Life in Spain - When the novelty wears off

Life in Spain - When the novelty wears off
Reality is a lot of people will blame Spain for not being for them. But the big question is did they enter Spain with the right mindset? As learning a new language, moving to a new location and becoming part of a completely new environment and community is a big leap. At the same time, it is being able to see that this will occur and not the thoughts of Spain based on the annual holiday. Which gives the belief that its all beach, sunshine, and Sangria. There is a lot more to Spain and there is a lot to do to keep busy even if retired.

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  • @j-t4436
    @j-t44362 жыл бұрын

    I’m a Brit that speaks Spanish (my ex was Mexican) when I meet other Brits abroad, especially Brits that live in Spain, l’m always very surprised at their lack of Spanish. There’s Brits that have lived in Spain for years that still don’t even use “hola” or “gracias”. That’s crazy to me. Why move to a country if you aren’t going to learn the language?

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    2 жыл бұрын

    With large communities of Brits they are often not needing to even meet anyone Spanish. Purely there for the sun. Different in the big cities though as it's immersion.

  • @hogwashmcturnip8930

    @hogwashmcturnip8930

    2 жыл бұрын

    I spent 13 years in Extremadura. No English speakers or British teabags there. I moved to the coast because my mobility isn't what it was, after an accident, and that was a bigger culture shock than moving to Spain in the first place! I have had people tell me cheerfully 'Oh I never bothered learning Spanish! I had 100 English neighbours .I only encountered Them in the shop!' These are the same people who complain about 'immigrunts' to the UK not integrating! The odd thing is, I am suddenly fluent in Spanish! I understand why. The rural areas are very insular and because they have never travelled or learned another language, all they have seen is those ridiculous adverts that promise you will be fluent in Martian or whatever in 6 weeks. So If you are still struggling after 6 weeks you are a failure and they don't want to know. Because the people around here are so used to Brits who don't even try I am suddenly 'Estupendo!' The knock on effect is ,I Am better! Just the encouragement and the fact that I have Spanish tv now and watch hours of that with Spanish subtitles has given me the confidence that the villagers inadvertently knocked out of me. I don't feel like much has changed, just attitudes and I go for it now, whereas I got sick of being knocked back all the time. I also realised that is what the Brits in the UK do to learners too. Then they wonder why they don't progress!

  • @XyZCwP

    @XyZCwP

    Жыл бұрын

    No one does when they move to the uk🤷‍♂️

  • @AngieStonesPhD
    @AngieStonesPhD5 жыл бұрын

    I lived in Spain, Valencia 2007-20012, left for 2 years for USA work, and came back. Now left to Germany last year, but I consider Spain (Valencia in particular) my second home. No problem adapting at all. I am British,.

  • @samoday2992
    @samoday29923 жыл бұрын

    Very true mate . Spanish culture is excellent and the food is top draw. I could think of nothing worse then bringing what I’m trying to leave behind with me!

  • @Richard.Pompey
    @Richard.Pompey5 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the advice Matt

  • @sashalivesinengland
    @sashalivesinengland3 жыл бұрын

    very interesting and informative video!! thank you for sharing your experience!

  • @kemmer1
    @kemmer12 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for a well-balanced report.

  • @matthewjackson9615
    @matthewjackson96155 жыл бұрын

    It's also interesting how Matt uses the wording "Life in Spain - When the novelty wear off" in the title of this video. This man is a thinker and I really believe that what he is really asking is what to do "When the novelty of life itself wears off". The strange thing about growing old is that the intimate identification with the here and now is slowly lost; one feels transposed into infinity, more or less alone, no longer in hope or fear, only observing. -Albert Einstein What Einstein states here is something that you’ll face as time moves upon you, Matt. You already understand this and most folks deal with this inevitability in one of two ways. They either hide and/or detach from life or they'll grab life like a ripe orange and repeatedly squeeze it until it finally yields up its last drop. But, nonetheless all this striving is in vain and as Einstein states, intimate identification with the here and now is slowly lost; one feels transposed into infinity, more or less alone, no longer in hope or fear, only observing. The reality is that most persons will have died before they expire, - died to all earthly longings, so that the last breath is only, as it were, the locking of the door of the already deserted mansion. I've had so many elderly people tell me that they've enjoyed wonderful full lives, blah, blah , blah but I've never believed this for a minute. Life is not a spectacle or a feast; it is a predicament. -George Santayana We're all in a predicament and can only enjoy what we're given and endure what we must. And we're all at the mercy of time and chance to boot. All you can do is make the best of what you've got while you've got it. However , this the beauty of these videos, you show people that the world has lots to offer and it's theirs for the taking.

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    5 жыл бұрын

    Exactly it's also why I do not define its perfection for all. Because everyone is different, the main thing is getting to the point of enjoying life as we only have one.

  • @GS-xg4nz

    @GS-xg4nz

    4 жыл бұрын

    Best thing I've read on the internet for a lonnnnggggg time. Embrace the here and now - wherever you are. 'Amor Fati' Love your fate. Thanks

  • @Karl_with_a_K

    @Karl_with_a_K

    4 жыл бұрын

    Always have dreams and ambitions, something you want to do, whether it's living abroad, learning a language, learning an instrument or anything. Remember to love something, and remind yourself that you do. Buena suerte todos.

  • @tonygreenaway6307
    @tonygreenaway63075 жыл бұрын

    Spot on 👍

  • @vanessahenderson1850
    @vanessahenderson18505 жыл бұрын

    You are exactly right with all you say Matt.

  • @giglegab
    @giglegab3 жыл бұрын

    Agree with u. When I came to Canada I adapted to there culture to there language and so forth ... never expected to get the same thing delivered for what I had in Germany. And when I did go home for a few weeks I loaded my suitcase up with goodies 😋 for my flyed back to Canada.

  • @martinharrow1227
    @martinharrow12273 жыл бұрын

    Sold many houses to Brits over the years; I used to see them out in the bars and restaurants ALL the time in holiday mode. 6-8 months later they would ask "Any work about"? I assisted quite a few out with work. But they would charge UK labour rates here in Spain and the job would be Cowboy Trade and they wondered why they never got any more work. Over the past 18 years, I know of only 3 UK trades I would recommend. 80% have returned to the UK now. The novelty will never wear off for me, I love it here and have no regrets or ambitions to every return to the UK (or should we be saying England due to the coming break up).

  • @Hello-yn2dx

    @Hello-yn2dx

    Жыл бұрын

    That’s a good point and really interesting comment. Then you’d need money to return as well!

  • @hjdreams1429
    @hjdreams14292 жыл бұрын

    Very well said!

  • @iveheardenuff3752
    @iveheardenuff37523 жыл бұрын

    Great video family....salute from Queens Ny✊

  • @Bus429
    @Bus4293 ай бұрын

    All pretty good. At home, Brits often (always) complain about immigrants not integrating and yet, boot on the other foot, they often (almost always) don't. You mention the Middle East. I've lived in the UAE three times and almost always, expats rarely integrate with Emirati life.

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    2 ай бұрын

    I agree, but also tied with the lifestyle. Living in the Philippines I spent most of my time with Filipinos. But in MENA I am working and everything revolves around work including the network. So can understand why integration can also be stagnant.

  • @paulhanson6008
    @paulhanson60082 жыл бұрын

    Aside from the “wind noise” (😉) I really enjoyed the video. Lots of positivity and an honest assessment of why many people do not easily make the transition when moving abroad.👍

  • @gloyub1585
    @gloyub15853 жыл бұрын

    Finding work can be a struggle but there are ways around that

  • @barryoneill1703
    @barryoneill17034 жыл бұрын

    Matt, I’m learning Spanish right now, I spray Kitchen cabinets for a living, do you think there is a market for it?

  • @Alex.Hubball
    @Alex.Hubball2 жыл бұрын

    Great video mate

  • @johnconroy9517
    @johnconroy95172 жыл бұрын

    Nice roof tiles ....de donde ? Gracias

  • @Progressive.G
    @Progressive.G Жыл бұрын

    Great video

  • @pboperations
    @pboperations2 жыл бұрын

    This video will always be relevant

  • @anthonyposso3764
    @anthonyposso37642 жыл бұрын

    Like what yre saying man can deffinatly relate, was just Living down there for six moths to try it out with nothing to do cos, recently retired on US SS .Was just stuck in an apartment and couldn't do anything cos landlord rules and things. After owning property for many years out here in California and with lots of space. But wish to return and buy more property, am actually a Gibraltar resident . . Vale Cheers 🍻

  • @bluegtturbo
    @bluegtturbo Жыл бұрын

    The obvious thing to do is rent in spain for a few months of both winter and summer and see if the lifestyle suits before buying.

  • @lazylad9064
    @lazylad90645 жыл бұрын

    A ramblers association would be a good one matt👍👍. You do a fair bit of walking. Perhaps you might want a meeting once a fortnight or once a month.

  • @alexburgess2525
    @alexburgess25255 жыл бұрын

    Hi Matt, Can you do a video with some tips on how you have achieved success? Cheers

  • @djq9332
    @djq93325 жыл бұрын

    30kg back in case last night - mostly Corn, Chillies and San Marino Tuna Fillets in Water ) I keep forgetting my Promise to the Fiancee to bring Aldi Black Tea out to Cebu! Made a bunch of Vids today Matt! )

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    5 жыл бұрын

    Busy this afternoon as I am starting to focus on making things work here.

  • @j.m.b5441
    @j.m.b54413 жыл бұрын

    That's all true, immigrants should try to integrate and learn the language the best they could.

  • @TNToncourt
    @TNToncourt3 жыл бұрын

    That view from your roof top would put me off moving to Alicante.

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    3 жыл бұрын

    It shouldn't do as it's not Alicante.

  • @mashole1

    @mashole1

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@LaMataMatt hahaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha mug

  • @geraldinemcardle2418
    @geraldinemcardle24184 жыл бұрын

    I'd like to live there

  • @geraldinemcardle2418

    @geraldinemcardle2418

    3 жыл бұрын

    Were going to live there all been well September 28th 2020

  • @angelcharmsxx
    @angelcharmsxx3 жыл бұрын

    You are 100% spot on with everything. I absolutely Love Spain and Spanish is such a Beautiful language. First thing I would do is learn the language from day one. My dream is to move down there, hope I suceed 😝

  • @Suzyfromtheblock
    @Suzyfromtheblock Жыл бұрын

    Honest account 🙏

  • @richardboughton8338
    @richardboughton83383 жыл бұрын

    I've met Brits who have lived in Spain for 20 years,but only speak rudimentary Spanish.

  • @magdalenadacosta7570

    @magdalenadacosta7570

    3 жыл бұрын

    And the same goes with the Swedes...

  • @dimafalco

    @dimafalco

    2 жыл бұрын

    Please lesrning more Spanish, for respect to culture. Que tingas un bon día

  • @BotanTechHelp
    @BotanTechHelp3 жыл бұрын

    Perfectly said my friend! Your advice applies to all aspects of life, in everywhere of the world. May I ask, what are you doing for work?

  • @billymartin1842
    @billymartin18423 жыл бұрын

    Well said mate you've hit the nail on the head weve lived here 12 years now ...& love it still weather wise ....

  • @paulalderson7329
    @paulalderson73293 жыл бұрын

    Mercadona, carrafour, super sol all sell British tea bags!

  • @buckegit
    @buckegit3 жыл бұрын

    We have been looking at the possibility of living in Spain (San Miguel de Salinas area) before I came across your video's. We have holidayed in Marina Dor every year for the last 16yrs. As an NI born and breed husband & wife we can use our Irish passports to make the process of moving a tad easier, than using our UK passport. I'm struggling to figure out if we still need the £40k in the bank to. Cover my wife and I. We will both be working if we moved. My wife has her own wall graphics company which she runs on an e-commerce basis, I'm a locksmith/joiner/handyman. Anyhow your vids are a great source of info 👏👏

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    3 жыл бұрын

    On the Irish passport assume it will be similar settlement prior to Brexit. So wouldn't say 40k is required. But things keep changing, recommend asking in Facebook groups in the area you're settling.

  • @tttetetttt
    @tttetetttt3 жыл бұрын

    spain is like any other country, money talks any language

  • @reclamartsmetalart420

    @reclamartsmetalart420

    2 жыл бұрын

    You will find if your fluent in Spanish things can be done without spending a fortune. Brits who don't speak the language get their pants pulled down lol.

  • @tomfielder8973
    @tomfielder89733 жыл бұрын

    And yet, people move to Britain and expect to bring their country here, and we adapt. Britain is just too soft...

  • @neilmckinlay
    @neilmckinlay3 жыл бұрын

    Hey man, have you got an email or website I can send you a few questions about some healthcare stuff over there? Cheers ✌🏼

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    3 жыл бұрын

    sure matt2wilkie@gmail.com

  • @HelloSpyMyLie
    @HelloSpyMyLie2 жыл бұрын

    🤣 well that’s good news . “I can’t say the novelty wears off” I thought that was the point of this video 🤣😂🤣😂

  • @acspeter7
    @acspeter75 жыл бұрын

    I love your t shirt

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thanks I am starting to look into making Ts

  • @POP80Y.8
    @POP80Y.85 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Interesting, Catch you on the Next one

  • @totstoybox
    @totstoybox5 жыл бұрын

    Can you install cctv cameras, i have a new website that just shows cams from around the world (not a niche but i want my slice).. which may seem intrusive but some may see as promotion.

  • @totstoybox

    @totstoybox

    5 жыл бұрын

    Had to find something to do while waiting fro the crypto bull market ;D

  • @totstoybox

    @totstoybox

    5 жыл бұрын

    Skyline cams have pretty much taken the market on alot of spain right now and i can't use their material.. but that's not to say there is no money to be made. it's all about traffic and adsense. not sure if this is of interest but message me if it is :)

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    5 жыл бұрын

    It definitely is you can reach me on the blog. As I don't want to stick my email on here directly as it will get scraped for junk mail

  • @oioi5794
    @oioi57945 жыл бұрын

    Spain is easy to move to you can get long term holiday rentals inland on your passport I have WiFi on my passport no nie and my water and electric is kept in landlords name it's so easy to get a house here

  • @oioi5794

    @oioi5794

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Outspoken-from Ibiza no ppl say you need an nie number to get WiFi I got it with the number on my passpot

  • @thesnakesgames8899
    @thesnakesgames88992 жыл бұрын

    Would it be a bad idea to move abroad then lean Spanish ?

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    2 жыл бұрын

    Depends on finances, I find it easier to learn Spanish by talking to locals compared to using Apps.

  • @lorrainebennett7528
    @lorrainebennett75283 жыл бұрын

    I moved to Ibiza 14 years ago, you have to work at living in another country but if you do, the rewards are endless!

  • @lrandall83
    @lrandall835 жыл бұрын

    We are in our late 30s with 2 kids and are looking to move to Alicante area. My hubby has 20 years experience as a truck mechanic. Do you think he would get any mechanic work over in your neck of the woods? He's thinking mobile mechanic to start with and then maybe a little garage. We are wondering if a high expat area would be a good place to set up?

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    5 жыл бұрын

    Mobile mechanic can be a bit difficult because it's illegal to work on the roadside. However there is a market for good mechanics. Depends if he wants to work for someone or himself.

  • @teenherofilms
    @teenherofilms3 жыл бұрын

    For me there never was any novelty in the first place

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    3 жыл бұрын

    Novelty is often from people moving in holiday mode or their first country they moved to outside of their birth country.

  • @loubakker5000
    @loubakker50005 жыл бұрын

    Next time record inside. Too much wind noise.

  • @bandk2000
    @bandk20005 жыл бұрын

    Yorshire tea for me, still have a 10,000 sack of bags we bought in the UK 3 years ago :) If you are working a large part of your time is taken up. For those who are fortunate to be early reitree's (us for instance) you really need to have good hobbies and be willing to mix with others or you will find yourself in a deep hole!

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    5 жыл бұрын

    Agree as you need to be occupied. Otherwise easy to find fault with everything which is something I see a lot of in Facebook and forums.

  • @paulhanson6008

    @paulhanson6008

    2 жыл бұрын

    Out of curiosity, and 3 years since your post; how many sacks of tea bags have you got left?😉

  • @thefireprint7665
    @thefireprint76655 жыл бұрын

    Yeah nothing like a PG tips with a bit of sugar and milk!.. and I’m in Norway where tea isn’t a “thing”.. I can’t wait for my kids to grow up enough to stand on their own two feet so the misses and I can move over.. While waiting though, we’re looking into putting some money into a small thing we can rent out and use when we want ourselves. Any chance I can pick your brain for some questions about a flat in la mata?.. no rush.. just when we’ve decided and want to look for flats! 😁

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    5 жыл бұрын

    Sure happy to help.

  • @n.s.5278

    @n.s.5278

    Жыл бұрын

    Earl grey please, and no sugar

  • @someonesomebody5287
    @someonesomebody52874 жыл бұрын

    And jaust wauh appens? 🇬🇧🤣

  • @linnetminnot5216
    @linnetminnot52165 жыл бұрын

    I love my PG tips with 2 sugars and milk.

  • @johnchristiananderson5242
    @johnchristiananderson5242 Жыл бұрын

    Lived in SPain35yrs,speak spanish and all my familly is more spanish than English,I agre e with everything you say,get out there ,intergrate,..................Or you will probably end up going ,with your tail between your legs,having lost everything,the choice is yours.

  • @chriscoughlan5221
    @chriscoughlan5221 Жыл бұрын

    i have lived in spain for 17 años, but not on the costas, as such. 15 years in madrid and 2 years in Cantabria. My main peeve is how closed shop the spanish are!! or if not that, then how unreliable they are! making friends has been an impossibility!! After busting a gut ive given up!! Good luck

  • @captainmac5009
    @captainmac50092 жыл бұрын

    Wats your real name bro

  • @n.s.5278

    @n.s.5278

    Жыл бұрын

    Osama

  • @Chris-wj4ze
    @Chris-wj4ze3 жыл бұрын

    Why not just stay in the UK?

  • @n.s.5278

    @n.s.5278

    Жыл бұрын

    Weather....

  • @andrewlightwood3895
    @andrewlightwood38953 жыл бұрын

    I bet it's great fun over there now ,no work no money everything shut no job prospects

  • @LaMataMatt

    @LaMataMatt

    3 жыл бұрын

    You mean the same as nearly everywhere currently?

  • @hogwashmcturnip8930

    @hogwashmcturnip8930

    2 жыл бұрын

    Actually, Spain is doing rather well again now. Covid pretty low, way better than the UK, the economy looking Ok, No Shortages, an increase in minimum wage, 100million€ help for people with mental health issues, 140billion from the EU. I do love it when sad little people stuck on Plague Island try to pull other countries apart. It is kind of desperate! And yes, I know the post was 6 months ago, but it still needs to be said.

  • @joebloggs8292

    @joebloggs8292

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@hogwashmcturnip8930 I don’t like British people who run the country down and pretend that every other foreign country is better. Despite the fact that immigrants around the world are desperate to get to this island.

  • @paulhanson6008

    @paulhanson6008

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@hogwashmcturnip8930 Well said. The post from A L was mean spirited. I live in the UK, and like most countries in Europe, we have all suffered from the financial impacts of our respective govts. trying to prop up their economies post Covid. Added to that, we now have a war in Ukraine which has been nothing short of a disaster in several ways and no one knows how this will end! No one moving to Spain (or any other country for that matter) could anticipate such unforeseen events. To make light of people’s “bad timing” is a bit shitty to say the least.