Harassment. Doesn't matter that it's family, after a certain point, it's harassment. That's a crime. Take her ass to court.

@tomascamilotorresmedinaguz5871

Күн бұрын

Facts

The way OP shut down as a defense mechanism, you can tell how much the ex has scarred her... Time to renew the restraining order and apply it to the monster-in-law as well. Also, husband should fire his useless lawyer.

@aaronwishard7093

12 күн бұрын

Legally speaking the ex has the defense the lawyer talked about. That being if he really did not do anything for 10 years, only coming out of the woodwork at the pressure of MIL. He probably won't do anything by his own volition again.

@victoriakiteley8337

12 күн бұрын

The wife could be the messiah herself but M.I.L would still have something to say. Mommy wants her husband-son to herself 🤢

@melindaflick631

12 күн бұрын

@@victoriakiteley8337 aka 'sonsband'.

@victoriakiteley8337

12 күн бұрын

@@melindaflick631 Good googley moogley, I want to laugh and throw up at the same time 😂🤮

@melindaflick631

12 күн бұрын

@@victoriakiteley8337 It's a repugnant situation.

This is not elder abuse. She is not incompetent. They are not her legal guardians. They have not abandoned her legally. This is the equivalent of a 5 year old holding their breath. Go to court, this is not worth the long-term pain she will cause

didn't know cutting off a toxic family member would be this complicated. if i were you i'd never let her get anywhere near me or my future kid. didn't owe her anything, not even a phone call or a text.

@wvanyar1801

12 күн бұрын

It is not hard to cut off family members. Either this story is fake or the lawyer is an idiot. Internet search on Elder abuse "elder abuse can be both criminal and civil. Civil law defines elder abuse as physical abuse, neglect, financial abuse, abandonment, isolation, abduction, or other treatment resulting in harm, pain or mental suffering to an elder." The MIL would have to prove neglect, abandonment, and isolation. Since both the husband/son and OP (wife/daughter-in-law) were not living with the MIL for years before cutting contact there is no grounds for a case. The lawyer is either really bad at their job, or the story is fake. No court in the US would hear this case, as you have to submit proof of some sort to back up a civil court claim, or the judge will just toss the case. Not talking to MIL does not fall under abandonment, or neglect. MIL could try under isolation, but that legal wording is isolation from contact with everyone, not from a specific person.

@boredpersonstory553

12 күн бұрын

Only if it's a person with a lot of money and time on their hand

@bzzs-c2o

11 күн бұрын

It seems like the man is a simp . Really you could see through it .

Wow, your MIL really took 'wedding crashers' to a whole new level All that's missing is popcorn and a laugh track Glad you two managed to stick together like super glue amidst that reality TV drama Stay strong.

@bzzs-c2o

11 күн бұрын

You only know a one sided story. The MIL could have handled the situation better but the man is her only child and her husband is dead. The ex of OP could have manipulated The MIL . There are two sides to a story. Also, The OP looks she gets what she wants if you know what I mean.She has kept her husband away from his mother with minimal contact for atleast 2 years. If that is isn't manipulation I don't know what is.

@LunaP1

7 күн бұрын

​@bzzs-c2o you are bad at playing devil's advocate. MiL planned the chaos at the wedding. She looked into OP's past to find some imaginary dirt and doesn't actually care about her son being independent. I have seen documentaries and movies from those of parents (mostly mothers/MiLs) that have an unhealthy attachment to their offspring to the point where they don't want them to live their own life. MiL is very dangerous and her actions speak for themselves.

how tf would any self respecting court ever even humor a lawsuit on "my son wont talk to me"

@aaronwishard7093

12 күн бұрын

Why do you think *both* lawyers were saying it'd be better to settle out of court? And if it went anywhere it'd be due to the fact MIL would be treated with Mickey mouse gloves due to the age.

@fl-ri-

12 күн бұрын

Yeah it doesn't make any sense.

@PairOfSocksGaming

12 күн бұрын

@@aaronwishard7093 because its just not a thing. The lawyers said that because it is in fact a waste of time, anybody can sue for any reason

@aaronwishard7093

12 күн бұрын

@@PairOfSocksGaming And the reason that would at least get in front of a judge would be the elder abuse. Now her bogus reasoning is what was going to get her case thrown out if she couldn't get more solid evidence. But once again, it wasn't "my son won't talk to me", which is what you boiled it down to. Which to be fair it was her entire reason for throwing the temper tantrum. That doesn't mean that you're being reductive for no reason when both lawyers were admitting she at least had enough evidence to get in front of a judge by their language. Instead of getting thrown out prima facie.

@wvanyar1801

12 күн бұрын

It is not hard to cut off family members. Either this story is fake or the lawyer is an idiot. Internet search on Elder abuse "elder abuse can be both criminal and civil. Civil law defines elder abuse as physical abuse, neglect, financial abuse, abandonment, isolation, abduction, or other treatment resulting in harm, pain or mental suffering to an elder." The MIL would have to prove neglect, abandonment, and isolation. Since both the husband/son and OP (wife/daughter-in-law) were not living with the MIL for years before cutting contact there is no grounds for a case. The lawyer is either really bad at their job, or the story is fake. No court in the US would hear this case, as you have to submit proof of some sort, to back up a civil court claim, or the judge will just toss the case. Not talking to MIL does not fall under abandonment, or neglect. MIL could try under isolation, but that legal wording for isolation is from contact with everyone, not from a specific person.

Narcissistic mother and then some. I had one. Fortunately, she was just a bully. Big talk until you gave it back, then she retreated. After I got married, she tried something similar. She didn't like my wife and I didn't care. She was my wife. She said the wrong thing to me one day, and I went NC until she learned how to talk to me as an adult with a life and responsibilities that had nothing to do with her. It took three years. I constantly reminded her I have a home to go to if she starts acting up again. She's been gone a little over 22 years. Loved her. Didn't like her. Appreciated her. Don't miss her.

Ex, evil MIL, and a restraining order. Sounds like a toxic ol time

We got an incompetent lawyer here.

That husband is an absolute legend, mega keeper, absolute bro, and a mega king. Mad respect for the man!

Get a restraining order and then the legal issues would be solved.

You got a good man this time. You both deserve happiness.

OP really needs to stand up for herself and stop trying so hard to be nice. Time and again MIL proved that she held nothing but disdain for OP but she kept giving MIL another chance.

I'm not going to lie, if someome did that to my best friend or my sister, i would probably be in jail for kicking the teerh in on the abuser and threatening MIL that she was next.

Get a restraining order for God's sake. How difficult can that be.

@DatOneSwedishBoi69

2 күн бұрын

Very. Bureaucracy ruins lives..

I just don't get how people can just do these things, like can you be so terrible to others and not be disgusted with yourself? Mil and ex are crazy disgusting people

@DarkEinherjar

12 күн бұрын

Don't try to understand the thought process of a narcissist. It's a waste of time.

@rogueshark23

12 күн бұрын

​@@DarkEinherjar that's true and you have to be very narcissistic to bring an abusive ex to a wedding.

To be fair thats an easy case of restraining order. Theres whole wedding as witnesses

Someone should give Alana (op’s close friend) an award for being such a supportive friend

YOU ALMOST BECAME A CAT LADY!?! Man this situation was THAT toxic, hope you’ll get the best in life

Today is the day of stepmonsters and monsters-in-law, it seems...

@purplerosearmy4264

12 күн бұрын

Next day stepdaughters

Ok in what world is cutting someone off ''mental abuse'' or ''elderly abuse'' Like I am pretty sure every adult can cute every other adult off how they like I can't belive there would be literaly any legal ground... Whats gona happen? The judge tell him to visit his mother?!?! In what world would that happen???

Car accidents happen often, you know.. Just saying, not hinting nothing..

@munchie3909

11 күн бұрын

I can either see or don’t see what you’re going for and I can neither confirm nor deny that I like it 😉

Holy shit, the moment i heard her pretty much say that her husband could talk to his mother, all i could think was "WTF ARE YOU DOING?!NO😱"

No court can force you to talk to people that you've chosen to cut off. the judge would lose there job.

hallmark movie and laws dont apply 101

This is stupid!! They could get a restraining order against her for what she did! She brought OP abusive ex to their wedding!! Even a judge would see how crazy that was!!

the fact they kept compromising just taught her she could get away with this bs. should have put foot down earlier and just cut contact way before the wedding

Damn MONSTER IN LAW PT 2😂😂😂

Move away. Far far away.

A MOTHER IN LAW LEARNS RESPECT GOES BOTH WAYS??? (NOT CLICKBAIT) (GONE RIGHT)

For a moment i thought he was cheating😅

they need to drop this so called mother and never talk to her again

This shows how the courts and society as a whole doesn’t understand the impact of narcissistic abuse They shouldn’t have even had to move just to escape the MIL. And because she’s old people want to have sympathy

Why do I get the feeling that MiL has been projecting the whole time? She talks so poorly about divorcees like she had experience in it and is so desperate to control who her son marries, it makes you wonder why she never got remarried/dated after her husband passed. Glad her son is a real man and didn't take her bs. Poor OP, at least her husband, family and friends have her back.

Play stupid games; win stupid prizes

A boy mom. She was too attached to her son.

Stop being scary and take her ass to court

He's not her legal guardian so she can't get him in trouble for elder neglect when he's not even watching over her for any reason and he shouldn't have to break no contact with his mother just because she thinks she's got the right to interfere in his life and the courts is just going to roll over and let her do it and he can just be hateful with her till eventually she gets the idea that he don't want to be around her

You could just mount cameras and record her calls and then sue her for harrassment. Done just like that.

Garbage! That’s a straight restraining order for the old trout.

@stinky_twigs

12 күн бұрын

i've never heard someone called an "old trout" and ykw i'm here for it. thank you for adding this to my arsenal

I’m so pissed at this. At this point, your husband should admit her into a nursing home, if she really is a) as old to be considered elder and b) if she wants to shout emotional distress. At that point, she can yell and scream if she wants, but if the court sees her as requiring assistance, she can no longer use it against you. Or give her a liscensed elderly nanny, that also works

You don't know about intentional infliction of emotional distress?

It's not your fault it's your mil's fault because she brought his ex to ruin her wedding and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything.

@dragonhunter690

12 күн бұрын

What is this rant all about? That's just the same ordinary stuff you've posted 100 times earlier It doesn't even make sense why the good people are "delusional" Just because they feel bad about the thing they shouldn't have to, doesn't mean that you can call it however you like Being unreasonable here ain't good bruh

@AarushK007

12 күн бұрын

​@@dragonhunter690probably just some bot account

@dragonhunter690

12 күн бұрын

@@AarushK007 I thought so too but I couldn't think of any good way to prove that

"Tension in the air was palpable" ... Yup. AI generated.

@shelby6

11 күн бұрын

That's a common saying, such as the silence was deafening

Invest in cameras. I hope you stay safe with your husband and have a great life and a good future 😙😊 good luck.

I didnt know you could take someone to court for cutting you off

Nope keep NC. Move and get a restraining order against MIL.

Are they in any way responsible for her? I mean do they actually have any documents stating that they are their primary caregiver to the elderly mother?

They can’t get a restraining order on her?

Op is spineless.

Go to court? Both lawyers saying work it out? FAKE.

I agree with the useless lawyer comment; theirs is incompetent and mil's is criminally effective

I will say this once. Your children are not required or law bound to care for you. Kids don't sign any HIPPA or hospital paper work. Emergency contact at most.

Smart MIL gains a daughter, but a stupid one loses a son

SOMEONE NEEDS TO GO INTO A LOW END NURSING HOME

Yea… ain’t no one worth all this.

@munchie3909

11 күн бұрын

I would say the husband is. Even though the MIL put OP through all that bull shiggidy, he still stuck with her and even went no contact with his mother because what she did to his wife.

How weak are these LOSERS"?!?! Just go CO CONTACT, and don't even tell her. She can't sue you for not speaking to her. Just STOP INTERACTING with her at every possible level.

As a fake comment, there are things op and her husband can do to keep her from interfering with them again.... I don't know, A pillow comes to mind. Or change numbers. Tell job that she's crazy and stop taking their calls. She's crazy. Worst case scenario, move. Out of state. Ghost her.

Wow….how does a woman like this birth and raise a son like that. Total opposites. Good on op finding a rare gem. I found one myself after 9 years of an abusive relationship. I got my happily ever after without as much drama and my new MIL is ok.

Say it with me everybody... EMOTIONAL INCEST!!

Here's what you do. You say "Since your health is at risk, give me a time and place and I'll see to you" and book a nurse for that time and place and when she calls to complain say "You accused me of medical neglect so i hired you a nurse." And hang up on her. Sidenote: They really should have just broken up at the first sign of discord. Shit like this only ever really escalates so unless they worked through their issues they should have just called it quits when they could. Never marry into a family that doesn't like you. Imagine five-ten years down the line they decide to have kids and all the added stress they'll be under. This is how you get those stories about relatives who do wildly inappropriate things years down the line and act entitled and abuse people. Because they let them get away with it in the past and established a pattern of this stuff being acceptable.

"the tension in the room was palpable" ah its an AI story

Idk I think OP and her husband should've filed a restraining order against his mom like this woman just won't stop! Like save the money and headaches and get the law involved, she is a "if there's a will there's a way" type of boy mom. She will never sever that umbilical cord unless she gets the books thrown at her

Not sure what country this is. But parents can't force contact in The States.

Yeah umm… that lawsuit is a pile of crap….not interacting with someone would NEVER be classified as “elder abuse”. These AI stories are getting a BIT out of hand

i cant believe some people just cant understand words

My gosh, listening to this whole story. While I am glad OP got a keeper of a husband, it is kind of astounding that he is the offspring of such a malignant narcissist like the MIL. Yes, I do consider her to be of he malignant type, cause who in the right mind brings a tormentor to the victim knowingly? The added sadism to make OP terrified makes her worse than a lot of narcissists, and even worse, based on her actions, it's clear she knows how to exploit "rules lawyer" to manipulate the husband back into her fold. OP, my advice is to not take the bait. Manipulators like her love to set traps like these, cause all she wants is a chance to sink her claws into your husband and poison his mind against you, and one chance is really all it takes. If she is really intent on getting her son back (for pretty creepy reasons, honestly, given their background), force her to jump through every last (proverbial) fiery hoop until she either tires herself out, or has a change of mind (which I seriously doubt). It looks like physical distance is your only defense against her, so do that. If you value your sanity and mental health, you know what to do.

Fake story or the worst lawyer in the country?

She fking traumatized you again.

Wait, so the Ex who was happy to supposedly ruin OP life didn't press charges for assault? Come on AI, you could added some more drama right there 😑

MIL can only file B.S. Elder Abuse claim one time. (Personally, I am not sure any reputable lawyer would even take such a case.) Unfortunately, narcissists are very good at convincing other people that they are the victim. (This is how they inspire their flying monkeys.) A good lawyer would have told you the best way to defeat a narcissist in Court is to quietly collect evidence as they brazenly try to bully you. (Keep a journal, save text messages and take photos of the stalking behavior.) After about 2 or 3 months you will have enough evidence to persuade any Judge or Jury that the supposed victim is the real psycho. This is a complete pain, but it helps you establish the truth if a need ever arises. Then you your can go into "Rock Mode" where you have no feelings toward them anymore.

@Burnsy12

12 күн бұрын

I don't see a single country on earth, other than maybe China, where you can sue someone for Elderly Abuse, if they don't live with you and are not responsible for you. And I mentioned China only because the culture dictates that children must take care of parents.

Wait nvm mil is a horrible person

Why is the name of that abusive ex also my name😭😭😭

I have no fucking clue where you live but no one can force you to be with or around someone you do not want to be around. If they try say you are responsible for a murder charge see how quick they change their tune.

I would've petrend to for MIL but and even help her find a new husband. When they get married. I'll would do the same thing to her second wedding.

This story makes no sense.

You deciding to talk to her again is enabling her and telling her that if she mentally manipulates you she can get what she wants, you should have taken her to court although I’m convinced that se was bluffing since when you went forward with your threat to shun her she backed down likely because she knew she was in the wrong.

I love these video lmao

So OP is completely stupid got it.

What's the song on the guitar?

Get your under 10 hours ticket here (if u want to)

I believe now that this stories are all made up, considering that your MIL brought your abusive ex and you still feel guilty for how his son is treating her? Like seriously? No person in her/his right mind will feel guilty for cutting off toxic people. Like why? Obviously this is made up. Its always the "i feel guilty" "i feel I was being harsh" "i didnt mean to blah blah". annoying story

Move

Fake

@marcruth4531

11 күн бұрын

Yeah, I'm starting to think this narrator isn't a real person...

@jaquelinegarcia119

5 күн бұрын

Yep. It seemed really detailed from the start, I gave it a chance then I heard the word "palpable" n I was out.

Thank the op mfr

That’s not elder abuse! This is so fake

Yea this Shit

Yerrr

😮😢❤

It's Crazy that a man would choose a woman who came into his life for 2-3months over his mother. He should atleast think about his mother's choices . Or try and explain her his choices. And the points his mother put were purely out of love for him as he is her only child and she wants the best for him. Seems like he is rich and his mother was trying to protect him which is completely natural. But looks like the man couldn't handle his lonely mother correctly.

@bzzs-c2o

11 күн бұрын

Also I am not blaming OP here. But the man should've understood better. Just ignoring problems don't solve them.

I bet u would not pin this comment

Phrases like "the tension in the room was palpable" and "determination" tell me this didn’t actually happen. No one talks like that

I do trust the MIL. She is right to not want a divorced woman as her DIL. Marrying an older divorced woman, lol, this marriage will fail.

I can't be the only one who feels a lil off with the age gaps of these stories

MIL was right about used goods, with OP being near 40. But damn is the MIL as toxic as lead paint, and husband should get a restraining order against his mom.

Dude is going to regret marrying this woman. She’s older and broken with a questionable past. This is definitely going to end badly!!

@beepybopbap

12 күн бұрын

Bro she was abused.

@aaronwishard7093

12 күн бұрын

​@@beepybopbapBro that's the MIL's burner KZread account.

@nightking8490

12 күн бұрын

Exactly. All this excitement will end soon. LMAO.