Thank you ❤ for sharing with us how you are managing the grief process. My husband suddenly passed away 17 months ago. I was totally unprepared. I was in a fog of shock for several months before the reality began to sink in. My women friends were so supportive, especially those who had walked through this experience. I am a very strong woman at 72 and I had to learn to allow myself to accept how vulnerable I felt and share my feelings with my friends. We have a large yard and garden and that was my refuge. Working with the earth and plants was so healing for me. As you say, it comes in waves and I have learned that it will pass and if I allow it to flow through me. It doesn't get "better ", but it gets different as the months go by. I am a yoga teacher and next month I am ready to go back to teaching my weekly class. People ask me if I am lonely. I am not lonely in the general sense. I have many friends to go for a coffee with, or a walk, a movie, etc.. What I am lonely for, is the person I did nothing with. He would be reading the paper and I would be puttering in the kitchen. Those hours when you are together in quiet just BEING.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

I love the thought in your last sentence just being there was comfort

@loladollypop

Жыл бұрын

Prayers for u both 🙏

@smallhouseinthemeadow6131

Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss Gwen. Yoga and meditation have been wonderful tools for me to help me overcome my grief.

@Katie68590

Жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss. Bill and I were married 48 years. We could literally read one another’s mind. I would start talking about something, he’d say, “I was sitting here thinking about that.” Or the reverse, he’d talk about something on my mind. Happened all the time. Miss that so much.

@brendawahlberg7341

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly said. I lost my husband of 37 years 6 months ago. I miss him just being here

Dear Sandra I lost my husband about two weeks before you did. The grief that I am feeling is just how you described it. Thank you for expressing it so well. I move on with the belief that he would want me to continue living a happy life and cherishing the wonderful memories of our life of being together for more than 51 years.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Arfat, I am so sorry of your loss, but I know that you truly understand what we are both going through. Our husbands would’ve want us to continue living and enjoying our lives. We must remember them know that they’re wonderful memories we will carry with us always

@janiboma

Жыл бұрын

I lost my husband in October after 60 years of marriage. You described the grieving pretty well. I found that the first of everything is hard. The first time shopping at the supermarket, the first Christmas, the first time going to the dentist because we did everything together. I try to be brave for my children because I don’t want to make them sadder than they are. I cry at a song or a movie or a photo. I know that my husband never wanted to see me sad because it would upset him. Now when I’m sad I think of how he would feel and just think of the good memories that we had.

Thank you for this! I am devastated after losing my husband of 35 years. Breathing is so hard at times. Thank you for your encouragement. 🥰

@gayathrihewagama3517

Жыл бұрын

Sending you love all the way from Sri Lanka ❤

Thank you for talking about your experience with grief. I don’t know how you got through it without crying. My husband died 13 years ago and I still feel his loss. I felt like I was in a boat in the ocean all alone. Ships passed as I cried out similar to your rowboat analogy. I felt like everyone was going along with their lives seemingly unaffected by his loss. I’ve learned you never get over it , you just learn to live with it. Grief is the price we pay for loving someone

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the loss of your husband. Every comment has really helped not only me but I’m sure others as well.

@mermiefasmart1387

Жыл бұрын

Agreed !

@elaineschildmeyer3877

Жыл бұрын

Yes … grief never really leaves. You just learn how to live with it.

@Anondlynn

Жыл бұрын

Yes Pat...I've learned that as well. It becomes a part of you and you learn to just give it it's space. If we never Loved we would not grieve so, but I've found it does become sort of a comfort over time for me. "Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them." ~George Eliot~

My husband passed one week ago. My grief is a bit raw right now. Today I’m going to go bowling with our team because he wanted me to keep on. I’m both excited and fearful of putting myself out there. However, I’m not willing to give up and I want to do him proud. I love your analogy of waves. He’s always here it doesn’t always hurt then it comes on out of nowhere but seems to pass as quickly. We have built up a spectacular group of friends that are so very supportive. They give me strength.

@ursulamullikin4723

Жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss , one week unimaginable to me how you are able to bowl, but as Sandra said it hits you in waves when you least expect it, I never thought of it that it hits you sometimes and you don't understand why something you might have done with your husband that you're no longer can do and that wave comes over you but in time it will get better, good luck with your bowling hit a few strikes

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Yes you you’re doing the right thing. It’s wonderful that you have such a good support group.

@peggybaggenstoss3817

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing…. It’s great you have the support system you have. Hopefully they’ll allow you to talk and cry without interruption. I have a male friend that continues to grieve the loss of his wife 4 years ago. He tells me I’m one of a few he can share and cry in the presence of. Even though the father of my children passed long after our divorce periodically I would grieve the “what if’s “ of “ us”. Now I grieve knowing what he’s missing.

@maryl8539

Жыл бұрын

❤ Love to you, many blessings, many healing thoughts ❤

@julieelizabethcreations8847

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful video … from a survivor who has been a widow for 5 years … grief is very personal … journaling helped me a lot … I wrote letters to my hubby … a lot in the beginning … now on his birthday etc … or if something major happens … it helps me a lot … ❤️🇨🇦❤️

Thank you, I needed to hear what you had to offer. I lost my husband this past September, and I sold our home in the north, and I'm selling in the south. I am living with my daughter and her family, but I feel so alone. I would have been married 62 years this past October. We had so many plans, and I had to cancel them. I took my first flight alone two weeks ago, and I thought I was going to lose it in the airport. I keep praying and do the next best thing. Thank you again.

Sandra, at first it's very hard to row the boat with one oar, may even seem impossible at times. But then, eventually your body gets stronger with that one oar, and one day you are rowing the boat just fine with one oar. Take one minute at a time and give yourself time to heal and adjust. It will get better. Not sure we ever get rid of waves of grief, but the waves get smaller, turn into ripples and a little easier. Sending love and strength to all suffering a loss no matter what that loss is! We have all been there. You are never alone! 💪❤️🙏🌻

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Julia. I appreciate you being here and sharing your thoughts today.

Good morning dear Sandra, the first time I travelled abroad alone I had the same experience. it took me two years to reach the acceptance stage and I relied on my faith, family and friends to turn the page and create a new life. Art and music rescued me. The grief doesn’t end but it changes 🙏❤️🤗

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your thoughts Naomi. It helps.

@llorenspanell.s.l.aguilera1393

Жыл бұрын

My father died when I was 24 years old, he was 53. The grief was so big, that I thought, that I would die...then the doctor suggested that a child could help...And he was right. My mother died 16 years ago...I am 73 years now. I felt so sad...I cried a lot, but over the time, I have a very sweet

@violetamanfredonia5225

Жыл бұрын

thanks for sharing

I think it’s important to add a caveat that “when you feel ready” … try going out to a nice breakfast or dinner alone, or participate in other activities. One must feel emotionally ready to move forward and not feel rushed. Sending love and hugs to you, Sandra, and to all those who have lost a spouse or someone dear. Grief is a pain like no other. ❤️

@thopmsonsmith3256

Жыл бұрын

Hello Catherine How are you doing today?

I so identify about no one to bring the croissant to you. When the service picked me up at the airport after my first trip as a widow I saw the telephone. I suddenly realized there was no one to call saying I was on the way home. A different way of reality living was beginning…🙏❤️

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

That wave just overcame me out of the blue. It was a feeling of loneliness that I’ve never felt before. I’m so glad that I am not an anomaly and that you also I’ve had the same experience. Thank you so much choice for being here and being such a good friend.

@susano7587

Жыл бұрын

😢

Dearest Sandra, my grandmother passed away in 1999 and I still miss her so much. She raised me. The truth is , we never stop grieving, we just learn to live without their physical presence but they remain forever tattooed in our most profound surface of our hearts. Thank- you so much for sharing and being a beautiful light to all of us! Your fan - Ana

Hi Sandra I’m a younger viewer only 21 but this video really moved me. I lost my dad two years ago and grief still does come in waves but it did get much easier after the first year. I really appreciated your analogy because that’s exactly how I felt and still feel going through life sometimes, it comes at random times. And i have delt with most of this grief alone as nobody in my life has ever lost somebody that close to them it’s hard for them to understand the waves. thank you for sharing and I’m sending you love

@barbaradieckmann9020

Жыл бұрын

It’s never easy to move on, after my husband passed away two years ago. I’m actually enjoying your vlog. If one can use that word under the circumstances.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Barbara

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate your sharing how you’re feeling as a Younger subscriber. I never thought about losing someone when you’re young it’s hard for others your age to understand what you’re going through.

@angelajanelomax5540

Жыл бұрын

@@lifewithsandrahart No one does Sandra. I was 18 , had to sleep with the light on for years. I feel for young people like your subby. I really do xxx ❤❤❤🐶🐾🐾

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

@@angelajanelomax5540 I do, too! 💕

I lost my baby brother to suicide November 2017. This was my first time grieving. The biggest thing I learned is that the grieving stages are not linear. I thought that if I could plow through and check off each stage, then I just might be okay. But it was all over the place. Back-and-forth. Up. Down. And I still have those moments of surprise sadness. Thank you for being so vulnerable with us ❤

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Kristen, I am so sorry to hear about your brother. They say the time heals, but I know that it really never goes away. They are always in our thoughts.

@Turnpost2552

Жыл бұрын

Even in death, no respect. Baby Brother lol say Younger Brother.

@delializarraga9638

Жыл бұрын

Kristen… I’m so sorry for the loss of your little brother. Your younger brother. It’s all the same, it’s incredibly painful. Hang onto the good and sweet memories of him… 0:00

The way I deal with the loss of my son is to not make it about me. I know his siblings are hurting too so I do my best to be there for them. Also, if someone were to ask me about coping with such a tragedy I would say " it's not something you will ever get over but you will get through it". Thank you for making this video.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about loss. I’m so sorry you lost your son.

@jhanes3791

Жыл бұрын

You have a big, loving heart and have a high (and healthy) emotional IQ.

I lost my mother at 14. We were not allowed to grieve much at all. Were forced to just get on with things. Did not really hit me until I was 30. Quite traumatic. Wishing you all the best as you move forward. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

No, I think it’s the most difficult thing. Moving forward as what we all have to do.

Grief is the beauty of love. It never goes away it just gives us a breather between the emotional storms.

I haven’t even listened to this yet but I can tell you that after 18 years living without my sweetheart it’s like an emotional roller coaster! Good days, bad days, days where it sneaks up and envelopes me with sadness and every level in between!

Hi Sandra I have been through this grieving process for my parents, my brother, and most recently my daughter’s fiancée in 2009. Each time was different because the loss of each of these people was based on the unique and special love for each one of them. My younger brother died suddenly of heart failure when I was 23 years old and in my 3rd month in graduate school. I seriously considered dropping out as I couldn’t go back to classes and function like nothing had happened. My study partner encouraged me to stay by saying in two years we would be graduating and I’d have my degree-but if I quit this would compound my grief because I’d have lost my brother and all the work I’d put in by moving to another city to come to the program. I was able to receive this wise counsel and I stayed, even though I felt dead inside for the next year. No feelings of joy, no happiness in living, it was like I swallowed cement and all was gray. And then one morning, i noticed a beam of morning sunlight shining into my bedroom and felt the heaviness lift and I was me again. I feel my brother with me always. I was also lucky to have a wise older lady living next door who told me, “ You will never get over this, but you will learn to live with it.” I think it’s so important to understand we don’t and shouldn’t try to “ get over” losing someone important to us- but we can can carry them with us as we continue on.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear about your loss is but I know you understand what I’m going through

@annemackenzie7295

Жыл бұрын

The same thing happened to me when I was at University. My younger sister died suddenly of heart failure. You describe the experience so well, thank you. It can be a very isolating experience as other young people often don’t understand grief. I buried a lot of my emotions in an attempt to be ‘normal’. I found it hard when people were feeling sorry for me all the time. It was very difficult but I came through it and I was happy again. I obtained my law degree and have been a lawyer for over 30 years. I’m glad I didn’t drop out even although it wasn’t easy. We have to take just one day at a time and pray for strength.

Thank you so much Sandra. I needed to hear this. After losing 2 of my adult sons I didn't think I could cope again but I think we need to keep going forward and as you say our loved ones would want that for us. God bless you.

@juliedavey4680

Жыл бұрын

After husband passed 2020 lost my baby boy aged 34 last year so want to say my heart hurts for you on your loss 😥 feel big part of me is now in heaven and can't believe have to live this new life on my own.I've just had mylomea diagnosis after several fractures in spine and ribs so not sure how long my time on earth will be! Big hugs to you Xx

@2EternityButterflies

Жыл бұрын

@@juliedavey4680 May God give you strength.❤xx

@daisyy99

Жыл бұрын

@@juliedavey4680 Your loved ones are together in heaven. Please enjoy each beautiful day in nature. Just do what you are able to each day.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Prayers Your Way, Julie. May God give you strength to carry on and to heal. We all will have you in our thoughts.

It is like learning to walk again. You take one second/one minute/one hour/one day at a time with one step at a time. You never get over it, but you learn to live with it because it is now a part of you. I use to work at a Residential care/ Rehabilitation center where people with brain injuries lived until they became a NEW NORMAL within their own scope of REALITY and I was able to learn so many things about life and about myself. Thank you for you very beautiful and enlightening and educational video. I LOVED your analogy. I pray Abundant Blessings for you and yours as you "walk through the valley ". ❤❤❤

I needed to hear this Sandra❣️❣️😊😊..I haven't lost my husband (thank God)❤️ but I'm constantly thinking about that day,especially now that we are in love for soo many years and how I'm gonna feel😔..I love him so much and I can't even imagine how that pain would feel for other's😔.but thank you so much for this video really helps alot and I hope your doing well,GOD BLESS😊🙏

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for understanding

@charlynehill5999

Жыл бұрын

You too, i know praying my Rosary sure helps me get a grip on life and to face whats next. Not sure if I'll evet be ready but i sometimes when its quiet think about, this is how its gonna be, i have days when i cry, then i get out of myself, get busy and appreciate the time i do have with him, who knows we may go first!

@pattyallen5313

Жыл бұрын

As one who lost my dear husband 7 years ago ( and I still cry for him), I am always telling others to cherish, REALLY CHERISH their spouse, for if that day comes and he will never walk through your door again, you don't want any regrets, don't get upset over little things, have patience with your spouse and often tell him how much he is loved and is a hero to you for the countless ways he takes care of you. God Bless You ! '

@suemiller7917

Жыл бұрын

❤❤

Bless you especially during this chapter. I lost my mother last summer and I had cared for her for years (she had dimentia so I had moved in ). I feel as if I will never stop grieving.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about the loss of your mother. Thank you for your thoughts.

I lost my husband four year ago Feb 4th of this year. Six months after he passed I started a you tube channel just to talk about my journey and my sometimes overwhelming grief. We were married 57 years, childhood sweethearts, 15 and 16 when we met. We spent a lifetime together. I’m not sure about those 5 stages either but I guess they must be right for a lot of people. It is a journey that’s for sure. I’m glad your daughter has been there for you and that you got to spend some time with your son in Tennessee. I have watched you for a long time. One more thing, I still have flashes of grief but they are much more gentle on me now and they are much less often. Prayers for you my friend. 💕🙏🏻💕🥰

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Connie

Hi Sandra, I am sending you so much love and virtual hugs. In the past six years, I lost my nephew to suicide, my sister to grief from my nephew(she drank herself to death to "be with him", my cousin to assited suicide, a few close friends to cancer, three beloved cats and this past Christmas day, my stepfather, whom I adored. "Waves" is a perfect description for how grief hits us. It can be out of the blue.Some days, you can wake up in tears and others, you can go for hours without thinking about them. Sometimes, you forget they are gone and go to pick up the phone to share something with them. I can feel lonely, isolating and when you lose a sibling, it can be especailly difficult because you have lost your best friend in some cases and everyone at the funeral, etc. focuses on the parent instead of the sibling. I find that grief is not linear but I am finding ways to work through it. I spend lots of time in nature, with my pets and painting watercolors. Reading a good book(I joined a book club at my library) takes my mind off of my sadness and gives me new people to meet with once a month. Walking my dogs keeps me active and keeps them happy. I write songs and I wrote a song about my grief that really helped to get it out. You don't get "over" losing a loved one in my opinion. You get "through" it.

It's so hard, I lost 14 family members in 2 1/2 years span, At times I thought I couldn't even breathe but with time and God's grace I have been able to live again

@LovinLnCottage

Жыл бұрын

Omg! I lost 17 in 8 years while I was full-time sole caregiver to my dying husband and that was traumatic enough. I admire your strength. My heart surrounds you with love. I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. May angels bring you comfort in lonely hours. ❤️🤍

Omg, thank you you making this video. I’m in the process of caring for my husband who has been fighting lung cancer since 2016. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster since then. Today he was diagnosed with throat cancer and will need a very invasive surgery. I cried all day because I know where we’re headed. I can only pray. I see so many brave women face the death of their partner and hope I can do the same. I admire you very much.

I lost my grandfather 5 years ago (I am 22 now). He was very special to me and also an inspiration now that I'm a little older. He loved life and living it. He sang in a big choir and traveled with them (sometime doing concerts with Andre Rieu), he rode his bike, had a fish pond, loved to eat (especially bbq) and went on vacation every year with his camper. He died from cancer. But i think what made it especially hurt was not how the cancer affected his body but his mind. Nearing the end he just became unrecocnisable. Not just from losing weight but he lost the joy in living. Because of his bad physical state he couldn't enjoy any of the things he used to do. And that was much harder to see than the physical changes. Which is why I always try to remember him before the cancer. The lovable big grandpa that would always randomly sing opera, would let me feed his fish, picked me up from school and always organised a family bbq in the summer. His big hearty laugh and his sweet smile. Every time I think of him like this, remembering the good memories I cry. At this point I'm not "actively" griefing of course and most of the time I don't think about it. But once in a while when I remember him like this it still hurts as bad as it did right after his dead. Grief never lessens in intensity, it's just not as frequent. Lately my grandmother (his wife) isn't doing too well and it's getting clear that there probably won't be many years left with her. It's difficult, cause seeing her doing worse reminds me of my grandpa more often and of the grief that I will again have to feel for someone else. Life goes on, but losing a loved one will always hurt.

@janvipohuja1789

Жыл бұрын

God gives you Strength

@tamarastoyanova9461

10 ай бұрын

You’re so happy that you had such a lovely person in your life. Not everyone has it. However, the other side of the coin is how huge pain to lost such a person. Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve imagined your Grandpa and my heart filled with warmth

My precious husband passed 2 yrs ago. We were married 58 years. I knew he was not going to live & I thought I was prepared - WRONG. The reality hits in the smallest way like sitting in the airport. I was very fortunate to find a wonderful therapist who saw something in me that I never saw. I stepped outside my comfort zone. I took classes, I met new people who enjoyed the same things, I started a KZread channel too. I also belong to a tap dance group. I try to plan 1 event each day especially on the weekend which is a challenging time for me. I have also been part of a grief group. Those experiencing loss are so understanding. I know this is a very difficult time for you. Please know I’m thinking of you and sending you hugs. It’s my husbands hugs I really miss. Wishing you comfort.

This is a support group, believe it or not for many whom don’t live in densely populated areas, like farms and mountains. Thank you for being vulnerable. Many of us were taught to keep things to ourselves or within our families. So glad I had the benefit of 12-step groups to get me to open up about feelings , as it didn’t feel so lonely anymore. The following advice from “Each Day A New Beginning” helped me a lot to begin sharing: Often when we’re being tough and strong, we’re scared. It takes a lot of courage to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, to be soft. -Dudley Martineau

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

You so much Patti for sharing this with us

Good morning Sandra- I so identify with the airport story - I lost my husband after 51 years of marriage- a few years ago - he would always have things just right for us before we boarded our frequent flights to Maui Hawaii - he’d get our coffees and danish while I’d wait in a seat holding our spot. The very first time I flew back to Maui without him there were many waves of this kind- the coffee and danish- the sitting in first class with the empty seat beside me 😥looking out as I landed remembering him pointing out the always beautiful turquoise waters as we approached the landing strip. He loved Maui as I did. Then a huge complete rainbow out on the horizon of the ocean was another wave when I landed the first time without him- after putting my luggage in my room. I cried uncontrollably when I saw this rainbow - the timing for this rainbow to be there at this moment was a miracle - tears of joy, sadness, hope, peace all at the same time as I knew it was a sign that I’d be okay, with time and that he wanted me to know that he was still with me in my heart and to be comforted by this beautiful - intense - bright rainbow and to enjoy whatever time I had left without him. Until we meet again. You never get over it - it still hurts but hurts a bit less over time and changes over time. Thank you for your love Sandra and being willing to share your process of grieving with us in such a lovely way when your grief is so new - you are a blessing in my life and to so many others. Please never slow down or stop doing what you’re doing- you’re so very talented. ❤️🌈 Carolyn

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Carolyn, what a beautiful story you have shared with me today. It is so nice when someone can identify with your feelings. Especially mine at the airport. Our husbands were very special people indeed I am glad that you continue to go to Maui and enjoy the place that both you and husband loved, thank you for your support and being here to share your experience of grief and healing. I appreciate your being here.

It's been 10 years since my 48 year old husband died and I still get waves. I have PTSD due to the tragic death of my soulmate. Music and pictures are big triggers. Recently I made a breakthrough. I am able to appreciate the memories brought on by triggers instead of heartbreak. Often I can smile instead of cry or hit bottom. Everyone is different however what widows have in common is knowing the loss of a husband. We care about you. We appreciate you. All of your viewers. May light fill your soul and peace fill your heart to aid you in adjusting without him. - Big Gently Hug - A

I have seen so much grieving in my working life, as I was in the funeral business and you are right, it is personal to each and every one. I thought that if I ever lost my father, then my world would fall apart. When it happened I heard his voice telling me he was ok and not to worry. I mentioned it to my sister and she said she had the same experience. I’ve listened to many bereaved families who have had wonderful stories to tell of seeing or hearing a loved one after a passing. They have gone ahead, we must continue on the path set out for us. I could write a book about many experiences, there have been so many and all give hope. So, we need not grieve for them, though it is hard not to grieve for times past. Blessings to all.

@Starsmiley111

Жыл бұрын

You should write that book! ❤

Sandra I am so sorry for your loss of Arthur. I am a younger viewer, and I agree it comes in waves. I’ve lost my dad at 6 years old, brother at 12, mom at 13, all my grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, a boyfriend.. I am only 30. I feel much older. Sandra I am here for you ❤ time brings acceptance… but the hurt will never fade.

I am 27, just lost my 28-year-old brother to a rare sarcoma within 6 weeks. Devastating. I found your channel, and it feels so comforting to listen to your experiences. Thank you, Sandra

Once you realize you will never hear his voice again, that he isn't coming back, that memories will have to get you through, you cry and then pray for strength.

I lost my husband of 43 years very suddenly just over a year ago. We were both in our mid 60’s with lots we still wanted to do. It takes an enormous amount of adjustment amongst other things. My mantra to myself now is ‘If I don’t do it no one will’, this keeps me going forward. My friends have been amazingly supportive, but in the end you have to come home to yourself and wake up to yourself every day.😞🇬🇧

@shawtywilkie9757

Жыл бұрын

that is such a powerful mantra, and i am so sorry for your loss. you are strong enough to power through each day and you should feel so proud of yourself for continuing to do so.

For me 6 years into widowhood I have found I don’t “get over” grief. It is my companion now and we try to treat each other with kindness. Sending you healing..

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Nina, very interesting thought

I totally understand the waves of grief ! When I lost my son August 2021 I thought no way can I go on! I had those feelings of sadness , guilt and I was angry ! Everyday I saw him from a baby to a toddler to a teenager to a wonderful adult man and husband and father then Gone! These last 17 months have taught me how strong I am and that I had to carry on for all the ones who still loved me and needed me! He walks with me everyday and we chat and we laugh as a family over how funny he was ! I share stories and I feel like a part of him is still here! I have a big red cardinal that has been hanging in my tree off and on since he passed and me and my hubby find comfort thinking that's him and we always say hi Jeff ! Crazy? Not to us we smile! No time limit on grief but there is a time to move forward ! Thank u for sharing ! Hugs and love Barb ❤

@thopmsonsmith3256

Жыл бұрын

Hello Dear How are you doing today?

@sheilajackson386

Жыл бұрын

I lost my Brother in 2020 and my Mom in 2021 so I understand the waves of grief. There are two cardinals hanging in a tree near my garage. Love never dies. ❤😊

@thopmsonsmith3256

Жыл бұрын

@@sheilajackson386 Sorry for your loss

All helpful suggestions. At 19 years out this is what I’ve learned ~ Grieving is circular not linear. You will circle back around every one of your emotions many times over, sometimes even within 5 minutes, for considerably longer than you might think. The five stages of grief~ by Elizabeth Kubler Ross was developed for terminal patients facing their own mortality. You might find there is no closure as your loss is not a window. Feeling differently as you continue on this journey is probable. Eventually your loss becomes integrated into your everyday. There’s no comparison in grief but similarities with others can be experienced. The sharp jagged edges eventually soften but there is always an awareness, on some level, that your life has changed. Keep hope in your heart and believe.

Sandra, grief is so hard to bear. I know exactly what you are talking about. It is good to share, joy and sadness. Thank you for making your channel a place for that too. 🙏💞

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank so much Rita.

Thank you for sharing yourself with us. I lost my brother a year ago, but I was not able to grieve him as I was caring for my mother who just passed away last month. In a year and a half I lost 5 people from my sphere. It is not easy. I am moving forward with my life, with an underlying sense of deep sadness. I never loved, nor will I ever love anyone as much as I loved my mother. And yes for me too, grief comes in waves. It makes me FEEL like I've been punched in the stomach and that things will never be ok again. Maybe one day I will wake up and it will all hurt a little less

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Shelley, how difficult it must be too experienced such a loss in a very short time. We will survive, but I know it will take time and many waves.

@jenniferbate9682

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this beautiful message. Love to you and healing ❤

@jenjem5810

Жыл бұрын

Shelly Squires Much love to you. Here w my Dad who sings Old Man River...soon 93. Cancer. We have some time still. We celebrate w small moments like now. One day you will awake, your Mom.will be waking up soon, and everyone will be reunited. John 5:28

I lost my lovely husband 3 years ago at the age of 53, ( He fell asleep 5 weeks after he was diagnosed with cancer). The absolute awful feeling you get at first does ease as time goes by, but the missing them and just wishing they could be back with you is still the same for me 3 years on. I can get on with living my life and laugh with family and friends because I need that escape from grief. I do feel like I’m okay and I’m gonna be alright. I have realised that yes I miss him so much and I will have moments where I have a good old cry and get angry cos he should be here with me, but also that it’s okay if that’s how I will probably always feel, just so long as I carry on living myself. I always make a point of not spending too much time on my own. Hearing your loved ones name mentioned also continues to help me as people around me didn’t like to mention his name in fear of upsetting me but it made me feel like everyone has forgotten him already, so I always make sure people know that I love it when I hear someone make a comment about him. Whenever I have a moment and find myself bawling my eyes out I always say out loud as I’m wiping my eyes “ I’m sorry, I’m okay but I just bloody well miss you “ . I say that cos I know he would be so upset to think of me sitting alone crying. Sending a huge warm hug to anyone out there who is hurting at the loss of a loved one ❤️

I lost my husband of 40 years in 2020, he was 80. We were together since I was 25 and I felt completely alone for the first time in my life. My children were wonderful but it isn't the same. I now live with and take care of my sister, I'm 71, she is 82 but it has given me purpose in my life. I never did experience anger or denial but emptiness, loneliness, sadness and loss was very real. It will be 4 years in March, and I still have moments but the raw grief is gone. He prepared things for me and I have no worries for my needs/welfare. My faith and church helped me. I travel a great deal with a group of widows. You gave excellent advice.

Sandra you describe the grieving process so beautifully. I too have had the experience you describel At my motherls funeral I looked to my right side to comment to her to only realize that it was her funeral. That was when it truly hit me and I felt that experience you described. When my father died at the age of 67, my mother sat at the bedside, tears flowing. My mother said, my mother did it, I guess I can. You are a pillar, a strenth, you have courage, you face fear, you love and you like my mother said are like her mother, you are doing it. God Bless you for your strength, compassion for the world and this channel.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Send your way and thank you so much for understanding Kimberly

Hello, Dear Sandra! Nice to meet you soon! I always thank you for your advices and videos! To Dear Sandra! Lovely! Greeting! 🌼!🧡!❤!

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for visiting

Sandra I am so sorry for your loss. I loss my husband at young age. I so was in love with him. I found myself feeling so empty, lonely, and the world kept going but it seemed I was standing still. The adjustment of eating, sleeping, and wondering what to do with myself. It was so hard. What helped me was my career, which I was very thankful for and my faith. I tried to stay busy with work and church and I think anyone going through this should stay busy. Your mind can navigate you in a good way or you can feel like you can't go on. I would say hold on to your faith and stay busy and as time goes by, believe it or not, things will get better. You are a beautiful, loving person and you will find your way until you meet again. You are a true blessing to all of us. Keep moving forward

ITS IN OUR BIGGEST SORROWS THAT WE GROW THE MOST 💝 AND PRAY.......

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much

I am 75 now & I lost my husband of 53.5 yrs just 2 yrs ago. Each loss in my life has been very diff. Lost my father when I was 21 and it felt like a hugh hole was missing from my heart. Very deep & painful. My Mom passed in 2010, forty years after my Dad. I do not know how she managed alone for long. What a women. With Mom we were best of friends & not a day went by that I didn't reach for the phone multiple times to share something I thought worthy to share with her. Really missed her. When my husband died it was like I lost myself & my reason for living. If I sat & read or watched a video on my phone I longed for his hand to touch my arm. We never had to talk much we just had one another that was all that mattered. Then you look & the chair is empty & life goes on. We had 3 sons together so all are married with families busy with their own lives. The remarkable thing since Ron died is how life goes on. Two days before he died our oldest son became a grandpa. That meant we were now great grandparents. Two years later there are now 4 new grandkids & 3 great grandkids that never saw him. He would have been proud because he was very social where I am a home body. I make it through each day only because I am not alone in my soul. My Jesus is with me daily even in my grief. He knows what grief is like He cried at the tomb of his dear friend. But My Father God & Jesus has given me a comforter, the Holy Spirit & without them I would be nothing. God is Absolutely Good & I could not make it a day without them. Ron is in Heaven pain free, new heart, new knees & waiting for me a long with his Mom/Dad, my Mom/Dad, his sister, my brother, our niece, a grand daughter plus lots of friends & family that are waiting there. What a day of rejoicing that will be. My prayer is that everyone will accept the free offer of life Jesus offers everyone. Accept Him is Heaven but to deny His gift of life is separation from Him forever. Hell was not made for man it was for the devil & demons. But deny Jesus Christ means your free will chooses Hell. Please accept Jesus. He loves you & wants you to love & accept Him back.

@candyclemens4432

Жыл бұрын

I am 67 and agree with you 💯% . But why I am commenting on your comment is , the end . Yes we all need to realize it is written in black and white words . Accept the Free gift from God , Jesus freely gave so we may receive this freedom . A life (forever) in Heaven out weighs the thought of refusing His gift of freedom and living forever in Hell . I too Believe ! PRAISE HIS GLORIOUS NAME 🙌🙏HALLELUJAH ! HE REIGNS ! 😇

You have helped so many of us today with your willingness to share your vulnerability and grief. My husband has had life-threatening illnesses for more than a decade now. Though I try to make the best of each day, I fall into anticipatory grief every time there is a new event like the one we have had this week. So I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video that will help me cope better today. One day at a time. “Share the love.” ❤

@dale9724

Жыл бұрын

My husband, too. Anticipatory grief is very challenging. I have to discipline myself to remain functional. I love him now and need to be at my best for him now, while he is living. Living in the moment. ❤️

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Debra, I can’t imagine how difficult that is. I had just a short window of time when I knew perhaps Arthur’s life was fading. At 96. I feel so grateful that I had him for that length of time.

@llorenspanell.s.l.aguilera1393

Жыл бұрын

I had not finished ...feeling of peace in my heart.

@jeanetteh.9240

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for that phrase, "anticipatory grief." I struggle greatly with that when I talk with or visit my 96 year-old mother. She has been my emotional rock, and being a single woman with no children, I dread the day I have to go on without her. Something that helped me was a comment I heard from a man with a terminally ill daughter, which was to the effect: We will have the rest of our lives to grieve when she passes, so we try not to grieve now.

My advice is to keep your mind occupied, spend time with friends and family (if you have a family), don't sit at home alone. Get out and be around life's energy. Don't beat yourself up with regrets or the way you are dealing with your grief, try not to let the patronizing comments cause you anger (he/she's in a better place, God needed another angel, etc). It's OK to be overwhelmed by the simplest things you used to handle with ease; your mind, heart and soul need time to adjust. You will never be the same person you used to be, love who you have become. Use your experience to help others further behind on this painful journey. I lost my only child, it is like being in the boat and losing both oars, one's life is shattered. Add to that being a single older woman and the loss, grief, loneliness is overwhelming. It has been 6 years and I'm still struggling with my loss of purpose and identity (I was a mom, hoping to become a grandmother). My friends who are mothers have disappeared, I think I represent the reality that they, too, could lose a child. Still, life goes on, a scab forms over the wound and dulls the pain. I try to be grateful for the life I have.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for all the great advice Cynthia

@susano7587

Жыл бұрын

I am very sorry for the loss of your only child. I don’t think I could bear it.❤

@VTGalinAZ

Жыл бұрын

@@susano7587 It is a major life changing experience from which I will never really recover. Stephanie was a huge part of my life and now I feel so lost. Thank you for the condolence.

@susano7587

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Cynthia. My heart breaks for you. My youngest son (23) got covid19 in December and is now having heart issues. He is having (amongst other things) bradycardia. His heart rate is not going above 43. I am scared to death. I don’t think I can keep on living without him in my life.

@susano7587

Жыл бұрын

@@VTGalinAZ I am SO sorry. Life can be very cruel to us.

When I lost my grandmother, I thought I would fall apart, and at her funeral I somewhat did, but I realized that my grieving process had started while she was still alive. When she couldn’t remember anymore, I grieved at that time, and when she would continuously fall and get hurt, oh I cried and cried while it happened, and when she had a hard time eating, I sobbed and held her…so I realized that I grieved losing her way before she took her last breath 😢🙏🏻 Grief is truly a mysterious phenomenon and you’re so right dear Sandra: it is very individual and different for everyone. Much love to you and we are with you ❤️🙏🏻

Dear Sandra, I am so sorry for your loss!! I did not know he passed!! Sending lots of love and hope during this very difficult time, please know you are not alone your chats and words of wisdom are a great blessing to many, many people. I lost my mother 27 years ago, and my God mother this past July on my birthday 😢!! I am convinced she is my guardian angel now!!! And everyday I miss them and the advice and talks I would have with them, and in a way I feel that I was guided to you to take their place as a beacon of light and hope!! Godspeed Mrs Sandra!!! Respectfully, JE

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Joyce your words are a great comfort to me. Thank you so very much for sharing your thoughts today.

Hello Sandra! I'm 34 and lost my dad almost 5 years ago. I think of him everyday and sometimes, grief still comes to me. It hurts but I think it is amazing how the people we love really do stay with us forever, because they keep on living in our hearts and minds as a strong memory.

This is so true for me also! You put it beautifully. It was my husband of 43 years who passed in 2016. This year, 2023 would have been our 50th wedding anniversary 💖 It’s so hard to go through this. Thank you again for sharing 🌿💖🌿

When those waves of grief come, I stay still, I feel it, and I allow it pass through my body and breathe. It takes lots of practice

Beautiful Sandra amazing woman. God says I created you to test you. He says I shall reward the patient I read that to my self when depressed

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing that with me.

Dear Sandra, There are moments in our lives we fear to relive... and others we long to repeat. While time cannot give us second chances... maybe people can. “Memories… let them fill your mind, warm your heart, and lead you through.” Stay Well, Blessed , and Safe 🌷🌹🥀

I am going though this grieving process The love of my life passed in Oct 2021 after almost 49 years We were inseparable I do not feel we ever get over such a loss We carry it with us always even if we move forward We build around the pain but it is always there I deal with my grief alone though my kids know how I feel but prefer to not talk about it Yes it comes in waves an sometimes you drown and can not breath but then I know my love is no longer in pain and no longer suffering and this gets me though the next step Support groups are not for me (I have tired) It just makes me feel worse Everyone is different I have my fur babies,my garden and all my house plants and this brings me peace Thank you for sharing and making this video

Oh the memories , no one can take those away.

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I was 48 when my husband passed in 2008. Time does heal wounds. Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve or make you feel bad. God bless you Sandra and my deepest condolences to you and your family.❤️🌹❤️🙏

Thank you for being so vulnerable with us. I totally understand I’ve suffered many losses as a 70 yr old woman and I appreciate your explanation. I’m a widow for almost 13 yrs now and those waves still come. You are a blessing to so many people dear. What a legacy

I lost my sister May 2022. She was,.....is best friend. We are devastated. She would want me, her husband, her children to get up and shake. That's what we are slowly doing, a little at a time. Her husband just opened another restaurant, fine dining, he is getting up and shaking and I'm proud of him. Her presence was huge. Her humour outrageous.😊 One of a kind. Peace to you as I seek peace too.

Thank you for this. I just turned 60. I have lost my Dad, both sets of grandparents, auts and uncle, my best girlfriend when I was 30, then my fiancé 10 yrs ago and recently my Mom. ugh So much loss but with loss comes wosdom and understanding of gratitude for our health and the things and people around us. So much love to you. xox

thank you for sharing. your videos have such a profound affect on me. I'm 32 and I want to age with grace, I want to live my life fully and genuinely. I lost my grandmother 5 years ago, and when I found your videos, a calmness came. You are a blessing and I'm so grateful for your videos. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

Dearest Sandra, your video moved me to tears , I think of you often, and always send prayers your way I am married 51 years , and still madly in love with my husband ,I find I think a lot about the one that will be left behind, and the grief one of us will feel. I lost my sister this past September, and all of a sudden a song will come on the radio, or something I see in a store I know she would have liked, and it’s like I got hit in the stomach… I know she is at peace and with our parents, it’s the only thing that helps me Your words will help so many, you truly are our gift ❤️🦋❤️

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Christine, thank you so much for sharing about your sister. When we lose a loved one this always grief.

@christined2495

Жыл бұрын

@@lifewithsandrahart she had early onset Alzheimer’s at the age of 50 and suffered for 15 years, my family is heartbroken, but like I said we know she is now at peace

Thank you, I became a widow after 34 years of marriage, I experienced all 5 stages of grief. Life continues, things get better as time passes.

About a year after my husband was gone I had the strangest thought. I was leaving a beauty salon with a new haircut and color and the sun was shining brightly. A wave came along with a thought “Why are you spending so much money on yourself. Your life is over.” I felt so weak and tearful. I found myself walking into a Church… a Church that I had never been in… I sat down and before I knew it many Adults filed into this Church. It was a bereavement group that started off with the Serenity prayer. It was so unexpected and so comforting. I believe in miracles and the goodness in the universe and this is a singular example of that power. Take each wave as it comes and bend with it and spread love and kindness everywhere you go… just like our beautiful Sandra Hart! ❤️

Thank you Sandra. You're right grieving comes in waves. I lost my husband 16 yrs.ago but to this day there are times the sadness loneliness emptiness comes in. I lost my parents my only child my only brother and sometimes I feel so alone. I just pray . I try to enjoy with the company of relatives and my adopted children. I pray a lot . Thank you for sharing. Stay safe and God bless you.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Faith can be our foundation at the rock

This video really helped. I have lost 6 very close friends to covid and I am 64 and my husband is 73. I just lost my mum too. The wave of grief is real. Mornings are difficult for me. I must learn from your words. Thank you Sandra. Love and condolences- lisa

Arthur was a true legend, with a big personality. I cannot imagine how much you miss him. Grief ebbs, and flows but without a pattern, or rhythm. I hope you know I am always here for you, my beautiful friend. Blessings, prayers, peace, and love, Sandra..MaryEllen

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mary Ellen. You’ve always been such a wonderful friend and a good support for me. I genuinely appreciate your kindness and your caring. Love your way. Sandra.

My husband of 64 years passed away one month ago. While his actual death was only a month ago, I have been grieving losing him for about 4 years as he had dementia. While you can’t really know what grieving a death is like until you’ve experienced it, it’s not as though you haven’t thought about it and talked about it at our age. Reality is they are gone never to return and you are alone. My only child died suddenly on his 50th birthday 9 years ago. I can truthfully say that without my faith and belief in God, I’m not sure I could have survived. I’m very sad and feel alone but I know based on past experience, I will be ok, just not today. I have a wonderful support system with my family and my friends and my church. I’m blessed because I’m not grieving alone.

When it hit you that Arthur wasn't there in the airport...THAT'S one of the stepping stones towards healing I've experienced personally. Re-walking familiar paths in a different way. Also remembering that things aren't the same...they're just different. Feeling, embracing the memories is what I welcomed after allowing myself to process and feel WHATEVER came up. Being open to expressing what you're feeling whenever it arises can oftentimes lead to a surprise healing from maybe even a complete stranger. I know I've been the healer and also healed in such cases. However we may feel is valid. And like you said, Sanda, grief is different for each of us. Arthur was a colorful character and those people do leave an obvious void in our lives for sure. Being the intelligent lovely expressive fabulous woman that you are...you will pick up that baton and march on carrying some of the spirited energy you were able to experience from your husband! Sending much love strength and healing energy to you dear one.🙏❤

I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband Sandra. 🙏❤🫂

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much

When my father died I didn't cry. Two weeks passed, then when I was reading a book, I read the line "it's okay to cry", and the floodgates opened. Have began crying for hours. I thought I would never stop.

Grief is Love ❤ with no where to go..

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Very interesting thought. Thank you.

The pain of Loosing the life partner is totally different Sandra . You will feel his absence everywhere . Like the coffee at the airport. You can create new memories but can't erase the old memories. But you you will be alright, life goes on . I hope mother nature wil help you to cope with the pain of loss and have a beautiful life . Take care .

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your wise advice. I know I will be OK.

@fatemahakim412

Жыл бұрын

@@lifewithsandrahart thank you for replying. I lost him in 2021 , still struggling. Be strong and be yourself. Love & hugs 🤗

You have to GO through to GET through ❤

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful thought

Sandra, Thank you for sharing your deeply personal grief. I have had many losses in my 70 years--each is unique and the grief can still hit you unexpectedly no matter how much time has elapsed, but, amazingly, the good times you shared can become more pronounced over time, and the pain does lessen more and more. Thank you again for forming this wonderful community for us. Much love to you.

Thank you Sandra fir sharing your grieving path. Personally I am numb, my husband of 40 years will have passed a year in February. I am cacooning in my home, except for grocery shopping, errands, and appointments, I do not want to be with anyone. I find social media on my Android is my comfort. I start to try home excercise programs, and learning piano, but feel so alone and think who really cares what I do. At 77, I find it hard to establish new beginnings.

@js-sc2eu

7 ай бұрын

This is exactly how I feel. Thanks for your post.

Sandra, I lost my husband 6 years ago from Alzheimer's. It was early onset and 4 years later he was gone at only 66. I knew ahead of time so it somewhat prepared me, but didn't spare me at the end. 15 months later, I lost my youngest son to Type 1 diabetes. That was a shock. I could have never gotten through it without God's comfort and strength, my remaining son's love and the caring of my church family. Two of my best friends now are also widows and we have become close and do things together. That helps a lot. God, church, friends and family are the factors that help you through the worst part of the grief. The rest will probably always be in your heart, but you learn to keep it in that special place of remembrance ❤️Sandra and all those who have lost but will always love.

@lauranugent9039

Жыл бұрын

My husband has dementia & Im his caretaker were both 75 even though hes here physically hes not with me mentally I cry everyday bc of the saddness & lonliness of seeing him like this ty for sharing it really helps❤❤

Thank you Sandra for being so open. Blessings to you in this journey. The first month after my daughter died I really struggled to sleep. Every time I closed my eyes I would see her frail, emaciated body. Taking care of her during her illness was all-consuming so after she died I felt rudderless. Around the fourth month after Tia passed, just when I felt like I could breathe again, a wave of grief so strong and powerful knocked me off my feet. It lasted for an entire week. I thought I was going to lose my mind. And then, just like that, the wave ebbed and I could breathe again. That was probably the worst that I'd experienced. I did a lot of walking in those days. Being out in nature seemed to help me the most. That and journaling. At some point I realized I was merely existing, not really living. Everyone else thought I was doing so well, but I knew that I wasn't fully engaged in life. I had created a coffin of my own. Coming to that realization forced me to make some decisions to fully engage in life again. Grief is definitely a process. It takes time to find one's equilibrium again.

Lost my darling Mam, who lived with me, a few weeks ago and am hit by waves of sadness at most unusual times. First time I went grocery shopping I was fine until I hit the cereal isle and realised I didn't have to buy her usual cereal. Burst out crying and later could smile as I pictured security camera wondering what was going on with crazy woman crying on cereal aisle whilst staring at high fibre cereal. Seriously though, thank you for such a kind and gentle video. I remind myself that the more you loved the more you will hurt and to be kind to yourself and know its ok to be sad and in time, it will be ok to be happy again, its what our loved ones would want for us. Blessings to you Sandra. Love from Ireland.

If only we could reach out and give you the biggest hug, Sandra.

Hi Sandra. On September 19th 2022, In my neighborhood a friend's husband passed away at the age of 33. His wife is just 28 and has two little boys aged 1.5 and 3 years. The grief the wife is processing is really heartbreaking to watch. Sometimes God can be cruel. Seeing this made me realise how short and precious our lives are. Made me aware how grateful we should be. I have shared this video to her. Hope it helps her. Thank you Sandra.

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Paru. I hope it helps her.

Thank you for talking about this. I'm so sorry about Arthur's death. It's the anniversarys that are hard for me, his birthday, our anniversary, the day he died. Once I get through this section of the year it's a little easier. But then I lost my last sister recently, she was not only a sister but a best friend and confidant. We helped each other through life long distance. We would talk almost every evening. And boy do I miss her. I can't write this without tears. A few weeks before she died she called me and told me goodbye while she still could. That was a hard conversation but I'm so thankful. Many people don't have the chance to say goodbye. There is grief for my husband, grief for dear ones who have passed away and the painful grief of pets. it seems to all get mixed up together in your heart.

I'm always watching your youtube from Japan. I lost my husband 23 years ago. I have learned that there are steps to overcome grief. Now I am blessed with two sons and live happily. I will continue to look forward to watching the program　 Thank you

Dear Sandra Thank you for sharing your loss, your videos are always amazing and inspiring to me, this is a sad part of life we have to face, but what keeps me going forward is that my husband would want me to be happy as he always did everything to keep me happy, I know he will be proud of me that I am staying strong to carry on his Legacy that we worked so hard for. I have come a long way and managing everything on my own which was very scary at first but I am learning...

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your support and sharing your story with me today. I know it helps all of us.

I am so sorry you are going through this. It must be so hard for you to learn how to live without him. My heart breaks for you. I am sending you love and light to help you naviguate these very difficult waves. 💗

@lifewithsandrahart

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

My mum said: "If you talk to those who have passed away and get a sense of their presence, you're very likely to get a feeling of telepathy. You can ask loved ones for help and there's a chance of getting this in your dreams." I know it's now hitting you: I'm glad you have such a good support system.

Sandra, I’m so sorry for your loss I didn’t realize he had passed. May God keep you and strengthen you comfort and console you

Yes, it’s a wave for me as well. My father passed away when I was a child and I was grieving the loss for most of my life. It’s a heavy, big wave, it was always inside me even though I was also happy for other people and things in my life. Then I had a missed abortion few years ago. Pain is pain but it has so many differents faces. That grief was undescriable. A storm trapped in itself, a loop where even sadness doesn’t exists. I don’t know how exactly “I came out” but today, I’m fine. I thank life for that. Yeah, grief is a wave. And when it comes, I cry it out and the ocean, which is my body, becomes calm. I see the loss of my father as a different point of view on life which I happened to see only after the loss of my daughter 26 years later. Life is absolutely beautiful and has so many magic in everyday moments! I try to seize them all and be grateful for me, my dearest husband, family and life itself. It’s truly the most wonderful gift we have! Thank you Sandra for sharing your wisdom. I wish you and the other readers all the best❤

@lifewithsandrahart

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I really appreciate your sharing your experiences of loss with us today. Every life‘s experience with grief helps each and every one of us understand our own. Thank you again.

I love you Sandra Hart. It's so comforting to see you after so many years. You are my first memory of television. As a little girl watching Romper Room before making my way off to school, you gave me solace. Though I didn't know it at the time my mother was brain damaged from asphyxia in her childhood. Watching you on Romper Room my young self experienced a sense of warmth and peace I did not know existed. You imprinted in me hope that I too could find if not emulate softness and kindness. I'm not sure what would have become of me without Romper Room. Thank you.

After the tears comes the joy! Laughter is great medicine...you will still cry but one day you will find yourself laughing more ....God is always with us and won't give us more than we can handle...pray the Rosary, it sure makes life easier..God Bless 🙏🙏🙏

I love you so much!! I lost my husband 11 years ago. Next week I'm 65 years an I still live alone wit Lilly my cat. I'm happy and don't feel alone. Is send you all my love from Germany ❤️❤️❤️

Its really an important advice that can help anyone going in grief because at some point in our lives we all had to go through sadness and depression 💖 Thank you Sandra ❤

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None of us can escape that I think. Thank you.

Dear Sandra, the rowboat with one ore is such a wonderful analogy. Your sharing touches my heart in such a way I can't hold back the tears. Weeks after I lost my dad I remember driving along listening to a happy song on my car radio and then out of nowhere, like a wave, I started to cry uncontrollably. I had to pull over and compose myself. All of a sudden I felt like he was in the car with me and I felt so peaceful. This happened to my daughter as well; a thought or a feeling that made her feel that he was letting her know all was well. Thank you for deciding to make this video. It makes me feel better, knowing you are doing ok. Arthur will be missed by all. My husband of 60 years says I'd better go first so that I'll be waiting to help get him into heaven. He's a funny guy and I can't imagine what I'd do without him. But I'm pretty sure I'd handle being the one left alone better than he would.

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That’s it. Thank you so much for sharing that with us. It does come at the most in opportune times doesn’t it your father must’ve been a great man.

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Thank you,

I lost my husband through divorce, but went through similar grieving for my marriage. At the same time I was doing this, my boss lost her husband to death at an early age. During one of our talks, she vocalized that at least she lost someone who loved her, while I lost someone who didn’t love me anymore. It sounds harsh when I type those words, but truthfully, it helped me too. It gave her comfort and gratitude for that love. In a strange way, it helped me to let go of what I had wished would have been, but wasn’t. I was grateful for being able to create a new start and imagine the possibilities of what my life could be now. It takes time. When I started to venture out to restaurants on my own, I would bring a book with me. I grew to enjoy those dinners alone. I got a golden retriever puppy and actually got in the best shape of my life because of our long walks together. I went on a trip to Italy through a community college’s community education program. I still grieved the loss, but also felt the cloud lift a little day by day. I hope this helps someone.

Lost my wife of 53 years ,feb 23 , this is my exact life.Thanks

Dear Sandra…you continue to amaze me with your wisdom and strength. Difficult I can’t imagine. You have a loving family and support and financial stability, which so many of us don’t have. Losing a family member. A pet, or another major aspect of one’s life isn’t easy. I pray, I know in my ❤, and try to adjust to walk with dignity as you always do. Hugs sweet lady!

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Thank you so much, Robyn! I appreciate your understanding

Thank you Sandra for your beautiful message. My heart breaks for you. My husband and I are in our 80s and this is something one of us will have to deal with . So yes a very inspiring message, thank you❤️

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Thanks for sharing!! I really appreciate your support