Our worst enemy is ourselves. Self sabotaging our happiness because we feel we don't deserve it.

@314rowan

4 жыл бұрын

Stop overthinking

@ProWeeziiTho

4 жыл бұрын

amen to tht

@handigossipcat7418

4 жыл бұрын

SO TRUE.

@austinrichards871

4 жыл бұрын

Facts god bless 🙏❤️

@daviderickson2421

4 жыл бұрын

facts!!! 😔

the production is so cinematic

To whoever is crying to this song, for whatever reason; you're not broken. You're worthy of healthy love. You're not alone.

@NaturallyWit

3 жыл бұрын

🥺🥺🥺

@mikemike1779

3 жыл бұрын

Thx

@jultz3428

2 жыл бұрын

❤

@simonebyrne188

2 жыл бұрын

❤️thanks

@marynamyronova2114

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️

This song is so fucking real. Humans are social animals. How can we accept another person into our space when so many others have destroyed us time and time again? It's so scary. Being hurt is physically painful, but being loved is so amazing. The touch of another person, affection, a kiss, sharing laughs, intimacy... feeds the soul.

@sahrn1783

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn't have said it better. As the asshole who hurt people, sometimes it's easier to hurt then to get hurt.

@jamdun3043

3 жыл бұрын

@@sahrn1783 Very mindful of you two. Sometimes it just doesn't work out.

@zml8025

2 жыл бұрын

@@sahrn1783 But some of us are wicked. We hurt people unintentionally and we got even more hurt. The most unfair part is that I hurt when Im hurting from the scars of all those wrong people left. Ao many forgiving and so many betrayal lives in me. Im broken so I make the worsr decisions. When I love I lost my cool and my confidence. I fuck up and they think Im toxic. The truth is Im just scared. Im really trying to forgive myself, Im really trying to hope for the best I felt like I killed someone. I killed myself when I lost him. I pray to god to take thos heart for me. Because in both ways, I lose it. Even if I give, even if I try, even if I play a games like those cool girls does... they give up on me. Im a pretty girl who is good.to have around untill she shares her ugly scars.

@kellymarieapplebee

2 жыл бұрын

Very well said my darling x

@giorgiabarison

2 жыл бұрын

this is genius

So much emotion in her voice. Amazing

@taitusn1251

5 жыл бұрын

its true

@JeremiahJamesMusic

5 жыл бұрын

I love it

@flawlesslawless4180

5 жыл бұрын

so much emotion in the song lyrics itself

@keelyboii

5 жыл бұрын

sounds similar to amy winehouse

I don’t think the song describes an abusive relationship. I feel it’s more of an internal struggle with relationships-she knows herself, and knows how needing someone changes her mentally. Whether it be choosers, takers, beggars, or heartbreakers, she doesn’t want to see herself as any of those qualities to protect herself and possible partners. So she cuts ties even if it means losing the possibility of a soul mate because having a soul mate or the perfect partner can still make someone become self destructive from being needy.

@hadjeromaramrani919

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly ! !

@thecraft2091

5 жыл бұрын

omg yes.

@TheKekeberry

5 жыл бұрын

This might be the most accurate.

@Cypress89xo

4 жыл бұрын

Wow well said.

@Lulu-jb1st

4 жыл бұрын

Finally someone gets it.

She's such a beautiful woman

@arcanoazf69

4 жыл бұрын

FACT

@DetroitBabyGirl55

3 жыл бұрын

@@serenitybeats1677 Tryna discredit her talent because she's pretty ? What's up?

@jerrymichaud

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@justinianthegreat154

2 жыл бұрын

Yeaahhhhh❤️❤️❤️

I think she has been hurt before . Now she's too scared to take the risk. She wants to be alone and feel loved at the same time.

@Sthefany.almeida

4 жыл бұрын

Bem loco

@DancingDeity

3 жыл бұрын

I’m in the same position. That’s why this song resonates so much with me.

@whatsgoinontoday2371

3 жыл бұрын

me

@anthonymicha5992

3 жыл бұрын

ME

Jorja could easily make the intro to a James Bond film, her voice is unreal

@thesassynerd

5 жыл бұрын

Yes oh my god i feel the vibes

@aniskroese2923

5 жыл бұрын

The beginning of the song kinda sounds like Adèle her song ‘Skyfall’ that was made for the intro of James Bond

@miriam5170

5 жыл бұрын

Where is the lie

@lukee8916

5 жыл бұрын

remind me of skyfall so much

@AmazikGezk

5 жыл бұрын

I agree but her lives performances are 🤮

What a Beautiful human being.

@loicthiant7448

5 жыл бұрын

Seriously !! Are u for real !!!

@braakwame_

5 жыл бұрын

@@loicthiant7448 what's wrong with what soluchi said

@srujanhalimani2956

5 жыл бұрын

@@loicthiant7448 I really find her very attractive

@kingjay7734

5 жыл бұрын

Loic Thiant bruh

@austinrichards871

4 жыл бұрын

Soluchi {Michael Jackson Lookalike, Dancer, VFX} facts

The context of the video is: fear of affection, love and relationships. "Always thought it'd come around" wants to feel that, but chooses to abandon those short relationships in order not to have future dependencies. "I can't be tied down" prefers to run away or emotional independence.

@angellagura2159

3 жыл бұрын

Avoidant attachment style?

@bellarisa9453

3 жыл бұрын

more like a fearful avoidant

@ank-hara

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/pYl-2rSlnsTRpZc.html

@DancingDeity

3 жыл бұрын

@@bellarisa9453 *anxious avoidant

After 10 yrs 3 kids im done ... I dont think i really ever loved him i was use to him ! All of his cheating , disrespect and using me . im 2000 miles away from everything i know .. But this song is it !! I feel safe .. Im done and it hurts because i care about him because of our children but my soul is tired of fighting !! U won idgaf no more ! Im moving on

@gangreen.toenails

3 жыл бұрын

Im glad you're safe and know your worth

@millie9870

3 жыл бұрын

sending love, luck and good fortune to you and your family A

@Ami-wt8fk

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you’ve won by leaving xx you deserve so much more

@alxyiane561

3 жыл бұрын

YES LOVE! Proud of you girl, hope you have an amazing rest of your life

@Paulina-qg8gq

4 ай бұрын

get a life gorg

That feeling of pushing someone away but wanting to be close but you fear they will hurt you .

@azizullah7856

5 жыл бұрын

azjz

@shennygrande1588

5 жыл бұрын

Yes..

@myszkamiki1145

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly . Or not being real about you’re feelings just to save yourself from feeling dumb later onwards .

@julierandall7020

5 жыл бұрын

Bang on.

@mmrios9

5 жыл бұрын

And sadly they do sometimes... or the ones that don't, you push away

How do I mysteriously relate to most of her songs 😢😢😢

@okbaeh

5 жыл бұрын

christian enu ha sameeee

@paulaulloa4570

5 жыл бұрын

SAMEEE

@dehstyny

5 жыл бұрын

Same

@rudokendall

5 жыл бұрын

Mood

@adrianatellez3939

5 жыл бұрын

Sammmmeeee

I feel this song on a spiritual level. Seriously, there is nothing lonelier than being with someone you love, and you know you love them, you have your own needs (emotionally, physically and spiritually) but they don't know how to love you the way you need to be loved.

My interpretation of this song is that you want to love someone, but you remember what happened last time. The pain that grinded you down when they threw you away. All of your love didn't matter as they abandoned you. You don't want that torture again. It's risky...

@bellarisa9453

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I guess every time she gave in and tried to make it work with the person, she just fell even harder in this self destructive cycle of push/pull... But I guess she made it in the end and closed the chapter.

@gracie99999

2 жыл бұрын

And then you get hit by a 🚌 no guarantees my friend!

@iamnotmyhandle

6 ай бұрын

@@bellarisa9453 Yes, emotional neglect and abandonment wounds.

such a sad video, the feels of when you love the person so much, and you cannot leave them even when you know you should.... horrible feeling, you want to feel wanted, leaving them but they dont go for you, so you end up going back to them...

@majcher96

5 жыл бұрын

Let them chase, that's called good game haha ;D

@cindiip21

5 жыл бұрын

Going through exactly what you've described! Knowing you've gotta leave or the relationship will eat you alive, leaving and they don't fight it and you end up being trapped in limbo and so much more pain than staying there. Such a painful place to be. If you know how to survive that phase please let me know. I'm tired of those posts from both of us but none of us talking to each other.

@staywithdreams

5 жыл бұрын

just exactly what i thought i almost cried

@soar3135

5 жыл бұрын

This probably isn't the answer you were hoping for, but... If you know that being with this person does you more damage than good, then accept that and leave them. Delete their photos, messages, number, give yourself a week to cry and rant to your friends. Don't forget that you will eventually get over this person (if you set your mind to it) and cut off all hope that might arise. It's harsh but there's no other way around it.

@berkegunturk9261

5 жыл бұрын

It is happening to me either but I think I got over it even though I won’t forget anything ,I just let the pain go and let myself feel better...

This is beautiful. She's growing sooo much as an artist 👏😭😭

this song is just representing me everytime u feel attached to someone you push them away and saying goodbye but inside you there is always a part hoping they say "please stay" but they don't ... back to my past I was such a loving person who trust everyone and soo open up ... I do really miss the old me

@kai-kp7zi

4 жыл бұрын

that's how/what i felt after reading your comment...

@shivamchowdhury175

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. 🔥 I wish they turned back while walking away, none did but solitude has its own perks.

@reginawaweru8652

2 жыл бұрын

You literally described the feeling 😩😩you don't want to need someone but you still do🥺

@trebionprince6748

2 жыл бұрын

Get the old you back. The world needs you!

@16Sirens

Жыл бұрын

Such a powerful statement of Catch & Releasing .......knowing when to protect one's self & being vulnerable!!

Never had to work for love Don't need you to show me how Don't want to be falling in When I'm falling out Didn't think I'd give for love Every time I hold it back Now there’s lust in my head I'm tryna find who I am There's choosers, there's takers There's beggin' heartbreakers I don't wanna be that way You will never hear me say "Come hold me, console me" When, really, I'm lonely Even if I feel this way I don't wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't want to need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I've found the one Never had to wait for love Always thought it'd come around You come for me But I'm nowhere to be found Cancellations for conversations I don't need right now I'm afraid of these relations I can't be tied down There's choosers, there's takers There's beggin' heartbreakers I don't wanna be that way I don't wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I've found the one I don't wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I've found the one

@sheffanesseabrown2811

4 жыл бұрын

Alexandra Neverson 💛💛❤️❤️💕💕💜💜☀️

@so_des_iles9502

4 жыл бұрын

TRADUCTION THE ONE - JORJA SMITH Je n'ai jamais dû marcher pour aimer Je n'ai pas besoin que tu me montres comment Je ne veux pas m'effondrer Quand je tombe Je ne pensais pas que je donnerais (tout) par amour Chaque fois, je retiens Maintenant, le désir est dans ma tête J'essaie de découvrir qui je suis Il y a ceux qui choisissent, il y a ceux qui prennent Il y a ceux qui supplient, ceux qui brisent les cœurs Je ne veux pas être ainsi Tu ne m'entendras jamais dire Viens, serre-moi, console-moi Quand vraiment, je suis seule Même si je me sens comme ça Je ne me veux pas me sentir comme ça Quand je.... J'ai besoin de quelqu'un Je ne veux pas avoir besoin de personne Je ne cherche pas à te faire entrer Même si je craque, ne t'inquiète pas Je n'ai jamais été obligée d'attendre l'amour J'ai toujours pensé qu'il viendrait à moi Tu viens pour moi Mais je suis introuvable Tu te consoles avec les conversations Maintenant, je n'en ai pas besoin J'ai peur que ces liens Ne se défassent (Ils ne vont pas se défaire ?) Il y a ceux qui choisissent, il y a ceux qui prennent Il y a ceux qui supplient, ceux qui brisent les cœurs Je ne veux pas être ainsi Tu ne m'entendras jamais dire Viens, serre-moi, console-moi Quand vraiment, je suis seule Même si je me sens comme ça Je ne me veux pas me sentir comme ça Quand je.... J'ai besoin de quelqu'un Je ne veux pas avoir besoin de personne Je ne cherche pas à te faire entrer Même si je craque, ne t'inquiète pas Je ne veux pas me sentir comme ça Quand je... J'ai besoin de quelqu'un Je ne veux pas avoir besoin de personne Je ne cherche pas à te faire entrer Même si je craque, ne t'inquiète pas

@palomabejleri7858

4 жыл бұрын

Sonia97490 Anam 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@ines.araujo

4 жыл бұрын

thank u sm

@marta2qow803

3 жыл бұрын

Fun fact : Harry Styles has written this lyrics

I kinda hate this because I feel like each and every time she hoped he would chase after her and because she didn’t really wanna part ways she’d run back to him even though she was trying to be strong... love you Jorja you masterpiece

@angiemly7508

5 жыл бұрын

vee monreal who says it’s a he? Seems like she’s escaping a past version of herself, not a man

@RosemarySprings

5 жыл бұрын

Oh how you describe my life so easily.

@angiemly7508

5 жыл бұрын

Grace McNamara just because a man is the catalyst does not detract from the fact She* was The One

@eanatkye

5 жыл бұрын

@@angiemly7508 the song is about wanting to be with someone but its never the right time. her and her current boyfriend wrote it together and she said they were basically speaking to each other because it was their situation before they just gave in and dated. it was a interview she did it was in a article

@janelleallen6934

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I agree with you on this... great ... reading.. beautiful person... beautiful song...give it a 10 out of 10...vee noreal

This is the kind of artist on an artistic level that will be ignored by the main stream she's too talented

@Mosh-ify

5 жыл бұрын

um over 7 mil views isnt mainstram?

@stevensanchez2032

5 жыл бұрын

uffe adole Gucci gang got over 100 million let that sink in

@3bwayne554

5 жыл бұрын

Subscribe to hitop Films because it’s like a party song

@3bwayne554

5 жыл бұрын

Subscribe to hitop Films so it’s gonna get played at most parties and clubs

@DeiranB

4 жыл бұрын

no she is not going to get ignored, she is insane, one of a kind, and people will realise, well, we already do, the rest will follow

Why must people always compare a singer to other singers, she is her and solely her. Her amazing vocals and lovely appearance make her who she is. Love Jorja!

@nimmha6708

2 жыл бұрын

so true.. All these comments 😅 Read like 20 names.. But she's Jorja Smith

This helped me get over my toxic relationship when I realised I didn’t actually love him, he just made me feel like I needed him

@ioanagrigorescu207

4 жыл бұрын

i m glad you could do that

@athenaboughen7719

4 жыл бұрын

Love this comment

@tandzilebhembe1255

3 жыл бұрын

You did good sis👏🏼 proud of you

@Ami-wt8fk

3 жыл бұрын

@@tandzilebhembe1255 thank you xx almost 2 years on and I feel so much better without him and have met someone who treats me so much better so never settle should be the lesson here

@tandzilebhembe1255

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ami-wt8fk awww I'm so happy for you, you deserve it 💕

This sounded like something from a James Bond movie... Wow thanks for the likes 😍

@erwanlefrancois9343

5 жыл бұрын

Skyfall from Adele

@BubbaBassAnglers

5 жыл бұрын

Funny you say that I mean FUNNY! Every time I play this in my car I'm like, "Those are James Bond strings. This could be a James Bond track. SHE SHOULD DO A JAMES BOND SONG!"

@LSUK

5 жыл бұрын

Check this out: vimeo.com/308594878

@nyajvlogs

5 жыл бұрын

They need to put it in one of the bond movies

@kamillankumane3522

5 жыл бұрын

It should be 😂

The melody is so emotional

@tea2189

5 жыл бұрын

this

@katlegostefaans6290

5 жыл бұрын

Right? Has me in tears all the damn time 😪

2:35 those strings totally killing me. So very tastefully arranged!

@nimmha6708

2 жыл бұрын

yes! Do you know which instrument that is exactly? It sounds oriental

@siphiwomhlongo3688

Жыл бұрын

I always come back to them, just so surreal

@siphiwomhlongo3688

Жыл бұрын

@@nimmha6708 isn't it a whole string section?

@nimmha6708

Жыл бұрын

@@siphiwomhlongo3688 I think you are correct. Sounds to full to just be one single instrument.

“I don’t want to need someone” “I don’t want to let you in” I guess that’s what it comes to When you so tired of being vulnerable

Everytime she tries to leave she still goes back

@hobiwankenobi.666

5 жыл бұрын

sounds like an abusive relationship

@urfavplantmom7634

5 жыл бұрын

@@hobiwankenobi.666 believe thats what it is

@ireboleyn

5 жыл бұрын

@@hobiwankenobi.666 why abusive? Maybe just flat-out toxic.

@DZ-lx4iu

5 жыл бұрын

No she wanted him to follow after her but he didn't. He was done with her but she still wanted him.

@IllDawgable

5 жыл бұрын

@@DZ-lx4iu for real. All these other squares are bugging.

How didn’t she win best new artist

@grisellopez2860

5 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!!

@jackiebernal2810

5 жыл бұрын

I know! Jorja Smith was robbed 😔

@kashvikhadkaa

5 жыл бұрын

She did in the Brits..

@PatternLand

5 жыл бұрын

@@kashvikhadkaa america is shit when it comes to many things

@kashvikhadkaa

5 жыл бұрын

agreed but she deserved the brits award didn't she?

jorja should act honestly. she's so talented with singing and acting. ugh i love her

@lola-cz9en

4 жыл бұрын

Yupppsss

I heard this for first time. it hit me like ton of bricks. I can’t stop listening to it. I am feeling emotions that I did not think I had anymore. Just beautiful lyrics and perfect delivery. u can really see the emotional anguish she going thru.

even when she cries she‘s so pretty damn

I cant resist how simple yet beautiful is this music video

This song has explained my love life and social life too accurately for comfort. Constantly seeking approval and reassurance, love and protection, peace and happiness. But always to scared to leave when it's no longer beneficial. Loved this song so much, I had to the album on vinyl. ♥️♥️♥️🎶🎶🔊👌🏽🙌🙌🙌😩😩😫😫

you can tell she's getting more ready and ready each time she leaves by looking at the way she dresses.

@yanda6732

3 жыл бұрын

This is the comment I've been looking for. You're a genius 😭😭😭😭

@Fihsada

2 жыл бұрын

💯

not having the strength to leave because you don't want to leave a part of yourself

@josg8127

5 жыл бұрын

Yess best comment 👌

@AnaBela1990

5 жыл бұрын

yes! yes..:(

@catfri1995

5 жыл бұрын

I think it’s very clear that it’s more that she doesn’t wanna stay cuz she’s afraid of getting too close

@beautifulclanton26

5 жыл бұрын

I felt this...my God...

@klwudi

5 жыл бұрын

Would you hurt your self on purpose? I don't think so .. to stay with some who hurts you it's not your other half.

She should be an actor for real!!

@thviolant

5 жыл бұрын

Sandra Molina-hill actress

I feel this song. Everyday it's such a good reminder. I remember the pain love causes it's better to be alone.

I’ve probably commented years ago about this song but this is present / future me. For me this song has been such a representation on how it feels to not be able to be vulnerable Becuase it’s always taken as a weakness. No one ever making you feel safe enough to need. So do what you gotta do to survive. Not live but survive while still suffering and wanting love but not wanting to admit it. I don’t wanna feel this way when I need someone. I don’t ever wanna let you in even if I find someone. Idk can someone Also share their story and relation to it ? I’m not saying she sang this because of what I went thru. Much love my soldiers ❤️❤️

Lyrics Never had to walk for love Don't need you to show me how Don't want to be falling in When I'm falling out Didn't think I'd give for love Every time I hold it back Now there's lust in my head I'm tryna find who I am There's choosers, there's takers There's beggin', heartbreakers I don't wanna be that way You will never hear me say Come hold me, console me When really I'm lonely Even if I feel this way I don't wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I fall, don't worry Never had to wait for love Always thought it'd come around You come for me But I'm nowhere to be found Consolations with conversations I don't need right now I'm afraid that these relations Are goin' to be tied out There's choosers, there's takers There's beggin', heartbreakers I don't wanna be that way I dont' wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I fall, don't worry I don't wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I fall, don't worry

@macxyx

5 жыл бұрын

Algunas partes de la letra están mal.

@aaronagius3521

5 жыл бұрын

btw, it’s ‘Meet someone’ and ‘Even if I’ve found the one’ :) in the chorus

@nyahoffline

5 жыл бұрын

@Asmr Fam I think it’s “even if I’ve found The one” 😬

@denvernuggets1298

5 жыл бұрын

I think it’s “never had to work for love” and the chorus is messed up too like the other person said

@jacquisesheppard2238

5 жыл бұрын

Asmr Fam You the Goat

She got the voice to make the next James Bond soundtrack ! Love her .... voice

@nicolemush

5 жыл бұрын

Art Williams I thought I was the only one who thought this song belongs in a James Bond movie

@drphot6050

5 жыл бұрын

Black Bond deserves her no one else!

@Madhatter675

5 жыл бұрын

Same

@jordanjefferson7038

5 жыл бұрын

Art Williams yesssssss frfrfrfr

@annabelcarroll2336

5 жыл бұрын

i just said the same thing

I’m sad I just found this and it’s been out so long 💔 I love that each time she gets a little closer to leaving then the time before. I feel like it really represents the ‘lost the battle but not the war’ we have with ourselves when we’re trying to change within. She keeps resorting to old ways, but she doesn’t give up.. she keeps trying, building a little strength each time until she’s strong enough to finally make the change.

I lost my mum a couple months ago. This song in-captures how I have felt towards my external world. Just that feeling of loss and abandonment to self. This is so human.

The bass line & violin is such a satisfying combination, but the lyric make me want to cry... I relate to them too much

For me, this song speaks volumes about unhealthy choices we makr in our romantic lives ... when she says "You'll never hear me say come hold me console me when really I'm lonely" " I don't want to be this way when I need someone, I don't want to need no one" it's a sharp jab at my habit of not wanting to let anyone in, "even if I find the one", past abuse tricks us into thinking so low of ourselves and we don't even realize it. I only discovered lately quite some troubled tendencies of mine.. I can't seem to believe that the other person loves me and cares for me. It's quite impossible to me, the feeling is too foreign to me and the thought is too strange. Emotional abuse makes us think we are so unworthy of being loved back. And there is nothing that hurts more than the realization of " oh, I can't seem to comprehend and believe that you love me no matter how hard you try to prove it, and everytime you prove it to me I am astonished, because I truly believe no one can love me back and that is why I might never accept your love." I have always been on the giving end, so being on the receiving end is confusing. It's very sad to think that way. And then here's what's even more sad : the fact that we stay even when we know that we deserve more, even when we know that the other person will always take advantage of our emotional vulnerability . We stay because we think to ourselves " I'd rather so little of him than nothing at all" . We settle for the less, we compromise ourselves in the process. We know we deserve better, we just don't accept what's better, because then again we're so picky "Never had to wait for love, always thought It'd come around, but every time you come for me I am no where to be found" . We could have the bestest match for us right infront of us and only then will we start acting awful,distant, out of hand and unavailable because it's foreign to us so it throws us off our balance. And then we're stuck in this endless cycle of giving too much, regretting it, refusing to give up one's self any longer, packing and leaving, craving whatever crumbs we were given, going back to giving too much, meeting the right person, refusing to believe we can be loved, refusing their love unintentionnally. Repeat.

@mayarasalles2828

5 жыл бұрын

OMG I am speachless

@asmaachabiba2078

5 жыл бұрын

I never thought someone would bother to read all of it! Thank you so much !!

@wanderfullx

5 жыл бұрын

This was so beautifully put I'm speechless. I have never been in love and don't think I am but recently I just met someone with such a weird and deep connection and this song and your explanation is exactly what is going on. But fun thing is he doesn't even see me that way but still demands attention and all. Sighh

@asmaachabiba2078

5 жыл бұрын

@@wanderfullx actually, I am going through the same thing, I think. Our friends and his actions ( if I'm not blind enough at that moment) and his rare confessions are what's making me stay every time I want to leave because I think to myself that he's trying to change ( he told me that he's never felt comfortable being emotional, so he just ends up supressing it all and pretending he doesn't have any). So maybe your person just doesn't know that they are very much into you yet, they haven't admitted it to themselves yet. Atleast that's what I keep telling myself.

@wanderfullx

5 жыл бұрын

I totally understand that. The reason why I also keep coming back is, is because he answers my demands equally but not quite the way I want but I just take what I can and pretend it's enough. He has said that he doesn't open up his feelings for anyone but then still "opens up" a bit. The things he says makes me want to stay, as you said hoping he will feel the same or change. He's actually dating someone else and sees me as a friend but I honestly think he knows that I would stick around by saying soft, nice words. Nobody has ever described me the ways he did and what if it's all a façade? Or if it's true, then he hasn't realised that he's really into me. But I think it's unfair the way he is into someone else, I've shared my woes and he doesn't get distant? I feel like he is just using me until the other person is back. I just don't know how to break this cycle. I've told him so many times how toxic or unhealthy our intense conversations are but he has never replied to those statements. Our relationship is platonic and this is what makes it easier to just refrain from each other but mentally and emotionally it's too difficult because you will keep on thinking and wanting to go back.

this song is so beautiful. the cinematography compliments the song perfectly. two big thumbs up!!!

She's like a mix of Rihanna, Lana del rey and Amy Winehouse

@rokiat9261

4 жыл бұрын

Sofia R So True

@jjxessy

4 жыл бұрын

Wit a lil bit of Doja cat if we’re talking about appearance

@yusraiftikhar1425

4 жыл бұрын

and Adele.

@yogyal292

4 жыл бұрын

Sofia R the

@yogyal292

4 жыл бұрын

Thx

This music video is gorgeous. It feels so cinematic and it just reels you in. Also, congrats on the Grammy nom Jorja!! If there's anyone who deserves that Grammy, it'll be you. Your music is on another level honestly

I love it when, at the end of the video, it goes from the scene where she's going to the taxi to the scene where she's looking at the window, because it seems like she is looking at herself in both scenes . I think it adds a deeper level to the song *.*

@noodlesuzuki5513

5 жыл бұрын

Clara Bhr stop putting spaces in between your periods

@lilzombie9087

5 жыл бұрын

@@noodlesuzuki5513 😂😂😂😂

@Medina21346

5 жыл бұрын

Clara Bhr i agree.. like she doesn’t wanna leave a part of herself

I feel this song is about not wanting to fall in love, because being in love makes us vulnerable. Beautiful song ❤

The worst feeling ...when we go back to someone who do not deserves us , just to not be alone with ourselves, because we do not love ourselves enough ! It's nothing but torture...

She released this the day she got nominated for her grammy. Coincidence anyone? Lol congrats tho she deserves all the awards.

Please remain humble. Don't let this industry, culture or fame get to your head. Please.

@GummyMeBessie

5 жыл бұрын

Praying that she'll continue to do great things but at the same time scared for her lol

@jahnine100

5 жыл бұрын

Already got to her abit , backstage she is not the nicest

@kc7409

5 жыл бұрын

@@jahnine100 what makes you say that?

@josg8127

5 жыл бұрын

She could’ve but decided to take the independent route and write her own songs without any features on her debut Lost & Found. You can tell in her interviews, live shows, and her GurlsTalk podcast ep with Adwoa Aboah that she’s a lovely gentle soul. She doesn’t need an industry, she can create her own space for her music to thrive :)

@kc7409

5 жыл бұрын

@@jahnine100 please respond I'm really curious.

This song will always be good. I honestly cannot described how good it is, I can’t

Never gonna forget this song… there’s a deficit of true musicians and she without a doubt has got it all

"I'm afraid of these relations/I can't be tied down"...Everytime she tries to let herself be loved, the tension builds, but then she doesn't let herself fall

I feel this song so much I keep replaying it over and over again...

@Kim67749

5 жыл бұрын

Sherline Siu ikr!!!!

I really felt this. Sometimes looking after yourself really feels well, but when you meet someone who attracts you in a deeper way but you've already got scars from love.. you just don't want this attraction to happen but it seems like the force is to delicate. So I just want to run away.

Such powerful lyrics man... hit straight through to my heart ❤️ 💔

There's Choosers (Picky) There's Takers (Complacent) There's Begging (Desperate) Heartbreakers (Inconsiderate) It's crazy how simple she broke this down in the hook, and when you look back, most of us have been (or know someone who has been) one of these people. What I love about the video is that Jorja tries to leave someone who may or may not seem to care, especially when she herself has mixed feelings about the relationship, because she doesn't want to be too attached, but she's so afraid of her own loneliness that she can't seem to slip away. Yet, at the very end, she realizes how she'll be fine on her own, once she leaves that part of herself behind. GET. THIS. GIRL. A. GRAMMY.

@flawlesslawless4180

5 жыл бұрын

Hmm I like how u explain this but at the end she does look bac does that mean she went bac?

@4vndd

5 жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree with you more friend...and that was a superb summary you wrote...

@ndo533

5 жыл бұрын

@@flawlesslawless4180 she didnt go back...but it wasnt easy not looking back.

@cisco7858

5 жыл бұрын

Devin Winter i think she means begging heartbreakers as one type of lovers: those ones that try everything for people to stay and when someone eventually chooses to in fact stay, they don’t want it anymore. begging heartbreakers.

@kimxox5492

4 жыл бұрын

i honestly love ur response to this. really got in depth with the song. thank u so much 💚

The violins are haunting and Jorja is beautiful. One of the best singers from the UK

I just found the perfect song for me, this resonates in me, a lot

How many times have we gone back? It wasnt even a toxic relationship, it just wasnt meant to be me and him. But i kept going back, not wanting to let him go. Now im breaking the cicle. 💔

Vocals: Served Visuals: Slayed Wig: Mars

@DVal-oh5zw

5 жыл бұрын

ANTIMAIN yee: haw

@JeffJeff-lw8px

5 жыл бұрын

Hotel? trivago

@sesamecie2034

5 жыл бұрын

Beans: cooled

@DonelleFurline

5 жыл бұрын

Insurance? Geico

@catelynbloom9572

5 жыл бұрын

Jeff Jeff royal mmd

Jorja is the next great talent she’s just amazing and has so much potential I love her ❤️

@mburge4327

5 жыл бұрын

think you'll find she's already there brooklyn ... this is london calling 🔥

@josg8127

5 жыл бұрын

Carlo But be real she’s angelic and will choose to dress herself however she wants, she has a huge advantage being an independent artist because ultimately Jorja will decide how provocative she will be and either way she’s stunning w/ sweats on or a form fitting dress so power to her she’s a beauty!! Her lyricism and band mates will get her so much further anyways

@josg8127

5 жыл бұрын

Carlo she’s on the right track! Nominated for a US Grammy today and she will only flourish more wether or not she looses or wins the Grammy she is growing to be her own icon without a record label ever since she broke out on SoundCloud and it’s only been her debut album so far. A broken industry full of conflict doesn’t qualify as success it’s the work being put out into the universe. Have a great day yourself and just enjoy what music has to offer away from a robotic industry that’s out of touch, artists will continue to break away from it too

@zeynepterzioglu4246

5 жыл бұрын

@Carlo i totally agree with you unfortunately a lots of talentless people are popular nowadays talent doesnt equal to fame.Many talented singers dont get attention which they deserve.I dont think this girl will get attention.

@josg8127

5 жыл бұрын

Carlo I like how you continue to believe that all artists are only equivalent to how relevant they maintain, it’s honestly senseless music is consistently changing and allowing new artists to emerge and create something that resonates at a moment in time for those who listen and connect to it. She might not become an international powerhouse but she is sure leaving her mark with her music and best new artist nomination. The best thing about music is the variety and at the end of the day most of those you mention maintain a fortune even without being in the public eye it has to do with the work ethnic and of course royalties. Not what you perceive to be what prevails an artist to greatness, honestly get a life they are all entirely more relevant then you will ever be. Your just as easily replaceable by any other bitter materialistic person commenting online about values they know nothing of

I keep coming back to this her vocals are just everything 🥺❤️

added this to my playlist as soon as that first chorus hit... i was not ready to be attacked like this today, this beat is so fire and the lyrics hit a little too close to home oh my god!!!

GRAMMY NOMINEE!!!

@leekeebum2463

5 жыл бұрын

Is she?

@yasarunanayakkara4149

5 жыл бұрын

@@leekeebum2463 ye

@franciscowrs

5 жыл бұрын

@@leekeebum2463 Jorja was nominated for best new artist

@lambrisering2398

5 жыл бұрын

..why the why does cardi b have 5 nominations😭

@rihannafan1429

5 жыл бұрын

Awesta Ahadi Because she deserved them. Jorja deserves more noms too.

it's difficult picking the right i'm leaving you outfit

@quefixxer2455

5 жыл бұрын

you and i are like my buttcheeks after all the shit that goes between us we always get back together .. am dead now 😂😂😂 your name 🤦🏾‍♂️

@alyssajones3039

5 жыл бұрын

lol

@Sandra727Is

5 жыл бұрын

lol this name though!

@masimmomasimmo

5 жыл бұрын

you and i are like my buttcheeks after all the shit that goes between us we always get back together your name is my life

@babymae2222

5 жыл бұрын

you and i are like my buttcheeks after all the shit that goes between us we always get back together pretty much

This lyrics and everything in her voice so touchy, soulful I love her. Real women ❤️❤️💯🤯♥️💋

Jorja has everything, the Voice, the beauty, the music. She's a queen

My jam how depressing is this

The next bond singer. The next Grammy winner. The next big thing since sliced bread. Thank you, Next.

This is the perfect song to my admirer, I've been single for 2 years and being single has been peaceful, being in a relationship is a whole job that I'm not sure I'm ready for just yet💔😔

Deadlift workout music right here 💖 *a u t h e n t I c v i e w s* 💖 dun took Jorja Smith oFf 2 da big leagues and for dat I will always be super grate

Her face is literally definition of perfection.. ik no ones perfect but her face is soo 😍

@milmon4137

4 жыл бұрын

She’s literally so gorgeous

@_mxisie

3 жыл бұрын

honestlyy

@Laslahaha

3 жыл бұрын

Yes...but does she smile sometimes ?

*a well deserved grammy nominee*

I 99% agree. I think it's also about not being able to recognize/believe in/understand love bc she hasnt fully loved herself. (I'm trying to find who I am" "I don't want to need noone). she doesn't know how to distinguish real love from a "chooser, taker, beggar, or heartbreaker" that's why she can't make it out of the vicious cycle of men. That's why she's really afraid, afraid she's gonna be doing this forever, but still afraid to face her life decisions. She knows tho doesn't want to be tied down, bound, to these type of predicaments, so she gets closer to the edge each time. She's not ready yet tho so that's why she cancels conversations she doesn't need rn bc the conversation is with herself. To someone who doesn't get the concept of love needing someone sounds like a trap. That's why the men change but are the same. Like a hooker and her customers at a motel and how she sells herself cheap. Confronting herself would mean facing the truth that the abusive relationship is with herself. The breaking point is her realizing she does in fact need someone. "I don't wanna feel this way WHEN I need someone" she wearing a nightie goes and grabs her coat to leave and the smoking man doesn't even react. So she decides to heal herself so she'll have the right outlook to accept love when it comes her way. Thats why the mirror is cracked. The nail polish is about covering things up to make the tolerable (pretty) BUT its leaking out bc that time in her life is running out. the luggage is about moving on. It's half packed in the beginning. It's more than emotional baggage bc it's quite obvi thru the song she has plenty. Looking out the window, with curtains, is about reflecting but not seeing the whole picture. when the cab pulls off she looks out the back window, which is the biggest, and now she can see the whole picture of what she was doing and why. I'm so glad ur comment was made so I could go deep and add my 2 cents. 😅😅😅 @Inthedetails I agree w u 99%

Her nose from the side is iconic

I also think it’s as if she’s scared to open herself up to him even if she does love the person she doesn’t want to make herself vulnerable and reliant on them. When she’s walking then turns back it represents a part of her which wants to open herself up towards him.

@Angelicconnections111

3 жыл бұрын

spot on

@ank-hara

3 жыл бұрын

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This woman, her voice her body is everything !

@dilans3621

5 жыл бұрын

infamous son her skin

@p3ps763

5 жыл бұрын

@Vrishabh Sd apparently she has a really rigorous routine lol

Why is this masterpiece recommended for me just now? 🥺

They say musik always speak to your soul & tells a story an this is true for her musik. Love it and will always be timeless in it's own right!!

My ex and I love Jorja Smith very much. I was in a toxic/abusive relationship for a very longtime and I recently ended it. When this song came out I was still with him. Now there's a video and we aren't. This video is exactly how I have felt every-time I saw him. Broken,lost. I found myself though.

@emmavbijnen

5 жыл бұрын

iamoldandfoxy lost and found ❤️

@babeitstracy

5 жыл бұрын

iamoldandfoxy SAME

@paularocha5593

5 жыл бұрын

iamoldandfoxy j

@abrildelarosa1

5 жыл бұрын

love love loving vibes to you

@sarenadel

5 жыл бұрын

iamoldandfoxy Same

I feel like when she tries to leave, she's actually contemplating on seeing the person who she can't help loving. She doesn't want to be in love so she stays away from him, but in the end, she sucks up her pride and her fears and admits that she needs someone. It was like a longing or a magnetic pull drawing her to go out and break those walls around her heart.

That’s my life right now 😭. I am that one and I just want love. I want to be appreciated and adored... I need to change myself 😩. Jorja literally helps me with every song! ❤️

When she turns around and looks at the camera 💛

Can we take a moment to shine some light on the fact that this music video actually required acting skills and how Jorja did not fail to deliver...sis can act.

I was in an abusive relationship for two years and this is exactly what I had to go through it was hard breaking up with him bc I thought he loved me like he said but he hurt me like really bad to the point where I went to the hospital twice and my parents were scared saying who did this and I had to lie and say I fell but I'm done with relationships for now I broke up with him three years ago and I have a restraining order on him and I'm happily single and recovering from all the scares he gave me but ..... And I can truly say that ........ I'm ok❤️

@numanamjad95

5 жыл бұрын

You will find a man who treats you like the queen that you are. Trust me

@jade3870

5 жыл бұрын

Im so proud of you!

@skye0349

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much god bless you all

@brgeneralthug225

5 жыл бұрын

Any man who puts his hands on a woman in my opinion is cowardly, weak, sad and pathetic. I'm glad that you are now ok and you are a queen and you will find someone who treats you like the queen you are, will love you like the queen you are and that person will cherish you value you and will never put their hands on you.

@taina196

5 жыл бұрын

@@brgeneralthug225 I agree with you, however I must say that any male gender who tries to put hands on women ARE NOT MEN, they are either boys or immature but we can't call them MEN, as they need to deserve to have this title

all these scenes of coming back when leaving... i felt that.

I just found out about this song and i've NEVER heard nothing like this before, the producer that made this piece of art is incredible, and this voice is unreal, I'm only sixteen and I cant believe a song made me cry. Unbelievable. #MyNewFavouriteSong

@kiarasmt7133

4 жыл бұрын

Is it still your favourite

@princesssunday5227

4 жыл бұрын

@@kiarasmt7133 yup

@yourareoneiam2bythewayhowa744

3 жыл бұрын

@@princesssunday5227 Still ?

She has a 90s soul

@rotkat652

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe even a 70/80's one

OMG! What is that enchanting background instrument? Violin??

@flawlesslawless4180

5 жыл бұрын

Yep Sade inspo

@bejewelleds

5 жыл бұрын

violins are so beautiful, all string instruments in general

@Lynn-r7x

5 жыл бұрын

YUP!! ♥

@pearldelray3179

5 жыл бұрын

Its an arabic vibe

@user-my8qj

5 жыл бұрын

Pearl Del ray yeahh same it feels like arabic. I felt that from the first sec🤷🏻‍♀️

i can’t stop replaying it like everything about this is perfect

On repeat for hours...I am the total opposite of this song, I love love, but I fell in love with this guy that is just like this song... I’m so thankful for the most High, because if it weren’t for him answering my prayers I would be so jacked up over this guy... and sadly he has detached himself from his feelings (much like the lyrics of this song), that he can’t let me or anyone else in for that matter... so I meditate on God’s word, stay in prayer, and heal through this beautiful song. Thank you beautiful @Jorja Smith.

@ladyshackelford

3 жыл бұрын

When i hear this song i think of how i had to leave my family alone to get the commandments right. Shalom sis

@Servant_of_TMH

3 жыл бұрын

@@ladyshackelford WOW!!! I love that perspective Sis, and its so on point. I had to do the same.

Is someone chopping onions? I'm in my feels.

@bradleyhenegan8060

5 жыл бұрын

Hahaha same

How can someone be so perfect, she's beautiful, has an amazing voice, and makes deep music 😩😍😍😍

My favorite song by her...it's speaks so familiar to me: I know the inner battle of letting myself fall but feeling 'I need someone' could bring about my shadow side, and "she" can be unnecessarily complex in order to protect "herself"; the benefit of being toxic by giving unrequited love. I have reconciled that love is risky, and it's inevitable I'll be both hurt and elated.

this song represents me in such a deep level. I love jorja so much.