Showing our emotions is not an option, esp not around the women in our lives. Regardless if a women will admit it or not, they treat us differently after we have become emotional around them. Society doesn't care about us, we are treated as expendable.

@DrKimSage

3 жыл бұрын

I hear this so often and I have 3 sons who also feel this way many times - I am sorry and hope this message can become more discussed- so we can work on changing it - but I know it's not an easy problem to solve. Thank you for sharing.

@Badger214

2 жыл бұрын

So true,

@MrOnyxRaven

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. The moment you show weakness you are pounced on. From all sides. Women especially will pounce. Look at what happens to a rooster when it gets sick or old. You can never show weakness. It is the biggest mistake you will ever make.

@wavy6470

2 жыл бұрын

@@MrOnyxRaven Women in your life are cruel...

@emmanuela2561

2 жыл бұрын

@@wavy6470 he's only being honest... most women are the same

The fact that when I opened up to my wife with my feelings, she told me to man up, men can’t be depressed because it’s so easy for us men… Never ever opening up to anyone after that

As a man I think the most common triggers are toxic positivity and emotional neglect.

I have been in and out of thearpy for the past 25 years. I've seen 9 therapists only one helped. She moved away from the city. The reason why she helped me was because she was sincere in her wanting to help me. She acknowledged my depression and anxiety. I felt like I was speaking with someone that was going through the same thing with me. In some of our sessions she would just listen and take notes. She would say that she felt that I needed to be heard. When she said that I burst out in tears. God bless her. She saved my life. All the other therapists , i felt, were following the textbook. I felt a distance instead of a connection. If you want to help a person that's depressed. Listen to them, be sincere, connect with their pain. once that connection is made you've laid a solid foundation to build on. I get more help out of talking with someone that truly understands what i'm going through, and that truly cares. I've lost faith in therapist but not in therapy.

@TopGun_-

2 жыл бұрын

Know that you’re not alone in any of this. Going through this is completely normal and there will be a light at the end of this tunnel. Having communities like this chat room on KZread can certainly help. I’ve found it helpful to spend even just a few hours per week volunteering in areas where you could help others dealing with loneliness, etc. such as at a nursing home. Sometimes all they would love to have is someone to stop by now and then and play checkers or cards with. Hospice care also looks for volunteers to spend time with their patients just playing a game or spending time in conversation with them. You’ll find it helps relieve you of your own thoughts and feelings.

My gf doesn't understand why I'm depressed. And she told me she had enough and to snap out of it! I told her I should've never said anything to her because I'm now I'm even more ashamed. And now, this worthless, uselessness, loneliness, sadness and just a feeling of not belonging keeps pulling me down.

@andi-oop-2840

Жыл бұрын

she’s just not the one’ if she treats you like that:/

@FormlessJKD17

Жыл бұрын

@@andi-oop-2840 I agree. It ended tonight. She told me to be a man and get my shit together.

@seatime674

Жыл бұрын

@@FormlessJKD17 Noone that really cares about you would say snap out of it... Maturity is lacking

@randombobsmith8925

11 ай бұрын

Get rid of her. That will cut out a part of the cycle you're in. There's almost 7 billion people in this planet...try another person...

Why would men admit that they are depressed when they know that their wives will most likely leave them afterwards? When a man becomes unable to work, it is socially acceptable in our culture the his wife abandons him, but not the other way around...

Now I know why I bought an electric skateboard at 38 after 20 years of not skating. Skating away for hours alone is so liberating .

I tried a therapist, and he treated me like a child... When I explained to him "I feel like I'm drowning, my mind is constantly being sucked down deeper into an everlasting darkness, and escape seems impossible. I'm in a never-ending cycle, and even waking up seems meaningless." His response was, "You obviously understand your mind, so why are you here?" And now I just drink myself into Oblivion every night.

@peaceandhumanity5705

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Kevin! I understand how you feel! Do you mind us talking, I have some self help tips...

@roberte.6892

2 жыл бұрын

Bro, if your on Long Island we should meet up and booze. I'm suffering from depression too, have had ... disappointing experiences with shrinks, and all my alcoholic friends have quit.

@lealea6020

2 жыл бұрын

Thats a horrible therapist...

@emmanuela2561

2 жыл бұрын

@@lealea6020 it's normal in this fucked up Gen Z world

@slashfan091

Жыл бұрын

2 years later, I’m popping in to check up on you, my mind has been pretty rough the same for me and sometimes just reading a comment like yours helps Sometimes it’s the little things, Godspeed

First time hearing someone that understands how I feel and what I am going trough. So, I am soon to be 21 years old. I live in almost full isolation since I was 16 which means I didn't go to school since then ( I've finished it online). I did develop addiction to cannabis while isolated at home as a coping mechanism at first but later it became critical to survival as water or food. I do drink everyday but I am able to stop without suffering too much psychically. I grew up without a father and was bullied into staying at home. First video I saw on your channel was about complex ptsd and I was extremely shocked by how much I can relate to it and how much it explains so many things psychologists I've went to didn't understand or explain anything close to it. I'm not able to do anything about it in real life or talk about it anymore. I do not feel like killing myself and do not want it but sometimes you do feel desperate enough to consider it in my opinion. Without alcohol and cannabis I'd probably be way off worse since they do negate most of my feelings and make it okay being alone at home all day everyday over multiple years. I know this is not sustainable way to live but I simply can't do anything about it anymore. Thank you whoever read all of my comment. It really means a lot to me knowing that someone cares.

@williamprince1563

8 ай бұрын

Bless your heart, I feel your pain.

@albinpascal8879

11 күн бұрын

U are not alone. Pray about it constantly

It just comes on with no warning out of the blue and it scares the hell out of me. just a feeling of doom and gloom or worst and I beg God every day I pray that it won't happen today the feeling is overwhelming dark and rotten place and I'm, not the kind to talk to some stranger about it for 3 hundred dollars an hour I don't do society are ever other humans being for that matter(just women now and zen) ....HELL IS OTHER PEOPLE.

You hit it right on the head,those all are of my symptoms,next step for me now is seeing some professional help.thank you

Thank you for the links

Smart beautiful and kind !God bless you!

Great info

Well this video has pretty much convinced me that I very much might be depressed but I don't know how to cope with it like I don't Want to go on a medication because I feel like. I'm a genuine good guy and I'm a genuine happy guy.

Thank you so much x

Where is the follow-up video? I can't find it. Can you please link? Love your videos. Thanks.

This is so true and facts, but ma’am you are so beautiful and gorgeous

You just described my husband. How do I convince him to look for help?? I tried so many different arguments and methods...

Living with major clinical persistent depression is no picnic. My ex-wife didn't understand it and my current wife treat's it as no big deal. So it's a loose loose situation.

@DrKimSage

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry. Please know that in whatever way you can access help - it can make a big difference. Sending support and healing today.

I’m struggling. I can’t tell my wife because she wants to fix me and it makes it worse. She needs stability because she has issues and I’ve always been the rock, but I feel numb and I don’t know why. I don’t know what to do.

yep sounds about right

As one with lifelong MDD, and currently majorly struggling I wish I could ask people with a loved one who has depression *"How in the world did you get in a relationship with someone with depression‽‽"* 😯 Did you know they had depression? Did they show confidence before you dated? Did you understand what depression was before getting serious? ...It's beyond my believability that any of you were even slightly aware of how depression affects your mate before you got serious. I've lost any faith in myself as of beginning of 2022, if I ever really had confidence in myself. 😔 Then I've never had a romantic relationship, I've only had three or more dates with 3 women and I've only been able to go out with 23 total! 😣 I'm very close to giving up everything.

I feel hopeless for the future. Depression's like being strapped in your bed. Even if you want to get out, there's no worth trying because I know I'm gonna fail at being successful.

What treatment is available for depression if therapy and medication don't work?

Where is the next video she talked about?

I think it is funny how people say You are not alone. What does that mean? I see the pain of the men around and also within myself. Yes I am not “alone”.

I am suffering with deperssion for a Long time. Help me if it is possible

It is what it is

You have magic in your words and vibes mam ❤ Kindly help me to resolve my issue as well. My husband come to know about my past relationship after 3 months of marriage eventually I am pregnant. He is depressed enough. Kindly help me to make him normal. Though I am devoted and loyal to him completely Kindly help me & pray for our bond and his good healthy life ❤👑❤

can u help me

Hi all - I would really like to make more content for men's mental health, and am curious what you think would be most helpful? As a mom to three almost adult boys/men, I have struggled at times even with my training to understand some specifically male related issues, and my boys keep telling me how much is lacking for men's mental health. So, if I did so, I would want to create content you would find most beneficial....thank you so much in advance if you are able to respond!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@adam.recording

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for paying attention to men’s mental health issues! I’m intersted in your thoughts on GAD in men

@DrKimSage

3 жыл бұрын

@@adam.recording mind reading!? just posted now! please feel free to share your thoughts!🙏🏻

@adam.recording

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrKimSage I’s kindof a relief to know that the physical symptoms stem from these issues, it explains many things. It’s good to know that these are mostly just physical sensations due to stress to put it simply?? Cuz it’s something that is rarely (or not at all) discussed in therapy sessions.

@JT-un7dc

Жыл бұрын

@DR. KIM SAGE, LICENSED PSYCHOLOGIST just found your channel today & your borderline videos are spot on. I grew up with a borderline mother. I'm bad. This mindset has plagued me my whole entire life. I'm finally realizing that I've never been kind to my inner self.

I'm currently in a mess I really don't know what to do my husband is pushing me away.i cannot talk to him, he's not willing to share it with me, he thinks I don't care, he blames me for everything....

@jasonfitzpatrick414

13 күн бұрын

I would say just go take a hike with him. You can talk on the hike.

Is being irritable from inside your chest and weird body feelings also a sign ?Thanks

@iannorton2253

8 күн бұрын

I've suffered depression for many years. Yes, there are all kinds of physical manifestations of depression.

Being a failure in life no matter what you’ve tried especially when your older you won’t have to worry about being in a relationship or having a lot of friends. No respect either. It’s been a wasted life. 👎

@jasonfitzpatrick414

13 күн бұрын

Nah. The universe has a plan. You can reinvent yourself when you choose. Take some classes and follow a new hobby. Meet some new people at those classes. Be busy living instead of judging yourself. Good luck to you. Go ride a bike. It is just as much fun as when you were a kid.

I've never performed better in bed than during the deepest of depression. You get into this "mode" where you're just not there anymore and you're watching yourself bang like a p*rnst*r with zero emotional feeling. You find comfort in the feeling she will never know and lose respect for you. This can temporarily mitigate the issue as well. Your partner finding out and losing respect for you amidst dark times will exacerbate the issue tenfold. It is engrained in female nature to find someone new at the first sign of weakness.

I see men saying "don't open up and tell your wife"😢. I am here to try and understand him, in the hopes that I can help him.

I find if a meet a woman they somehow appreciate and admire if I am vulnerable and open about my past. But I do find after a few months they get.. different. Like awhh I need to fix him but later on it’s becoming a bore. Men need to be multiple things at the most random of times. There is no way to nail all of it.. in society

I should have stopped aging when I was 4.

I recently started dating a guy and realized he shows signs of depression. He is angry at everything and everyone. He is lazy even though I can see he has so much potential. He was brought up by a single professional mother and he is living with her after divorcing his wife two years ago. He is white, with a kind heart but the mood swings are real. I have no idea what to do and say. I want to support him without dating him until he gets better. He needs therapy and medical intervention. But he is too depressed to do anything about it. This is a man I went on four dates with and the mood swings are a trigger for me. Although I haven't seen it yet, he definitely has reckless behaviours that are an absolute turn off. Again, I know this is depression rather than his true self. I am not so sure what to do.

@sofialovinglife597

3 жыл бұрын

Run now it is to early to take on all of his problems !

@SunnyIcedQueen

3 жыл бұрын

@@sofialovinglife597 I decided to put him back on the rack. Thank you.....I put my peace and sanity first

@wakeup6778

2 жыл бұрын

@@sofialovinglife597 Im certainly going to leave a depressed women as well, after reading this comment

@angelg3642

2 жыл бұрын

​@@sofialovinglife597 SHUT THE F#CK UP. Holy shit... Sunny is an actual human being whose trying to help a guy out and you're the typical b1tсh who is just being absolutely selfish and inconsiderate. Drop your shitty selfish attitude and learn that MEN are NOT WOMEN. Most men need something that they usually never get from anyone - emotional support and understanding. Give that shit to a man and its his cure. But people like you disgust me.

@randombobsmith8925

11 ай бұрын

Their issues aren't your problem...

Is seasonal depression real in men?

@vkdeen7570

11 ай бұрын

seasonal depression is real is all genders especially if u live in a high latitude country (due to low sunlight exposure leading to vitamin D deficiency) .. usually in the winter

Please feel free to share any thoughts, feedback or resources you think might be important to share around depression in men and those who love any man who might be depressed! xo kim

@K2FROLF

3 жыл бұрын

I shared this on Facebook, because I'd I needed this, so do others.

@DrKimSage

3 жыл бұрын

@@K2FROLF Thank you - wishing you well and please take very good care🙏🏻🙏🏻

@K2FROLF

3 жыл бұрын

I try Kim, but here in Indiana the stigma is strong... Honestly just you responding reminds me there are those who can care

Sometimes African american me might at a higher risk for depression because of life challenges in general but get help. Help is out there not the bottle or narcotics that will the problem worse I did. Great video from the young doctor Try it u will your life change for the better.monticello

😢👍🏼

Buddy this is creepy apparently I’m depressed

As a man, you are expected to be strong, stoic, and unflappable. But what if you can't be strong? You're basically doomed to be a loveless virgin.

Nah i just need to man up or im a stupid incel ☺

I'm a man and I've been through depression, we do tend to hide our feelings which doesn't help, it just makes it deeper. The most efficient to Overcome Depression is to ask Jesus into your heart heart and ask for His forgiveness call upon the name of the Lord and you will be saved. :) Edit: The Lord helped me

@randombobsmith8925

11 ай бұрын

Oh did he... Whatever fella...

@freetw-

11 ай бұрын

@@randombobsmith8925 yes, but ofc there will always be struggles in life, but ik I'm gonna be okay bcs of Jesus. Yk this world will twist God's Word into being just a "fantasy," but I've seen God's work with my own eyes enough to know He is more than real. Satan loves to confuse people and make them believe God is just made up.. in the Bible it says Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy. and i feel terribly sorry for the people who fall into the trap of thinking God is some fantasy. God loves you, man. I hope one day you realize how loved you are and that you will always have hope in Jesus.

Wow ,J .K .Rowling has began to write on MEN'S ISSUES .

She forgets to mention the biggest trigger- the actions/inaction of a partner in an ltr.

We're not allowed to be open about our feelings; it's not recognised that we have any, because it's not 'manly'.

Female depression is for attention, male suicide is out of pure loneliness and pain.

@K2FROLF

3 жыл бұрын

Bull. Shit. Pain is pain, no matter the gender. How dare you try and subsidize something so serious? I have lost so many to suicide in my family... Men AND women... Your statement is both sad and incredibly ignorant... I'm not angry, but very disappointed...

@davidregi7571

2 жыл бұрын

@Luke Austin bruh...

@angelg3642

2 жыл бұрын

@@K2FROLF Women get help all the time from everybody, they don't bottle it up as much as men do. Women aren't being laughed at when they share their depression with others. Women don't tend to have other responsibilities and aren't expected to do their job while being depressed at the same time. Women aren't being abandoned by their parents/friends/loved ones for being in such a state. Also the suicide rate between men and women is clear indicator that something in men's life is really messed up. But If you ask a woman she'd say men are weaker because they don't have periods and give birth

Why you asking your trying to date him ..and I don't have a man

I came here because you are beautiful I stayed becoming enlightened 🐯