My boyfriend did most of the chores during the worst period of my seasonal depression and it just solidified that being with him is the best decision I’ve ever made

@abigailsandoval2632

2 жыл бұрын

We love thatttt 😩😩😩!!

Hot take on that first story: Not petty or passive aggressive at all. When she tried to talk to him about it, she's cast as the bad guy or "naggy wife/girlfriend". When she did things his way/complied, all she did was recenter the narrative on his behavior/standard, which he realized he didn't like. I wouldn't even call that one malicious compliance, just a negotiation of standards taken to extremes, which he brought upon himself.

@TwoHotTakes

2 жыл бұрын

This is a good way to reframe it.. I like it

@Lauren-ib3ok

2 жыл бұрын

Helllll yes!! Agreed 😊

@jackiekenobi3359

2 жыл бұрын

How I saw it. I don’t see how she was be considered an asshole at all. The dude decided to fake being bad at shit. Grow up , if it takes letting them deal with that stuff fine. They deserved it cause clearly they can do said chores

@lillieparnickle

2 жыл бұрын

I tried to take the route with my boyfriend…. It literally blew up in my face 😩 he didn’t care at all that our house was filthy. So now I’m back to being the only one doing dishes and cleaning the floors

@jackiekenobi3359

2 жыл бұрын

@@lillieparnickle girl be careful your supposed to be his partner not his mother 😭

Weaponized incompetence makes me rage. All pettiness is negated in my opinion. My husband always used to use "I didn't know how ___" as an excuse to not do certain household chores. One time he didn't reheat leftovers we were eating for dinner because he "didn't know what temperature to heat it to" and I lost it. Now he knows "I don't know" is not a viable excuse for anything unless it's genuinely complicated.

@L3onking

2 жыл бұрын

There's a chance he could have been an undiagnosed Neurodivergent brain. ADHD often causes a time blindness with short term memory loss that results with a hyper focus on some tasks and complete ignorance of others. Untreated, it makes the brain work overtime to manage the sensory overload so anything can trigger a deer in headlights type of shock. He might not intentionally lie but his body is acting instinctively as a flight response. I'm saying this cause my partner behaved the same way till he got treated for ADHD and treating it has been life changing. Way less frustration for both of us

@ashmeetspice

2 жыл бұрын

@@L3onking He didn't forget the task he, "didn't know what temperature to heat it to," while also having the same access to google everyone else has.

@L3onking

2 жыл бұрын

@@ashmeetspice I'd call his mother and demand a refund 🤦🏽

@InvincibleMage

2 жыл бұрын

@@L3onking this isn't an ADHD symptom, at all. It's an incompetence symptom. It takes common sense, or googling. Heat til the food is hot, that's it. There is no need for times or specific Temps, the food was already cooked, it just needed to be heated up again- aka the food needed to be hot and that was it

@L3onking

2 жыл бұрын

@@InvincibleMage untreated neurodivergency has an entire spectrum of symptoms and manifests differently depending on the individual, the major indicator is if they are aware of it or if their memory legitimately gets foggy. Normally this behaviour is caught earlier on but some people have the privilege of being carried through tasks by others and only when they are on their own does their life fall apart. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt but I totally see how this was pure sloth and not even an exorcism would cure that toxic disrespect.

“toucan sam isn’t a macaw..?” “toucan sam is a toucan” 💀💀😭

@Lauren-ib3ok

2 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha fml

@brittanyzahn7939

Жыл бұрын

@@Lauren-ib3ok It was cute! lol Love when you are a guest! :)

@jenniferharrington917

Жыл бұрын

Right?? Lol

@monserizo7338

Жыл бұрын

I feel Lauren bc i thought the same 🤣🤣🤣🤣

My mom used to say “I’ll let you clean the bathroom” and being a child I was like “hell yeah you’ll LET me clean the bathroom? How cool!”

@jaideng.5900

2 жыл бұрын

My mom loved putting the dishes away as a kid because her mom said she put the silverware up the fastest and she was great at putting dishes away. 😂 Same energy lol.

@breataitoko

2 жыл бұрын

LMFAO

@Katia.t.t

2 жыл бұрын

My mom used to tell me I was so good at cleaning the bathroom drawers (which were always a MESS for some reason) and I was so proud lol

@frutcakes6370

Жыл бұрын

@@Katia.t.t aww! 🥹🥹

@tanyastacy-haws993

Ай бұрын

Positivity has shown to be very effective in teaching kids to want to make a change. It’s one of my favorite things I’ve learned this semester in school.

I accidentally was maliciously compliant at a VERY young age. My mom tells this story all the time. But when my sister and I were like 4/5 (we're twins) we were screaming fighting with each other and my mom came up to yell at us and she looked at me and said, "Corie Anne, not another word out of you." So then like 5 minutes later she asked us what we wanted for dinner and my sister answered, but I didnt. My mom, already mad, said "Corie Anne answer me when I'm talking to you." and I said back, "but mom you said not another word." Sooo…I started being a sarcastic ass at a very young age

In highschool I was dress coded for my shorts being too short. I'm very tall with long legs and arms. The rule was shorts must be fingertip length. Granted the shorts I was wearing were not technically in dress code but they were perfectly appropriate (my mother would never let me out of the house if they weren't). Anywho, I got called to the office and was told I had to change or go home. It just so happened that we had a track meet that day and I had my uniform shorts and I asked if I could wear those instead of going home to change. The office couldn't tell me no because they were a school issued uniform but the uniform shorts (that I wore the rest of the day) were about two inches shorter than the shorts I had worn to school 😂

Malicious compliance is completely justified when someone is warned something bad may happen, and that person brushes off the warning and says to proceed. That stuff from a boss is infuriating. Just started the pod, I can’t wait to listen! 💖💕

@vincintron7151

2 жыл бұрын

Working in retail, and even at my current job, Malicious Compliance is and was my go-to method to get my point across. I make it a point to do my work in a way that my bosses can trust that what I'm doing is correct, to the best of my ability. When someone comes along and wants me to do more or do it in another way that makes no sense and I know will fail, I'll ask if they're sure and then go right along with their plan TO A 'T' with zero deviation.

@diamondlover14

2 жыл бұрын

I’m not sure where I’ve ever seen a malicious compliance that wasn’t totally justified, no matter how much money was lost or how big of a deal it was. And if you’re like me you’ve heard A LOT of stories. I only mention this b/c they made it sound like people are assholes if they are maliciously compliant.

We need a "pick me" girls episodeee 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@sydneyice

2 жыл бұрын

Thatd be hilarious!

@jesaann93

2 жыл бұрын

I want this to happen! These are the funniest stories!

@abbyliewald1617

2 жыл бұрын

omg yes

@purplepanda7935

2 жыл бұрын

YES, PLEASE

@verogarrcia7

2 жыл бұрын

I need an episode on this!!!

Weaponise incompetence is a form of abuse, breakup is the answer. It doesn’t matter how mild it’s at first, if he can get away with it, it will get worse

@hammo3651

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly !!!!!!!! Why would you even want to be with someone who manipulates you that way

@No-One20

2 жыл бұрын

It's annoying but really not that deep lol

@hammo3651

2 жыл бұрын

@@No-One20 I genuinely don’t think you would feel that way if you were living with it

@creatrixZBD

Жыл бұрын

He or she, but 💯 this

@breathoffreshair7795

Жыл бұрын

@@No-One20 no it latches on to your tolerance and kindness and takes advantage without considering that you will get exhausted and emotionally tired for long periods because of its consistency. Its highly abusive and breaks you into being trained.

the cursed ring story...In my head, this is how MIL meant for it to play out... 1 )OP comes home and can't find ring. Stresses about it, looks for it, but doesn't admit that she lost it. 2) MIL "finds" the ring and gives it to son, meanwhile trash talking OP. Like, "why would she take it off"..."she's probably hiding something"..."isn't it weird that she didn't tell you it's missing" 3) Son confronts OP and they fight/break up. But when OP immediately questions about it...she just came up with the "took it to get cleaned" story.

@alyciageiss4504

Ай бұрын

Omg i was totally thinking something like this also!!

Here's an example of toxic malicious compliance: Some days when I get home from work, I usually like to be left a lone for a little bit. I am a house Cleaner and some days it can be an 8a-6p. I'll get home only to be smothered by my boyfriend, and sometimes I'm just not in the mood and need to decompress. I even cook dinner for us when I get home as well. It also usually happens when I'm PMSing so it's not always constant. I'm a pretty open communicator and relayed to him that some days I just want to be left alone for a bit and lay in bed, absorbing my day. He, instead of laying low and not being physically all over me, decided to just flat out IGNORE me, not looking at me and not responding to me when I talk to him. Pretended like I wasn't there, even AFTER I had my decompression time. I even caught him saying under his breath "I'm just gonna ignore...". All I wanted was some space to breath after a long day but he turned it into something more, something that I would definitely consider malicious.

@ohmydanidarling

2 жыл бұрын

Girl that’s so toxic I’m sorry 😞

@russshh

2 жыл бұрын

you deserve better treatment than this :(

@DiMagnolia

2 жыл бұрын

My dad has done this shit when I’ve asked him repeatedly to please not interrupt me and he continues to do so. If I have to be more forceful in telling him to stop he’s like “fine I’ll just shut up forever” like sir you are OVER THE AGE OF 50! We are both neurodivergent so I completely understand that sometimes you can’t read that someone is unavailable, interrupt, not process information etc but omg.

@julias.4050

2 жыл бұрын

This is a really good example. I’m sorry you have to deal with this

@asanaquarian1302

2 жыл бұрын

please leave that child

I don’t think the ring one was toxic. She’s probably put up with so much from the toxic mil that she eventually snapped. It’s not even a harmful lie, honestly it’s just a bit silly so to say it’s toxic is a reach 😂

@Blue.Berry.Gums.

2 жыл бұрын

I would have put my ring on and laughed in her face while coming clean that it was made up. Also, I would lock/hide the ring going forward. The MIL is so toxic.

@AmishSugar

Жыл бұрын

Was surprised at their take on that one. Clearly the mil is the toxic AH.

@sierragroft5721

Жыл бұрын

I agree, I dont think OP was being toxic. Instead they were totally justified. The MIL was the one being malicious. I have no doubt she never intended to return the ring.

@alyciageiss4504

Ай бұрын

Right!! I was like they have an issue with this one?!?! Seriously?? 🤦🏼‍♀️ MIL was 1000% in the wrong, totally agree with what OP did considering it got her ring back. And telling the MIL the ring is cursed does not actually hurt MIL in any way. I cant believe she actually even believed it lmao

That wasn't Mary Poppins. THAT WAS FROM THE SOUND OF MUSIC. Have respect for the classics

@TwoHotTakes

2 жыл бұрын

JULIE ANDREWS FORGIVE ME

@alicegauci9830

2 жыл бұрын

Came for literally this comment.

@staceystroh2066

2 жыл бұрын

Immediately got offended and was ready to comment lol

@hannahgerow5904

2 жыл бұрын

Glad someone said it before I did lol

@emmygoldman1065

2 жыл бұрын

They were both played by Julie andrews so I think Morgan was basically correct here lol, but I thought the same thing at first

If someone took my engagement ring and tried to tell me it was getting cleaned but took forever to bring it back I'd be pissed! Definitely NOT the asshole!

@lns4life

9 күн бұрын

It was actually only two days. Morgan must've forgotten reading that part of the story lol. Bc she said weeks when they were commenting about it. Not me binging first episode to last. I'm about half way through.

College weight room employee here, we have an anti-cutoff/tank top rule as well, but it’s because the loose edges of a cutoff are more likely to get caught in a machine, or for your fingers to get caught in the shirt when lifting, so it’s a safety thing. It was also because it’s unsanitary since your sweaty skin would be in direct contact with the bar/bench, and most people don’t properly sanitize the equipment.

@Lauren-ib3ok

2 жыл бұрын

Oh wow!!! That makes me feel like more of an asshole for my resistance 😂

@lindseyz6213

2 жыл бұрын

@@Lauren-ib3ok don’t worry lol, I guarantee you’re fine. The person working there definitely didn’t get paid enough to care 😂

@ritapaolantonio2444

2 жыл бұрын

I completely get that except that a) this was a high school gym class so probably never in a weight room (I never was until college, only like wrestlers or sports teams used the weight rooms and that was after school), most of the time u r just running in the gym or playing a sport in the gym and b) men weren’t held to the same standards

My mom’s had her stone swapped. It was a beautiful diamond ring with diamonds all around and i LOVE that ring. When doing chores one day one of the diamonds popped off, luckily it was at home (and the diamonds are pretty big) so she found the diamond and went to a jeweler to get it fixed. One day when getting her nails done she noticed one of the diamonds shined blue under the uv light, she went to another jeweler and they confirmed it was fake, and that the jeweler probably kept the real deal to themselves and replaced it with a fake stone. Unfortunately we never got the real one back as the jeweler denied having anything to do with it.

The curse one reminds me of that parks and rec quote: "there are two things i know about white people: they love rachel ray and they are TERRIFIED of curses"

@KreatureKennedy

2 жыл бұрын

YES! That’s exactly what I thought of too! 🤣

@marley92282

2 жыл бұрын

Literally the best show ever created.

“Toucan Sam isn’t a macaw?” 🦜 I died omg 😂😂😂 love you guys

This podcast really has become a thing. I live in Denver, CO and I was visiting family in Florida during spring break. I met my brothers girlfriend for the first time, we found out we both watch this podcast. We probably spent 2 hours talking about it. Shout out to the notification we both got saying y'all posted, really broke the ice and made meeting someone I practically know everything about a lot easier

Lauren is the sweetest person! "Lauren - Best Toilet Bowl Cleaner" 😶😐😭It just shows how naturally kind she is - little baby Lauren just wanted to make her Mamma proud!

as an European, the culture of allowing parents to be involved in someone else's private life seems extremely strange to me. If my MIL would have taken my ring, firstly my husband would have said smth to her (I put it nicely here) and secondly I would have yelled at her on how can she even allow herself to touch my stuff, who gave her permission to even touch it. and my husband will not allow her to ever enter in our household ever again if she does not contain herself or if she does not act properly. I am his family, not his parents. There is no need of parental approval needed in the European culture. I left the house and I am also married/living with a partner you are not allowed to suggestions or to bad mouthing anyone.

@adolfogarcia8396

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. All of it is weird, she goes and cleans their home?? Her son didn’t say a word to her about the ring? He scolded his fiancée saying they “know how she is”?? that marriage is doomed

@samanthag6613

2 жыл бұрын

Same happens in LATAM. You’ll be miserable if you let your MIL into your house as if it is Hers so couples move far from their parents

As someone who gets pelvic floor physical therapy, that field needs more physical therapists so please get certified! It's always hard scheduling wise to get in to see my therapist because there's so few in the area and so many people need help.

@DiMagnolia

2 жыл бұрын

I did not even know that was a thing, I definitely need to seek it out for myself!

The "I don't know how" excuse is so common. My husband has done it before, with random shit. I HATE it. Like I was asking him to help me change the bedsheets and use the little under the mattress clips to hold the fitted sheet. He just goes "I don't know how. Here" and I said "Guess what, you're going to learn" and made him do it.

as somebody who works commission, the first rule is NEVER judge a customer by their outfit! You NEVER know what they can afford! It’s the business dressed customers in my experience who are cheap or like to shop around. Those in comfortable clothing have no time for lolly-gagging and know exactly what they want.

Ring story: some background that I would like to know is if the mom has ever made comments about OP’s family and their culture, since she so easily believed that she had a evil witchy relative. Heavily on not the asshole side, MIL needs to grow tf up and most likely wouldn’t have given the ring back if she just straight up asked for it. She didn’t take it to a jeweler either, she just took it.

A few weeks ago my boyfriend and I sat together and made a weekly chore chart for this reason. It has essentially eliminated the tit for tat mentality. Chores are only m-f so weekends are all chill. Every day is assigned one area, example Monday is living room, Tuesday is bathrooms etc. Every day has 4 chore options like dust, clean, mop, wash specific things. We each choose two things a day, no assigned tasks just pick two things and do it Whatever two things are left for the day are your tasks if the other two are checked off as completed. We can work ahead and save chores for another day and stack them to do later in the week if not feeling well. This has also made the overwhelming feeling of a whole day designated to clean essentially disappear. Might not work for everyone but it works for us so thought I’d share!

Malicious compliance is like giving people a taste of their own medicine . This is what you want take it 🤷🏻‍♀️ my bf at the time said “we’re better off friends” i simply said “ok no problem” and stopped talking to him completely … now we’re married with kids 😉

The problem with my ex was that he actually DIDN'T mind the house or the dishes or his clothes being dirty...

@marley92282

2 жыл бұрын

I can only uphold this kinda charade for like half a day, tops. I’m way too uncomfortable with letting my house get untidy and my SO is way too comfortable with it. It’s truly a compatibility issue, but for me only.

@crissy3129

Жыл бұрын

SAAAME 🤮 that would not have worked for me because I wouldn't have been able to handle his mess. He wasn't like that when we first started living together, or else it never would have happened. now we're divorced, I have a clean house, laundry constantly done correctly, dishes always washed up etc- save for kids toys strewn about... Aaaannnnnd his house looks like a literal junk yard outside and you get filthy even walking thru it real quick on the inside 🤢

Last story, future MIL got the drama she asked for. MIL is definitely toxic because there is no way you take someone’s ring without permission even if she went to clean the ring which she didn’t and she didn’t give the ring back until threatened. Take the key away and if your fiancé doesn’t get on board with boundaries, your marriage is in trouble.

The first one is hilarious. She tried to communicate properly, it didn't work, so she came up with a way to show him that she's not always going to fix things for him and that there's reasons for her "too high standards". If he's going to use weaponized incompetence than I feel like it's fair to do what she did back, if that can be called malicious compliance. Also my stepsister used to always tell me it was better when I made kraft dinner (boxed mac n cheese) for her so I'd always make it which I realize now was a ploy 😂

I think on that first story that her pettiness was a PERFECT response. I’m the same way as her. I’m “controlling” over certain tasks chore wise and my spouse acts the same…all of a sudden like he can’t do chores. I feel like her response to it is SO much better than just yelling/screaming and getting super frustrated.

As an empath I sense that Morgan likes the phrase “I like it, Picasso” lol

On the ring story, I think the MIL took the ring to cause drama that she can use against OP. That's why she claimed she was having it cleaned, technically a nice thing, and claming she forgot where. That way OP would get mad and make a scene, but MIL would claim she was just trying to be nice. Thus ruining the relationship, that seems like her goal. I don't think she approves of the engagement.

Lauren asking if Toucan Sam is a macaw parrot has the same energy as “Tup-o-ware”.

The ring story: Absolutely not the asshole, the MIL is lucky the girl didn’t report her for stealing the ring

I’d love an episode on internalised misogyny!!

"The curse only works on thieves, which means you didn't take it for cleaning. Just saying, ma" 🤣

This is one of the only podcast I try to make sure I catch all the episodes of, and I find myself chiming in and respond when you guys talk like your in the room lol

@linnkeo8317

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Lol my kids think I'm crazy. They're like mom you know they can't hear you right?!

@juiceboxcb

2 жыл бұрын

Same,shouting to myself with headphones on,your the arsehole

I agree with your friend about it feeling like I’m just talking to my friends! You’re literally the only podcast I listen to and I rewatch the videos on KZread imma huge fan of yours Morgan!

@TwoHotTakes

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for all your love and support! I'm so happy you found this channel

At the beginning when you were talking about listeners thinking you sound like friends: WHAT A MOOD. I have been absolutely bingeing your KZread videos and I never ever watch KZread or listen to podcasts because I LOVE listening to you all speak. It does feel like hanging out with friends and you’re all so very very YOU that it’s such a comfort and treat to listen to. Thanks for doing this, pals!

I hope you read this!! As I’m watching this I can’t help but think of this quote my boyfriend mom told me she said “ when married don’t ever do something too easy bc you’ll be doing it the rest of your life. For an example if he asks you to take out the trash and you do it you’ll be doing it the rest of your life”

I swear I learn something everytime I watch THT I had no idea that pushing when you pee can disrupt your pelvic floor let alone actually cause UTIs!! I get UTIs all the timeee and now I think this could be the reason for a lot of them! Thank you 😊

I literally started watching you like a couple weeks ago, and I believe I’ve watched all episodes so far. I have refreshed my page like twice today hoping you would post 😂 3rd times the charm!

I'm so thankfull for the pelvic floor therapy after birth. In Germany we also get that after every child. I have 3 kids (born in a span of 4 years) and no problems whatsoever. There's of course also other factors that influence incontinence, so I know I got lucky too. For most women the postpartum therapy is enough, but as a GP I can also prescribe more specialized pelvic floor PT for those who need it, and after that, most problems are gone or at least improved a lot. Our pelvic floors are so underestimated and should be taken care of and trained no matter if you have kids or are pregnant.

@cassidybrewer

Жыл бұрын

I’ve had several pelvic floor issues after a baby but sadly I live in the US. Even my physical therapy for my hips wasn’t fully covered when they were in pain 24/7 during the end of, and after, pregnancy. I have had pain during sex, vaginal prolapse, and incontinence after delivering my 8 lb son. This was 4+ years ago and now one of the three symptoms has resolved, but I’m still left with the other two. I’m so disappointed in American healthcare.

Not me binge watching y'all seeing you just came out with a new epi!!! Excited to watch! :)

Malicious compliance is my favorite hell yea! So ready for this

WAIT I’m at 17:36…… I used to be a waitress and other servers used to tell me I was the best cleaner. I am just now realizing this is maybe what they intended. 💀

I am currently going through similar chore struggles with my partner. Except, he isn't trying to play dumb or anything. He just doesn't do the cleaning or cooking and I end up doing it. And then when I nag him he says it feels like he is living with his mother. I feel like he subconsciously TURNED me into his mother and just doesn't see it.

yayyyyy Laurens backk!!!!!!

@Lauren-ib3ok

2 жыл бұрын

Love you! 🥺💓

I like malicious compliance when it's in the workplace, OP has DOCUMENTED on email and screenshots that they told a manager or someone higher up that this is a bad idea to do, they were ignored. And then it backfired on the higher-up and the higher-up got fired because the OP exposed that this only turned out so bad because the higher-up didn't listen to their warnings. In that form, it's not passive aggressive at all. You literally have to do what your boss tells you, even if it's stupid.

I remember fully telling a teacher that I had explosive diarrhea when they asked why I was gone so long at the bathroom, insinuating I was lying about it. If they’d done it again I would have shown pictures just to be petty but that shut them up pretty quick.

Lauren being mindblown that toucan sam is a toucan 😂😂😂😂 I fckn love you guys, you're adorable

So, I'm pregnant in Australia never knew pelvic therapy even existed until you mentioned it and now I think I'm a little less worried to have a natural birth. :D Thanks !

Malicious compliance actually usually isn’t toxic and here’s why; most of the time you HAVE to comply to some degree. If it’s a boss u have to listen to, u often can’t say no or discuss with them, u have to say yes in order to keep ur job. The power dynamic is not equal, so in this way, you can express your frustration/opinion with a policy or with the way u are treated without getting repercussions. If it was an equal power dynamic, that’s when this pettiness can be toxic because it’s being used in replace of communication. The first story with the girlfriend also falls into this category even though they have an equal power dynamic bc she can’t entirely not comply bc she still need to live in her house and do chores or else her quality of life would suffer.

I took a medication that paralyzed my bladder muscles and I had to use completely different muscles and push so hard that I popped vessels in my eyeballs. Couldn’t go any other way and had no idea for 3 months that it was a huge deal. Years later, I had a prolapse and my bladder tried to escape. Years after that, now I could wet myself if i cough too hard. Wish that had been more public information 13 years ago.

pls collab with Sarah schaur again and Brittany broski PLEASE

@sparksflylove

2 жыл бұрын

THIS

@kikilapoop4278

2 жыл бұрын

Ooo yes

The first story reminds me of the girl who faked being sick because boyfriend kept cross contaminating their cutting boards/veggies. (A few episodes ago) I dont know if that falls under this but it reminded me of it. Also also, Morgan is so damn adorable.

Alright so Morgan wanted examples of toxic malicious compliance, and I just wanna point out that malicious compliance is also used by toxic people as a way for you to never ask them to adjust their behaviour. So here's my story. My sister was notorious for using malicious compliance to get what she wanted. One example (amongst a lot of others), my sister would never come to you when she needed to talk to you, she'd always make you go to her. When we lived together, my room was in the basement, and she was upstairs, if she needed to talk to you, she would shout at you from a floor away and if you couldn't hear her, or if you didn't run to her like a puppy being called, she would be pissed off and end up screaming and ranting about being ignored. So one time, when I was in my room, I hear her shouting full sentences of something through the floor at me. I end up texting her and telling her that if she needs to talk to me, she can come downstairs. So when she does come downstairs, she's just full on holding a long scream, picture a little kid with their mouth opened, screaming "ahhhhhhhh" at the top of their lungs, basically just screaming until they got what they wanted. And when I tried to talk to her, she would just interrupt me with another long scream. When I asked her what she was doing, she'd simply reply "Well, you couldn't hear me without me coming downstairs". After that, every time she needed to talk to me, she would do this. So this is what toxic malicious compliance looks like. All I did was ask her to change a simple behaviour, and she made it so unbearable that I wouldn't want to ask her to change her behaviour again. She was in her late 20s/early 30s when this happened by the way.

@Atomicqueen9

2 жыл бұрын

Yikes that sounds terrible

@aspensage6644

2 жыл бұрын

this sounds more like weaponized incompetence

@krazychan

2 жыл бұрын

@@aspensage6644 I dunno if it would be weaponized incompetence, because she technically did what I asked, by coming downstairs. She just decided she needed to go over the top with it by adding the screaming, which to me, feels like toxic malicious compliance.

@Vanessa-bk4nv

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. What a nightmare. She sounds psychotic. This is what Karen's are made of.

omg i relate to laurens story of her mom saying she was good at cleaning the toilet bc my mom used to say that i was the best at cleaning the counters and i REFUSED to let anyone else clean them ..

My favorite malicious compliance is when trans kids get invited to family events but only by their dead name, so they don't go since they weren't technically invited

@Mentallymuzz

2 жыл бұрын

THIS IS BRILLIANT

I think the movie your thinking about is The Sound of Music, it gets sung because of the children’s fear of thunder

@TwoHotTakes

2 жыл бұрын

haha I was editing and was like shoot wrong Julie Andrews film

@ashlynwitt132

2 жыл бұрын

I was looking to see if this was posted already 🤭

Story 1: a lot of men do this when they have someone else who will willingly do the chores. She was brilliant by doing this- it fixed the problem without fighting with him or making him feel like a child. Not the asshole on that one.

@isaiahdeas6219

Жыл бұрын

This type of bullshit pisses me off especially because it perpetuates the idea that Men are lazy do nothings who just wanna drink beer and play video games.

Morgan: “I’m just a normal person” me: *sings ordinary girl* (Also YAY LAUREN!!)

Bro the "Lauren your so good at cleaning toilets" trick i have used as a manager lol. I could either say you suck at what you're doing currently go bus tables, or i could say ya know what I really need someone who knows what they're doing and I know that you're really good at this. So 🤷‍♀️😅👍

I love the first story. 🙏 communication only works if both people are willing to communicate. But he obviously didn’t want to, instead he gaslighted and manipulated her.

Love watching the shorter episodes this is the first full episode I’ve watched and I love it! The chemistry the two of you have is amazing!

@Lauren-ib3ok

2 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you 🥺💓

The laundry talk is absolutely correct. People look at me weird when I leave the laundromat with a bunch of wet laundry but then complain that their leggings are all stretched out.

I feel very called out... I pee like a hose. I push that liquid out so hard because I hate going to the toilet, so I try to get it over with as quick as possible.

Was waiting for this! Thanks guys for another episode

In 2019 I got kicked out of my university gym for showing my mid-drift. I was in high waisted leggings and a cropped baggy shirt. I WAS 20!! I never understood it and protested it for so long omg

Love morgan’s fred armisen “straight to jail” references. makes me laugh every time

I learned a few things in my professional life, but the most important one is "the donkey is tied where the owner says, even if he drowns, just get it by writing"

Thanks ladies! Seriously having the worst week of my life with mom in hospital and waaaayyy too much responsibility to spend enough time with her. I am BELLY laughing with a glass of wine and laundry.

I’ve been listening for a few months now and I loveee listening to you guys when I’m cooking because it just feels like I’m with my friends. Happy to be here as the channel grows ♥️

I’m so excited to be cleaning my house and blasting this new video on the speakers. Love you guys 💖

I'm a stay at home mom, have been for about 5 years. And my husband came home from work one day, and the house was a little messy. I wasn't feeling that well and the kids where being extra needy. He made an off hand comment about how my job was easy and I'm lucky I just get to sit at home and relax all day. So I went on strike. I did nothing for him. Only washed mine and the kids clothes, only cooked for me and the kids, only cooked for me and the kids, only washed the dishes me and the kids used. When he got home from work, I went off duty, if the kids needed something I told them to go ask their dad. After about a week. He apologized perfusion, and has started helping more when he is home, and never complains when the house is a little messy and we have sandwiches for dinner

Yay! A new video. Last night I was trying find one I haven’t watched and I realized.. I’ve officially watched every one. This podcast brings me joy before I go to bed and also while at work. Thank you!

I love the way you pronounce vague. I’m from Rhode Island, and have been known to pronounce words oddly and use “New England terms”. I speak very quickly and, when I go to the south, have been known to speak “oddly”. Hearing you and Lauren ramble about the pronunciation of certain words always makes me feel a little bit better and it always makes me laugh.

From the intro - When you are talking about listening to you like your are friends.... To me it's like I am at a sleepover and my friends are talking but I am the one in their sleeping bag, almost asleep but still listening to the gossip and dish. I always the quite one in a group. :)

I feel like this episode was absolutely made for me. My entire family describes me as malicious and I used to deny it but realized that by playing the part of being malicious bc they called me malicious is malicious 😭. Anyway the role increase when they say “it’s cause you’re a Virgo” like okay I’ll be the Virgo you want soooo bad. 🙂

Red Solo Cups can literally be anything :') I work at an elementary school and we always give the kids those for water loool

"In the daytime no feeling in the dark lots of feelings" ~~my depression in one sentence~~

Just ordered my hoodie as an early birthday gift to myself!! So excited, Love you Morgan and Lauren!

@Lauren-ib3ok

2 жыл бұрын

We love you!!

I’ve heard about the pushing pee thing and now I think about it every time I laugh at random things whether it be my phone or boyfriend or whatever and I will be laughing but also kicking myself for inadvertently pushing my pee out

Weaponized incompetence is one of the fastest ways to get cut out of my life. I have no patience for that childish bs🙄

@HannahCrier

2 жыл бұрын

Totally with you on that. I had an ex who used to pull this shit with laundry and making the bed. It used to drive me batty!

@miajanay9161

2 жыл бұрын

@@HannahCrier that’s so annoying I want to punch him for you😭

now that the gas prices are so high i didnt want to pay for gas and my tank was low so i told my dad that i felt something was wrong with the car and he went for a drive to check it, saw the gas meter and filled up my tank. strategic incompetence

Omg!! I love that you go into random topics. Because I have an appointment w/my Gyno on 4/21 and now I can tell them I'm constantly pushing my pee out 😂🤣❤️

Okay, the engagement ring curse story made my day. What a fantastic way to mess with someone who stole your ring and then was super shady about it. Also, the Minnesotan struggle to say "vague" is real 😂😂😂

I have to go to physical therapy for pelvic floor dysfunction and it was really hard for me to find a therapist! Go Morgan!! Definitely need more of those.

Malicious Compliance is only toxic when you do it for the wrong reason. If you’re simply complying to prove your point (eg the boyfriend/“nagging” girlfriend story), I don’t think it’s toxic. Sometimes it’s literally the only way to fix the situation. It should never be the first thing you do, but sometimes you just have to do it.

This is the only pod cast I watch and rewatch religiously. My bf is even in on it now, and he gets invested. Just ordered merch, bought the sweatshirt, shirt, and wine tumbler, sadly they sent an email saying the website messed up and they were sold out of the sweatshirt :( got a refund for that but for sure getting my shirt and cup! So excited

As someone who has scared many a poor soul over the years by jumping out from behind something while screaming BOO!, I fully accept the fact that, if my HILARIOUS actions ever caused someone to pee on the floor, I'd need to be the one to clean it up.

Oh my gosh!! I feel like I have been waiting forever for this topic! Lets goooooo

The subreddit describes it as: “People conforming to the letter, but not the spirit, of a request.”

Oh my god I love Lauren 🧡 I’m so happy she’s back 🥺

@Lauren-ib3ok

2 жыл бұрын

I love YOU 🥺💓

Lauren’s walkout story is very similar to one that happened at my school: the school was a circular shape with a big cafeteria right in the middle, and the principal’s office opened onto the cafeteria. He banned playing cards in school because a lot of students were doing that instead of going to class, so my older sister & her friends organized a Card Day where hundreds of students brought cards & the cafeteria was just full of kids playing cards all day

People really make me realise why I hate people😂

I think "Malicious Compliance" just shows that "action speaks louder than words" when ones is dealing with someone who doesn't want to communicate/discuss the toxic behaviour/problem that is happening.

Morgan uploading right when I need to go to bed... lol who needs sleep right 😅