"alcohol didn't stick a penis in my face" is probably the best wording for this concept i have ever heard and if people argue with that i have no hope left

@mr.reality8069

6 жыл бұрын

Alcohol didn't drink itself is better wording.

@carolgrier7774

2 жыл бұрын

@@mr.reality8069 no it sure didn't and also alcohol wasn't the pig who raped a woman.

@hannahfountain6819

2 жыл бұрын

Mr Reality just used alcohol as an excuse for rape which technically means you would do it yourself

@puppiesgoarf664

2 жыл бұрын

@@hannahfountain6819 no harm was done

@marielhuegel5021

2 жыл бұрын

Drinking too much should only lead to a hangover. That is normal. Drinking too much should never lead to the trauma of sexual assault. Men, you need to do better.

When a woman is drunk and gets raped, people say "she was drinking, what'd she expect to happen?" But if a guy is drunk and rapes someone, it's "He was drunk, it isn't his fault." Anything to force the blame on the victim.

@heathermarie3820

2 жыл бұрын

True

@aprioriontoast704

2 жыл бұрын

guyy who raped her only got 8 years and he has already broke his parole rules

@themoneyworth

2 жыл бұрын

Laws would change if guys were getting raped. The sentences would increase.

@bobgardner8893

2 жыл бұрын

Sure, some people think the way you're describing, but most don't. At least I'd like to think so.

@allenkihunde6945

2 жыл бұрын

So true

It's heart wrenching to even hear "some people might ask why you didn't fight, why didn't you fight"? Anybody who's ever been sexually assaulted, molested, raped, abused, etc, knows that paralyzing fear. I was sexually abused for years as a child. And I pretended to be asleep every. Single. Time. I NEVER spoke about it until adulthood and even then it's been twice. Once being in confidential counseling. The other telling my mom while explaining myself as to why this person was NOT allowed around my children. And my own mother telling me "if that was true why wouldn't you have told me?". Because I was TERRIFIED. Because I was disgusted with MYSELF. Because I was SURE it was something I did to cause it. Every single time it happened I was paralyzed in fear. Just wanted it to end. And even 20+ years later talking about it makes me physically sick. Embarrassed. Disgusted. I still blame myself. I still convince myself it had to be something I did.. something I brought on myself. I'm married to the most amazing man and still am triggered by sex, by intimacy. He doesn't know why. He doesn't know what happened to me. Because I can't bring myself to speak about it again. Please... Do not EVER question why somebody stayed quiet. That's a painful slap in the face that we already give ourselves often.

@haili9704

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how hard that is to live with. I understand your silence, but I think you should tell your husband (but you know best, it's your life) it could bring you closer and he might understand your triggers

@JosannaMonik

2 жыл бұрын

I hate those questions "why didn't you say anything earlier", etc., like if it was easy to tell. Men always do it when you are alone with them, cause they know it's nearly impossible to prove, then you're the one called a liar. Disclorsure is a nightmare.

@ab7974

2 жыл бұрын

Even ignoring the pure shock of when something like that happens to you, and it IS paralyzing like a lot of traumatic things are: What she said in the interview about “this person is already willing to rape you, it’s hard to imagine what they won’t do to you” (paraphrasing, not directly quoting her) is so true. Nobody asks people with a gun to their head why they’re not screaming and yelling. If someone is capable of harming you in this (sexual assault) way, in your mind, they’re also capable of beating you, killing you, hurting someone you love, or anything you can imagine. And you’re 100% justified if you’re operating under that assumption and being quiet to keep yourself safe. I don’t know why some people can’t wrap their minds around that. How is yelling and fighting going to work in your favor? Even if you keep a penis from entering you you’ve already been violated, you’re vulnerable and you’ve got a perpetrator right there who has already proven themselves to be violent beyond what you could have imagined.

@johnd7564

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you have really and truly accepted that you did NOTHING wrong. You were a child VICTIM and deserve comfort and acceptance not judgement.

@eliasmi6495

2 жыл бұрын

i wish all the best for you, stay strong

I can't believe I have to say this every time under a rape crime documentary, but it's not hard to not rape someone; it's literally human decency to leave a person unable to consent alone. It doesn't matter if they're so drunk they passed out on the floor, give them a blanket, watch their back, and don't touch them while they cannot give consent! Why is this so hard? "How much did you drink? What were you wearing? Did you scream?" Those are not the right questions. Regardless of how much they drank, or what they wore/ didn't wear, or what they said - nobody. deserves. to. be. raped. It's that simple. We have to stop teaching women to "be vigilant, always on edge, always looking at how you're portrayed" and instead teach offenders to "stop being predatory scum of the earth." Edit: To all the people saying "we shouldn't stop teaching women... it's still dangerous" - yes. That's not the point of my post, but yes. I could have worded it better, so that's my bad, but what I'm saying is education shouldn't SOLEY be based towards women when the ROOT of the problem is that predatory men and people should be held responsible, ridiculed, and punished AND predatory behavior should be sniped at the start.

@mermaidqueen9881

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! This interviewer is awful. I feel like she is so judgemental.

@cathybeetz973

2 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU

@anahun2270

2 жыл бұрын

While I agree with 99% of your comment, I don’t agree with the ‘we have to stop teaching women to be vigilant’. I agree not to teach women or men or circles and squares to always look at how they are portrayed, but we need to teach everyone to be mindful of their environment. Because while in a fairytale like utopia it is possible that no one will want to do any kind of harm to the other, in this life, in this universe there will always be psychopath, sociopaths or just simply evil people who will do anything just to harm you, It goes to everyone - a thin guy alone on the streets (don’t even has to be tipsy or anything) can be jumped by 2 big guys, robbed and killed. And sure as hell in the end it’s never the victims fault, but if they are dead…it’s very little consolation to be able to have a headstone ‘I was right’.. So, I don’t go out alone at night, not because I’m afraid specifically of this type of crime. Because I’m afraid of any type of bodily harm others will be able to do to me more easily as opposed if I’m with others. I watch out for my friends and their belongings, I’m not leaving anyone alone, and if I see a person alone and in a vulnerable state I will ask others to help. This is called being vigilant. And even sometimes being vigilant is not enough. (I’m adding this to make it very very clear: In no way,shape or form I would ever say that they were not vigilant,the victims. my comment is simply regarding the general statement of should not teach people to be vigilant), At least this is my opinion. It may be faulty, but it is what it is.

@sarahs3988

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with what you said, the problem is the scum that will rape aren't going to listen to you. That's why we have to unfortunately be on our guard to protect ourselves. As a parent it's also my job to be on guard to protect my children. ( Both boys and girls) because scum will do it regardless of how much we tell them it's wrong.

@greentreesmatter

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, it's a cruel and fallen world, and us women do have to be vigilant and protect ourselves from being a victim if we can. Sad, but true.

Intoxicated or not, nobody deserves to be raped!

@tracexxface

9 жыл бұрын

TripleMRocks 100% agree.

@5tyxx

8 жыл бұрын

+TripleMRocks I know that poor guy raped by that female

@alexvaldez4481

8 жыл бұрын

+Charlotte Fairchild Yes, but who would move your heavy furniture, do your mechanics and while we're on the subject of automobiles, how would you deal with the mass epidemic of female driver car accidents?

@alexvaldez4481

8 жыл бұрын

+Charlotte Fairchild Majority of male serial killers are the product of sexual abuse committed by women.

@CharlotteFairchild

8 жыл бұрын

+Alex Valdez Lie. bmiatlanta.com/therapists.html 97% of sexual abuse is by males.

when they blame you for being drunk but excuse them for being drunk...

@osmosisjones4912

4 жыл бұрын

Female supremicist have the other way around Blane for being drunk but not her but what point of Blame any more what happened and what to do about it . And what are escuses reasons and factors. But these Feminist FEM meaning their brains can only think Emotionally

@muhsinshah7971

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 That begs a good question: Why would you as a woman even get drunk out on the streets knowing that someone will take you for sexual purposes. I’m sorry but for drunk women, it’s their own fault as well.

@DevWithAlexander

2 ай бұрын

Not his fault. It's the girls fault

I was raped 1 week ago. I am a 31 year mother, im a good person, I live a drama free life, I don't party, or sleep around ( quite the opposite ) . If all this was the opposite, it wouldn't matter though ( rape is never ok) .... I knew this man. I reported the assult, I did what I thought was right, even though I didnt want to tell. He was arrested that night, and a couple of days later... He was released from jail. The D.A's office dropped charges. The man who made the choice to drop charges ( with the d a's office) , he literally laughed at me. Now, this man walks free and I cry non stop. I dont k ow what to do next. The legal system failed me. I regret not doing what she did ( record him) . I found out, that there are 2 other woman , that he raped ( un reported) ..... I know that there are more , I assume :( . I now know , why people don't tell. The legal system fails us, even calls us liars. I now live in fear. Jim did send him to jail, even if it was only a couple of days. He has a Domestic violence conviction ( previous/ not me) , yet that didnt get the d.a's office to even take a closer look. Words can not explain the way this kind of thing has effected me physically, mentally, emotionally... I am very strong, independent, and I stand up for myself.... This has still controlled me . I can't imagine, this happen g to a younger woman or child. My tough skin has melted away because of him.... I think , that's what he wanted... To strip me of my confidence, to make me feel weak, to k ow, that he was / is in control . Oddly, I also mourn the loss of our relationship . I hate that part, the fact that I suffer from being raped by someone I cared for, but I also hurt, because now I know, that he never cared for me... That he cared so little, that he did this to me on purpose .... That, through my tears, begging, and pain he found comfort .This will forever change me. I now hope, to build myself up from here, and not allow him to continue to make me sink. Im sorry for rambling , but I think I'm only venting or something... If you've be raped , please stay strong. Try not to let it ruin you, because now I know, that is possible .

@ncmariofan3605

3 жыл бұрын

Had he been caught selling pot, he'd never see daylight agaim. The Justice system sucks 😒

@AT75L1NG1

2 жыл бұрын

Honey, I am so so sorry this happened to you. This is the very reason why so many victims never report it. I didn’t. I was repeatedly raped by the man I was having a relationship with and living with when I was a student and a young woman of 22. He was never going to let me go, and I knew reporting it was pointless as no one would believe me: we lived together for petes sake! So eventually I took the only option open to me. I ran. And I ran as far away from him as I could get which was another continent, and started a new life for myself. Years later a good friend who is also a cop told me I was right to run. He said I had no legal leg to stand on in court. Rape is so difficult to prove on any day of the week and I was having a relationship with my rapist. So yes. The legal system does suck. But hopefully in years to come it will change. Until then do NOT let this son of a bitch strip you of your self confidence, and do whatever you can to get the DA to take that closer look. Tell them about his other victims, tell them if they do not take action you WILL go public and make sure the press knows how incompetent they are. Especially now after the whole Me Too movement. And how the protection of women against this type of thing has become more of a priority. And good luck dear. You WILL overcome this. Because not to do so means that SOB wins. And that is not an option

@andre1987eph

2 жыл бұрын

So he didn't call you the next morning. Get over yourself.

@AT75L1NG1

2 жыл бұрын

@@andre1987eph well the next time you want to say something Dear, do us all a favor and put your hand up, then cover your mouth. The adults are talking here, go away and play in the traffic. You clearly have no idea how to respond appropriately.

@CharlotteFairchild

2 жыл бұрын

@Travelling Stoner what? Buy pepper spray? Rape axe?

This reminds me of the time when my female housemate, who doesn't wear make up, enjoys masculine outfits, and doesn't drink got raped at our own house party when she tried to go to bed early. A lot of people told her it was her fault for being in her own bed and not having a lock on her door.

@candicefrost4561

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe someone should put the heavy drinkers at the party in a locked room so they can’t rape anyone. Don’t tempt yourselves gentlemen (or ladies). Let people who are responsible and decent walk around freely- you deserve to be locked away, not us.

@BijinMCMXC

2 жыл бұрын

Her not wearing makeup and dressing masculine doesn’t matter. She’s still a woman. She still has a vagina. That’s all the guy is gonna care about it.

@JadziaMarie

2 жыл бұрын

@@BijinMCMXC that’s his/her point I’m pretty sure. It doesn’t matter how girly you look or how revealing you dress and it still happened

@BijinMCMXC

2 жыл бұрын

@@JadziaMarie Yeah, my point is people don’t think otherwise. I don’t think anyone thinks dressing masculine or not wearing makeup is some foolproof rape prevention method, especially if the rapist is inebriated. Like, no one says, “wow, I can’t believe that girl got raped, she wasn’t even dressed girly!”.

@politereminder6284

2 жыл бұрын

What!😱😱😱😱

Disappointing that the majority of the men and even some of the women here seem to be blaming the victims. Sad how so much ignorance still exists.

@CharlotteFairchild

9 жыл бұрын

Fantazomi Where is the prevention? What kind of Buddy System training to women get?

@moonstarr8053

9 жыл бұрын

Victims have a responsibility to not drink alcohol and to watch their drinks for roofies or whatever they r using. Oh...dont go to parties then if you cant take care of yourself. This is classic millenial thinking "its never my fault" . Growing up entitled.

@fantazomi9689

9 жыл бұрын

moon starr No, entitled is thinking that you are allowed to do what you want with someone else's body without their permission.

@CharlotteFairchild

9 жыл бұрын

Victims have a responsibility to use the Buddy System, to know self defense, and be aware. The Buddy System means you don't leave the one you came with and you keep their safety as a priority. The Buddy System is in all the literature for male centered activities (Scuba Diving, Fishing, Hunting, military, law enforcement, Sky diving, etc.)

@CharlotteFairchild

9 жыл бұрын

moon starr If you cannot trust a guy you have known 10 years, then who can you trust? Women need to use the Buddy System with other women or they need to have agreements with the men they have trusted to be caring.

Girls, it's never your fault.

@factsvsemotions3981

7 жыл бұрын

In this case and cases like it... to a degree yes it is. If she was sober than it wouldn't be any degree of it being her fault. Irresponsible drinking to the point that you're passing out at a party or social event is inviting to unwanted consequences. If she was sober or drank responsibly this would never had happened. As for the scum rapist its not the girls fault they are rapist. They are sick and look for drunk (again irresponsible) victims to prey on. Disgusting.

@aimeeogradyX

7 жыл бұрын

Shut the fuck up. It is NEVER someones fault for being raped. Who cares if they were drinking? they were having fun, they werent drinking expecting to be raped. Instead of teaching girls not to drink, or to drink less. We should teach people not to fucking rape. So no degree to anything, it is the rapist fault 110%. The minute you say that it possibly is the victims fault, you take away everything from them.

@BaileyFromAShoe

7 жыл бұрын

+Garbage Bob you're a man. You won't ever understand the shit women go through. Imagine going out by yourself (even during the day) and feeling terrified something might happen. Always having to keep your guard up. Always. You'll never understand that feeling and until you do you have no opinion on women being raped. Get the fuck out of here.

@benjaminyork2707

7 жыл бұрын

Oh and I doubt every single women out there Has to keep their guard up.Always.

@BaileyFromAShoe

7 жыл бұрын

+Ben York yeah, but are we talking about men? No, so don't change the subject. And yes, we do. How would you know? You don't. So take your opinion elsewhere.

"I'm not a mind reader did they know what I was thinking?" I love how these victims turn the stupid questions around.

I’ve been a sexual assault victim myself…. So very true. We are treated like crap by police and going thru with prosecution isn’t worth it. I realize why women don’t report it.

@pamelaporter4750

2 жыл бұрын

Trish Heff, I'm very sorry you were raped and for everything you were put through after you reported it. Do you not feel stronger for surviving all of it? I hope you got counseling.

@Hannah-nh5qj

2 жыл бұрын

@@pamelaporter4750 I noticed that she didn’t reply, so I’ll share my experience as being a sexual assault survivor as well. No, it did not make me stronger. It killed a part of me I will never get back. My parents lost their daughter that night. I am traumatized mentally, and have life long physical pain that I have to feel even when I’m willingly making love, because my rapist “tore me up” (in my vagina) too. This did not make me stronger. I wish my rapist had killed me that day, but he did worse. I know that it helps some survivors to share their resilience through the struggle, but I really want to emphasize that rape will never benefit anybody. Assuming that being raped somehow helped the victim become a better person… No. (And btw- yes, I’ve been in counseling. A lifetime of counseling and medication and healing will never change what happened.)

@ericaasen4512

2 жыл бұрын

whre

@dakotamabry1645

2 жыл бұрын

@@Hannah-nh5qj I was 3/4 years old it was my step grandfather - he didn't rape me - but he did other things .. I always blamed myself for not telling my family . I had no idea what he was doing or seen a mans genitellia before. He did it for years next to my sleeping grandmother .. I feel uncomfortable around older men .

@snowahardy1

2 жыл бұрын

I didn't report mine.

when I drink, I dont feel like raping anyone... Why do these predators keep saying they were drunk??? So sick of horrible people being able to ruin peoples lives and get away with it

@marcoramirez313

7 жыл бұрын

Buttcheeks Mcgee right, when im dunk honestly I'm just trying to to pass out lol , I'm not even thinking of sex

Just b/c someone decided to drink probably not knowing their limits doesn't mean anyone gets a green light to do shit to you. Technically you're not able tot consent at this point and the perpetrators are deliberately taking advantage of that situation whether the victim tried to resist or blacked out. You making a bad decision doesn't make you less of a victim. Wtf kind of logic is that? On a side note these guys are pathetic losers.

@thombreJ1485

7 жыл бұрын

Chrissi, Well said! 👏

@tainadelcaribe

7 жыл бұрын

+ItsMe Cat You don't have to say it directly for it to be true. Saying things like I'll never put myself in that position implies that she sort of had it coming for getting drunk! Not recognizing what you are saying doesn't excuse what you say; that's all.

@tainadelcaribe

7 жыл бұрын

Tristan Williams Nobody is being dramatic; it's just facts. Getting drunk doesn't mean you want it or gives anyone permission to take it! And if I use your logic then, maybe next time you go across the street somebody should run you over since you decided to cross the street and you know that cars go by on it! Really? Learn to be a man and recognize that thinking is not a big deal to be raped is wrong. So no dramatic anything; just appalled at people that have no idea of reality and think that nothing is a big deal. May it never happens to you or someone you know so you don't have to see the suffering a victim goes true after something like that! Have a good deluded life!

@tainadelcaribe

7 жыл бұрын

+Tristan Williams Please refer to last reply and go on with your life!

@aninjawolf37

7 жыл бұрын

Tristan Williams you are disgusting and need help

People need to focus on educating, warning, and keeping tabs on boys and men, not blaming and warning women about how to avoid rape and act during and after rape.

@sofiabriones9221

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right. Accountability starts at a young age. My son asked why middle schoolers are still told "keep your hands to yourself." He said it didn't make sense (he's a 6th grader in jr high so apparently he's not a kid anymore lol) because they already know this. I told him because even though he and many other students already know this, there are some students who do not do this. Those students don't respect themselves so, they in turn do not respect anyone else. When any of my 3 kids are playing with each other(14, 11, and 6) or all together, I make sure to remind them if anyone says "stop," that means stop, even if they're playing...especially if they're playing. If they hurt each other in the process, by accident, they still need to be held accountable. (I don't mean discipline) Consent and accountability are crucial and should be taught at a young age...it goes hand in hand.

@bluehead310

2 жыл бұрын

Zan psimer I don't think you knew put woman can also be pedos and boys/men can get rapped. 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

When that poor girls mother said "you tore her up inside" that brought tears to my eyes. This is horribly awful

I find very VERY disgusting in both stories first thing you do is ask or tell how much alcohol was involved. As if rapers have an excuse if alcohol was involved... makes me SICK.

@steves2754

7 жыл бұрын

Actually, alcohol plays a big part in it. It lowers peoples inhibitions. It causes black outs. It impairs peoples memory's. I find it impossible to know what really happened to someone if they've had nearly a dozen shots, their memory of the night's events would just be one big blur. And they lose credibility. Sorry, that's just how it is for men or women who are absolutely obliterated with drunkenness.

@3CulosGordos

7 жыл бұрын

well she wasn't fucking while drunk. She was being RAPED. BIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIG diference dude.

@DrDraus

7 жыл бұрын

Relax buddy it's all scripted. The questions are hand picked to elicit emotional response from viewers and the girls are probably even told how to answer.

@axldave9843

6 жыл бұрын

Lau J Please expand on what the difference is.

@whiskey_phillips

5 жыл бұрын

Even if the questions are scripted to elicit emotional response as you claim, what point is the emotional response of how these girls are "how to answer'? Rape is a traumatic event. Honestly, if I were going to be on TV, sometimes I think I would love to be given scripted answers so I didn't have to tell people what really had happened. Plus, people watching TV probably don't tune in to hear the horrible story of the details of how a few girls were raped. But it doesn't make it any less significant. I think you have a lot of maturing to do when it comes to respecting other people's right to consume alcohol and maintain social credibility afterwards.

How can you do that to someone you have known since the first grade? How can you dehumanise someone who you have been friends with almost your entire life?

@speakvanholding247etc

2 жыл бұрын

Sex got people, really fucked up.

@cosmicreef5858

2 жыл бұрын

@@speakvanholding247etc What? Rape is about power and you have to lack a soul to do it. Sex(actually connecting with another person on an intimate level) have nothing to do with this.

@susanvaughan-schiele210

2 жыл бұрын

testosterone can make monsters of males. it bypasses the logic centre of the brain, it's essential aggressive, an aggression chemical, that obliterates empathy.

As a victim of child rape from my father for many years.....everybody saying it was her fault for being drunk makes me sick! No matter the victims state the one forcing is the fucked up one! Makes me sick

@peace-mercy

2 жыл бұрын

I hope he does in jail

@peace-mercy

2 жыл бұрын

He dies

I'm very proud of both of these girls coming forward. It is so unfair and insane how society will make it seem like it was the girls fault

@sarahusrey5909

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, fight fight fight

What kind of animals are doing this and what kind of animals are we raising.. I blame the campuses aswell..they should be standing up for these young women and getting rid of these perpetrators...they value their sports teams more than the lives of young women.

@themanwhocallsyourphone6995

7 жыл бұрын

These are adults ... And if these young women expect to be treated as such they need to take responsibility for their own actions instead of blaming everyone else at the party. In all of these instances it was their decision to get intoxicated and it was their decision to have sex, and have you forgotten that the guys are also intoxicated? The moral of this pitiful drama is to not do what you can't handle. If you can't drink responsibly and you can't handle the repercussions of having drunk sex, don't do it. Otherwise don't blame the other person because you made a regretful decision. Just because she regrets doing it afterwards does not mean that he raped her.

@owmystomachhurts

7 жыл бұрын

Here, I fixed your comment for you: "And if these young MEN expect to be treated as such they need to take responsibility for their own actions instead of blaming everyone else (women) at the party. In all of these instances it was their decision to get intoxicated and it was their decision to have sex (rape). The moral of this pitiful drama is to not do what you can't handle. If you can't drink responsibly (and not rape) and you can't handle the repercussions of having drunk sex (raping), don't do it. Otherwise don't blame the other person because you raped.

@themanwhocallsyourphone6995

7 жыл бұрын

owmystomachhurts Nice try, but mine actually made sense. Yours goes right back to playing the victim game ... First of all those men have already taken responsibility for the entire event, whereas the woman decides to play victim and blame the guy for her decision to get intoxicated and have sex. Both decided to get intoxicated and both decided to have drunk sex, only the woman blames everyone else, so who's not taking responsibility? And if it was both their decision how is it considered rape? According to you it's only rape if the guy has drunk sex, whereas the woman is always the victim; and the moral is for guys not to get intoxicated around drunk women, because by agreeing to have sex, he'll get accused of rape. Also how dare they blame the other person by denying that they raped anyone.

@ninesmadrid4057

7 жыл бұрын

+The man who calls your phone (And doesn't say anything) so if you get too drunk and a man has his way with you, you will be ok with that.

@themanwhocallsyourphone6995

7 жыл бұрын

Emma Mato If I agreed to it, I would have only myself to blame.

I understand what these beautiful young ladies went through. When I was 11 I was sexually assaulted by my families friend. It went on until I was 14. I'm 15 now but it still seems like yesterday. I finally said something, but nothing was done to the man. I'm not even able to stand to be around me, this has affected my life badly.

@rbspider

2 жыл бұрын

I hope life is better . At 15 , 14 would seem like yesterday .

@jennifermariejoyce

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry you had these horrifying experiences with an adult you should have been able to trust. I hope you’ve had sone good support, and therapy to help you heal ♥️

@mpalmer7800

2 жыл бұрын

I truly hope you get the courage to find a person you trust and depend on then tell your story and get the justice you need.

@USAFreedom4Ever

2 жыл бұрын

Please, please, please try to find counselor to talk to. Help you get through. Godbless!

@yvonneost12

2 жыл бұрын

It doesnt say much for your mother when she does nothing , F#&k that

I want to hug her so bad :’( my god this woman is SO STRONG. i could never prove my rape and attempted murder, he broke every phone/iPod/computer/any way for me to call for help. May God please be with all of us survivors. Ptsd is life long and horrific. It hurts so much more to have to beg for help when you have no proof other than bruises and your own words. She is SO SMART and I have so much respect and love for her and everyone affected by rape :’(

@Katiee0592

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

"Do you remember how much you were drinking?" Sure let's perpetuate rape culture. It doesn't effing matter how much she was drinking. Whether she was completely inebriated or not, she didn't do anything wrong. The interviewer seemed a bit aggressive here. Asking her why she didn't shout or fight back.

During my younger years I binged drink practically every weekend. I was lucky that the guys I socialised with were decent guys. I have known girls who's trust was betrayed in the worst way possible. It happens too much. Guys know it's a crime when they do it.

@nick3319

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe because you were.....

@brittany7573

2 жыл бұрын

@@nick3319 were what?...

@diabolivirtusen-tavares-ea4645

2 жыл бұрын

@@nick3319 they need to stop getting drunk & releasing their inner s l u t

@steffaely

2 жыл бұрын

I was lucky too! Nothing ever happened to me! Most of the time, I was surrounded by my female friends and we took care of each other!

@chuckharding6405

Жыл бұрын

@@diabolivirtusen-tavares-ea4645 If only your mother stopped.

People say she consented and regretted it the next day...but there is no evidence that she ever consented.

@mistid1485

7 жыл бұрын

+whosMental That is true. Rapists don't even get long sentences either

@leslieblanco3536

7 жыл бұрын

these people swear everything is consent. IF there is no VERBAL agreement, there is NO CONSENT.

@samtab4644

7 жыл бұрын

her hanging out at the party, too drunk to drive, and irresponsible enough not to do the buddy system, call a friend....her consent is in her actions, I don't believe it's a contract.

@tarstarkusz

7 жыл бұрын

The reality is that there is NOT a campus rape crisis, regardless of what happened to this particular girl or girls.

@piercegrave1498

7 жыл бұрын

So...Mute people who have sex are not consenting?

I am so glad that she got the recorded confession. I also had to take those measures. I had met a guy about a year before I actually allowed him to come over to my apartment. On that night, we had drinks. I felt comfortable at home, and fell asleep. I found out the next day, he had raped me after I fell asleep. I called him back and recorded the conversation. At first, he tried to claim we 'had sex.' All along, I knew I had fallen asleep with all of my clothes on. I recorded his confession to me. Unfortunately though, I never reported the incident. He went to jail last year; and I looked him up. Turns out that when we met, he was already battling a rape case. Also, he had ANOTHER previous rape case, and was convicted of indecent exposure after we broke up. These guys keep getting away with rape because we are shamed out of reporting it too often.

Ok so if anyone ever did this to my daughter there is no question, the police would never be called, I have some special skills he would get to experience. Semper Fidelis

So she wasn't prosecuted for recording him? And they were able to use the recording? Because I recorded two local prosecutors here in Montana and it's illegal in Montana to record without all parties permission. I recorded a prosecutor threatening to have my children taken away if I didn't help him send my husband to prison. It was illegal that I recorded him and had to hide the recording. That being said, this is horrific seeing some of these comments. I've been raped and assaulted while drinking and even WITHOUT drinking. Shame on any of you would blame a woman because a man rapes her while drinking. I have had men PROTECT me while we were all drinking. Defend me. The good men who realise I was in a vulnerable state and protected me. THEY didn't rape me. So it's no excuse.

@f.5818

7 жыл бұрын

Right, never accept responsibility for being drunk and acting immaturely, life is so much easier that way.

@micalah8282

7 жыл бұрын

+Francis M. God bless you.

@micalah8282

7 жыл бұрын

+CanHSoccer1827 I did hear them say that...

@blastingoff

7 жыл бұрын

She recorded it at her place. Which is why its legal. Its her property so she can record whatever she wants.

@XcupcakeXhorrorshowX

7 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

I was raped on April 25th by a kid in my highschool, he took my virginity at 16. I walked home and cried the entire time, and for 2 consecutive hours after, like I never have before. He stalked me in school, every single day, wrote me notes and would come into classes he wasn't even in and sit behind me- until I dropped out. It changed my life forever and who I was before it happened. Rape is a life sentence for it's victims, perpetrators should receive an equal punishment. Also, if men were raped as often as women are and as easily, rape would be a death sentence already.

@marymorales9906

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you positive vibes. 💖Thank you for sharing your story. You are not alone.

@Xfhcgnjffhjmjvfg

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry this happened to you. So horrible. Thank you for sharing. I will think of you when I send my daughter to high school. I hope only the best for your future. You are brave to speak the truth.

@MusMasi

2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry this happened to you, I hope you find the help you need and can get the help you need. Sadly sexual assault does happen to men and much more commonly than most people think as men are even less likely than women to report it, it happens to men and boys as well.

@freebird7284

2 жыл бұрын

i would take something of his, no matter how long it took.

@Mary-cw4lf

2 жыл бұрын

@@Taskicore disgusting question

My hometown had cops with attitudes like this. Because of that, it took me 15 years to finally talk about it. Never let another person or group convince you that anyone violating your body is your fault. That is easier said than done.

@AM-ou1wt

2 жыл бұрын

Male privilege exists in some men's minds. Unfortunately it exists under law in some countries.

This articulates a divergence of realities most people don’t get about rape. That, for the victim, it is a life-threatening situation. Most folks think of it as about sex or even about power. Maybe both are also true, but for the victim, it’s life or death and they’re fighting for their lives.

@jennifermariejoyce

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly correct. I attempted to fight back once, and what I got was head to toe bruises, bites, lacerations, and cigarette burns. So, the next two times I clearly said no, I pleaded, and then I dissociated for survival and allowed it to happen. I didn’t want to die.

@greentreesmatter

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, because women are frequently murdered after being raped!

I've read the book. Jon is a great author and these girls' stories are really moving. I'm going to college in Missoula and majoring in chemistry with a concentration in forensic chemistry. When I see these girls, I see my sisters or my friends(I have very few guy friends and never hang out with the few guy friends I have). It fills me with sadness, anger, and a resolve to pursue forensics

these poor women. bless their souls i hope they have the brightest future from here on out

@bluehead310

2 жыл бұрын

Ur cringe

The law must absolutely also be applied to those women who FALSELY accuse men of rape. False accusations of such are NOT rare!!

@jangles8061

Жыл бұрын

Paid troll.

@jamesmiles4159

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately he's speaking facts.

@fran791

10 ай бұрын

They are absolutely very rare

My heart goes out to all of the survivors, it is so disgusting what these men do

@bluehead310

2 жыл бұрын

Woman/girls can also do the same thing. 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

@chatterjee8454

2 жыл бұрын

@@bluehead310 men playing victim here too 😅

@lannawolf1864

2 жыл бұрын

@@bluehead310 it was men in this story that committed the act you 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

@Littlekitten_

2 жыл бұрын

@@bluehead310 women rape cases don’t even come close to the men ones

I love how she made sure identify him on the tape recorder. Called him by his first name repeatedly and said "you're a griz football player." Bam!

@jennifermariejoyce

2 жыл бұрын

So smart.

“I almost killed myself that night…You have no idea.” Uh, yeah dude. She has every idea. Because of you.

You should read Missoula for the rest of the story to really understand the damage caused to Allison and others. Allison and Beau were best friends as little children and stayed best friends until he raped her while she was sleeping. He broke her pants zipper so that she had to try to hold her pants together as she is running and desperately trying to use her cell phone to call her mother to come get her while she is fending off Bo running after her. She was having a hard time finding out just exactly where she was to tell her mother. Can you imagine being her mother and getting this phone call in the middle of the night and desperately trying to get to your daughter so you can get her to safety? Can you imagine the desperation of these two women in this moment? When Allison's father found out, he cried out in torment, you spend all your life trying to protect your kids and this happens from a friend. Or something to that effect. You'll have to read the book for the exact quote. She was also physically damaged because of a prior condition. She got a chance for some justice only because she was in a program in which kids were training as police do and one of the officers was impressed with her determination in one of the events especially challenging to a very short person. He's the one that got the official video confession used in court. I don't remember what Bo's sentence was but it was a fairly decent one. Getting a rape prosecuted is extremely rare and it makes sense that women don't go through the torture of reporting what happened because they know it's only going to be worse for themselves. Rape trials are the only kind of trial I know of we are the victim is blamed for what happened to themselves

@MOTORCYCLES-ANDGUNS

2 жыл бұрын

Don't forget, Even SELF DEFENSE against CRIMINALS, They look at you like you're the bad person even though in reality you're the victim.

@TrollofNorway

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. That was so well said/written. Thank you.

@mike48084

2 жыл бұрын

Are rape prosecutions really that rare? A little look at my local sex offender registry shows tons of dudes with rape convictions and who served time (maybe not enough, but that is another story)

@katrand5357

2 жыл бұрын

@@mike48084 and consider that only about 35% rapes are reported. Factor that into how many sex offenders you see listed

@mike48084

2 жыл бұрын

@@katrand5357 Interesting math problem. If 10% of the men in my neighborhood are convicted sex offenders, and 35% of sex offenses go unreported, statistically speaking, what percentage of men have committed a sex offense in my neighborhood regardless of whether it was reported or not?

The boys were drinking. The girls were drinking. Yes. The people did do that. Let’s all be responsible for our choices, our actions.

An alcoholic’s last plea to undo stupidity is always the suicide card.

If I'm ever raped by a man/woman I'm going to the cops as soon as possible no matter how well I know the predator. The purpose being there are consequences that need to be implemented and the predator needs to be reported before they move on to do it again.

@blastingoff

7 жыл бұрын

Women always have the same excuses. "ohh I was scared and ashamed" and then when people have their doubts against the womens accusations because they took so long to report it, they attack you for not just taking their word. Always report rape as soon as possible. Forget about how you feel or what people will think. The sooner, the better for you and for the case to be solved and the person to be caught.

@mamacita143

7 жыл бұрын

not everyone has the courage. especially if the rapist happens to be a relative or close friend as its usually is. so unless you've ever been in this situation, don't talk about what you would do.

@blastingoff

7 жыл бұрын

***** I have been in that situation twice. And Im a man. Its a million times harder for a man to come forward than it is for a woman.

@mamacita143

7 жыл бұрын

NewAgeGod I understand but at the same time, you should also understand that EVERY person reacts differently in certain situations. Man or not, it's difficult for each individual regardless.

@mamacita143

7 жыл бұрын

Skye Carl some us thankfully are brave enough. but me, I wasn't. My uncle violated me when I was 5. he said not to tell anyone. I was a child. what did I know? years later I realized what he did was wrong but how could I say something years later? who would believe me. his wife, my dad's sister, was always so sweet and nice To me & his daughters treated me like a little sister. to this day I haven't said a word because for one, I'm now 26 & 2. I just don't even know how I would go about it. I feel shame, guilt, regret. I should of could of would of, but I didnt. I didn't want to break up their family. I wish I could have had the courage or someones guidance but I didn't. now, as far as grown teens & women go..there's many different scenarios and reasons as to why girls don't speak up more. most of the time, rape or sexual assault charges aren't taken seriously. the perverted some of a bitch usually gets off the hook way too easy. other girls see this and get discouraged. or they're scared of what people might think. of course we would love to prevent other people from being a victim but I swear, the fear and despair some of us have is far way worse than a lot of people realize. especially for teenagers. if they were out drinking, they don't wanna say because of their parents. maybe they sneaked out and know they'll be in super trouble if their parents find out. Or even worse, people will assume SHE asked for it. her skirt was too short. her boobs were out. she was blacked out drunk. those are all the excuses cops use. and that's completely wrong on so many levels. women should be able to wear whatever the fuck they want and not worry about some psycho with dark thoughts attacking her. parents need to teach both girls and boys to respect EVERY ONE no matter what they wear or look like. I could go on & on. sorry. I just feel really passionate about this topic. I hope this never ever happens to you or anyone, and if it does...I pray that you do in fact have the balls to say something. the balls that some of us don't have. sorry if any typos

Sad what happened to these young women, and how difficult the system makes it for them to come forward. And the police asking them how much they had to drink, as if that negates their innocence or that they are victims. This should not be happening in this day and age. I hope they can go on to have a bright and normal future without any stigma being attached to them.

The unfortunate reality is that rape will never go away… we need to look out for ourselves more and for others. Let’s be careful not to put ourselves in situations where we can’t defend ourselves properly. Let’s be strong together.

@jangles8061

Жыл бұрын

"Let's be careful not to put ourselves in situations where we can't defend ourselves properly" What the victim-blaming it that???

This is why I never go to a party without my boyfriend of 3 years. He is a good man and knows what no means! Even if I'm just not feeling like having sex, he knows that means no and doesn't guilt me or try to push me. That's the type of partner you need to search for and always makes sure you're with someone at parties, etc. have a friend or a partner and stay together. People are dangerous these days and it's scary.

@tf6879

2 жыл бұрын

You can't trust anyone that much. I was molested by my uncles. People that I didn't even question trusting.

@purplepheasant4776

2 жыл бұрын

It is great that you found someone so dependable, that is a good rule to follow. However, the girl said that she knew her rapist since 1st grade. Sometimes people that we know well are wearing a mask. They are just waiting for the opportunity to hurt us.

@kinskins100

2 жыл бұрын

@@purplepheasant4776 sadly, you are correct

I guess women don’t have the right to drink alcohol in public around the opposite sex. Smfh...

If they had not recorded him confessing, you'd see her on fox News, claiming she is just asking for it, or she was lying. This is disgusting, and it really is shameful that our society treats women like this. I have two daughters and I would likely go back to prison for life is some scummy teenager put their hands on my little girls .

btw, who gets to age 20 without the understanding that drinking (even "socially") and frat houses, not to mention sleeping on their sofa, are things that DO NOT MIX!?!? FFS, teach your daughters self-defense, how and when to scream, and arm them accordingly (even if it's just with pepper spray).

@jangles8061

Жыл бұрын

And what do you teach your sons?

He bout killed himself not for what he did to her but what would have happened to his life is she had told.

My close male friend came over to do homework a year ago in college. It was his birthday, so we had a few drinks together to celebrate. I don't drink often, so it didn't take long for me to be gone. I told him I was tired and headed to bed. I told him it was OK to sleep on my bed because it's pretty big and growing up I was used to sharing a bed with siblings & friends. Never in my life did I think one of my closest friends could do something like this to me, so obviously the thought didn't even cross my mind. I passed out pretty instantaneously. A few hours later, I woke up to him sexually assaulting me. I completely froze, every atom inside of me wanted to scream and tell him to F off, but I physically couldn't. Fortunately for me, he sent a text the next day apologizing for what he'd done, so the report of the case was pretty clear-cut. I hate what he did, I now have a no-contact order on him, and he walked away with a slap on the wrist, but I do hope he finds serious help and becomes a better person and never does this to anyone ever again.

@jangles8061

Жыл бұрын

Oh... that's awful.

As a victim, when it’s someone you knew or were friends with, it’s so much harder. They try to pull everything “we had a secret relationship” “she just regretted it, we had a thing” “she didn’t want to be found out she cheated”. It’s so much harder because people will assume she’s lying. In my case I provided every message ever exchanged for the 6 month friendship, not a single flirt etc in sight. Recorded him admitting it, texts where I told him to leave me alone detailing what he did and him admitting saying he wouldn’t try contacting me again, but always did. A bartender witness, video of how tipsy I was leaving the bar, friends who I reached out to right after, when distrust that helped me, proof of that. He was someone I thought was my friend, a college in my department, did HW and met my friends and partner as well as hung out with us a lot. Sadly some act like a trustworthy person and the second they see an opportunity to do it alone, they pounce. That’s the hardest part, a stranger can’t pull that. But someone who was seen as a friend will twist anything to be innocent and twist those in your life as well. I told no one outside my family and friends but he did, male dominated field and after I reported because he didn’t leave me alone a month after, got treated different and looks of hate from people in my classes. It’s been a year, still going through it, never spent a night in jail and still in that program. Even though I got an IPO doesn’t matter. I had a rape kit done the next day and even got pictures of the bruising. It’s a nightmare, I went to classes online but thankfully found a job I love remote so I just avoid that campus now. One I loved for several years and had a previous degree from with good memories and friends who were staff or educators. The dean told me even once charged and found guilty he is still allowed to attend that school and program even while I am as long as he’s 500 ft away from me at all times. I basically just gave up on that program. Could take 6 months-3 years before he’s charged anything. Wish the other girl in the program I found out he did this to also the semester before he was friends with would want to speak up, but she’s young and embarrssed, I understand do won’t push her. Embarrassing something I don’t want people to know and something that greatly destroyed my mental state for awhile as well as relationship. I wish no one go through this nightmare, the amount of work and toll on a victim just to try and do anything about it sucks so much. Just to know they might only get a few months locked up and probation time. It’s worth it if they are on a list and I can help scare them to stop or not hurt anyone else. If they do at least they will see my case so I can help that victim as much as I can. Worst part he’s wanting a career in the military as well, no one is going to report against someone in the military in my opinion. I have a lot of friends enlisted and they are enraged and don’t want him in. Such s nightmare. And I know many love to pull the “you drank game”. He knew I was depressed and suggested we go, it was someone I was friends with and trusted for several months and hung out with many times. I had no idea what they’d do just because they thought they could get away with it. Oh and my partner at the time, we lived together, been together over two years, and a million times more attractive, let’s see how that goes in court. I wish more than anything my partner hadn’t ever gone to third shift, it’s not his fault, but after that spending nights alone, I was terrified. Lights cut out once and PTSD episode triggered thinking he came back to hurt me again. It’s embarrassing people knowing that happened, and takes so much of your life anxious and always doing something for years even with so much proof just for any justice to happen.

@averyjudgementalsoldier8303

7 ай бұрын

Some people are just rotten. Hope you are doing better.

@Wishfull171

7 ай бұрын

@@averyjudgementalsoldier8303 thank you

not everyone can react fast and "fight back" ... if you wake up and someone rapes you... you are traumatized. maybe you cant move ... you want it all to be over . dont judge quickly , always try to think like them

Ain't it awful that the men you have to worry about the most are the ones you love and trust the most?

@leejay1936

2 жыл бұрын

Women can't trust them, full stop.

@texasbell2481

2 жыл бұрын

70% of the woman that are murdered, are murdered by someone who told them they loved them. Wrap your mind around that...

@playmasterangie

2 жыл бұрын

@@vikuly8 exactly

@christykelley8179

2 ай бұрын

Yes. And I’ve learned to trust absolutely no one. Everyone in my life has hurt and lied to me. The only 1 who has not is God.

All parties were extremely irresponsible and engaged in extremely risky behavior! Sad situation!

People so often are like "why didn't they report it" I know why , I would not want to get involved with police and courts and feel like a spectacle.

This comment section is beyond sick. No wonder situations like this happen so often, bc there are still people who would rather put a significant amount of blame on the person who was violated as opposed to who *committed the crime* in the first place

Always imagine if the same thing were to happen to your mother, girlfriend or sister....this is a really serious issue that should not be taken lightheartedly. It causes serious traumatic disorders, and if your a good guy please make sure you watch out for situations like this..especially at parties

@katherinenull1121

7 жыл бұрын

there is usually no shame they just figure out better way to justify it

@williamadams8353

2 жыл бұрын

It did happen to my mother. My father came home stinking drunk and beat her half to death, and then held a broken bottle to her neck and raped her repeatedly for the rest of night. I was born nine months later and he gave me his name to carry for the rest of my life. When you are born in hell, the only direction you can go is up.

It is very telling and disappointing that victims of rape are consistently referred to as 'alleged' victims throughout this report.

Alcohol didnt stick a p******* in my face. It was the people that did that. Thank God for your strength

I remember one thing my mother-in-law told me when I confessed abt my r that I had been holding in for a couple of years then, that I felt like it was my fault bc alcohol was involved in my situation and she told me “when we get drunk here with the family, do we try to do that stuff to you? When you get drunk with your partner or friends, do they do that stuff to you? They don’t.” And it fully changed my perspective on it all.

@jangles8061

Жыл бұрын

Aww, I love this ❤ Sometimes the comments are so vile and disheartening, but yours was so refreshing, thanks for sharing that! I'm so glad that your mum was supportive of you. I'm going to remember your mum's wise words. 🙏

There is something seriously wrong with a person who can look at another person who is passed out, and think that’s the perfect time to have sex……idk how much psychological help would be needed to cure that mentality but it would be a LOT

People should not have to worry about aggression/rape when they party. Drinking/sleeping does NOT give you rights to another person's body. Sexual abuse is heinous and is never justified. BUT people are accountable for their own actions. Not the actions of others, but their own. People need to have better safety judgment. If both individuals are intoxicated, one may have thought he/she had consent and misread signals, and that is different that being malicious and having the intent to rape another person. ALL rapists, who DID mean to do this, deserve lifelong imprisonment, punishment, and eventually, death. The law needs to take intent into account. When the sexual crime is intentionally malicious, it warrants lifelong suffering. All that being said, advising people on safety precautions is not blaming. Its not intended to degrade anyone, but to help people stay safe.

@timv1.083

8 жыл бұрын

Very touchy subject, but I have to agree. Telling a tourist in New York City not to stroll down an unknown alley at 1:00am isn't "blaming" the victims of muggings.

There is no excuse for rape. Personally, I had an experience similar to this. I had been talking with an African American guy who seemed nice, he invited me to a house party. I was hesitant as I didn't know him very well. He told me that there would be at least 7 other women there, to make me feel more comfortable. I was still hesitant, then he pulled the race card, saying that I didn't want to go to his party because I would be the only "whitey" there. That wasn't why, at all. I had to drive an hour to get to the place where the party was. I was moderating my drinking, Every time my cup was half way, someone would pour more into it. At one point, I dumped what was in my cup down the drain, I was already too drunk to drive home. I talked to one of the women, there, asked her if I could go into a room that had a lock on the door, to sleep it off because I knew I was too drunk to drive. The woman was fine with it. She told me that there were 2 keys to the door, it locked from the inside. She said she would give me both keys if it wuld make me feel safe. I took the keys, went into the room laid down on the bed. The next thing I remembered was loud noises, cursing & laughing outside the door to the room. I felt safe with the door locked, I fell back asleep. When I woke up again, 5 guys from the party including the one I thought was decent, had broken the knob and lock to the door, had come into the room. I was still too drunk to fight them off, I just kept saying NO, STOP! They only laughed, taking turns at me. The wmen were standing in the doorway, watching. I begged them to help me, they just stood there, watching. The next day, I left while everyone else was sleeping. I located the closest police station, I walked in, told the person in the front that I had been gang raped, wanted to file a report. The cop told me to have a seat, that someone would talk with me, soon. I sat there, smelling like semen, sweat & alcohol. After 20 minutes I talked to the person at the front desk who told me I could sit down & shut up or leave. I was feeling worse as time passed by. After 1 hour of waiting, I couldn't stand my own stench. I left, drove the 1 hour drive home. I was so terrified when I didn't get my period for a few months. I thought about what I would do if I was pregnant. It would be financially difficult, yet, the child would be my child to love, to raise, to teach. When I had completely resigned myself to having a baby to take care of, I got my period 2 weeks later. Although it was stupid of me to drive an hour to the party, it was stupid to drink with people I didn't know. I felt that I had done the right things by not driving & by going in a room then locking the door. Nothing justifies what those men AND women did to me, what they had allowed to happen. To this day, I may have just 1 glass of wine in a restaurant, no more than that even if prodded to have "just one more". If I am going to drink any more than that, I do it in my home, alone. It's my respnsibility to keep myself safe, no one elses.

@jantoinette215

2 жыл бұрын

I'm just now reading this comment a month later but just know I'm keeping you in my prayers! You are a strong woman for still trying and going in that station. I pray you get justice if you still have not gotten it already🙏

@peace-mercy

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for what happened to you... Why didn't you go to the hospital and have them call the police.... Good decision to drink less but why don't you do just like me ... DO NOT DRINK AT ALL... a lot can happen when someone loses their judgement especially if they are already corrupt, their real self appears when they lose their ability to act like kind beings... Not blaming the victims at all but I believe women should stay away from such parties because some of these men are ugly creatures and they are only after your body when they get drunk they become worse, their reason goes down and animal desire goes up. Iam a man who has been married for 25 years, never drank or smoked and had a happy life with my wife.. I am a Muslim and thank God for making me so and drinking is prohibited in Islam. In fact, the Messenger Muhammad peace be upon him said that drinking is the mother of all evils . That being said these ugly creatures can't use drinking as an excuse and should be punished severely for preying on innocent women.

@FreeSpirit47

2 жыл бұрын

@@peace-mercy After such a terrible experience, I felt so beaten down, so demoralized I just wanted to go home, take a shower, go to bed. Even at that time, I didn't usually drink in public at all. I was in a locked room which the group of African American men had to break down the door to get to me. Did you even read that???? I don't know what country you live in or if you are part of any ethnic group. A person of any gender, any ethnic group can be safe as long as the other people are not breaking any laws or breaking a door down. Actually, you are victim blaming, saying that a man cannot be blamed for being a man. Your religious stance is a stance not believed or practiced widely in the USA which is a mostly Christian country.

@peace-mercy

2 жыл бұрын

@@FreeSpirit47 Of course I sympathize with you and I am not putting the blame on you and I said clearly that these are ugly creatures who don't even deserve to be called human beings. Had I been there, I would have definitely defended you because that's how I was brought up and that's what my religion teaches me. I am sorry you misunderstood my message. Again these ugly creatures who did that to you must be punished severely. My message was clear. I wish you the best of luck and pray that God give you the energy to deal the aftermath of what you went through.

@flop9998

2 жыл бұрын

@@peace-mercy you are victim blaming. why is the narrative always “women need to stop going to parties and/or drinking” instead of “men need to stop raping.” it’s disgusting. Women can’t have fun partying with friends because who knows when a rapist will strike? why don’t we tell men to stop rape, why don’t rapists have consequences? you’re putting all the responsibility on the victims and that is fucked up.

I can't believe she had the strength to have him come over to talk with her and her mother. I could only imagine what he was thinking.

sucks that we live in a world like this

"Alcohol didn't stick a penis in my face..." I know this is a serious topic and video... but I definitely laughed out loud at that comment...

@mr.reality8069

6 жыл бұрын

Why? It's a retarded quote. Alcohol didn't drink itself and alcohol didn't make her say it's okay to put a penis in her face; she did.

Omg thank you for saying “alcohol wasn’t the one who stuck a pen*s in my face a person did that.” 💯 facts. This is heartbreaking 💔 I feel angry and emotional for these women 😡. Stay strong you are a survivor , a fighter.

One of far too many sad stories about rape and it is painful to hear of anyone being violated in this way, but I am glad to hear Ms Huguet had the kind of support system (from her Mom and possibly friends) and the wherewithal to pursue justice, dialog, and change.

Keep speaking! That's how we can change our attitude toward tape.

"Missoula is not the rape capital of the country. I wish it was" I don't think that came out quite right...

First off all it's not right what he has done, secondly she should not been putting herself in that situation. If she didn't put herself there it would not have happened. So next time think before you do for both people

This story is why I love the movie “Promising Young Woman”. I would wish God to strike down every rapist or someone about to rape DEAD INSTANTLY! If men knew that they would die if they did this crime, I’m guessing it would stop or at least get rid of horrid rapists instantly. They deserve a painful death.

"Do you know how much you drank that night?" Lol does it matter....

@osmosisjones4912

4 жыл бұрын

How do even 80% of rapes are under reported if by definition. See lot of party Girls lot jumping on guys Crush grabbing Striping anymale that pass's by and don't remember what they. Often the rapist. And i have Actual examples of this instead of making stuff up and saying it's under reported. .

@christykelley8179

2 ай бұрын

Chances are, they took advantage of drunk girls in their past too. Also, good ol boys club. They always look out for other guys. Women are subservient. Doesn’t matter if you’re white, black, blue, purple or yellow.

When I was a student at SDSU, Brookings, SD, I, a 5'11" blonde, went to a party at one of my high school buddies' off campus house. He was also attending college there. I was stone cold sober when I went through the master bedroom, where we had piled our coats, to get to the bathroom in there. When I came out there stood a HUGE SDSU football lineman. I told him the bathroom was his. He replied, "That's not what I want." He grabbed my biceps, pulling me to the bed where he had removed some of the coats. My military father taught me how to get away from a huge attacker, then punch HARD into the Adam's apple. I did that and he fell backwards onto the bed, unable to breath. I ran out of the room, and saw his teammates waiting. One of his fellow football players was on crutches because I had kicked his knee out when he was carrying a passed out friend of mine to his room to rape with a few of his buddies in tow. I know they sent the huge guy after me to get even. I told them to rush him to the hospital. The coach called me in the morning telling me they are going to have ME charged with assault! I coldly told him I was going to hang up and tell the "Brookings Register" that our head football coach says that we female students should accept being raped by his players, and, "What do you think all of our fathers will feel about THAT!?" I added cooly that all the military men in my family would not be happy. His player was in the hospital for 3 weeks with a crushed larynx and trachea. I also told the coach he better tell his players to behave or more of them will end up on the injured reserve list. I frequently say ALL women and girls should know such self defense moves, and not to trust ANY male completely.

The scary thing about rape compared to other crimes, to me, is that there are often no indications that the rapist is a monster.

I love, love that this girl was smart enough to go to her mother and talk to her friends. Something I have learned now that I'm older I cannot tell you how important it is.. even if you argue all the time when it comes down to it family is there. Whether that's in form of a parent or friends..

@emilyaitch8143

2 жыл бұрын

Not for everyone, sadly

if I'm going to a party I'm not getting drunk. nope hell no.

@celinecharlebois8236

7 жыл бұрын

It's not alcohol that's the problem

@darkpisces8125

7 жыл бұрын

Celine Charlebois When you get drunk you lose control of yourself. Everything is effected. That's why they say don't drink and drive.

@inescarrola

7 жыл бұрын

This is just an idiot statement. Can people stop blaming foreign subjects instead of the only huge problem here? The RAPIST? I drink alcohol at parties. Am I asking for it? Hell no. This is just a stupid comment.

@darkpisces8125

7 жыл бұрын

Inês Carrola its called being responsible. I was raped once and you know had I not been where I was it wouldn't have happened. I moved on from it. Strength got me through it. Alone by myself with no help.

@owmystomachhurts

7 жыл бұрын

How about groups of men shouldn't get wasted when they're in the company of women, you know in case they might feel the urge to rape someone??

Of course rape is not the victim's fault. However, when no evidence can be found you can't just convict someone... I know it sucks, but it's the law. I also think it is very important not to assume that the alleged suspect is guilty.

@katieb9299

7 жыл бұрын

Well, since about 92% of rape reports are not fabricated, I think it is safe to assume to suspect is guilty about 92% of the time. Idiot

@karleythompson5575

7 жыл бұрын

he IS fucking guilty tho, get a grip. there's plenty of evidence. your argument is totally invalad.

@shaiiiwhel6273

7 жыл бұрын

not sure which story you're going by but the first one they recorded him confessing...thats why they could make a decision so quickly.

@EllietheCatholic

7 жыл бұрын

Shani Whelan I'm saying in a case where there's no evidence. Not these ones of course! :)

@EllietheCatholic

7 жыл бұрын

Katie B I'm positive those stats are wrong.

For centuries women have suffered this injustice to their bodies and souls. When is enough is enough! Very smart young woman, record everything, never think anyone is your friend. Always protect yourself no matter what. Prayers for the victims of this senseless crime against women.

Don’t become a victim. Know your limits and watch your surroundings. Nobody deserves to be raped but we don’t have control over what others do out here, we are responsible for ourselves. Take responsibility for your actions and hold others accountable for theirs. There is no excuse , not drinking, not mental illness, nothing for someone to rape another.

Brave women in humiliating circumstances. Wish a safe future and hope they help others to speak out against guys violating their bodies.

if I ever witnessed something like that about to take place they fixing to catch these hands

@matthewzhang1579

7 жыл бұрын

Daniel Alfaro cringeeeee. Please don't say that last bit ever again...

@NostalgicDan96

7 жыл бұрын

Come on most of us are adults here I am, and will say and do as I please if it bothers you the way I talk get over it or get on

@andre1987eph

2 жыл бұрын

You need Coach Greg Adams

@jorgerivera1083

2 жыл бұрын

Captain save a hoe over here

She did the right thing. She really gave him so much opportunity to get help and he blew his chance!

I’m not sure if this is just a US thing (I’m Canadian), but it astounds me that colleges/universities have their own campus police, and basically use that to prevent victims reporting incidents to the ACTUAL police. If you ask me, that’s a huge part of the problem. If these rapes and assaults were reported to the actual police, and prosecuted, maybe they would happen less. From what I’ve heard, a lot of the rapes and assaults are serial attacks from the same people because perpetrators aren’t facing consequences. Institutions need to stop being allowed to get in the way…

@zedmak

2 жыл бұрын

That is why the have the campus police to silence the victims especially if it’s an athlete, they never report it to the actual police and they isolate the victim so she usually ends up,leaving the school. And the school never report the stats because the want ppl to attend. I remember when it happened to a friend of mine the campus police tried to force us to us to go there and I told her they are not the real police and we should go off campus and get real law enforcement involved. I was like we are not giving u any info and when the police comes to see u will get a copy of their official report. They tried to do all kinds of stuff. But I told them my dad was in the FBI and if they tried to stop me they would see how that would play out, wasn’t true was my cousin. But they backed off really quickly. She ended up,dropping out for about 5 yrs, then finished at another school.

Do they have to say 'alleged?' ...this is really angering me... They keep emphasizing how much the girls were drinking too. It still has this seedy underlying air of blame to it

@tamarabalsanu5135

5 жыл бұрын

Would you think the same if this happened to you stupid?

'alcohol didn't stick a penis in my face. it was people who did that'. This sentence is really the case closing factor.

This is probably an unpopular opinion. I don’t condone Rape and it’s disgusting. But woman themselves nowadays show a lot of irresponsibility when it comes to drinking. Individuals themselves should show a lot more responsibility and stop putting themselves in these positions.

@jangles8061

Жыл бұрын

Hiya Charlie! With respect, I think your comment seems to implicate women in their own rape. Does anyone say "well boys, you probably shouldn't drink tonight because, well y'know, you might get too drunk and rape someone!"

Some people may ask why she didn’t scream or fight back but I am interested in why they are asking that. It’s a very manipulative way for the media to get the best story regardless of how it further traumatizes rape victims.

If you treat children like demigods just because they're good at sports, you can't expect them not to develop behavioral issues. College is meant to be about academic achievement. Stop giving kids an easy ride through high-school, a free ticket to college, and a bloated sense of self-importance. They might actually start to develop empathy, a sense of responsibility, and a conscience.

Calling it "alleged" rape is part of the problem of victims not being believed.

@maysal2801

9 жыл бұрын

slideshowgurl ''alleged'' is something journalist have to use, Im not sure why

@TheMechanicalsJest

8 жыл бұрын

Are you stupid? Because we cant fucking belive everything somone says.

@hellonhead5905

3 жыл бұрын

Yes innocent until proven guilty. Thats a good thing.

@carultch

2 жыл бұрын

@@maysal2801 They have to say "alleged" for legal reasons. The reason is that if they don't preface the claim with that word, and it turns out that the allegation is a hoax, the defendant has grounds to sue for slander. Even if it was unintended, it biases the audience against the accused person's reputation. By saying "alleged", you are prefacing the sentence with a term whose full meaning is "according to the allegation".

She should tell the names of those men. They ruined her life, let the people know who are those soulless men

It really bothers me that they never have the Part 2 of their videos linked so you can watch them back to back and they’re almost impossible to find on their page.

Haha Beau thinks he's the victim.

@blastingoff

7 жыл бұрын

There was nothing in the video that implied that. In fact it seemed he felt horrible about what he did. Not that he felt like a victim.

@sgadfly1180

7 жыл бұрын

he felt horrible he got caught that time.

@cameforthecookies6419

4 жыл бұрын

If you're drunk, you're a victim. Have you learned nothing from this interview people 😂

@tsdobbi

4 жыл бұрын

@@blastingoff It sounded more like he was just trying to get sympathy to keep them from ratting him out. As they said, he didn't adhere to their agreement, if he had remorse he would have.

@jaycartwright1170

2 жыл бұрын

@@blastingoff he doesn’t feel horrible cos he did it, he feels horrible cos he got caught

The solution shouldn’t be teaching girls how to avoid rapists, it should be teaching people not to be rapists

I've been assaulted several times and never went to the police because my life has always been in pieces and I didnt want it torn apart on the stand. The first time was when I was REALLY young, underage (he was underage, too, but I was pre pubescent and he was a teenager). I think the trauma from that causes behaviors that make it repeat over and over. Like I have PTSD and will completely shut down if I don't straight up attack people for touching me.

Why is the reporter asking the typical victim blaming questions? Was she drunk? Why didn't she fight him off? Did they think she was consenting? These questions are irrelevant and asking them perpetuates the notion that these women are in part responsible for the crimes committed upon them. Disgraceful, unprofessional, harmful reporting.

@suzyloo21

8 жыл бұрын

+xoxBelllaDonnaxox Reporters can be stupid but they have that script to keep their job. They aren't Barbara Walters for sure!

@Chipwhitley274

8 жыл бұрын

+xoxBelllaDonnaxox They are relevant moron... if a girl and a guy are drunk, and she consents because her judgment is impaired... that absolutely changes everything. That means, the guy thought he had permission. He remembers making-out with her, and she denies it on the basis of not remembering... so she doesn't remember if she did or did not willingly make-out with him, or if she did or did not give signals that could be misinterpreted as consent... especially to someone who is also impaired. There is a *_HUGE_* difference if there was no malicious intent... it is the difference between a mistake... a misunderstanding... and a person that is evil. Furthermore... asking the question is seeking the *_truth_*... there are plenty of cases where a man is intentionally falsely accused of rape... that is why we don't presume guilt over innocence. There are stories of girls being drunk and having consensual sex, and then regretting it, so they lie about what happened. There are stories where girls weren't drunk and still consented, but regretted it later, so they lie... There are stories about girls who've had sex with a boyfriend and didn't want her family to know about it, so accused another guy of rape to cover it up. There are stories of girls who accuse men of rape out of revenge... and use rape accusations as a weapon against men. etc. etc. etc.

@katdeluxy9608

8 жыл бұрын

+xoxBelllaDonnaxox As a reporter she has to because the reporter knows the audience at home is going to be wondering and asking those same questions.

@xoxBelllaDonnaxox

8 жыл бұрын

***** If these men were on trial and this woman was testifying against them these questions would be relevant. The questions are irrelevant because these men have already confessed and plead guilty.This girl isn't giving evidence, there is no burden of proof. They have been convicted. Asking these questions at this point perpetuates the idea that the victim always somewhat at fault for the sexual assault because there was something they could have done to stop it. It is actually quite rare for victims to falsely accuse rape at 2-3 % according to studies. www.google.ie/#q=false+reports+of+rape

@Chipwhitley274

8 жыл бұрын

xoxBelllaDonnaxox "The questions are irrelevant because these men have already confessed and plead guilty." "They have been convicted. " Those are lies... they never went to trial, nor were convicted. "This girl isn't giving evidence, there is no burden of proof. " Of course she is... she is making an assertion... presenting her case... so is required to prove it to convince her audience. Just because she isn't doing that in court, does not mean the rules of logic and reasoning are just thrown out the window. She has a motive to convince... so it is her responsibility to present a valid case to those she is attempting to convince... and if she doesn't then she won't achieve her goal. Because rational people won't just take her word for it and presume guilt... that basis in the court system was founded on legitimate principles outside of court. "It is actually quite rare ..." I guess you ignored the 22% and 31%... and some even claim 40%... but either way... here is an article explaining why your figures are nonsense anyway. www.bloomberg.com/view/articles/2014-09-19/how-many-rape-reports-are-false The point is, they happen, and there are false or mistaken accusations about pretty much any crime... that is why in a *_civilized_* society we don't presume guilt. "... for victims to falsely accuse rape ..." If the accusation is false... then they aren't victims... now are they? The victims are those that they accuse.

These comments saying that they were stupid to drink and to get over a serious crime makes me sick.

I feel you, girl; the same thing happened to me. It completely destroyed my love for school.

Ppl over here debating about alcohol meanwhile women in my country are getting raped sober and still being blamed bc they wore stuff like that or why did they sleep over at a party. The real issue here is victim blaming. Women will 100% be blamed for the rape on every scenario. Just last year a father withdrew his case about the rape of his 12 year old kid bc it was his brother who did that. The juridical system disgusts me. Most of the ppl responsible for the laws are men. It's a mentality at this point. I don't even go out to party with my girlfriends anymore bc I'm legit terrified

Alcohol is a huge issue in almost all these rapes, to say alcohol had no part in it is only ignorance. Yes, men need to be better men but drinking in excess is a not what a young women or any man should be doing. All kinds of bad things can go wrong. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.

@jnwd1723

7 жыл бұрын

Thankyou for being wise!

@arrowlessknee811

7 жыл бұрын

Alcohol really isn't to blame though, you see it only lowers inhibitions. If a person rapes another while under the influence of alcohol, that means that person always had that inside them, the alcohol just made their conscience agree with their sadistic thoughts. If a person is abusive when they drink, then they are always abusive, the alcohol just makes it easy for them to do what they always thought about.

@rachelsewell7026

7 жыл бұрын

Arrowless Knee, And you don't see a problem there?? If someone has an inclination to rape wouldn't it be loads better if they could keep those feelings in check?

@rachelsewell7026

7 жыл бұрын

I don't think she was saying that at all. The girl was not to blame - period! However, if someone in the future could possible prevent their rape by being more in control of their body that would only be a good thing. I would go even further than HalfDozenFlowers to say that people should never drink let alone get drunk. Someone addicted to alcohol could have prevented their alcoholism by not taking a drink in the first place.

@911patagonia

7 жыл бұрын

Arrowless Knee Alcoholism usually starts in puberty with those with the right biochemistry to become alcoholic. Excessive use causes brain damage, particularly the frontal lobe, which is the last part of the brain to develop. It's the seat of conscience, the thing that puts the brakes on the more primitive parts of the brain. When that is damaged, there is a consequent lack of self control, abusive behavior, etc. Any rehab center will tell you the same.