Love this!!! Very much what I needed as a mom just discovering that there is another powerful way to parent! With a 6 year old, a 2 year old and a 4 month old this video just couldn’t come at a better time! Thank you! I have a perfect spot in the house for the “time in” experience and love the reframe of letting the child cry fully or just go through their frustration and emotions.

Oh my gosh this is actually SO helpful. I've never heard the explanations broken down so easily so it makes sense! Thankyou for taking the time to film this. I love it!

@theconfusedmom

9 ай бұрын

Awe thank you so much!

Do you do the calming corner, time in, or time out? Has it changed with age?

@theconfusedmom

5 ай бұрын

Literally editing a short on this today!! Haha it’s never the same though - especially with multiple kids. My daughter had asked for a time out (I think I talked about it in this video? She sees it as a good thing lol and I told her she can take a time out whenever she needs so she does that on her own) and I show my favorite spots and thoughts on calming corners in the video coming next week I think.

One thing is family members, sometimes they want to continue their traditional ways and it interrupts one’s parenting style.

@theconfusedmom

9 ай бұрын

For sure and that's to be expected, but that's where the in-between moments ultimately matter. You teach your kids values and boundaries and it will spill over into those relationships eventually. You don't need to try to get them to change their parenting ways, just adapt yours to support the kids through those moments.

@theproofistrivial7677

9 ай бұрын

My husband and I are going through this right now and after a lot of soul searching this is what we’ve come to. We live in Asia where even the younger generation isn’t necessarily doing “modern parenting” as in the West. My mom will say: “oh wow, sibling A has bigger eyes rather sibling B” or “See, your little sister is not crying. She is such a good baby. Why can’t you be more like her?”I blew up at my mom. But ultimately, this behavior is so common and we decided we were wrong to be so reactive to it. For one, we live in Asia, it’s entirely possible we live here in the future. And they will just have to get used to it because it’s SO common- it’s far from just my mom. For real, random old ladies will start comparing my kids for good or ill. And there is no way to shield them from that. I ultimately told my mom, “you can say whatever you like, but if you keep saying A is prettier or a better baby than B I will have to teach them both not to listen to you. Because there is nothing more important to us than their relationship with each other. And if we have to do it too many times they will lose respect for you.” And we are willing go do it too. Even if it means my mom gets thrown under the bus.

@theconfusedmom

9 ай бұрын

@@theproofistrivial7677 first, thank you for sharing your experience! I know it's going to help others! and it's pretty spot on to what I was trying to convey above too. Second, I dk how old your kids are, but I will say (based off many many many similar situations ourselves), kids know without us having to spell it out/ throwing anyone under the bus ourselves (and honestly, if we do that, we are giving them the map to do it to us when we are older...) So I hope I'm not overstepping in sharing any of this, but just to hopefully bring you some more easy from one recovering over-reactive parent to another haha -- it's your job to process those moments with your kids one-on-one later. "What was that like for you when so and so said blah blah?" Our kids are going to naturally compare themselves to one another and others, whether it's being instigated from someone we know or not, and its just our job to help them navigate tit - and then just generally as part of your regular day instilling the value that their sibling relationship is one of the most important in their lives and how self worth is truly measured. You won't need to worry about the players as much as long as you do those two things in my experience... but also do keep your kids feeling safe, so I'd be following up those "good baby for not crying " comments with whatever feels best for creating my child's safety to express themselves in the moment, and most likely removing them from that person lol