Only 4 mins in and it seems like this lad's gone through absolute hell last year.

When George's dad said, "Stop! You're just haunting yourself," I cried.

“the future we were gonna have together” :(

@afrocentricallyshakina

5 жыл бұрын

Kaynaat Rashid that’s where it hurts so deep 😞😞😥😥

George is so brave for doing this, he is such a good artist and never deserved this to happen to him. No one does

jesus this is hard to watch. the whole experience is so surreal. i lost my dad in 2016 and it is the worst pain to date.

@GeorgiaGeorgette

5 жыл бұрын

I am truly sorry for your loss.

@winterdoll1917

5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry

@Joeyjackson5

5 жыл бұрын

I know how you feel, I lost my mum a while ago and it still hurts like hell 😥

@samanthadouglas9270

5 жыл бұрын

I also lost my dad in 2016. It was the most painful experience of my life.

@xcutiepie10x

4 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry❤️ you’re so brave

just finished watching and i’m still a mess. it’s those pauses and little moments he has where he says ‘i just miss harriet so much’ and ‘if i would’ve done this differently...’ you can literally see his mind trailing off into darkness before he stops himself and starts crying. george and his family are so precious and i totally feel for them. beautiful family. rip harriet ❤️

Looks like he was feeling guilty about being happy or excited. I would say to him, if he was the one that died, how would he want his sister to be? Certainly not holding herself back. Clearly he is creative and that's what he should continue to be using his negative experience in positive ways. It was a tough watch.

Oh my goodness, how incredibly emotional. I’ve been crying throughout this whole documentary.

around 12:22 during that beautiful moment between George and his friend, you can hear their heartbeat, and it legit gave me chills. Amazing documentary, thank you George for opening up about this!

You better believe I watched the whole thing and sobbed the whole way through

I feel so bad for for him. My brother that was 2 years older than me died very unexpectedly on October 29, 2010, he was my best friend & we did everything together. When George said he & his sister were gonna live together it really hit me hard, that’s what me and my brother Tommy were gonna do too. It’s funny how growing up my brother said no matter what happened to us in life, we’d always be best friends and always live together. I was 33 when he died, he left me alone here to struggle through this life by myself he promised he’d never leave me there was so much we wanted to do. I know his death wasn’t his fault, but I can’t help but get angry sometimes yelling out at him why did u leave me?! U promised I wouldn’t have to do this on my own, I know he’s much better off but it doesn’t help the ones left behind. I love u Tommy, I miss u more everyday😞😢😭💔☮️

@007janerussell

5 жыл бұрын

Tina Lancaster 💔⚓️

@tinalancaster3227

5 жыл бұрын

Jane Russell Thank you❤️💜

@coll4455

5 жыл бұрын

I just lost my brother Tommy March 7 of this year suddenly 4 years older your words sounded like me speaking 💔 I just turned 34 on June 12 he would have been 38 on August 29th 😢

@GeorgiaGeorgette

5 жыл бұрын

I can't express how deeply sorry I am. Your beloved Brother is still with you and always will be. He lives on with you and through you, forever.

@GeorgiaGeorgette

5 жыл бұрын

@@coll4455 My comment is for you too. Your precious Brother will be with you everywhere you go and in everything you, always.

I was 15 when I lost my brother,he was 16,we did EVERYTHING togather,he was my best friend,we were out swimming on a lake side qhen he went for a swim,he was a really strong swimmer,when suddenly we heard him screaming for help me and my uncle went after him and I got him twice,but I could not hold him and he slipped away,I searched and searched and searched,but nothing.. I think I was in chock badly.. I dont remember a lot of the parts,blur and blanks,guilt.. Now I'm 29,I have a family of my own and not a day goes by that I dont think about him.. You'll never heal completely,you just learn how to live without

I miss my dad. He died 19th September 2018 with a heart attack. I am trying to stay strong but I can’t , my life stopped since the moment I heard the news. I hate myself and everything around me 🥺😭💔 I can't deal with his passing away

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

Hello Sarah , I know it's really not appropriate for me to burst into your DM trying to talk to you, but I'm sorry about your loses I can understand your pain as I've had a great deal of loss of my loved ones in the past and I can still feel the void in my heart, I'd love to talk to you / chat, I'd like to be honest you're such a beautiful woman and that's great, being strong is the key to overcome grief, but you'd still never forget about your loved ones, I just want to know about you and hopefully have a great conversation, here is my #+17866678266 it'd be nice if you just say hi, or send me your gmail address so i could reach out on you.

This was so beautiful, raw, emotional and real, I cried more times then I can count

41:32 That's the saddest thing in this documentary by far

i lost my mum a month ago. the experience of grief cannot be put into words.

I can’t imagine what it’s like as a mother losing a child, my sister in law lost her daughter recently and much like George’s Mum I cannot believe the strength they have. His Mum articulates her grief so well it bought me to tears

18:00 mins in, where she mentions that sometimes being strong involves allowing your heart to break and allowing yourself the opportunity to be in sync with your emotions in order to cry is such an important message, my gosh. I agree with her completely that sometimes we misinterpret what it means to truly be strong, being able to under go emotional turmoil and rise above it is the epitome of strength.

I lost my dad this February. I loved Union J when I was younger, huge respect to George for doing this

This helped me. I lost my Dad to cancer. Never spoken about it to anyone. I had a 13 month old baby at the time so I didn't allow myself to cry with him around. This was 5 years ago, still haven't grieved, didn't attend Dad's funeral, never visited his grave...I've locked it away and thrown away the key. I have two babies, I can't let them see me cry. My heart is forever broken. Will never talk about it. Ever.

I’m sorry for your loss George Shelley. I understand how much you miss your sister. Life can unfair sometimes.

Hey George, I know you probably won’t read this or remember me but Easter is the worst time of year for me cuz that’s when I last saw our angel Harriet. She was so amazing and kind. No matter what she always put a smile on anyone’s face. These past few years have been a struggle for all of us and especially for my sis, one of harriers closest friend. I last saw her grave yesterday and she’s living with angels and her memories of us. Love you mate.

I lost my sister when I was 14 and she was 8. Absolutely teared me down then, and still does to this day. I’ve accepted that I’ll miss her every single day of my life, but I take comfort in talking about her to her friends to keep her memory alive. And knowing that we’ll meet again in another life, wherever or whenever that may be.

I nearly lost my little brother this year after a freak accident. I've blocked it out my mind because luckily he was ok. It's horrible. Little things take me back to that moment like seeing an ambulance with the sirens blaring. Ahhh my heart aches for you George. Thanks for sharing this with world. Your sister is proud of you and loved you so remember that. xx

What a beautiful family, George huge respect for you buddy. Rest in paradise Harriet xx

God, I can't even imagine losing one of my siblings. I hope that none of them go before I do. Though, I don't want them to have to deal with the grief of losing me either. I love them so much that the thought of a world without them is unthinkable. I can't even begin to know how all of these people, how George and everyone else who has lost a sibling, is dealing with it. I know that eventually it will happen. Unfortunately that is a very real and very painful part of life. But I can't think of losing any of them so soon, like George lost his sister. Before they even have a chance to live a full life. This is an amazing documentary and I do believe it will and has already helped a lot of people. I may not have lost a sibling or parent or child or lover, but I have lost people that I love. This helps a lot.

@bethanyleigh9691

5 жыл бұрын

Candace Garrett beautifully said xx

@afrocentricallyshakina

5 жыл бұрын

Candace Garrett Just found out my Bro passed yesterday it hurts so bad

Just watched this last night, sending this amazing family all my love. I lost my son, 19 to leukemia, 31 months aGo. The pain is still there, it never goes away. To bury my child was the most horrendous thing I ever had to do. I suffer from depression and anxiety and I still struggle every day. But I’m trying to keep his memory alive. Thank you George for making this documentary. Give all my love to your family especially your mum xxx

Sibling loss is one of the hardest. A close sibling is a best friend, peer, mother/father figure/ *family* and your best teacher/therapist... all at the same time. That is more than what most relationhips can give. I have this relationship with my sister and my brother and watching George suffer like this, I feel it in my core and cry with him, bc I can feel what it would be like if I lost my sister. It would be just as bad if not worse. I appreciate his and his family's honesty and sharing their experience. It is so important.

Gorge I feel you pain that is exactly Wat I did when my brother got murdered in front of me we were bonded and once one dies you lose some thing in side too to all those who we have lost my they rest in peace ✌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👍😭😂🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Shouldn’t have watched this on my period .. crying my eyes out 💔

I would recommend Gloria Hunniford's book on grief called ALWAYS WITH YOU. She talks in such depth and feeling about losing her beloved daughter Caron to cancer. She says how grief is always with you but you learn to live around it. It will always be a part of you but you just carry on for the sake of family, friends and your own sanity. Grief is horrendous, but so many people survive grief. It's a soul destroyer, but not a life destroyer.

@katie323

5 жыл бұрын

Live Life I’ll actually look into this book, thank you so much.

Hell George, I know where your coming from, I am still living the despair your parents are going through after losing my 14yr old son Connor. Grief is heart wrenching despair that only ever eases with time. You will always be a different person than you were. How to deal with the pain? there is no answer. Its like throwing a golf ball down a bowling alley. Be well

@farz.2524

5 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. I'm sending you my love, thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. You will never be alone ♡

This is bravery, you can feel he loves her so much and there’s a bond that can’t be broken by anything. That diary moment made me cry. Well done George 💗

My heart goes out to George because as a elder sibling it is one of the hardest things to lose someone you've shared most of your life with I lost my brother in August 2015 he was killed in the Shoreham Air Crash he was 23 years old when he died I loved my brother like George loved and still loves Harriet nothing eases the pain of losing someone who is supposed to be there to share memories with not to be buried too soon.

Life and difficulties are intertwined. I pray you get the strength to pull this with full recovery.

I cannot thank you enough for this George. I lost my dad a few months ago in July at 23 and this helped validate everything I have been feeling. Thankyou George. You are beyond brave and this is so important. Truly, Thankyou.

Poor guy, the first couple of years are the worst, I lost my sister back in 2012 after an aneurysm. The anxiety I'd been dealing with for a while obviously spiked around then. Seek whatever help you need and go easy on yourself if a loved one dies. Glad this program was made

Thank you for being a voice for sibling loss, I lost my younger brother just over a year ago in a car accident and so much of this was relatable. Your sister was gorgeous and I am sending love to your family and all the other bereaved siblings scrolling through the comments.

I lost my mum to a road accident around the same time. I was only 17. I totally understand the lights going off when you lose someone you love, with absolutely no control or warning whatsoever.

@bhavishsinghota7727

5 жыл бұрын

Do make your Mum proud of you. X. Remember they all say that the departed soul is around and with us. 🙏🏼

George, it will be ok, we all admire your strength. Thankyou for sharing

This documentary is a form of strength. Keep going, George. You keep on trying. Peace be with all of you!

Good god George, cried 1000 times through this. It's been 18yrs since I lost my husband, we were both terribly young and thanks to you, I've now faced up to the one emotion I've denied myself - GRIEF! Watched u on X-FACTOR, in the Jungle etc, knew you were gay & didn't give a hoot & always remember when the news came out your Sister had died...., remember feeling how hard it would be for you, having been in the public eye! Grief will always be part of our life, don't let it consume you.....all the best & much love xxxx

@generichuman2044

5 жыл бұрын

I am so glad he made this documentary. Someone close to me just lost their fiance to an undiagnosed heart condition. He died suddenly one morning shortly after their 5th anniversary together. In order to help her I wanted to know what she must be going through. This documentary and the comments have helped me understand more of what it must be like.

Well done George for sharing your story.Totally understand after losing my brother in a road accident.It does change your life forever ,sending love to you and your family x

I’m about to be 19 in a week from now and I have lost family members and I lost my mom at 12 and my longtime friend of 19 years recently. Losing the biggest people in your life is very difficult, and it takes time. But you got the memories of them and they live on always and forever.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

I’m so sorry for your loss. This breaks my heart. Rip to an absolutely beautiful soul

This is so sad, I want to hug him and his friend ❤ it's so heart breaking....

George. well done sharing a hard thing. well done bro

Thank you for sharing your revelations about grieving. I lost my dad in motorcycle accident 2016 and been pushed away from my family. I've been grieving and numbing myself in my dark room. I loved what ur mom said about u got to keep doing. And doing is so hard to do when its hard just to get out of bed. It's been 3 years.. hard..

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

watched this a couple day's ago and it's so beautiful, H was truly and angel and well done for speaking out and helping others George x

i have never cried so much watching something in my life. just the thought of losing my brother is heartbreaking and to see georges pain and his courage and how unbelieveably hard this is but him still talking about it and shedding light on this topic is incredible.

This honestly has hit me so hard I’ve watched the whole thing and throughout it’s I’ve been tearing up I have two older brothers and we are all so,so close and I honestly don’t know what I’d do if I lost any of them. I am honestly so proud of George for this he’s come so far and I wish him the best

This is the most incredible insight into the mind of someone grieving. Thankyou so much for speaking about this, sending endless love to you and your family and anyone else going through something similar xxx

Omg cried my eyes out all the way through this! my heart breaks for You, you're amazing for doing this, so strong!!

This was a beautifully brave take on grief George, I really felt this journey with you. All the love to you and your family. x

Such a lovely video I completely understand as lossing my dad 4 years ago. I hope this helps other people see it does get better x

Thank you so very much for sharing your story even though it was so hard for you to do. Love to all those who lost loved ones. I hope you all find peace and comfort even when all seems lost.

He’s such a strong person. I have so much respect for him for doing this documentary, it must have been unimaginably tough.

I lost my dog last January. It’s been so hard to deal with. I can’t talk to people about it as hell was just a dog’ but I loved him more than anyone else. He was the centre of my world. I was so proud of him. I can’t imagine how losing a sibling will feel.

I know how it feels to loose people close in family and I’m so proud you’ve opened up about in public, your such an inspiration and should be proud of the man you are

My heart is with you as I watch... i have had a significant loss. I hurts worse than i could ever have imagined. Bless you!

I still remember when I used to listen to George on capitol the whole time.. 😔💚

I am crying all through , it is still on, BBC. George, Thank you for speaking publicly about your Grief for your Dear Beautiful kind Sister Harriet. She will Always be beside you George, I feel it in my heart. She will and is making you Strong enough to get through your grief. God bless her beautiful Soul. God bless you too George & Your Mom & Nan. Harriet is supporting you All, you will see the beautiful Sunshine again which is her Smile . X

What a great and well produced documentary. Didn't really know George Shelly before, but he seems like such a good person. I totally lost it, when his nan said "I felt like she was her". It was like an arrow hit my chest and heart. Bless this beautiful family. Well done, BBC!

George Shelley, you incredible human being. What a beautiful tribute to your sister but also what a wonderful documentary that will help so many people struggling with their own grief. Thank you.

This video is so beautiful and so important.. RIP Harriet ❤️

I really empathise with George and his family. Cried a lot watching this. I lost my mother and 22 year old sister in December 2015, in a road traffic collision. I could relate to so many of the dark thoughts and feelings you expressed in this. I still struggle with not knowing what my purpose in life should be since losing my mom and little sister but I hope I can find that clarity soon. Wishing you and your family well.

One of the most heartbreaking and upsetting things I’ve watched for a while now. Especially coming from someone who I adore, watching and supporting George since X Factor. Once news hit about Harriet’s passing it made me cry. Because everyone goes through death and experiences grief in so many different ways. This October will be 2 years since my grandad passed and not a day goes by when I don’t remember him. Everyone going through grief is allowed to cry and be emotional when it comes. Being strong and being positive takes a lot of time. I’m so immensely proud of George for creating this documentary. Thank you 😊 ♥️

Grieving for a lost loved one is horrendous also grieving for someone living also sucks knowing they will never want you or need you.

@xoalishaxo7600

5 жыл бұрын

Leonie Mouricette yes I completely know what you mean I lost my brother nearly 4 years ago I’ve missed his wedding, the birth of his twins and I’ve missed my best friend. grieving for the living is horrendous x

@xoalishaxo7600

5 жыл бұрын

And I hope you’re ok leonie I know how hard it is x

@leoniemouricette2179

5 жыл бұрын

@@xoalishaxo7600 I'm sorry you're going through this also x

@ameliel8792

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for voicing the pain of having to grieve someone you don't want to grieve and you should not have to grieve who is still alive. No one talks about the pain of people like abusive parents or family members for example. Believe survivors.

@xoalishaxo7600

5 жыл бұрын

Amelie Astor thank you x

My heart goes out to him he’s been through so much even during his time with the group and having to hide himself and she was always the one to be there for him. Makes me appreciate my brothers even more now. ❤️❤️❤️

George this video is incredible, there is no words, thank you for remembering us what really matters ! Your sister would be so proud of you as we all are. You’re so brave man. We all supports you ❤️

Thank you for making this. I hurt for my mom the way that you hurt for your beloved sister. It is the hardest thing about being human. Losing our people. The special ones that lit us up and they were the same ones who lit up for us, every time they caught sight of our faces. I’m finding ways to light up for myself, to feel love. I talk to her sometimes. She’s come into my dreams twice. Life becomes so different forever. I try every day to live, to really live in some way- even if it’s only celebrating that a dragonfly flew by me. Palpable pain. But here we are. Keep going and I will too.

Wow George, you have me in tears. That was beautiful, please don't ever feel guilty for a moment of happiness you have, just know that pain eases with time, you will be okay I promise you.

You are such an inspiration George. Thank you for sharing this part of your life with all of us.

wow, this is so beautifully out together, what an amazing & positive young man. His sister would be so proud.

This was beautiful and she’d be so proud of you, George. Sending all my love to you and your family 💕

I’m speechless after watching this. The raw emotion and bravery shown by George is incredible. It’s heartbreaking and I hope he’s okay.

Such a brave young man. This was very raw and in depth and I have nothing but admiration for him for letting us in and sharing his grief and story with us. I think we have to break the stigma with men not feeling like they can express themselves without looking ‘weak’ or not being the ‘man who needs to be strong and have it all together’. When he hugged his room mate/friend, what a beautiful moment, you could feel their hurt but also see that the friendship they share is very rare and just wonderful to see. This was a great doco, although extremely sad, I am glad I watched it.

I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart hurts for you and your family. You are so strong, sharing your story x

Wasn't gonna cry. Lost it at the diary entry 😢 This was a beautiful documentary George x

That was really phenomenal. I don't think you could find a more articulate person to share his journey. The love in George's family was so strong and it was a beautiful thing to see. I really think that seeing this would help others in a similar situation, to see that there are so many ups and downs and that's OK. All the love to George and his family .

This actually broke my heart ❤️ so much love to him and his family

What an amazing family. I wish I had been as good at communicating with my parents when I lost my brother. It takes so much courage in a world where we are trained to hide our sadness. Very inspiring

She would be so proud of him for coming out and talking about this. I know how he feels I was 9 when I lost my grandpa and whenever I talk about it I just clam up and start crying. I could never open up like this.

Bless him.. Your story is raw and I empathize with you. I miss my dad so very much. It will be ten years this November. What I would do for a hug or a chat, dinner.... Anything. ❤️💔⚓️

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

So hard to swallow with this giant lump in my throat. What a beautiful and therapeutic documentary.

George, thanks for sharing!

I love how all these grieving people found each other and support one another. They helped each other remember their loved ones and to smile through their tears. ❤ ❤ ❤George your sister is there right beside you and in your heart pushing you forward to live your life. Honour her memory by living and not existing. You are a beautiful man. Thank you for sharing your journey. You'll never know how your vulnerability and courage to talk about grief and mental illness will help many others. Bless you and your gorgeous family! ❤ ❤ ❤

Thank you so much for making this. I lost my best friend in 2015, she was twelve and I was 2 days from turning 14. So many if the things George said are so real to me and I've never been able to put that into words before. Like the grief keeps hitting you again and again and the pain of thinking about the plans that never happened. And thank you for being a role model to young men, showing that its okay to grieve and be sad and ask for help. Thank you.

I’ve forever loved george! Always will. He is so strong! Ily George stay strong xx

This video is truly beautiful and sheds a great light on dealing with grief and knowing that if you have lost someone that you aren't the only one. I personally resonate with this video. I have lost a few close family members, one to cancer and one to a heart condition, and the pain of them not being here doesn't hurt any less, it just gets easier to live with the pain.

To George his mum and Nan my deepest sympathies to you all. Thankyou for making this documentary it was so beautiful and touching Thankyou BBC for uploading this for others to be able to watch it around the world Grief changes with time One day you'll get up and your memories of all your great times together will make you smile more than you will cry She would want you all to move forward and live your life happy Love to your family 💕 I'm going to send this link to a very dear friend of mine Daryl and I hope it helps him

this just breaks my heart in 1000 pieces... i hope he recovers :(

This man is so incredibly strong and brave, may Harriett RIP, I wish him all the best for the future.

You’re so strong George, I know it so difficult waking up and then feeling so shit you just want to stay in bed and it feels like you are being pinned down to the bed by something. It’s a beautiful life as union Js song said get up out the dark and open up your eyes I’m so proud of you ❤️❤️ lots of love 💛💛

This was so hard to watch but so beautifully done. He is so brave and inspiring to talk about his grief and try to help others. I lost my Nan earlier this year and I have never felt grief like it, she was like my second parent and the pain is overwhelming sometimes. Watching this has been so eye opening, to hear that there are other people out there that understand what your going through. ❤️

What a superb film. Well done the BBC for commissioning it and of course well done to George. You’re bravery is inspiring.

If everyone was as sweet and level-headed as George the world would be a better place.

🙏🏼 thank you for bravely sharing your story of your beautiful sister. Seeing your victories gives me hope that it will be okay. You’re amazing 🌈💕

I haven't suffered a loss but I deal with mental health issues. I loved how they all talked about it, especially his father. This was a beautiful and important documentary. Thank you George for sharing your journey.

I’ve watched this a few times and it’s made me cry 😭 everytime I can relate to it. And it’s helped me how to grieve in a better way after watching this even though there not a day go by when my nana and grandad not on my mind