If I could scream it from the rooftops or have it printed across all billbords everywhere: true evil is never going to tell you that its evil and the other thing is that what makes evil so dangerous is that most evil people will have mastered the ability to pretend vulnerability and empathy and any type of sensitivity.

@justacoginthefkery

Ай бұрын

Exactly! This is why it drives me nuts to hear ppl say "I can spot narcissists/ psychos from a mile away." It's absurdly ironic because most toxic & dark triad types spend their entire lives learning how to hide their true nature & blend in. You're not supposed to be able to detect them quickly. They won't show their true nature until you're either enmeshed with them & they don't feel like hiding it anymore or they've decided to demonize & destroy you.

@anotherarmchairhistorian2831

Ай бұрын

Yep! From my experiences evil people tend to be overwhelmingly charming on the surface. Evil often comes as an angel of light.

@JustaLocalLLC

Ай бұрын

Yes, but some are just masking to get by in life and mean you no harm.

@RecreationalUseOnly

Ай бұрын

@@anotherarmchairhistorian2831yup, prime example is Barack Obama

@RecreationalUseOnly

Ай бұрын

@@ForgotMyDemonName it’s fact. Covert Narcissist on a good day. You should learn more about Cluster B psychology especially ASPD before calling someone a sheep. You’re probably wearing a mask right now.

As long as one believes that the evil man wears horns, one will not discover an evil man. - Eric Fromm

@mark-ish

Ай бұрын

*also donald trump

@ldobehardcore

Ай бұрын

​@@mark-ishhuh? What do you mean?

@ldobehardcore

Ай бұрын

​@@mark-ishuh what does trump have to do with anything here?

@user-kb5tr9sf9v

Ай бұрын

So the quote came from fromm huh

@christal2641

Ай бұрын

Swiss psychiatrist Carl G Jung says that EVERYONE has a Shadow side, a part of themselves they hide, even to themselves, sometimes. The PSYCHOPATH typically claims ALL THE LIGHT FOR THEMSELVES, and cast the deepest of Shadows onto others. Watch out for the people who claim perfection or saintliness. Their warmth is a fraud.

The BTK killer in Kansas was a deacon in his church, had three daughters, and was a boy scout master. He bound, tortured and then killed over a dozen people. One psychologist was doing research on psychopaths by trying to detect them by doing brain scans. They somehow were short on normal scans to compare the the ones of the psychopaths. He and a few of his colleagues had scans done to be used as the normals. As it was a double blind study, no one was to know whose scan belonged to who. He was going through what was supposed to be the normal scans when he came across one which as he called "one of the worst he he had seen." He started accusing the others of having slipped a psychopath's into the pile. To find out who it was, he pulled the sticker off covering the name. It was his scan. Even though he had gone through school and gotten a doctorate in psychology, he had no idea he himself was a psychopath. In talking to the people he worked with, he found out that they all realized something wasn't right with him and were not surprised at his scan results. This shows that psychopaths can hide even from themselves. Surveys of people who act normal but are psychopaths show that many business executives are actually psychopathic.

@marypierson9825

Ай бұрын

Very interesting

@MsVakong

29 күн бұрын

I remember hearing about that researcher as well. I believe he said his wife pointed out that he'd never let his grandkids win a race against him, even though they were small children. He just had to win. He didn't care that it made them sad.

@srodriguez721

29 күн бұрын

Very interesting.

@funeats8201

28 күн бұрын

Yes, Corbett Report made a documentary about this iirc. Corporations themselves behave as psychopathic entities. Profit always comes before ethics and that’s why we are brainwashed with slogans like “safe and effective”. Our environment/health is being destroyed with forever chemicals, RoundUp, GMOs and all the rest of the toxic corporate products. The corporations are essentially tentacles of the government now, which is the ultimate psychopathic entity. The merging of state and corporate power is destroying America.

@Jennyandersonjenny

28 күн бұрын

Interesting, I wonder if the brain scans could tell who was going to do bad stuff though.

The first sign of a psychopath is their strong need for their own personal boundaries but the excessive desire to break down boundaries. It's part of the divide and conquer phase, followed by control, then destruction, then the discard.

@user-cs8fe6wq5m

Ай бұрын

Yup! They want to pry into the very personal lives of their victims, their sex lives, their childhood, their private places. Meanwhile, they don’t want anyone to know ANYTHING about them, their employment, their education. Even basic details.

@jasonworingen8431

Ай бұрын

@@user-cs8fe6wq5m Very True!

@christinevandenberg8

Ай бұрын

Point on!

@Byorin

Ай бұрын

Umm, you described A LOT of modern women. They have a long list of expectations they have for their spouse or a potential date even, as well as boundaries they claim they won’t cross (I’m not that type of girl), but get offended at those people having the slightest expectations and boundaries of their own.

@jasonworingen8431

Ай бұрын

@@CG-wl3cq I suggest that you educate yourself regarding the multiple ways a psychopath comes into being. What is your evidence supporting that men are more psychopathic? One of the ways a woman clearly fits the definition of NPD, a category under psychopathy, is being raised to believe per societal norms is that she is a princess and all estranged men are her servants to provide for her lifestyle as it is somehow their reason for existing. This programming is groomed by her own mother. Delusions of grandeur and prostitution.

My youngest sister is a psychopath. For years I've watched the same pattern where I warn people about her, and I tell them some of the things she's done. Then after meeting her they usually get mad at me because "she's really nice" and she always invents some new horrible stories about our family and mistreats her and how awful we are to her. Then typically 3-6 months down the line she steals money from them, or medication, starts spreading lies about them, intentionally destroys something sentimental to, or she SA's them. Then they finally get the picture. Most people are so good and decent that it's almost impossible for them to understand that someone funny and likeable and sweet, that appears to genuinely care about them and understand them can actually be straight up evil.

@Rancanfish

Ай бұрын

OMG, I think you must be my sibling. Sis sucks.

@Space_Princess

Ай бұрын

It's quite normal around the 3 month mark of knowing someone they start to show their true colours

@tiktoksbytopic1897

Ай бұрын

The mirror is yours

@tiktoksbytopic1897

Ай бұрын

You are full of hate, she will forgive you

@alexlilano1931

Ай бұрын

Sounds like my ex wife except the sweet likable part. My ex wife was just quiet and played victim. She turned the table on me and start playing victim to another guy. I was In hell at the time and was glad she went to another guy. Made the divorce a lot easier. I heard she is doing a lot worse than from my sister. Also people who like quiet dont actually like the quiet person. Quiet doesnt equal gental and kind. They just not showing anything. They just projecting a lot of goodness that these quiet people dont usually have. I'm talking from experience.

"They're lovely right up until they get you in the back of their van." Saying the quiet bit out loud.

@ritarevell7195

Ай бұрын

👍

@infiniteinspiration1628

Ай бұрын

😮😮😮

@EamonWill

Ай бұрын

As if psychopaths are always murders, lol. You're still missing the point.

@WisdomWeaverBitcoinBruv

Ай бұрын

@@EamonWill Spoken like a true psychopath. You'll not get me in yer van, Eamon!!!

@EamonWill

27 күн бұрын

@@WisdomWeaverBitcoinBruv 🤣🤣🤣 Dang, I better go hunt somewhere else!

Yup. Never trust charm. It’s a tool not a personality trait.

@matthewphilip1977

Ай бұрын

How would you define charm?

@_flyingspaghettimonster_

Ай бұрын

Got it. I looked up the opposite of charm. Now I'm only going to trust repulsive and unpleasant people.

@matthewphilip1977

Ай бұрын

@@_flyingspaghettimonster_ FSM. That didn't age well, lol.

@_flyingspaghettimonster_

Ай бұрын

@@matthewphilip1977 out of morbid curiosity, in what way did whatever you're talking about not age well?

@mjb405

Ай бұрын

​@@matthewphilip1977 it's a 4 day old comment, it's hasn't "aged" at all

I'd actually say voldemort was extremely charming in his Tom Riddle days. He was very popular, brilliant, handsome and was thought to be in line for a career in politics.

@ZyravsZombies

17 күн бұрын

He literally got highly classified information from Slughorn about the horcruxes by just being charming, it was his biggest tool rising to power.

@silversmoke6

3 күн бұрын

@ZyravsZombies exactly. It's why such a big deal is made out of Dumbledore being the only one to see through him.

I never think about make believe villains when I think of bad people in real life. What I think of is someone who is nice to my face and stabbing me in the back. Someone slandering me. Someone going out of their way to be unkind.

@Mediocre00Rebel

26 күн бұрын

I can't wrap my head around those people

@suramyasingh4529

16 күн бұрын

Yes this, someone who is extremely good and seemingly caring to me yet they are back stabbing at the back

I struggle with social signals and there are def folks I work with that manipulate by being nice. One of my old bosses would always shower me in praise before asking for a big favor or dumping some extra work on me. It took me a while to recognize it, and now I’m suspicious of people that are too nice or friendly.

@TheLoneMitten

Ай бұрын

Oh I'm fucked. I've been isolated with a neurological illness for 3 years and my social skills sucked before that even. But I'm very friendly and it does turn people off. I'm starting to learn signals a lot better though.

@JackOusley

Ай бұрын

@@TheLoneMitten hang in there! Hopefully we can find some workarounds or hacks that help us cope.

@user-vy1kk4ug8o

Ай бұрын

yea this has always been really difficult for me. i’m a naturally nice and caring person and sort of expect that from other people (golden rule bullshit, ya know?) so in the past few years i’ve let more “nice” people in and ooooooh boy i’ve never been in so much pain. i’ve gotten to a point where i do not trust nice people. i’m starting to gravitate towards more bitter and outwardly angry people, because i see that as honesty now. i now avoid “nice” people and instead hope to find a common ground with other bitter folks. it’s…. confusing haha

@kerrieannebaker8595

Ай бұрын

@@user-vy1kk4ug8o yes, truth is in their actions, not their words

@leviashanken2506

Ай бұрын

Are we supposed to distrust all very nice people now, including our very own nice selves?

Absolutely, when I started getting rid of toxic people I learned who cared about me and who didn’t.

@tiktoksbytopic1897

Ай бұрын

The mirror is yours

@aijazsiddique8713

24 күн бұрын

You will be surprised to find that there are very few people who actually do care.

Hannibal wasn’t obviously deranged in the series. It’s the opposite actually, he was quite charismatic

@canorhan2903

Ай бұрын

She’s probably referring to Tony Hopkins

@Fallentree-hx7su

Ай бұрын

@@canorhan2903 yeah I know. He played that role very well

@seitanbeatsyourmeat666

Ай бұрын

Like a psychopath

@Aussie0912

Ай бұрын

Hopkins performance is mesmerizing. Which is something a true psychopath is commonly capable of. You don’t know why, but something in the way they present themselves captures you. Like prey going limp in a predators jaws. It’s honestly so disturbing.

@jenniferallen8699

Ай бұрын

And he was free for a very long time until he got caught. Until then, he was extremely charming, had friends, and people love to come to his house for his extravagant dinner parties.

My mom is a narcissist and we all know. But what left me in denial for so long was her love. She clearly loves me. She knows how to be so good and kind. And that lead me to think that she probably doesn't understand or know the hurt that she gives me at times. At the same time deep down I believe she does know. There's no way she doesn't know she's emotionally manipulating me. She knows exactly what she's saying. A classic sentence of her is: "But that's not what I meant. You mistook it as always." like the time she told me she didn't kick me out on the streets or mean to kick me out when she told me to go live with my dad and that I wasn't welcome here. Right... That's not what you said but forbidding me to stay here is kicking out. Even if you're pawning me off to another safe house. You're still kicking me out of the home I live in.

@willbephore3086

23 күн бұрын

Damn. That will mess with your head. It sounds like you're dealing with it all head on now, good on ya. It's not easy work.

@Pandalou89

12 күн бұрын

Yeah, she’s gaslighting you. Look up examples Of Gaslighting and also “grey rock method”, that might make things a little easier on you

@DALDO135

8 күн бұрын

I understand, Both my parents were only children. And BOTH WERE NARCISSISTIC...The criticism was beyond belief...BEST OF LUCK...

@Pandalou89

7 күн бұрын

@@DALDO135 only children aren’t automatically narcissistic, it’s more often early childhood experiences with abuse and gaslighting that create a narcissist. That doesn’t make it okay of course

I wouldn’t necessarily use the word ‘nice’, I would use the word ‘charming’, because psychopaths are always manipulating.

@nickieglazer7065

26 күн бұрын

Nice not the same as good. 'Nice' is spot on, especially when one has had experience with someone with NPD.

@woutertron

26 күн бұрын

The lady's whole point was that stereotypes mostly aren't true. A psychopath can act in a kind manner, indistinguishable from "true" kindness. You simply cannot know that they're "always manipulating". Unless you mean in the sense that we _all_ have an ulterior motive when we're kind, i.e. we want to be liked/respected/admired.

@Teriyaki-vj8ny

23 күн бұрын

Yes 👍

Psychopaths and sociopaths, from my experience (I was married to one) don't view people as, well, people. Not the way you and I do. They view them like pets. They are capable of loving people, but only to the extent that someone loves their dog (i.e. they are the owner and you are their pet) and they will "train" you accordingly. You do something they don't like? Punishment time, (whatever punishment triggers you the most. Could be neglect, ignoring you, blowing up at you, taking money away from you, etc. They'll study you and figure out what makes you tick. You got abandoned and ignored as a child? Then every time you do something they DON'T like, they'll ignore you and trigger that pain in you) you do something they DO like? Time to give you a treat! (Whatever you trigger is, they'll do the opposite!) You start asking questions and digging for answers they don't wanna give? Time for punishment. You shut up, stop asking and apologize for even bringing it up? They'll give you your reward! They truly see you as a dog that they are training to sit, lay down, and roll over. At the end of the day, they've trained you to be their pet. And they TRULY don't see anything wrong with that dynamic, and they TRULY think thats "Love" . They do not view you as an equal. They can't understand that concept.

@amyrenee1361

Ай бұрын

Positive reinforcement and punishment are normal in our society, from school to daycares, to parent/child relationships. I'm sorry, but it sounds to me like you are not only overanalyzing your ex, but you may have some personal issues with respecting the boundaries of others and taking responsibility for your self. Furthermore, many people love their pets, and feeling responsible for the care of another is actually quite normal.

@AirLionTurtle

Ай бұрын

When, and only when, you not only meet but get very close to a psychopath, will you realize this is a very accurate pattern. At the end of the day, what they really love is the control, far more than the person themselves. But for a lot of people, the pattern leads to the "treats/rewards" start to go away, as your behavior and sacrifices become more expectation rather than shown appreciation. And it becomes punishment exclusively at anything they see as out of line. Fortunately, this is where a lot of victims start to catch on and can finally see the non- remorseful cruelty enough to realize something is actually wrong with this person.

@MiraJune742

Ай бұрын

@amyrenee1361 boundaries are very different than punishment/reward systems designed to dominate another person. Boundaries are about keeping yourself healthy and happy, punishment is about gaining control over the other person (not controlling yourself). I appreciate where you're coming from, but he was also diagnosed with a severe addiction, depression, and sociopathy with narcissist tendencies by a PhD psychologist. Our relationship, (and more than that, our breakup) was riddled with abuse, lies, manipulation tactics, threats, financial abuse, and severe psychological and emotional abuse. I HIGHLY doubt someone stalking, harassing, demeaning, and threatening you AND your new boyfriend "if he doesn't break up with you" post divorce is "simply having boundaries". Perhaps consider that you have no idea what someone's been through before posting something like that in the future. Thanks!

@jones2277

Ай бұрын

Why are you so trainable?

@MiraJune742

Ай бұрын

@jones2277 There's only one type of person that blames the victim for being abused. Good job outing yourself to the whole internet!

I wonder if I'm like this sometimes. I grew in an environment where you were punished for being honest. The adults didn't want any kid calling out their hypocrisy and denial. Their coldness, neglect, possessiveness and manipulation would have made me completely crazy if I had not turn it around and built an emotional wall around myself. Then you grow up and none of your emotional needs are appropriate for adult life. No one can meet them because they aren't your parents - they're your peers. And what you really want is that bond with a parent, or adult, or authority figure that you can trust - but you're the adult you have to be able to depend on and trust. The fact is, if you do not have the chance to develop that side of your human nature it's stunted. Psychopathy could very well simply be a defense against overwhelming emotional insult and assault AND a way of coping, because you just end up mimicing people around you in order to "pass" as a normal person. I'm not exploitative is the thing and I generally just try to avoid people.

@keysharamos-qf8pt

Ай бұрын

Yes

@TheLoneMitten

Ай бұрын

Yeah, it's hard to exploit people when you don't spend time with them. We sound a lot a like and I also avoid most people.

@nene2969

Ай бұрын

I also grew up like this. When I do tests online I usually score somewhere bethween 50 and 65% for psychopathy. Whereas I believe you can have psychopathic traits, I don't think the way you were raised can make you one completely. Kinda like personality disorders such as narcissm have traits we can all have. I do worry about being a psycopath now and then but I do feel I genuinely care about people I like. I was a charming kid who always got their way outside of home cause I learned very early the way to survive home was through manipulation. I still sometimes have to conciously tone it down when interacting with people but I try. The traumas we got unfortunately aren't our parents responsibility once we become adults. I still sometimes feel my emotional state is somewhere bethween a child and a teenager. Therapy helps, though! Good luck stranger, we got this! 🎉❤

@Sarara-mv5sx

Ай бұрын

@d0v3Tai1 Absolutely - the emotional manipulation and gasligting, the carot instead of the stick - same need for control, same dehumanization.

@Sarara-mv5sx

Ай бұрын

@@nene2969 Thank you so much for this comment. It's so validating to read it - all the comments.

One of the best psychopaths in movies and TV is Villanelle from Killing Eve. She is charming and funny, but does not form any connection to other people or show empathy with their suffering.

@Cloudyconfusion

Ай бұрын

Wow this is a spot on one! I loved her in that show too! And she’s so capable of being whatever she needed to be in any given moment, even if that was a funny and nice person

@jones2277

Ай бұрын

But she formed a connection with Eve.

@YukonFox1972

Ай бұрын

@@jones2277Obsession and connection are not the same thing.

@cosmo588

Ай бұрын

Such an underrated show.

@tribequest9

Ай бұрын

What? She killed that boy because he said he wanted to die…..how is that not empathy?

Jeffrey Dahmer was apparently charming. He was a psychopath, but he was also smart enough to know how to act normal.

@danharris3791

Ай бұрын

I recall reading of him convincing 2 policemen that the screaming, crying Vietnamese man who fled his home was just a dramatic lover. The policemen just left, and Dahmer turned him into yet another victim.

@dlibby4979

Ай бұрын

@@danharris3791 I am confused by Dahmer. He killed but wanted to keep them, so they wouldnt leave him. Now a true psychopath wants nothing to do with his victims after killing them. So Im not sure exactly what his thing was.

@jasminebarratt1809

Ай бұрын

@@dlibby4979 He was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD), schizotypal personality disorder (StPD), and a psychotic disorder. I guess not all serial killers are psychopaths. And not all psychopaths are serial killers.

@jones2277

Ай бұрын

@@danharris3791the police reacted that way because of racism and homophobia, not because Dahmer was especially gifted

@christal2641

Ай бұрын

​@@jasminebarratt1809Most successful psychopaths make a "killing" in the Market. They tend to be cold-blooded and methodical.

My ex is 100 percent a psychopath. When someone can look you in the eyes and tell you in intricate detail how they would end the life of their childs mother, and have 0 expression on their face while doing so is absolutely terrifying. I have never been so happy to have been cheated on in all my life. Made that decision a no brainer

@susanbacon9666

Ай бұрын

Wow, exactly what my ex did. Been gone from him for 22 years now. Lucky to be alive

@christianeaster2776

Ай бұрын

That was potentially a very dangerous thing to do. It could have caused the person to break through their facade and kill you without a second thought.

@shesakillerqueeeen

Ай бұрын

@christianeaster2776 what exactly was a dangerous thing to do? Make this comment?

@christianeaster2776

Ай бұрын

@@shesakillerqueeeen To cheat on a psychopath. What if the person found out and he/she lost it? They could end up killing ex. Get away from the psycho first.

@susanbacon9666

Ай бұрын

@@shesakillerqueeeen he cheated in her, the psychic cheated not her

Just to clarify there are a lot of people that genuinely do not give a flying f about you as a stranger. They will drive by and wouldn’t stop to help if they see you laying on the ground, that doesn’t automatically equates to psychopathy, this could be cowardice. There are a lot of psychopaths in a various professions, surgeons, first responders etc. they do jobs that Empaths would not be able to do. They catch predators humans also, they are in law enforcement. So not all psychopaths live parasitic lifestyle, it largely depends on their upbringing and what they were thought growing up.

@shirleywright8759

28 күн бұрын

So very true! It's very interesting.

@shirleywright8759

28 күн бұрын

almost Goes to show that we need some of these people. I think everyone assumes that they are all bad but they are not. I think a lot of us have a little bit of psychopathic tendencies. And it's okay.

@transformationtimenow3321

25 күн бұрын

@@shirleywright8759 My father and another family member were psychopaths and if you had any real long-term personal experience with one of them and knew the way they can destroy another person's life you wouldn't make such superficial and cavalier statements.

@m1ss-n0mer

18 күн бұрын

I was looking for this! The top few comments keep talking about how ‘true evil never says it’s evil’ and stuff. While that is true, I don’t think a mental disorder makes a person inherently evil. Sure, most psychopaths, narcissists, etc. just go through life being total jerks, but there are plenty who try their best to minimise their toxic traits. Even if they can’t gain empathy, that doesn’t mean they can’t try their best to remind themselves that, logically, they enjoy spending time with X person. Cutting X out over something small or yelling at them could drive them away and then the psychopath can’t simply appreciate occasionally meeting up. Also, people will tell me that saying this is super offensive because they’ve been abused. I’m really sorry that happened, and you don’t owe it to the person to forgive them or minimise their actions, not even because of a disorder, but you can’t speak for a whole community based off of the few people you know. Plus, don’t assume there aren’t people in your life with the same disorder who are far more well-adjusted and who try their best, whose diagnosis/symptoms you just don’t know about because they’re trying to deal with and minimise them. To reiterate, plenty won’t try to do anything to improve themselves, but you can’t completely generalise because there are always exceptions.

@vkrgfan

18 күн бұрын

@@transformationtimenow3321 If the person grew up in an abusive environment and was abusive to you then it's a completely different story, but again even non -psychopaths can become abusive, some people develop abusive tendencies as a way of coping with frustrations because that's all they sew growing up. Again, not excusing abusers by any means just explaining why a psychopath or neurotypical can become abusive. And it doesn't mean that you should stay with them and tolerate it, kids can not leave their abusive parents, they have nowhere to go that's the saddest part that our society doesn't protect its' children. And no, not all psychopaths are abusers, they maybe not nurturing and sensitive because they can not feel but that doesn't mean that all of them develop abusive behaviours, psychopathy exists on the spectrum also like any other neurodivergence.

Psychopathy needs a proper diagnosis...it could be so many other mental conditions that have similar traits. I met an unbelievably psycho ex boss... He was so abusive and insane, like a 60 year old toddler having an epic rant... Apparently he had Asperges syndrome.

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

Yeah I think everyone actually has some psychopath similar behaviors the psychopaths are just completely dead stone cold and that is all they have ever done and can ever do because that's literally all their brain is

@jaclynzinck4241

Ай бұрын

As an autistic person myself I have this to say- most autistic people are traumatized. Doesn’t excuse abusive behavior but most of us, especially if we were undiagnosed or from a time where autism is less understood, will inevitably suffer trauma. And trauma is one of the leading causes of ASPD. I’m sorry you had such a bad experience with him though, I wish you love and healing 🙌🏻🙏🏻💕

Her: “Psychopaths seem normal and act nice.” Me: OMG, I’m a psychopath!!

@jammerswank

Ай бұрын

😂 knowledge is a prison

@JackOusley

Ай бұрын

I felt the same way

@RedwihteGame

Ай бұрын

Their nice due to unspoken objectives, ie manipulate you into doing something for them at cost of your wellbeing.

@G11713

Ай бұрын

"...they genuinely don't care."

@Dukenukem

Ай бұрын

Are you manipulating your surrounding people group to achieve your aims and goals while not caring about the results for them? If so, welcome to the club psycho :)

This is why I enjoy Mads Mikkelsen's interpretation of Hannibal Lecter the most. He blends into the background at will and is so nice to people, so kind and accomodating, and then when he manipulates people, the contrast makes him feel so dangerous and audacious.

The Joker seems like a nice enough guy. He's usually laughing and doesn't take things too seriously. Sometimes, people just have one really bad day.

@hansmemling2311

Ай бұрын

Ikr, he's so relatable.

@vebdaklu

Ай бұрын

The Joker? Seriously?!

@lpi3

28 күн бұрын

Batman just overreacting because of his child trauma

Being a people pleaser is great normally the people who are drawn to you are narcissistic personalities, so its kinda like a radar of who to watch for

@netherlingfreak

Ай бұрын

I strongly disagree with this. I believe people pleasing can be attractive to anyone because we literally harm ourselves and use our own kind of manipulation tactics in pursuit of being likable so we can feel safe, however conscious we are of it. I mean our whole thing is getting people to like us. So as a result, people generally like us. Not just narcissists

@steveschmitt5192

Ай бұрын

@netherlingfreak your right I actually got a diagnosis of autism so my apologies thanks you for the information

@netherlingfreak

Ай бұрын

@@steveschmitt5192 oh yeah I wouldn’t be surprised if autism can sometimes bring higher risk for being preyed on. I think some autistic people are really good at detecting BS and others are not unfortunately, like me. It’s good that you stay alert and informed then!

@steveschmitt5192

Ай бұрын

@@netherlingfreak if it's causing you problems, The channel Medcircle is about narcissistic personalities and how to detect them in your life she's very accurate and a licensed professional it really helped me deal with the trauma of it hope it helps and if not it's here for others

@evasirova3985

Ай бұрын

​@@netherlingfreakit's usually narcissists though, who people pleasers attract, because people pleasers have narcissistic traits too (there are multiple types of narcissism) which is draining for neurotypical people. You refer to yourself as one of people pleasers so I don't think you can do an objective observation, no offense.

They often come across as someone wanting to help you. I've found that in my own life.

@TimeSurfer206

Ай бұрын

Ever run into someone who loves helping people so much, that they're desperate to find a way to help you? I mean, BEGGING you to let you help them, somehow. Scary, aren't they?

@user-fp4ve1dh4v

Ай бұрын

@@TimeSurfer206 yes very scary. I've dealt with these types in my life.

@LM-uq9nv

Ай бұрын

Like the persona referred to as "the rescuer" or different from that?

@TimeSurfer206

Ай бұрын

@@LM-uq9nv Yup. They have "White Knight " complex. And are also VERY eager to slap the sense of obligation on.

@user-xy8qk9gz7g

Ай бұрын

I am grateful to have met some persons who are willing to help. Blessed are these people.🙏🏻😇

You mean like this guy? “I don’t care about you. I just want your vote. I don’t care.”

@canary_inthecoalmine

Ай бұрын

Ex👏🏼act👏🏼ly👏🏼

@isabellavalencia8026

Ай бұрын

Exafuckenactly

@captainflamson

24 күн бұрын

The poster boy.

@dennishickey7194

5 сағат бұрын

Scrolled for this comment.

I am a psychopath- it’s not that I don’t care about other people so much as my assumption is everyone only cares about themselves and that life is a competition, meaning others will take from you if you let them

@gaby9009

Ай бұрын

ever read Crime and Punishment? Try it. You'll like it.

@shirleywright8759

28 күн бұрын

You're right. I agree with you 💯 percent. It's just that people's egos are so elevated that they refused to believe this about themselves.

@Wild4lon

27 күн бұрын

I don't think like this and I won't just take from people. The thing I want most is to help the poor and solve climate change. To me, what you've just stated is the sign of a terrible person. If that precludes 30% of the population from even being considered decent, so be it.

@desireemcnicol6155

26 күн бұрын

Psychopathy is a faulty brain structure incapable of certain functions, but your describing it like its a philosophy. How were you diagnosed.?

@Mjbeswick

22 күн бұрын

Displays of empathy are often reciprocated. When you show empathy towards others, they are more likely to respond with empathy and understanding in return. The flip side of this is that if you do not display empathy, then others I'm unlikely to show it towards you.

My old boss, may his soul rest in peace, was the kindest, nicest man ever. We had a group of horrible people threaten us and when he came back, he disposed of them. He said that they did not care about us or whether or not they wanted to conduct ,,business'' because they were psychopaths. Then my amazing boss, again, bless his soul, Mr Gus Fring came by and took care of them. He even gave us a raise and a bonus for acting accordingly. So sometimes yes, psychpaths are difficult to spot but they have boundaries they want to destroy from others. Im just very sad Mr Gus Fring passed away in the hospital. Wouldnt have been here without him.

@deedee7780

10 күн бұрын

LOL :)

@SOH-bl4mr

9 күн бұрын

@deedee7780 Lyle is that you? Go back to cooking ,,Chicken'' just because we have a new manager doesn't mean you can screw around. And this time...don't forget the secret powder...

The psychos I’ve encountered (only a couple thanks god!) were often described as ‘super nice’ by most, until they snapped.

@TheLoneMitten

Ай бұрын

They often punch down. They don't want to be outed by a powerful person.

@Hale8R

Ай бұрын

@@TheLoneMittenyou are 💯 on point!

So, you are saying that a multi-billion dollar entertainment industry is, somehow, actually misleading us abou things that could potentially ruin our lives? Wow, and I was taught that if someone makes a bunch of money, they have to be advancing humanity and helping a lot of people! You have opened my eyes!

@mckittensification

Ай бұрын

Their business is to entertain, and the people in the industry are just as likely to be uninformed as the rest of us.

One sure sign is the “poor pitiful me” stories. They always try to make you feel sorry for them, meanwhile normal ppl don’t want pity.

@annipsy2185

Ай бұрын

ive fallen for it too , i was young

@TheLoneMitten

Ай бұрын

I get like that after dealing with multiple mechanics and my car is still fucked.

@SilentNinjaaa

Ай бұрын

Normal ppl don’t want pity?? Lmaooo. I love these dogmatic polarizing beliefs that ppl use to justify their flimsy theories😂 Everyone seeks pity to a certain extent, psychopaths just more than others. Why ruin a good video with your half-baked, heavily biased opinion?

@HorusHerotic

Ай бұрын

That describes half of young people today.

@V.Hansen.

Ай бұрын

@@SilentNinjaaafound the pity party thrower. Let’s say healthy people don’t want pity.

I’ve said this about Kim k and Taylor swift. Both know to be kind to keep getting what they want. That’s why Taylor’s kindness is always advertised and on display. It’s the building blocks for her success.

@briellexx

18 күн бұрын

Something is not right with taylor swift

@deedee7780

10 күн бұрын

Yeah, she has always given me the creeps.

Anybody can be nice or do kind things. In fact, you’d be hard pressed to find a human being who has never done a nice thing for anyone.

i've chosen monk mode solitude to avoid psychopaths who now freely roam society.

@blaquemoonmajesty33

Ай бұрын

4real. Life has been a school that has taught me strength and reason to stand solo.

@kerrieannebaker8595

Ай бұрын

ditto!

@Jae-by3hf

Ай бұрын

Yep, well nun, I’m a woman! 😂 narcs, sociopaths & psychopaths run amok and I don’t have the energy to mingle with humans who are either these nut cases or enablers!

@Stirnst

Ай бұрын

They’ve always roamed free. Statistically, the chance of you falling victim to one, and the chance of it being fatal or worse, have never been lower in the history of mankind. You just seem to encounter more because they are portrayed a lot in the media. Are you really monk like? Strictly devoted to mastering a certain way of life and some awesome skills? Or is this way of thinking just a rationalisation for not connecting to people as much as you need and or want? I’m genuinely curious, not trying to be a dick

@Agathe.May...

Ай бұрын

Roam free??? Yeah since it s their right. There are a lot of psychopaths, always was, always will, and they are not a threat to you... be more careful of the one that have strong emotions, they are way more dangerous.

Thanks a lot! Now I am scared of people who are nice to me

@BrownPotato2000

Ай бұрын

Don't forget that the ones who are not nice to you are sociopaths. Personally, I only trust people who are neither nice nor not nice.

@TimeSurfer206

Ай бұрын

Well, there is a line between simply good manners and manipulation. But a master can really blur that line.

@canary_inthecoalmine

Ай бұрын

you should be 😅 Everyone wants something from you if they engage with you, especially if they’re being nice

@blaquemoonmajesty33

Ай бұрын

Nice and kind are different. Gotta test someone’s morality to sense their integrity. Anyone up to no good hasn’t got any. If an inner alarm goes off or suggests somethings off especially in the spirit just use silence. 😊

Because niceness disarms people. We go about our day with highly defensive manner, as if you're shielding yourself from everyone else

@msc8382

Ай бұрын

As someone who deems himself so powerful I never have to shield myself from others... I can say. Scratch the 'as if' part. This is what almost everyone does because (in my opinion!) they're too weak. The way I see it, I cannot actually use my powers for the sake of others, because to do so, I need to learn what makes them tick first. That requires vulnerability. This means I'm actually dangerous to people who start out defensively, which is most people. This isn't because I'm a threat to people, not at all. Its because weakness makes everyone else who isn't seem like a threat. You're staring at someone with the ability to force your vulnerability. That's the difference in psychopathy; they don't care if they're forcing your vulnerability. But that's mostly because they're not aware of the value you're trying to protect. So the upside to this is that unless the psychopath had been socialised, they cannot perceive your forced vulnerability.

@TheAmazingGlenn

Ай бұрын

@@msc8382 How did you even become so powerful?

@msc8382

Ай бұрын

​@@TheAmazingGlenn I'm sharing a side-story first, to help answering your question. Did you know there's a culture around spicy foods? Some people even have KZread channels where they eat the spiciest foods in the world. People who never eat spicy foods may wonder how they can eat with such discomfort. The body doesn't actually adapt to those spices; the mind becomes resistant to the discomfort. But if you don't know.. you may be in awe how those spicy foods get eaten! With repetitive exposure to negative stimulation, if the scenario doesn't change, your mind adjusts to the experience. If your mind fully adapts, there are no longer any unknowns that the (sub)conscious can't anticipate. It just becomes an experience without the original discomfort. The discomfort is caused because the brain is recording risk. By repetitive exposure, you're telling your brain the experience does not represent risk. It is a process called desensitization. The problem that keeps people weak is that they can't ensure their scenario is consistent enough for their mind to adapt naturally. This includes the inability to dictate the level and depth of participation in interactions with others. It's called 'being lived'. Most people will try to make you feel relevant by THEIR values, robbing you of the opportunity to dictate your own presence by YOUR values. To become powerful, you must first learn your values. If you do, you can use other people's values to represent your own. Down the line, power is not forcing people to do things they can't or don't want to do. It's convincingly showing them it's their best choice or inviting them to inform you otherwise. Many people think that blocking someone from doing something to you is power. It's not. That's control and force. Power is using the scenario you're in to represent your values and opportunities. If you're somewhere not by choice, that's where you're the weakest. Find a reason to be there or move on. Doubt, in this sense, is telling yourself you still have a role to play while you should be moving on. Therefore, my advice to gain true power is: - Search for certainty that justifies your actions or participation. If it isn't there, make it or move on. - Start creating scenarios. Tell your friends you like having them around. Tell yourself it's okay to make mistakes. It's all about aligning your anticipation with the actual outcome. By creating scenarios, you take control and responsibility. If you're not used to this, you'll make hurtful mistakes. Don't doubt your mistakes; they're just new scenarios to take control of. - Failure is the key to power because it shows deviations from expectations versus outcomes. Addressing your perspective on failure means understanding why the outcome was different than anticipated. This gives you wisdom. Allowing yourself to fail without feeling bad about it changes your perspective. - Other people will always try to pull you into their narratives. Look how long my message is. Even I do it. You decide how much you want to be engaged. Online it's easy; in real life, you believe you have to keep up social rules. You don't. You can be the same person online and in person. There's no need to make exceptions. - Women often show how making exceptions frequently backfires. If you learn from a scenario, generalize the problem-solving you've applied. If you don't, whatever you've learned becomes an exception. You'll never know why you can't solve a problem without context. Using the sea with islands as an analogy; Exceptional thinking creates isolated islands of different countries. They're not unified. Any problem requiring unification can't be solved without relying on significant resources. Many believe that's the limit of natural behavior. I'm saying that's a natural weakness being justified. - The only reason why you'll make exceptions, is because you're too weak to do anything else and you need a specific scenario in order to get or keep what you want. This is by definition a lack of power. If you collaborate on your terms, you're not making exceptions. A lot of immature people believe that if two people are making exceptions, you're having a power struggle. Its exactly the opposite; there are two people completely powerless and expect the other to facilate the scenario so exceptions can be made. - This also means that the more powerful you become, the more indepdendent you become. If being dependent and vulnerable is all you are, than chasing power feels like losing yourself. However, power is about the only thing that can keep you from losing yourself. Because with power, you can get boundaries that prevent others from manipulating your participation in any scenario. - People who exclusively make exceptions DO NOT understand power. They'll believe they're being robbed of their agency. This is their trauma. It is not your problem. In fact, their negative emotion is their testament to being weak, as they're clearly showing a lack of collaboration and means to enforce their boundaries. Cheers!

@deedee7780

10 күн бұрын

@@msc8382 Are you a real person or a message from the Universe? LOL

@msc8382

9 күн бұрын

​@@deedee7780 Since I'm a person who is part of the universe, I can say I'm both a real person and in some fashion a message from the universe. Why choose when you can have both? LOL

The political class is loaded with them.

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

Just like the "religious" and "business" class they're all the political class

The adaptive behaviour doesn't seem any different than what other people do. If you have unmedicated ADHD or autism you can learn to mask what you are in order to fit in with society.

@nef36

28 күн бұрын

Coping with unmedicated ADHD isn't masking it's trying to actually function

@lysanamcmillan7972

27 күн бұрын

@@nef36 Masking is an attempt to function. Ditto with autism. I have both; this is how I know.

I'm not sure if this person I knew was psychopathic, but he was always nice to others and even to me in the beginning. But later on he did do absolutely nothing for me. But he would do all kind of 'favors' for other people. But it was either to get something back or to maintain his reputation.

It's also important to remember that there is a difference between being nice and being kind.

yep, my sibling is one. After asking for help to crash their place and sharing I was in a bad mental state, they still use abusive language, never once apologise and even say they have nothing to apologise for (as if anyone is 100% in the right) and never compromise. Tries to make me out as a leech who never wants to work and just live off other people's money whenever I try to have an opinion. And the one off time they had a friend visit who probably had a high opinion on him, somehow the friend left with a bad impression on me despite our very short interaction. Blames me for not being able to let friends visit anymore (??). Blames me for how dirty the place is when I clean as I go (aka minimal 'cleaning day' mess whereas they are exactly opposite). And always starts an argument shouting despite me never raising my voice. And still calls me the emotional depression one. Yet this sibling is leading 6 figure sum a year and functioning pretty well in life while pushing down the person that's already down. I'd say they manage to fool the people they want to fool.

Hannibal Lecter was extremely charming, warm and welcoming. His dinner parties were enjoyed by all his guests... Well, except for one guest.

The more I learn about these mental disorders the more I recognize certain traits that I share to a greater or lesser degree with many of them.

@DaveE99

Ай бұрын

They are all basically normal human instincts and processes gone too far.

@DaveE99

Ай бұрын

Like think about borderline for instance, we all have a fear of abandonment due to both attatchment theory and terror managment theory. Then look at nacracism, and we all have an ego and can be a bit narcissistic, in fact ideally you have a bit of an ego. It’s just how things work,etc etc

@TheLoneMitten

Ай бұрын

A man identifying with psychopathy. Probably because you are. Men's brain lack the ability to put themselves in another's shoes. That's cognitive empathy. Men's version of empathy is a shadow of the real thing. It's called personal distress or fear that the bad thing happening to someone else will happen to them. Or already has. That's what FMRI studies have shown. Not many differences in the brains of men and women but that's one of them. There are exceptions. I'd guesstimate 10%. Some men work on their empathy by choice. Not included in the 10% that naturally possess cognitive empathy. So 8/10 men are problematic for society as a whole. Women are half the population which is why it's such a problem. Those 8/10 are put out by helping out other men voluntarily and without being resentful of it. Basing this on scientific studies, history books and lots of observation.

@christal2641

Ай бұрын

If you take ABNORMAL PSYCHOLOGY (normally a sophomore course), the prof. eventually shocks the whole class by announcing that most of the students in the room gave diagnosed themselves with several of the neuroses, psychoses, and personality disorders in the textbook. The nice ones explain that most St of those disorders are mutually exclusive. Only the really nasty ones will instead get you to tell them about your suspicions and then tell you privately that you are correct. If that ever happens to you, drop the class and stay far away.

@DaveE99

Ай бұрын

@@christal2641 what that behaviors and traits tend to fall on a continum. The issue would be not presenting them as a continum. Presenting them as a binary is the problem.

I find it hilarious how people are going nuts on this as if this was somehow a criticism of being nice 😂 😂😂

@celestialbunny

Ай бұрын

XD ikr

I used to say they hold their eyes real wide like everything is surprising, except their mouth and lower face.

@mintwally7200

25 күн бұрын

Greg Hartley calls that the Romancer stare, or something like that. Supposedly when people are trying to pull one over on you they keep a close watch to see if they are succeeding.

Why do huge numbers of people act as psychopaths when in groups? I saw one of her other videos mentioning psychopathy is on a spectrum. What it seems like to me, is the main difference with psychopaths is they have a brain that only functions in psychopathy and are not at all in control of shutting psychopathic behaviors on or off. But it seems the "normal" humans are quite capable of shutting it on or off at will, especially when they are acting in groups.

The snakes that hide under rocks are the ones that survive.

Uh oh this person seems very normal, kind even, and definitely charming 😳

My dad was a diagnosed sociopath. Funniest, most charismatic person I knew. He always made it clear never to expect “fatherness” but that was fine. I liked him how he was and miss him dearly.

@jaclynzinck4241

Ай бұрын

I’m glad you had a good relationship with him, these kinds of disorders are so complicated but it’s important that every case is different and not everyone with those disorders is a threat, but it’s still good to keep an eye out for certain behaviors.

@limitlesssky3050

29 күн бұрын

But is he the type that said he's not a good father but turn out to be a good father or is he the type that is actually a bad one.

@kaitlinsmith458

29 күн бұрын

@@limitlesssky3050 he told us in very simple terms. He never planned to be a father and to not expect a father, so he was more of a very quiet friend. Very little to speak, but when he did, it was important. He was the smartest person I knew. He had a hard life, basically raised in boys homes and jail, but when he got older, he just liked his chair, cup of tea and a book.

@veronika514

27 күн бұрын

Please, don't mistake sociopath with psychopath!!!!! These are so different diagnosis! I am PhD in biology.

@kaitlinsmith458

27 күн бұрын

@@veronika514 I haven’t. Thanks.

My parents, at the recommendation of my mother's sister, hired a women to assist with my mother's healthcare. An invented job of being liaise between patients and doctors/healthcare system. Turns out she stuffed kittens in a plastic bag and threw them in a dumpster. Crazy lady denied it was her, later more evidence came out and she plead guilty, got a fine. She's on her third company. But my parents still say things like we had such a good rapport and relationship with her. Also she was a tremendous advocate of Medical assisted in death (MAID). We are in the process of firing her. She is lucky that is all that is happening.

@christal2641

Ай бұрын

Animal abuse is a STRONG DIAGNOSTIC SIGN OF A PSYCHOPATH.

I’ve been told that I’m too kind especially by family and friends and I’ve been accused of being a sociopath by an ex boyfriend because he said that my niceness is just manipulation. That hurt my feelings. I was shocked by that too. I like to make people happy, not at my own expense. I will stand up to others.

@tomkoziol141

27 күн бұрын

Do you play the martyr if they don't reciprocate? Guilt them into doing things?

@desireemcnicol6155

26 күн бұрын

When you really love someone, sometimes it is at your own expense. You would do anything to protect them. Sometimes being super nice is about caring for your own image.

@softreyna

25 күн бұрын

This sounds kinda like me. I genuinely care about how people feel, but don't really care about social connections the way they're supposed to work. Like, I tell my family I love them a lot, but only because I know those words in that order make them happy and comfortable. It doesn't mean anything to me, and I don't actually value them more highly than strangers. That might make me a sociopath, but I'm pretty sure sociopath is more of an insult than a diagnosis lol

The differences between them, and most people, are usually very subtle. I always tell people that it's a lack of emotional depth. And the way this comes across is usually in subtle differences in non verbal cues, body language. So often our instincts pick up on it a little bit, long before we see the traits. But they seem nice. Most are quite likable. They seem neurotypical on the surface.

I am really loving this Lady's contributions, very fascinating! ❤

I am always wary of super charming people. They always have a flip switch and throw you off where you feel like someone ripped the rug from under you and you hit ypur head on the floor

I genuinely thought that was "sociopathy", like, the socially smart twisted ones

My father was psychopathic. Thankfully I got my revenge on him before he died. People think I am the cruel one because he was soooo charming, but they don’t know him behind closed doors.

Well...Tom Riddle was actually described as exactly that: charming, sweet talker, always kind, always helpful...Even Harry falls for it in the second book, when he has no clue who Riddle actually became. It's just...starting from book two, we know how he turned out. The spell is broken.

True psychotics are very rare. My ex husband was profiled by a very renowned psychiatrist. He was diagnosed as such. The report said that his lack of consciousness and empathy meant that he could wipe out an entire family, and then sit down right after and enjoy a meal. He was really, really frightening and abusive.

Don’t say they’re nice, they aren’t. They’re pretending to be nice. Make that clear for people 😮

@christal2641

Ай бұрын

The term charismatic is more precise than "nice."

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

Exactly. They're "nice" only ever for their own agenda and that's it and they are incapable of changing ever because their brain is psychopath rot stuck forever in psychopath mode and doesn't work normal.

PSYCHOPATHS ARE USUALLY ONLY NICE TO PEOPLE THAT THEY WANT SOMETHING FROM❤❤❤

This is one of the best explanations I've seen yet. Psychopathic behavior is outcome-oriented. The goal is to achieve something. Most people feel empathy - psychopaths don't. Other people are just pieces on a chessboard to be moved around. But a psychopath is constantly assessing other people in terms of their value to the psychopath. Value could be anything, money, friendship, social advancement. If you have value, they'll use whatever tactic best helps them extract it. If you have no value, they'll just ignore you. Why waste the energy?

The info is priceless...thanking you.

It would have been cool to hear just a blip on sociopathy since she touched on people like the Joker and Hannibal Lecter.

What is the root of human psychopathy? Generational trauma?

@christal2641

Ай бұрын

The cause of psychopathy is still mysterious. The primary care giver may have been cold or even psychopathic. Psychopathy sonetime shows up in early childhood. SOCIOPATHS crave excitement and that disease was probably the result of genetics AND bad parenting.

@jaclynzinck4241

Ай бұрын

It’s a complicated mix of biological and environmental factors. I’ve heard early exposure to lead/alcohol is one of them. Also heard that neglect as an infant can lead to higher risk of sociopathy in adulthood.

I never knew or believed in true evil people until an ex that was terrifying. It was too bad to write about, and decades later I’m still traumatised by it. But one incident made me aware evil walks among us, and that he was it… that was after he had made it clear of his intentions one night, he calmly looked at me and said “Satan can present himself as a good looking man you know” (& he was good looking) then turned his head away again smiling as if nothing happened. I swear I saw his face morph at that second. It terrified me, but made me realise if I didn’t leave, I would die. I left in the middle of the night and moved interstate.

The best defense against psychopaths is to judge people by what they DO not what they say.

If youre listening to this and you're WORRIED you might be a psychopath. Dont, youre not. If you calmly accept it because you know it already. Please be nice.

@voidmain9519

Ай бұрын

Was thinking the same and thank you ❤

@voidmain9519

Ай бұрын

And many a time genuine things and facade overlap and it gets confused.

Where is the full video?

@user-fv3wi9zt3j

Ай бұрын

Still looking till this day

I used to wonder if I was a psychopath (I'm not) because I always thought it was logical to act like a good person to get what I want. It is, but a psychopath can't follow this logic because they're incapable of seeing other people's lives as valuable. So even the smart ones get in trouble constantly. Psychopathy isn't an asset, it's a crutch.

Best description of office culture I've seen. Kids need to be shown this as part of their education

Watch the movie- “What ever happened to Baby Jane.”

@gracebe235

Ай бұрын

@michaelgarrow3239……or ‘Gone Girl’!

Great now every woman who sees this will call their nice X a psychopath because he was too nice.

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

"But I was such a 'nice' guy!" LOL 😆

There's not a single group of people I don't feel some amount of empathy for except psychopaths... If they don't feel it for me I don't know how I can feel it back. Freaks me out pretty much on a daily basis.

I've always thought it'd be easier to spot most people with NPD who are trying to hide it rather than someone psychopathic because I've understood that the person who has NPD still displays insecurities which, if you know what you're looking for, you can sometimes spot without them knowing. Someone who's psychopathic doesn't share those same insecurities so it's extremely easy for them to truly "fake" the appearance of a "normal" person.

Crazies come in many shapes and sizes.

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

Yep

Psychopaths have a brain that work differently but they are not all dangerous serial killers 🙄 Indeed they don t care about anything but themselves and what s related to them. They generally great businessmen😅... there are way more than we think and just live their life normally

Smooth, suave, charming, polite, attentive, superb social skills, cool, calm, well put together. The movie ‘The Killer Inside Me’ really shows this contrast of the public gent and private impulsive abusive monster.

Anyone who becomes a little too friendly with me turns me off instantly. Always thought i was aloof or antisocial but now i’m thinking my spidey senses for psychopathy is bang on!

@deedee7780

10 күн бұрын

That makes me sad, cause I am genuinely a very friendly person and I have an anxious attachment style which means I like to connect with people right away. I also love to help people - makes me feel good. I do get some people who act standoffish which now makes sense.

Makes me appreciate their ability to be incredibly disciplined in controlling and portraying their public persona. One take away for me.

Sadists are worse than psychopaths.

@Some1Philosophy

Ай бұрын

Isn't sadism part of psychopathy? Or maybe it depends how we define sadism?

@_no.one.is.always.right_

Ай бұрын

@@Some1Philosophy Dr Tracey Marks talked about sadism and psychopathy. She said that psychopaths are more interested in reaching the end goal. For eg if a psychopath is a theif; he is concerned with getting the money. A psychopath is incapable of feeling empathy unlike sadists who use their ability to feel; in a negative way. Psychopaths won't care. Sadists are delusional but they care about their reputation and definition so they lie to themselves and assume that everything they do is justifiable. Sadists know who they are but they will be in denial. They won't accept or acknowledge even one single mistake of their own because they convince themselves to believe that they don't make any mistakes. If a sadist is a theif; the end goal is to make the target suffer in every way possible whether small or big. And sadly, this world has more sadists than psychopaths.

@Some1Philosophy

Ай бұрын

@@_no.one.is.always.right_ good analysis 📝

@deedee7780

10 күн бұрын

@@_no.one.is.always.right_ Very interesting!!

Exactly, if they weren't then they couldn't do what they do. Just about every serial killer's neighbours said that they were the nicest person, the kind of person that you would leave your children/elderly parents with. I think that this is one of the most frightening thing about humans.

True psychpaths aren't "bad" people, they just do not care about others in an emotional way. Some of the best bosses I've had displayed psycopathic behaviors. They took care of their teams and noticed small details of our lives and kept everyone happy.

Psychos appear more normal than normal people 😊

@fiberpoet6250

Ай бұрын

I’ve always said.. Normal ppl scare me because we all crazy.. normal ppl have way more to hide

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

Interesting... how can you tell quickly? What exactly gives them away immediately?

@carolinekm3603

Ай бұрын

@@tw8464 Most Cluster Bs are charming and very nice on the outside,For me it's the odd/ strong negative energy I get from someone and it's not paranoia.

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

@carolinekm3603 interesting. So they have an odd energy or they are too pushy or come on too strong? Or like they are trying too hard like being too helpful? I'm just curious because it's my understanding the psychopaths are very good at fooling people and I want to learn how to spot them as quickly as possible to try to avoid the harms they do. But I hear it can be very difficult to tell them from normals especially at first

@tw8464

Ай бұрын

@carolinekm3603 yeah I keep hearing that, charming and too nice could be red flags. I'm hoping to figure out what behavior or combination of behaviors or what they do when first encounter them might be a sure sign. The psychopaths seem to be very interested in manipulating people and that's the problem if we're being manipulated, we usually don't know it, by definition. So if there's a quick way to overcome that blind spot the psychopaths are taking advantage of.

I'm overly empathetic so it was originally odd that some people would call me a psychopath. I've realised it's because I miss the odd social cue and I'm really nice.

@deedee7780

10 күн бұрын

Same. Being genuinely is rare these days and people find it suspicious :(

@nealjroberts4050

10 күн бұрын

@@deedee7780 Yeah it's rather sad 😢

I'm surprised she didn't talk about Dexter Morgan. Perfect example of a psychopath blending in as a normal nice person who clearly wasn't. He was my favorite psycho

i've also heard it can be on and off. that people who are psychopathic can be completely normal people for most of the day, but then certain things can trigger it and they will stop caring about people's feelings.

That's probably why nice people make me feel uneasy.

Explains Trump perfectly

@oOIIIMIIIOo

Ай бұрын

Yeah, a candidate that wants to close borders to stop child trafficking and all the other human, weapon, drug trafficking is definitely a psychopath. Definitely... You don't listen to these videos more concious.

@deedee7780

10 күн бұрын

I think Trump is too stupid to be a psychopath. He doesn't even pretend to be nice. I think he is an overt narcissist. He needs attention and praise more than anything.

I’m afraid that’s why sometimes a lot of people are leery of kind of people. They think they are manipulative. Which is sad.

Psychopaths are EXTREMELY charming & likable because they are using your desire to please them that they have engendered in you to get what they want. They have a super high IQ AND EQ, & they TRULY understand the core of the saying, "You catch more flies with honey than vinegar." As long as you are compliant, you may never see the true depths of their anger. But, defy them, & they will turn on a dime!

I know one.... actually a few now that I think of it.

I knew it! EVERYONE I know is a psychopath!

@user-ut6cb7mq3n

Ай бұрын

This is a serious issue that needs to be talked about. Comments like yours are dismissive and undermining to that end.

@khc8800

Ай бұрын

@@user-ut6cb7mq3n Please buy some humor. It's cheap. But if you want to stay serious, try learning about broad generalities that would cause all sorts of reverse psychology. How can you tell the difference?! Why bother!? Now EVERYONE has this "science" to hold suspicion on everyone else! Get serious!

Very insightful comments.

Is this why the same sister who almost choked me to death when I was in first grade made counselor of the year, when she was working for the public school system, and is now a Methodist preacher? Believe me, the choking incident wasn't the only thing that happened. I learned how to slip out of an attempted hammerlock, never to tell on her, or else, and, as an adult, to avoid all conversation with her, in order to prevent stories from circulating about nasty things that I said, which I had neither said, nor implied! She damaged my right shoulder, for life, when I was in second grade. No, I didn't tell. I was afraid she would kill me. Life is rough. Hold on to the people who are good to you, let go of the ones who don't have that capability.

your world needs to stop blurring the lines between psychopaths and sociopaths,as you just did...

@KeithWhalen11

Ай бұрын

​@@hansmemling2311What "subtleties and complexities" of the subject were discussed here, Hans? Instead of denigrating others, ostensibly to boost your petty ego, you could concede the superficiality of the short. Perhaps genetics and the reduced communication between the prefrontal cortex and amygdala is a better summation of psychopathy than a not-so-Voldemortian schmoozer.

@glennvage

Ай бұрын

@@KeithWhalen11 thanks Keith,i''ve had my shot back,but it pales a little next to yours mate...cheers!

@sihr07

Ай бұрын

🙄🙄🙄 right, cause it’s super clearly cut-off line

@camerong5513

6 күн бұрын

who is she? A professional idiot is my guess

The world was not built by people holding hands and singing Kumbaya the world was built by murderers and killers and thieves

@Jean-Luc-hy6me

Ай бұрын

The world was built by murderer singing kumbaya that's the difference murder is singing kumbaya to get what they want when they get what they want then they trash you that's the difference

@ChaoticAphrodite

Ай бұрын

Our species’ default is prosocial. The “murderers, killers and thieves” are antisocial and their antisociality holds our species back.

@robguyatt9602

Ай бұрын

@@ChaoticAphrodite Yes this is how social species survive. Not by killing each other in the tribe but protecting each other in the tribe against those who would harm the tribe.

@langostaalopobre4174

Ай бұрын

​@@robguyatt9602 yeah, protecting the tribe by killing the other tribe. Humans suck. Give them enough to gain, social presure, and guarantee of no consequences, and they'll do the most horrible things imaginable. Today the most terrible crimes are justified by tribalism. Case in point: Gaza

@sihr07

Ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 what a joke

The more I learn about psychopathy, the more I wonder if my ex is a psychopath.

As a diagnosed organic psychotic, we are the sneakiest of individuals. I've realized this over 25+ years. We can blend into any situation, then work the crowd.

You might also go through life knowing a psychopath and never know it. They know they have to "be normal" to preserve their own lives, so it's in their best interests to try and seem as normal as possible, all while manipulating everyone around them.