They say Aspies are often rude. But I consider how NTs talk and act and I say we are no more rude than they. Differently rude maybe, but not more rude.

@jannacrimando1425

4 жыл бұрын

I get called rude a lot because my facial expressions and mannerisms get misinterpreted a lot, and I don't pick up on a lot of the doublespeak NTs engage in so I don't always respond correctly and it comes off as rude.

@ecocentrichomestead6783

4 жыл бұрын

@@hemprope4326 see? I rest my case.

@hemprope4326

4 жыл бұрын

@@ecocentrichomestead6783 Well at least you're willing to accept that you're a total POS!

@aussiegamerdude6403

4 жыл бұрын

Me too i get nervous grocery shopping because i hate interacting with a stranger in the check out i cant protend to smile and be happy people think im scary its annoying im very awkward with strangers im getting better though

@ariannacarbone6275

3 жыл бұрын

@@hemprope4326 Thank you for proving their point....

I have Aspergers as well. The older I get, more dificult it is to cope it with. Maybe because social situations are getting more and more complex as you age. I'm socially way behind my peers. My mind is very mature, I'm very understanding but socially I'm pretty much around 10-15 years behind.

@missabi9052

5 жыл бұрын

I relate to everything you just said, my mental age is high as my social skills are low O.o

@pleasedontkillmyvibe2774

5 жыл бұрын

ArtsyAbi me too! My social skill is child like

@AntonioTarot

5 жыл бұрын

@@missabi9052 me too, andd it's annoying i remember that always at the school i felt like weird and always i was like go away i don't need to talk with you.

@rossmurray3168

5 жыл бұрын

.. and me .✋

@wa0187

4 жыл бұрын

For me it started to get really hard when I hit puberty and things changed. I'm 18 now and I suffer a lot. I got my diagnosis at 17

I have Aspergers syndrome and I find that even though I have 2 degrees,people speak to me slowly and treat me like I am 'delusional' in some way if I am upset about a genuine thing.

@annate4347

6 жыл бұрын

That happens to me as well

@pleasedontkillmyvibe2774

5 жыл бұрын

Anna Te they tend to over explain shit

@rossmurray3168

5 жыл бұрын

Me too, I don't understand why.

@StridertheBelgianMalinois

4 жыл бұрын

inestter

@lily-ella2179

3 жыл бұрын

I just don’t tell people-

aspergers doesn't just make you different. it makes you more intelligent than other people. and if there's something people really hate, it's someone who is better than them.

I'm an aspie and I was wondering if anyone else uses music to block out noise because I tend to do this in classroom situations especially around computers because I don't like the sound of people typing. I was just wondering if it was just me or if other feel this way or do this

@ElisaBenaggoune

7 жыл бұрын

Sasha Robinson oh no I feel the same way too and I need some noise blocking headphones too

@knightace2002

7 жыл бұрын

I did that too.

@emilymc607

7 жыл бұрын

Sasha Robinson I do this a lot in the dinner hall at lunch as you can not hear yourself think

@tammydoherty6372

7 жыл бұрын

+ Sasha Robinson - I don't have Asperger's (officially - I just resonate strongly with some of the symptoms), *but* I often use music to block out the noise of other people around me. Especially when I'm out on my own at shopping centres or supermarkets (I also hate the nauseatingly bright, artificial lighting of those kinds of places). I don't do that when I'm accompanied by other people though, obviously (rude, haha). I wished I'd had the luxury of listening to music in-ear in computer-based classroom situations before, but that was strictly prohibited (we had to be alert to the teacher at all times). I think there are many people out there who are simply *sensitive* to their environment and all of its stimuli because they perceive more at a quicker, more condensed rate. Well, that's how it feels to me, personally. I generally don't like labelling people (because it limits and reduces them to a narrow bandwidth of personhood), but I've heard of a label named 'Highly Sensitive Person' (HSP). Maybe people officially on the autism spectrum might identify with that? Another thing I want to say is that our modern society is simply deeply unhealthy on multiple levels and is constructed in such a way so as to 'reward' people who fit the limited template of what supposedly constitutes 'normal'. If a person doesn't have 800 friends on Social Media, post daily statuses on same, go out socialising with friends at least once per week every week, or make idle small talk with anything with a fucking pulse, they're maligned as being 'weird'. Never mind the possibility that the person is simply an introvert, has solitary hobbies they pursue, needs a rest/relaxation, wants to go for a walk outside for a fucking change, or happens to be broke at a given time. It's ridiculous. I blame American culture for popularising this favoured stereotype of the ever-gregarious and garrulous extrovert. Fuck America for that. Anyway, another thing is that I don't like the uncertainty, unpredictability and potentially fluid boundaries inherent in having random strangers in my midst. Despite the fact that I seem to be able to read most people unusually well/accurately. Fuck, being a human being is hard sometimes, lol. :~)

@PubliusAfricanus

7 жыл бұрын

+Sasha Robinson ... I'm not an aspie but use headphones ALL the time because people today are just irritating, especially out in public. They play shitty music on their phones and cackle like crazy people. And don't get me started on their kids that they exert no control over whatsoever.

I did a presentation at my school about my life with aspergers and I got an a on it my principle wants me to do it in other classes

@MandyJMaddison

7 жыл бұрын

Congratulations on achieving an A for your presentation, Ryan! I think that it is a very good idea that you principal has, for you to share this with other classes. When people understand about how other people feel, and see things, it helps everyone to get on better.

@ryanavery8174

7 жыл бұрын

MandyJMaddison thanks for the compliment

@summer-kh4jv

7 жыл бұрын

that's really brave and congrats on that A!!!:)

@ryanavery8174

7 жыл бұрын

Summer Deaver oh thank you

@ryanavery8174

6 жыл бұрын

Alexander Liu last time I did it I got emotional

You ever get stressed in large crowds of people like me?

@Thebaildude

8 жыл бұрын

I do, I'm 17 and have Aspergers and when I am anywhere that is crowded I will get real overwhelmed and angry. My head will get hot and I'll start getting real anxious.

@chrisherbert2461

8 жыл бұрын

It's stressful being in large crowds of people

@pikachuchujelly7628

8 жыл бұрын

I hate crowds. My version of hell would probably be a mosh pit at a loud metal concert.

@philippinesball5058

8 жыл бұрын

I'm not and I have Asperger's. As long as I don't get lost or trampled, I'd be fine.

@aaron22528

8 жыл бұрын

+chris herbert yep it is

Another Aspie channel reaching out to do a possible colab video? Let me know, :). I have just over 6K subscribers and I think a colab would be awesome.

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+The Aspie World that would be great! :) great to see other people in the same boat as me :)

@TheAspieWorld

8 жыл бұрын

+Rhiannon Salmons Hey, awesome. Email me theaspieworld@gmail.com

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+The Aspie World I'm on it now :)

@TheAspieWorld

8 жыл бұрын

Rhiannon Salmons Awesome, :). Do you have Skype?

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

I actually don't :( sorry

I have Asperger and sensory issues dislexia and other mental health illnesses yet I can still walk, talk fluently, I also do make up and look normal, yet I am autistic. So many people have it. The spectrum is so wide and everyone is individual just please stop making inappropriate rude comments that affect so many people!!!! Rant over. Be happy and stop fighting it's not good for anyone

@kutay8421

3 жыл бұрын

I don't care

@johniversen1539

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a big fan of your music, and now I am an even bigger fan of you because you came out, and stood up for us. You are awesome, and you deserve all the fans that you're getting because of your work. At first I was a fan at the first time that I heard your music. The first time that I heard your music was back when you put out radioactive. I heard it on the radio, and I was instantly a fan. I've been listening to all of your music since then, and I'm proud of all of the work that you have done putting your career on the line for the LGBTQ, and people like us with mental illnesses. I didn't realize until now that you had aspergers. I also have aspergers, and I used to think that I wouldn't amount to anything because this world wasn't meant for people like me who had aspergers, but now I know that you have aspergers, and you are a rockstar. So now I have hope for the future. Thank you for what you have done for the world, and I am so proud of what you have done for it. You are so awesome. I am sorry to hear about your wife, but my pastor keeps telling me in church that pain leads to perseverance, and perseverance leads to character, and character to hope. I have also lost a lot of people who were very important to me in the last five years, some to death, and some just left my life, but I am happy for the time that I did spend with them, and I am grateful for the pain in losing them because the best learning opportunities come from pain. You are such an inspiration to the people who watch your career, and to the people who listen to your music. I am so proud of you, and I hope that you keep your chin up, and cast your cares on God because he cares about you more than all of your fans put together. Keep up the good work, and know that there are so many people who care about you.

@bummerdrummer3135

2 жыл бұрын

@@johniversen1539 Dude, that's not the actual band... Just a fan who took their name and cover album for their own username and profile photo.

@johniversen1539

2 жыл бұрын

@@bummerdrummer3135 face palm emoji, lol I am so gullible. Thank you for letting me know.

i have autism aspergers and i cant relax around people i dont know and always panic when things change i was diagnosed with it when was 21

Had no idea there were so many amateur psychologists in the KZread comments section - amazing how it's possible to make an in-depth & accurate diagnosis through someone's KZread video! Thanks for being awesome and raising awareness! It's unfortunately quite hard for people who are not on the spectrum themselves to fully understand, so no doubt there are many uneducated (and surprisingly hostile) opinions thrown around. I feel most people with Aspergers almost learn to fit in in some social situations and mimic neurotypical behaviour to a certain extent, which can create an initial impression of looking 'normal' to others. I'd love to see a video with tips for getting a job especially when communication can be a huge issue.

@Siders2032

6 жыл бұрын

Becky C Your keen sarcasm is a unique talent for Aspies.

@e.a.coldrick

2 жыл бұрын

@@Siders2032 Hold on... I cant tell if you're sarcastic or not. I have autism/aspergers/asc/asd, whatever you wanna call it, and I'm hella sarcastic. Maybe it's just cos I'm British...!

I have aspergers/high functioning autism. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are very very very brave.

I'm 26 and just found out I have asperger's :-/ I'm putting myself through a hell of alot of self development programs to be more sociable. studying the art of body language and learning to get out of defense mode has changed my life dramatically. I was heading towards self destruction as I couldn't stand being alone anymore. Thank god for people like you :-)

@gpmd6969

7 жыл бұрын

Ammon Mckay

@cootermonger

7 жыл бұрын

Ammon Mckay hi... how did you find out you have aspergers? did people notice symptoms in you or did you start to notice things yourself?

@cootermonger

7 жыл бұрын

Ammon Mckay thank you for replying. I am 90% my bf has aspergers or autism but he gets offended if it is mentioned so I'm really trying to learn more about it. Did you see a doctor for a final diagnosis?

@cootermonger

7 жыл бұрын

Ammon Mckay do you feel your life becoming easier now that you know why you're different?

@ammonmckay2503

7 жыл бұрын

No one wants to admit there is something wrong with them. There's a book called 'connecting with your asperger's partner' that will help. I cried when I read it as I realized alot about myself and how I unintentionally pushed the ones I love out of my life. I would suggest the best way to help your partner would be to suggest help through logic and not force or push change on him as this will cause stress and withdrawal. aspies are very stubborn and in our heads we're always right. If u can help him see his problem he will look into it himself and make it his special interest to improve. just remember to suggest not enforce.

I have aspergers too. I have to do school online and I'm too scared to leave the house. I wish I had more people to talk too thanks for making this video

@pleasedontkillmyvibe2774

5 жыл бұрын

maia zohar I am in the same boat. In public situation I'm so anxious I can't even think.

You're a great speaker Rhiannon, thank you for sharing your story

Rhiannon Salmons, I wanted to say thank you for posting this video and sharing your experience with Aspergers. I have high-functioning autism and I find it hard to talk to people, even if it's people I know, and being in new situations. It is really encouraging to know that I'm not alone in this; you reminded me that autism isn't something to be ashamed of and it isn't a curse - not a day went by when I didn't wish I could make it disappear. I'm now proud of it again and wouldn't change it for the world. But most importantly, it's amazing and commendable that you are raising awareness for autism when it is such a misunderstood condition. I hope you will carry on providing this space of understanding and I wish you all the happiness in the world.

I loved this video. You have explained AS so well. You're AS story is very reminiscent of my own. Good luck with the rest of your life, you deserve to be happy, have lots of friends and not be judged for who you are. xxx

before I look at my Asperger's as a excuse and negative but this actually made me want to embrace and be proud of it. I have this video and you as a support so thank you so much ❤ much love to you and everyone with this blessing

Hi Rhiannon. Thanks for sharing your story. My six year old has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers / high functioning ASD through CAHMS - sounds like a similar process to you with a 14 month wait time and the games and the assessor talking about random things in her life (no guinea pigs though, for my son it was holidays). He is too young to understand right now, and I am mulling over when is the best time to start having conversations about ASD with him. From your video, it sounds like you have benefited loads from having an official diagnosis and now have a better understanding of the things you sometimes struggle with, which has made me confident that I should be open with my son about his diagnosis when the time comes - I just want him to have a happy life and to reduce his anxiety in any way I can.

Thanks for telling your very relatable and touching story. I was diagnosed with Aspergers about four years ago (when i was 15) while my depression was being assessed. When i listen to other peoples personal stories i find myself nodding my head because of how much their experience practically mirrored mine. When I was in Elementary School I was always alone and honestly didn't even want to be around other people due to my awkward social interactions and the anxiety that I felt as a result. I believe you mentioned that you had a higher maturity than those your age. That reminded me of my High School experience where I couldn't stand many of my peers that were the same age as me so i began to sit with my brother and his friends who were seniors on a regular basis. Also I have never been able to keep friends even when i get them. It's like after the school year ended I would step into restart mode and then have to start from scratch at the beginning of each and every school year. I'm still trying to figure out where i fit in this world, no one in my family is very supportive and they always say that i blame all of my problems on Aspergers or they dismiss the things that I claim are a part of Aspergers (trust me i've done my research lol), it's almost as if i am trapped in a never ending spiral that continues to spin faster as the years go on. This experience has been so peculiar that i decided to write a novel about it. :) i'm glad to see more and more people talking about Aspergers (and Autism) openly. I hope you and others continue to do so because people like myself are surrounded by a whole lot of neurotypicals who never stop and wonder how it would feel to be in my shoes. PS: I'm still learning more about myself and i was wondering if other Aspies have the issue of having a mind that is always thinking too much, so much if fact that it messes with your concentration as if you have the attention span of toddler.

I am very proud of you Rhiannon! This is my first time watching one of your videos. I am a Behavioural Therapist by profession. And I just wanted to tell you, you are doing Great. You are a beautiful young woman....so keep your head up high and never allow those that are ignorant to bring you down.You go girl! Eilaf

I watched the whole video. Throughout the whole thing there have been so many things I've wanted to say, but maybe another day. I am soooo glad you've found yourself again and that you feel confident again!!

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+MindOfHerOwn Aww I appreciate that so much! Aw bless you yeah maybe :) and thankyou so much!! That's so lovely of you, I am too :) Thankyou for being so encouraging and caring

This is beautiful, I think I have determined that explains the way I think as well. I suffer with insane lifelong anxiety and I'm so happy you're spreading Autism and Aspergers awareness

Thank you so much for taking the time to share.. truly a blessing to those whom have loved ones whom are dealing w/ Autism/ Aspies, and recently diagnosed. TY

My parents also said that to me "If you skip school we are going to prison"

@charlieputhfan850

5 жыл бұрын

E O sameee

@charlieputhfan850

5 жыл бұрын

Ana Munitić lol I think that person means skipping school, not homeschooling if u skip school your parents can be arrested.

@liquoriceprose163

5 жыл бұрын

Ana Munitić I think it's more of a British thing but I'm not all that sure.

@StridertheBelgianMalinois

4 жыл бұрын

yay

" the continual maintenance of okayness "...love the phrase

This is beautiful, (here I am commenting 2 years later finally coming to terms with being comfortable with my autism lol) watching videos like these have helped me so so much. I am seeing that other people like you have grown up in similar harsh social conditions that I had and it helps me to feel so much more okay with it all. Hats off to people like you.

Thank you so much for being so honest with your story Rhiannon. I hope that you are doing well and continue to be the confident young lady that you are. I have a 17 year old son with Asperger's and he seems to have led a parallel life to yours but here in America. Many of the experiences that you shared are so similar to what he has faced throughout the years. This has given me a renewed hope and response towards my son's plight. Best wishes and God Bless....

I have a 4 year old with Aspergers and I really appreciate your video. I loved hearing your story. Thanks for sharing

I'm a 38 year old dude diagnosed 3 weeks ago. My 14 year old daughter is just like you. She'll do any thing, try anything, fight anyone, is hyper-intelligent, is very popular etc... and I know she could be aspergers but she functions not only highly, but exceptionally... and so thanks to the misperceptions, she goes under the radar (or does she? :D). I just don't want the masking to bear on her the way it has me... I'm on a come-down from masking for 30 years and I can't describe how much I've overloaded upon realising. I can't sleep atm. I don't want that for her... people look at what you can do and think we can't have any problems so when you do, people are passive to your struggles.

Thank you so much, Rhiannon, I was officially diagnosed with Aspergers last November, but the diagnostic process began in 2013. It's scary how similar our experiences are. You are so strong and I accept and support you 100 percent! It's so inspiring for me to hear your story, so just thank you so so much!

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Elizabeth Richardson Aww hun you're SO welcome!

I must have seen this video 5 years ago and never said about how much Aspergers has both affected me in so many good ways but also so many challenging and difficult ways as well. I’ve been heavily stressed with life at the moment and struggling to understand my place in the world, trying to make sense of my current reality and even questioning some serious spiritual beliefs and problems I’ve been dealing with, it’s been a sensory roller coaster so I’ve just tried to find some like minded folks on KZread who, while we all may differ on the spectrum in so many ways, there may be some things we can probably understand better from each other than how neurotypicals would understand. 5 years later, I hope you are doing well Rhiannon and coping with this situation to the best of your ability. It’s hard but we all need to realise just how exceptionally unique our minds are. Some of the most greatest thinkers, inventors and creators have Aspergers so never discredit your capabilities of truly wonderful things. And let’s encourage those who may suffer from the severe end of Autism to integrate their skills and passions as well. Just because they may have higher difficulties and more dependance required than we do doesn’t make them any less human than we are. We are in this together 🌎 🧩

hi I'm 15 and I just got diagnosed with Aspergers and I'm watching videos like these cause I'm kind of anxious but I wanted to say you are so beautiful!!! :O

@d1lan66

3 жыл бұрын

idk why but this makes me emotional bc u are 19 now and u wrote this when u were 15 and just got diagnosed probably trying to “cope” with it. i wonder what u a doing now.

I always got physically sick when sleeping over at a friends, i'd usually throw up.. Never got why until i got diagnosed at 15

@MissStripedpirate

7 жыл бұрын

***** are you trying to 1up me? hahahaha

@MissStripedpirate

7 жыл бұрын

***** You just have to recognize that you are still the same person and nothing is going to change :)

@MissStripedpirate

7 жыл бұрын

***** Maybe explaining it as best as you can helps, people usually fear what they don't know..

@MissStripedpirate

7 жыл бұрын

***** How would you get hurt?

@MissStripedpirate

7 жыл бұрын

***** Well, you could just choose who you're gonna tell. I only say it when I think the person can take it or i just don't care.. Also they will only make fun of you if you're ashamed of it's otherwise it's no fun for them anyway.

You are a real trouper for sharing your story. It's important in your life as you grow as a woman, become a mother, to have a good support system when things will arise with your children, in work and with your family. There are many people I have met with PDA, one in particular failed to tell me she had a ASD and PDA until it was too late. I asked her to help me with a project which put me in an awkward position with dealing with a group. When I needed her help, she was gone and she told me why but it was too late. PDA can cause havoc and instead of facing an issue can cause you to run. If you deal properly with your diagnosis especially the PDA issue, put tools in your toolbox( meaning life skills that are taught to you) you can lead a good life. Thank you for sharing your story, you are a beautiful person on the inside and out, keep shining sharing your story. The only way to stop ignorance and people being in denial is to show people with it. When we show people with it, it makes people understand that people with ASD are not really strange, scary or having something abnormal. You are wired a certain way, it's not a disease, just different. I am the mother of a talented artistic teen son with an ASD and a mom to a wonderful young lady who has ADHD.

I'm a 67 yr old male who is just figuring out that it very likely I've been on the spectrum all my life. This awareness has been very useful in understanding myself and others. I enjoyed your honesty and willingness to share your story. Best of luck to you. You're awesome.

this video helped me a lot. i can relate to all, if not most of what you mention, thank you. i wish you the best for the future

I have Asperger's syndrome and I was hanging out with some autistic kids today

I just want to say thank you so much for making this video. I was diagnosed with Aspergers when I was 3 years old, but I found out myself back in June of this year. I honestly feel like people get offended over the fact that I'm autistic and sometimes people treat me like I have no common sense or like I don't know anything because of it, and it hurts. When you were talking about how you were kind of re-finding yourself I got emotional because I'm in the same boat. Despite all the hurtful things that people will say to me about it, I'm proud to have it! I feel like if I didn't have Aspergers I wouldn't be who I am and most of my personality would be gone! So I just want to thank you so much for making this video. Sending lots of love. :)

I am glad I found your video! I was having trouble communicating and understanding my bf who is Aspie too. You have broaden up my mind so much. thank you so much,you're so real, keep it going. ilysm

Glad you were able to share that. I had a lot of bullying when I was younger too and I didn't understand why. But I was very shy. One kid had special needs in my class and I wasn't mean to him but I was always so curious about him. Now looking back I do think he had autism. My parents are still in denial that I have Asperger's and I'm 35. I didn't get the support growing up and I was left to myself to raise myself basically and I was treated the complete opposite of how you should work with an aspie child and it really did mess me up as an adult. If it wasn't for my BF I would be a recluse and afraid of the world right now. He's not an aspie but has helped work with me in my social awareness and it's been a constant battle to remember everything he says. I finally started to meet with other aspies in my area to get help in how to function so I can at least among people. But I still have a lot of anxiety and feel like I'm alone quite a bit cuz I can't share how I feel openly. :(

They knew how to get me to react too, that's why I was suspended 20 times in fifth grade, have c-ptsd, and generally wish i was the only person on the planet. It was tough for me, i wasn't diegnose until I was 23, and by then the damage was already done. Years and years and years of bullying, abuse from siblings, severe abuse, and punishment from teachers and parents constantly. People can be very very terrible when they think they are in the right. I suppose one good takeaway from my experiences is that I never assume I know why someone acts the way that they do, and try my best to give them the "benefit of the doubt." But sadly, I can't decide whether or not I like people or not. Should I blame them for what happened to me? I don't want to blame myself. I want to move on but these festering feeling pop up all the time and I'm afraid I'll end up hurting people. I never liked to be hurt, but for some reason, I really want to hurt others. it's just not right what happened to me, and I don't know how to move past it.

I have aspergers too and I loved your video. I found everything so relatable, keep up the good the work and never let anyone put you down.

Thank you so much for your video. My six year old daughter has Asperger's. I have been working diligently to research more about Asperger's and how I could be such a support system for her. Thank you for your video it gives me such insight. I want to be able to support my child as best as possible throughout these very important years of her life. I know that having Asperger's can be quite complicated into adolescence and your video helped open my eyes to things. I know as a teenager I had my fair share with issues of bullying and I remember how difficult it was growing up that way. I can only imagine how it is for somebody who has Asperger's to have to travel that same path of peer acceptance. I think you are amazing and woman and you were doing so much with the community with the platform that you have on social media. And I truly appreciate that. I only hope that when my daughter gets older she will be able to look up to people like you for support within the community. I was so touched to hear how support if your mother has been. I hope that my daughter will look at me the same way when she gets older. I also wanted some insight and advice on what your suggestions were on when and how to explain to my daughter that she has Asperger's. What do you suggest is the right time and how to approach the subject with her. I want her to always have that self-confidence I see a lot of my daughter and you. She's also very outgoing and fearless and has lots of confidence within herself and my husband and I are so proud of her for that. After hearing your story makes me realize that there could be that struggle with social anxiety. I want her to have learn about herself to understand herself more to have better coping mechanisms in life and I want to do it in a way where she will maintain as much self-esteem as possible. ❤

I experience my frustrations inwardly however I do project my opinion when I'm on the brink of a meltdown, especially if I feel deprived of my needs to soothe myself. I enjoyed your video ❤

This was a lovely video; thank you for sharing! You sound like you've struggled with some of the same problems I have, and I'm very glad I stumbled across this! :)

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

Aww thankyou, you're welcome! Ahh that's great we can relate to each other in that sense :) thankyou for reaching out and I'm glad you liked the video

Thank you for doing this video. I came across it by mistake but have followed your channel because of it. I was undiagnosed with autism all my life and am still really struggling to accept it. I find it hard when people say they wouldn't want a cure because I can't see anything but hurt and struggle that has come out of it for me. I am only accepting it enough to admit I have it because a friend who is also autistic has helped me a lot. Listening to you had helped me so much because I relate so much to do much of what you said and what you went/go through. Thank you for talking about it all.

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

Aww you're welcome, I'm glad you stumbled across it, I hope you enjoyed it :) I know the feeling, trust me. That's such a shame to hear, I'm really sorry you've felt that way for so long :( I promise you it does get easier and things become much less painful to deal with, just remember that you are still the same person as you were before the diagnosis, the diagnosis doesn't change anything about you, it just gets to the bottom of how your brain is wired and it gives you a bit more of your identity that you otherwise weren't aware of for your whole life. Thank you, honestly it's my pleasure and I'm so glad this video helped you and you found comfort from it :) always here. x

This means so much to me. I'm turning 30 this year, and I always loved school and built my whole future around it. I'm done with uni now and I just stopped functioning. It feel like I losing myself and I always been so confident... and lately doctors, old classmates and even I, because of them, started to question if I might have Aspergers. I been rethinking my whole growing up process, mainly to find out why I suddenly lost my self-worth even if my self-confidence still is on high, and I keep coming back to the 3-4 years of bulling that happened when I was 10-14. I know who I was but I couldn't understand why my classmates hated me so much. My conclusion as a child was that maybe I was acting to much of a school police, trying to make sure everyone was following the rules all the time. So I did my best to only police myself and no others... didn't change much they still bullied me. I kind of gave up on making friends of my own age and I did feel more comfy with my teachers and grown ups anyway. And I always keep joking that I was a 60 year old lady in a child's body. My classmates had decided that I wasn't like them so I accepted it and toke it as I of course then was better than them, even if I had nothing to back that up with then the fact that I love school and was pretty good at most subjects beside language. Now I'm losing that "wall" I created to protect myself and under it seems I have a mountain of self-worth issues and anxieties. And they are going to assess me to check if I got Aspergers but with the whole "quiet, shy, no confidence" thing I found in most personal stories I really was starting to feel that maybe this wasn't it anyway. But the way you speak, the confidence you had as a child, the knowing who you was and what you wanted... how you lost that when they basically toke it away from you... reminded me so much of my story. Even if I'm going through it so much later in life.

I also have asperger. It's always interesting hearing other peoples stories :)

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Emelie Stenberg It is very interesting indeed, I love when other people on the spectrum reach out to me :)

I when I was bullied I was the same. I remember that one time I was going on a trip, And these boys behind me were pulling my hair I asked them to stop politely *3* times. Then I turned around to them and screamed stop. I got in trouble *I WAS THE ONE WHO GOT IN TROUBLE*

@pleasedontkillmyvibe2774

5 жыл бұрын

Jean P us aspie are the kindest people on the face of your earth and yet we are the ones who get treated like shit.

@MultiNico35

3 жыл бұрын

@@pleasedontkillmyvibe2774 thats so true.

@mercuria2563

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a terrible reality for a lot of autistic people. We are bullied for not being able to fit in, when there’s nothing we can do about it. But when we react to our poor treatment we are being out of line- and It’s not easy to face years of harsh treatment and be expected to quietly endure it. We may have autism, but we are still people with real life feelings, and sometimes we should be allowed to express the pain that has gradually built up from being victim to constant judgement.

Thank you very much for posting this video. I have a daughter who may be an aspie and what you described in your video mirrors her personality and life a lot. And having your story in my mind just gives me inspiration because as of current things are pretty depressing but have a chance of getting so much better! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

I really love this video. It's honestly helped me so much to know that I'm not the only one with a story like this. Thank you xx

I'm an Aspie too and proud of it!

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

So you should be! As am I. All the best :)

@hyphendash5815

4 жыл бұрын

me too.

Wow.This is something that completely caught me off guard and I was totally unprepared for it. I'd kept this to myself for so long now but at 28 I just have to accept the fact that I have Aspergers.Aspergers to me is a taboo.For years I've always been in denial but it will always be a part of me.It will never go away.2 things that I hate about having Aspergers is loneliness and depression and it seems that I am not alone.Other people share it too. Another side affect is having no confidence in myself and a lack of self esteem.Having Aspergers is a curse and at age 7 it was placed upon me.Having Aspergers sucks.

@shereeclinton8741

5 жыл бұрын

Nemechek protocol

@gee2541

3 жыл бұрын

It’s not a curse. People deal with different conditions all the time. I know it’s hard but self-hatred isn’t the path to take and there are ways to build up your self-confidence. There are so many “taboos” in society but I have hope that society is more accepting now than they were before. Good luck to you x

Thank you SO much for posting this. I can so, so deeply relate to this. Lots of love. ❤

Amazing speaking and very sorry to hear that all of these horrible things happened to you. Always stay strong and always be who you are and consider your Asperger as a gift. Am glad you are feeling better and you are an amazing girl and you will always be. It was a pleasure to listen to your talk.

You are lovely and sooo like my 10 year old son Corey who has aspergers and probably PDA. I'm hoping he will watch this video as he is not at the 'Aspergers and proud' stage yet. Keep being yourself :))

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+K O'connell Aww, thank you. I wish your son all the best, I'm right there with him - I know exactly what he's going through. Hopefully he will see it at some point and I hope it helps him. I will :)

Your hair is fantastic!!! I can't stop looking at it. Have you ever thought of toning your gold blonde to strawberry? One of my special interests is colour mixing :)

Hi Rhiannon! Thank you so much for posting this video. I'm 22 and I got diagnosed with Asperger's yesterday. I also come across as neurotypical or that I don't seem like I have Asperger's (which is why it's taken me so long to be diagnosed). This video and your story was so reassuring to me for a number of reasons (of which there are too many to list). One of my main concerns is that people won't take my diagnosis seriously or tell me that I'm just saying I have it as an excuse or for attention. I have a lot of very supportive people in my life, so there's probably not a basis for worrying about it, but I'm just so glad that you've been able to answer some of my concerns before I've even told many people about my diagnosis. You've helped me to be more prepared for the possibility of people disbelieving me and you've said some things that will stay in my mind forever and encourage me to stay true to who I am. Also, I think you're a really great and strong person! Thank you. xxx

@Ddstairclimber

7 жыл бұрын

how did your diagnosis come about???

Your perfect the way you are.. The difference with YOU is as you said, passion, empathy and love.. This is why we think differently. Our passion is intrinsic, our drive to understand relentless and our love non exclusive. Frame of mind is everything and it's not you that should change, just think of this common saying, "stick and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me".... Why suffer word's when they have meaning? It's not our responsibility to follow dogma but it's our responsibility to make this world better. Stay strong and remember it's easier to teach those younger than those older. Stay strong, get your confidence back, be YOU and have control of yourself 💞

I have aspergers also along with PDA , ADHD and OCD and anxiety x fab video x

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+India Poppy Thank you for reaching out hun, I really understand how hard it can be with all these conditions weighing down on you - thank you lovely x

I have a hard time with relationships and trying to make friends and also cause I don't get out a lot. I like meeting new people.

Thank you for speaking out! (Yes, I watched your entire vid.) You have brought forth so much; I feel so blessed with your sharing. Although never having formally received the A diagnosis myself, I long ago recognized that I, too, am on the Spectrum. I can personally connect with so much of what you say about yourself. I am glad that you are sensible of your parents' acceptance and support, and the self acceptance you now embody. Temple Grandin has said that she would not trade away her "condition"; I admire her and I admire you. Hugs!

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Arthur Ogawa Ahh you're very welcome, thank you so much for watching all of the video! Aw bless you, I'm glad you think so :) Yes, a lot of my family are quite clearly on the spectrum also but don't have a diagnosis so I know what you mean! That's awesome that you could relate to me :) Yes, my parents have been so amazing through it all and have never made me doubt myself. Yes Temple Grandin is such an inspiration, I admire her so much too! Thank you, hugs back to you and wish you all the best :)

From one Aspie woman to another, great video thank you for sharing your story

I love your channel, it always makes me smile :) xx

@rhiannonsalmons4776

7 жыл бұрын

The Real Life of Aspie Girl that makes me so happy, thank you

@barachel6469

7 жыл бұрын

Rhiannon Salmons we can be KZread buddies like ur so relateable and awesome and beautiful I most definitely subscribed. not to be awkward but can we be friends plz😬

@Myrtone

5 ай бұрын

@@barachel6469 There used to be more videos on this channel.

I also have aspergers and ADHD and OCD I'm hard of hearing and mute but I like someone is talking about it. This is my friend writing this I can't

@theofficialwatermelon8583

7 жыл бұрын

You really have the shit end of the stick.

Thankyou so much for sharing your story. This has helped me a lot, you are helping so many more people than you'll ever know by sharing this.

Being an Aspie myself, I recognize some talent in you. Be grateful and build on your skills!

I just started watching this video and I have to leave for a while, so can't finish through it, but one thing got to me: When you're talking about how you were seen as "bossy" among your friends, even though you didn't mean to be. I can relate so much to that! I suddenly remember how I as a kid, say 7-12 or something, every now and then got really sad because I would be in an argument with my friends about me being too bossy, and I never even realized it! I'm starting to read about it because I might be having aspergers or something similar...

@pengu.3694

7 жыл бұрын

Sophie-Jay Shore alphabet boy

@Siders2032

6 жыл бұрын

Yessir! Me too. That part is IDENTICAL to my experience. And all my elders foreshadowing my demise in friendships as she described. "If you keep acting like that, you aren't going to have any friends.". I have multiple vivid memories of my Mom saying, "No one is going to want to be around you.". It stuck in my memory, and haunted me later on when I was having friendships hot waves. My specific strategy for socializing could be a very interesting testimonial for many people. I'll be curious to see if, perhaps, it's not all that unique. I'll reference this video in mine, and post a link here.

I was diagnosed with having high functioning Autism just this past December. I've had it my whole life obviously but I was never properly diagnosed. Thought it was always suspected by my parents. My dad use to work with Autistic children and noticed that I did a lot of the same things they did. Like I obsess over certain things I have repetitive behaviors such as taping a lot pacing and rocking. I get really angry sometimes. I also have trouble talking to people and making and keeping friends and being in social settings. (social anxiety)I'm 20 and I've never dated because I never know what to say to people or how to act. Being diagnosed as an adult. I didn't really have much heads up on it. So I never really learned how to deal with it. My therapist suggested that I seek additional therapy and maybe go to some support groups but I'm not sure I would be so comfortable talking to some stranger. I'm a very private person and asking for help as never been easy for me. I'm also afraid that they'll over analyze what I say and make into more than what it is. Or I'll start talking and it'll all just come out.

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Kylena Clevenger thats very interesting to hear! My youth worker obviously works with a lot of autistic people too and she can sort of detect and pick up on it in undiagnosed people too. I do things like that aswell! & same, anger is massive issue for me. I'm really sorry to hear that, I know how it feels to struggle to keep friends and socialise for long periods. Aww bless you :( Well hopefully one day the right person will come along for you and you'll know exactly how you feel / how you should act etc. Yeah I get you, dating intimidates me a lot aswell and I haven't had masses of experience. Oh yeah that sounds scary, groups are not fun to be in. Yep I can relate to you! Oh yes that's exactly the same with me, I'll be talking to someone and when I got silent to get my train of thought back I'll think 'what the hell are you doing Rhiannon?! Why are you blathering so much?!' aha. Well thankyou for telling me this and know that I'm always here.

@darklocks2533

8 жыл бұрын

Rhiannon Salmons Thank you I think social situations are the most hard for me. I got overloaded and crowded easily and I never know what to say to people. So I either talk to much or not enough so I sort just try and let other people lead the conversation

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Kylena Clevenger Yeah I understand. I can fully relate on that one! Yeah I think it's natural to do that, but I can assure you that with time and a bit of positivity, things do get easier. If you ever need any advice then I'm always here :) my social media is always written in my description boxes aswell.

@darklocks2533

8 жыл бұрын

Rhiannon Salmons Thank you. Has it gotten easier for you to handle social situations? I haven't got a lot of friends the only ones I do have I haven't talked to or seen for months. I would like to go out into the world more I just don't know how.

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Kylena Clevenger Yes it really has. I think that if you give yourself some time to think and reflect on life / socialising and stuff, you forget about the anxiety it causes and start to enjoy it a little more. I don't have many friends either hun and I relate to what you're saying, well maybe you could message them and tell them that you'd like to see them, and start off with something that's easy and simple like hanging at each others houses or something just nice and laid-back, then ask them if they would help you to feel confident in going out with them so like to the cinema / movies, to a cafe, to the park, anywhere you like. It's important they are aware that you're struggling and find these things hard. But friends really are a precious thing and the most special ones to us will understand us and love us no matter what :)

I just discovered that I have Asperger's and it's nice to know that I'm not alone with the way that I think. I'm 25 and everything makes sense in my life now. I always thought there was something wrong with me but now I know it's not myself. I really do appreciate the fact that you uploaded this video. Makes me not feel alone.

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I spent about half the time crying because there is so much I relate to. I was never diagnosed, but since some of my less pleasant symptoms have been becoming stronger, I am looking for other people's experiences to learn from. Sending you lots of love

Hey rhiannon, i also have aspergers as well and it makes me feel unique

I have asperges and I’m proud ! I love you 😍

Thank you very much for posting this video. I'm a mom who is trying to understand my daughter's behavior. It's very hard to relate to her sometimes. Like you, she doesn't "look" different, but she acts different. Your video helps me to feel like she can grow into a eloquent, socially aware, beautiful young lady (she's only 7 now). I think I also had some of the tendencies of Aspergers as a child, but forced myself mentally to overcome most of them. It was very hard and took years. I hope you find much love and success in life. :)

I was diagnosed with asperger's and a few months ago and it's great to see someone speaking out about the condition 💖

Thankyou for this bb xx

I have pdd nos autism it affects my emotions and how my thought process

This was so helpful and nice to hear, I'm kind of going through the same currently, with school and being referred to CAHMS. It has really cheered me up to see someone who has gone through this and come out the other side okay and quite happy! Glad everything is better for you now : )

Thank you for sharing your experiences. Disassociation, as you described it, forgetting who you are, can happen in cases trauma. Glad you pulled through it and remembered your condition and used the opportunity to regain your self awareness. I admire your aim to help others get familiar with this condition. Keep it up.

You're insanely beautiful!! Thank you for this inspiration, it's giving me hope with my Aspergers situation

I'm an aspie and a capricorn and i've just now realized it's hieghtened some of the traits a capricorn has :D.

As someone with asd (an aspie) I related to lots of points in this video, especially your struggle with finding yourself and how you felt like you had to censor yourself and be a completely different person around people. Thanks so much for sharing! x

Well done, so proud of you for coming forward and being so brave. You have inspired me to do a video one day, there are too many stereotypes and bullying from those who don't understand what being an Aspie is about.

I have a similar story except I' don't know how school in UK works, but I was dignosed in sixth grade, so I think I was dignosed as a much younger age. And I think the younger you are dignosed, the easier it is the cope becuase once your a full grown adult, you can no longer make certain changes. I was bullied and pulled out of high school, also struggling with ASD, and at the time I didn't consider ASD a problem. I thought I was more bad ass. I also struggled with a learning disability. I couldn't read until ninth grade (I mean I could read but at a fourth grade level, which is really fucking sad) and I wasn't good at any subject, except art and sometimes english. I have this birth defect that may also play a key role in that as well. Anyway I was put into a speacil day school, which was the worst decision I made in my life. I couldn't get along with anyone becuase we couldn't have talked to eachother on a intellegent leve;. These kids had more behavioral issues as well, or were severly mentally challenged. After graduation, I hated myself and I hated my disorder. I had no friends and starting college was a huge fear becuase I didn't know how to deal with the real world after being in a bubble for three years. Like I still can't keep friendships, except online ones. I always ask myself, "oh I wonder how long this one will last." It fiucking sucks and sometimes I wish I was never born.

@-tm1ph

7 жыл бұрын

hey , don't ever wish that you were never born, there are people that love you and care about you💕

@LadyMcGiusti

7 жыл бұрын

Aw, honey...believe me when I tell you, it does get better. I'm 45, and I didn't even realize I had ASD until my own son was diagnosed last year at age 7. I went through my entire life being abused, mistreated, and misunderstood by everyone around me, even my own family. And the entire time, I thought it was my fault, because that's what I was told. And much like you, I went through suicide attempts, severe depression, anxiety, and extreme loneliness. But sincerely, you get to a point where you just say to yourself f*ck this sh*t, and f*ck these people, and you become best friends with yourself. It's much more difficult for other NT people to hurt you if they sense that you DGAF. And you know what? The right people will be drawn to that. And you may meet another Autistic person, much like yourself, who you will be able to guide. And that just may be the thing that saves that person's life. Please don't give up.

@ando7365

7 жыл бұрын

TheChibiFangirl I was diagnosed in prep because my teacher told my parents to get me checked

@chuksk8592

6 жыл бұрын

Year 4 is about 8-9 years old

Dude I have high functioning, and my favorite color is blue, and I didn't know it was the awareness color...

Thank you so much for this video! My daughter has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers at 7. People say all the time, she is normal just very smart and quirky. She looks normal, speaks normally. Your video was like looking at our girl 10+ years down the track knowing she will be ok & the she will understand what is going on in her brain. Thank you

Thank you for this video. Videos like this helped me through a dark time in my life.

If you have trolls, be nice to them. Trolls want you to get upset. If someone is mean to you, don't be mean back. That will only make a bigger fight. Nothing annoys a troll more than someone saying something positive to counterbalance the negativity. I hope this helps. :)

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

I know. Trust me I am fully aware of all of that already. :)

@Oddpistachio1

8 жыл бұрын

Okay. I just thought I'd send some positive vibes. lol ;) God bless.

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Odd _pistachio1 yeah hehe I know, thank you for doing so :) hope you're well.

@Oddpistachio1

8 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. I'm doing amazing. I'm talking to one of my favorite KZreadrs. ;)

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

+Odd _pistachio1 aww, I'm flattered. ;) how sweet of you, hehe. ;) :)

My birthday is on Autism Awareness day

Wow this is my story aha, it's amazing to see another younger girl with Asperger's who looks very "normal", literally everything you talked about happened to me. Thankyou for having the courage to post this! :-) I have felt since my diagnosis ( I was 13) i didn't fit in with the other "aspie girls" or just other's with Autism. So nice to hear someone with such a similar story :-)

Lovely video. My 4 year old daughter was diagnosed with aspergers today. She reminds me so much of you. So clever and such an intelligent way of thinking. Keep doing your thing you're amazing!

I have Aspergers too and this video is amazing

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

Aww thankyou so much, always here if you ever need a chat :)

@dannycoffey1125

8 жыл бұрын

+Rhiannon Salmons any tips on aspergers because my brother has has it and I love your videos you remind me of my brother so much no offence

You're very pretty, maybe they're jealous of you

This is a fantastic video!!!!! My husband has Aspergers and our two daughters (6.1/2yrs & 19yrs old) have high functioning asd and this video is so relatable to me. High five my fellow Brit KZread'r great job! xx

Rhiannon, you are so truly inspiring. As an Autistic person myself, I thank you for sharing your story. Keep doing what your doing! :)))

@rhiannonsalmons4776

8 жыл бұрын

Aww thankyou so much Taylor that's so sweet of you :) I'm so glad that you enjoyed the video and it helped you :) thanks for reaching out X

Hiya, I don't mean to sound mean at all but as someone hella on the spectrum, please never forget that in comparison to A LOT of people, you've actually had it pretty easy. I'm so happy for you that you got diagnosed so early and was able to get the help you need and that you had such a great support system from your parents. Again, this isn't meant to sound mean but it's just something to remember.

@rhiannonsalmons4776

7 жыл бұрын

ThePureBoredum thanks for the comment, I appreciate your kindness. :) I know it wasn't meant to sound mean, however I would just like to point out that I didn't go into detail nearly half as much as I would have liked to in this video. Growing up, I had so many personal family issues to deal with and I was exposed to things no child ever should be. And when i started getting bullied, it was absolutely horrific and so traumatising to deal with; hence my anxiety today. Believe me, I am the not the kind of person to sit around moaning like a Martyr, playing the victim - I am such a happy-go-lucky, positive spirited person and I know that it could ALWAYS be worse. I have a lot of hope for my future :) but in saying that I don't think it's fair to compare people on the spectrum and whereabouts they fall on the scale of how hard their life has been. But thank you for the comment, I know you were just trying to give me something good to think about xx

@erin9412

7 жыл бұрын

"People have it worse" is not really a good thing to say to someone who is sharing their struggles.

@tommychappell6359

7 жыл бұрын

Erin Allerton can you explain further? what struggles?

@alexipoo3973

7 жыл бұрын

ThePureBoredum I get what you were trying to say but you're invalidating her experience, just be respectful :)

@gee2541

3 жыл бұрын

This comment is really unnecessary tbh. She should be allowed to share her struggles and they shouldn’t be diminished just because people “have it harder.” That’s an unproductive mindset and encourages people to feel shame about their trauma. Let’s not do that.

oh hey I've got Aspergers too. No friends tho

I see so much of my younger self in you. I'm trying to find out if I have aspergers. I'm 24 and I recently was diagnosed with anxiety, OCD and depression. I lost so many friends throughout my school years, I was bullied relentlessly and I look back and an aspergers diagnosis makes the most sense. You're lovely and I hope you keep making more videos in the future. ❤

I'm 22 years old, and I was diagnosed with Asperger's at the age of 5. Some of what you said in this video is similar to what I've been through. I used to be pretty open about having Asperger's with people when I was in school, but pretty much all throughout secondary school I was really badly bullied, and by year 11 I was made to feel like having Asperger's made me less of a person, so I begun keeping it to myself and only told people if I felt they needed to know since I didn't want people to treat me as being less of a person if they knew. While I still have difficulties from time to time, and I've got a long way to go, I'm slowly but surely learning to accept my Asperger's as being a part of me, and watching this video has helped me with taking another step towards this acceptance so thank you for that.