I finally humbled myself enough to ask for help, so we budgeted for a housekeeper. In this season of life, between homeschool, 5 kids and running a homestead, I realize my limitations. My deep desire is for our home to be a sanctuary, a place of peace and one thing I know about myself is that when it is in a state of chaos I am not at peace, it weighs on me and it is a distraction. So I learned there is no shame in asking for help and it has been liberating.

@suburbanhomesteadliving9212

5 ай бұрын

As I read this, I couldn't help but think that I was writing this myself... I'm thankful to know I'm not the only one who is struggling with this season of life! ❤

@lorelwebber6435

5 ай бұрын

I asked for help and no one came. It’s inside us to fix our own. If we can’t do it ourselves why should we drain others?

@sophiacorpus9769

5 ай бұрын

@@lorelwebber6435 That’s why you have to have a good community around you when you sincerely need help God will send a Simon of Cyrene don’t worry

@anneshirley9560

5 ай бұрын

@@lorelwebber6435who exactly is getting " drained"? I'm sorry that no one came to help you, but that doesn't mean others shouldn't seek help.

@michsmo2883

5 ай бұрын

Same here!!! Been rough!

I'm 60, I keep my kitchen and bathroom "clean" and then rest of the house picked up, it gets cleaned when company comes over - enjoy the time with your kids and husband, clean when you can, but you and your family come first - have adventures!

@franceslynch3285

5 ай бұрын

I am not well , good days things get done , I have had to let go . My sister died and I have her Autistic son he's 40 , he needs me more than my house .

This was perfect for me to see today! Currently in the despair of feeling like I’ve lost myself as a new first time mom but also very grateful for my baby. The hardest but best days it feels like I only take care of baby, clean, cook, and prep. I miss my personal interests and talents but my baby is the best thing to ever happen to me and I’m blessed to be able to stay home and take care of him and my home! It’s isolating at times, but good to remember it’s a season and I know I’ll miss it too. ❤

@roseofsharin

5 ай бұрын

Please don't watch or listen to people who tell you you've "lost yourself" when you're raising and loving children. You're the most important person in the world to those little ones. You are in a time of your life that can never be replicated and no amount of adult time is comparable. It passes quickly. Enjoy it, be the best for them every day, you will be remembered and loved immensely for it. There truly is nothing better.

There's an influencer I watch with a gorgeous house that's always perfect. Her fan's favorite post was when she showed her living room looking like a hurricane went through it, and said, "This is how it looks most of the time."

I like that: I rather be strong than perfect.

Aahh I felt this message to my CORE! I have two masters degrees but have spent the last 7 years nursing babies, wiping bottoms, cooking yet another meal for everyone... It’s such a messy mix of joy, exhaustion, frustration, and pretty much every other emotion, and often feeling like I’m drowning. Sometimes I have a very similar declaration to my husband that I AM capable of intelligent adult conversation 😂. But it also is such a sacred time of life and such sacred work. Hugs from Buffalo, NY 🩵

I enjoyed this and it had many good points. What I didn’t see, was your children helping out, doing chores, picking up after themselves. That’s important also.

@Julia29853

3 ай бұрын

They do a ton of chores and help. Itsall over her channel! Just look at some of them.

I’m 73 years old and I think paying for help is great!! It will give you more time to spend with your family and continue to make wonderful memories. So happy for you!!! 💕

I love these types of videos. Shaye, you truly inspire me.

I’ve been waiting so long for another one of your Homemaking/ showing the home videos!! I sooo love these ❤❤❤

Soooo loved the beginning pictures of the chaos of a home well lived in-and loved! Relate less and less to the highly curated and camera perfect versions of homes that do not mirror any reality of a life I live! Letting go of the need to judge and scold myself so harshly trying to be perfect has cleared so much more space in my life for joy! Bravo for being real!

I listened to your KZread and you made me see that I've always felt I had to be Miss Perfect. I stress over what I don't have time to do. You made me see that I'm much more than my perfect house, no weeds in my flowers, makeup on before I see anyone, etc. You have brought me so many lessons of life. I am sincerely grateful. Look forward to all your posts. Blessings to you and your beautiful family. BTW, stop being so perfect. 😊

I wish I could sit and chat with you a while… this was such an encouragement to my heart, yet the daily mental struggle is more than “perfection” and I am so worn out. I am a widow with 6 children, remarried 2 years ago and moved states. I left all I knew, all my children knew, and so much more to the story. Life is hard, beyond hard, even knowing the Lord is near, the difficulties and overwhelm do not go away, nor dissipate … Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

A small job, when done right, makes a big difference

I smiled to myself when I saw your tp situation. That’s how ours often is- just extra rolls stacked behind the seat and often not even one on the roll because they don’t fit when they’re too thick and then it doesn’t last very long when it’s already half gone. It was inspiring to watch you tidy and clean before my day of doing just that begins. Have a beautiful week Shaye!

It's funny how as we get older we see it's less about being in control or having it all figured out and more about the simple things and showing up every day for our family. Not always glamorous but so worth it. Great video as always!

Even though i am now in a different season of my life, my children are all grown --- I totally enjoyed this video. Thnakyou for sharing.

SO GOOD!!! I see you as the perfect homemaker & feel so imperfect ALL the time. Thank you for the reminder that it’s about the people we serve and not the house.

“Letting go of perfect” when literally all your videos appear perfect…😂😂

Watching my daughter in her first year of motherhood brought back lots of these same kinds of thoughts for me, but also all the joy I had then too by learning to put my ego aside a bit and be present for those wonderful early years of being a wife and mother….and as an aside, I’ve loved Dorothy Sayers for years, one of my favorite books is Murder Must Advertise, dated but laugh out loud funny bits! Who doesn’t love Lord Peter?

Another beautiful moment of encouragement. Thank you Shaye! To see you living out the truth of scripture so simply is refreshing. Not perfect, but real & honestly. ❤

@theelliotthomestead

3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Thank you for this video!!! I have been a quiet follower of your channel for many years. Purchasing our own 70 acre block and building our farm from the ground up in the past 5 years, whilst starting a family and watching my two girls grow as our farm does. I eagerly await your videos for that rare moment I’m sitting down (usually whilst having a quick lunch between farm tasks or while staying on top of Mount Washington - my laundry pile). Your honesty and vulnerability in this clip really hit home & spoke to me on a deep level. Thank you for showing the realities of your home & that this season of life is beyond busy and overwhelming at times. You’ve hit home on what our priorities of a mother should be & the battle of our own wants and desires. Thank you so much for the reality check (said she who was briefly sneaking in lunch after harvesting from the late summer garden & trying to prep salsa for canning to use up the home grown vegetables that are taking over our fridge in the garage - all before a meeting at work, kinder and school pick up and a meet the teacher evening before dinner & returning to the salsa making once my little people are in bed)! It is so refreshing to see the real life moments & not just the perfectly presented ones that often fill our screens. You continue to inspire me.

This was something I really needed to hear in this time. We want to homeschool, so I'm currently in the process of building up my own business to allow for that, while also working a full time job, caring for a toddler, managing the house, and contemplating more children are in our future. It feels incredibly overwhelming at times, and I worry that things can fall through the cracks. But I'm trying to not let perfect be the enemy of good, and for today, good is enough.

This ministered to me very much as I can feel so overwhelmed and currently have all the things going on and have that inner critic telling me I should be able to keep a tidy house every day no matter how many children and animals are living in the space! Thank you

I’m not a mom as yet, but I’ve just come home to be a full-time homemaker. I think that caring for children and nurturing children is eternally important, as you pointed out. But I also think that it does involve a level of complexity and intellect to do it well through self-education, research, application, experimentation. Feel free to come at me moms, lol, maybe I’m missing something. 🙈

Rex is back!! yaaay!

Been following you since the beginning, this is the best video yet, I really needed to see it. Thank you for your beautiful honesty and example!

How beautiful! I love that Proverb. It’s helpful when you’re cleaning messes over and over again to remember it’s because I am blessed with these wonderful people, I GET to clean up after them! 😍

Wow… Did I need this video. I have a 3 year old and 6 month old. I work full time from home. I try to be Miss Perfect and it’s killing me. I did hire someone to deep clean my home about once a month and that is a huge help. I cried when you said I’d rather be strong than perfect. Me too. ❤

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. I find myself in the same season and it's hard to let go of my own desires sometimes, but I'm truly blessed in this season and grateful for it.

@theelliotthomestead

3 ай бұрын

Working on being content in every phase of life is a continual discipline I have found.

This is a very encouraging and truthful sharing that spoke well for my stages in life as a mom and a homemaker. Thanks for the Miss Perfect story, I will need to let her die at this time, and to allow chaos, joy and the main things to show up in life at this stage. Thank you Lord for this video❤

I can totally relate to your struggle with the old British English. I moved from Russia with my family to Alabama knowing some English that I learned there, but it was British. Soooo Alabama English was like a whole new language to me 😅

This was a hard one to watch at first, hits me in a personal way, but boy did I need to hear this! Thank you for being humble. “Miss Perfect” can be a problem.

HalleluYah ! Build endurance to overcome then you shall be perfect

I desperately needed to hear a like minded woman in the same season I am in,say this. ❤❤❤ thank you.

Girl,...you done said a WORDuh in this video!! Thank you because I was just talking about perfectionism this morning and the soil that it grows out of and it's branches. And this was very spiritually astute.

Hey shaye..wise words of wisdom 👍🏻 so one small comment…I’ve chose to change to either we get the little garbage cans in our bathroom that have an insert that we dump into a bigger can or we go to Costco and buy the best deal on the compostable small bags for the small cans !they’re a bit stinky but they’re so much better than using plastic bags… Just a little household/ environmental tip👍🏻

This was just what I needed today! Thank you for filming the dirty lunch boxes, the hair brush on the dining table, the empty smoothie cups and your family just beautifully existing in all the chaos, love and learning. My house is similar and live in. I would also rather be strong than perfect.

Your heart posture behind this video is just what I needed. Thank you!

I recently went through a life change that has taken time away from the home and I was killing myself trying to get a grip on everything and keep it the way it was. We bought a new home and it needs some Reno’s so I decided to go back to work for a couple of years to pay cash for everything after not working for a decade! Although my kids are older 9 and 11, and more self sufficient, I too had to learn to let go of the perfectionist inside just to stay sane! All in all, it has been a great opportunity for my children to learn some independence and to do things for themselves. It took about 6 months for me to finally feel at peace with it all but I have a good enough handle on how I feel about it and happy with what does and doesn’t get done the way it used to. I certainly could relate here, thanks for that! ❤

Love this ❤️ What I needed to hear in this season

Best you've ever said. Very well done 👍

OH SO GOOD! This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. Thank you.👍🏼❤🙏

Yes! Thanks Shaye. I certainly needed this reminder as well.

Perfection was never an option for me….this was like a breath of fresh air😅making friends with my chaos brought me profound peace. Move quickly past the negative and keep going forward towards goodness

Thank you for this. I needed to hear every word. What a blessing you are ❤️

We show more grace to ourselves the older we get, I think. We start realizing what is most important as we hear time ticking a little louder, and it is never appearing perfect.

I needed to see this video today! What a great reminder and inspiration.

Honestly this video was much needed. Your house is so pretty and put together. I’ve followed for a few years on and off and I’ve always sort of “looked up” to you, I guess. It’s nice to see the real messes. The toys. The trash and all the freaking socks! I can’t wait for summer so I don’t have to find so many socks! Thank you for posting this. It was a breath of fresh air. I’ll be saving this video to go back to.

Thank you for this, Shaye! In the life season with three littles 5,3,& 6 mo. As well as my husband launching a business. All amazing gifts, but I’ve asked myself those same questions a lot recently. Thank you for the encouragement 💛

Love love love this message ❤

Thanks for sharing this. I needed to hear this today.

Love this, thank you!

So encouraging, Shaye!

HAPPY FRIDAY Shaye, family, and fur babies. Absolutely Agree. Thanks for the motivation. STTB

❤️ 💯🌹Kiss, Keep it Simple Sister

Thank you! What encouragement this video is🙏🏻

What a beautiful video Shaye.

Amo estos videos!!!

This is such a beautiful message.

Thank you for the encouragement…and motivation. ❤

I love your videos. They are such an inspiration

Luv your time with your kids they are with you for a short time I still miss that noise but then there are grandkids and that’s the best what a journey

I love that book!!!! I recently had the experience of listening to a native Chinese-speaking Doctor in the Emergency Room tell my sister how to take care of her wound at home at lightning speed in highly accented English. My sister and I realized simultaneously that we understood her better if we didn't listen too carefully, and then it all made perfect sense.

Loved this!!

Love love love this. ❤️

Great message I needed to hear. Thank you!

Right to heart of the matter. Well said, very relatable.

What a nice reminder to keep things in perspective.

Beautiful and meaningful, love videos like that x

Thank you for sharing reality!

Thank you my friend! Goodness I needed this reminder.

This was a beautiful video. I, too, struggle with perfectionism; it sure can be a beast. I'm in a season of being forced to let go to such a greater degree than I'm comfortable with, and you know what? You're right. It's better to be strong than perfect. I found myself tearing up at the end. Thank you 💓

@sophiacorpus9769

5 ай бұрын

I don’t think it’s perfectionism per se I think it’s just wanting things organized and not chaotic because that way our minds can be at peace ..it’s a constant change of priorities that’s for sure

Love your home . Pl do give a complete home tour too!♥️

Thank you Shaye! I too would rather be strong than perfect. I needed this reminder.

So very true! It's such a nice analogy.

This was absolutely beautiful ❤🥰

Thank you ❤

God has used you in this moment to speak to me where I am with our homeschooling. Thank you for sharing this!

I definitely have learned over the years to just drop everything and go &to prioritize and re-prioritize hourly lol

Thankyou for this!

Thank you for a lovely, encouraging video😊

Thank you for sharing that Scripture. I never thought about that one in that way 👍🏻

Thanks for being honest...takes the pressure off,you are beautifully real.

Amen, Sister!!

Shaye, one thing about disorganization and dirt…it will still be there waiting. So drive your children to school, sports, lessons, take the time to answer seemingly pointless questions,watch the animals play,enjoy a pause at the window while washing up and know this. The investment you’re making in life, it’s all worth it. I know it seems hard but if you think about it, Miss Perfect already lives here. ❤

Sweet message shay.

So thankful for your words friend!!!!!

Well done. Well said!

Blessings of family is a whole lot better than perfect

I love Dorothy Sayers - my fav is Gaudy Night which is an almost incomprehensible collection of English university roles and names and customs (and untranslated Latin and French). Over many readings and researching I can now mostly follow it. But the denseness never gets in the way of the mystery (and the love story). AND I love your floors! My 1910 house in Portland has the same wide soft Doug Fir floors and they show all the years of wear (and a bad 1982 DIY varnish) and I love them.

I a glad that I am not the only one constantly picking up socks…. We are empty nesters and it’s just the hubs socks😂😂😂😂. But still…

I love your style❤

Beautiful!

Just gave birth to my 3rd child. Struggling to be kind and let go of the mess that is growing around me. Mostly throw pillows aka sofa pets that mostly live on the floor, dirty hardwood floors, and fingerprinted windows. Thank you! I very much needed this today.

@roseofsharin

5 ай бұрын

My kids are grown and I have all day to tidy up and clean. And my house is clean. But it wasn't that way when I had 4 little ones. There will come a time when you're in my place and you will long for the mess and sticky floors that come with your children growing, learning, and loving each other in your home. Many blessings.

I feel this! ❤😂 My kids see photos of my house pre-kid days and they think its a different house! No....its just mom is a super neat clean freak but you would never know it nowadays, she will be back one day.

Beautiful.

All well said!

Oh, how I can relate! You could have been me speaking. The Lord has been speaking to me about just this lately. So timely. Such a confirmation. Thank you.

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