Don't tell me it's traditional marriage unless it secures military alliances between kingdoms.

@cottage-core_

4 жыл бұрын

+

@NIHIL_EGO

4 жыл бұрын

God I wish I was a 14 year old noble daughter getting married to a rich 60 years old man

@cheems408

4 жыл бұрын

*DON'T👏CALL👏IT👏MARRIAGE👏UNLESS👏IT👏SECURES👏AN👏ALLIANCE👏BETWEEN👏GERMANY👏AND👏FRANCE👏*

@georgia860

4 жыл бұрын

Don't call your marriage traditional if you don't have the consent of both parents and a dowry 😤

@bananarepublic6069

4 жыл бұрын

I swear to the long furby, y‘all are my favourite people 😂

"Wearing too much makeup proves you're insecure." "Here's an info-graph to make sure that you walk and sit in a graceful way, and a list of 25 things you need to do to be charming."

@thatboringone7851

4 жыл бұрын

This is the sort of stuff that makes me suspicious of any specifically labeled trad community. There are communities without all this stuff for people that just like the aesthetic - the horrible, hypocritical takes don't have to be part of the deal.

@emilycheshire

4 жыл бұрын

In our family, the women (what our tree mostly consists of) theese are rules that are need to be kept, and they also say theese. It turns my stomach, because at the same time even they pick on each other, and sometimes call me egoist, because I do use makeup and doesn't sit like this. (Because I also wouldn't be able to breath in that position, thanks to my spine.)

@MacNCheeses

4 жыл бұрын

Also yes i DO wear makeup cuz I’m insecure, so fucking what?

@zomboy9816

4 жыл бұрын

*When you're insecure without the makeup too*

@justsomecyborg788

4 жыл бұрын

DUDE yes that is such a good point

I know she said “trad wife” but my ears auto tuned it to “chad wife”

@mme.veronica735

3 жыл бұрын

Does she drunk monster energy? Does she get more p*ssy than you? Can she slam dunk from the 3 point line? If you said yes to one or more of these questions you're wife may be a chad wife

@angelique.4382

3 жыл бұрын

@@mme.veronica735 there aren't enough words in the english language to describe how much you made me laugh

@SieMiezekatze

3 жыл бұрын

This!!!!!!! XD

@SM-qv2om

3 жыл бұрын

I want a chad wife

@aspen_6366

3 жыл бұрын

@@SM-qv2om we all want a chad wife

man as a guy I cant imagine being married to someone like this. I DONT WANNA BE IN CHARGE OF YOU I CAN BARELY HANDLE BEING IN CHARGE OF ME

@niamhrtditchfield2348

3 жыл бұрын

Fat mood bruv

@Miraculousdragoneyes

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly tho. In a relationship-both peeps gotta be stupid together, that's how it works.

@ihateyouall7026

3 жыл бұрын

You’re also like 15 or something so you’re obviously not ready to get married lol

@Nimbereth

3 жыл бұрын

@@ijakerz93 Are you another male feminist loser?

@ijakerz93

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nimbereth r u an incel?

"Give her commands, not requests" Me: *Guy blinking gif*

@sarab2762

4 жыл бұрын

this is a fantastic comment, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

@carl9022

4 жыл бұрын

KyleDoesArt oh my...

@Lunadragon321

4 жыл бұрын

I was so fing confused and then i was like: Ah... I guess thats still a thing

@shnoozezzz9752

4 жыл бұрын

@@Lunadragon321 The thing is i was half paying attention then that was said and it took me a hot sec to just comprehend what was just said.

@Lunadragon321

4 жыл бұрын

KyleDoesArt yup me too and it succ that that kinda shiot still exists {i like memes btw owo;)}

I'm a cis straight male, but the phrase "my husband Jeremiah is my whole life" makes me gag a bit. Marriage should not be domestic servitude.

@kyokasgf368

4 жыл бұрын

You're the man world NEEDS

@calico8525

4 жыл бұрын

I've literally been called gay before because i think the same shit. I'm a househusband with a loving wife. It's disgusting, this trad marriage shit.

@stacy1780

4 жыл бұрын

@@calico8525 completely off topic but do u have any bread tips? i can make buns and things like that on a sheetpan really easily but it never works in a loaf and doesn't have a good crust. would using a metal loaf pan instead of a glass one help?

@calico8525

4 жыл бұрын

A A I would actually start using a baking stone! it helps with making crusts big time, i suggest looking into it ^^

@lucerix6033

4 жыл бұрын

@@calico8525 W H O L E S O M E

"I will do whatever my man wants me to do because I love him and I am his wife" c'mon just say you want a dom

@Eris_Norregard

3 жыл бұрын

For real tho can you imagine having someone order you around all the time? I get that people are into it in the bedroom, that honestly sounds kinda exciting and it's definitely on my bucket list, but it should end there, not carry over to your everyday life. It just sounds so unhealthy. Like how can you respect yourself when you are basically a slave?

@lunargames5246

3 жыл бұрын

@@Eris_Norregard I'll be real with you growing up my mom was pretty controlling even going to far as to beat me when she thought I wasn't listening or misheard her. She won't try that shit now I'm 25 but she jokes about it till this day that I called the cops on her because she tried to beat me for calling her bitch. She also hates anyone I talk to because they might get the idea she's a "Bad mom" because I lie, a lot apparently (you know the kinds of parents) but it's all out of 'Love." So as of this year, I'm with my boyfriend of 9 years, celebrated 29th of August; I do ask him for permission a lot mind you it was a LOT worse when we started to date because I was used to walking on eggshells and if I so much as seemed like I wasn't listening guess who got beat? (We live with my grandparents and she's never been married but is waiting for them to die to take their stuff. .no, no that's not a dark joke) Obsouvly I hid lots of stuff from my mom over the years and even now I'll say to my boyfriend "Hey i'm going to XYZ tomorrow after an interview for lunch." and he'll just say "You don't have to ask my permission just go." Which he says maybe 3 times a month I also learned to stop apologizing for everything and I mean EVERYTHING drop a pen? Sorry. Having a bad day? Sorry. Breath incorrectly? Sorry. Sometimes you just never realize it or refuse to outwardly admit it. Also my grandparents live by "If your happy then that's all that matters" hell mom only kept me around not because she loved me but because if she let grandma adopt me she'd have been thrown out of the house and out of the will. Thinking this is the life isn't really i'd say it's more like indocternation. The difference is I hid a LOT of crap from mom over the years and had friends online and irl that helped me break out of that "Do it for her because she wasn't able to" or "Because you're nothing so live my dream" mentality. But that's my two cents and no she didn't arrange my boyfriend she didn't even know I had 4 boyfreind/girlfreinds buy age 14 and she didn't know about my current for at least 3 years. Oh, and you don't even want to know what she did when she found out I was bi.

@moonlight.z6543

3 жыл бұрын

The way I choked

@LethargicScientist

3 жыл бұрын

@@Eris_Norregard there are people in the kink community that take their dynamic outside of the bedroom but it's set up with serious consideration to consent, safewords, and limits. It's not just an inherent thing that is just assumed like these people say. You don't "just obey", the people in question have to seriously consider what they're doing. In this sort of situation there's no safeword. It's like kink but without the ability to withdraw consent.

@coolbeans2345

3 жыл бұрын

When I was 16, this guy I talked to online told me he was a dom and me being the innocent child I was, had no idea it had to do with sex so I was like "oh cool." I think he was 18..... going to the military too. Ew.

The honest JOY I felt when I learned that the "My husband Jeremiah" blog was faked by a enby lesbian so they could get into a trad wife discord server? Is immeasurable.

@VIDEOGAMEVIDEOGAMEVIDEOGAME

2 жыл бұрын

The Infiltration

@stimky5317

2 жыл бұрын

@Maccer from the north o basically it just means theyre attracted to women, its not a specifically gendered term lamow

@voidify3

2 жыл бұрын

@Maccer from the north nonbinary lesbians are nonbinary people attracted to women for whom the label lesbian feels right, whether due to some connection to womanhood (psa: nonbinary people can be in some way aligned to a binary gender while being nonbinary! bigender, demigirl, etc), or connection to having been raised as a girl, or whatever else. identities aren't completely black and white, especially not one like lesbian which has referred to so many different categories of person through time both by lesbians themselves and by homophobic society

Fun fact, there was a tradwife Twitter account that tweeted something like "sad that traditional household power dynamics are now immediately associated with BDSM," and then someone replied with the account's header image, which was straight up a woman in manacles. The reply? "So the use of restraints on a woman ubiquitously equals kink? Be careful about proving our point."

@bubblegumplastic

4 жыл бұрын

That is so CREEPY.

@Eveoriginalsinner

4 жыл бұрын

B- bruh 💀💀 the fbi should put him on a watchlist

@elvingearmasterirma7241

4 жыл бұрын

This dude needs to be told that Hippity Hoppity WOMEN ARE NOT YOUR FUCKING PROPERTY

@justcallmeteacup4711

4 жыл бұрын

I- what else...is that supposed to be 😬

@winterwolf6910

4 жыл бұрын

Lesson from the Kink Side of Kik, if the male has a submissive female in restraints anywhere on his profile he is gross. Maybe not illegally gross But gross

This tag is so wild. I literally didn’t think straight people existed on tumblr.

@SilverDOMO192837

4 жыл бұрын

Jenna Simone imagine being straight

@robbieboydudeguy

4 жыл бұрын

Tragic

@partobakhtiary7954

4 жыл бұрын

@@SilverDOMO192837 wot

@ann0217

4 жыл бұрын

Ikr

@glennrhee9540

4 жыл бұрын

You forgot about the straight girls obsessed with serial killers

“Claims SHES bisexual bit has only dated men” okay but she’s still bisexual even if she’s only dated men, being Bi Doesnt mean you have to date both men and women it means you can

@zora1138

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I have a cousin who's bi and she's only dated guys.

@stars4809

3 жыл бұрын

What confused me about this one is like, would it be better if she _had_ dated women too?

@fuc8896

3 жыл бұрын

I agree but if she goes out of the way to avoid woman relationships then she aint bi, like if a girl flirts with her and she feel uncomfortable but then a boy doea the same sh is ok with it its not bieng bi

@trishalennex4630

3 жыл бұрын

Fuͮ̓cͦκͧ well yeah but from what the other things were saying I assume that’s not what they meant

@fuc8896

3 жыл бұрын

@@trishalennex4630 yeah

It's so nice to know that after all this time, the "Husband Jeremiah" blog was run by an undercover non-binary lesbian. Absolute LEGEND

@slithra227

3 жыл бұрын

WHAT?

@lclane5256

3 жыл бұрын

Omg. Really? ... that is brilliant!

@VeryCrunchyPretzels

3 жыл бұрын

@@staticbeans yes we do my dude.

@slithra227

3 жыл бұрын

@@staticbeans shut the fuck up

@elizebethochoa8979

3 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't it just be non-binary who's attracted to women?, doesn't lesbian imply a woman who likes women

“ladies, don’t settle for a man with no architectural taste.” i mean, solid advice.

@twinkiesmaster69

4 жыл бұрын

"Don't settle for anyone with no architectural taste, unless theyre aware if it then do it" -Me RN

@ResidentMilf

4 жыл бұрын

But if they're self-aware, that means you get to make all architectural decisions yourself!

@samsabugs

4 жыл бұрын

@Worm Driver that sounds like a nightmare to me

@katiequirk4899

4 жыл бұрын

I support that message

@entr3_nou5

4 жыл бұрын

*[Howard Roark has entered the chat]*

"I forgot about the lord for a second there." Is one hell of a vibe

@mlorpf

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@bluetsunami

3 жыл бұрын

This is now my go to expression when I forget to say grace before devouring a mcmuffin

@korihawks6148

3 жыл бұрын

I can’t tell if that was a pun made on purpose

@robhuanout5443

3 жыл бұрын

@@korihawks6148 I'm just here to say that I was the 1000th like. That is all.

@ChristopherSadlowski

3 жыл бұрын

::in soothing British documentary voice-over:: "Witness The Karen in her natural habitat. Let's see what happens when she uses her well known mating call, "CaN i SpEaK tO yOuR mAnAgEr?!"

Yeah I’m a Tradgirl T- tea R- rats A- and D- my Nintendo 3ds

@tall_child3214

3 жыл бұрын

i love this comment 😂

@jenschneider305

3 жыл бұрын

Yo what’s ur friend code i wanna play smash bros

@kirin1230

3 жыл бұрын

Say hi to your rats for me! 🐭 -a mouse owner (4 girls in a 120L bin cage)

@Nimbereth

3 жыл бұрын

Enjoy your cats.

@cremetangerine82

3 жыл бұрын

Nice, another rat owner! I have two male rats, one dark brown and cream, and another white with pink eyes.

This seems like.... a bunch of people who are craving a BDSM relationship but can't admit it? On both sides?

@afiamahmood1313

3 жыл бұрын

Christian bdsm but without the respect

@bigsealfan9579

3 жыл бұрын

100% closeted BDSM. Too sheltered to admit they have a fetish, but need to be in a power exchange relationship. Kinda sad and sick, relationships like this are usually toxic because consent isn't understood

@australiansurfergirl6762

3 жыл бұрын

@shotaro is my son I’ve seen you on NCT videos! Hello👋🏻

@mjremella1458

3 жыл бұрын

@ꜱʜᴏᴛᴀʀᴏ ɪꜱ ᴍʏ ꜱᴏɴ • I'm sorry did Taeyong say you could adopt Shotaro ?? Did Yuta say you could take his lil bro ??

@yoyococonuggets6922

3 жыл бұрын

@ꜱʜᴏᴛᴀʀᴏ ɪꜱ ᴍʏ ꜱᴏɴ • Pastel BDSM is my aesthetic.

My goal is to be the ultimate tradwife. My father arranges my dowry at 6 months old, I get married at 12, have 7 children, and die of the plague at 19

@saxx9088

4 жыл бұрын

ohnoimsam ahh you’re one of the lucky ones

@synobyte2123

4 жыл бұрын

That's how you commit to the bit!

@SketchUT

4 жыл бұрын

As a fellow Unus I too want to be the ultimate tradwife My dad just needs to find me an Annus to marry-

@lilyn0204

4 жыл бұрын

ah lucky you, i haven’t had kid yet so my 46 years old husband would punish me every night, but it’s okay cause if i run away i would be a dishonor to them

@synobyte2123

4 жыл бұрын

@@SketchUT Totally not a cult!

I’m not sorry but “atomic housewife” sounds like a weapon.

@evies.1018

4 жыл бұрын

Toastwell “Sir, we’re running out of ammo! What do we do?” “......unleash the ATOMIC HOUSEWIFE.”

@toastwell6488

4 жыл бұрын

Enfys Best, it’s like that Onion video about Hillary Clinton being used against a Middle Eastern country.

@Fool_of_a_Toque

4 жыл бұрын

Or a squad of 1950's spies who embody the housewife aesthetic while crushing skulls with their heels whenever necessary to retrieve highly classified missile launch codes.

@toastwell6488

4 жыл бұрын

Fool of a Toque. Omg, yes!

@ghostlynose2091

4 жыл бұрын

I would watch that movie. Especially if they went full 80’s cheese with it. Explosions everywhere!

My mom made the priest that officiated her wedding leave out the part that’s like “You will obey him”

@Eris_Norregard

3 жыл бұрын

That's pretty badass. :D

@birdylady3332

3 жыл бұрын

@@Eris_Norregard ikr

@moonlight.z6543

3 жыл бұрын

Your mom (my hero) be like: Actually, I don't

@mlorpf

3 жыл бұрын

There's really a part like that? Does it go both ways or is the only the wife supposed to obey the husband?

@birdylady3332

3 жыл бұрын

@@mlorpfit might be religioun and location but as far as I know my dad was not asked to obey

Reminder: the "my husband Jeremiah" ask (12:55) was made by a lesbian trying to get into a TradWife discord server for the sake of observing the utter chaos and bullshit that writhes in that server

@ingridwong3298

3 жыл бұрын

oh GOSH the tradwife discord 😭 i was in it for a while as a fourteen-year-old in her anti-feminist phase and it was absolutely wild

@slithra227

3 жыл бұрын

I need someone to tell me that story I'm BEGGING

@confuqed6481

3 жыл бұрын

@@slithra227 you can check aeons' tumblr cuz i think it was asked there (you can check archives and look for 4 months ago to find the ask as well as the story ig)

@Salty_Oatmeal25

3 жыл бұрын

@@confuqed6481 there are many Aeons which one

@Scarlet_Starlight

3 жыл бұрын

I knew it!!!! Something about it just screamed satire.

"I'm against kinks" yet continues to argue for a daddy dom lifestyle without the "little" aspect. "Do whatever he tells you". "Follow his rules". "Wear clothing he likes". "Grow your hair to the length he wants it to be". Actually dead from how ironic that was.

@clo_xp826

4 жыл бұрын

@Zᴀᴛᴛᴇ Cᴏʀɪᴇ That's cool :)

@catalinaargyriou8603

4 жыл бұрын

lel truuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

@mintywallflower

4 жыл бұрын

the master/slave kink

@dovahboi4409

4 жыл бұрын

@@mintywallflower I'm a fan of dom/ sub kinks, but this is gross. Bdsm isn't based on gender, sexually, etc. I girl can dom a guy, a guy can dom a guy, an enby can dom a girl, or any other combo, but this community is based on sexism

@mintywallflower

4 жыл бұрын

@@dovahboi4409 yah i agree wholly we were just pointing out the contradictions in their arguments. saying kinky lifestyle is bad when they're literally advocating for one (no matter how sexist it is in reality, its pretty kinky ngl)

My ex left me for a tradwife. He told me I wasn’t submissive enough for him. Looking back, dodged a bullet there.

@lexa2310

4 жыл бұрын

You definitely lucked out there 😅.

@bananasinfrench

4 жыл бұрын

Ian Miles projecting, are we?

@pissapocalypse

4 жыл бұрын

@Politically Incorrect Troll Account I like your name

@hhh-bu3qj

4 жыл бұрын

@Ian Miles are you saying that's a problem

@marialacambra9715

4 жыл бұрын

@Ian Miles That sounds great! Specially compared to being with a guy like him or like you

This is literally a kink. The man controlling everything you do and "knowing he has your best interests in mind" or some shit. That's a submissive kink. That's a daddy dom kink.

@amandatan9824

3 жыл бұрын

They get inspiration from Christian Grey.

@jennyshen5176

3 жыл бұрын

@@amandatan9824 Fifty Shades of grey is not real BDSM

@amandatan9824

3 жыл бұрын

@@jennyshen5176 I know, it’s more like abuse. I was just trying to make a joke. Sorry if it was in bad taste.

@sagearmstrong9770

3 жыл бұрын

Turns out they are just really kinky lol

@iknowthatyouregayfireflies9992

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a gay guy, and I'm kinda into that. But there should still be a good amount of respect and understanding.

"Have faith in your husband, as he always has your best interests at heart." Yeah that's all well and good if you're married to a genuinely good, honest, loving person. Clearly this woman didn't come from an abusive home, with an alcoholic, abusive, narcissistic father. If you have one of those for a husband and I can 100% guarantee that the only person's best interests he gives a single shit about is his own.

@theoriesicantexplain2433

3 жыл бұрын

maybe she did, and that's what was taught to her

@mlorpf

3 жыл бұрын

In my experience, most people aren't saints so sometimes they think of themselves before their partners or try to hurt you emotionally in the heat of an argument. Your partner doesn't have to be abusive in order to be someone you have to stand up against sometimes, or whose intentions sometimes needs to be questioned.

@placeholder6092

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah whoever wrote that maybe hasn't met that many men. (Edit: anyone of any gender can be an asshole but the "have faith in your husband" thing is specifically about men so that's what I'm responding to. Don't worry, I hate everyone equally.)

@thatitalianlameguy2235

3 жыл бұрын

@@placeholder6092 "you hate everyone equally" and no one can understand your sexual preference? Do I need to C-C-C-CHECK MY PRIVILEGE?

@quinn8537

3 жыл бұрын

@@placeholder6092 agreed, I also like that you put that edit in there, thank you, feminism shouldn't be an excuses to be sexist in the opposite direction

Wait, so cottagecore isn't about being a gay witch who performs druidic rites in the forest by night, and bakes delicious berry pies for her many lovers by day? Oh...

@Jesse-ej6jo

4 жыл бұрын

I mean, that does sound more fun tho..

@mango8616

4 жыл бұрын

...Can we have that as a television series? That sounds amazing lmao.

@byakuyatogami2905

4 жыл бұрын

Cottage core sounds like a lesbian witch aesthetic tbh. Or maybe there's one lesbian witch and the other is a fae queen and they go out for moonlit flights and stuff

@rikketakera

4 жыл бұрын

All I want in life honestly

@BothHands1

4 жыл бұрын

if it's not, it should be #ReclaimCottageCoreForTheWitches

u: tradwife who she tells u not to worry about: chadwife

@oddyssey2591

4 жыл бұрын

SKSHWJWBBSNSM

@twinkiesmaster69

4 жыл бұрын

I choked

@Andyatl2002

4 жыл бұрын

I support Chadwife

@apheliaa

4 жыл бұрын

Your pfp makes this even better oml

@insanityrat3063

4 жыл бұрын

Lets make this a tumblr community/tag now lol

Man, why want a house-wife when you can be a house-husband?? catch me making bread for my girlfriend in my binder and apron

@idk-uh1gs

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@Quackervoltz

3 жыл бұрын

That's what I want in a man.

@blazeravenscar

3 жыл бұрын

Thats so wholesome, I love this.

@michaelio6548

3 жыл бұрын

laughs in immortal tatsu

@annierminx

3 жыл бұрын

ok but that's adorable omg

"Back to Tumblr, where we're safe" was never a sentence I'd thought I would hear ever.

I feel like cottagecore is just gay people’s take on a woodsy traditional homesteading aesthetic without the homophobia, sexism and racism

@tudor1693

4 жыл бұрын

yup thats it

@clarett1890

4 жыл бұрын

I mean thats the ultimate fantasy of : "What if we lived in the woods, lived a cute lifestyle and do dumb sh*t together but we're both girls ? Ahah just kidding ... Unless ?

@aliveslice

4 жыл бұрын

@Sir The Third yep, that. I imagine living in the countryside would be pretty hard, moreso "in the woods". But people are fed up with social pressure

@lucifermorningstar8760

4 жыл бұрын

Basically yeah

@astronica776

4 жыл бұрын

Clarett like it’s barbie and the diamond castle

Her lipstick is lit, let's talk about how her lipstick is lit.

@marzipanmango

4 жыл бұрын

It is indeed lit.

@sketcheroreo

4 жыл бұрын

lit lipstick? did you mean litstick

@piggypige

4 жыл бұрын

Her lipstick is lit!

@misoweli

4 жыл бұрын

very lit, very lit indeed

@peterrefermat8999

4 жыл бұрын

anything she does is lit

"to walk gracefully glide smoothly" *starts floating*

@mme.veronica735

3 жыл бұрын

* Wears heelies under my floor length dress and glides along the floor like a wraith *

@micah7608

3 жыл бұрын

@@mme.veronica735 💀

@Quackervoltz

3 жыл бұрын

*Floats in the air ominously while tposing*

@arthurfine4284

3 жыл бұрын

*Tied to a stake and then burnt for being a witch because these people also believe that witchcraft is the devil.*

At 25, I was married. And just like this naive young lady, I thought I would follow the “biblical way.” Adore my husband, be available for him, listen to his wants and needs. Flash forward at age 50, my man of my dreams became a weak willed, spineless worm of a man with a serious drinking problem. I realized all the strength he supposedly possessed was actually what he sucked out of me. Thank god I was raised by a practical man who insisted that I finish college and be an independent woman. I had been a wife for so long, I had forgotten whose daughter I was. I found a good attorney and filed for divorce. Got my resume together and went back to work. Six years latter, I could not be happier. I have a job I love, my daughter is thriving in college and I’m planning to buy my own home. These women haven’t a clue. My advice? Don’t stop working. Keep your skills up so when your devoted man runs off with the secretary or nurse or becomes a alcoholic in 25-30 years you will be marketable and go out on your own. Stand on your own two feet, ladies:)

@sarahconnor13

Жыл бұрын

honestly i'm so proud of you xx

@sarcodonblue2876

Жыл бұрын

Good on you! I agree!

@sophieruby5893

Жыл бұрын

I keep telling young women in the comments section of tradwife videos that they need to have a marketable skill before marriage and children, and I get a lot of hate for this advice. It isn't enough for women to be tradwives, but they must be so dependent on husbands that divorcing them means poverty.

@jessicamessica2271

Жыл бұрын

I mean not all dudes are crappy like that and going to run off. But yeah, be careful who you give power to in your life

@sophieruby5893

Жыл бұрын

@Jessica Messica Being careful is not enough. Know how to be self-sufficient. Teenage girls need to learn about financial abuse. Many of the tradwife videos are discouraging young women from getting college degrees or marketable skills. This gives husbands too much power, making the wives vulnerable to financial abuse.

cottagecore is supposed to be wholesome and about wanting to own plants and bake and it’s all about what you WANT and not what you should do. it’s very soft and nice and the toxic tradwife shit doesn’t belong.

@mince1035

4 жыл бұрын

Damn i like plants

@mince1035

4 жыл бұрын

Also mushrooms are cool too damn

@chiaracardena9087

4 жыл бұрын

cottagecore belongs to the lesbians

@scarletstarlet773

4 жыл бұрын

Cottagecore is just the lesbian version, while tradwife is just the catholic version

@masterblaster2678

4 жыл бұрын

@@chiaracardena9087 SKYRIM BELONGS TO THE NORDS!!!

Every time I think of "traditional families" I think of the long lasting stereotype of tv relationships where the wife is a nagging shrew, and the husband is a moronic sexist. Neither of them seem happy, and the relationship seems to either center around the kids or pure spite. Bonus points if the husband is also a drunk, and this is treated as kooky rather than a serious character flaw.

@ashkennedy9789

4 жыл бұрын

also if the mom is lowkey an alcoholic from nonstop drinking wine to "cope" with her shitty husband and kids

@patrickbateman312

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you're projecting your own problems on healthy, stable relationships. Either that, or you're showing how easily and completely media brainwashed you.

@FormThisWay

4 жыл бұрын

@@patrickbateman312 Hey, dipshit, they were talking about a long-lasting media stereotype, not real life

@funnyvalentinedidnothingwrong

4 жыл бұрын

@@patrickbateman312 Strange, I didn't hire an illiterate armchair psychologist.

@929er13

4 жыл бұрын

@@patrickbateman312 or they're talking about the image media paints of traditional families.

When someone says womanhood I start having gay non Christian thoughts.

@sakura.8138

3 жыл бұрын

I- Same here

@abyssalnightmare551

3 жыл бұрын

Fanfiction has ruined me

@LesbiansMarie

3 жыл бұрын

_M’bruh_

@marianaoliveira1928

3 жыл бұрын

It's the fanfiction talking

@vapecat803

3 жыл бұрын

Fanfic is a blessing and a curse

I believe a lifestyle like this is completely valid as long as you don't have a controlling partner, you're happy and you don't bash other people for being non-traditional.

@brookebrothers9883

3 жыл бұрын

They almost always DO bash other people, is the issue. It's an ideology war.

@mariaantoniainfante6620

3 жыл бұрын

@@brookebrothers9883 yeah that's kinda sad.

@arthurfine4284

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think people who live that lifestyle call themselves traditional wives though. They tend to refer to themselves as homemakers or stay at homes or housewives. Not traditional wife.

Names like “Cottagecore” and “farmcore” throw me off because my brain wants to assume that they’re metal genres and all I can picture is someone like Phil Anselmo screaming about his life on a wide open range with a beautiful wife and children

@PulseOfTheMaggie

4 жыл бұрын

AYYYY PANTERA

@entr3_nou5

4 жыл бұрын

@PulseOfTheMaggots YA DAMN RIGHT IT IS!

@bluezenith_

4 жыл бұрын

BANJO INTENSIFIES

@xLiLlyx98

4 жыл бұрын

that would be rad. would listen to it 24/7

@taylornicole7845

4 жыл бұрын

As someone who grew up and currently lives on a farm, I can almost promise the people that use “farmcore” don’t live on a fucking farm.

tradwife just seems like the christian version of ddlg

@miachabaud

4 жыл бұрын

OH MY GOD YOU'RE RIGHT

@lordfarquuad207

4 жыл бұрын

Please don't make me overthink my kinks even more thank you

@lordfarquuad207

4 жыл бұрын

@Aloise Dawdle Daddy Dom Little Girl

@XclusiveChiq

4 жыл бұрын

Shannon Yongbanthom yes domestic discipline 🤤

@jamdelajam8833

4 жыл бұрын

why would you say something so brave yet so controversial?

I kinda wanna make an account, find these posts and say "I'm a tradwife do these things apply to me and my wife because I don't have a husband" just to see what people say. (fyi it's not true lmao)

@digilici951

3 жыл бұрын

bro do it

"sit up straight" Me, lying over my armchair like a dramatic unspeakable in the eighteenth century: oh.

As a straight Christian, straight Christians scare me update: i no longer identify as any of the above

@belsnickel9568

4 жыл бұрын

Same thing here. I love god but I’m not going to be a slave to a man. It’s a partnership not a slave situation

@katelynburton3551

4 жыл бұрын

As a non straight Christian, same

@avery6362

4 жыл бұрын

Nyarlathotep I’m a straight Christian and I’m scared of straight Christians too but because of this comment I now realize that I am in fact lesbian thank you for confirming my sexuality I had no idea 🙏😌✨

@avery6362

4 жыл бұрын

@Nyarlathotep lmao it was a joke chill

@caligraphy6497

4 жыл бұрын

As a gay Christian, straight Christians scare me too.

"You married the man you respect, now respect the man you married" is right up there with "America is great because America is good."

@ravenstone1781

4 жыл бұрын

Like. Duh. Of course you should respect the man you married. Just as he should respect you. A healthy marriage is based on loving, respecting, trusting, and communicating with each other. I hate the idea that women should just respect their husbands "just because." Respect is something you earn by being a decent person and respecting other people.

@crowdemon_archives

4 жыл бұрын

It's like marriage involves respect and communication that goes both ways...

@solarprogeny6736

4 жыл бұрын

Y'all please stop spilling government secrets in the replies

@ax3lsantana897

4 жыл бұрын

Worm Driver lmao same I’d dip

I’ve got long blonde hair and live in dresses, but this makes me want to shave my head and escape to the woods donning a shell suit

@marscoriad213

3 жыл бұрын

Get that crazy expensive Gucci one.

@charliejohanssen7421

2 жыл бұрын

yes

I really don't understand the "guys don't reclaim the trad girl and draw her making out with girls because she was made by a nazi" the whole point is to piss those nazis off by warping their image of a "perfect woman" by showing her doing things that anger them. That's why boulderhurl edits are okay, because they are made to mock him and his terrible ideologies and comics.

@Quackervoltz

3 жыл бұрын

I guess. It still kinda feeds into it with the "pretty traditional wife" being blonde but also pissing off Nazis is fun.

@chronicallytiredmedstudent

2 жыл бұрын

Your Stonetoss edits only serve to further his points lol

I don't like these people mixing with the cottagecore community. I just want to live in a cottage and bake bread for my wife.

@mince1035

4 жыл бұрын

And forage some bomb ass edible berries and mushrooms, bless

@rachellmcgrath1184

4 жыл бұрын

Lesbians baking for one another?! :0

@unu247

4 жыл бұрын

And make jam and churn butter to put on the bread.

@brynjames3779

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, and do witchcraft with my cat and then bake a pie

@RaunienTheFirst

4 жыл бұрын

As a husband, yes! And not just bread. Cakes, pies, full roasts every day. Honestly if I could just spend all day gardening and baking I'd be happy.

"Traditional" is drawing a random line through history. Like how far back would you like to go? The 1950s, cavemen, or unicellular organism?

@bl00dinf3ctions

4 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Zhu unicellular-organism-wife is clearly the best aesthetic

@RainbowRiver

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry to ruin this being a perfect 69 but its too good to not like

@robinchesterfield42

4 жыл бұрын

I'M not like you "progressive" eukaryotic cells with your _nuclei_ and your... (shudders) organelles! I'M a _traditional_ cell! _I_ dropped out of cell-school early so I could subdivide and make a family, like I was MEANT to!

@phoenixfritzinger9185

4 жыл бұрын

Their idea about what femininity and the nuclear family pretty much only existed for wealthy Victorians and for everyone else for a ten year fluke between the end of WWII and second wave feminism in the 60’s If you were a poor woman you still had to work at something be it turning wool into thread to make cloth or tending to the garden and chickens, being solely a housewife has been a rich person thing for much of history

@sadgreekmess9493

4 жыл бұрын

It’d probably be better if these people went back to when everything reproduced asexually, so they couldn’t spew this “trad wife” bs on their kids.

Can I just say as a man like "being the head of the house" and "controlling my wife" sounds super gross to me? Like no thank you

@ashtonzeeman7243

3 жыл бұрын

I would much rather my wife control me lmao

@Quackervoltz

3 жыл бұрын

@@ashtonzeeman7243 So you're a malewife?

@arthurfine4284

3 жыл бұрын

When someone says the words "being the head of the house" and "control," run away as far as you can because 100%, that is guarantee a toxic person. He's just in it for the status and a meatbag at his side.

@user-lv8ul3ed9i

3 жыл бұрын

No. It means he’s the protector & of you & your home. “The man is the head of the house but the woman is the neck & she can turn the head any way she wants” - my big fat Greek wedding.

@Marcos-hf4cz

3 жыл бұрын

@@ashtonzeeman7243 Well that shows that you are not confortable with men controling women but you do with women controling men, that shows that you are an hypocrate and a mangina

I'm mad that cottagecore has gotten messed up like this. It's supposed to be about cute animals, baking, and picking flowers, not sexism.

@alisonpurgatory85

3 жыл бұрын

From what I've seen most cottagecore groups are actively and explicitly anti-racist and anti-sexist, and emphasise the need to be aware of privilege and problematic elements to make sure they don't slip into the white supremacist aesthetics of tradwife which is much different to cottage core

Me: no fear Your name being on the tradwife baby name list: Me: one fear

@sharonwong773

4 жыл бұрын

f in the chat my bro

@zigzagoon-pl7yh

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry

@aliceedwards2861

4 жыл бұрын

For anyone wondering, my name is Alice wich is a pretty common name but seeing it on the list was still a bruh moment

@iciajay6891

4 жыл бұрын

My name is prob on there. Patrica. 0:

@lucinda3964

4 жыл бұрын

I'm a Lucy...so, we're both stuck on this.

i got to be honest some of these seem like they are written by men. there is a group of guys from 4chan who think writing posts like these will lure women into thinking the same because they think women are primarily lead into actions by peer pressure. LMFAO.

@BothHands1

4 жыл бұрын

100% my thoughts exactly.

@annalang5687

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, some sound very "hello, fellow females" to me. Or people trolling. Definitely a lot of trolling, too.

@ReplyGuy22345

4 жыл бұрын

Anna L TERFs also call women females

@aa-wc2oc

4 жыл бұрын

Michael Merritt no they don’t. lmao.

@r.j.grayson6899

4 жыл бұрын

@@aa-wc2oc They really do hun.

The Jeremiah one is a troll blog who got their friend to send them hate asks so they could eventually infiltrate a Tradwife discord server.

@Quackervoltz

3 жыл бұрын

What an icon

@TheCoolCryptid

2 жыл бұрын

Please send me the story this is the stuff i need in my life

ah yes, my dream life: have a marriage arranged while i am in the womb, i marry at 15, bare at least 10 children and die before my 40s

@frida5680

3 жыл бұрын

Ah those were the times

I wanna be a trad wife but like as a lesbian atheist, I just wanna stay home taking care of the dogs while making pies for my wife.

@woohooo7634

4 жыл бұрын

:)) yes

@xanthemothcat

4 жыл бұрын

Jennie Poisson adorable! I’m a lesbian too and while it’s not the life I want for myself I do agree that it’s sooo cute and was a little fantasy of mine for a bit I usually make characters to vent all my fantasies so they don’t bounce around my head and drive me insane

@kn1ght-788

4 жыл бұрын

This exactly. I can and will bake pies while wearing long skirts and cute sweaters.

@psychwardbycheifkeef

4 жыл бұрын

Jennie Poisson may I interest you in lesbian cottagecore?

@SourBlueberries68

4 жыл бұрын

Me and my girlfriend’s dream

I'd totally be chill staying home and baking cakes for my wealthy husband and spending my days reading and tending to my little garden, but we would have to be equal. There's no "submissive wife" in this relationship. We both respect each other and we're both equal. I'll only bake you cakes if you're a good boy. If not, I'll leave you for the pretty widow in my gardening club because I'm bisexual and I do what I want.

@ashton2191

4 жыл бұрын

Goals

@devoncanfly5015

4 жыл бұрын

Literally same. The whole thing

@mollywhiteman8956

4 жыл бұрын

Ella Hendrickson same but in lesbian

@adelinewurzer4533

4 жыл бұрын

yes!

@pidgethepigeon2706

4 жыл бұрын

asdhadsasjh i'd be the widow after murdering my husband but making it look like a *dramatically drapes self over chaise longue* tragic accident

That one about giving women commands instead of requests because women "don't need to think" literally had me gagging. This is the kind of relationship dynamic that gets tagged with dead dove, yandere, and manipulation on AO3 and seeing that there are people out there who actually think like that is just... I who what when where why how p l e a s e n o

@hyouka4567

2 жыл бұрын

dead dove shit is meant to stay as a fic trope DON’T BRING THAT SHIT TO REALITY AAAAAAAAA

Talon???? Why would you name your *human* child talon??????

@Luubelaar

3 жыл бұрын

A friend of mine is a midwife. You have NO idea the bizarre shit people name their kids. Her "favourite" one was the couple who named their newborn baby Assassin. I work in travel. All I could think was "Good luck getting a passport, kiddo."

@casualcrisis6349

3 жыл бұрын

used to know a guy in elementary school named talon

@lynndoesntexist

3 жыл бұрын

I know people named after fruits. Ex: Peaches.

@Eris_Norregard

3 жыл бұрын

@@lynndoesntexist That's so fucked up. Can't parents just vent their creativeness elsewhere and not on a sentient living being. -_-

@f1zz-k1d89

3 жыл бұрын

Eris Nattvingen i mean there’s names i like that are somewhat different (ivy, clementine, charlie for a girl) but cmon. talon?????

Remember that episode of SpongeBob SquarePants where SpongeBob and Patrick had to take care of a baby clam? And Patrick was an inattentive and lazy husband who let SpongeBob do all the housework and still take care of the baby by himself? Yeah that's the lifestyle these tradwives are promoting. Not vintage cottagecore. They're promoting being submissive to what sounds like an abusive husband.

@natvasch6399

4 жыл бұрын

Love that you felt like the best way to explain this is with an example from Spongebob. Like, there are multiple examples of abusive relationships on TV, but you chose to go with that one. Power move.

@spectre9340

4 жыл бұрын

@@natvasch6399 what can I say? SpongeBob SquarePants had a lot of social commentary 😂

@spectre9340

4 жыл бұрын

@Nyarlathotep as soon as someone says something that alludes to them being against feminists (such as "whatever you say, feminist"), that implies that they're not one. Which means you're a sexist 🐖 I'm not ashamed of being a feminist cos I believe that men and women from different backgrounds should have equal rights. Are you proud of being a misogynist/sexist? 🐖 🐖 🐖 Oink oink

@sand8375

4 жыл бұрын

@Politically Incorrect Guide To Postmodernism wow you have 450 comments on this channel alone, i genuinely cannot imagine how pathetic your life is, man. Do you leave the house? You must smell pretty bad

@sand8375

4 жыл бұрын

@Politically Incorrect Guide To Gynocentrism It's okay bro, you can say you have no life and like to feel angry at inconsequential things. Please waste your life away even more, make sure to reach 500 comments. That's probably the only goal in life you can achieve anyway.

I hate how cottagecore has been jumbled up in all this. Like, let me bake bread with my girlfriend

@arthropodashes6078

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah like cottage core is 99% wlw who want to bake bread and plant flowers with her girlfriend

@KMDarve

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@horrificreader4084

4 жыл бұрын

I like bread

@Celeste_bowe

4 жыл бұрын

@@horrificreader4084 ooh, flirting in the comments. Creative I'll give you that

@Celeste_bowe

4 жыл бұрын

@@horrificreader4084 I'm not opposed though

They should try to become a wife in an conservative Asian household, and experience what a traditional wife really is.

@shaikha206

3 жыл бұрын

Not fun

Hello :) I’m the weirdo from this video who made the list of baby names. Just found this video after almost a year. In fairness - I’m a bleeding heart liberal, feminist, bisexual woman, sex worker who just happens to be married to a man...when I found the “tradwife” community I thought the aesthetic was adorable and matched me fairly well. After a year of that tumblr I saw how the community was problematic and am mostly on the cottage core side of the internet. Also; I thought my baby names were adorable. 😭 Now I’m embarrassed that 1.4million people have watched this and probably made fun of me. If it makes anyone feel better, my sons are named Baker and Freddy. No names from this list were actually used. So.

@theinternetisqueer

3 жыл бұрын

that's a helluva glow up

Tradwifes: "I'm against kinks" Also Tradwifes: "I'd like my *daddy* to control everything I do" *sounds pretty kinky to me*

@em2478

4 жыл бұрын

tradwives again: *calls God Father*

@taylorswiftsbloodytampon

4 жыл бұрын

😂

@abbywolffe4114

4 жыл бұрын

Top me Heavenly Daddy I am so sorry

@katiemcdonagh4048

4 жыл бұрын

Abby Wolffe I need to bleach my eyes and when I’m forced into church that’s all I’m gonna think about

@8BitDarkNESsR3v14

4 жыл бұрын

I think they're just confusing their kinks with a worldview

You asked for a wife, not a servant sir

@lolkayleen2757

4 жыл бұрын

YES EXACTLY

@scaryboocat

4 жыл бұрын

Your profile pic fits. And agreed.

@froggdoggs8551

4 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY YES

@thatboikas2137

4 жыл бұрын

this men: but theyre the same thing

@crackle295

4 жыл бұрын

Say it louder for the peeps at the back

"Follow his rules" "Don't be polite to women" "Do Whatever He Tells You" It sounds like Fifty Shades of Grey bad parody 😂

@negligible_reality

11 ай бұрын

flashbacks to 50 Shades and 365 lol

The whole walking and sitting smoothly thing. My girlfriend is an absolute klutz and can barely walk and laugh at the same time without tripping, and I think it's adorable as frick

I used to think I wanted to be a Tradwife until a couple of years ago when I began to really pay attention to my parent’s relationship. My mom is a tradwife, so for most of her life she has stayed at home and raised kids(she was 16 when she got married and now has 5 kids). My dad is very controlling as in he won’t let my mom wear dresses out, and he gets low key upset when my mom goes out with her sister(God forbid she ever goes out with her sister in a dress smh 🤦‍♀️ ) I’m pretty sure my dad has cheated on my mom before and my dad is starting to develop a drinking problem. Even with all this, my mother refuses to have an actual adult conversation with my dad because “that’s just the way they were raised”. My dad’s controlling behavior even spread to me and my sisters. My sister cut her hair short and dyed it red, and he continues to belittle her for it. When I mentioned lightening up my hair color, my dad looked at me all mad and told me I was crazy. I deadass looked him in the eye and told him that as a grown ass woman, I could do whatever the fuck I want with my hair. He also constantly talks shit about me doing my makeup and getting my nails done??? Cuz like it goes against his standards of ‘natural beauty’ or some shit. Don’t even get me started on the shit when I got a job. When I got my first job(at 18 in a shitty restaurant) I worked long ass days for very little pay. As the place had just opened, I doubled as both a cashier and waitress, and I was usually tired as shit by the end of the day. When I came home I was still expected to help with dinner, while my dad and older brother just sat back and watched tv. I asked my dad why my brother didn’t have to help and he got so mad he deadass told me it was because I was a woman and ‘that’s what women do’. I was livid so I stopped talking to him, it was even worse cuz my mom didn’t say anything. Just remembering what my dad has done to me alone, I could never imagine being in a relationship where I’m being constantly being disrespected and controlled in such a manner for 20+ years. I would much rather be alone and independent making my own money than look like a clown for a sexist man ✌️

@Frostfern94

4 жыл бұрын

Are you still living with him? Because that's lowkey abusive and may even be narcissistic. He's probably just looking for an excuse. But hey, I don't know that person.

@ArnisKaye

4 жыл бұрын

Your story is such a good reminder that even if tradwives, submissive wives are making a choice (and if it's through religion like I learned it then it's not a choice at all), their children suffer, too. Growing up, my siblings and I were expected to completely submit to our parents and the consequences of not doing so were horrible. Our house was about control not love. I vowed for a long time to never marry or have children because I was afraid that that was the way it had to be. I'd rather die than willingly go through that. I've since come to see marriage very differently. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. Stay you.

@weniswarrior666

4 жыл бұрын

Your father sounds like a very non empathetic individual. I tend to think his traditional values wouldn't have been as much of a problem if he didn't try to force them on you and your siblings, and actually had sympathy for your situation in the case of you being worn out from work. I do hope you don't let him discourage you in any way from living the life that you want to live, and beyond that I would, perhaps naively hope that maybe one day he'll see the error of his ways and make the proper amends.

@katie7016

4 жыл бұрын

Joffrey Bieber a man shouldn’t “keep her in line”

@Frostfern94

4 жыл бұрын

@@ItsMeBarnaby A female doesn't need to be 'kept inline' and if you think that, maybe try flipping the roles and see how you feel then. Please never get a partner.

Marriage is a team neither parties should have more power than the other in every aspect of it

@patrickbateman312

4 жыл бұрын

Clearly the nature of traditional marriage escapes you.

@cractor6307

4 жыл бұрын

@@patrickbateman312 do you realize that your profile picture is literally the protagonist of "American psycho"

@fourtwenty1813

4 жыл бұрын

Idk the woman being in power is pretty hot

@user-xz2rv4wq7g

4 жыл бұрын

@@fourtwenty1813 tfw no mommy gf :(

@seikoshinobaka9139

4 жыл бұрын

@@patrickbateman312 My favorite traditional marriage is an adult man and his 11 year old bride. That's real traditional, it happened all the time in history, nothing more traditional than that. Don't forget the multiple societies with marriage that involved equality or matriarchy, or the societies where men and women had to work. Why do you care about one type of traditional?

the whole "being polite is bad and choices will only complicate her life" basically translates to: "I need a good, moral reason to be a piece of shit human because self-improvement is harmful to my ego"

Cottagecore is the old world family that lives in their cottage in the woods. Trad culture is the village that murders them in the witch trials. They are not the same

Christian here: Some of the crap in this tag is embarrassing and vomit inducing as well. The implications in some of these posts that men (people in general) can never make a mistake and shouldn't ever be questioned are despicable. Not to mention the baked in racism, sexism, condescension and overall judgmental tone. Marrying and respecting someone shouldn't entail giving up your freedom of expression (or your safety) and letting them step all over you. Y I K E S

@kennedyarmstrong2099

4 жыл бұрын

YES. As a Christian I hate that people include us in those awful ideas. Like not having any other purpose besides being a wife and mother. Not to mention all the racism which is the opposite of what God wants. It makes me want to vomit! It's so embarrassing when I say I'm Christian and people compare me to these stereotypes of being a tradwife or something.

@shyguy2656

4 жыл бұрын

Lesbian Atheist here... THANK YOU! It's such a breath of fresh air to see religious people like you! Normally I find them in comment sections on youtube, but as a teenager living in the suburbs of Illinois... I don't meet many people who aren't religious. And it's difficult to find more progressive (in other words, people with common sense) religious people like you. You're the type of people who will eventually help others realize their bigotry. It's not all of you, but it's certainly a loud minority, and I hope that the majority will soon, finally, tell them to shut up. Thank you! :)

@Not_quite_Human

4 жыл бұрын

Alli Carpenter det0x literally everything same (except I’m bi, lmao) seeing people who actually care and follow the good sensible parts of the Bible, like the love thy neighbor stuff is so refreshing. It’s hard to find good people in any walks of life and big groups always have some problematic people, and it’s hard to speak as the lovely comment poster did. For all of my religious friends, I wish you the best on your journey and stay brave for the good words that you follow!

@rinyaskyline

4 жыл бұрын

What's worse is when your very Catholic dad really pushes some of these on his totally-not-having it wife and has-no-choice daughter(hey look it's me!) He's a fairly nice person, but this liberal ain't having it.

@veganism0

4 жыл бұрын

Kagumiin i thought your name was “christian” and you were announcing it like it somehow played relevancy to the topic and then went “ o h “

I feel so bad for that one woman who was "sad to say" that she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend, whom she loved?? I hate purity culture so much. I hate people who make anyone, but especially women, feel ashamed of their sexuality.

@Alex_Barbosa

4 жыл бұрын

Yea it can be pretty toxic. But I am glad her brother intervened. It sounded liker her boyfriend was being too pushy and coercive.

@jupiterliam7961

4 жыл бұрын

@@Alex_Barbosa I guess that's one way to think about it? but the way she put it made it seem like she did actually want to have sex with him, not that he was being pushy and coercive? and that she was just ashamed of that desire.

@r.j.grayson6899

4 жыл бұрын

@@jupiterliam7961 it's probably both. I know women who literally got married and divorced out of HS, had some experiment times and then got remarried. They have told me they sometimes miss their old lovers. That makes them feel guilty and bad, even though their husbands may have done the same thing. Purity culture is fucked up. But it's doubly fucked up for non-straight bodies and those of us who were unwilling participants. Like I met my husband when I was 24- and we did not sleep together until I was 25. He's the only man I've ever been with- because any guys I tried go sleep with sucked at sex so they didn't get very far- I don't believe in "foreplay" it's all sex imo and if they are bad at that they're not going to be good with their dicks. But they all hold me up like I did something right. Nah ladies. Nah. I had terrible taste in men before I met him and I'm one of those useless bi/pan folk who sucks at getting with other women. These ladies need help deprogramming.

@Alex_Barbosa

4 жыл бұрын

@@jupiterliam7961 Yea, what you said is pretty likely. But It still makes me uncomfortable when I hear about somebody trying to talk someone into sleeping with them after that person already said no, regardless the circumstance.

@carolsimpson4422

4 жыл бұрын

It's such a contradiction anyway - if you didnt have sexual desires, "purity" would be easy and nothing to be proud of. So being proud of abstaining from sex means you're proud you can overcome your strong desires- but shes sad she has desires?

I'd pick being alone 10/10 times over being in a "male-led marriage"

@negligible_reality

11 ай бұрын

catch me finding myself a male led marriage 🏳‍🌈

Normal Straight people must be so embarrassed about this

@frida5680

3 жыл бұрын

Yup we don’t claim them

@thegreyeyedcat9142

3 жыл бұрын

Yes we are

@estheraruka6374

3 жыл бұрын

We are

@josiegraffjewelrydesign6907

3 жыл бұрын

We are

@kaitlyn3168

3 жыл бұрын

Yes we are. Its weird

The "married 0.5 years " one almost gave me a stroke.

@Robin-of2jt

4 жыл бұрын

the post actually said 0.05 years

@yyesterdayy

4 жыл бұрын

@@Robin-of2jt Doing the math... thats 18 days...........

@axelcosgirl

4 жыл бұрын

5:46

@BushidoMauve

4 жыл бұрын

OH THAT EVEN WORSE.

"I follow a non-traditional religion." "...Does that mean you're in a cult?"

@brettgarandza683

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Jesus is the true answer to life.

@sylvies5078

4 жыл бұрын

Yyyyyessir

@AverageEggmonEnthusiast

4 жыл бұрын

Join my cult. We believe 2+2=5. That’s it. We are a simple people.

@neonghost2376

4 жыл бұрын

Tala B im interested in your cult.

@desasterartist7332

4 жыл бұрын

@@AverageEggmonEnthusiast do you respect worms on a string tho? That's one of those things that make or break a cult

As a woman who struggles with indecision for neurodivergence reasons, I would never want to be in a relationship where my significant other automatically made all my decisions for me. Do decisions overwhelm me to the point of mentally shutting down sometimes? Absolutely. But am I still a human being who deserves to have my free will respected and my opinions heard? 100%. I don't want it assumed that I'm incompetent, I want the person that I'm with to communicate with me and discuss things together, even if the outcome is sometimes "I don't know babe, you can pick this one," because sometimes it won't be, and I want to know that I will be listened to when I need it as well. (I'm also a Christian and hearing the submission bullcrap from conservative-leaning friends has almost always been really triggering and annoying. As a neurodivergent person it's just that much more important to be seen as someone who's capable and worthy of being heard and it's Not Nice to be told that because I'm a woman, that internalized ableism is accurate. Ew.)

I feel like their husbands are the type of men who gag at unused tampons and arm hair

going through the tradwife tag literally gives me a headache

@Tessa_Gr

4 жыл бұрын

@Zephyr Probably because some of them literally embrace the ideals for women that Nazis had. I could honestly barely stand some of the posts that reminded me of what we learned during history lesson about the third Reich (I'm from Germany so we learned alot about stuff like that). Honestly, everyone can be glad, that Germany lost (I definitely am!) so acting like there was anything good about that dictatorship is somewhere between insulting and extremely absurd.

@the.beeholder

4 жыл бұрын

@Zephyr it's just not good vibes my dude ! a lot of it is written in a flowery way, but it's very much got dark and hateful undertones

@patrickbateman312

4 жыл бұрын

Why? Does it remind you that you've soiled yourself and the life of degeneracy you lead is ultimately empty and devoid of true purpose or satisfaction?

@Lo-me2hd

4 жыл бұрын

Patrick Bateman calm down mate

@the.beeholder

4 жыл бұрын

@Zephyr a lot of people within that community have really oppressive values and use that *cute* and *aesthetic* sort of culture to indoctrinate people into sharing their hateful values

This stuff low-key reminds me of the BDSM community, with all the "Do as he says, without question" but in BDSM there's such an emphasis that you should do what he says because you want to, not "Do what he says because your a woman and therefore below him"

@NyJoanzy

4 жыл бұрын

Reactionaries really do seem to exist just to take the fun out of everything.

@GraySlate

4 жыл бұрын

I would say in BDSM there's also more of an air of consent and with trad wife stuff it's just...going backwards in societal progress because...? I'm honestly not sure. At least in BDSM relationships, I can bank on there being aftercare and hard limits and it being mostly roleplay...What do tradwives have and why do they want this is never gonna get answered for me

@willbe3043

4 жыл бұрын

it's like BDSM but without all the good stuff

@rachelmichele7697

4 жыл бұрын

Chocolate Doughnut WAIT I LITERALKY JUST LEFT A COMMENT THAT SAID THIS GIVES ME LOWKEY SEXUAL VIBES

@daveha4445

4 жыл бұрын

being below one is kind of a kink too, so

I’m a more traditional minded woman who is college educated, but feels happiest as a homemaker. My husband is a leader, but he is kind to me and always communicates with me. He wouldn’t do anything I’m uncomfortable with. I’m a Christian. I do not support “trad people” who use Christianity as a way to spread hate, racism, nationalist, don’t support consent, etc. I’m not perfect, but I try to be open to everyone and I can only hope they do the same.

@negligible_reality

11 ай бұрын

we need more people like you in this world! one of the best things about modern values and feminism is that they allow for everyone to choose how they want to live. there is nothing wrong with living a more traditional lifestyle and falling into traditional gender roles, i fully support anyone who chooses that route and lifestyle as long as everyone involved is happy and consenting! i'm agnostic myself, but i was raised christian and i def do NOT support anyone who uses their religion as a tool to spread hate and negativity; especially since Jesus' teachings were all about acceptance and loving and respecting everyone. good on you for being genuinely wholesome, hope you're doing well!!! ❤

I’m so glad lesbians reclaimed the cottagecore aesthetic

I love how instead of a specific region, they just say "European". Like, that is where they're from. The entire continent of Europe. Not Ireland, not Italy, not even Britain. Just... all of Europe.

@anceptus

4 жыл бұрын

It's like asking someone where they live and they just hit you with "planet Earth"

@ramyeonhan8276

4 жыл бұрын

Right? The European continent is so diverse with different cultures and history from place to place, so how do they group all the countries together? Weird.

@aliveslice

4 жыл бұрын

What they meant to say is "she has to be white"

@NIHIL_EGO

4 жыл бұрын

As an European, it generally sadden me when people just put us all together like that.

@jordanthejq12

4 жыл бұрын

@@aliveslice This. It's naked White supremacy.

"it's actually really feminist of me to let my husband make all my decisions, it's my choice to never make my own choices" r u sure about that sweatie the subtitles at one point mistranslate "vintage style" as "vengeance style" and I could get behind that if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest

@d.d.d.a.a.a.n.n.n

4 жыл бұрын

I'd be super into vintage vengeance style

@Cosplaybuddygiraffes

4 жыл бұрын

To be FAIR, it is technically a choice to personally be a submissive personality; it’s a problem when women like them give this advice to others who definitely will not be in a position where they can safely trust their partner. It should be “I personally want to be a housewife bc that’s just what I think fits me best,” VS “I want to be a housewife so that means every woman SHOULD BE TOO”

@mamayareborn

4 жыл бұрын

@@Cosplaybuddygiraffes Technicalities. It's about as much of a choice as the people in SAW "technically" have a "choice" to get out alive.

@mnaftw

4 жыл бұрын

I came here just to post that! "if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest" like they say they hate kink shit but this is def some kink shit. You cannot tell me that "letting my husband make my decisions" in this insanely predefined way isn't motivated by being extremely horny

@INSIDEALLOFYOU

4 жыл бұрын

I've grown up in a culture of "traditional" marriages and one part that the tradwives seem to miss is that you're supposed to make decisions WITH your spouse. All of the massive investments, from the neighborhood we lived in to the car we drove, were made by both of my parents. One of the real problems about this sort of culture is that it teaches women that they're worthless if they're not married (making it even harder to leave abusive marriages), and teaches men that their wives are subhuman and can be treated as such.

Important update: the "my husband Jeremiah" person was legitimately a troll

@negligible_reality

11 ай бұрын

epic

@averynerdybookworm972

2 ай бұрын

do you have the full story? Im so curious and no ones sharing the entire thing

A few of these sound like they could easily work as horror movie taglines, like imagine these being said in a Don LaFontaine voice: "FOLLOW HIS RULES" "Do WHATEVER He Tells You" "You Married the Man You Respect Now RESPECT THE MAN YOU MARRIED"

Honestly the whole trad wife thing really annoys me, it is something our generation has made up with idealism and rose tinted perspectives of history. There is a reason women in the 50s fought for rights and equal career opportunities. Maybe i am just opposed to this as i have seen the abuse that can come out of relinquishing your financial independence to your husband, but the whole thing stinks of naivety and idealism. Obviously abuse doesnt happen to everyone in these types of relationships but it is a very slippery slope to shackle yourself to someone in this way. You can have traditional family values without worshipping and being a slave to your husband.

@gabbo7101

4 жыл бұрын

alot of people like to look at terrible things in a good light, then promote it as something to be brought back. Take communism for example. Its been proven countless times that, due to the human condition, successful communism is downright impossible. Yet, for one reason or another, people seem to want to bring communism back. I mean, I guess its a cool aesthetic, but they kind of remove everything else that made communism so reviled to begin with.

@MsOdale7

4 жыл бұрын

@@gabbo7101 Socialism worked amazing in my country though, so I hope you're not painting it all with one broad brush.

@annalang5687

4 жыл бұрын

The boomers' entire humor is based on "wife bad, kids annoying, mil evil". But sure, traditional values need to be brought back.

@jordanthejq12

4 жыл бұрын

"Traditional family values" are inherently misogynistic, queerphobic, and White supremacist. They can kindly fuck off.

@skybunny2226

4 жыл бұрын

I 100% agree, as someone who genuinely wants to eventually settle down with kids and become a stay at home mom, I think it’s important to be aware that not only are my dreams not universal but, they were originally used to oppress women, and many women grew up still being oppressed by this mindset and it’s horrible. I think that every single person has the right to choose what they want to do in life free from influence, whether that be a neurosurgeon or a homemaker (not to say you can’t have a home without kids or marriage I am just using the term to be gender inclusive). I want to become a stay at home mom not because I was raised to want it but because I genuinely love kids and cooking and I think that being a stay at home mom is what is best for my life and is going to make me the happiest. However I think it is utterly ridiculous to become completely financially dependent on another person (why I also want to freelance from home) and absolutely no one whatever their role in your life has the right to force you to do anything. I think that it’s okay to want to be a stay at home parent as long as you are still progressive about your lifestyle and do not force those dreams on those who do not share it

"A woman who puts her family above everything" aw "And protects her nation from immigrants" uh

@JellySLCB

4 жыл бұрын

lietz13 it’s the vine about the girl who wants to be the president

@greenflavored

4 жыл бұрын

lietz13 ikr like that escalated quickly 0_o

@spooky6703

4 жыл бұрын

"A good mother protects her children" Yeah! "FROM BLACK PEOPLE" OH NO

@salemcrow5078

4 жыл бұрын

@@spooky6703 Black moms: *sweating*

@salemcrow5078

4 жыл бұрын

This gives me the hilarious mental image of some Mexican guy who immigrated like 12 years ago with his family and this white trade wife holding pans to shield her children when the Mexican guy is literally only saying hello

It’s all fun and games for the husband until he dies and his wife is having “tea” with the neighbors wife

Those “baby names” are like NATO phonetic alphabet for people who don’t know the NATO phonetic alphabet

i didn’t realize that so many people in the cottagecore community were tradwifes considering everyone i’ve met who are into cottagecore are lesbians (including myself)

@tapewormm3580

4 жыл бұрын

same! I genuinely thought the entire cottagecore community was just WLW talking about how much they want to live in the woods and bake bread with their wives?? like?

@johannageisel5390

4 жыл бұрын

"There is not only one tradwife in this family, but TWO!!!"

@treehugger9070

4 жыл бұрын

Oh to be married to a woman in a cottage with our chickens and garden 🥰

@meldra5216

4 жыл бұрын

yeah same

@liz257

4 жыл бұрын

Cottagecore lesbians unite! 👌😅

Thanks for not abusing “Henry” in the baby names, means a lot

@walkingonneedles

4 жыл бұрын

fuckin Henry lol

@rx500android

4 жыл бұрын

Henry the 8th would like to have a conversation

@evak5673

4 жыл бұрын

@@rx500android Henry the 8th can stay exactly where he is, he is not invited.

@name-nl3jk

4 жыл бұрын

My name's Henry too.

@ayeyobossman6151

4 жыл бұрын

it's a normal name at least

"Why is it so complicated to walk?!" I asked myself the same thing after I slipped on air and crushed my foot for over three weeks.

This is why kink education is so important. Teach people that it's normal for some humans to feel safe and relaxed when a person they trust orders them around, and that you can have exactly the dynamic you want in a controlled environment, with reasonable boundaries in place to prevent abuse.

Nothing says traditional like shaming people who date outside their race and commending segregation

@cortomaltese7105

4 жыл бұрын

I mean yea, that's traditional, not sure if you're being ironic or what

@johannageisel5390

4 жыл бұрын

@@cortomaltese7105 Which tradition, though? Humankind has a long history and the Roman Empire, which, I remind you, was the entity that brought Christianity to Europe, was a state of many peoples and "races". You bet they intermarried and had children with each other! (Quotations marks around "races", because biologically speaking there are no human races)

@missaniebananie6473

4 жыл бұрын

@@cortomaltese7105 I was being satirical, like yes those things used to happen but they are bad and stupid and shouldn't exist now.

@mompickmeupimscared2080

4 жыл бұрын

@brandon roberts [the habsburgs liked that]

@popelli

4 жыл бұрын

liz t I’m very curious about your statement, unfortunately I don’t quite understand what you mean, care to elaborate?

cottagecore/farmcore is literally supposed to be a wholesome bean aesthetic with plants and baby animals and cute shit. not borderline abusive relationship and letting a man rule over *every aspect of your life.* this tradwife trend is honestly manipulating women into this.

@mmxmeASMR

3 жыл бұрын

Ya not to mention that most of these communities are wlw. They have been overrun by this crap tho 🤷🏻‍♀️

@monicaprzestrzelski4677

Жыл бұрын

Trad is not borderline abusive. it IS abusive. r@p3 is rampant, so is other forms of domestic violence

“Uses so much fake tanner she looks Mexican” Me (Mexican): well there goes my chance of being a tRaDiTiOnAl WiFe😂

Apparently the whole "mY HUsbAnd JERmiAH" blog was fake, and the creator's a NB lesbian who wanted to infiltrate the tradfem community, which I found hilarious. Edit: at 13:00

AS PART OF THE COTTAGECORE AESTHETIC COMMUNITY ITS NOT AT ALL LIKE THE TRADFEM PPL,,,, I PERSONALLY JUST WANT TO HARVEST STRAWBERRIES WITH MY GF, HAVE PICNICS AND WEAR CUTE DRESSES

@ciennasuperstar1247

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@dullahanic

4 жыл бұрын

god youre valid

@antigoneharding2073

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed, leave us to our vegetable gardens to make daisy chain crowns for our cattle friends.

@Stereo6400

4 жыл бұрын

That sounds much wholesome

@buhbo3250

4 жыл бұрын

Your profile pic fits your comment so well

“I am a subservient wife” Kinky...

@moores3263

4 жыл бұрын

mmMMMmmm ig

I’ve actually inadvertently found myself in a sort of tradwife scenario. I work from home and my parter travels for work but we both raise our two babies together. These tradwife people scare me because the only difference between me and them is that I’m just going with the flow of life. My partner and I make all the decisions together. We’re both tops and both bottom, it’s nice to be bi and have your partner also be bi

It can't be a coincidence that so many of these tradwife posts involve weirdly specific Nazi tropes. "Knowledgeable about her European roots" "Loves her family, race, and country in that order" "Raises her children with the knowledge that strong families build strong nations."