My eyes were bawling when she mentions how she's only a woman and she can't do much for the mom. Hits me right in the heart because I'm a girl too.

I don't want to offend people but it's true, many Hmong brothers has forgotten their duties to take care of their parents because they try to run off as quickly as possible. Why do we only learn when it's too late? We've read and heard of all stories of regret of not being there yet we can't embed that into our heads. As a CNA and nursing student, believe me when I say don't put your parents in the nursing home. All they can really give is essential care, very little to none genuine love. No one can love and care about your parents like you do.

@tsuvtom7668

9 жыл бұрын

I don't want to offend people but, nowadays, most daughter-in-laws have loss their role.

@ayangktmtu

9 жыл бұрын

amen to that. sons has let their wives have more say and doing.

@Rainning04

6 жыл бұрын

Gotta be real here, some times hmong bois and hmong daughters got to look at the real pictures sometimes hmong bois listens to their parents and lost their wives and kids, or sometimes hmong daughters listen to their parents and they lost their husbands and kids... but gotta to understand the mortals and concepts of a difference between a mom and his wife, a daughter in law and a mom. As a responsible person you don’t need to change or let your husband choose between his mom and you. There is a saying that without your parents your husband wouldn’t be alive, without your parents you wouldn’t be alive so we as husbands and wives needs to learn n respect that about our mom and dad and his mom n his dad. And honestly not all parents are as understanding. Some dislike their nyab some dislike their son in law. I understand this, but I think they need to make a teaching about those in laws who likes to kill their sons or daughters marriage.

@SuckMyT0e

5 жыл бұрын

4 years late but I do agree women play part of it too. I understand there are stories of evil mother-in-laws but at the end of the day, the fact of the matter is that she is the one who made it possible for you to be with your husband! If you really loved your husband, you should never EVER give him the choice to choose between you or his mom. And if it ever came down to a life and death situation (which I doubt would ever happen but we're talking about IF situations) in the future, my man better fucking choose his mom. Your love for your mother-in-law is a reflection of your love for your husband. One day, we will all be mothers ourselves and we should definitely ask ourselves how would we feel if our sons' wives acted the way you act towards your mother-in-law.

@pakoulor8504

3 жыл бұрын

Don't wanna offend you but that's sexist. I don't think it's right at all to be having this role within family. If you already decided that our Hmong brother must take care of our parents, Hmong women cannot complain about being a nyab and doing their traditional role. We can't just reverse one gender's role while keeping the other. Our sisters fought hard for us to have the same rights as our brothers, and you literally just pushed all their hard work 50 years back. It's that idea that keeps us Hmong women and men in this patriarchy system. We can't be screaming that we want to be treated equally then shift gender roles down our brother's throat.

Thank you for this beautiful spoken word/teaching/message piece of life and the blessing and reminder of how dear our parents and life is to us.

The storyline is good and truly amazing. As daughters, those are the three stages in lives. Daughter >> Daughter in Law >> Mother. My only thing is that I truly cannot stand daughter-in-laws like that. You should never make your husband choose between you or his mother. Its sad because it has been done and will continue to be done. Great job!!

In this new century, women too can care for their parents in old age.

This should be titled Nyab Mob Pim

@yprime651

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Tony-bv7gz

3 жыл бұрын

Or one could argue the title Tus Ntshai Pim depending on the situation.

As a hmong daughter/daughter inlaw/mother with brothers of my own, I thought this was really touching. It really hit home. My family was blessed to have two loving nyabs, I can only hope my future nyabs will love my parents the way I loved them or better. If not, I hope my brothers will be strong enough to know that a wife can be replaced, but you only get one mom.

Story of a very sad traditional Hmong culture still held within some homes...I am thankful to be Hmoob but there are things that we need to learn to change for the better. All children are to take part in the care taking of both sides of parents in their old age, biological and n laws. It is such a heavy role for one person or in Hmong culture, the the son(s) to do all the care taking. It should be both brothers, nyab, sisters, and vauv all hands of deck.

Great message and great video!! I literally cried my eyes out and the people at the coffee shop thought I WAS CRAZY!! LOL

Tus muam cov lus rau tus nyab txaus nws ev kawg li!! Tsis paub tias tus nyab puas yuav nkag siab thiab!!! Zoo siab uas tseem muaj tej muam txawj xav zoo li no thiab! Tus tub los kuj yog ua tsis taus txiv. Tiam no ces yeej zoo li no!!! Nws yeem xaiv nws tus poj niam dua li nws niam!!! Hmoob laus hu tej tub zoo li no hais tias "tsis muaj noob qes los sis ua tsis taus txiv!" XAV KOM PEB HMOOB SAWV DAWS TSHWJ XEEB COV HLUAS KOM NCO NTSOOV TIAS "YUS YUAV MUS YUAV THIAB HU LEEJ TWG UA YUS TUS POJ NIAM LOS YEEJ TAU - "HMOOB LAUS HAIS TIAS POJ NIAM CES NYOB HAUV ROOJ PAIM" HOS YUS YUAV MUS MUAB IB TUS POJ NIAM THIAB HU NWS UA YUS NIAM CES, TIAM NO YOG DHAU YUS NIAM LAWM CES TAS LI NTAWD LAWM XWB!!! YUS YUAV MUAB IB TUS POJ NIAM LOS UA YUS NIAM TSIS TAU NTXIV LAWM. NTIAJ TEB NO TSUAS MUAJ IB TUS POJ NIAM THIAJ YOG YUS NIAM XWB OS HMOOB THIAB TSHWJ XEEB COV HLUAS HMOOB TIAM 21 eeeee!!!!

Despite all these controversies that people are criticizing, the hand and feet concept was cool lol

Thank you for the video. It was such a touching story and message to all youths out there. And sadly I am experiencing this. I'm just glad that in still not yet married, give me more chance to help my parents and grandparents, especially my mom with bad health condition as much as I can. I cannot rely or trust my brothers at all. As some of you may have known, in the Hmong culture, the youngest son was suppose to be the one responsible of taking care of the elders when they get older and retire from work. But unfortunately my youngest brother doesn't want that. Him and my Nyab wants to move out and live on their own. It's just sad that, I have not seen him done enough to repay all the my parent has done to raise us up. My mom's happiness is everything to me. To see her cry breaks my heart even more. There was an old saying from the elders that, " yus ua yus Niam poob lub kua muag rau yus, ces yus yuav tau ev yus Niam lub kua muag nra ntawm yus lub nrob qaum mus tag ib sim. "

Mej ua tau zoo hab tu sab kawg le os.peb zoo sab tas.peb tau yug lug ua...hmoob...peb hmoob yeej zoo nkauj zoo nrau le luas lwm haiv neeg hab os.lwm hnub mej lug ua...movie rua peb saib os.kuv txaus sab txhawb mej lub zug os

@PorshaProduction

4 жыл бұрын

Ua tsaug rua koj cov lug txhawb

I'm not hmong, but this pulls at my heart stings. I'm getting married into a hmong family, I would never treat my mother in law like that. What a powerful message, take care of your parents when they're older. They're not going to be here for long.

Video is very inspiring with a very spoken message, but like my father said....one day if I am not able to care for myself anymore, if you love me and love yourself, take me to a group home. You will always be my kids, my life, but you are going to scarified loosing a job to care for me, I rather stay at a group home with someone to care for me and I just wish and hope that you come and visit me, your father. So if you look into this video, there are pros and cons to both side of the story. I rather have my kids take me to a group home then leave me alone by myself.

Most parents still prefer living with the son. Though I told my parents if my brothers don't ever want them, they still got my sister and me.

Well said! Can someone please give this person a medal! The words you use are worth more than gold.

Very beautiful story and production.

This short film has such beautiful paj lug throughout, and it shares a message that is so pivotal in our culture. As the last daughter to my parents, I can relate. Thanks for the short film.

This is a lovly kind thing telling us that it's immportant no matter how much you're parents yell at u they will always love u as much as god does.God bless u

Cas tu siab ua luaj...im crying when watching this...tus sister hauv no hais tau cov lus tu siab thiab zoo kawg li os thov sawv daws hlub yus niam nawb...

The message in this short film continues to be relevant. Thank you😔😭❤

Very touching! Made me cry like a baby.

Hais cov lus thiab rau cov ntawv tau zoo heev li

Even though im a girl, Im taking my mom in with me. I dont care for "traditions"

@mayaserenaher5336

6 жыл бұрын

Mkb KC That's good. I know many daughters who want to take their parents but sometimes it's not the daughter, it's the parents who aren't willing to go because it's "'not right". So sad.

We born be a kid. We will be a parents. Please love every one who need your love. Thanks for sharing this message.

I worked in a skilled facility as a nurse two years ago and i had a Vietnamese patient. The first time I administered medication to her, I cried because she reminded me of my mother. I always talked to her, but she would never say a word back to me nor or anyone else. Im still sad thinking about it now.

This was emotional. Love your parents to the fullest.

Beautifully written and translated!! I love it! Love the message too!

Very touching and inspirational! I'm glad that I finally have gotten to watch a video where I can shed a tear. Much ablide!

I expect and hope that my nyabs would love and respect my parents but I had never expect my nyabs to fulfill my job of nurture for it is my siblings and I that need to return it.. They can if its within their reach but they are not obligate to and if they do.. Thank you. As a mother I had grown to open my eyes and see things in its place... "As I raise my kids I hope that one day MY daughter and son will return the love and nurture back to me during my old age. Never once had I hope to receive it from someone else..." I understand the point of the video is to point out only the unlovely and not understandable nyabs but yet the message wasn't clear. It was but just a wall for many children to hide behind the reality. Honestly, this world would be more at peace if people stop making these kind of video by practicing the old way to point finger at one person (and that person is all the Hmong females on earth). She received it from her mother that had nurtured her and owe it to that person only, realistically. We all (male n female) still owe it to the person that raised us so we need to stop the practice of expecting someone else's to fulfill our share or duties. Most Nyabs love and care for their in laws as much as they possibly can but remember that it will not be the same as it would to be from the daughter n the son whom their parents nurtured and had lost many sleeps, sweats, energy, hope, and tears for them. It is them (which is all of us.. The children in the world) who owe it to their parents. I hope that what I said does not offend anyone and if I did.. I truly apologize but it is just a reality check. Continue to love those who had loved you and still does. There's never a freebie out of a mother-love so deep. As we grow up many of us had forgotten the old days when we were taken care by our mothers and the hope of our mothers... Please do not use someone else's back to hide behind from the reality. As a daughter, just because u are married does not meant you got the freebie to be careless when you chose to and expect someone else's to carry on your role for that position will never be satisfy because it still belongs to u so shame on you. As a son, please do not marry someone expecting them to carry on your part as well for it will stay vacant for as long as you shield behind your wife's back. She is there but to be your helper and support not to fulfill your duty. So stop making excuses to love and nurture your parents for they never had once made an excuse to not care for you. They had only made SACRIFICES to love you so as children let's not forget the facts... kzread.info/dash/bejne/noeWmJp8kpnAfLg.html

@hmooblis6192

4 жыл бұрын

Shoua Xiong very well said!

Too good.. this should go viral

This brought me to tears... Wow... Beautiful work all! :)

Awesome! I knew the DP was an experienced cinematographer. The shots made a lot of sense. Great job Porsha, Lu, and everyone else in this project. The writing is pretty amazing!

Yog lawm os, qhov video no ua raws nkaus li kuv niam cov nyab ntag. Yog me tub ua hawj lwm rau niam ces nyab txawm los cem. Peb ua neej nyob leej niam tsuas yog ntshaw nws tej menyuam txoj kev hlub rau thaum nws laus xwb mog. Muaj qee leej yeej ua tsis tau li leej niam txoj kev cia saib. Hom tub zoo li zaj dab neeg no ces tsuas nkim leej niam lub zog thiab roj ntsha yug xwb os. Cas tu siab ua luaj.

Thank you so much for making this video.

this is sooo sad and yet beautifully told. I will shared this with my mom, i know she will definitely appreciate it.

Also, it seems like the actors have experience as well. They are pretty good on screen! GREAT JOB!!

thank you..... for the tears....... and a life lesson for the future gen.

Beautiful story! love what the daughter said to the sister in law.

Great lyrics. Strong portrayal of the decisions Hmong men have to make in this world.

I was moved to tears by this video. This is a truly amazing video! Please continue to show us more wonderful videos!

Amazing video. The narration was beautiful.

Very touching film. Made me cry. It made me think of my grandma.

This was a powerful short film of mothers. I really appreciate your film! Great job!

My uncle kao!👍👍👏 soo good haven't seem him for 3 years

So powerful. I cried. Ua ib tug ntxhais lawm tsis xav hlav mus ua nyab li os.

WELL DONE! Tears rolling downs my eyes.

Thanks for the video here. It's mean a lots to me especially being in the Navy and away from home. You did a great job!

Very well done. I almost shed a few tears. Keep it up!

Daughters are more attached to their parents more than the sons in some cases. Usually, daughters love their parents more and understand their duties as taking care of their parents is important. Son's on the other hand do love their parents, but not so many love it to heart. If you're a son or a daughter and you love it to heart then you're a good person and will choose to love parents until the end. Sons are like the man of the house someday when they have a family, so they need to be careful at what they choose to do in their life. I wish everyone to have a happy life and live the life you won't regret. Peace! Life cannot be complete without your parent, they are the best gift from lord GOD. So, take care of that special gift and care for it to the very end to show that you do have a heart to love.

This made me cry 😭😭. I love my parents so much that they sacrificed so much for im so glad to have my parents

beautiful poem. thank you for sharing.

This is so touching. Unlike a lot of Hmong families, I'm an only child.. And everytime I think of my future, I always think of how my parents will always be a part of it, but we all know that one day, they've gotta go. Watching this short film makes me want provide as much as I can for my parents. :')

I know all you ladies out there love your mom, but this story is suppose to make us think about our MIL too. We are suppose to treat our MIL like she is our real mom cause we wouldn't want our nyabs to mistreat our mom either.

Awww this was so wonderful. Thank you so much for putting this touching video up!

Very touching story, and strong message. Keep up the great work!

Must be the pregnancy hormones, but, I could barely watch it without bawllin like a baby.. lol. beautiful.

Great video, very inspiring.

I would never put my parents or grand parents in a retirement home. Fuck that!

A beautiful message. Thanks for sharing.

Great video! Ua tau lug qha peb cov menyuam kuam paub taab, hlub nam hlub txwv. Lwm nub peb yuav moog ua nam ua txwv hab. Yuav tau sab luj mog.

Wow...amazing story.

Finally a great video! Words, scripts, acting, cinematography, music and the moral of this Hmong cultural story. Got my heart strings pulled and crying as mama gets older and left sorrowfully at the nursing home 😓 At the end did the sister say 'raise your kids well or what goes around comes around...

tu siab tshaj plaw

It was such a touching video. Thanks Phoua for such a lovely video!

This is the best i watch it once a month

Very powerful words. Hope to see more in the future

Amazing. Thank you for making this video. I absolutely love it.

Lovely. Great video. Great message. Wish others outside the Hmong community could see this

Great JOB! I love the fluent pronouncation. This really is very influential.

Awaw this is soo good! It's also so touching and sad.

You can always find another wife but you will never ever be able to find someone else to your parents. Choose wisely and man up. Don't wait till its too late and regret you could of done better.

It's time to know your role before it's too late... We're not getting no younger, If you cant figure out life by now, then you'll never figure it out, and because of the way that you have lived your life the way that you wanted to, always trying to please yourself and search for your happiness, your ignorance and childish ways lost touch with what was truly important... It's time to open your eyes and take a real good look, and you will soon realize that everything that you've done, and worked so hard for was all meaningless... By then it'll be too late, because life is short... And you will see history repeat itself all over again when the time comes that your own Sons will throw you away as well... Don't say that I never told ya so... Sib ntsib lawm tiam... 🕊

Great message. Similar situations to this video do happen in reality. However, things can be prevented though difficult. This video has a good moral behind the story teaching individuals to love their parents although everyone will start their own family.

Wm zoo heev li o ua tsaug

Thank you for sharing this video. It will inspire our generation to want to learn our culture and tradition and to keep it alive. -Chizzo

Ladies and gentlemen the message in this video is made to touch all those that can relate to any or all the characters role in this film. Life is whatever you yourself proceeds it to be. Please dont be quick to judge or speak of hatred towards any one. The main point of this film's message is @ 5:50. If this film touches you in anyway bad,good,sad,happy,angry, then the director is doing a great job on delivering the message. Also note that these actors and actress are not pay professionals and this Film is produce under zero budget. Please help and support Film Director Porsha Chang on her next and up coming films thanks.

Growing in this day and age, we truly forget that a mother is only a mother to her child. Tus nyab, tus vaus should not be placed into a position where they need to uphold their husband/wife's parent with more value than their own, this is the honest truth. But with that, a son/daughter should not put themselves in a position to choose parent or spouse. My mother bore me from her womb, ached with belly pain for my birth, a dowery of $5000 does not buy my birth and years with my mother. I do not expect my nyabs/vaus to love me, but I will love my children regardless.

Amazing!!! Me too almost she'd a tear wow...

Makes me cry every time.

This is Such a Wonderful video its very inspiring great Video and advice to watch and hear tear'ed up a little while watching this , Great Job !

I always cry watching this 😭 as a nyab I will love my in laws like my own parents. I'll take care of both sets of parents and I hope my husband can respect that too.

I love this!

In my opinion the part that hit my heart so bad was 3.25 to 3.36. What the wife said made me feel sad 😒

Great short film and I look forward to more.

Amazing video. Great message.

Thank you for such a beautiful video.

I love this film. I re-watch it alot and it still makes me cry! As girls, we want to take in our parent in once they get old but sometime it's not us who are not willing to take our parent in. Sometime it's just our parent trying to follow the tradition no matter what. My mother always cry to us about how scare she is once she grow weak & we're all married because we will not help her anymore. As from girls in the family, we say we will take care of our parent no matter what but sometime our parent rejects because we are not that kind of family anymore. They still love us but they just follow the tradition too much of being with the last son in the family or other method beside the daughter. Not only so, they love all their daughter but they always have the heart of not wanting to ruin their daughter life. Im not saying they want to ruin their sons life or the son doesn't want to take care of their parents but because sons are not changed spiritually to the other family, they are still known as family. Also I'm not a son, I wouldn't know their perspective but I'm pretty sure there are millions hmong guy out there will take care of their parent regardlessly. Ik If my mom sees this video, she will cry secretly. Thank you for the film! Keep it up

Sound just like my aunt story .. she just recently pass away n while her kids dont even love her..

muaj ib cov niam pog los yeej phem thiab...tau cov nyab zoo los hais tias phem. cov niam pog ua ua phem yuav tsum tau cov nyab phem thiab.

Very touching..great job. Expecting more from this channel :D

Thanks for sharing. It really touched my heart.

Very thoughtful story.

Very nice and strong message. Thank you. :)

this made me cry...but this is an inspiring video :)

Short film was great. Please continue. I also like to message to the Nyab.

Wonderful n very true as a Hmong girl :)

Awww got me teary, great job!

Thank you for sharing sister! It's true!😊🖒