More than just depression: a postpartum mental health journey | Emily Phelps | TEDxBloomington

People say having a baby changes everything. And for Emily Phelps, it certainly did. Her unexpected struggle with multiple postpartum mood disorders forced her to reexamine everything she thought she knew about becoming a mother. Her humor and down-to-earth story sheds a light on a topic that's not talked about nearly enough. Through the story of her own struggle, she seeks to help others better understand these common disorders, realize they don't just happen to moms, and provide tangible tips to help the loved ones in your life who may be experiencing them. Emily is the founder of Matrescence Perinatal Care, an organization seeking to provide superior educational and social support to new and expecting families. She works as both a birth and postpartum doula. She has her Master's in Leadership Development with a research focus in how adult learners retain information. In addition to her work as a doula, she is an adjunct professor of Women's Leadership and an experienced corporate trainer and facilitator. All of her work, regardless of venue, revolves around ensuring others have the space to speak their truths, to be heard, and the tools to cultivate their own confidence. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @sgreen9088
    @sgreen90883 жыл бұрын

    One of the things that is helping me emotionally is to read a Psalm every morning. As I meditate on the verses, my spirits are lifted and I have just what I needed for that moment; for that day. I hope this helps someone. 🙏🏽

  • @JadeTrading
    @JadeTrading3 жыл бұрын

    Mental health is so important that we should learn these things in schools.

  • @Yurii_riccio

    @Yurii_riccio

    3 жыл бұрын

    👍🙏

  • @catmarieroberts

    @catmarieroberts

    3 жыл бұрын

    Facts

  • @AltairaSmith
    @AltairaSmith3 жыл бұрын

    "You have to keep showing up for your life when you have depression even when you don't want to." This resonates so much with me. I had PPD/PPA with my daughter that I kept dismissing until it became too much. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @maggieflores5836
    @maggieflores58363 жыл бұрын

    I identify my experience in yours SO MUCH. I remember feeling guilty because I didn't find joy in motherhood, and bleeding nipples, and I felt lonely and misunderstood. This changed when I went to La Leche League, and I found a mother who told me that she had dreamed of letting her baby fall from a bridge. I wasn't alone anymore.

  • @jacquelinecaron3564
    @jacquelinecaron35642 ай бұрын

    Emily Phelps. I am currently living this experience. I can’t tell you how much I needed to see this today. Thank you

  • @Melonsbitter

    @Melonsbitter

    12 күн бұрын

    Me too. I hope you’re doing well ❤

  • @MrsSJB
    @MrsSJB3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this. I suffered greatly and never received help. It morphed into ptsd after ovarian cancer and now I'm finally in therapy. My son is 20 years old.

  • @hindsightpov4218
    @hindsightpov42183 жыл бұрын

    The general public is egregiously unaware how serious and debilitating all forms of severe chronic depression really is. Unless you experienced severe depression yourself, it’s beyond your comprehension how soul destroying it is. This is why many who struggle with depression keep it to themselves. They don’t want others to judge and dismiss them. By diminishing one’s suffering as being trivial, it only makes the depression worse.

  • @inner_kundalini

    @inner_kundalini

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is the best comment so far. Thank you for a well-written and thoughtful comment. In light of all the pretty terrible comments on such a critically important topic, your stands out.

  • @hindsightpov4218

    @hindsightpov4218

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@inner_kundalini 🙂

  • @Knitterbug

    @Knitterbug

    3 жыл бұрын

    100%. After reading the comment section, it is abundantly clear why women keep this to themselves. Not only is it difficult for anyone with anxiety and depression to deal with the condition, but childbirth is such a celebrated time that moms don’t feel like they SHOULD feel anything but joy. It adds an entirely new dimension when guilt and exhaustion are added to the equation.

  • @jordanaubrey-realestateinv334
    @jordanaubrey-realestateinv3343 жыл бұрын

    Women deal with alot and awareness is important to this depression.

  • @icewalocum9441

    @icewalocum9441

    3 жыл бұрын

    Women only i guess ?

  • @Yurii_riccio

    @Yurii_riccio

    3 жыл бұрын

    awareness is important to all

  • @SY-sp8uo
    @SY-sp8uo3 жыл бұрын

    We have to take serious our mental health as much as we do the money.

  • @mrscarter7194
    @mrscarter71943 жыл бұрын

    Thank you this video, there is so much I want to say. I have experienced severe postnatal depression and anxiety twice, the second considerably worse which lead to two attempts at suicide. I am eight years post partum and am still fighting for my life. With PTSD by my side I still fight everyday for my family and I will never give up. It would be my dream to help people in a similar position , I work in Healthcare but can’t see a way I can help.

  • @sgreen9088
    @sgreen90883 жыл бұрын

    The part where she seemed to be crying, I felt it. I was like this is so real. But then she composed or came out of character as she retold her story.

  • @sakshi2038
    @sakshi20383 ай бұрын

    I had tears of joy when she said "i spent an obcene amount of money..."

  • @davidval7188
    @davidval71883 жыл бұрын

    Great video every new mother and father should see this

  • @SY-sp8uo
    @SY-sp8uo3 жыл бұрын

    Your life starts at the end of the comfort zone! 🔚

  • @juliewetzel8629

    @juliewetzel8629

    3 жыл бұрын

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  • @qurbonov_1113

    @qurbonov_1113

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@juliewetzel8629 24956067027178194059422882

  • @kirjuschaks

    @kirjuschaks

    3 жыл бұрын

    My life went nice till birth, I hope after death it would be even better^^

  • @chiedzamatowe4397
    @chiedzamatowe4397 Жыл бұрын

    Thank God you are well again. Oh wow! You addressed this issue so much so that I am inspired to do something in my community right now. Thank you, Emily Phelps, for sharing your postpartum journey. I am so so glad that you broke new ground in order to get to the root and core of it. Now I know PPD isn't just depression but a combo of several conditions.

  • @versatilelife3408
    @versatilelife34083 жыл бұрын

    These conversations need to be brought out of the shadow

  • @lenimarlina2294
    @lenimarlina22943 жыл бұрын

    The topic in TED it's really inspiring me to better life. Thanks, and keep spirit

  • @Yurii_riccio

    @Yurii_riccio

    3 жыл бұрын

    👍🙏 TED opens its eyes to many things

  • @nancydurie5784
    @nancydurie57843 жыл бұрын

    I learned that PPD is an increased risk with each subsequent birth. Surprising. I thought an experienced mother would be more able to cope, but there is apparently more PPD with the additional physical and emotional toll of having more kids.

  • @opalfruits8596

    @opalfruits8596

    3 жыл бұрын

    That's exactly what I would have thought. We need more focus and investment into this issue. It is a hidden epidemic.

  • @Draakie100
    @Draakie1003 жыл бұрын

    Worrying about what others think of us is one of the biggest " prisons" we build for ourselves (jmho). Peace :)

  • @ankushisharma1811
    @ankushisharma18113 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing this. Thank you. I completely understand , its difficult to understand and process postpartum. I dealt with issues too, I was oscillating between been MAD and crying. I would struggle with my moods, mad all the time, anything would flip me out. I believed I had a little bit of postpartum mood disorders, but there was no one to validate it, and still there isn't. And people around me did not believe in it. I think my husband still does not believe that I might have dealt with something similar. I felt lonely even amongst so many people. It took 4 months for me to let go of some and I would say 7-8 month postpartum to come to terms with my usual self. And, yes I have said to myself too.. you dont have postpartum depression.. you dont look too down and out.

  • @wyzolma99
    @wyzolma993 жыл бұрын

    I had almost the same experience but thought I could/should handle it myself.... health professionals are like that sometimes😢

  • @hissendaud653
    @hissendaud6533 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much

  • @jevasamy
    @jevasamy3 жыл бұрын

    I wish more people knew about this topic .

  • @anndybasi5886
    @anndybasi58866 ай бұрын

    Thank you very much 🥰🥰🥰

  • @Yurii_riccio
    @Yurii_riccio3 жыл бұрын

    TEDx opens its eyes to many things. All the best to all)) 🙏 You help to know yourself)👍

  • @BeyondResist
    @BeyondResist3 жыл бұрын

    “The only limits for tomorrow are the doubts we have today.” ― Pittacus Lore

  • @mariafc8643
    @mariafc86433 жыл бұрын

    Excelente charla. Esa valentía es lo que las Mujeres necesitamos para entender completamente la maternidad, que se muestra ante todos como perfecta pero no lo es en absoluto. Yo sufrí también de depresión postparto y recuerdo muy bien mi sentimiento de impotencia, soledad, angustia. También regresé al trabajo antes porque ya no soportaba más. Acudía psicólogo y luego a psiquiatra. Ninguno me ayudó realmente. Luego llegó otro médico que me dijo que la depresión es como tener gastritis. Es una enfermedad y hay que tratarla y punto. Tengo dos hijas más y con ninguna volví a sentirme igual afortunadamente

  • @TheEverpassenger
    @TheEverpassenger Жыл бұрын

    Thank you mama. İ hope this topic stops being a stigma and more mamas come out and share to guide others 💪

  • @hannahh8119
    @hannahh81193 жыл бұрын

    Good talk!!

  • @daddysgirldog
    @daddysgirldog3 жыл бұрын

    Me too. Some noticed. So glad my babies didn't know the difference... or did they? They couldn't say anything, others could have. 😥

  • @kellyryanobrien1
    @kellyryanobrien13 жыл бұрын

    PMDD. Almost killed me. Much love 💕

  • @FarbotBurunetNia
    @FarbotBurunetNia3 жыл бұрын

    I do honor and admire mothers.

  • @shawndeelooney2690
    @shawndeelooney26902 жыл бұрын

    No one cared, everyone abandoned me or turned on me, blamed me. My husband checked out and turned on me and everyone blamed me for that. It was horrible. I went from being a successful business woman, to completely alone.

  • @account_advanced
    @account_advanced3 жыл бұрын

    After a long day of work, Kanye West goes to his Kanye Nest to take his Kanye Rest. He wakes up feeling his Kanye Best. Then he’ll get Kanye Dressed into his Kanye Vest to go on a Kanye Quest. He goes to church and becomes Kanye Blessed, then to a hotel room to be a Kanye Guest. Then to school to take his Kanye Test. He forgot to brush his teeth. Did he run out of Kanye Crest? His neighbor stole it, what a Kanye Pest...

  • @kasmirepham5265

    @kasmirepham5265

    3 жыл бұрын

    So funny!

  • @sarabanas1447

    @sarabanas1447

    3 жыл бұрын

    Wow Ive never heard such genius before lol 👌😃

  • @ricead
    @ricead Жыл бұрын

    Doula - untrained midwife. Postpartum - postnatal. We had 3 miscarriages and Johnathan who lived for 28 hours. He at least got a funeral. Our "support" was from a priest who said God must be punishing us for something. Good job we had each other.

  • @Shazistic
    @Shazistic3 жыл бұрын

    Hard times don't create heroes. It is during the hard times when the 'hero' within us is revealed. -Shazistic

  • @JessicaLenGilbert
    @JessicaLenGilbert7 күн бұрын

    I had post pardom psychosis with my youngest son. I was suicidal because I thought I’m my head my baby was going to be tooken from occult. I believed that they we’re going to sacrifice him, at the time I was not eating or could sleep. My anxiety and paranoia was real and I honestly felt shame and deep sorrow because of the fear that would come over me. I felt like I couldn’t control myself, the last thing we want is not to be in control of our selves. I was still nurturing my baby, feeding, burping him, putting him to sleep, I would read psalm 91 to him before bedtime. He was so precious to me. All the while something drew me to the back of the Bible one night to Revelation 12. This chapter is about the women who fled to the wilderness clothed with the sun. And the beast the dragon who came to earth who was angry with the women who declared war against the rest of her children. These words are from the Bible, Revelation 12. I was drawn to this chapter as soon as I could sit and read it. At this time I was at a place of ministry, I was in a place that helped women come out of addiction, homelessness, and abusive relationships or a past that needed mended and healing. I was probably at the safest place I could be with my baby at the time. I was there because I was homeless and struggling financially, I had no help from his father or my family so I decided to go to the ministry in Golid Texas. Another delusion I had was when I walked into the kitchen and one of the children ran to me and said,” Micheal is here, he’s here with us” And this made me feel joyful!! I new the Ark Angel Micheal was here to protect us, I new that within me.. I new there was protection for us there. I felt the presence of the room full with peace, it was beautiful feeling. That day was a good day but I felt like I was the only one who heard the little boy, because none of the other children or mothers felt what I did or they didn’t appear to be joyful, they were cooking, and making their plates for their children, they were busy, and it seems like to me they would have ignoledged what he said!! So I new at that time it was just me, once again I felt left out, that I was outside of the box! I felt things the other women were not experiencing. I believe that my psychosis was very serious because I was delusional with the Faith I had and the darkness took over me. I went to sleep for a few hours at one time during this process, I saw myself in the bathroom in the bathtub with my arms cutt from suicide. I woke up in such fear and sorrow. The image of me dead was overbearing! I didn’t understand why I saw this, I struggled with asking myself is this my time to go, is this how I will leave, how could I leave my baby alone!! I have experienced a traumatic experience and I want to write a book on my story and healing process! I believe with all I have within me their should be a separate hospital for women who have PPD. If I had ever won the lottery or came across success I would make sure that I would help people gather and support the hospital to be created! We need to feel safe with ourselves and our babies. The mental health hospital has all kinds of different types of mental illnesses, I believe we should be separated. I was finally able to get to Cross Creek in Austin Texas. I didn’t save at first. A women there made a awful loud noise and it made me feel terrified and I keep screaming and crying. I thought she was coming after me to harm me!! Well honestly this is a small portion of what I experienced. Now I am 34 years old healed, my baby is safe and sound with his new adopted family along with my other babies, his siblings. I had to go to court to fight for my rights to keep them because I was dealing with this mental health crisis, the judge said at the time I was still healing, that I was not able to have my children and i wish my lawyer would have fought harder because I was trying to stay focused with still some delusions and sorrow from feeling unlike myself at times still. I was still mentally sick, and that hurt me. My children are now adopted and with parents who love them. I get updates and pictures of them. I thank god we are all alive everyday to be alive and breathing. At this time I am using a substance that can cause me to be addicted. It’s very addictive. I won’t say but I know people are familiar with it, I struggle with knowing who I truly am still because my natural instinct was to be a mother and it was basically stolen from me. I do not see my children after what’s happened. I feel alone most the time even when I’m around others and their healthy people also… I just feel lost at times because my heart is to be all that I am for my children and now the prices of my heart are gone. I do stay as positive as possible. I hold my head high, I work, I have just one challenge and that is this new addiction, I started about 8 months ago. I’m thinking about going to N/ A meetings. I pray that there are ways to help mothers who face the adoption process through the trauma of the PPD, also help for mothers who go to prison for the act of harming their baby. It’s just not fair. Please message me if you need to talk or are going through similarity. God has guided me to healing but I still have far more to learn and heal from. ❤ Take care. Jessica Gilbert June 2,2024.

  • @gwenteggi23
    @gwenteggi233 жыл бұрын

    Of course I cried and I laughed. I know exactly what she went through!

  • @usersettings5134
    @usersettings51343 жыл бұрын

    This is so interesting

  • @OurLargeFamilyLife
    @OurLargeFamilyLife Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this ❤️ I have PTSD from my ex husband but I do believe I have PTSD from having triplets 3yrs ago.

  • @OurLargeFamilyLife

    @OurLargeFamilyLife

    Жыл бұрын

    Well hearing those statistics no wonder I haven’t felt “here” in 16yrs 🤣🫣😭 hearing this helps me so much though

  • @BeyondResist
    @BeyondResist3 жыл бұрын

    “You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” ― Steve Jobs

  • @ms.erikamartin1981
    @ms.erikamartin1981 Жыл бұрын

    Birthing Parent? It’s called a MOTHER.

  • @esolsen25
    @esolsen253 жыл бұрын

  • @squishy3915
    @squishy39153 жыл бұрын

    Finally

  • @YusufboyDivanov
    @YusufboyDivanov3 жыл бұрын

    Very nice🤝

  • @farahnazpourkaram
    @farahnazpourkaram3 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Hecilious
    @Hecilious3 жыл бұрын

    Maybe people need to talk about majör depression?

  • @helenwilder248
    @helenwilder2483 жыл бұрын

    DHi

  • @gerrie2477
    @gerrie24773 жыл бұрын

    2:10 daYum he's a cutie :o)

  • @mariofontesdegodoy3217
    @mariofontesdegodoy32173 жыл бұрын

    Então poste vídeos em português, e aproveita e estuda um pouco da conjugação verbal.

  • @icewalocum9441
    @icewalocum94413 жыл бұрын

    This comment section makes my IQ feel like 200 i swear

  • @virginiaruti4947
    @virginiaruti49473 жыл бұрын

    Primera

  • @goodthink6184
    @goodthink61843 жыл бұрын

    Join Youth Club Motivational speaker Raja Zia ul haq Tuaha Ibn Jalil ❣️💞❣️

  • @zatoutnora
    @zatoutnora3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this story but she didn't go to the psychologist let the problem come big and more complex

  • @enoch7thadam1st2
    @enoch7thadam1st23 жыл бұрын

    An really bad image for all the T.E.D.-x talk; I'm mage, like in the days of Old Egypt

  • @squozerrplays7365
    @squozerrplays73653 жыл бұрын

    Uninformed people be like In other words Karen be like She talking without a mask

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