I’d like to add this: never make decisions based on what you’re afraid of. Make decisions based on what you desire.

@ladycactus110

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! My go-to in decision-making: Fear? Or Fun? Only the latter gets my continued attention.

@angelinasuazo5705

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for bringing this up, because reading this hit me like a ton of bricks! And it makes me wonder if our dear Sandra has learned painful lessons, or made her decisions out of fear? Because she seems to be warning us, as she's preaching so vehemently.

@lifewithsandrahart

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent, excellent advice.❤️

@nancysampley3258

3 жыл бұрын

Aging has brought me a lot of fears and phobias. How do you cure that?

@novanorman1091

3 жыл бұрын

I agree!

2:14 1) Don't wish your life away 3:22 2) Don't make promises you can't fulfill 4:59 3) Don't hide your love 6:17 4) Don't hold onto bitter feelings 8:05 5) Don't ignore your intuition 9:16 6) Don't hang onto regrets 11:28 7) Don't get stuck 14:08 8) Don't stop educating yourself 16:13 9) Don't lose your individuality 17:31 10) Don't expect your children to give back what you gave to them

@karlmagro8806

Жыл бұрын

Omg you’re a champ

@Dzanarika1

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@tanishaaburman2005

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much

@angelwings7930

Жыл бұрын

@Adrian Don’t tell others what to do. Free speech. Some of us don’t have time to watch an entire video. And you’ve got no idea, people are likely still giving it a thumbs up no matter what.

@stripestonight8420

Жыл бұрын

Not ONCE did she say “don’t make the mistake of not studying hard” See mom ! I won’t end up washing dishes at a chinese restaurant just cause I don’t study.

Can we appreciate how pretty granny looks?

1. Don’t wish your life away 2. Don’t make promises you won’t fulfil 3. Don’t hide your love 4. Don’t hold onto bitter feelings 5. Don’t ignore your intuition 6. Don’t hang onto regrets 7. Don’t get stuck 8. Educate yourself constantly 9. Express your individuality, don’t loose it 10. Don’t put a burden of expectations on your children’s shoulders when it comes to them giving back what you gave to them.

@ChandidasGhosh-id2qc

6 ай бұрын

Oh, you have listed so many don'ts, but each of these don'ts is as much a part of your life as any thing else that is a part. Isn't it?

@iamYazeedd

6 ай бұрын

what does the first one means

@jeffrey268

6 ай бұрын

Watch out for wishful thinking and willful blindness. They have caused my biggest mistakes in life.

@iamYazeedd

6 ай бұрын

what do u mean by that jefffery can u explain@@jeffrey268

@sl4983

6 ай бұрын

Thank you

1) Don" t wish your life away. 2) Don" t forget to say " I love you." 3) Don" t dwell in bitterness 4) Don" t have regrets 5) Always listen to your intuition 6) Don" t remain stuck in a situation. Get the wheels out. Use your stuck energy to do something positive. 7) Keep expanding your life 8) Don" t be a part of the herd. Embrace your uniqueness and individuality. Don" t let anyone tell you that you are less than anyone. 8) Don" t expect your children to give back what you did for them.

@Awoman-ty7qh

2 жыл бұрын

2) dont make promises u cant keep.

@violetamanfredonia5225

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@la_baby_khalil7703

2 жыл бұрын

🙏😘🙏

@prettywoman7776

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listing!💕

@tlb663

2 жыл бұрын

Listen to the whole video tho, she’s got nuggets

My list at 62: 1. Say something complimentary to at least one person every day. 2. Find the humour. Even if it has to be dark humour. 3. Learn at least one new thing everyday. 4. Travel adventurously. 5. Shut. Up. 6. Share knowledge with generosity. 7. Treat others the way you want to be treated. 8. Dress to please yourself. 9. Have a lot of sex, including with yourself. 10. Hug. A lot.

@nousernamewhatsoever

9 ай бұрын

Wasn't expecting no.5 😂

@maniwya

8 ай бұрын

Idk about number 9 😭

@arlandamanning8627

8 ай бұрын

No sex for a year 😢

@user-mb6vt9zo5c

8 ай бұрын

Number nine ❤❤❤❤ I haven’t even had enough yet

@sex06

8 ай бұрын

number 9??

As a 12 year old girl. I really appreciate your advice grandma. I really do, I may be a kid but it doesn't mean I'm not raising them as well. After my heartbreak I was so stuck in my bed and crying but now. I feel a lot better at your advice grandma! I hope you'll live a long and healthy life

@elenagura4055

Жыл бұрын

Не слушай советы чужой бабушки,слушай маму и папу. И музыку.

@Chalize

Жыл бұрын

12 years old with heartbreak? People grow up so fast nowadays. Edit. Post muted. Not reading replies about the same shit.

@cacab6884

Жыл бұрын

Bravo. 😊😊😊😀😀💜💚💙❤️👍👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏🙏

@cow1959

Жыл бұрын

They were probably rejected or something

@kzf8978

Жыл бұрын

​@@elenagura4055 not everybody has good parents. 😢

When I was only 19, I was diagnosed with a serious incurable disease and I expected that I would die in a few years... At that point I stopped making goals, going to college, stopped planning and dreaming. I'm 40 now, still pretty young and have time. Now there are treatments and the disease can be tamed, still not cured but it's seemless. I'm going back to school and pursuing my career dreams. It wasn't my time but I no longer give up as a victim to my circumstances. Great advice Sandy!

@lifewithsandrahart

2 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful life story of survival and making life work for you! All the best to you!!

@luavasconcelos1637

Жыл бұрын

Same for me! At 19 I had a serious neurological problem, I stopped studying, but luckily I kept working and st 34 I have a great career

@motherminnie

Жыл бұрын

I’m sure your goal here was to inspire and share your story and that’s just what you did. Your growth is contagious. I will take this and apply to me! Thank you 😊

@judithprice5809

Жыл бұрын

odd-me too

@yutecforz4416

Жыл бұрын

I think I'm in a similar situation. Except mine is a bout of extreme anxiety about the future. A bit of an existential one but I just lost will for anything after fully digested my mortality. I don't know, maybe I have a Maladaptive stress response to things. But I'm still in it and feel hopeless

#2 - learning to say no: when you start agreeing only to things you really can and want to do, people learn to trust that when you are doing something you are fully committed and want to be there. Also, "no, that won't work for me" is all it takes, you don't need to explain why.

@annebalderston2520

Жыл бұрын

Add this to the list❣️

@jannertfol

11 ай бұрын

Do be aware, however, that people will then find all sorts of ways to pressure you into changing your mind! I've been saying No to things I don't want to do for YEARS (I'm 74 now) but I've discovered that saying 'No, that's not for me' often results in them saying, 'Oh, but how do you know till you try?-you'll feel differently in a day or so, so I'll ask again-if you won't do it, then neither can I- you need to try new things or you'll get stagnant-maybe we can do it some other time, like next Thursday,' etc. So be prepared to stand your ground and don't give in to pressure or emotional blackmail. A brief polite 'out' ...'I'm sorry, but that's not for me' ...should be enough. The proper polite response should be, 'No problem ...but if you change your mind, let me know.' However, many people will immediately begin to try to squash your reason for refusal. So don't make excuses or get into a debate about it. If your initial polite excuse is not enough to make them back off, just fall back on that good old word 'No.' Repeated often enough, eventually No WILL sink in. The alternative is you will get trapped into whatever it is you don't want to do. Resentment will follow.

As an 18 year old who is just out into this world of adult hood, thank you. I will do my best to use your wise words to live my best life. Thank you.

@hanac5751

8 ай бұрын

adult hood?

I once heard a mother of three testify that, "Respect is fostered. My kids owe me nothing. They did not ask to be born. I chose to have them. I owe them everything.". She continued by emphasising that her childrens happiness is what matters most, and ended her message to the world with, "Now, my kids are actually fighting over which one will get to take care of me when I get old.". They WANT to take care of her, because she never expected them to. I was envious of her children. My parents are narcissists. I don't know how to forgive my parents for failing to do their job. I have understanding for them, and how they became narcissists, but I have yet to master the art of forgiveness.

@jamie.daugherty

Жыл бұрын

Forgiveness frees the forgiver my friend.

@NYse821

Жыл бұрын

💝

@grumpyschnauzer

Жыл бұрын

2 parents that are narcissists? The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree… that or you may be falsely accusing people as being narcissists when they just sucked as parents.

@darciee.7337

Жыл бұрын

I love this perspective!

@fierce5273

Жыл бұрын

@@grumpyschnauzer Everything you are saying could be true. But also, it might not be true. We don't know the person who made this comment and we don't know what they have been through.....Which means we really don't have the power to judge because we don't know. And sometimes the apple does fall VERY far from the tree.... It's just hard for us to admit that there are gray areas of life we don't see because it's been deeply rooted and ingrained in many of us to see things in black and white. Perhaps there's more to the story that we do not see, right?

I LOVE hearing advice from old people because they have usually gained wisdom over the years and know what they’re talking about

@PrettyLesbian

Жыл бұрын

I second that.

@noobchillz9438

Жыл бұрын

Yes! There's no amount of knowledge that can replace wisdom.

@atimnile2401

Жыл бұрын

Well said indeed; most have had years & years of Experience 🥰🥰!!! I do believe as young adults though; it’s just difficult to not think about past regrets😢!!! Listening to her speak really speaks great volume!!! I will remember to take One -day -@ A time.

@DaniSilva..

Жыл бұрын

Me too , I stop and listen careful to their advise 😊

You're such a lovely lady. I'm 23 and sometimes I feel like it's already too late for me to change my life. You inspired me to stop thinking about my past regrets and start living. I'm so thankful❤

@aichamni3543

7 ай бұрын

The same thing for me I'm 21 years old

@Doubrovskaia

6 ай бұрын

My 35-year old friend just switched career paths and joined a master's, got a new boyfriend:) it's never late!

@gleniyaalashay

5 ай бұрын

you’re so young , you still have your whole life ahead of you. there’s still time i hope everything is going well for you ❤

I am 40 and love this video! So we’ll explained. No BS, just heartfelt truth from someone who’s been there and done that.

At 32, I decided to go into nursing school when I was told at 18 that I'm "not smart enough for it". Turns out I would make a very good nurse, and being 32 years old isn't going to stop me!

@Shinebaii

Жыл бұрын

I am so thankful for you being a nurse! You will be making so much difference in the lives of your patients!

@_reeshh

Жыл бұрын

I'm 26 and I really want to become a nurse. I went back to college to proceed nursing school. I feel like I'm too late for it. But I don't want to be afraid forever. Let's be great nurses someday ❤❤✨

@kristinas6120

Жыл бұрын

@@_reeshh you are capable of achieving great things. Believe in yourself and it will happen I promise the key is all in your mindset 💙

@janie9626

Жыл бұрын

I’m 38 and will be starting nursing school. I’m scared but my old career is always here but I know it’s not fulfilling.

@yahtomiro5429

Жыл бұрын

lets goooo 🦅

Don’t be in a hurry to get married. If all your friends are married and you are not, it’s okay. Seek advice and counsel of people who have been married for a long time before you get married. If you marry for the first time at forty years old, it’s fine. Be comfortable with who you are before marrying anyone.

@carolflower8015

Жыл бұрын

And 90% of marrieds will tell you not to bother - except for children of course (except they too can bring tears)

@Deelitee

Жыл бұрын

100%

@andriaknobel5241

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true

@youtubecommenter1000

Жыл бұрын

@John Smith So your marriage can fail too?

@TheKatelinn

Жыл бұрын

This is something I wish I had known when I was young!

I’m an italian girl (so I’m sorry for my english), i saw your video and i found it very nice. It's rare for people like you to talk about their life and give advice on how best to deal with it. The world needs more people like you, you are a good woman.

I am 62. lost my family because bad decisions I made and other reasons. I live alone since then, have almost no friends. I managed to overcome the situation psychologicaly and even take advantage of it to learn and grow. But lately I was kind of losing the road. Your advice about wishing this and that put me on the road again. I feel many of us are so grateful to you for uploading your knowledge. Love and kisses from Leon,MX. ;)

Also to add.....Never Seek anyone's approval for ANYTHING you do,your peace and happiness is all the approval you need❤

@creative4496

Жыл бұрын

❤hey! Thank you

@hannahhughes4801

Жыл бұрын

❤

@sophiafarah8246

11 ай бұрын

That’s so very true

I would add, “Experience is NOT the only teacher.” You don’t have to go through what others have gone through if you SIMPLY pay attention to what they go through and why. Yes, SOME things DO require experience, but some things we deal with because of an “it won’t happen to me” or an “I don’t care, I’m gonna do it because I want to” mentality, causes us to suffer consequences that we didn’t need to. Thank you for this timeless, ageless wisdom, Lady Sandra! A 43 year old man (Me) is taking this all in.

@walqqr1

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true! 👏

@marybeth23

Жыл бұрын

Learn from the mistakes of others, you don't have time to make them all yourself.

@hevxhev

Жыл бұрын

Yes I wish more people could realize life doesn't have to be hard, it doesn't have to be suffering. It's the mindset, no matter the experience. I hate when ppl say things similar to "well that's life, life is hard". It's too defeating/suffocating to me. Instead I want to strive to always EXPAND into more joy and excitement WITHOUT the growing pains! There may be trials but I will turn that anxiety and trepidation into excitement.

@VoyagerGaming417

Жыл бұрын

This is probably one of the best comments I've seen, and it's so true.

@MoonBeamLight

Жыл бұрын

@@hevxhev Agree to an extent. Suffering and life being hard is not always a "mindset" and we need to acknowledge our priveledge to even be able to think that's the case for everyone, because for millions around the world suffering is not a mindset. It's not a mindset for many even around you and not because they want to suffer or are "negative" but because everyone's individual lives are different. Life shouldn't be hard and suffering for anyone but unfortunately for many it is and is out of their hands.

I am in my teen years and never properly had a grandmother or grandmother figure, but watching this video makes me feel like I'm sitting down with my grandma with a cup of tea talking about life. Thankyou Sandra❤❤

Very good advice we should all take to heart! One lesson I wish I'd learned before 40: be your own friend and advocate. Listen to your own needs and don't spend the precious little time you have on people who make you feel bad about yourself.

MY two cents, for what it's worth...Never make life changing decisions when your tired, sick or grieving. Never make promises when your excited, depressed or angry. Never loan money to anyone, including your friends or family, you're not a bank. I've learned some hard lessons in life, that I don't want to repeat. I rarely make promises anymore and my life changing decisions are well thought out, because when we realize time is running out, we stop wasting time and money.

@lifewithsandrahart

3 жыл бұрын

Meme, Great advice all around. Thank you so much for all of those tips.❤️

@fan2807

3 жыл бұрын

you are so right!!!!!!!!!!after 10 years i am going to ask them back.its about my dignity and respect to my self.this amount of money has been between our "friendship".

@d.h.fremont3027

3 жыл бұрын

Good advice.

@marianking1379

2 жыл бұрын

Yes don't lend , GIVE !

@ticafrancis9874

2 жыл бұрын

@@marianking1379 I.am so impressed with this, continue the good work. I learned a lot thank you

I lost all of my women. Great grandmother, grandmother, and mom. I love this. Thank you for speaking to us and advising us. I feels like your speaking directly to me.

@Tiamaryln

Жыл бұрын

I've lost my mom recently. Three weeks to be exact. I dont know how to feel. I'm just so lost. I'm 17 years old and she was all I had.

@soryu2984

Жыл бұрын

@@Tiamaryln i am so sorry, please stay strong and dont be afraid to ask for help if u need to. sending you love and light

@jazminhenson4721

Жыл бұрын

@@Tiamaryln I’m sorry for your loss babes 🥺💖

@nicoleclavel3876

Жыл бұрын

Sending you so much love beautiful 💗🥺

@mimishandle

Жыл бұрын

@@Tiamaryln i’m so sorry 🙏 i am sending you love, light, healing strength and resilience to continue to grow in times we feel lost or not even on a direct path. feel all you need to feel. best wishes 🦋

I found your channel today. It's been nice listening to you. I am 49 years old, I want to thank you for transmitting such positive messages, I am still studying languages, history, and everything that I consider helps me to be better. A big hug.💖

At almost 60yo, I realized staying in the emotionally abusive relationship I was in for 15 years was partly my responsibility. When I recognized how unhealthy it was, I stayed with "hope" that he would change. That my love would surely make him see our lives could be so much better. Yes, trauma bonds are horrible, but I know part of me wanted to be revered as the intelligent patient woman that helped him 'see the light' and be lavished with grateful love from then on. That is very unhealthy, of course, but I just didn't understand it before. I'm grateful to no longer live in that delusional fantasy. I don't hate him, I just don't have to be married to him. ❤

For us mature women, take care of your body and your skin but don't be a fanatic about antiaging and mourn every sag. Take that bod that you have and go out and have some fun in it!

@learnbyheart7

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, I just love this comment Carol! I say, take whatever parts you can carry....haha!

@txspacemom765

3 жыл бұрын

@@learnbyheart7 As my Auntie used to say, fling 'em, sling 'em, just as long as you bring 'em! ;)

@carolflower8015

Жыл бұрын

My sentiments exactly

@sanivana

Жыл бұрын

Im want to explore myself sexually- Im 40, best bod ever currently working out and seen my abs for the first time😍😍

@tbunnyshy1

Жыл бұрын

@@sanivana The 40’s are the very best years in my opinion. Enjoy it!

My little addition to this wonderful set of life-advice: Don't stop being the amazing, kind, compassionate and loving human being that you are just because someone unworthy chose to take advantage of your trust. Be who you are, and let that other person be who they are.

@sowsa2208

Жыл бұрын

Very good point thank you

@jinhub2175

Жыл бұрын

exactly! I'm 18 but I learned this the hard way

@NovaTheSinger

Жыл бұрын

That’s what many people call,Forgiving,You forgive them & you forgive yourself for certain criteria 😄

The last one hurts, I’m 23 and I just realize that I don’t give 0,005% of what my mom did to me, this woman knows what she’s saying.

@adevore1971

11 ай бұрын

Just give her a card or some flowers you picked or a little something from a thrift store, doesn't need to be much ! The thought will mean something to her ...

I'm a 34 year old mom and your last advice to parents is so wonderful. Not only to children, but perhaps to anyone, to set them free from needing to owe me anything. thank you so much for your wisdom.

Hello Sandra! I'm 14, I have my cat asleep on my lap, and I'm questioning my life. I've struggled with depression from a very young age and I've always thought a bit too deeply about life. You've taught me to take life as it comes and find joy in the little things, which has brought meaning and hope back into my life. I have so much respect and appreciation for you. Thank you for everything you do. Peace and love from Australia.

@mrrandom7315

Жыл бұрын

Hey, thats cool! Im 16 and live at an island near australia. Once i found God I followed the Bible and loved Jesus. This just gives an inclination to live lovingly and joyfully in all circumstances. Do you know Jesus?

@jellie3969

Жыл бұрын

Ive been questioning my life for years now lol

@dariavitafede3546

Жыл бұрын

Hey Spoon! It’s already a good thing that you’re conscious about this, about your depression and all the questioning you’ve been doing. I’m 30 now and I’ve struggled with depression basically my entire life, since my childhood. I didn’t know at that time, but that’s what it was. All you need is the tools to be present and conscious, staying with all the feelings you’re experiencing right now without avoiding them. Embrace all that comes to you, embrace all the sadness, the struggles, all bad and good emotions. You’re still so young and already have the vocabulary to express what you’re going through. It’s not easy at all, it’s a big thing. ❤️

@cupcakzbacpud9502

Жыл бұрын

@@mrrandom7315 no

@lumpsofcandy86

Жыл бұрын

Cool to see another young person on this journey. This is the kind of video I would've watched at 14. When I was 14 seven years ago, I would google life advice from elderly people and read and watched what their regrets and lessons for the young were. I believe you're a kind and intelligent soul with many gifts to give the world. Thinking deeply is an enormous gift and sometimes a tough burden to bear when young. Your comment strikes me as a sign of an intelligent young woman. Listen to yourself and your gut above all else. Once you graduate school and go out into the world, you will see how unique and immensely valuable your gifts are. Sending loving kindness from Los Angeles

What a stunning, wise woman. What a gift to have access to these life lessons on KZread where youth is so idolized. I'm grateful that you've chosen to share on this platform!

@thebigcj

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. So incredible ❤

@Ice.muffin

Жыл бұрын

Youth is not idolized though, certainly not by people of value aka worth taking any idea from.

@francescamiddleton9644

Жыл бұрын

Yes 😊.

@Rosehybride

8 ай бұрын

As soon who has lost both of her grandmothers it is so nice to get the wisdom of an elderly woman 😩

I absolutely loved this video. One bit of advice I want to add is to not constantly be thinking of the future, be sure to enjoy the "now" and be present. I understand that with struggles, it can be hard to not think of the future constantly, but always be sure that whenever you can, live in the moment!

May I contribute this. Please do not ignore or dismiss or lose patience with your elderly parent(s). After all, you will be there one day too! I speak to my Mom every single day. She has mentioned how lonely the disabled elderly can feel. I have seen many elderly terribly neglected by their children. Just a phone call helps so much.

My #1 thing ive learned ... Don't make a decision under the pressure of someone else . Walk away and think about it first . Don't let others pressure you in their presence or while they are looking at you. Or at least turn away , walk away where you don't feel their pressure and take your time to think . Especially in a financial situation. Tell them you will think about it and let them know in a few days .

@mi3helle707

Жыл бұрын

I need to learn this. I give into family pressure too much. It's so annoying

@MoaCharles

Жыл бұрын

Additionally: Even if you say yes, you can always remove your consent. Just because I got asked to do something and said I will do it (regardless of under pressure or not), doesn't meant that I can't change my opinion afterwards and say I decline.

@vy6309

Жыл бұрын

Yeah that's what I've learnt

@juliemoss3753

Жыл бұрын

Very good advice.

@Topkat311

Жыл бұрын

​@@MoaCharles not if you sign a contract. You only have 48 hours to cancel a contract. I think sometimes people are pressured into signing something

Sandra, as someone with a toxic family and a lack of adults in my life helping me navigate adulthood, I really really appreciate your videos. Watching your videos is like talking to the grandmother I've never had. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

@delfisky3012

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. I didn't have the sort of family, parents, & siblings, to share achievements, loves, or losses - but I went on to raise a family with love, kindness and caring - I have broken the cycle.

@mushymoshy

11 ай бұрын

My immediate family members are toxic. They are not people that you want to share any part of your life with - I’ve had to not be bitter about them and release them from my life. I have beautiful friends & people who care deeply for me.

@minastern7501

10 ай бұрын

Stay away from toxic people no matter what relationship you have with them!

@acanimatics906

10 ай бұрын

Im currently in the process of trying my hardest to get classes set up to help train me to better deal with my disability so I can finally join the work force and yesterday my mother told me that I was wasting my time and since it wasn't going to go anywhere anyway Id be better of learning how to do chores and take the necessary steps of becoming an okay enough housewife. That's when I realized that she's benefitting from my lack of education/inability to work so obviously she'd say that it's good for her if I never leave the house and take on even more chores. If anyone's wondering she herself does work. Sorry for rambling the point is that I'm also very thankful for any older people making videos like this geniunely and freely giving the encouragement and advice so many of us desperately need and don't receive at home.

@mushymoshy

10 ай бұрын

@@acanimatics906 No you are not rambling- you are growing and becoming aware of what is important to you. Keep at it 💕🌸don’t give up! Try to not be very open to your mother about your accomplishments & the good feelings you about yourself. It’s really an awful feeling when you come to the realization of who your family members are. It’s especially hard when it’s your mother- i know the feeling very well. I haven’t lived with my mother for 35 years but she digs into my soul with her negativity. My mother is very selfish & no matter my accomplishments she never misses an opportunity to be negative. Hoping that everything gets better for you, it’s good that you are becoming aware of what is happening. I made excuses for my mother my whole life and I’ve only recently accepted her for who she is and break ties with her. As she never feels she is ever wrong.

Great points, Sandra! Being computer literate at 83 is amazing in my book. And thank you for your willingness to share your wisdom!

I'm only 33, but I hope you'd agree to add this: It's completely fine to care about your looks but if you don't want to spend a lot of time doing make-up, shaving, trying to be super thin, if you don't want to wear high heels, manicure, hair, whatever, just don't. There is a lot of other wonderful and meaningful things to do instead of doing something that others force you to do and it's just fine to be your natural self if you wish to.

@alexandra2634

8 ай бұрын

Gracias !❤

Don't put up with toxic people, even if they are relatives. You are better off without them. You don't get to pick your siblings, so don't feel guilty if you don't want them in your life. I learned this very late in my life, I wish I had done it in my earlier years.

@lifewithsandrahart

2 жыл бұрын

We all get smarter as we get older. Including myself. Thank you❤️

@amyfisher8897

Жыл бұрын

I'm tired of being hurt by family so I had to let them all go people like this cause me an addiction and I don't have it anymore thank you

@SuzannaKiraly

Жыл бұрын

I learned this too. They say that family should stick together, but family members that hurt you don't deserve to be part of your life.

@mandyprice1517

Жыл бұрын

This needs to be openly discussed more. Negative family will use guilt as a crutch to keep you around. Never forget misery loves company.

@Dfender67

Жыл бұрын

Yes, toxic people feed off of us nice folks!😜 If you want them out of your daily life, I would just move away and keep things positive between you and them but move on. Don’t leave in a sour note.

Thank you for this. I came across your channel and as a 33 year old woman I loved this! I’ve been having a rough couple of years and you gave me hope! Thank you ❤

it’s really refreshing to see youtubers of different ages speaking on their experiences and sharing their thoughts with the world.

I’ve learned to tell my self in hard and difficult times “this too shall pass” and it always does 🙏🏻

@lifewithsandrahart

2 жыл бұрын

That is true. It does.

@gigijerrie322

Жыл бұрын

Agreed...🙂

@dennisrobbins7857

Жыл бұрын

That simple truth is my favorite too!

@geraldlindgren4173

Жыл бұрын

I grew up on a small dairy farm with all the problems that involves with 7 brothers and sisters. I heard my mother say that more than any other words of wisdom. "THIS TOO SHALL PASS" I think that idea must be in the BIBLE somewhere ! ! ! :) :) :)

@oliviaknight1123

Жыл бұрын

This is one of my favourite sayings. This too shall pass. The good things and the bad things. Shall pass....

I would add: 1) Don't be insecure, If you aren't confident - learn to be confident, it is possible, fake it till you make it, try hard for a couple of years, I promise you, your life will change drastically, for better 2) Also don't be afraid to speak your mind, practice being always straightforward and painfully honest, it's better for you and trust me, people will love that about you 3) Don't ignore your mental health 4) Don't ignore your overall health

@user-uk6mo3pu9o

Жыл бұрын

to being brutally honest you should probably add " but ask if you opinion is needed". i had few extremely "honest"friends who, eventually started feel like very toxic people who think everyone needs a piece of their honest mind on everything, including how do I look or what choices make for my life

@applesauce1734

Жыл бұрын

thank you 🤍

@Ms_Pumppkin

Жыл бұрын

That's true but also pressure of being confident is what is making me feel insecure. I have mentall issues but constantly I feel that people are looking for perfection and confidence. Why I can't be shy?

@rozalia648

Жыл бұрын

@@Ms_Pumppkin Being shy and insecure are 2 different things

@rozalia648

Жыл бұрын

@@user-uk6mo3pu9o True

Sandra, I cannot express how grateful I am for finding your video. At this stage of my 40s, I have been feeling stuck and uncertain about my life. Your tips have resonated deeply with me, and I wholeheartedly agree with every single one you mentioned. Your words are not only encouraging and inspiring but also filled with love. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! ❤

At a mere 68 years old may I just add how important your health is. Good nutrition and exercise. Without it we can't do a lot of the things we want to. Much love. ❤️

One of the best quotes I’ve ever heard is from Nelson Mandela - “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” I refer back to it often. I’m enjoying your videos very much! I feel like I made a wise new friend. Thank you 🙏🏼

@lifewithsandrahart

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent!

@peterandreadakis3851

Жыл бұрын

MANDELA was a world class prick, a liar and as abusive as a person can get.

@juliabuonincontro8617

Жыл бұрын

That’s a quote from St. Augustine of Hippo

@marymaynard7010

Жыл бұрын

That's great.. thx for sharing x

@najn2372

Жыл бұрын

@@lifewithsandrahart wow. You are gorgeous. Greetings from New Orleans ☺☺

I am 66 and while all of these on the list are vitally important, number 10 is important for me to remember. We choose to bring children into the world and they owe us nothing. My only wish for my children is that they are happy and self sufficient. Meanwhile I make and live my own life.

You’re a genuine and glowing person. Thank you so much! I’m 40 something (I don’t keep track) and society has made me invisible. But my kids and of course myself deserve the best version of me as possible. So self care takes precedent and when you are happy and at peace, no matter what age, you become seen. Thank you 🦋

Thank you Sandra. The “no regrets” tip hit home with me. I have to accept that I made the best decisions I could have at the time, under the circumstances. Freeing 😊😊. I always make an effort to tell people “I love you” and give hugs. ❤❤❤

She’s so beautiful. She radiates a glowing and contented inner being. Very few people possess this quality so visibly in their countenance and demeanor. Thank you, Sandra.

@kucak7835

Жыл бұрын

Well said!

@barbaruby

Жыл бұрын

Yes her inner light, heart and beauty is reflected on the outside too

I am 25, single, no kids & focusing on myself and I needed to hear this.. thank you ❤❤❤

@madmire

Жыл бұрын

Eyyy, relatable Truly worth watch

@starkabdelghani168

Жыл бұрын

Get a good man :D

@haliaeetus8221

Жыл бұрын

Do not overestimate your understanding either because you only have some 5 years left before the wall when the dynamics shift radically, socially, psychologywise and bodily. Are you able to compromise or not, are you the dominant one or not? Certain things will define your future even now. Depending on the answer, you may consider investing in a wine company. Ask what percentage of single old childless women portray it as glamorous and great. But if you have no intention of being the feminine wife to begin with, you are making the right choice, likewise if you think you have time forever.

@PurpleHazePro

Жыл бұрын

@@haliaeetus8221 a feminine wife?! What lol

@lauriebergamin3269

Жыл бұрын

@@haliaeetus8221 Are you lost?

Sandra ,you are the epitome of wisdom, grace, outward and inner beauty and someone who one is lucky to have for a friend. May God give you many healthy years!

Thank you so much for your wisdom. I'm 19, just generally confused in my life, and my goal is to grow everyday while enjoying life at the same time, no matter what crap hits me. This really helps, I feel the genuine care you're portraying to everyone who sees this ❤

I am 16 years old and suffer from depression, loneliness and study pressure, but you have given me positive energy for life. I feel happy from your words. Your channel gives me energy for life. Thank you and I love you😢

@decaalv

Жыл бұрын

Gym

@iamtracywilson

Жыл бұрын

Get to the root of it now... why are you depressed, lonely, at 16? Why do you have study pressure, you've been in school at least the last 10 years so consider yourself an expert at studying, that may help with the pressure. You've been a student longer than some may have been teachers! Nothing they can give you that you can't answer or figure out... change your perspective and what you focus on.. find the positive in it all. Seek God through it all.

@christineandcarlmilitz2883

Жыл бұрын

Been there but just know you r loved don't go by your feelings they r only temporary, this too shall pass Life is good cuz God made it 🙏

@qrkg_4176

Жыл бұрын

Uh. Saul Goodman 💔💔

@christinemott8799

Жыл бұрын

Write it down inspiration is flying and so are our minds

Old man here: The most important lesson I share with my young is to choose your company wisely! If you do that the rest of the pieces will fall into place and if you don't it won't matter how high your IQ or what degree hangs on your wall or how much money you earn if you choose poorly you are burned toast. At 18 no one shared that wisdom with me and at 38 I paid dearly for my ignorance. Should you encounter damaged goods don't walk away RUN! I'm 71.

@CutiePie-sq3gg

Жыл бұрын

Old woman here, and I 100 percent agree with old man. In fact, running isn't even fast enough. Rocket propel yourself away from them !

@takeoats

Жыл бұрын

unrelated question, but do you have a favorite album? from any genre? I ask this question to many people because I find it interesting to see what music has stuck to them the most. :-)

@jinhub2175

Жыл бұрын

​@@takeoats Epiphany and Inner child both are from BTS and they're in Korean so please do read the English translation of the said songs.

@phaedra7285

Жыл бұрын

I get where you’re going! I’ll add: Choose wisely who you marry and with whom you produce offspring.

I'm going to turn 20 this July. I'm happy and grateful to you that I found this video, with beautiful advices before entering my 20s. Thank you ma'am.

i’m 19 and not in the best of life situations, hearing your advice was really uplifting 😊 Gonna try and apply your advice to my life and see where it takes me ❤❤

@annebalderston2520

Жыл бұрын

Take heart-ask God to give you the courage to change your life and follow His plan for you.🙏🏻

These kind of advices are so necessary for everyone! No matter the age, Im 27 now and all I’ve learned that nobody really knows what they are doing with their lives, we are all just doing the best we can

@terriconnelly931

Жыл бұрын

My Shero ❤

@AncientActivist

Жыл бұрын

It's wise to heed good advice from those who "KNOW" while you're still young. I actually did that. Smartest thing I've ever done. I swear, I've had the best life because I took good advice as a youth. I'm 65+ now, and I have no regrets. I went through every open door. Do that.

@nobodycares3953

Жыл бұрын

I'm 27 too.. 💓 Keep grilling never back off 👍

@angelwings7930

Жыл бұрын

There’s no such word as “advices”. It’s “advice”.

@triarb5790

Жыл бұрын

​@@angelwings7930 and if someone is writing in their 2nd, 3rd or 4th language?

I’m a 33 year old man who has the good fortune of having several elders that are still in my life. I make dinner for my 91 year old grandma and her cousins (all 9 of her siblings and my grandpa have passed away) and each time I learn so much from just listening to them all talk. They’re so appreciative towards me for making them dinner but I don’t think they realize that I will have memories of them and their conversations long after they’re gone. Well, I’m sure they do realize it but maybe they don’t know how much it means to me or how grateful I am and aware of how much I appreciate them. I wouldn’t go to a party of people my age and quite frankly can’t stand to be around most people but the contentedness of a wise, older person to listen to is irreplaceable.

The greatest man that ever walked the earth, once said, there’s more happiness in giving than receiving. You are so correct, and inspiring. Thankyou so much and I’m sure our lord smiles about you.❤😊👍

I’m so glad another one of your videos was recommended on my KZread. I loved this and I love watching your video, I immediately subscribed. As a 20 year old girl I need to hear your advice and it comforts me because you’re the age of my grandparents and it’s like having another one. Thank you for sharing your life/experience with all of us❤

To everything she said, my instinct said “that is absolutely right”. I’m 23yo Japanese, was feeling so stuck in a situation, but how she supported me with her wise words making me so at peace and energized was remarkable. This is one of the reasons that I’m glad I understand English, that I find inspiring people like her from the wide global sea of information. Thank you very much Sandra. As I was listening to this video I wrote down all your tips in my journal so that I can look back when I’m ever again feeling lost. Wishing you a wonderful day, and life!!

@lonestar1637

Жыл бұрын

What a lovely comment! Wishing you joy and peace from Texas. Always remember you are a treasure.

@moniquehuchet3646

Жыл бұрын

You are born into a beautiful culture and life is just starting for you,, embrace what comes your way and learn from it. I am 85 and when challenges faced me I asked myself: What lesson am I supposed to learn here. It never failed me.

My tips as a 37yo are for relationships: 1 - Tell your partner how much you love and appreciate them every single day. If you have a compliment to give, give it on the spot. 2 - Don't go to bed with something left unsaid, or angry. If you're upset, talk about it immediately. Explain your feelings, invite a conversation - don't yell or blame. Talk and find a solution together. Never, ever, go to bed upset at your companion. This comes from my own relationship of 20 years with my partner. These are our rules and our relationship is our haven and bliss. New people we meet think we are a cute new couple 😂 I love this video so much! Thank you.

@lifestylewithmommynelly

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this 🎉

@sin3358

Жыл бұрын

I don't agree with the second one. If it works for you, great, but sometimes you just need to sleep your anger away in order to talk things out. Different people have different amounts of times they require to cool off, and sometimes it's not smth they did, sometimes you're just angry cause you've been eating unhealthy food all day and your brain is punishing you for it, or whatever hormones involved into it. Sometimes it's best to let it be, and then come back to it when you're both ready to talk about it. It won't whither your relationship, it'll just teach you more about the partner you love and their tendencies

@marriedaprince1

Жыл бұрын

@@sin3358 I second this- Ive had hours long discussions with my spouse, when we are both tired, our thoughts aren't clear, we haven't had time to think about how we really felt about situation or what we are trying to say...in contrast with waiting it out a day, journaling about what is really underneath our disagreement and having a conversation that has resolution. I think the danger is letting the issue fizzle, but never really resolving it, and years of resentment build up..now that is a problem.

I came across this video I thought by accident. But I now know that I needed to hear what you had to say dear and sweet lady. God bless you for your teachings. You are a gift from God!

I'm 17 and youre all teaching me all the things that i have never been taught before. Thank you all.

I’d like to add something else: “stop wasting your money buying stuff you don’t want or need just to fell accepted by our society or to fill the void in your life” Thanks for the video everything you said is so true I hope all of us put it into practice

@marciesalkowski8139

Жыл бұрын

I noticed some people do it just for aesthetics

@vivid.worker

Жыл бұрын

fr! btw im smoking multiple packs ))

@helenseferovich4987

Жыл бұрын

Thank you,so appreciate your wisdom. ❤

@susanhalliburton4273

Жыл бұрын

Sandra, thank you for helping me out today. God bless and have a great day.❤😊

@corinnedornbrach5768

Жыл бұрын

This is a big one for me buying stuff I don't need

One point I'll add just from my own experience, as being a woman in her late 30s with an 80 year old mother... while my mom shouldn't expect that I do everything for her that she did for me, for the daughters/sons don't forget about your parents. I didn't realize until the last couple of years in my life how lonely adulthood can be. Adding to loneliness, sickness and just the general aging process, people need people. So while you're still young and independent, some people's parents aren't so try to include them.

@lola_incarnate

Жыл бұрын

Thank you I will try to remember this with all my heart.

@gwenaguilar7049

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this. I love my parents. I'm blessed to still have them. They are 76 and 75. They have slowed down A LOT, but they are still so important to us. I include them in everything. I even bring my grandkids to see their great grandparents, they play games and hang out, my grandkids think they are incredible.

@EllieM_Travels

Жыл бұрын

For those who have a healthy relationship with their parents, yes.

@rxndini

Жыл бұрын

My mom is a widow and I learned this at 17 years old. It breaks my heart how lonely she is and feels like she has no purpose.

@user-xt2qp2cw9w

Жыл бұрын

my grandma is 82 and nobody visits her except me. Its painful to see her cry how everyone abandoned her especially now she's old and sicker. Nobody but me knows about her heart attack, how she caan barely grip things and is dropping plates all the time, her decision to not treat any illnesses that may appear and just die when the time comes insteaad. She wants no more pills and no surgeries so she's just living until she ends with only her 9 basic pills. It sounds sad but she's happy like that, living every day to the fullest, having icecream and cake even with diabetes, hiking and travelling every week with friends, etc. And nobody but me knows

Finding my best life after 40. Thank you so much, Sandra.

Sandra, thank you so much for the very thoughtful and helpful advice. Definitely appreciate your positive outlook and thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!

What I would add ; never doubt your potential to do great things regardless of your circumstances as well, no matter how far away something might seem 🙂

I am 46 and quit my 22 year healthcare career to chase my passion work. I am starting from scratch but I am much happier and very excited! I also have learned to pause before I speak. Never loan money, ever. Walk away from anyone who is not genuine, when they show you their true colors, just smile and walk away. My family hangs and hangs and hangs and did I say HANGS onto the past and my goodness, it's like slow dying to me. Speak your truth and don't let anyone dim your light!

@lifewithsandrahart

3 жыл бұрын

Heather I love your comments. Everything you say is so absolutely true. Keep away from negative people and let go of the past. Simple as that❤️

@edwardfunkii2627

2 жыл бұрын

Hi , you're safe over there i hope this year brings happiness and prosperity to all Americans and all over the world

@carolflower8015

Жыл бұрын

Yay!!

@kgw273

Жыл бұрын

@John Smith what a ridiculous comment. Canada is one of the most free of all countries. It is beautiful with wonderful people. I have lived in a handful of different countries & through those experiences I have become grateful to call Canada home. 🇨🇦

@mandyprice1517

Жыл бұрын

You sound like a beautiful soul, good for you ♡ namaste

Your voice is so comforting, soothing, therapeutic.I struggle with bipolar disorder and it was really hard to get up this morning.Thank you for being a game changer

Loved your video! I wish I could show this to my grandparents but they don’t speak English and would probably have difficulties reading even with subtitles, I am so sad that one of my grandma at 70 has stopped ‘living life’ since her 50s ish ~ she only complains about her being sick for the last 15-20 years but she’s letting herself down so much , I wish I could be someone else telling her all of these advices through the news that she watch on TV 📺 .. 😢 You have such a good mindset at 83 , that is so inspiring for everyone, living proof we can still do something in our life over a certain age, I’m 22 and been learning a lot about self development for the last 2 years , my mindset has greatly improved and that must be why you are in my recommendations, keep going we love your content❤ also this might be a bit out of topic at this point but I thought you were really good looking and charming , I’ll do my best to keep the good advices in action 💖

the "being stuck" part really hit me hard because that is the space I have been in for a while. i feel stuck and in limbo unsure where to take my life...

Wise words from a lovely woman. As a 38 year old male who is feeling rather lost, i really needed this video, thank you.

@valerief1231

Жыл бұрын

I hope she sees your comment, this video really opened up a nice conversation with my husband. We are 55 yrs. old. I’m feeling lost and stuck myself, and I sure hope you find something that resonates with you to help break the cycle you’re in. 🌸

@SirenASMR_

Жыл бұрын

I feel similar . ❣️

@littleorange6361

Жыл бұрын

I'm in my mid 30's and am feeling lost as well. The advices are such great reminders and I needed this video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

@jimskeuh

Жыл бұрын

all these "advices" dont have any meat on them. you read them and think. ok? what does it actually mean it's not concrete enough to work with. it's like common knowledge but without the practicality of it. you just can't give these broad tips that won't work for everyone individualy. find your own happyness and truth i guess. she just gives out tips that worked for her without going for details as to why it worked for her

@jimskeuh

Жыл бұрын

@@littleorange6361 all these "advices" dont have any meat on them. you read them and think. ok? what does it actually mean it's not concrete enough to work with. it's like common knowledge but without the practicality of it. you just can't give these broad tips that won't work for everyone individualy. find your own happyness and truth i guess. she just gives out tips that worked for her without going for details as to why it worked for her

21 year old feeling lost in life, thank you for this. Your advice opened some doors for me

Thank you so much for mentioning the expectations from our parents. I grew up in a society that puts so much weight on the children on how we should pay back all our parents have done for us. It has been a guilty feeling for so many years. The guilty feeling? My father gave his life away to raise me and my siblings therefore, I have to do everything for him now that I’m an adult. But wasn’t that his responsibility? I love my father and everything I do for him, I do it out of love but please people, DO NOT impose it on me. DO NOT talk about it like I owe him my life. Thank you, thank you

As a 23 year old currently going through the struggles of what is expected of me in my 20s, this is inspirational. Not only for right now but beyond. Thank you 🌹.

@outlander234

Жыл бұрын

As a 35 guy... Make these three things your priority, in this order: 1. Health, both physical and mental they are intertwined, cant stress this enough, good sleep, good food, good habits because as you age it will deteriorate rapidly of you dobt take care of it like its most ptescious thing. 2. Friends and family(but if they are toxic then just focus on friends) I put friends ahead of spouse because you might not find a spouse but you can find and keep friends for life, get 2 or 3 really really good ones if you can, if they have family and you dont be part of it, babysit their kids etc. Cheerish friends and social life. 3. Spouse, find if you can a "good" one and even if not make kid or kids you can always dovorce atleast you will have kids that of you treat them well will enrich your life immensly. Rest doesnt matter at all.

@bootybee

Жыл бұрын

in my almost 33, it's even harder to feel the same. I will say a trite thing, but your adult life is just beginning, don't beat yourself up for anything

@Mel4everable

Жыл бұрын

@@bootybee thank you 🤗

@misbpdclddugjy9041

Жыл бұрын

@@outlander234 how you read my mind.....I am doing exactly.. as you have mentioned in these lines here!

@Ice.muffin

Жыл бұрын

@@outlander234 You know, my almost extinguished-younger self would've been horrified at that last piece of advice, present older me however... Knows unfortunately that life is anything but what you'd initially wished and hoped for it to be so... Yeah guess best thing to do is to simply grasp EVERY opportunity there is, no matter how "imperfect" bcse real chances are you won't get better ones.

Hello Sandra, I'm 19. A few months ago I decided investing time into self-improvement. This video has touched my soul and motivated me, sometimes, actually most of the time I feel going anywhere... I'm learning how to create myself, how to love myself, my boundaries, my goals... Thank you for the advice! 🌹 English is my second language, hope people who are reading can understand it 🥺

@hoangyen4324

Жыл бұрын

Love

@creativeotaku5476

Жыл бұрын

I wish you the upmost luck my love

@HolisticallyNish

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, and your English is amazing ❤ I am also investing in myself for the first time ever in my mid-twenties now, and I have never felt better!

@ilsemorgan4001

Жыл бұрын

I’m quite impressed with your curiosity to click on this video. I would guess you have an inquisitive mind and wish you much success. I’m over fifty and wish I’d been able to incorporate these guardrails in my own life when I was 19. In my humble opinion you seem to be on a path to creating a solid foundation on which to build your future…be well and stay curious.

@stargirl2710

Жыл бұрын

Your English is very good.💜

0:39 I am so glad I found you on youtube. I will retire next year and concentrate on my art. Your advice and tips have really resonated and helped me. I did my 4 year art course full time while working every friday and saturday night. I had wanted to be an artist since I was 12. That was the best 4 years and I love the idea of sitting in on lectures at our university. Reading. Go to sculpture and textile classes. Thanks for this. .

Thanks Ma'am for a great video. I'm not quite part of the over 60’s club, but I think the key things not to do is tolerate crap from others and spend time around toxic people that drain away your energy and affect your mental health. Use your time wisely. I'm approaching 46 next month, and try not to wish my life away. It's not easy.

I'm in my 20's and this couldn't have come at a better time. My heart has really been hurting, and I've been feeling really stuck and lost and only recently started rebuilding trust with myself and slowly relearning to recognize my intuition again. Needed this thank you.

@shakoorah1

Жыл бұрын

Awe really… similarly to you. Finding myself too. Her video is lovely isn’t it 🍋🌼💛

@intuitivetasha113

Жыл бұрын

Ok what you want to do is look into rony Robbins & law of assumption. That would be a good start

@intuitivetasha113

Жыл бұрын

​@@shakoorah1 Ok what you want to do is look into rony Robbins & law of assumption.

@shirley9066

Жыл бұрын

Me too. I'm 72

My first husband was such a bad person. Looking back on my marriage with him it makes me sick to think of our toxic relationship. Thank God he removed him through the prison system. He has been their for almost 30 years. I've had to work very hard to let that part of my life go..except for wonderful son whom I love dearly. Hugs and love, Alicia

@lifewithsandrahart

3 жыл бұрын

Alicia, I am so happy that you were able to get out of that relationship. So many women stay until it’s too late. It looks like Karma got him in the end. You do have to let go of that negative part in your life. It’s a blessing that from that relationship you have a wonderful child. He will get back to the world what your husband took away❤️

@CynthiaAva

3 жыл бұрын

I can very closely relate to this.

@carolchiocchi7703

3 жыл бұрын

I’m very sorry that happened to you but don’t regret it totally, you’ve gotten the gift of a beautiful son from the marriage that you suffered through. Thank God you and your son made it!!!

thank you so much, I feel stuck lately with my life for past years but after I heard "where you are right now, is not where you have to be for the rest of your life," it bring tears to my eyes. I shouldn't lose hope. Thank you so much, Sandra. God bless you 🙏

As a person in my 20s with a lot of goals in life, this video means a lot. The best advice comes from those who’ve lived through and experienced it themselves. So much words of wisdom! Thank you very much for this. Your videos are so therapeutic and you are such a good-natured soul ❤😊

Hi Sandra!! I'm 15 and I'm currently not in a great place (I won't go into much detail as I don't feel very comfortable expressing that on the internet haha), but I just wanted to say that I appreciate this video and your KZread channel so much! Thank you for lending me and so many others a helping hand!! Greetings from The Netherlands :)

@jesussavedme6260

Жыл бұрын

Jesus loves you ❤️

@bearvillebear1468

Жыл бұрын

I'll keep you in my prayers Carcy xx

@cryptochik7573

Жыл бұрын

When I was your age I also was not in a good place. Now all these yrs later I can promise you if you remain focused on staying strong mentally, physically and determined to grow financially you will be extremely happy in time. Understand that what we go thru in life allows us to grow from our troubles and become stronger if we choose to. LOVE yourself and distance yourself from negativity as much as you can. God bless you and remember your life ahead is blessed! Choose happiness you will overcome!

@Carcye

Жыл бұрын

@@cryptochik7573 Thank you so much for your lovely comment, I will certainly keep it in mind ♡♡

@Carcye

Жыл бұрын

@@bearvillebear1468 @AmazingGrace You guys are too sweet man 😭♡

I'd like to add, don't ever take someone for granted. Don't cheat, don't lie. I lost the love of my life because I was young and stupid. Don't overlook someone you love that you met when you were in highschool, because they might actually be the one.

I really needed this today ❤ thank you!! I really just needed a reminder that I'm totally fine where I am. I didn't water my life. I'm happy. My needs are valid and met and I'm allowed to ask for help. I'm weird but I'm loved.

Man.. when you started talking about the individuality I felt my eyes watering. That means alot.

I turned 60 in April. As we get older we realize we hold the keys to our lives. Not looking to the world for validation. Relying on our intuition (God's guidance and voice within us)is so important for all decisions. Enjoyed time with you today, I think your outlook is lovely.

@wildk5367

Жыл бұрын

I have a question, I’m pretty young I would say, but I’ve just realized how stupid we all are about how much we care what OTHER people think, especially strangers. I’m either gonna forget or not meeting any of these strangers ever again (most of the time) and yet I still feel the need to be accepted by them, and I think this is wired to everyone’s brains from the start. And the more I look around, I realize older people don’t have this as much. They literally do not care about others opinions other than their close relations. Is that something that has occurred to you? Cause personally, this has brought a big change to my life. I’m sorry if I don’t make much sense in my comment, I just don’t know how to explain it thoroughly.

@kemfelix5505

Жыл бұрын

@@wildk5367 I think you did a beautiful job explaining it. Blessings Sister. Change your life help others this is where our time and efforts should be spent. The payback is immeasurable.

This woman is an absolute QUEEN!!! helping others and taking time to bless us with her wisdom!!! I can't thank you enough!!!!!!

@TsipporahtheExplorer

Жыл бұрын

Hey girl heyyy!!! Yes everything she said was spot on!

@globefloppingwithadri

Жыл бұрын

@@TsipporahtheExplorer oh my gosh so cool!! Hey lovely!! Haha we have the same taste in awesome KZread videos :P

Thank you. Listening to your wonderful advice was the best thing I did for myself today. Love, light and blessings to you, yours and to this community.

I needed this, and I’m 39!! You made me cry, thank you!

Such wise words! One more note: don't get attached to things, all things are actually just rented and the fact that you need them is often an illusion.

@joyholder-ro2qg

Жыл бұрын

You are amazing! God bless you! So true !Thanks for sharing. PS my aunt lives in Saint Augustine too. Ohio women are amazing women. My one acct is from clevland ohio.

I'm 26 years old, and I already have problems with releasing past mistakes and regrets, and you are absolutely right about it: regretting about the past just drain me and take the energy from me. The fact that these mistakes are not really bad or serious don't do things better for me. I am working on giving more love and forgiveness to myself, because such way of living is definitely not a good way to live another 100 years of my future life. Thank you for your advices, they echoed in my heart.

@nicolewinters

Жыл бұрын

Same

@Threadbow

Жыл бұрын

That's wonderful to learn so young 😊 Look to the side, be aware, and look forward, never back

@hummus1874

Жыл бұрын

It is always good to take some time to think over things you're going through; whether it's a regret, or that someone hurt you or upset you. You need to process your thoughts and feelings. Deal with it(forgive,apologize if you should ,think -how could I have handled this better, are there boundaries that I need to create) then give yourself permission to let it go . Not everything will make sense; because you can't make sense of nonsense. But, you still need to learn and let go.

@sophiemarrett

Жыл бұрын

A perspective I got from a Khloee Taylor podcast was to see it in a way where your past self did what they did to protect you from what was happening at that time. As time goes on, situations change and therefore parts of us change. Hold your past self with love and gratitude for the protection it provided and let it go when it no longer serves our greatest good.

@najn2372

Жыл бұрын

@@nicolewinters hi Nicole ☺☺

Thank you. This is the advice I needed to hear from my own mother and grandma, if they cared enough.

Sandra you're good. I am sixty-six, listening from Kenya and you're really kind. God bless you.

According to Bronnie Ware, one of the most common near death regrets is "I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself." That resonates a lot with me. It’s not that I choose to go through life as a misfit. What I mean is that it’s me who decides the life that I want lo lead, and thus the set of “rules” that I’m going to follow. Coherence and consistency give you peace of mind. My life, my rules. No one else’s.

@february1796

Жыл бұрын

Your comment made me emotional. I always try to stray true to myself and it's not easy feeling like you continuously go against the mainstream but words like this bring me peace. Thanks.

I turn 26 at the end of this week. I find it crazy to even type that. I spent the first 4 years of my 20s drinking and going out almost nightly. This last year as been incredibly eye opening and life changing. God has turned my life around and I am so great full to have that craving in my heart to do right in his eyes. I have days of regret but, as Elizabeth Elliott says I “do the next thing”. Getting stuck is a fear of mine. Thank you for your video, this is a blessing to me. My grandmother passed away when I was 19 at 92 years old. I wish so badly I listened more carefully to the stories she told me. God bless you and your wisdom. 💕

@bill934

Жыл бұрын

Happy Birthday

@yhwhal

Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy for you!!!! ❤️ When he comes after that one lost sheep..☺️

Thank you for sharing your experience with us! All her pieces of advice are so true. I'm striving to reshape my mind and live my life to the full. My piece of advice is to never give up. Thanks again!❤