Alot of people in relationships and marriage will comment kissing emojis like 🥰😘😍🤩 to people of opposite sex and its wrong .

This is such a wonderful video! My husband and I struggled with social media for a long time, it was always a source of arguments for us. We got off of Facebook and we have obtained so much peace in our marriage due to it. This video did my heart some good! ☺️ I also loved your video about the spiritual leadership, maybe you guys could do a video for being a biblical wife and how that looks today?

@MarriageAfterGod

5 жыл бұрын

Great idea thank you for watching.

I can't stand how much my Husband is on social media because he connects with all these people we grew up with and we haven't hung around these people for over 20 years and our children are all grown now and it feels like he's trying to relive his younger years, but there's a reason we didn't hang out with these people for the last 20 years. It's because we grew up and had our own responsibilities to deal with. Now that he keeps bringing these people up. I look at him and tell him straight up that I don't care about those people and their problems because they have no basis in my life. We are so disconnected now and I don't want to accuse him of things, but it's so obvious he's not the same person anymore. Those people made a lot of mistakes and are still living with the repercussions of their choices today and in my opinion they haven't matured yet to match their age. I've been at my wit's end with his change of attitude with life. It's like he's reversing in his mentality of a responsible and loving husband. I always feel alone or like he's a stranger now. I really have thought that well if this is the way he want's to live the rest of his life like this; then that might include living it without me. I hope that it's not the case, but I've talked to him about it and he doesn't want to stop and get's defensive about it. My final thoughts are if I'm going to mature alone and live the rest of my life in peace, then I'm fine with that instead of driving myself crazy every day for the rest of my life.

@diving.deep.

6 ай бұрын

How is everything???? Alot of adults feel like they're missing out on the fun , when the kids are all grown, not realizing that their friends definition of fun isn't aligned to God. All of that energy could be spent elsewhere.

I wish you also would talk about the appropriateness of people posting pictures of themselves and allowing the opposite sex 👍😍❤ or leaving comments about how beautiful and sexy they are. I am saddened that even most Christians think it's ok especially for women to post their pics for the attention of other men to compliment her. This is flirting and cheating of the heart. If it is wrong to walk up to a couple in person and tell his wife how sexy she is, and you might get punched, why is it ok for you to tell her online with her pictures? Its wrong and I doubt God agrees. I personally do not have any social media (I never thought of KZread as social media since I just watch videos) but if people do decided to have Facebook etc, I firmly believe there should be 0 friends of the opposite sex. Social media has given the approval to flirt and society has normalized flirting as being acceptable as long as its done on Facebook. 👍😍🥰❤ equals 👎

@scaldon2

3 жыл бұрын

I had to stop talking to a woman I was in a relationship with. She has instagram and she commented a kiss emoji like 😘 this to a guys photo and I confronted her about. She said the guy is gay . And I said so whst its still wrong . Then I had to break up with her . Im not gonna marry someone that sends kiss emoji to guys . Not happening.

@splashbrothers1997

3 жыл бұрын

@@scaldon2 Exactly brother. It's hard to find a faithful person in today's culture.

Your points what is appropriate and inappropriate in relationship should be taken care of. I agree this.

Thank you. I am going to show this at our married couples group on Sat. My husband and I have been arguing over his phone. "Just ignore it" or "I listen with my ears, not my eyes" It reached a crisis when I was sharing an upsetting childhood experience and he made a comment from his phone. I told him that I would no longer be sharing anything on a personal level....no more sorrows and no more joys. I checked out and went into a deep sorrow. It had such an impact on him that he doesn't have his phone on anymore.....even while we watch tv together. I really didn't think he would change. Thanks be to God.

@shadeidolor118

Жыл бұрын

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This is so important. Thank you for being willing to share such personal stories!

@MarriageAfterGod

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Thank you for this video. I looked for similar content everywhere and I couldn't find much. I am writing from Brazil and I hope the Lord blesses you both immensely.

This is amazing. I often feel that my phone and his phone has took up the majority of our lives. It DOES get in the way of my relationship of LIFE

@MarriageAfterGod

5 жыл бұрын

so true

@Golfergirlz

9 ай бұрын

My husband sleeps with his phone! The other night I woke him up and told him he was texting Abby ( not sure if that was on purpose or the first person In his contacts) Anyway it left me a little upset and I don’t know any Abby..😢

We need more of this in this generation... Or it will be the fall of man in the next👍🙏😇🕊️

Great video! Thank you for posting!

This is GOLD!!!! GOALS!!

Great video, thank you so much for sharing! You guys are such a blessing!

My husband and I struggle with social media in our lives, marriage and have young children like you two do. I love your transparency with situations and can relate to your stories. We try to implement rules and then get lax with them. We say we won't have phones at the dinner table then one sneaks in innocently to take a call or whatever then it is all downhill from there. It really is a constant battle that we just need to keep combating. Thank you for the reminder. Also, I LOVE what you said about telling your children "that toy is not worth hurting your sibling's heart".I am totally going to start using that. It is so good and our boys have really started fighting over toys a lot.

This video really hit me. I allowed my lack of self control to let social media consume my "free time". In my heart my relationship was the most important thing to me but my actions said that spending time following and leaving stupid comments on random womens pages was more important. There's no rule book for social media and i have a hard time putting limits on myself. This video really lit up an area of my life that i never knew i needed to work on and an area that so deeply impacted my relationship in a negative way. Thanks for the hard work you have done and offer up here, im going to take a lot from this and hopefully can heal and move forward implementing some of these awesome Godly strategies for staying accountable and appropriate on social media with the love of my life.

This is so helpful!! Thank you so much😭🙏🏾

Great topic! This are so many important and relevant sub- issues under the, “social media” umbrella. There are pitfalls and dangerous mines to be aware of and we all must make conscious and deliberate choices in regards to how we interact online, as well as off line. I have to remember that I need to, “cover” my family members and friends so that I don’t unintentionally harm someone or our relationship. In the numerous ways I write and share about my life experiences, it can feel deceptively intimate, when it is actually public. Not private! How much we all need Godly Wisdom and self-control! Pray, pray, pray before sharing! How really vital was that story you shared , Jennifer , about the attention that is missed. It’s not silly, it’s a key! Especially, we ladies, love to be the apple of delight for our husbands, and how crushed we are when we are not, “ seen” This can lead us, if we don’t turn to the Lord for help, can become a weak place when the enemy can tempt us. I have experienced this with my husband as well. In my younger days this would have been fuel for me to find attention from other men. Which is easy to find. Men don’t seem to realize if you don’t give your wife that “delight attention,” there are plenty of other men who will attempt to fill this gap. There are evil seducers who can intuitively know which lady is in need of some attention. Not to provoke fear, because if you have a Godly wife, you trust her, but just know, you are making her vulnerable. The enemy prowls around like a lion seeking whom he may devour. I love the Psalm 38:2 where the Lord says He guides us with His Eye. We have to be looking at Him to see what His look is telling us. He wants our full attention. In terms of being idle, I think when I do read the Word, Commentaries, and spend time in prayer, journaling and writing, other people view this as being, “ idle” I also started painting which is also viewed as idle by some. So much wisdom shared here, and excellent discussion! We need to keep the conversation going! Our marriages, families, and personal relationship with Christ is worth every effort to protect!

@MarriageAfterGod

5 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you for sharing. Wonderful insights!

@trishawhitehouse4226

5 жыл бұрын

@@MarriageAfterGod Thank - you for the quality and depth of your Spiritual lives that is beautiful to be able to glean from in these Podcasts.

One good thing is that so much into scripture reading and implementing does not have side effect. But social media drags unconsciously.....only those who have tasted taste on scriptures or inner beauty of life would not uanoer social media ......I use social media even KZread for listening good things an implement. It's a mindset neet be developed in today's couple

This is really great!! Thank you so much for sharing, hoping my husband and I can really work our relationship with social media.

You guys are awesome thanks😇

I asked my ex wife to unfriend ex boyfriends. I told her that it made me feel uncomfortable. She then said, “Why. They are friends.” It eventually turned into a big argument. I told her that I felt like she was choosing being friends on Facebook over our marriage. She eventually did it after I asked her three different times. Along with other things, that was one of the reasons for our divorce.

This was such a great and relevant topic. Thank you so much! Aside from social media, I think the same applies to video games or games on phone.

@MarriageAfterGod

5 жыл бұрын

So true. all devices and media need to be put in their place.

i do really relate to your topics..i do really agree.

What an amazing video. I am currently struggling with the random women that my boyfriend is adding to his Facebook page. Every time I mention it I’m the one who is insecure. I want us to be closer with God as a couple but it’s an argument every time I even bring it up.

@luizalouyoga

3 жыл бұрын

I saw a woman on a video saying this: “If he is making you feel insecure, he doesn’t have the right to call you insecure”. And I think it applies. This adding random women thing also gets me and I started to notice this was a boundary for me. I don’t accept this behaviour and so it had to be discussed in my relationship. You have the right to set your boundaries and discuss this topic to reach a more comfortable place. Your needs cannot be dismissed if you want to have a healthy relationship. I hope all goes well for you! 🙏🏻 I understand what you’re going through.

@dortonfarmhomestead1208

3 жыл бұрын

@@luizalouyoga thank you! We sat down and had a heart to heart and things have really been better.

Hi I am David Crichlow From🇹🇹 Trinidad and Tobago this really blessed me I shared it with my wife you guys are so beautiful!

Please help me under stand this

Another thing social media can not give reap taste of relationship

Dont social media dominate us. If we are using social media be sure it can help us not to destroy us specially to marriages.

Any advice on boundaries with private messages and text messages, opposite sex .. even in blended families with the other children's parent? This seems to be something that's coming up in our relationship, that I personally struggling with. Any advice or videos on this? How can we protect our marriage and honor our spouse via text message private message even friend request, etc.

When you say that you unfollowed all female friends... I know that "unfollowed" and "unfriended" can potentially be different things. Did you simply unfollow them or did you actually unfriend them? Thanks.

I’m okay being a weirdo. I just deleted all of mine. We all know it’s a distraction from life. It’s especially unhealthy in a marriage or relationship

Do you guys have Instagram?

Can I send you a private message to asking for pray? Pleas I am really struggling with my marriage! I do not have much family to pray for us because all my family stay in overseas!

The answer is simple. Quit Social Media! Stop making it a part of things that you let it control. You know where the off switch is! Stop blaming social media for your inadequacies, family problems, marriage problems. Problem solved.

I feel like sharing passwords is fine but the way you talk about it seems unhealthy and jealous. I trust my partner, I don’t need to look at her private messages. I think even in a marriage privacy is really important

@Pleaseopenyoureyes

3 жыл бұрын

I will admit that I have a really hard time understanding why one needs privacy in a marriage. What should be hidden from your spouse? It just seems that if a person needs that sort of privacy they should remain single. Please feel free to explain because I need help in this area.

@luizalouyoga

3 жыл бұрын

I used to think like that too, then I grew up, started having serious relationships and saw that TRUST is much more important than PRIVACY. You can have privacy in other areas of your lives, you don’t have to be private online. Not from your partner. It’s a matter of priorities and maturity, I think.

@ZanderFoster

3 жыл бұрын

@@luizalouyoga interesting take. I’d love to hear more. I’ve been with my gf now for 4 years and we both have complete trust and also much privacy. We know each other’s passwords and such but I never snoop. We trust each other, no reason to snoop if you have trust.

@luizalouyoga

3 жыл бұрын

​@@ZanderFoster That's really good. I think it might be about background too. When the person was really hurt in the past it gets hard to open up. It's like torture to ask for the person to just trust. The hurtfull person needs constant reinforcement of t. :)he loyalty and truthfulness of the partner. I think that, eventually, a patient partner can indeed help the hurtfull person to overcome this trauma. And both can have the most beautiful relationship. :)