Shop my collection of headwraps & modest dresses here: www.themodestfitting.com/ *QUESTION* What (if anything) were you taught in your upbringing about your role as a wife, and what to reasonably expect from the role of a husband?

@KailaAchaia

Жыл бұрын

I was taught that a man is optional/not necessary which lead to disastrous relationship. Thank god for healing and transformation tho

@John-ls4xh

Жыл бұрын

I thought it was equal

@MissCarey1420-yf5ev

Жыл бұрын

I wouldn’t say taught, I grew up ina single parent household but I have aunts who are married. From seeing and hearing, husbands are supposed to take care of their wives and pay the mortgage!

@shortdancingnae

Жыл бұрын

I was not taught any biblical principles when it came to marriage. I was taught it was foolish to rely on another person in any capacity. I was taught about the responsibility of children, but not of the joy. I met my now husband, and I knew I wanted to be married. I didn't know why, though. I had to do a lot of research about what marriage is. I thought objectively about my parent's marriage. I wanted to incorporate things I thought were good and learn from the bad. I tried to have honest conversations with my mom and gleaned what I could. I'm not brave enough to approach my dad. My brothers were a wealth of information. They provided insight into what the male expectation of femininity and womanhood is, as well as their viewpoints on the roles and responsibilities of both husband and wife. I had to read books, mainly the Bible, and have a lot of conversations with my husband. All of this only occurred after I got married, though. Our marriage has transformed greatly over the years, and it is for the better. On a side note, when I found out all this is laid out in the Bible. When I found out it literally is a guide for how to do life, the practicality and usefulness in its pages...I felt so bamboozled. How come nobody told me? How could the people with any influence in my foundational years not even mention this treasure trove of wisdom? So, in an effort to become I better wife, I found Christ. Now, I have a relationship with the Lord on top of a beautiful marriage. Needless to say, I'm glad this content exists for those of us who were led the wrong way. ❤

@HelenaTeeter

Жыл бұрын

Do you have any dresses with natural unmixed fibers like cotton, linen or wool?

As soon as the guy started describing the hypothetical man, I was thinking “that’s not a husband, that’s a wife!” Regardless of how wealthy she is now, she doesn’t need a stay at home husband. Even if the next guy is a blue collar type, he needs to get up every day to grind for his own dignity and contribution to the family. I think she’ll be surprised how much respect that would foster in her heart towards him

Psalm 1:1-3 says, Happy is the man who does not walk according to the advice of the wicked And does not stand on the path of sinners And does not sit in the seat of scoffers.

You both do great job in communication, tell him he did a great job of staying focused😂 it's like watching a younger version of my Wife and I.. When she talks I'm so in love with her intelligence, her nurturing strong spirit, the thought she had my four Son's, that when I look at her beauty I loose focus too😄 the Brother knows he's Blessed👏😊🙏💪☝👍 May Our Father in Heaven Keep you and yours in His Strength..😎🙏💪👍

Thank you so much Bindi. It took me a while to understand this. Before a marriage and family class at my church, I had this mindset that my preparation for marriage included me being able to provide for my own needs, car, degree, career. I’m learning that as a single, I still have to be self sufficient and allow God to provide, meaning giving me abilities, talents and creative ideas to create income. God’s standard for marriage seems to really be foreign to even Christians especially the men providing part. I get slack about living with parents and working as a foster care case worker. At least I can see that some don’t see it as valuable/prestigious. I know I won’t always be in this role but it is fulfilling for now. More Income is needed for me to comfortably move out. It’s clear to me that God wants the man to be the provider but as a single woman, you have to provide for your needs so I think women may get so used to this that they bring it into marriage. I usually don’t share like this I’m a comment 😅

@sarahparis8235

5 ай бұрын

Yeah, it's rough being a single lady with today's social pressures to make money and 'advance' in a career. And difficult to remain feminine when you're expected to basically be just like a guy in terms of achievement in the world -- This is a lot of the reason why I'm trying to be self-employed. Would love it if Bindi talked about guidance for single women as well since she's been there as a Christian woman and seen both sides of the coin. Would be interested to hear her take on the differences between a woman's role when single/with God as her sole Provider/Protector/Leader versus when married and that role on earth falls to her husband. I enjoyed reading your comment -- Good to hear from other ladies experiencing this. There is very little understanding about not wanting to live for a career as a woman -- Even if I remain single I wouldn't want to put money first in that way. The US is suffering from this money first thinking so badly, and I think it puts a lot of strain on these younger generations. No wonder Gen Z is the most anxious generation in history!

@prettybold3990

5 ай бұрын

@@sarahparis8235 you’re welcome. Thank you for responding. I see it was worth it to be a little vulnerable and that other women are experiencing this too. I agree that a video about guidance for single women would be helpful! :)

I agree with y’all whole heartedly but more over I just want to say. I appreciate seeing a lovely couple engage with each other so effortlessly and warmly not talking over each just being yourselves. It warms my heart ❤️

I like the way you say “my husband” when you introduce him. There’s a hug in your voice! Y’all are so precious 🥰 Thanks for the wisdom, but also the bloopers!

I love this conversation but I would like to correct you on one thing. Tammy received NOTHING from her ex due to a prenuptial agreement. She's talked about being homeless and on food stamps after leaving her husband. I'm sure there are several articles on the net about their court battles. Unfortunately I used to watch this mess TV when I was younger and remembered this as soon as I heard your husbands response. She had to provide for herself and her children without the help of a man which is why she probably doesn't feel like she needs a provider. She makes millions now and financially doesn't have to depend on her now husband.

(You touched on love.) Yes people do not know what love is, they can't even define it. (Basically they have a changeable feeling in mind.) After 35+ years of marriage here is my definition. Marital love is when you finally begin to see your partner as God sees them. Marriage is commitment, mutual care, and the courage to communicate. You work through the marriage difficulties as you both gradually become better and more mature people; AFTER THAT then come talk to me about "love."

@ramalakshmipradeep

Жыл бұрын

Wow thats big.. seeing partner as God sees them.. thank you

@ARareGEM2890

Жыл бұрын

I believe if a man (and woman to) sincerely loves God w/ His salvation will know how to (and learn) love and treat me❣️

@craterous

Жыл бұрын

@@ARareGEM2890 Agree. My only addition, is we have to have the courage to communicate (otherwise we are being lazy.)

@BQ900

Жыл бұрын

Good grasp on how we should view marriage!❤❤❤

@ARareGEM2890

Жыл бұрын

@@BQ900 Really.

As a man, I would also be interested in hearing Bindi's husband in a platform to help guide [young] men. My wife and I watch Bindi together having only recently discovered her channel which has provided profound insight & helped us develop areas in our marriage that needed greater attention. Thank you both!

I love this video! I think the most frustrating part of these conversations is that people blame their unhappiness with a man on his wealth. The bad character, infidelity, and emotional abuse that Tammy claims her ex had can be found in men of all income brackets. A man’s earning potential has no more reflection on his character than the color if his hair. I feel like some women have watched Aladdin one to many times and believe that in order to find a man of good character, we have to date a poverty stricken man. Its so crazy to me that no one calls this out and explicitly says “your man had bad character because he had bad character, his wealth had nothing to do with it”. Your husband made a fantastic point, a lot of these conversations regarding provisions being obsolete are being had by people who are provided for in one way or another. We can’t take these talking points seriously without that extremely important context

@cnongwa

Жыл бұрын

Well articulated!

I am genuinely intrigued by you young lady, The world needs more young ladies like you in it, things I desperately try to teach my 4 daughters who are more influenced by anyone other than us mothers once they are grown, keep teaching hunnie

On point across the board! Just because she has all this money and seems well off now doesn't make her successful or anyone to ask for advice from. It's the spirit of division and confusion that leads the culture of today. Notice the world's entire idea of empowerment always involves tearing someone else down. This was a great talk!

When you say “the husband should be the provider” I sense a feeling of relief, of a burden being lifted from my shoulders … but we tried living like that and I kept feeling insecure, possibly because he just couldn’t provide enough for the whole family (I don’t blame him) and because of the way I was raised (feminist and self sufficient) and the whole culture we live in where women are supposed to equally contribute financially (or at least attempt to) AND do 95% of the house/childcare/elderly care work. Last week he even said he hopes I get very successful (not a realistic goal at all) so he could be sort of a house-husband and I felt sooo stressed out just by the thought of it…

@dumfriesspearhead7398

Жыл бұрын

That doesn't bode well. Do you have children?

@AbbyEmbro

Жыл бұрын

A man being a house husband and you providing us contrary to Scripture’s expectations for a marriage. I personally could never live in that dynamic. Are you already married?

@alerotune

Жыл бұрын

I would suggest you start leaning back very gradually, let go of control, start making small material requests of him in a ‘feminine way’ even though it may not be your norm. Sweetie please can you… 🙏🏽

I am so with him on the point that we need to expand the working definition of love. Love is action, provision, protection, fidelity, honesty, working together as a team... the list could go on and on and on and on.

Blessings my sister in Christ. First and foremost I love your channel and enjoy watching your content. Truly a blessing. Keep going because it is truly shinning a light on us homemakers and Christian living as a whole. In regards to this video I agree with pretty much everything you said and I love the added addition here with hubby. However, I wish you would have done a little more research on Tami herself because this small clip you played didn’t tell it all. While it is definitely true many wives of basketball players benefit after divorcé significantly, this particular woman Tami Roman definitely didn’t walk away with millions. While I’m sure her lifestyle at the time was lived as such, the aftermath FOR HER was different than the average former basketball wife. She was a struggling single mother who’s husband (according to Tami herself and other resources) did not financially contribute even after court orders. She did not walk away with millions of the lifestyle she had. The lifestyle she was accustomed to was no longer her life neither was she able to sustain that lifestyle. She even had to go on government assistance at some point to help support her children. While we may know Tami as a basketball wife which ultimately leads back to her husband, Tami ultimately came up and contributed to her own success outside of her ex husband. She actually appeared on the Real World (a reality series) in 1993 before marrying Kenny Anderson and has played in several shows/ movies outside basketball wives to say the least. Tami has made it very clear in countless appearances on her struggles (after divorcing a millionaire) as a single Mother. Personally, I believe she feels the way she feels in regards to the clip you played because that’s all she knows. She knows what it’s like to have money. She’s experienced that, but has she ever experienced true love that’s the question. While I don’t agree with her take, it’s her reality. I’m not a fan of Tami Roman, but I have followed her story and just wanted to give you guys a little insight. I don’t think she’s lying. I think she’s speaking from the only place she knows. Personally, I do believe with Jesus Christ love IS ENOUGH IF the love is rooted in Christ because love conquers all WITH THE RIGHT PERSON. If a man loves his wife as God loves the church then how he treats her leads her and most importantly loves her will carry and sustain everything else. God’s love will teach a man his place and a woman her place. A man who truly loves God wouldn’t want to see his wife solely providing because he knows his place through the word of God. I continue to stress IF you are with the right person or your rib. The man or woman God gifted you with. Nonetheless, I agree with a lot of what you and hubby stated. A man is to be the ultimate provider and I like how your husband worded things. Doesn’t mean the woman can’t work, but yes ultimately it is the husband’s job to provide according to the word of God. I think society’s way of marriage is not the same as God ordained it to be and that’s the problem. People aren’t following biblical standards. They’re following their standards and what “feels” right to them. God, have mercy on us all. All in all, I get what you guys are saying and the points you are making which is very valid. Anyway, keep pushing Bindi! Great topic as usual! 🤍 Oh yea, love love the bloopers!🤣

This was sooo good. Thank you for a biblical perspective and understanding… i do believe the basketball wives cast member said in the show that after the divorce , he left her and the kids to be on their own. She said she was on welfare and food stamps for a little while . She is now in a relationship over 10plus years and she is the provider…she’s in control and masculine and her partner isn’t the leader. I’m glad you two broke this down.

I have been following Bindi for sometime now. You both are a blessing to each other.❤

More discussions with you both, please !! So much wisdom and understanding that you both share, and you keep it real, you don't sugar coat!! ❤😊

My favorite part was the end🥰😊 it was so refreshing to see you and your husband laughing together ❤

You are both so sweet and wholesome. It's easy to see you guys enjoy being together ❤️

Tami’a ex husband doesn’t provide for her. After the divorce he lost his money so she was actually homeless and on food stamps. Her money came from being on reality tv and other ventures after. So she provides for herself. Just wanted to give those facts. Otherwise I agree with everything said in this video.

Totally unrelated to this video, but PLEASE talk about homemaking in the early baby days. I agree with your content on biblical homemaking, but with two under two it feels impossible to implement. What can be left for another season? How do I recognize laziness vs exhaustion? How do I keep up with my home and husband while nursing a baby every 2 hours and taking care of a toddler, all while sleep deprived?

@melinated2497

Жыл бұрын

Give yourself some grace. There are seasons in life, and a mother tending to two babies mostly exclusively is not going to be able to do the same amount of housework as one who has older children. Make a realistic plan prioritizing the most important tasks first and do what you can.

Yes, let's see that part two about different kinds of love🎉😊 This was great!

This was so cute seeing you 2 laugh and enjoy each others company! And I really appreciated your husband’s point of view. I’d love to hear more from him. I really appreciate and enjoy your channel. The Lord has used your channel to help me along with the books you reviewed. I bought some of them and plan to read one soon after I finish the current book I’m on. Please keep up the great work and know the Lord is using to you help and bless others! Working on being the help meet God has called me to be for my husband and a million thanks from me to you! God bless you and can’t wait for your next video!

Great content sister , I agree and at the 6:12 mark in regards to the context of a woman with the mindset wanting to provide or thinking it’s cool you touched on it perfectly. lining up with the scripture that speaks and gives wisdom on what happens when she maintains her husband. in the KJVA 1611 (apocrypha) Ecclesiasticus 25:22 A woman, if she maintain her husband, is full of anger, impudence, and much reproach.

@tawandamadzingaidzo1478

Жыл бұрын

Woah. Didn't even know this verse existed. Thank you @ joanbryant5929

@jbryant90

11 ай бұрын

@@tawandamadzingaidzo1478 ikr I didn’t either and was shocked but it’s in the apocrypha KJV or in the king James 1611 …you won’t find in current bibles Bc they took the apocrypha out. But no problem brother, peace and blessings

@tawandamadzingaidzo1478

11 ай бұрын

@joanbryant5929 . Thanks. Deuterecanonical books, known as apocrypha by Protestants, are actually in every Catholic bible (which is the first bible). A pity they were taken out in later versions after the reformation.

@octavia_shalom

11 ай бұрын

Wow, great scripture sis!

Your videos are amazing! As a married christian who has been studying the Bible for quite a while, I totally agree with you on this topic. The Lord be with you!

Thank you Bindi for all that you are doing. I appreciate you for letting God use you in helping women to make their marriage last in the Lord. God bless you! 😊

Enjoyed the male input in this video. Thank you for sharing. Your interaction at the beginning was fun.

If I'm not mistaken Tami's ex husband left her penniless. He was also mistreating her. She and her daughters had to restart her life and now has a great husband, but I don't think the path was easy financially post divorce.

@majesticprep2571

Жыл бұрын

Second video I have watch on this channel where misinformation was provided. She needs to properly vet her discuss before making content. But silly me… That’s the internet. She was on food stamps & struggled post marriage. I also believe the guy she married was sort of regular.

Thank you Bindi for great content.

Really enjoyed your video. It brought to mind this verse Ecclesiasticus 25:22 “A woman, if she maintain her husband, is full of anger, impudence, and much reproach.”

Whew, this is good!!!!! Love ❤️ the video Joyce!!!

I’m glad I’ve never been married before. So many mistakes can be made when you don’t understand how serious marriage is. Some years ago I didn’t even know remarriage was adultery either. But the bible is clear. I will never marry a divorced man.

@ARareGEM2890

Жыл бұрын

🤔 Hmmm.

@ARareGEM2890

Жыл бұрын

WELL ‼️ THE CONTRARY OF ME: I GLAD I DID NOT MARRY AT A MUCH YOUNGER AGE. Haha💍

@Hannah-pc7hg

Жыл бұрын

@@ARareGEM2890 Yes, life experience can help in many ways. Honestly, I don’t even care if I ever get married or not anymore. I’m not looking for a man myself. I leave that in God’s hands. Marriage or celibate, that’s for Him to decide. If He doesn’t want me married, I have no problem with that ☺

I loved this! Valuable insights and fun to see your dynamic as a couple.

Well spoken and 😂😂 ya’ll are so down to earth. Love your outtakes ❤

Such an important subject. Would love to see an in depth discussion citing the Bible verses of the role of a man in marriage. Our guys are getting destructive messages out there. I love your relationship with your hubby and the out takes. 😂 Have a wonderful day!❤

Thank you for sharing this discussion. It's always nice to hear both of your opinions in one video!

I believe she was homeless or close to it after her marriage; she didn’t leave the marriage with anything. She stated she went to basketball wives without money. But I do agree with your point about male provision.

Thanks Bindi, great conversation and rightly dividing the Truth.

Always nice to get your honey’s perspective, thanks for sharing!

Love the wisdom and truth in this video, and the bloopers😂....Yaw are silly😂😂😂.

You guys, every time I watch a video of you two I laugh so much! I love how I feel like I’m seated right next to you ☺ keep it up!!!

Great topic! Loved that you brought your husband on to chat about it!

Facts. When she provides she begins to see her husband as a son rather than a leader.

Yoooo yes love def is enough! So true! 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. That’s the definition of love! Real love!

New here!!! To be listening to you sounds like dejavu and resonates with my soul . True children from the most high. You must truly follow his word in order to live life. You can’t have one foot in and one foot out.. blessings to all ❤

This is so good! And great point that she doesn't need a provider because she has already been provided by a man. I think this is the problem with hurt people grab a mic! We need more videos of you and hubby please!

Amen, dear brother and sister.

Love to see your personality expressed more in these videos😊

Great conversation!

Love seeing both of you together. I love the fact that he spotted the fact that she was provided for by another man

Such a smart discussion.

Very good points! Yes, that woman is very hurt. Plus you two look very cute together. God bless

Very interested points ,and I love your joyous relationship, may God continue to bless you to be a blessing 😊

Much love to you both for sharing the wisdom ♥️🙏🥰

You guys are so adorbs!😊

Blessings godly marriages are awesome!! To God be the glory

I enjoyed watching you two reason together.

Really enjoyed this content. Please keep it coming.

Loved all the bloopers. 😂

Love this

Great points, beautiful union

This is really insightful. Thank you so much for sharing

And love is all of those things combined. If you truly love someone, then you are following the way of life that God designed. You can’t just say “oh I love you” but you aren’t putting into action any of the things that God designed to go with love. Providing for your spouse and your family is included of that.

Thanks for having your husband come on. I love your channel and like also hearing the side of a man and what a Godly man can ahare

Yes!

Great discussion thank you 😊

Thanks for sharing.

Excellent !!!! 💛

Good conversation

I bless the Name of the Almighty God for a young couple like this to give such powerful Godly advice 🙏 🙌. Thank you, Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 ❤️

When she left that marriage she didn't have anything. Her ex-husband did not provide for their kids as he should have. She started over completely and built what she has now. I believe the two of you should have looked more into her background before speaking on this.

@sincerelytee3029

Жыл бұрын

Yes. I said the same thing in my comment above. Great points in a typical situation as such, but definitely not in Tami’s case. I love her content, but this one was not supported with facts. The word of God will always speak for itself. It doesn't need our approval or amen. However, when speaking on someone's personal life, (with little knowledge obviously) we must be sure we have done enough research so that our commentary will actually support the facts.

@oanaion4899

Жыл бұрын

This. He got on my nerve with that "there is another man providing since she is divorced"...like...what planet do you live on? The rich know to protect their money believe me...even in the eventuality of a divorce that is their fault.

@e.wilson9613

Жыл бұрын

Amen.

@puttingthepuzzletogether1218

Жыл бұрын

You is one of them women...... Run mennnnnn!!!!!!!

@oanaion4899

Жыл бұрын

@@puttingthepuzzletogether1218 awww are you mad at FACTS?

You guys are just wonderful! Anyways our culture and traditions are very toxic. I guess it's why God tells us to die to the things of this world. People are willing to put tradition before God in almost everything.... Anyways I told my mother in law I wanted to be a stay at home wife and she asked why I wouldn't want to make my own money... funny enough my father in law didn't see anything wrong with it. She worked by choice not that she needed to. One time she told me its very normal for men to have relationships outside of their marriage. She even stated " Sonia if you divorce, he will only move on to another woman and who will marry you having had two children?" As painful as it is, you will stay because at least he is taking care of you. My grandmother told me something similar. It also happened to my mother... but as you said none of it is biblical. Marry men who fear the Lord ladies.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

Жыл бұрын

💯🙏🏿

Thanks beautiful, inspiring godly couple

Watching a couple being able to laugh with each other is something that I found very refreshing! Thanks for sharing a bit of your world with us!!

Beautiful couple, stay Beautiful inside.

Please make that video about what biblical Love is ❤

The way he looks at his wife 😍 ❤🎉

😂😂😂 the ending!!

Lol The end it too cute. 😅❤

If she is being the provider, eventually she’ll become disrespectful!

@elora2993

Жыл бұрын

Usually because he becomes resentful. (Im not advocating feminism just saying, in situations where a man is unable to provide for whatever reasons, there are few cases where the communication lines remain effective, clean and constructive. Its always a mental thing on both parties to consider.)

Y'all are beautiful!!! May The Most High God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob lead you from everlasting to everlasting!!! ❤️

Great standpoint; God's standard takes precedence over culture.

I agree with both of you. In the absence of medical or disability factors, a wife should never assume or accept a *permanent* role of main or sole provider in a marriage even if she earns more than her husband. Let the man fulfil his biblical duties, and you don't try and get out of having to fulfil yours... Even if we think it'll work and won't affect the marriage, still stick with the bible because His word stands.

Bindi Marc you guys are the truth. I appreciate your show. What's your husband's name, I have not caught it. Love you guys and I will be sharing.

The thing about love being enough is that love at its core is I care about your entire well being. You don’t love me if ur willing to watch me work myself into exhaustion when you were given the capacity to outwork me past my threshold without even getting tired. It makes no logical sense. Anything else isn’t love. It’s I like you a lil bit.

Wel said bother 🙏

His last point about the real definition of love was so important…

I genuinely wish people knew how important this video is. I don’t have the words to describe how you’ve summarized my life and the revelations I’m currently having. Please Bindi, if you see this comment, consider making an E-Guide or a mini course for Men or Women of God on ROLES in marriage. Something. Anything. I would buy it. I recently came to Christ 3 years ago but no one on my journey explained what you’re explaining… So I’ve ended up in a Christian marriage where the roles are out of order. We’re trying to figure it out. But it really isn’t easy or enjoyable. The saddest part is my husband said he struggles with what that looks like for us because no one in our life models it.

@kingdavid4115

10 ай бұрын

Good evening, please I don't know where you are but I think your family needs discipleship if you are in the us check Jackie hill perry

@nah6730

10 ай бұрын

@@kingdavid4115 Love Jackie Hill, thank you!!

y'all are so beautiful

Women do not respect men who don't provide. It may seem fine at first because women have been cultured into independence financially but, as time goes by she becomes resentful because it's not natural to assume the role of provider as a woman. It's just not natural. I've seen this in my mother who was the bread winner belittling my stepfather. And the stress she was under made her behavior toward him spiteful and he was treated as a boy.

❤I just simply think that the world has its own view of marriage verses the believers view of a marriage ... Generally .. one will prayerfully be based upon Godly principals in terms of male and female.. husband and Wife roles... following a Godly diagram that implies Gods martial Laws. And the other will be based upon what this world deems as its own diagram of marriage ..that we understand may /or may not necessarily consist of male and female...(which conflicts with Gods Laws) The two views i think are contrary ... Thanks again for your Godly wisdom Bindi God Bless you guys union❤️💯🙏🏾

@fungsho12

Жыл бұрын

The most important view on marriage is God

7:46 Amen

Great video as all your videos are and I've just purchased The proper care and Feeding of Husbands! On a personal note I find the background music very distracting and have to work hard to block out and concentrate on your wonderful messages.

Wow her husband is good looking

❤

I’m interested to hear more about what your husband said about the husband being the primary provider for the family. Does being the head of the family mean the husband has to be the primary financial provider for the family at all times?

One can give without loving, but cannot love without giving. Relationship balance is key with mutual respect, love and the woman being submissive to her husband.

Bindi - I am reading this book called "The Empowered Wife" by Laura Doyle and I would love to hear your thoughts on it. Great video - it made me happy seeing how much y'all laugh at the beginning and the outtakes at the end, haha!