your child floating on the pool. But I don't think any grandmother would ask for her grandchild only to neglect her to a point of death. I wish healing to both the mother and the grandmother. It's not easy knowing someone died under your care

@precioussebatjane2986

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry but how does 1 not even jump into the pool to try rescue the child and perform CBR, no man come on not even scream for assistance

@Nkwenkwezithandiswa

2 жыл бұрын

You see your sentence?? This is what I’ve been saying since part 1. And it really is someone’s fault firstly the one who didn’t lock the door secondly the one who left that child unattended to.

@kelebogile_morelife

2 жыл бұрын

In life, trust no one... Especially when it comes to your kids. I'm sorry but sometimes family... yoh, I'll end it there

@Solwazi918

2 жыл бұрын

@@precioussebatjane2986 Well. I don't have answers for your questions. I can only speak from what I think and have heard from this interview 🙏

@Solwazi918

2 жыл бұрын

@@Nkwenkwezithandiswa Maybe, I also don't know

I once heard a parent who lost a child say when you lose your husband you're called a widow when you lose your wife you're called a widower when you lose your parents you're called an orphan. But there is no word in the English language(I don't know if there is one in our African languages) for a parent who's lost a child. And that's because there are no words that can sum up the depth of the pain of the loss. May God continue to heal you Monica and everyone who felt the pain of losing Chuma.

I’ve watched all episodes of unpacked but this is by far the hardest to watch. I just can’t stop crying 😭 😭. Oh Lord, no mother should go through this😭🙌🏽..

@stellamooibedi9027

2 жыл бұрын

It is hey...

@feliciangoveni1177

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely the hardest

@keitumetsemphulo8273

2 жыл бұрын

Completely, it's too much. Her pain is so raw.

@ntuthukona1021

2 жыл бұрын

I just cannot handle this. I've been crying the entire interview. I'm a grandmom but this cuts so deep.

@sibongilemngomezulu3454

2 жыл бұрын

@@keitumetsemphulo8273 yeh it makes it more sad cause I thought it just happened 💔

Relebogile, the sensitivity you gave to this story is unmatched. You're such a great host, I really admire your work and courage.

@nanazimkhize2149

2 жыл бұрын

Thandi, you couldn't have said it better. Relebogile is amazing. She was meant for this show. Thank you so much Relebogile for your passion. May God bless you, sesi.

I'm shocked it's been 10 years. Her emotions are still so raw. It really never goes away. 💔

@theglen85

2 жыл бұрын

True hey and in the previous episode she said she has forgiven the grandma, but I highly doubt it coz even her tone changes when she talks about her... But I guess she's saying it to try convince herself. Some things will take a lifetime to heal from

@beingmzansi2419

2 жыл бұрын

8 years

@itsmaakadee7059

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔

@sontomtolo473

2 жыл бұрын

💔

@nomsantsoane3984

2 жыл бұрын

Somethings in this Life you never get over, you just house the pain inside you. Mourn it when it is time to mourn and smile in times of happiness for a lifetime

May God give Chuma's mother the strength she needs😭❤.

The most heartbreaking part for me is that no one jumped into the pool after she was discovered 😖😖😔😔. I would have jumped, the last thing on my mind would be to remember that I can't swim. They even had a car, I wouldn't even wait for paramedics to come 😖😖

@zimkhitha.h

2 жыл бұрын

I'd jump in too 😭😭

@wespeakthetruthhere7413

2 жыл бұрын

I know right 💔

@zandilisana6885

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly it's shocking that they were folding their arms waiting for help while she's floating 😢😢

@thoesibanda7769

2 жыл бұрын

Everything wll be revealed in Heaven one day(konk esikwenz emhlabeni kuyovela obala)sengath ukumyeka emanzin bekuyiproof 😭😭😭

@bonnie_emesiobi3266

2 жыл бұрын

That part broke me double

You never get over it. We lost our nephew when he was only 3 yrs. He could’ve been 24 yrs this year. It’s still painful. Prayers to you mama💛

Her ex husband and his family showed no sympathy when she needed them the most. Their response towards the most tragic event any person could experience was cold…inhuman. I believe that contributed to her pain. The husband should have called her elders/ relatives immediately when he heard the news so they could travel and be by her side. Surely he had her sister or moms number! No matter the situation of their marriage at the time, Chuma was his child, Monica his wife. He had to protect her, comfort her, lead with admin of funeral, ask questions about autopsy etc. She went through so much with such bravery at a young age. Bless your soul Monica. I can feel your love for Chuma and that she loved you too. Amadoda wona. We must chose wisely coz wona ne family zabo can be the descendants of S*atan.

@nolwazidube3665

2 жыл бұрын

You took the words from my mouth

@sontomtolo473

2 жыл бұрын

The last part, yho. I agree 100%🙌

@xoliswanengudza5877

2 жыл бұрын

When death strikes you never know how you are going to react. Monica please stay in counseling it will help you go through all these emotions, so that you can look after Chuma's memory, yourself and your boy. I promise you it will get better.

@LihleM1

2 жыл бұрын

Yes he should have been the one to contact her family.

@naomizulu3976

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry tha last part🤣🤣🤣🤣so true

Modimo go botlhoko go lebella mosadi sobbing for her child

I remember babysitting my niece the other day and my sister left the door open to take a call behind the house for whatever reason. That child vanished in a split second. I noticed that it was too quiet after 10 minutes or so, I panicked so much and looking frantically. Turns out that my dad picked her up in the middle of the road at the busiest time because we live close to 3 schools. I swore to myself I would never take care of a child because accidents happen in a blink of an eye. I don't wanna live with the guilt yoh.

I had to sell my house because it was not child proof and I had a pool. It was a double story and my grandson crawled upstairs one day.i was soo traumatized imagining that the worst can happen from windows upstairs and the stairs . I am the paternal grandma and I won't take any accident. I can go cra3.

@92Kandee

2 жыл бұрын

What kind of house did you end up buying?

@sibongilemngomezulu3454

2 жыл бұрын

We always slightly get irritated by my mom's paranoia but when I see this am starting to appreciate it cause she wouldn't have left the child for that long without checking on her even with adults especially if someone was not feeling well. Wish u strength sisi for ure health & ure surviving child 💕

I feel like the husband's family at some point were kinda arrogant.

@kmtz1107

2 жыл бұрын

More like they are narcissistic.

@olebogengmeea8998

2 жыл бұрын

@@kmtz1107 Exactly!

@theglen85

2 жыл бұрын

@@kmtz1107 no man let's not just use this word so loosely! Not everyone who acts up is narcissistic

@pinkygirl1299

2 жыл бұрын

@@theglen85 negligent thou😩

@noziphontini1821

2 жыл бұрын

Logogo uyalaz iqiniso hw can she neglect the kid like that for 🍵 tea, something is not normal here mhlampe bathwala ngengane

If it was Monica's mother minding the child,this probably wouldn't have happened...maternal grannies care a lot,you know the rest...my mother taught me long ago if you have kids around once it is too quiet something isn't right..so as a mother I always call out whenever my kids are around and it's too quiet...just call and ask what are you doing or check to be sure that all is well...granny is responsible for this child's death.

@stellamooibedi9027

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!!!

@keepitfrankwithfentse

2 жыл бұрын

I was partly raised by both my paternal and maternal grandmothers because my parents worked a lot when I was younger. They both were extremely caring when it came to me...maybe because I am an only child but they made it a point to know EXACTLY where I was at that age...I don't necessarily think its about the maternal side is more caring....its either the individual is caring or they are not. My other question is why wasn't the pool covered? I grew up around pools literally my whole life but all the kids in my family knew that the pool was to be covered unless there was an adult nearby while we swim. The story has a missing link...

@stellamooibedi9027

2 жыл бұрын

@@keepitfrankwithfentse wena you were lucky Fentse❤some people aren't as lucky as others I guess hence there's such comments.

@Blessed224

2 жыл бұрын

@@stellamooibedi9027 True.

@kmtz1107

2 жыл бұрын

I couldn’t have said it better.

In all this, I just feel like there is nothing, absolutely nothing better than saying I'm sorry, it can really help relieve pain. She just needed them to be remorseful and supportive bathong💔😭

@kankan244

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, someone should have apologized instead of being fearful of any charges that may come

@thenamakays6871

2 жыл бұрын

I agree...

@sthokozilerejoice5970

2 жыл бұрын

Apologies is opening room for the resulting punishment,and people who lack accountability will not do that!

@tebogomakolomakwa9659

2 жыл бұрын

True

I really get why she is blaming them, i get it

Grandmother would have been arrested here in the US no doubt about it. Sometimes our culture and government in SA fails us.

@thabomolautsi

2 жыл бұрын

Let's not use her as skape goat we know how children are and a lot can happen in 5 minutes. What I don't understand is why the pool was not covered

@tebogomokobane8094

2 жыл бұрын

Kids are naughty with a child is anything cam happen 5minutes

@LeyleS

2 жыл бұрын

@@thabomolautsi Never said anything about using her as a scapegoat. In this situation, grandma would have spent time in jail here until case closed, period!

@LeyleS

2 жыл бұрын

@@tebogomokobane8094 exactly, that is why they need to be monitored.

@sechabamashamba9354

2 жыл бұрын

@@thabomolautsi And people who stay there could not swim,why have a filled pool?, Imagine if they got the baby earlier who knows maybe after CPR she would have came back to us. I have a 4 & 6 year old, & i feel for this lovely lady.

From my knowledge, in the event of fatal accident, an autopsy will be performed to determine the cause of death and in order for that to be done, they will remove the organs and examine them. I'll just make an example with the brain. It will be removed to check if maybe she did not suffer a brain injury before falling into the water, might be a stroke, an aneurysm, maybe she hit her head. In order to do this, they need to slice the brain etc. Those organs are not put back in the body unfortunately. Also, the child had been gone for far too long for any of her organs to still be viable. All I can say is I'm really sorry sisi that they didn't explain izinto kahle kuwena, and that they let you view your child in that way. They couldn't even stitch her kahle knowing you were coming. I'm sorry. 💔

@stellamooibedi9027

2 жыл бұрын

I also the child died hours ago,what organs might have been usable??

@thandinkosi4349

2 жыл бұрын

They should have explained this to her, I doubt any of the organs were viable to use for someone else. None the less, her pain is palpable, I pray she finds healing, and hopefully the book will help with that.

@sinazonoqhamza6281

2 жыл бұрын

You're right Noxzie, they should have explained to the family what was going to happen with their daughter's body. This way they wouldn't have to experience further trauma. My heart breaks for this family.

@immaculatenzimande9929

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for enlightening me.

@graciousmakhuba1433

2 жыл бұрын

@Noxzie when the pathologist perform an autopsy they open you up and take out your organs then from those organs they cut samples to examine the cause of death them they put the rest in a plastic bag and put them back in your body and stitch you up… I did research about that

I just watched part 1 and I'm still crying. I thought I could watch something lighter then I got a notification for part 2. Let me just cry away once💔💔💔 My son is playing with his dad outside and I keep on pausing and checking if he is still there. 💔💔💔

@khanyisamakamu6712

2 жыл бұрын

That's me hey. I can't let my daughter out of my sight 💔💔. This has shaken me to the core. Healing to the lady.

@lelokprecious3947

2 жыл бұрын

Yoh sis Khanyisa. We need to take extra care of our children. I send her healing🤍

As a mom this is the most painful episode I have ever watched

@lyndiemathonsi3624

2 жыл бұрын

I keep pausing, I haven't been able to finish the episode 😭😭😭😭the pain is too deep

When you babysit you are extra careful cos you know its not your child.You do things you wouldnt even do to your own child. Eish😓

@herimaya3466

2 жыл бұрын

@Aya..true..as well no matter how well you try, if anything happens you still get blamed..that's why even with a ton of time in my hands, I'll not baby sit/care~give..

I doubt anyone can heal from this, the idea of losing my child traumatises, i think i can even take my life

My child die under your supervision and you tell me ""No one should be blamed"".😭😭😭😭💔💔💔, wow! People can be very cruel.

@stellamooibedi9027

2 жыл бұрын

Imagine!Why jump that even?Yhuu I feel like she wasn't supported through the whole thing

@teem783

2 жыл бұрын

Like.....it was the first thing he said to her!!!! Very sus

@teem783

2 жыл бұрын

They gaslit big time!!! The whole family and the husband

@pointa2b388

2 жыл бұрын

They were supposed to let her vent

I've lost 3 baby boys in my life,all born at 6 months and I had to hold all of them till their last breaths but this story right here is just the saddest ,I cant even imagine raising my child till the age of 3 only to lose them😥😭I'm so so sorry mommy,m.

@khanyisiletachiona1017

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sooo sorry dear

@pennyndlovu7296

2 жыл бұрын

Love and light sis💞🥺

This is heartbreaking, I pray healing to your heart sesi Monica

I have watched all episodes but this is definitely the saddest, I found myself just listening at some points because my eyes were so teary. I saw my mom in this woman, my late younger sister committed suicide and my mom is the one who found her after she overdosed. its only 5 years later and she acts so strong but after I watched sis Monica, I just realised that mama could just be putting a brave face on for me... that thought just breaks me because heartache slowly eats away at a persons being. I hope she publishes the book soon.

I wonder how was the child’s relationship with the grandmother. I think that is also key, observe when you are around them to see how they connect. That will guide you in wether they can be good guidance when not around.

I'm currently expecting a baby and just watching this episode made me cry cause as much as you can do your best for your child, they can easily be harmed under someone else's care. Wishing her healing and light

@basetsanashongwe7143

2 жыл бұрын

I’m watching holding my 4 months old daughter,crying hysterically and she just playful 😭❤️I can’t imagine seeing her lifeless, the thought breaks me💔Love and light

Imagine having to hold your child's lifeless body for that long 😭💔

@relebogilemabotja215

2 жыл бұрын

😭

@juliasephaka8033

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so heartbroken and getting second thought about taking my son to his father's mom he's OK with mother until I take him myself

The mutuary people were totally wrong,this add salt to the wound

Her ex husband failed her so much.

@user-um6mm9cp4s

Ай бұрын

I understand why the hubby couldn't bare to watch his daughter at the mortuary. My husband couldn't go into the ward after his daughter suffered a stroke...he was shaking like a leaf😢

'Elokufa awulazi" (you do not know death)... My grandmother always says death is a scammer, it will confuse you ... I strongly agree with Xolo Solwazi, this could happen to anyone unfortunately even when someone was sick and passed at the hospital we blame the hospital. In this situation I'm not not saying they blaming the gran all I'm saying is "death is a scammer"... May the Lord heal both families , this is too painful 💔

I feel like the husbands family should still be held accountable ! There’s more to it!! This story is so heartbreaking 😭💔

@nosiphoradebe6297

Жыл бұрын

Yes, but ultimately the mom decided to leave her child with her grandma.

@kavumapaul6464

Жыл бұрын

And then what, forgiving is tje best decision

This is so painful, I can't wrap my mind around this💔! May this woman be heal♥️

I feel her pain in her emotions narrating this... So sad, love, strength and light to you mama

I was once asked what an ideal husband would be for me. My answer…he must be kind, empathetic and have my best interest at heart. I said that because I believe even in darkness a kind soul will be your peace. He will protect you against harm, even by his family. Monica’s husband failed her in many aspects.

I have never been this touched by sny of these episodes, as I am by this particular episode... Take your time to heal sisi... uThixo abenawe 🥰

I’m shocked hearing about what happened at the mortuary and with the autopsy. I cannot believe how disrespectful our government employees are - just when I hear a shocking story of mistreatment by government employees, I hear an even more shocking story. This is disgusting!!!!

@sinenhlanhla9339

2 жыл бұрын

And they know the level of grief will mean the family doesn't have the strength to fight. It's messed up.

@atlenyatlo8401

2 жыл бұрын

@@sinenhlanhla9339 making the trauma even worse 💔

@relebogilemabotja215

2 жыл бұрын

I couldn’t believe it myself. This violation is so unacceptable. 💔

@tiisetsokgwedi4466

2 жыл бұрын

The disrespect from them is apualing

@zanelemabaso7902

2 жыл бұрын

Government forensic psychologist have zero respect for the departed,

This has to be the most heart breaking episode I have ever watched on the show so far😢😢😢....my heart just broke💔💔😢

@nanazimkhize2149

2 жыл бұрын

Chwayita, I am finished. This is just too much.

I can imagine what the grand mother is feeling as well. As much as we appreciate and sympathize we need to empathize as the grandmother is not here to tell her side of the story. Pity the family had broken down. There can never be truth and reconciliation

@thubadesire5947

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you

@matekedigojane6405

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you

@swazi4769

2 жыл бұрын

So true sisi

@kamogelokoloane5182

8 ай бұрын

Yep

I'm here again ❤️❤️😍mama ka Chuma we love you so much sisi

It sounds like there's more to this. Intuitively i can tell there's so much hidden by the husbands family. 1,The arrangement to have the daughter over the grandmother's place. 2, Who opened the sliding door? 3, Why are they defensive instead of grieving along? 4, Will she Jump to the pool? I don't think so cause, she was supposed to be scared of the dogs in the house. 5, The list the father was supposed to do was to Atleast Persue what happened to the organs. 6, Now they arrange the whole funeral, that's guilt. The father sounds to also be guilty. I'm not saying because they are Rich they did something to your kid but I'm saying the finger is pointing at them. They have some explaining to do. Important Question, what is the belief or religion they are following? That might also play a role. After the child's death, did you notice any change in their social life???

@thandiwejambawa7827

2 жыл бұрын

Also the child had flu, that's why the mom did not take days off to nurse her child because it was not something critical . She was ok leaving her daughter with the nanny but grandparents insisted that they care for the child. I also smell a rat

@phokaneinfinance3127

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds suspicious

@nkelemolate7910

2 жыл бұрын

Phokane. You are right,some families especially partenal side can do cruel acts to their grandchildren to gain something. And if the husband is weak they can be dragged into such acts. The whole story nje a soberly minded person can tell gore there's something fishy

@lusiandeunyema7348

2 жыл бұрын

You are right.

@bree3003

2 жыл бұрын

Angikholelwa ukuthi kulento eshady la. It was a tragic accident. In my line of work we learned that many children die in the family home or vehicle. It was an accidental in my opinion. But what was not accident was the way the man's family closed ranks following the tragedy. I think yi guilt shame and shock. Baswela isiphatho lomakoti wabo but still into etshaya amanzi mina angiyiboni

Love, light and strength to Chuma's mother!❤🙏

@tebogomakolomakwa9659

2 жыл бұрын

I feel she needed a tight hug and just to say sorry for your loss, remember your loss is our loss on that day. The pain was gonna be better.

The Paternal family know very well what happened, I can bet that Chuma did not die from drowning in the pool. To Chuma's mom, may she find healing. God seeing and knows everything, he will fight for you

My sister made me and my mom watch this and towards the end I heard God speak to me regarding this beautiful lady and her tragic experience. Mommy I am so sorry you had to go through what you went through and I am not sure if you realize how power you are and how powerful your experience especially to other mommy's and daddy's who have lost their own babies is and are also suffering in silence. We always ask God to use us as empty vessels that will carry out his word. You are that vessel personified because no one will completely hear someone who has never lived a mile in their shoes. Just you being on the show I witnessed a little bit of healing in you and I felt a lot of healing on behalf of other mommy's and daddy's that have gained a little angel. What's very clear to me is that you are very special and God chose you and Chuma🌸 specifically for this journey.. I know it hurts but He knew that you could do ALL OF THIS. What I heard God say is "this is her ministry" I love how you are nurturing this part of ministry because not many parents want to minister it. You were called mommy and your being on the show, even if it's to help even one parent is all the glory that God requires. I see you doing wonderful things through this specific ministry and through Christ who strengthens us I see healing for you and many mommy's and daddy's. God bless you. By the way you are gorgeous😍.

@monicandindwa8395

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the advice and kind words

My goodness, 😭😭😭 I just want to give her a hug right now. I'm so sorry Mommy. May God heal your precious heart & family. - 💔Yesses, that was so hard to watch.

@stellamooibedi9027

2 жыл бұрын

I felt the same as just hold her and allow her to cry for as long as she needed.

@nomfundomngomezulu2566

2 жыл бұрын

I skipped these episodes for days, I knew I needed strength to watch them..... May the Lord give her and her son more strength, comfort and healing......

I wish Chuma's Mom healing 😔 this is interview has me in tears I can only imagine her pain😪.. as if the pain of drowning wasn't enough they had to brutally cut her up 💔 May God bless you🙏🏽

This is beyond painful maan💔💔💔💔💔😭😭😭I pray for healing and strength to the mother🙏

Hard as this is, the husband was suppose to force himself into the room

@swazi4769

2 жыл бұрын

It's not easy. We grieve differently. I don't think he needed to be there.

This was so necessary and learned so much from this mommy. It's certainly true when they say you haven't really experienced someone fully if you haven't dealt with happiness, sadness, loss, poverty and wealth together. We are all different and will experience things differently. God is still God at the end of the day.

@relebogilemabotja215

2 жыл бұрын

There’s such profound truth in your comment. Thank you

I pray for healing upon this woman life,makes me realize dealth is nothing easy to understand, whether it's sudden or after an illness

It’s how no one jumps into the pool to pull her out for me I don’t care to know you are old or that you can’t swim I believe instinct would prompt you to act … for me it’s mind blowing that’s what hurts me a lot

@user-um6mm9cp4s

Ай бұрын

That's where the problem is believe /think vs reality vast difference 😮

UNkulunkulu akusingathe ngothando nemfudumalo sisi♥️ What a tragic story. Yho 💔💔

Knowing there was no net......why weren't they extra vigilant about the child

@lamlapota6040

2 жыл бұрын

My question as well...

Oh the pain. 1 one year, I lost my child after birth and 7 months later my nephew 2 years old suddenly just died. It was the worst year ever..you never get over it, but you move on and everyone forget and its like you not allowed to remember them.

The Lord is near the Broken hearted..You're in my Prayers

Her pain is still so raw, it's heartbreaking 🥺🥺🥺

@tebogomakolomakwa9659

2 жыл бұрын

She is broken

28:40 Couldn’t hold back tears. I just broke down!

Yho this is heartbreaking... I cannot imagine what she is going through. Love and light to you Sisi and I hope you get the healing that you deserve....

This is unbearable to watch. Lets allow her to blame whoever, no one will ever understand her pain and agony

@popslibra6885

2 жыл бұрын

So true

Firstly, the child was in the pool for 30mins without no one checking up on her. Mhh🤔 Secondly, the family said "no one is to be blamed" and lastly the father couldn't go inside to see his daughter only to find out clothes and organs are missing. I'm just saying something doesn't add up here. 🙌🙅‍♀️ PRAY THE WOMAN HEALS, GOD IS WITH YOU mama.♥🥺♥

@quelquun2018

2 жыл бұрын

Right!! Very odd,the mommy was also young, beautiful, married. Lord knows

Hayi Relebogile you know how to dig and Unpack to leave us crying, speechless and knowledgeable. Re a leboga tota.🙏

@relebogilemabotja215

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🙏🏾

Monica's story , I cannot feel pain like this & as a mother, this is not something one can imagine until it happens to you. May the Lord continue to give her strength 💗

This is excruciating to watch I can only imagine what it feels like 😭 my daughter was diagnosed with leukemia in April and I have scares of loosing her and this just broke my heart.

@seithatibaloyiletstour9073

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate. I am going through something similar. It's painful. Lord have mercy on us.

@sibongilemakubu9187

2 жыл бұрын

Ncese mommy ❤️❤️❤️

@thabomolautsi

2 жыл бұрын

Cheryl askies hle. 💔 e bohloko a re tshepe Modimo

@cherylrakgomo5667

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you all! ❤️ we are fighting this my little girl is fighting this disease so hard! God give her strength

@noluthandomasondo

2 жыл бұрын

@Cheryl strength to you and family ❤💐 Lost my 17 yrs old cousin in 2019 (diagnosed with Leukemia in 2016), after a stem cell transplant. She suffered Graft and host deceases after few months of the transplant. It still hurt me to the core because I literally raised that cousin of mines. On the 14 August it marked 2 yrs since her passing. May Jehovah give you strength as you walk this tough journey with her. May you not get tired, if you do, way he renew strength akuphe amandla amasha ❤ The hurt that Monica still feels, I pray for Lords peace and comfort empilweni yakhe ❤

This is the saddest episode ever I pray that she gets the strength from God and will eventually heal with time

May the Heavens look after Qhuma's mommy,give her strength and may she find that strength in knowing that her little Angel is in a much safer place and she's also gained an Angel in her❤🙏Love and light to all the mothers relating to this❤🥺🙏

Amadoda! Uhamba uthi I have a partner and when you need a partner the most they flake!

This is so painful. I know the feeling of leaving your child in someone's care. And something bad happen. And the person doesn't even take resiponbilty or show some remorse. My brother's girlfriend left boil water on the floor and my son fell in it and burned. He survived but it was very bad. He stayed in hospital for 10 days. She never even went to visit him. Or even show support

I feel for Monica and the rest of the family. They are all dealing with the pain of loosing a child dear to them all. We grieve differently and I know that there is an expectation for the husband to be by her side etc. Truth is, he was also as devastated by the death. While she was crying and screaming, his grief was in silence. He was probably trying to process what had happened. It was not only the death that he was processing, he probably thought of how bad he feels to have allowed their daughter to go to hhis parents. He probably had so much guilt that he couldn't get himself to do anything. Ugogo naye was hurting. It's not nice for someone to die in your care, accident or not. If it was unintentional, it will haunt you. The guilt is so heavy and so to conclude that the husband's family didn't care may probably be reaching. I think this marriage had problems and the death was the last straw. There are mechanisms, therapy sessions, and other ways of dealing with death and marital issues. Monica I pray that God can lead you to peace and healing mama. It takes time, but it is possible. This was a very sad story.

This is so sad, you never get over a lose of a child, my sisters child was killed by a hand grenade in the yard ukuthi ifike kanjani, still today its a mistery

@relebogilemabotja215

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness 😳💔 I’m so sorry 😔

@nompumelelomasango3880

2 жыл бұрын

@@relebogilemabotja215 thank you cc,the will of God its painful and he was 10 at the time 2008 bit when you think about that child yoh it hurt and when l talk about this l cry and people would say its over 10yrs why are you still crying like it happened yesterday, they dont understand ushone kabuhlungu at his age yoh Nkosi

I have a 3 year old daughter and I feel so much pain listening to this story, it really breaks my heart, but thank you so much for sharing sisi, this really teaches us a lot as parents, I pray to God to heal your heart ❤️❤️❤️❤️ may Chumas soul rest in peace🧚‍♀️

Bathwala ngengane yakhe losis hence why they stole the organs afterwards I mean they were so quick to shut her off and tell her no one should be blamed it's all doesn't add up and also the clothes she was wearing disappeared and the organs were gone plus the father didn't want to come inside because he knew what had happened..... Sending you love and lights sis❤️

@lyndiemathonsi3624

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly, bathwala ngayo lengane

I cry the whole time watching this.God protect this strong mother

Yho ha ah bethuna... No parent should ever go through this pain hay ndiyala 😭😭💔💔💔

I would have made a scene and blamed grandma directly. You are soo strong.

@nosiphoradebe6297

Жыл бұрын

She ultimately decided to leave her child with the grandma so that would be silly.

💔💔💔 I also lost my only child , my boy , my everything through drowning ( 16.10.2021) I'm still broken 💔 😢. His name was Wamke.

@tebogomacipa9048

2 жыл бұрын

Love and strength to you mommy

@minenhlemaphanga9548

2 жыл бұрын

How old was he? I'm so sorry

No one and nothing prepares you for so much pain as a mother, when i lost my mom a part of me died now the thought of losing that little soul must have definitely destroyed this woman may God heal you, you will always be in my prayers

May Chuma's soul rest in peace 😭😭Sending Chuma's mom hugs and prayers!! May God give you strength 🙏

As women we always need to be mindful of in-laws that don't have good intentions for us , if they don't like you just keep your distance. God remains God above all🌸 Strength to Monica and Tony💞

@mandyhlomani3470

Жыл бұрын

Amen.

She is brave indeed.

This is heartbreaking. The grandparents should have shown remorse.

@kamogelokoloane5182

8 ай бұрын

But wr only getting one side of the story. Let's bare that in mind

She tells the story so well... I wouldn't be able to finish a sentence I'm sorry. This cuts so deep😭

I'm so proud of where you are now mommy. You've used your hurt for purpose, may God bless you.

That whole family on the husband's side is emotionally lost is lost (and bankrupt).

This is really heartbreaking. Fact is the people who work at the medical examiner's were irresponsible in the way they handled the situation. They lacked empathy and sadly that goes for all government institutions in our country. They should have explained to her the whole process of the autopsy if need be, so that she left there with an understanding and not with questions of where her child's organs went.

Nooooooooo Monica 😭😭😭, ibuhlungu lento, uxolo sisi 💔💔💔. I think Monica is a friend of a friend of mine. I have not seen her (if nguye) in years - didn’t know about this tragic loss. Uxolo, uxolo sisi, andinamazwi. May Chuma continue to rest in eternal peace ❤️

Thank you so much for sharing with me.....I have never lost a child but I can put myself in your shoes you are the bravest woman I never seen......

I’m struggling to finish this episode 😢😢😢. Oh mommy 💔💔💔

@evaeva-ju5pd

2 жыл бұрын

This episode cut deep..💔💔 I have no words just tears

@tiyiselanin

2 жыл бұрын

@@evaeva-ju5pd 💔💔💔

It's 2023 my tears couldn't stop 😭😭😭😭.I can't say I feel ur pain but the pain I felt was so much hope you heal ur daughter is an Angel now 🕊️🕊️

It really was not easy to watch this without tearing up 💔 I’m so so sorry my sister.

@isabelchiloane2618

8 ай бұрын

😢very sad I was just tearing up

The most heart wrenching episode ever!! I can't even.

i remember hearing her storo on the centtwinz channel ,i have never cried so much

The way I cried, it is really not easy. May you heal Monica sthandwa

This is total trauma.

💔oh mommy I feel your pain. I almost lost my son and he was also left in someone's care and it still haunts me that I wasn't there to protect him and what breaks me is that he said " mommy I called for you and you where not there to help me" 😭💔I pray for healing and forgiveness everyday 🙏.

@aqmagadla2961

2 жыл бұрын

My God😭😭😭😭

Pain/heartbreak can make you say aweful things. I hope both mommy and grandma can find healing. We love our kids more than our own kids😢❤

Sorry Cc for your loss. No mother should go through that. May God continue giving you strength.

I believe there is so much to this story. My heart goes out to Monica. I would say she is very strong to forgive the grandmother.

Man, this was hard to watch, I can only imagine what she is going/went through. God continue to strengthen her and cover her always I commend her for her bravery, someone will be strengthened by her telling this story. Job well done to Relebogile, you did that 👏🏽

this is so heartbreaking no mother deserves this . Its so sad to go through something without any support system and have to deal with something that you can never change.