Finding a black therapist is also crucial because that way you can discuss the real issues that effect black people i.e racism, colorism, white supremacy, a hostile work environment, sexual abuse etc.

@LadyCharity

8 жыл бұрын

+sandra bebe TOTALLY agree with your comment as all of those issues have impacted me at some point..

@cathy-pz2to

8 жыл бұрын

yeah you might say all of that. but deep down inside it is not about racism. a person can be racist to you for years and no depression comes by. depression just might be how an individual views the world with out receiving any facts. you need to get out there man.

@NotConcentrate100percentJuice

8 жыл бұрын

Yes...but not always easy to find based on geography and just the fact that there is a shortage of us in that field.

@chryzischris7845

7 жыл бұрын

sandra bebe I just did this after 10years of struggling through therapist after therapist. Saved my life.

@misanthropickitty6422

7 жыл бұрын

I'm done with seeking help. How does a therapist's race have anything to do with it?

I'm feeling so lonely. There's so many people around me, yet I can't turn to any of them. It feels like I'm slowly sinking.

@suzannestone7304

5 жыл бұрын

You need to learn to love you and your own company. When we know we're connected to the universe and "God" we realise how special/powerful we are and how we're never really alone. It's just an inner feeling. You're maybe not whole inside? I'm going through it myself and going though the process of healing myself. If you focus on what you want, you can call it to you.

@davidlafleche1142

5 жыл бұрын

What do you need to talk about?

@jasminepearls1047

5 жыл бұрын

@@suzannestone7304 this is the b.s. advise why black women stay depressed. "Oh jesus god jesus" and nothing gets solved.

@rblflwr9008

4 жыл бұрын

Sarissa Vaughn BIG FACTS!!!!!

@Myaccount923

4 жыл бұрын

Michael Freed how are you doing these days?

or if we have social anxiety, it's just seen as having an "attitude problem"

@anashapegues258

6 жыл бұрын

keely deloache or the ever popular "you just want attention" *sigh* really irritating

@fatcat165

6 жыл бұрын

keely deloache or a WEAVE problem.

@jareema1634

6 жыл бұрын

Right

@kendahke

5 жыл бұрын

This_Is_War says the person who crashed this thread with a hostile attitude and nonsense

@Urov.

5 жыл бұрын

Damn thats exactly what i would think when i saw colored girls acting weird, i didn't think they got white people problems

I had it my whole life and I'm just now getting well. I know have a great therapist. The strong black woman stereotype works against us. People feel little empathy for us because we're supposed to be strong. That does not lead to support.

no one sees us as human beings with feelings, and it's very disheartening. Your own family doesn't take u serious

@prueXo

6 жыл бұрын

keely deloache Soo sad and true 😩

@kendahke

5 жыл бұрын

exactly... we're not allowed to be soft, feminine and vulnerable.

@gulmaraz5931

5 жыл бұрын

Trump 2020!!!

@ksager123

5 жыл бұрын

kendahke yes y'all are. that's an excuse...

@davidlafleche1142

5 жыл бұрын

Look at that nut from the Kansas City Chiefs who threw a woman to the floor...then Doug Williams said it was "small potatoes." No wonder you're all nervous!

One of my friends is Caucasian and I’m black and we both have anxiety and depression So when she gets sad about something everyone is there to comfort her But when I’m sad about something everyone says that I’m always wanting attention or they say that I’m gonna be fine

@AntoinetteChanel

5 жыл бұрын

Young Savage That’s happened to me too (lol ironic ending a sentence with me too since that’s a prime example of how white women always get treated special but black women are never acknowledged in the same way). And I’m really sorry. Not a fun feeling. You should seek other people to have in your circle who will treat you as the individual you are. I had to do this and it made me happier. Unfortunately, the folks who have the double standard won’t see it as a problem, or at least in my experience they don’t.

I am a 68 year old white man, and I think this woman is beautiful inside and out.

Loved this video..I definitely need to seek help, or talk to somebody, but I can't afford it at the moment. Going to try to meditate & exercise, & not look for happiness in men. Thank you ❤️

@NotConcentrate100percentJuice

8 жыл бұрын

I would suggest checking through your health plan too...sometimes they have copays for behavioral health doc visits depending on your insurer. And if you're in school/ college there may be resources there for you on campus. And some psychiatrists and therapists have a sliding scale for payment based on income. Its take time and research which in itself is a deterrent to get help..even without the stigma...but from my experiences, worth it.

@ChaeLei

6 жыл бұрын

that's my issue as well I recently moved to a new area after graduating university and i literally have no one. being alone infused a lot of despression however i do not have the financial means to seek helps. I've ran out of options i guess i'll just keep ignoring it.

@fatcat165

6 жыл бұрын

dclarkjeannine you definetlybneed help with thise eyebrows.

@netty5493

5 жыл бұрын

they the problem lol

@davidlafleche1142

5 жыл бұрын

@@ChaeLei Want to talk?

I agree with everything in this video! Being a black women I get it 100% I feel like a lot of times we are there for everyone but who is there for us black women? I'm a silent sufferer type and I love that you made this video!! I feel we are one of the most strongest creatures on the planet but tbh all women are but it's harder for us because our skin color to deal with things like this... thank you ❤️❤️❤️

@dumper926

5 жыл бұрын

@Naija girl :( I'm so sorry getting help completely turned my depression and life around. I wish things were different so you could get support you're worth it. Take care

@brandylee2434

5 жыл бұрын

DotsyGlamm very well said. I have anxiety and I think depression has a hand in it

@freeyourself7510

4 жыл бұрын

@@Mateo-sx9mv gtfoh

💜 I sent this video to my friend. She's been having a really hard time lately & I hope your videos help her.

Talking about my experiences and depression is definitely helping me heal. I was so ashamed, but now that I basically let the entire world know my "secrets", I feel liberated. Opening up also helps others know that they are not alone.

Great video. This is a subject not talked about enough in our community. It's brave to open up and share your own experience. I hope this video will help someone!

@motivationandmeditations7600

8 жыл бұрын

+EcouiaTV I sent you a msg. please respond when you can. :)

@EcouiaTV

8 жыл бұрын

+Latrice “Faith” Waller I'm sorry where did you send the message to?

@motivationandmeditations7600

8 жыл бұрын

youtube inbox of yours :)

@EcouiaTV

8 жыл бұрын

+Latrice “Faith” Waller I have looked and I have no idea where my inbox is. Please email me at adrielent@gmail.com😰

@motivationandmeditations7600

8 жыл бұрын

okay

In four days, I’ll being seeing my first therapist. For some time, some of my friends suggested it, but I kept putting it off. In the last few months, I have been feeling very despondent to the point of just sobbing in bed, waking up in the middle of the night, and overeating. Some days are good. Some days are really bad. Praying for anyone reading this that is going through a mental health issue. It’s not fun at all.

@kessiebubuisson8479

4 ай бұрын

Definitely not fun or easy. I hope you're doing well❤️

Please note as a mental health professional, medications are sometimes necessary and taboo that can hinder addressing the root issue. Note the right medication will not alter your personality.

@pinkpanties5161

8 жыл бұрын

Yeah, sometimes it's necessary. Some people might not be open to receiving any treatment and medication can help them be more open, receptive & responsive. I know it helped me. And it hasn't changed my personality

@senorita59

8 жыл бұрын

Please note that this is not true. To everyone who already feels on edge about medications. Dependency is the first step to subconsciously choosing depressed modes.

I’m going through it right now. I bottle the heck out of my emotions until they burst. I was just driving and didnt really wanna listen to music so I went to KZread. The first thing I typed in the search bar was “dealing with depression as a black woman” And I know that watching a video, no offense, of someone who is not of color talk about depression I wouldn’t have been fulfilled with the information completely. I love you for this video, and it definitely opened up my eyes to meditation. New subscriber as well, I’d love to learn more about these healing mediation methods, because I do not want to be on depression meds. THANK YOU!

I can't express to you how ON TIME this video is for me! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and being transparent. You said many things that I could relate to and understand in this video, but the thing that resonated with me the most was "Meditation over Medication". Like I want to put it on a t-shirt or something! Lol Those three words completely express how I feel when it comes to finding ways to cope with depression, but most importantly to HEAL. Please do share more about what meditation practices have worked for you.

Thanks for being such a beautiful person inside and out. It really rubs off on people who don't even know you and that says a lot❤️

@fatcat165

6 жыл бұрын

Zoë Clarke Tower Weave

Wow this is deep. I grew up with a bipolar parent who was hospitalized at least a dozen times. I myself have had recurring issues with anxiety, panic attacks and depression although I wasn't clinically diagnosed. It is imperative black people have some form of sufficient self-care to ensure we are okay mentally/emotionally. Going out to 'get a drink' or getting drunk does not make your problems go away--its only a poor distraction. Most psychotropic drugs don't help mental illness--all it does is slow the person down in slow motion. Now some people may need it at times for manic depression but not all the time. We are so busy trying to be strong and independent but black suicide is on the rise. On a shallow note, love the hair!

@teliabattle3986

8 жыл бұрын

Yes I know but me I drink sometimes but only in moerderation when I be at someones cookout or at the gathering or even at the picnic. But in my family they drink all the time even they be taking some durgs also! But me I don't take no durgs & plus I don't like to take no perspiction pain klliers because it will make you go nuts!

@ALPHAROYCE

7 жыл бұрын

sweetchari wow are we the same person? also grew up with a black parent who's bipolar and in denial and is in and out of hospital. it's been really tough but everything you said really resonates with me

@anashapegues258

6 жыл бұрын

Wow I sorry you had to go through all that. I really wish black people would be open-minded on mental illness because I have my own struggle with anxiety and depression. And when you tell some of them the way they look at you is like almost as if you were a monster or something. It really sucks

Thanks for being so vulnerable. I have seen a therapist for years too and it always shocks my friends. When I recommend seeking help to my friends who are struggling there answer is: "I'm not crazy" or "I can go to church". We need dialogue to break down these stigmas and walls because so many of us are suffering. What do you suggest from a mediation standpoint?

@brandongrill2767

Жыл бұрын

Look up Adriene Mischler's self-love meditation, or any of Julien Blanc's free youtube meditations.

This was an absolutely beautiful video. I'm so glad I came across your channel. I am going to share this with my clinical psychology class as an example for my project about KZread and depression. Thanks for sharing!

I don't know if I'm self loathing or just depressed. I'm 21 years old attend an integrated university. However as I've grown older and more conscious im starting to see the injustice of blacks. I'm becoming very unhappy with myself relationship job family school etc. I'm crying as I write this i just don't know who I am. I consider myself pro black I believe my people should have their own institutions and look out for their own. I don't hate anyone I'm just tired of my people always being down as if they are blinded by the fact. I'm saddened by all the ignorance I'm around. I honestly hate school at this point. I'm tired of being taught by white teachers whom don't understand me. I do plan on going to a black school for graduate school though. I want more enlightment i want black mentors who can help guide me through this confusion anger resentment I have. Any suggestions?

@fatcat165

6 жыл бұрын

Catherian Johnson maybe its your Weave.

@FuckYouCheney

6 жыл бұрын

Fat Cat Fuck You

@SimplySimbi

6 жыл бұрын

Everybody Hates Judy I feel the exact same way 😓

@fwc9500

5 жыл бұрын

I agree

This video is so refreshing. I've been dealing with it for some time now, but have found meditation and watching what I eat to be the best tools for me. Thank you for speaking out about this.

I am an older woman who has suffered from depression since I was a child and although I'm not ashamed as much as I used to be. I talk about it more now than I used to and I can say that I don't feel well which usually means I'm having a bad day. I don't know if I can find any answers here for me but I am glad to see younger women stepping forward and reaching out to each other. Maybe you'll find some useful tools for handling it.

@beautifulsky5274

7 жыл бұрын

Celita Jamison going through this now. I hate this, dont wanna be judged.

This video was very honest and I appreciate that. Me and some girlfriends are having an ongoing discussion about this very topic. Thank you

I am so glad I found this.

This is a really valid. Thank you or sharing. Personally I have recently reached out as an adult for outside help and I am really glad that Shelah shared this.

Thank you. Thank you so much for this.

thank you for your story and honesty.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for this video 🙌🏾

My family has always been stressed out. Why would I throw my problems onto people that are always at the tipping point of a mental breakdowns themselves? Nobody has time for these problems. I feel like the terrible norm is to just keep going until it becomes the least of your problems.

Very important to get help sooner than later. Excellent message!

Thank you for this😢

I love everything that you said in this video. Please share some of the mediation techniques that you've found to be helpful!

@fatcat165

6 жыл бұрын

vly703 go lose weight

@kaylad4486

5 жыл бұрын

@@fatcat165 Judging from your profile pic, it's obvious you're a anti-black troll.

Thank you for sharing! My sister circle including my daughter will be discussing this soon. ✨💜🙏🏾

Thank you for sharing your story- you are speaking for a lot of us. And I respect your position on medication and although I am on meds right now- I think everyone out there needs to do whatever it is that keeps them alive and able to reach wellness. The biggest misconception is thinking the " Strong Black Woman " trope that needs to be deconstructed. Being strong does not mean being invulnerable to pain and thinking that having to suffer somehow makes the pain more noble. It doesn't. Every time we share our stories and create spaces that others can be seen and heard is doing healing work. You are not alone- and I guess that means I am not alone too. Peace and love

Thank you for this.

You're awesome. 100% agree. ❤️

I am so happy to see your video. Black and Brown women need to understand they are still strong even if they have depression.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart thank you so much for making this video because I've been dealing with depression since I was 14 years old. I'm 20 now and I'm still dealing with it. And I don't think my family understands it.

Thanks for this.

Thank you, passing it on

Thank you SO much for this. Just...thank you. 😓😓😓😓😓😓😓

Great video.......you spoke many truths

Thank you for the honesty, can you share some of your meditation stuff?!

Thank you goddess for sharing your experience

I try to keep myself busy but it still der....the depression, the shame, the loneliness, the sadness of never being loved

In understand what is the situation. And personally, as a white girl I wanted to know more about how you guys feel so i decided to watch this video. So I wanna say this: y'all beautiful... black, white, bej, brown...y'all good. I love you all. But dear black or brown sisters, don't hold it back. Teach your mama that she needs to let it out too. Holding in emotions is not good for nobody and I want my girls all over the world healed. Please take your time with yourselves and don t be ashamed. God doesn t want you to be ashamed. He wants you to be bold, brave, able to let ir out and so he can fix it for you. P.S thank you Shela for being such an inspiration and helping so many people with your brilliant mind. Bless you!

@retro-rose1194

5 жыл бұрын

Stefania Stefan thank you💗💗💗😢😢😢

Finally something I can relate to

Girl I love Positive Magazine meditations. I love her channel. Meditation has really helped me through some rough times. At first it was hard to do. But i've found that the stillness requires me to reconcile my trauma.

Very true! Real words

Great video. All true. Thankyou for sharing

Story of my life!!

This video is perfect for me at the moment...

thanks for this

I appreciate you. Learnt a lot. Keep the flag flying.

❤️ Thank you

Thank u for this

Thank you so much for sharing! I've been struggling with severe depression and an eating disorder for 6 years and only at the end of 2016 did I finally tell my family and seek help. Since then I've been making leaps and bounds in my recovery, and that's largely due to the medication that I started. I tried therapy for several months and got absolutely nowhere, though thinking back on it, I feel that may have been due to my own inability to believe that I was worthy of recovery In the first place, and no amount of talking could have changed my mind. That's when I decided to look into medication. I've been taking 20mg of Lexapro for 6 months now and things couldn't be better. I know it may not be for everyone, but for me, antidepressants have been a godsend and have changed my life in ways I couldn't have imagined. I feel like I can finally breathe and see beyond the fog that depression cast over my life, I have energy and motivation to get out and exercise again, I talk to my family and friends again, and more importantly, I'm actively planning for my future - and I'm excited about it! For me it was an easy transition with very few side effects (sleepiness and some nausea for the first 3 days), but after that passed its been smooth sailing. I'm not saying this to push the route of medication on anyone, but for those thinking about it, maybe talk to your doctor or a psychiatrist (preferably) to see what options are available to you. Best of luck to everyone who is struggling, stay strong and I hope you can find the help you need ❤️

@charlesbenedetti8607

5 жыл бұрын

Sydney.........medication should be taken with precaution, the reason being it leads to addiction and does not cure the problem, but only masks the problem. To effectively remove the problem you need to find the causes and confront them honestly and bravely. With all human problems follow this directive: THE WAY OUT IS THE WAY THROUGH.

Thank you 🙏🏾

Black women are beautiful.

Hey thanks for being transparent!!! I am having the same issues with my bipolar but haven't been treated...I skip out when it's medication time....

when you said that meditation allowed you to deal with the root of the problem vs the symptoms of it, i really heard you. im on medication now for the first time and im hoping it makes it easier for me to make meditation a habit. and i think you're right that being connected with yourself deeply through meditation will allow you to have longer and full moments of happiness that you're really really right

I am an African American Hispanic Chinese Native American and I just recently discovered this about me and my family and I would love to connect with other black women regarding mental health and how to find the best counselor

I enjoyed listening to your video just one thing i didnt agree with is when you started talking about meds. Some people work better with meds. That should be a personal choice.

Thanks for this video Queen. I dont have the shame part. Its definitely the not being understood part....most ppl i know rnt black women like myself or if they r unfortunately they r the negative ones who are comfortable in their misery. I just feel so isolated and nobody can or cares to understand me. That's where the silence comes in. I dont talk to ppl... They dont ask or care... And i Dont know a black woman therapist...cause i wouldnt want to talk to a white person for therapy or a male... Either way i appreciate you SO much for putting this put here. Nobody cares for African women. We have to care for ourselves bc nobody is coming through to uplift us or have our backs smh. I genuinely believe being black AND a woman is an absolute curse. I wish all of you Queens the BEST. Tha ks for being YOU and staying strong! 💪

Thank You.

love your hair. you're beautiful.

very good breakdown of what goes on in a blackwoman's life🙂

_Glad this is being talked about I wish I could find more information. I feel so alone , no purpose , & my life is passing me by. I wish I could heal instead of suffering in silence. I read a lot trying to ignore my problems but when the story is done ✅ I’m still silently suffering. 😟😟😟😟_

Solution one: get rid of ppl. The less ppl you have in your circle the better Solution two: get a pet for companionship. We can’t communicate with them but they can help us relieve stress

@aishageorge3056

5 жыл бұрын

Yup...I have minimal people around me but I have a dog, cat, hamster and a fish and they bring a joy people can't. They are loyal and trustworthy, qualities hard to find.

I am in tears watching this because my depression has hit so hard this past week and I don't turn to anyone to talk because I feel like it's not something they want to talk about.. Besides that no one pays attention.. They don't want to hear about it which pushes me deeper.. It's just so tough going through this alone

@diamondzanderstv6475

5 жыл бұрын

@Alexis Bowe alright thank you

I’d like to add to this conversation too, as a white woman with brown skinned friends and acquaintances, I see the stigma and shame of mental health issues in black culture, and it’s disheartening when I try to talk openly about it with my brown skinned friends and they laugh at me and push away my feelings and thoughts, I look at it as an opportunity for us to open up and connect with each other over something we are both struggling with, but a lot of times I am met with that attitude of “oh you white people”, and that honestly breaks my heart because I want to help and be a friend but that wall comes up and shuts me down and says “you can’t understand me, because you’re white and I’m black” but we can support one another through our struggles with mental health if we keep an open mind and heart, let’s keep these conversations going so we can all experience healing, women can empower themselves by opening up and getting honest...

Much needed video! Me and many family members suffer from depression but still people have no empathy for each other. It's become a who has suffered the most competition. I guess depression can make people feel every thing is worst for them! I now have a toddler daughter and I put my trust in God hour by hour to give me the energy and positive aura to get through each day. Please let me know what type of meditation and counselling you do. I am a single parent in England with only a drop of family support and I am so desperate to turn my life around. I wanted to get help with better help.com but couldn't afford it.

At first I thought this was going to be some stupid racist rant on why white people can't be depressed. But props to you for addressing an actual problem. Much like many Asians are expected to be very successful, childhood prodigies. I never noticed that the whole empowerment movement actually has the downfalls of being expected to be invincible.

please share some of your meditation techniques!

Omg thank you sooo much for this video I couldn't agree more I was on meds for about 3 years and I hated it I was always happy but deep down I felt like I was being controlled and like deep down I was sad even this my actions due to the meds said otherwise. Plz do a video of f what u do your overcome and what u do to meditate and how you got started I tried diff apps of meditation but I wasn't satisfied plz help

Thank you so much for sharing your story! What are some meditation practices you use?

This is it. We'll said.

Liking the hair. Let’s improve brown and black relations.

What about just being neutral about how you feel? I think chasing the high of happiness is a low key problem too.

Clinical medication effects different people in different ways. Just because your mom had a negative reaction to medication does not mean that all will be affected in that manner. Its is very dangerous to advise anyone with a mental health imbalance to just meditate it away. Meditation may work well for you and thats fine; however, many people who suffer from mental health imbalance do not fair well without the benefit of prescribed medication. Depending on the individual, going off meds or not taking meds at all can lead to very dangerous and harmful events including suicide. It is important that we do not add to the already existing stigma that surrounds mental health diagnosis by implying that prescribed medication is not a helpful or necessary treatment for it. That's just as irresponsible or insensitive as some saying... Lets just go to church and pray it away or...all you need is to go out and have some fun and a few drinks. That will snap you right out of it. These are examples of some of worst adivice one can give to a person dealing with a diagnosed mental health disorder.

HEY GURL hey, we r gonna be on a panel together sometime in May, re: meditation and mental health. Looking forward to it.

This has been going on with me for years and i have a dark complexion i dont even show my face on the internet im the oldest and my sister has been the strong one of the family.

As weird as this sounds( and I know Im not wierd but i know I wasnt the target audience), and i hope nobody minds this, but im an strait white male who has been going through a hard time in 2020 and have found some very good advice in this video. This is a very excellent video and a wonderful job on inspiration.

What type of meditation do you use or where would you recommend someone who has never done it to start ?

The worst bit is when you speak up, people try to make a joke out of your mental health or trauma making it worse.

Can you do this series again?

❤️❤️💜💜💜

What meditations do you practice?

what types of meditation do you recommend?

Hi, just wanted to find out what type of meditation you are doing?

Helpd

st johns wort in the tincture is helpful.

A few years ago, I was feeling what I thought was depression. I was struggling to cope with school , finding purpose and direction in life, I was suicidal and feeling hopeless. I grew up feeling uncomfortable expressing negative emotions with my parents but nonetheless I got the courage to ask for help and though money was tight, my mom took me to see a psychologist. When I got there I found that I was really struggling to communicate what I was feeling to the psychologist. At the end of my appointment, the psychologist told me “there is nothing wrong with you, you just need to make more friends ”. I felt like such a fraud and that I was seeking for attention. To make matters worse, when the bill came, my mom called me to show me how much they had charged her and I felt so guilty. To this day I still live with that guilt. I still struggle with what I think is depression and have suicidal ideations. These past two years have been particularly rough on me. I’ve gone to therapy by myself before but eventually quit. I don’t think I’ll have the courage to speak up again though, I just feel like an attention seeker and stupid when I do. So I guess I’ll have tough it out a little while longer.

@diamondgirl8023

2 жыл бұрын

Wow i’m so sorry you went through that and I hope things are better now 💝💝💝 I don’t know if this helps, but I went through a similar situation but the cause of my depression was my birth control pills. So if u are on the pills I’ll recommend to stop them immediately. I hope things get better 💞

Can you post the meditation techniques you use?

hello what did you mean by changing someone's character by medication ? thank you

Meditation is a great way of pulling out the weeds in our heads, as opposed to taking medications that only remove the head of the weed instead of the root...

Could u talk about lgbt peoples in the black community and how we as black women need to be more of ally’s to them? I see so much hate trans black women being killed and gays being bashed and I can’t help but notice it. Makes my heart hurt because my mama had kicked out my brother and I felt like I couldn’t do anything

Yes please share the medicine that has helped you. I've gone through 6years of trial and error and still nothing helps..

Where's the meditation links?