Dr. Gary thank you! Your simple and direct advice resonated with me. I feel like I have lived most of my past 32 years with anger, and at age 52, I feel like I'm finally start moving past it, but as you say it has not been easy and I still fall back into a mindset of anger and even rage at times (never in public, but still). 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you so much, I really needed this message because I always let anger get the best of me but it's just better to walk away Thanks Dr.

Pearls of wisdom from Dr Gary. Thank you for these videos, hoping to see more of you soon!

Great Words of Wisdom !! Thank you ... Paul and Sandy

Eventually the pain lessens. It sucks to be fooled and left out. It sucks to be lied to and lied about. Life can be weird depending on where you live. Keep Smiling and let them.wonder! Bullying is not okay. Not okay at all.

Relatives can destroy you, so please watch your back folks.

Really dead on, man, you've helped me, been in the belly of anger, nearly lost everything, just at the rim of the hole,, and i find you, you, It was my mind?

Very useful Dr Gary Have you made any videos on assertiveness? I have noticed that assertive behaviour can prevent one from getting angry and holding grudges...please advise on assertiveness

"Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor others" -Miyamoto Musashi People will hurt us, people will do us wrong, disrespect us, lie n betray.. however learn to be strict with yourself and be tolerant with others. we have no control over the world we only can control our mental faculty

Thanks for your words, Dr. Gary! I only hope I can implement them in my life. Your a good guy!

Hard to do when it's your own parents. I had to say goodbye to my dad on the phone years ago, and never saw him again. He died this week, a miserable person. He Hurt me every chance he was given. I finally had to say no more, but it's the biggest deal of your life.

@bonniebester606

4 жыл бұрын

My dad severely Abused me throughout my whole Childhood...up til l finally had to Run Away at 18! Yep...l had been "Grounded" for Months!...l forgave and Forgot...and actually allowed to him to form a bond with my oldest Son (l can't even go there!)...l ended up in a 2 decade Abusive Marraige...than Homeless! He literally had 3 empty houses! I moved into the one across the street from him...where he spent the year Abusing. Gaslighting and trying to push me to Suicide! That's the Thanks you will get from a Covert Narc for that unconditional love! Do not believe all that goody goody bullshit about Forgiveness...its over-rated!

@bonniebester606

4 жыл бұрын

They say...you Forgive others for yourself! Do yourself a favor and don't forgive and forget...unless you want history to repeat itself and to get treated like a Rug!!!!

@lindasapiecha2515

4 жыл бұрын

Aw best of love to you x

@lindasapiecha2515

4 жыл бұрын

@@bonniebester606 i think it means you detach yourself from that person having control over your emotions x

@bonniebester606

4 жыл бұрын

@@lindasapiecha2515 Yes...we try...with some Success Depending on your Support System. When it was your Foundation with Parents like mine (and mind you...l see their good and still love and respect them...not easy at all...) But if your typical. Patterns Repeat and mine was with Paul for 2 Decades...the Prime of my Life with Paul...Stuck in his Pumpkin...Still am...Abuse is something a Lot of Child Abuse Survivors spend a Lifetime Reliving and trying to Overcome!

Thank you sir. I needed these thoughts / tips right now.

Thank you Dr. Gary, I do enjoy what you’re doing, it motivates me and it makes me want to do better in this lifetime. Keep up the good work I do appreciate what you were doing. Thank you, All is well

I don't want Revenge! I want Justice! And the Money my X Embezzeled Durring our 21 years Marraige! Yep...l am to blame for believing he actually loved me...as he was really Abusing and Using me!

Wow, I had managed to "forget" that I might have had a part in the situations where someone has hurt me...

Thanks I needed to hear this now...

thank you so much sir for your advice I'm so glad to found your vedeo in KZread.god bless you.

Dear Dr. Gary.......why do those betrayers keep coming into my head even though I engage myself in moving forward? Every time I sit to paint.... They just take over.

Sometimes you cannot get away from them, just distance yourself from them.

Hey Doc, I take care of my 91 year old stroke Mother, who was fully functioning before. 4 sons mom built up every one of us. No help, when my brothers wife visits, she is the meanest spirited abusive person I have known, I say nothing because she will take it out on my brother, her and there son. I am ashamed and regretful for allowing her access to Mom, What you just said, Mom has been telling me my whole life, I have difficulty managing this,

thanks for this video..subscribed

Brilliant

Pretty good video!

Thank you Dr. (y)

Stress definately makes you sick!

My problem is I blame myself for everything and then have tremendous guilt over why i got myself into this relationship when i had alarm bells ringing x

It does sometimes have to do with money. Nick Panagopulos stole (meaning did not return to me when he folded his company) my wages and some of 401K money. When I sued (again using money I could not afford to spend and won), he declared bankruptcy after hiding the money with his wife - as he told me he was going to do to avoid paying another creditor. So my anger absolutely has to do with money - money I earned through hard work, and is mine and is something I need.

Hurt as much as I did?....no, ten fold.

I changed my behavior, I walked away, I moved on, I changed my thoughts and stay away from people that want to do me wrong and betray me. So guess what they did... Groups of people psychotic demented sociopaths are now stalking me. Now what?

Yes I totally agree

Are you still doing new content?

i have several of these issues... as a part of my PTSD my doctor asked me to write to them and tell them i remember what they did and i moved on.

@polishherowitoldpilecki5521

4 ай бұрын

I’m going through something similar.

@willieboy8798

4 ай бұрын

@@polishherowitoldpilecki5521 normally narcies need to see you to trigger, but if you send them a picture it can work as well!. It is really you calling them normal and they dont like that! if you send them a picture of an apt you shared ..... yes they will laugh on the outside but not on the inside and talk to them sub normal.....no joy there for them...

More I watch things about revenge, more I want to revenge for good and don't think about it AFTER !

My revenge and anger will be gone when I do what they did to me. Payback is a bitch when is comes back to them. Wrath has no equal like a Scorpio that has been wronged!

what about if the one who done wrong is my husband cheated and divorce. 😐

What do you do when your own daughter has betrayed you, and you want revenge? Don't think I can come back from all she has done to hurt me, I think she may have some mental disorder. I just want peace in my life, she has even turned the g/children against me/

Wise words but theres nothing better than having the person who hurt you suspended on barbed wire in a stress position while you relieve your frustration with a baseball bat a blow lamp and a blunt pair of pincers oh sweet relief

I have bin true betrayal ,I ack just like that I keep happy every day ,and the person who do it to me get so mad when they see me happy keep up the good work I'm a happy person I don't let's nothing negative gets in my way I blank them all, let us be happy,God is good all the Time when they do you wrong they want to see you sad never do that happy likes never before,,,😄😄😀

Maybe they are not aware of being "betrayed", and you feel angry at yourself for being so naive.

it's a family member. and extremely upsetting to not have a relationship with this person.

@upstatenewyork

5 жыл бұрын

It hurts alot. I have terrible connections with relatives. No closeness.

Dr Gary can i have your email??