Life Update: I Got Married

Maddy is my whole world and when she died I didn’t want to do life without her. Our love and life was perfect and losing her was beyond debilitating. Days before Maddy passed, I cracked and told her I didn't know how I was going to do it without her. I asked her how I was going to find purpose with life and what I was supposed to do. She paused, and responded, "Live it for them and before you know it you will be living it for you again.”
Life without Maddy is substantially harder than I ever could have imagined. Everything without her has been excruciatingly painful. After weeks of trying to make sense of life, I realized that the only way I could properly memorialize Maddy’s legacy was by living the way I know she would want me to. My mantra for life has become, BECAUSE OF MADDY. Because of Maddy, I parent better. Because of Maddy, I want to always be present and live life to the fullest. I spent quality time with my kids playing and helping them work through not having their mom here anymore. I started connecting with other widows and widowers to better understand how to give my kids the best life possible as a single parent. One of those widows was Jessica Dennert. She lost her husband Tyson, her father, two brothers, brother in law, her grandfather and three other family members in a horrible accident. When the accident happened, she had two beautiful children and was pregnant with a third. The life she has lived is beyond inspiring to me. One of the first things she told me is that the pain of grief doesn’t go away, you just get better at carrying it. My first meeting with Jessica just solidified my thought that the best part of life had come and gone. We both felt validated that we had found and lost incredible love and we would never find something close to it again. We had no idea that we would change each other’s minds.
As we talked about Maddy and Tyson, we found similarities in our parenting styles, our views on life, and the special love we both had and lost. I didn’t think anyone could understand my loss or the love that me and Maddy have, but Jessica did. One of my new favorite phrases is that two things can be true. I can experience extreme gratitude, love, and admiration for Maddy and Jessica at the same time. I can love Wren and Andi and I can love Hanley Will and Blakely. I can grieve and miss Maddy every day while simultaneously having an exceptional love with Jessica full of beautiful, and spectacular moments. I can’t explain it, but I’m so grateful for it. I will never be able to understand why Maddy and Tyson can’t be here to see their children grow up, but I’m so grateful for the opportunity to figure out the rest of my life with Jessica, Hanley, Wren, Will, Andi, and Blakely. Jessica and I still have so much to figure out, but because of Maddy and Tyson we have incredible examples of exceptional marriages to build on and exemplify. We will live and love like Maddy and Tyson. For Tyson. Because of Maddy.

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  • @karenwelsh6094
    @karenwelsh60942 ай бұрын

    There is no denying the love you have for Maddy and we are so grateful for everything you did for her to help her fight the fight. She wanted you to find happiness, and Jessica was the answer. Wishing you both, and those sweet children, a lifetime of happiness. ❤

  • @ChandlerDavidSmith

    @ChandlerDavidSmith

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much, Karen! Love you!

  • @yogi.myers.

    @yogi.myers.

    2 ай бұрын

    Love you guys Karen ❤️❤️

  • @linak7155

    @linak7155

    2 ай бұрын

    Jessica has known a devastation that not many of us will ever know. Good things come to those who have open hearts. The children have meshed so well together❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 +❤️❤️❤+❤️❤️=🤍

  • @RABPWarrior

    @RABPWarrior

    2 ай бұрын

    I feel your joy 🥹 congratulations

  • @sandrabowman8935

    @sandrabowman8935

    Ай бұрын

    God bless you and Congratulations. Prayers and love for you and your new bride❤❤🙏🏽

  • @lizdocabo
    @lizdocaboАй бұрын

    He met someone who also went thru a big loss. Who also had children and also deserved a second chance at love. We need to have more grace for both of them

  • @nunyabusinessbro8527

    @nunyabusinessbro8527

    29 күн бұрын

    You have grace by yourself lady. The rest of us will feel as we please.

  • @star_baker

    @star_baker

    24 күн бұрын

    @@nunyabusinessbro8527it’s not your life, how you feel doesn’t matter 😂

  • @gamingtastic4516

    @gamingtastic4516

    24 күн бұрын

    ⁠​⁠​⁠@@star_bakerdid anyone say it mattered? But people can feel the way they want, stfu lol

  • @beepbop416

    @beepbop416

    21 күн бұрын

    @@nunyabusinessbro8527Right he didn’t even wait a year 😶‍🌫️

  • @lunaloveless7234

    @lunaloveless7234

    21 күн бұрын

    Kind of sus of both of them then...

  • @ngashua
    @ngashuaАй бұрын

    I’d like to imagine that Maddy and Tyson met up in heaven at a coffee shop or something and conspired to put Chandler and Jessica together. ❤ Wishing your family well!

  • @alexandria65

    @alexandria65

    Ай бұрын

    Ummmm WHAT LMAOOOOOO

  • @ngashua

    @ngashua

    Ай бұрын

    @@alexandria65 Just feel the vibes lol

  • @ChaoticEagle0301

    @ChaoticEagle0301

    Ай бұрын

    Came here to literally say the same!

  • @NOONE-ut3pl

    @NOONE-ut3pl

    24 күн бұрын

    Who’s tyson

  • @icebeargamingrobloxd981

    @icebeargamingrobloxd981

    24 күн бұрын

    @NOONE-ut3pl Tyson was Jessica’s husband that also passed away.. his name is mentioned in the video

  • @wowzatrishiebunz
    @wowzatrishiebunz4 күн бұрын

    Congrats to you and I know Maddy is happy for you and your new family. I hope folks don’t press judgement on you for getting remarried because you deserve to be happy as well as your children. I’m happy for you!!!!

  • @andyvaldez212
    @andyvaldez2122 ай бұрын

    "live it for the kids, and before you know it you'll be living it for you again"...........damn that was a powerful statement.

  • @EGGSHEERAN35

    @EGGSHEERAN35

    19 күн бұрын

    As I read it he said it😮😮😮

  • @NicoLanes

    @NicoLanes

    17 күн бұрын

    Agreed ❤

  • @leftfinned

    @leftfinned

    14 күн бұрын

    for me as well. That’s deep.

  • @user-yy7on7zc3i
    @user-yy7on7zc3i2 ай бұрын

    I lost my older sister when she was 29. She had 2 young children. Her husband remarried 7 months after her death. At first I was hurt by the short time span. I came to realize that while I was grieving, I still had a spouse. I still had that person and that support. My brother in law went home to an empty house. He went home to raise 2 little people that needed a mom. Life is short and we need to allow people to move forward however that looks. I have come to realize that the best compliment to me would be that my husband would have loved our marriage so much that he would want to do it again if I were gone. My hope is that if I go first, he would remarry soon and that he would have an amazing second chapter. That's really what it is, a second chapter to a beautiful life. It doesn't take away anything from the first chapter. It is just a continuation . Best of luck and live your 2nd chapter well.

  • @user-yy7on7zc3i

    @user-yy7on7zc3i

    2 ай бұрын

    I'm so sorry for you loss and experience. I think women do things differently. It takes us longer to process it all. The other thing is that a loss after a prolonged illness is different than one that is sudden. You have the time to start the process and to talk out what the future looks like. Again I just know that people have to grieve their own way. I don't think there is a right or wrong way. Just a your way.

  • @CherylAnderson0

    @CherylAnderson0

    2 ай бұрын

    I am very happy for you.

  • @scopeyourpeace3975

    @scopeyourpeace3975

    2 ай бұрын

    @@ihndz9824you need to understand that every person is different… I fully understand both perspectives. You just need to be understanding that everyone is different and that there is not wrong from right… That’s the beautiful thing about people… Everyone is different. You should really try to be more understanding of that. I know if I were ever to pass away, I would absolutely want my wife to find someone new that could help her to raise my son as quickly as she is ready… I wouldn’t want her to ever feel alone and sad for any stretch of time. I know I would never not be missed or not be loved by my wife or child. I would always only want what is best for them and their happiness

  • @ggrace1133

    @ggrace1133

    2 ай бұрын

    Yes, thank you for sharing your experience. I hope your sister likewise found someone to be with on the other side too so she’s not lonely without her husband and children from this side here. Heaven wouldn’t be heaven without loved ones.

  • @ttinkers1062

    @ttinkers1062

    2 ай бұрын

    Such a beautiful statement.

  • @mitzimoore3068
    @mitzimoore306816 күн бұрын

    Hearing you explain what you went through after Maddie died, and rightfully so, and then getting to the point of marriage in 1 year, I sure cant understand; HOWEVER, I do SINCERELY wish all of you the very best!

  • @RearviewWisdom

    @RearviewWisdom

    12 күн бұрын

    I read through these comments before watching the video and I also came to this video for clarity as well. But I’m not sure what isn’t there to understand. These two families in all their pain FOUND each other. These kids found each other. Everyone (including the kids) were on ONE accord. Regardless of how quickly it unfolded, my heart bursts in gratitude that they now all have each other. This is a blessing, we all should be able to SEE that.

  • @kcm7134
    @kcm713421 күн бұрын

    My mom died from cancer when I was 7 and my dad remarried a year later. Unfortunately, I think it was mostly because he was overwhelmed working and caring for two small children and needed help. Theirs has been a tough marriage and my stepmother and I have never had a close mother-daughter relationship. However, things got better once I was an adult and no longer living at home. They have now been married for 45 years and will both turn 81 this summer. 🙂

  • @erinclearwater3620

    @erinclearwater3620

    12 күн бұрын

    I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s hard to have a little one. I lost my husband when my kids were 16 and 7.

  • @adredsox79

    @adredsox79

    4 күн бұрын

    Wow i was trying to figure out the headstone on the other women ex husband. Is she to be burried there or is that gor a diff meaning. Im not sure. Being very serious no ill intention with asking.

  • @TheePrincessBrat

    @TheePrincessBrat

    3 күн бұрын

    Most men can’t handle things like this on their own and will rush to move another woman in or remarry. How he was going to handle the kids was one of his concerns so it’s not very surprising. It’s a common pattern with single fathers, whether they became single through divorce or death

  • @mama2boys123
    @mama2boys12320 күн бұрын

    I worked on oncology and cancer patients in homecare. I'll say they touched my heart. There was a time driving that l broke down for a big cry. It was holiday season and everywhere l drove was taking me by homes of patients I'd lost. All l could think was all of the tables that would have an empty seat. I'm thrilled you had the courage to love again. I agree that Maddy and Tyson were in cahoots up in heaven. Well played angels, WELL PLAYED! ❤❤

  • @MeetKevin
    @MeetKevin2 ай бұрын

    Our entire household is so happy for you and your family, Chandler! We love you all!!!!

  • @ChandlerDavidSmith

    @ChandlerDavidSmith

    2 ай бұрын

    Thanks so much Kevin! Thanks for all your help through everything!

  • @nothin9891

    @nothin9891

    18 күн бұрын

    @@ChandlerDavidSmith7months? Married already? Nah idgaf what the excuses are. No need to get married right away to someone you don’t know truly until year 2.

  • @lovemypurple7406

    @lovemypurple7406

    17 күн бұрын

    @@nothin9891 he cheated on his wife.

  • @djcalisucks

    @djcalisucks

    15 күн бұрын

    @@lovemypurple7406it’s not necessarily cheating. maddy would’ve wanted him to find happiness. and jessica just happened to be the answer.

  • @brothertn708

    @brothertn708

    5 күн бұрын

    @@lovemypurple7406are you serious? How do you know?

  • @shannapink801
    @shannapink8016 күн бұрын

    Now THIS right here is what life is about! What an absolutely beautiful story! I love how we all have a story to tell of our lives! ❤❤

  • @susanwagner9443
    @susanwagner94432 ай бұрын

    God bless you! You are honoring Maddie by continuing to live fully and well. 🙏🏻

  • @PaytonClarkSmith
    @PaytonClarkSmith2 ай бұрын

    Love you brother. It’s been so hard to watch you go through this but amazing to watch how you have responded. I’m amazed at how deeply you love Maddy and the lengths you went to get her better. We sure miss her. Im so happy for you and Jess and the kids. Love you guys!

  • @trishthedish2790
    @trishthedish27902 ай бұрын

    Chandler I have watched you for a while now I lost my husband 4 years ago with bone cancer I’m 54 an I don’t think I can ever remarry but I’m so excited for you God Bless!!

  • @Amber-dx6dy

    @Amber-dx6dy

    2 ай бұрын

    It will happen to you again one day. God Bless you

  • @TeeNicole10

    @TeeNicole10

    Ай бұрын

    GOD’S WILLING 💕🙌🏼🙏🏽

  • @GameTime-yj6qv

    @GameTime-yj6qv

    6 күн бұрын

    Men are more likely to remarry than women after their spouse dies. Age plays a role too as younger people are more likely to remarry than older people.

  • @brothertn708

    @brothertn708

    5 күн бұрын

    Did someone proposed after your husband died?

  • @CaseLucasRobinson
    @CaseLucasRobinson2 ай бұрын

    Congratulations. You are on of the reasons I started posting here on social media. Glad to have you back and glad life is looking better.

  • @JAMESFERNANDEZ
    @JAMESFERNANDEZ28 күн бұрын

    For me personally, it would be too many things happening in just one year but each person has its own way to grief and different timings to process everything with inner self. Hope you'll find peace and emotional stability with your new life partner. Moments are the only thing that matters in this journey.

  • @jasonmarin7258
    @jasonmarin72582 ай бұрын

    Congratulations!!! Nothing but love for ya, brother ❤. It’s great seeing you back on KZread. It’s great seeing you smile through the tears.

  • @asimon8313
    @asimon83132 ай бұрын

    What a blessing! Heartfelt congratulations to ALL 7 of you. 💗

  • @Oyimtalkingtoyou
    @OyimtalkingtoyouАй бұрын

    That's so beautiful!!! I was crying watching your other video just a few days ago .. then this one came into my feed. What a gorgeous, wonderful place you now find yourself. I'm.so happy for all of you in your new journey. God bless you ❤

  • @AllDayRayRay
    @AllDayRayRay2 ай бұрын

    I can't imagine losing the majority of the men in my family, all at once. Brothers, cousins, father, grand father... That's insane. What a strong woman. Your family looks like it blends so well together! Congratulations.

  • @catworld8119

    @catworld8119

    2 ай бұрын

    I completely agree! I don't know this man or his family but just from this video, I feel these two adults who tragically lost loved ones far too soon, had some heavenly help to find each other. Whether or not people believe in that, I feel Tyson and Maddie were guiding the way. :-) Looking at the blended family, I cannot see whose kids are whose. They all look like Daddy and Momma! Such a great story and a beautiful family.

  • @TeeNicole10

    @TeeNicole10

    Ай бұрын

    🙏🏽

  • @TeeNicole10

    @TeeNicole10

    Ай бұрын

    WOWWWWWW I DONT EVER WANT TO IMAGINE WHAT JESSICA AND HER FAMILY ARE GOING THROUGH😔💜🙏🏽

  • @linak7155
    @linak71552 ай бұрын

    I came across your channel a while back and sobbed with you. Maddy died, and you were so broken. You have now climbed back out❤ So wonderful you have chosen life. Your Maddy was a beautiful young woman who knew she was dearly loved 😍

  • @cindiegrimm5983
    @cindiegrimm59832 ай бұрын

    How wonderful!!! I've been a widow for nearly 15 years, after being with the love of my life for 41 years. I was 57 when he died, and just felt I was too old to start over. I have to say, I regret those years I lost 'stuck' in grief and not letting myself out. I've spent the last 13 years telling people with loss that grief never goes away, it just changes. That the open wounds tend to toughen with scars we will always carry, but we learn to move forward. I am so very happy for both of you and those beautiful children. You have 2 guardian angels watching over you and cheering you on. If you had gone first, this is what you would have wanted for them. LIFE . God Bless and BE HAPPY!

  • @taking98
    @taking982 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing Maddy’s story. I’m so very sorry for your loss. She looked like an amazing person. I wish you and your family all the best.

  • @numberline65
    @numberline652 ай бұрын

    Such an inspiration to those struggling with loss! Glad to see your wonderful story continue!

  • @HolyElkGaming
    @HolyElkGaming2 ай бұрын

    Hey Chandler, you're all very amazing. Thank you for sharing an update. I'm happy for what you've found and allowing your life to continue. Your family has grown now, congratulations! May God continue to bless you and guide you through your journey!

  • @phenix1307
    @phenix13072 ай бұрын

    So happy that you are okay and have found your way forward. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story. Praying for you brother!

  • @user-od5sh1ck5g
    @user-od5sh1ck5gАй бұрын

    Chandler, I’m so happy you found someone to share your journey with. I don’t doubt for a minute that Maddie and Tyson brought you both together. What a beautiful blessing for all!

  • @BRenee1207
    @BRenee12072 ай бұрын

    It takes so much courage to share your personal story publicly. You have articulated your journeys so delicately. Maddy and Tyson aligned your families to come together for a new chapter of lifelong support and love💞You all deserve it! All the very best!

  • @cbowman78
    @cbowman782 ай бұрын

    I am so incredibly HAPPY for you and Jessica!!!! You have a whole lifetime ahead of you with your beautiful children!!! Mady will never be forgotten. She is an amazing spirit! I will continue to keep you in my prayers!! Beautiful video. You did a great job! ❤❤❤

  • @alexjohnsonbro
    @alexjohnsonbro2 ай бұрын

    This is powerful. Thank you for sharing your experiences!

  • @justinev7846
    @justinev78462 ай бұрын

    Ever since you started sharing Maddy and her story, I felt so drawn to her, she seemed like such a kind soul and you are so lucky to have found a love like that and to find love again. Many congratulations, wishing your family all the best

  • @brynmichael8029
    @brynmichael80292 ай бұрын

    Great way to spend a night! Absolutely in tears! God bless you and Jessica and your new family! You’ll be a great dad to 5 just as you were to 2. Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 Maddie & Tyson are watching proud!!

  • @blake2492
    @blake24922 ай бұрын

    Chandler, I have been rocking with you for years, through the tear downs, the evictions, the new properties, the cars, all of it. Watching you go through this life battle was so hard to watch, yet so inspiring. You are such a strong, patient, humble, and grounded guy. I know I don’t know you personally, but I can honestly say I am super proud of you, and happy for you. You deserve it! Congratulations to you both! God bless you and your new family! 👊🏼

  • @ChandlerDavidSmith

    @ChandlerDavidSmith

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much! This is such a kind genuine comment!

  • @WoodUCreate
    @WoodUCreate2 ай бұрын

    My Man!!! You've gotten lucky twice in love! Jessica obviously captured your heart and life can move forward with your great family. I'm overjoyed with your new life and know you'll be happy.

  • @englishbeauty88
    @englishbeauty88Ай бұрын

    So fascinating. I think it’s too fast BUT what’s the likelihood of finding a gorgeous widow with even more immense grief? There’s literally no one who could ever understand it and I think it would be so hard to move on with someone who hadn’t lost their person, I think it would feel like you couldn’t talk about them or remember them fully and I love the sentiment of you both remembering these beautiful people with each other. I hope you two never know grief like you have again, good luck

  • @Duckduckobtusegoose

    @Duckduckobtusegoose

    26 күн бұрын

    You do what’s best for the kids though not yourself. I’m not saying this wasn’t best for the kids, just saying that it doesn’t matter if you’ll never meet someone like that again it’s a big big change to get remarried and move in with someone so shortly after your children’s mother has died. If they go to frequent therapy(the kids) and he was told they are on the path where that would be okay that’s one thing and of course not our business, but it’s unlikely that at this stage this is a good transition for the children.

  • @gracehaven5459

    @gracehaven5459

    26 күн бұрын

    ​@@Duckduckobtusegoose agree 💯 %

  • @gamingtastic4516

    @gamingtastic4516

    24 күн бұрын

    ⁠@@Duckduckobtusegooseexactly! It surprises me that someone would be able to move on so quickly … maybe finding someone new wasn’t a bad thing for him, but marrying already? I won’t judge, but it seems awfully fast and rushed. It’s about the kids when you have them

  • @amymac41890
    @amymac418902 ай бұрын

    Yay! I don’t even know you but so incredibly happy for you all ❤

  • @JuanEGonzalez-wr7lk
    @JuanEGonzalez-wr7lk2 ай бұрын

    We are glad you're back, I know I'm not the only one waiting for content from you. Keep on pressing forward on your new journey with our kids.

  • @dawsonlinde9542
    @dawsonlinde95422 ай бұрын

    This video has me in tears. There are not enough like buttons. In world full of division and self-numbing, this vulnerability and leaning into grief and suffering and finding hope and restoration is a story we all need to experience more. I subscribed to your channel because I have a few rentals, but this wisdom and perspective blows away all investment advice you’ve ever given. Blessings to you, stranger. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @ChandlerDavidSmith

    @ChandlerDavidSmith

    2 ай бұрын

    This comment means so much to me

  • @sherylcarruth1332

    @sherylcarruth1332

    Ай бұрын

    What a nice comment.

  • @lovemypurple7406

    @lovemypurple7406

    29 күн бұрын

    @@ChandlerDavidSmith huh I really thought you loved her so much but as they say what goes into the wash comes out the rinse!!!! You fall in and out of love so easily!!!!

  • @ItzTheUnstoppableGamer

    @ItzTheUnstoppableGamer

    23 күн бұрын

    @@lovemypurple7406 chill

  • @KayGua

    @KayGua

    20 күн бұрын

    @@lovemypurple7406shut up

  • @angelacrimmins6074
    @angelacrimmins60742 ай бұрын

    Maddy was part of the same cancer support group as I am in. I'm a stage 4 fighter myself. Maddy was awesome. I can't lie it kind of breaks my heart you remarried SO fast. I do however pray for you and your family's happiness. You all do deserve to be happy even if it was moved fast in our eyes 💙

  • @thainac1732

    @thainac1732

    2 ай бұрын

    I’m surprised he remarried so quickly as well. I’m glad he’s happy and found love, but wow 😮 I’ve heard men tend to move on quicker than women.

  • @acs1993

    @acs1993

    2 ай бұрын

    You don't know his situation they are most likely helping each other through there losses. Not everyone is the same I'm sure he loved Maddy he now has to try to move on and if this is his way of moving on let him be.

  • @nancyellen8006

    @nancyellen8006

    2 ай бұрын

    Well said. Men often feel the strong emotional need for love and companionship and some men remarry quickly after losing their wife. It’s okay if they make the choice to remarry. We don’t know what they’re going through. It must be horrible. ..

  • @thainac1732

    @thainac1732

    2 ай бұрын

    @@nancyellen8006 Of course it’s okay to remarry. I was just surprised at how quickly it happened.

  • @diannedao

    @diannedao

    2 ай бұрын

    I am sooo happy not only for Chad and Jessica but also for those precious 5 young children. When God closes one door He definitely opens another. We can plan all we want but when He has other plans for us, you just got to grab it with both hands! I know this because I too experienced the same thing. After the loss of my husband I was left with 2 young sons age 2 and 4 years old (and we were working on our 3rd baby) I had to pick up all the pieces of our broken dreams and make new ones. I soon found myself going on the same path of a very close friend of my husband and mine (I’ve known him as long as I have known my husband). This friend was left with a devastating divorce 2 years prior and he had to learn to be a single dad of 2 boys same ages as mine. We found ourselves getting together to do fun stuff for our boys. The love of our years of friendship was already there so as we spent more and more time together it was undeniable how our feelings grew to love and our kids enjoy being with each other. 15 years later we still look at each other and amazed how we ever got together and grew 4 amazing smart responsible young men all in college and medical school and we have 1 still at home (our 14 year old son that’s ours)! We would NEVER EVER imagined we would have that second chance of happiness and of raising a blended family!! But here we are! God is truly Great! Even though it felt so fast within a year that I moved on, honestly everything just FELT right and his kids and my kids being so young made the transition so much easier. So CONGRATULATE Chad and Jessica for finding each other and giving yourselves second chances at happiness and making a HUGE difference in your children’s lives by having a loving stable happy family!! God bless each and everyone of you. No one can truly know what and how you feel and what all you are going thru. The only things that matter are your big beautiful growing family!! ❤️❤️👏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🎉🎉

  • @staceyvitale
    @staceyvitale17 күн бұрын

    I just came across your tribute video for Maddy and sobbed for your loss, she was amazing. Then I saw the thumbnail for this video and was elated! What a beautiful bittersweet story, that really has only just begun! How special. God Bless you all…you all deserve every bit of happiness!

  • @NoahKettle
    @NoahKettle2 ай бұрын

    Great to see you again wishing you and your family the best, extremely sorry to hear about your loss

  • @TechieTurnedInvestor
    @TechieTurnedInvestor2 ай бұрын

    Was just looking at your channel looking for some new content!! Glad to have you back

  • @Mcmillenbrandon
    @Mcmillenbrandon2 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story! You deserve all of the happiness my friend!

  • @MrHsvhardhitter21
    @MrHsvhardhitter212 ай бұрын

    Congratulations bro. Was worried about ya after everything with Maddy. Couldn't be happier for you and your family !

  • @spicytoyz1183
    @spicytoyz11832 ай бұрын

    Welcome back, and thank you for thinking of us! I think it's absolutely amazing that all of you found each other! I support your decision, and admire your strength! Thank you again for sharing your story with us!

  • @vloggingblonde
    @vloggingblonde2 ай бұрын

    Wow.. I am speechless... I am so happy for you all, especially those 5 precious angels!

  • @marjoriejune
    @marjoriejune25 күн бұрын

    Beautiful! THANKYOU for letting us in on your heart-wrenching yet beautiful story.

  • @RodNavarroDotCom
    @RodNavarroDotCom2 ай бұрын

    Bro. This is awesome. I'm pumped you were able to find balance! way to go for you and the kids! Long life for Jessica and you. And it totally makes sense to have both Maddy and Tyson as close as possible, remembering them for the great place they had and always will have. I'll send something over podia as well.

  • @unofficialnation7033
    @unofficialnation70332 ай бұрын

    I've felt so beyond words for the loss you had with Maddy. No one deserves to go through that and during your hiatus there were times id often think about you and the kids hoping you were doing ok. I'm so happy for you and Jessica and the life the 2 of you will give those 5 beautiful kids! This is your happiness that you both deserve and its the family those kids deserve. Much love bud!

  • @ninakoch1799
    @ninakoch17992 ай бұрын

    Congrats, wishing you guys nothing but love and happiness!❤ Madds would be proud of how you are making the most of life and taking care of your shared kids. And I am so happy for you that you found love again.

  • @motley06
    @motley062 ай бұрын

    I lost both my parents within a year of each other, so I can relate to your pain. I don’t think the pain ever completely goes away. Glad to see you’ve learned to manage that grief and move forward. You’re a great guy. Glad you’ve found happiness. Super excited you’re back on KZread, but do it at your own pace.

  • @brc9064
    @brc90642 ай бұрын

    Congratulations 🎉- I know she is smiling and happy that you have found someone to love you and your children ❤❤❤

  • @theSatanist
    @theSatanist2 ай бұрын

    Chandler, your courage to share such a profoundly personal journey is truly commendable. The way you've articulated Maddie's enduring spirit and optimism amidst such daunting challenges is deeply moving. Her resolve to stay positive and present has clearly touched many lives, including those of us who only know her through your words. It's evident that Maddie's legacy continues to inspire and guide you and your children. Your ability to rise from the ashes of grief, embracing hope and gratitude as Maddie wished, is a testament to the strength of the human spirit. Thank you for reminding us all of the power of resilience and the importance of cherishing every moment with our loved ones. Keep living your life with the same tenacity and love that Maddie showed every day. Your journey gives others the courage to face their own trials with a hopeful heart.

  • @ChandlerDavidSmith

    @ChandlerDavidSmith

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much!

  • @michaellawrence3345
    @michaellawrence33452 ай бұрын

    Aaaaah mate sorry for your loss Bless her soul 🙏🏾

  • @sznlaura
    @sznlaura2 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this with the world. I lost my mother to cancer in a similar age as your kids, my dad remarried around 6 1/2 months later and for me it was the greatest gift ever. Very happy for you the kids and wishing your family the best!

  • @Bel-ri4vz

    @Bel-ri4vz

    2 ай бұрын

    For Me ....the opposit. 😔

  • @Whylezz
    @Whylezz2 ай бұрын

    That song at the end is perfect. So sorry for the challenges you and Jessica and your kids have had to face. Wishing you all the happiness in the world!

  • @tammyschutte6343
    @tammyschutte63432 ай бұрын

    Congratulations! Blessing for you, Jessica and the 5 littles. I believe your two angels had a hand in this. Happiness to you all!!

  • @MendandMake
    @MendandMake2 ай бұрын

    you deserve your happiness... been following you and glad to see a good guy smile again. Best of luck to your family man.

  • @CookinCatWithMesoMatt
    @CookinCatWithMesoMatt2 ай бұрын

    It's good to see you're back. I could say a million things but that's the most important. You are inspiring. Stay strong brother.

  • @nareda.
    @nareda.2 ай бұрын

    This just made my heart sing. Stay brave do vulnerability. Keep living. thrive!

  • @tedramos3195
    @tedramos31952 ай бұрын

    WOW😭😭😭, what a testimony, I’m SO HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS! You deserve this and God always has His way🙏🏼God bless🙏🏼

  • @BWhizzle23
    @BWhizzle232 ай бұрын

    What an Amazing story! Such an inspiration for the world, I wish you and your family nothing but the best. Thank you for sharing and providing a Light for us all!!!

  • @cameroncostley1803
    @cameroncostley18032 ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your story, the good and the bad. So glad that you're on your feet with your family.

  • @danadelarosa156
    @danadelarosa156Ай бұрын

    Wow, you guys got me crying over here. ❤ I’m so happy for you. God bless your beautiful, strong family.

  • @user-rx7yj2hb6o
    @user-rx7yj2hb6o2 ай бұрын

    I don't believe in coincidences ...this is truly divine intervention! So happy that you were able to keep Maddy's request to live again!! I wish you all the best always...❤ You both deserve this second chance!

  • @Ditronus.
    @Ditronus.2 ай бұрын

    Man, you motivated me to make some of the best business decisions I have in my life, buying my first several--and possibly last--properties (let's be honest the market is crazy high). I tuned out for a couple years (while still using your very helpful app), and was *crushed* when I came back and saw the video of your wife's last year. I was in tears the night I watched it. I'm happy to hear that you and your kids are doing well, pulling together the broken pieces across multiple families into a unified whole again. It's beautiful.

  • @ChandlerDavidSmith

    @ChandlerDavidSmith

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @izzymoon7648
    @izzymoon764826 күн бұрын

    Reading the title, I was skeptical. But listening to your experiences made me understand your actions, desicions and I completely agree with you. I think that both you and Jessica loved your respective late spouses but you found peace and support with one another. It's not wrong to find comfort and love with someone who understands your pain and can heal with you. Feeling guilty is a very normal part of grief. Bit just know they'd want you to be happy. Not only is this relationship beneficial to you and Jessica, but it's very beneficial to the kids. Growing up with the weight of such a tremendous loss will be difficult. But having a unit that will understand and help you in you in those low times will be more important than you can imagine. This doesn't mean that Maddy and Tyson will be forgotten. They were both wonderful souls and will not be left behind. They will always be special to everyone in this family, and they are not just a part of the past. They are not being replaced. These two families who lost members find solace within each other and they can honor and continue to love said members alongside each other. There are many negative comments here, which don't make sense to me. They're not in this position and they shouldn't be bringing negativity to family trying to heal. Keep your rude opinions to yourselves please. It will do nothing and benefit no one, so there's really no point. To the both of you, dont take these comments to heart. Do what you believe and know is right for yourselves and your family regardless of what others say. That being said, I wish all seven of you happiness, peace, and comfort. And most of all, I hope you keep Maddy and Tyson close to your hearts because while they may be gone from this earth, they will forever live on inside this family. ❤️‍🩹

  • @laurathepoet
    @laurathepoet26 күн бұрын

    The capacity humans have for deep, daily grief AND abundant, joyful love is a miracle. Both feelings, both bring wisdom and perspective. Your honesty here about how you were likely judgemental and unkind, that's a brave thing to admit. I am so happy you have found more love and support.

  • @fasteddie8225
    @fasteddie82252 ай бұрын

    Glad to see you’re doing well man you deserve it so much! You’re a great inspiration to many glad you found light in your life again!! Much love from the 801!🤙🏽

  • @annchavez1494
    @annchavez14942 ай бұрын

    I’m so sorry for the losses of Maddy and Tyson 😢 May you and your beautiful family be blessed with love, peace, and so much happiness ❤ Your story has given me hope that I will find a way to find some peace and happiness on my grief journey. I didn’t lose a spouse, I lost my eldest daughter, and have been struggling for almost 13 years to find a way to stay present, and bring love forward. Your love that you share with your family and your story really resonated with me, and I hope to read your book someday ❤ Much love going up to Tyson and Maddy ❤ Congrats to you and your new beautiful wife. ❤

  • @VanessaR87
    @VanessaR872 ай бұрын

    Congratulations, Chandler! Continued blessings to you and your family.

  • @Pat7629
    @Pat76292 ай бұрын

    This story is just incredible. I was listening to this while driving from my Cape Cod house back to Boston and sobbing my eyes out. So happy for you and best wishes.

  • @johncody-newinvestments5187
    @johncody-newinvestments51872 ай бұрын

    Chandler, first I want to say I’m glad you took the break you needed for your family and for yourself. welcome back and I hope to see more of you! Nothing I say will ever make things better for you nor can I comprehend the situation and feelings you, Maddie and your kids have felt over the last three years. We’re here for you, we’re rooting for you and we’re part of your community. I’d say the way you handled this chapter in your life was nothing short of incredible. You’re an amazing father and husband. God bless you, your family and Maddy. ❤

  • @cherylwaller4826
    @cherylwaller48262 ай бұрын

    I've thought of you often, Chandler. So glad to hear that you stood back up. Chapter Two: Bring it on! Love, life, blessings and all that God has in store for your family!❤️🙏🤗

  • @Goatguy2021
    @Goatguy20214 күн бұрын

    Great video keep it up i saw the first video then I came back to watch this thanks for this great video you are doing everything great

  • @DoctorT0716
    @DoctorT07162 ай бұрын

    This story is so beautiful. Wishing you and your family a lifetime of happiness.

  • @jaimea7029
    @jaimea70292 ай бұрын

    I cried so hard after your last video and I am glad you are building back.

  • @cqbarnieify
    @cqbarnieify2 ай бұрын

    As a grieving person myself, what you said about the times where you weren’t sure if you would make it, really resonated with me. One day at a time, we must somehow go on. I am profoundly sorry for your loss. You are now inspiring me to have hope for a brighter future. May God bless and protect you and your beautiful family each and every day.

  • @MrsTou
    @MrsTou2 ай бұрын

    I’m glad you have found love again. God bless you and your family!

  • @HeatherRose2023
    @HeatherRose202324 күн бұрын

    I lost my sister to a car accident the same year my ex left and divorced me. Was dealing with significant health issues (undiagnosed celiac disease) during all of that. Two years later, I lost my mom suddenly to cancer. Two years after that I lost my job due to the economic downturn in the industry. It’s been 10 years and I am still struggling. Loss and grief suck.

  • @kyoshikikresnik6972

    @kyoshikikresnik6972

    12 күн бұрын

    Keep standing tall. I do not know the pain and difficulties you are and have gone through, but know that you are doing the best and that there are always others that will be there for you. I cannot say more since I am not in your footsteps, but keep standing tall and be proud, be happy, and love yourself and those who love you.

  • @user-yq5fr3gs5t
    @user-yq5fr3gs5t2 ай бұрын

    Congratulations! It sounds like Maddie & Tyson brought you two together. May you live a long, happy life as a family of 7. 🙏🏻

  • @NickM11561
    @NickM1156123 күн бұрын

    Holy shit. Losing every male in a family is beyond sad. Im glad you met each other.

  • @Lilithsund
    @Lilithsund2 ай бұрын

    I cant even express how happy I am for you and your familly as well as Jessica and hers. Thats a trully beautiful story, Maddy and Tyson are watching over you, and smilling at your happiness ❤

  • @icebeargamingrobloxd981
    @icebeargamingrobloxd98124 күн бұрын

    First time seeing your channel, im glad you didn’t stay in a complete state of sorrow for years and have someone who lifted you and your kids back into life , sending much aloha from big island Hawaii

  • @kaden56
    @kaden562 ай бұрын

    Hell ya man I’m so happy for you! Those kiddos have a bright future after your tragic loss because of the outlook you chose to have. You are killing it!

  • @ChandlerDavidSmith

    @ChandlerDavidSmith

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this comment! Means the world!

  • @t5l239
    @t5l2392 ай бұрын

    Oh, it's going to go fast with all your little kids. Enjoy! Enjoy! I'm so happy you ALL found each other. Truly a Blessing.❤

  • @SILSAL67
    @SILSAL672 ай бұрын

    Good for you both!!! Two very broken families melded into a larger love filled, support filled family!!!

  • @ohmy...9007
    @ohmy...90072 ай бұрын

    Couldn't be happier for you and the kids. Thanks for sharing your story ❤️

  • @outoftime7740
    @outoftime77402 ай бұрын

    What a beautiful story. I think this new family, is exactly what your 2 beautiful kids needed. And you as well. I wish you all the best..

  • @SkiddingF350
    @SkiddingF3502 ай бұрын

    You deserve to be happy and so do your kids. Your journey has touched many lives. My mom was a widow and my step dad was wonderful father to me. I've watched your story and I'm familiar with that deadly plane crash of a couple years ago, such a tragedy. God has a plan for all us, the Plan of Happiness!!!

  • @Drizzlestreetwear
    @Drizzlestreetwear5 күн бұрын

    Bless You and your beautiful family! Maddy helped you find a new love that will continue to honor her life through your own. Praying for you and your family to always be blessed.

  • @MissOlyaSmile
    @MissOlyaSmileАй бұрын

    Your family with Maddy is exemplary to me. You are very good, caring parents and strong people. I hope everything goes well for you and Jessica

  • @barbaraphillips4375
    @barbaraphillips437521 күн бұрын

    Praise the Lord, Hallelujah keep loving those who are struggling thru grief ,they will come in at some point, I lost my husband all most 16 years , Thank you Lord , He's seeing you thru and blessing of new beginnings,together.

  • @user-se7ky3hb6n
    @user-se7ky3hb6n2 ай бұрын

    When God closes a door He opens up a window. God Bless you & Jessica & kids!

  • @fayejacobs1043
    @fayejacobs1043Ай бұрын

    Wow, what a Beautiful family. Its kinda nice after the storm to see the rainbow. Congratulations. Im not a subscriber but you showed up on my feed.

  • @lyndabell7402
    @lyndabell74022 ай бұрын

    I'm inspired by her life and the love she showed in the dying process. #maddystrong *We are all better humans making our way through this messy life because you shared her with us!*

  • @jenrandolph9313
    @jenrandolph93132 ай бұрын

    What a beautiful story! ❤ I followed Maddy’s story and thought she was such an incredible person and fighter. Looks like you found another gem. Congrats 🎉

  • @cherylthrone8775
    @cherylthrone87752 ай бұрын

    I found your videos a year ago and am so happy for you. It's amazing to see how God has carried your family through all of this. I'm also a hopeful real estate investor, so I look forward to more of that content too!

  • @tawnyavandamme5471
    @tawnyavandamme5471Ай бұрын

    You are so right , when you lose someone you love it doesn’t get easier , you get stronger in time .

  • @time-out-tuti-fruti5142
    @time-out-tuti-fruti51422 ай бұрын

    First time I’ve see this channel and want to say how beautiful your story is. There is no reason people can’t love and grieve at the same time who better to understand you than someone who is in the same situation. Wonderful for all of you to have someone to share the journey with.