How do you live a life of meaning and purpose?

@jonnysusi9783

2 жыл бұрын

By working my ass of to become a scientist, so that I can serve humanity :)

@lilamnbdh967

2 жыл бұрын

Goodmorning Tom , thank you so much for this wonderful conversation 🙏❤️!!

@SamuelAlder

2 жыл бұрын

By facing my dragons; those things which drag-on when i don't face them: confronting the monster in the room, be that room, that space internal and or external. Also, a request dear Tom: can you please hire or allocate someone from your team to make 5, 10 or 15 minute summaries of these epic interviews? Reason: I, and thus surely many others, wish we could watch all of these interviews but working hard & living busy lives we just don't physically have time to do so without skipping sleep which isn't healthy or possible in the long term. Immense, intense and tremendous gratitude for you, yours, and what you all do. God protect and bless you all!

@anab0lic

2 жыл бұрын

by developing the skills that enable me to create things of profound value for the betterment of those around me.

@verigovo

2 жыл бұрын

It is strange how after so many interviews Tom is still trying to separate humans from nature (nature vs nurture). There is no separation humans are part of nature and the environment (morality does not exist, it is relative and dependent on social, cultural, religious, physical environment). This guest did not answer a single question, just dancing around...

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️

@mariesonoma

2 жыл бұрын

Right back at you! You're a Champion!!!💪🏅♥️👑🧭Destined for Greatness!!! Love ya❣🌹

@thechancellor-

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariesonoma Thank you 😊.

@thechancellor-

2 жыл бұрын

@Guts You welcome 🙏🏾.

@sovereign.spirit

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ~ much love to you fellow soul traveler 💜

I’ve found my purpose and the meaning of my life being honest with my self. This hasn’t been an easy path but I’ve found immensely helpful reading about and listening to fantastic people like you. Learning something new every day, working out (as your wife) at least one hour per day, caring my diet….. trying to do the best of my self any single day not forgetting that some days it works some days it doesn’t but there is always something for being grateful for. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR INSIGHTS ☺️

@jiahongwang270

2 жыл бұрын

very good , i agree with that , thank you, merry christmas.🎄

"The world is a hungry and lonely place. It is full of fantasy and folly. Its suffering is profound. Its confusion is deep. Its violence is sickening. Its possibilities are great. Who can see these things but those who realize that they have come from beyond the world to give something? They realize this because it is something they can feel. It is not an emotion; it is something they feel. They feel that they have come here for a reason. It is something that they cannot yet define, but they cannot make it go away either. Something greater is calling them. This is purpose. Eventually, if they respond to this, they will begin their preparation. This is purpose. If they stay with their preparation and advance within it, without trying to alter it or change it, they will begin to gain greater insight and understanding. This is purpose. If they continue and do not fall prey to the misperception that they are advanced, then Knowledge will slowly germinate within them, and their perception and understanding of things will change. Their awareness of the mystery of life will grow more and more profound, and their ability in life-in their relationships, in their career, in all their activities-will deepen. This is purpose. At some point, they will give themselves to something that involves other people in service to the world in one capacity or another according to their nature and their design. It will be natural for them to give themselves in this way, as it would be unnatural for them to decline it. This is purpose." A quote from *Greater Community Spirituality* - Chapter 5: What is Human Purpose?

@ksayrah1987

2 жыл бұрын

Hmmmm!!! I saw a mirror image of me throughout your post!!💙

@johnchapman5125

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Ivan.

@mirelgoi7855

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much

Tom I'm a real devotee. Your guests are always so tip of the spear. This conversation is very meaningful to me and I'm sure 1000s more. Your insights are very impactful. You're so brutally honest about yourself.

My timestamps 10:52 Chosen suffering 15:12 Ruminating 16:35 Sushi, meditation 23:40 self harm to take control over ones suffering. Relatable. 25:40 control over oneself is everything 31:30 resilience, purpose 50:17 calibrating self esteem, earning our own self-respect 1:04:05 emotional regulation, top down control

@beldonhuang

3 ай бұрын

Incredibly useful for navigating around this video. Thank you!

I prefer the word ::: SATISFACTION. I wish to live a Satisfying Life...which can only come through Service to Others...because when we Give, we Receive. And the look in the eyes of someone truly in Need...is something money could NEVER buy. The warmth, the connection, the love created by Sharing...is only Known to those that KN0W. And it is the most SATISFYING Feeling 1 could have, IMHO. 💖

@jiahongwang270

2 жыл бұрын

👍👍

*“If you’re not failing, you’re not pushing your limits, and if you’re not pushing your limits, you’re not maximizing your potential” - Ray Dalio*

@MoneyStrategiesSOULutions

2 жыл бұрын

LOVE

First of all we have to take good care of ourself, by loving ourself , we can give love to others. The energy Sources : - meditation - Food - sleep -breathing(techniek) - mind (live today , learn from your past) Living a CONTENT life is important !!

Friends are the family you choose

@mariesonoma

2 жыл бұрын

Great word.🦅Thanks

Hey, thank you Tom and Paul!🌻

Abdominal deep breath...Thank you Tom for continually introducing me to teachers, deeping my thinking, and expanding my life. Oh buddy, you are gifted. I suggest you you give yourself permission to up the dial on your worth sociometer. These conversations are a gift to us because you are gifted.

There at 26:08 -- the self-imposed pain of running a marathon, or climbing a mountain -- I have affinity for this context since I run 100+ mile ultras and climb peaks that require several days (and sometimes weeks) to summit. However - I do not ascribe the situation to dealing with pain or suffering; rather, it is a matter of enduring lengthy self-imposed discomfort, while at the same time, experiencing the growing exaltation of working to achieve something grand on the human scale -- it is driving toward a personal accomplishment that is mathematically off-axis in comparison to the common normality of the general population.

Really enjoyed watching this for a second time!

“Work is both pleasure and satisfying and at the same time miserable. I’d like to lay on the sofa and watch Netflix, work is difficult and taxing but incredibly satisfying at the end.” I relate to this 1000%

What a phenomenal interview. I always love IT, but this was superlative.

Excellent chat, thank you

I just discovered that I have been doing some unintended seconds meditation for a long time. When I get in a shitty situation, I for some reason close my eyes, makes a hummmmm, and then escape reality. Now I'm doing meditation every day for 15 minutes. Can't see results yet, but if I don't keep going they'll surely not come. Thx for your videos ❤️

Love this video! Thank you for this

This video is criminally underviewed

Food causes depression too

Big fan of professor Paul bloom, Listen to all of his lectures at yell University on KZread 🙏

I’m on the exercise boat like Lisa, except I lean toward aerobic exercises for extended periods of time. Things like endurance running, hiking and dance. These work for relieving stress more than anything else and I don’t end up still feeling anxious after a good workout because I go for hours, however long my body tells me I need and I go to failure. So I feel physically depleted at the end and often ready for a nap, but my mood changes completely and I always feel exuberant afterwards. As to Tom’s question why that is…I think it’s multifaceted but in part it feels like honoring my body’s flight or fight response. When I have high anxiety my urge is to run from the threat, so going out and actually running honors my body’s physiological response to stress and abates it. Also, essentially forces me to remember to breathe deeply and the physical exertion creates a comfortable pain that pulls me out of my head and into my body so it does feel as close to meditation as I can get. Lastly, I think there’s something to the concept of bilateral stimulation as a way to address depression and anxiety and running and hiking are a great way to get that bilateral stimulation.

@ms.sandersmusic

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same as you! Exercise reduces cortisol and high levels of adrenaline, so it calms me down when I feel anxious or even angry. If I sit, I stew, and everything gets worse. I have to move, even if it just means cleaning (vacuuming really works!) 🧹 🧼 🧽

God bless you

"The stone cannot know why the chisel cleaves it; the iron cannot know why the fire scorches it. When thy life is cleft and scorched, when death and despair leap at thee, beat not thy breast and curse thy evil fate, but thank The Builder for the trials that shape thee." - The Hammer Book of Tenets

How do you do this...this pinpointing of the hot points of pain and challenge? Thank you for your socially developmental contribution, Tom. You do important work.

Huge session sound Tom

Love the channel bro !

This is so fascinating, and I haven't even made it through the whole video yet. Having participated in the BDSM lifestyle, I can say that there is something about choosing your "suffering", you can't think about anything else. And when you're finished there's this sense of accomplishment and strength for "surviving" the ordeal.

@thelifecoachmedicalmodel6648

2 жыл бұрын

What is BDSM

@TiffanyHallmark

2 жыл бұрын

@@thelifecoachmedicalmodel6648 as mentioned in the video BDSM stands for Bondage-Dominance-Sadism-Masochisn it's a particular type of lifestyle most recently portrayed in 50 Shades of Grey, although what is shown in the books and the movies isn't necessarily "true to life".

@thelifecoachmedicalmodel6648

2 жыл бұрын

@@TiffanyHallmark I immediately asked then was sure I missed something and went to listen again lol so sorry and thank you!

@TiffanyHallmark

2 жыл бұрын

@@thelifecoachmedicalmodel6648 glad to be of service

@MoneyStrategiesSOULutions

2 жыл бұрын

Hm that is interesting! Maybe I should look into that then! lol ;)

*"Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe"*

You want something and you can't is not suffering, dying with pain is suffering.!

Nice work!

Thinking is a way of dreaming. Reality is something else!

Amazing show! I shared this with my 3 daughters 14, 16, 20 despite the BDSM chat 💬 😂 In education, we equate FLOW with Vygotsky’s ZPD (zone of promixal development) and we believe it is teachable.

Phenomenal person reading this, surround yourself with people who are better and wealthier! Keeps you humble, teachable, and hungry. You become those with whom you surround yourself with! Birds of a feather flock together! You got this! 🌟 I believe in you! Love - Nat ❤️

Hi Tom! It would be so fun to have a video where you talk to us about the figurines behind you especially what us the meaning of each of them for you. Until next time... be legendary. Take care

Axiom: a statement or proposition which is regarded as being established, accepted, or self-evidently true. "the axiom that supply equals demand"

Love the information!!! What exercise is that?!! Add more years than smoking take away... Thank you!

@maritzamaravilla3908

2 жыл бұрын

@•Admin• Subscribed ✔️ perfecto! Thank you for the reply! 🙏

I agree with your depression explaining.

It the depends on an individual choices

I love you and literally every single piece of content I’ve ever seen from you. Some feedback: too many ads on Spotify.

That is part of a human being

Suffering well Sacrifice Fasting Prayer Giving to others Gratitude All popularized today by various thought leaders. All concepts of Catholic Asceticism and Faith. 🙏

@commercialrealestatephilos605

2 жыл бұрын

Guts truly #CausaSui

How can we conquer this to uave a good life for each and everyone else

If meditation doesn’t work for somebody, are there any alternatives?

Thx :)

What’s the exercise that increases the length of life…even if you smoke? I don’t smoke, but I would love to know what that exercise 🥳

personal bookmark: 55:48

Nice💓

I couldn’t figure out who is the host and who is the guest.

Is this connected to the topic you where discussed for.

There is this Walt Disney: African Cats, this story is incredible how a cheetah mother brings he cubs in; 'under her control' danger to teach them how to get out of it (by themselves), because the life as a cheetah is so incredible difficult if she does not prepare her young for the dangers, they will never make it without her, she instinctively knows this.

Hey Tom. Theres a rapper / entrepreneur named Burner who is the founder of "Cookies." He recently announced that he has cancer and the way he found out is absolutely bizarre. Aside from all he's accomplished in life, no to mention, his story in general; I think there is a lot of wisdom and experience has to share, and thus, he would potentially make a great guest on your show. As an individual who has "beat cancer" and is also a fan of your show, theres a segment of your demographics who would appreciate a conversation between the two of you.

💯💯

As well as human life

What is suffering means for you is this helpful or a challenge for everyone

When you think about it we all inflict pain on ourselves. Pain is both mental and physical. And most of us inflict mental abuse on ourselves and others.

@jacquelineharris8850

2 жыл бұрын

We need forgiveness to combat pain and suffering.

Meditation isn't being explained properly to most people . You can be in a state of work ore physical stress and still be in a state of meditation. Meditation is presence. In the moment . And u can do all tasks in meditation.

Right

Cause everything is connected to a human nature's

In my opinion suffering is a challenge in life be strong and better individual

That's matter

Truthn

I learned more fromTom than Paul who's supposed to be an expert on this topic.

Its a choice

Tom, I love your interviews, and i would have liked to hear from your guest more; two hears, one mouth🙃.

Depression, from psychological point of view, is just collapse of structure defining hierarchy of values. In other words, depressed people can't find meaning in pursuing some goals that are defined by values that are on the top of existing structures of hierarchy values believed by other people.

Teens that cut (cutters) themselves do it because their emotional pain does not have outlet. Yes, they want to have control in their lives.

In my opinion, modern slavery is present in almost all soceities. It takes two forms: the employee and the convict. The minimum wage is a great example of being stuck in a cycle of debt and to be in debt is to be a slave; the most one can earn in a lifetime on minimum wage is no more than 2 million ... or less. Most cultures don't provide a self-sustaining living wage that allows them to develop savings.. More importantly " life, liberty and property". The only way to "earn more time" is to provide value greater than a trivial service. A mass majority of people do not have the skills to escape the rat race. Society then has a majority of people trapped in a system that binds them to service using debt so that they may acquire "life, liberty, and property". The convict is someone who has debt that must be paid with time and labour. After conviction, they are bound to a debt of time and service. The correlation between being forced to do labour in prison and forced to earn money to survive in soceity is parallel.

Maybe because of his her experience in everyday s life

We think depression is the cause of his her weakness in life is this a matter how to manage it .

Tom you would make a dope monk. Image if they're a Tom monk out there.

Tom and Paul are having a therapy session but dont know who is the therapist and the patient. 😂

'Love and accept your suffering'... 1st step- get rid of comb over.

The world as a word and its why and every body is trying to anser it WHY live you own life and if you were doing wat you or doing and there was now such thing as money would you still do them things or just do what you want to your health is is the meaning please be healthy happy and lucky

"I've been in some insanely stressful situations where hundreds of millions of dollars were on the line"... Wow. I got surprised by this attachment and stress over material things. Actually, sorry, over the "story of money", it's not even material if we think about it. Haven't been to really stressful situations yet: saving someone from a burning car, walking along an abyss in a blizzard...

Anyone with ADHD can really take away a lot from sweet spot principles!

Would love to hear more about choosing not to have kids

I wish Tom let the guest speak more.

I appreciate Tom's willingness to dive into topics. However, I think the conversation would have benefitted greatly by incorporating a few different perspectives like Spiral Dynamics, the work of Sarah Blaffer Hrdy, and perhaps the insights of Brandon Ambrosino. Since Tom is a learner, I hope he will accept the challenge. We can only speak from what we know ... so while saying "I haven't really studied the history on this but my guess is ________" is a good place to start ... it leaves huge gaps that can lead to false assumptions and conclusions. Just a suggestion :)

Sex and morality? Listen to Jeffrey r Holland’s talk entitled, “Of Souls, Symbols, and Sacraments”! (I’m pretty sure you can find out on KZread.) It’s highly enlightening!

Why you need to question that sensetive topic in a media

Is that to much a matter for the people

Physical says it feels like shit… boom depression

Saying meditation is only good for some people is like saying excercise is only good for some people. You're over intellectualizing a physiological response. The only argument to be had is how meditation is performed and how effective that is for you and your needs.

Anger from u fair harassments and scapegoating isnt easy

I know people that are in a catholic order, that they produce pain to their body as a way of prayer?? Is not openly talked but exist.

Great message. Anyone else notice anything weird about this dudes 👀s

Darwinian Creatures?

Lot's of "quotes" in the comments

Common sense was apply

Yeah, but if you propose that there are some moral truth carried by "genes" as evolutionary process then the question is: why slavery existed in the first place? I mean, it suggest that some people didn't assume slavery is bad, because if it was universal moral truth "written in our genes" then no one would own slaves in the first place. Clearly, there's much more than evolutionary element to consensus of objective morality problem. Actually, I don't even think that some moral values are compatibile with darwinian evolutionary competitive model of natural selection. Shouldn't 100% darwinian creature follow purely Machiavellian "morality"?

Dr. Paul Bloom, I love ya but you are wrong that narcissists have a lot of self esteem - It is the total opposite.

I’m not sure if you were interviewing the guy or just talking about what you think about life Jesus you’re dragging that

I disagree with Tom. For example I’m highly motivated successful and I do not do anything for contributing to the group. I do not care what people think. I do not care what people expect of me. I do what I want when I want . I’m very selfish for myself . I just turned 30, I own multiple rental properties , have a landscaping business, make good money, could retire very soon if I wanted to. I do nothing for groups . Just for myself . Because once I’m set up I’ll start a family. I’m a lone wolf never once wanted teams friends groups. I go out and attack alone. So be careful before you over generalize . Everyone diffenrt man. These talks are only entertainment purposes there’s zero learns here it’s all speculation. Talking about humans brains , space , stocks, moods, why people do what they do, it’s allllll entertainment . Zero evidence backing anything . Even with science, science changes all the time with new evidence . I know we’ll never figure anything out regarding human nature. We’ll never figure it out . We’re all completely different

@brentselby6151

2 жыл бұрын

Good on you for standing on your own two feet, well written.

You can live without sex

Hey hey, Paul. Better give your book that subtitle: against empathy, unless you're about to become a shrink. Also I do not see ordinary people being able to differentiate internally between compassion and empathic linking. Unless they're psychopathic. I might also give to consider that not every bad feeling must be avoided just because it hurts. Why should I filter the reasons at all? Wasn't this the lesson here? Suffering is okay, get on with the show? Apply it to other people's emotions, too, and get on. You might be convinced you're onto something but all you do is suppress human nature and this always shoots you in the face later on in form of psychological problems. Simply put. You can meditate your asses off, you'll still feel it when someone hammers their own thumb flat and that is a _good_ thing. It's part of the early stages of the infantile learning process so kids know that something is bad for others. Compassion is not necessarily the most primitive and available form of learning to not do something to someone because it might hurt. That's a rather complex pattern learned later. So rather than focussing on eliminating how we feel, focus on getting rid of childish learning patterns as grown ups. Self-improvement at all costs is also called an obsession. And those are not to be taken lightly, Tom.

What is with Tom....he gets guests on...why? To tell them how much he knows? Why doesn't he just interview himself?

Also, I don't like that host is trying to explain everything in darwinian models because it's just kind of materialistic autism. Darwinian evolutionary model is deterministic in its nature which introduces many problems about complete ontology of human being. True self-consciousness is not deterministic process. Critical thinking (and falsification process) is not deterministic process. Otherwise it's pointless to think if the result is determined by default. Let's think about it for a moment. How deterministic process can observe and question itself? It doesn't make sense. It's illogical. Learning process is in a nutshell: to question your own thoughts and beliefs. How can it be deterministic? I don't think that complete nature of reality is based only on materialistic determinism and you can see why by few examples I have shown above which is enough to use Hempel's Ravens Paradox that falsify darwinian model as only source of human ontology (proof by contraposition).

Hmmmm..if only he didnt mention Greta Thumberg