“If you’re abstinent because you’re incapable, that is not a virtue.” Damn, Jordan Peterson destroying the incels whole careers.

@valthiriansunstrider2540

3 жыл бұрын

Except, for one thing, every major force in our culture says that; and for another, chastity is a virtue regardless of why you're doing it. What's not a virtue is complaining about it and wishing you weren't abstinent. Instead of wishing you weren't abstinent, why not question your fundamental values and find out why the hell you even exist in the first place and what you're meant to do, and what do your sex organs have to do with it, if anything? And not being capable doesn't preclude being voluntary about being chaste.

@Hello-qf3fd

3 жыл бұрын

@@valthiriansunstrider2540 There's much more to life than sex, for sure. But there is something to be said about a person who sticks by their values not to be promiscuous when they have opportunity and someone who is abstinent because they have no opportunity. It's more impressive to see someone say no in the face of temptation than someone who has never had temptation right in front of them. Regardless, if it is truly your value then having no temptation is not bad of course.

@CloudWithoutASky

3 жыл бұрын

Basically. Incels need jesus. Which I agree with. Personally. Man and woman as old as adam and eve, has been tuggling and wrestling in the everlasting conflict of trying to mate peacefully. You cant pity or comfort the incels, but you cant hate or blame them either for being an abandoned part of the mating system.

@dymitrfedierke9528

3 жыл бұрын

But they don't think that it's a virtue. Ask literally one incel - i know that you have not done it yet

@psychostranger2097

3 жыл бұрын

I am 36 years old virgin male. Never had been in relationship. I have no social skills at all. Father left home when I was 6 years old. Raised by single narcissistic mother.

As a 25 year old truck driver, this broke me. I spend 95% of my time alone and it is lonely. Jordan has a way of giving advice that touches the heart. Never change, you amazing Lobster!

@bane3991

3 жыл бұрын

On the other end of the spectrum, unless you're lucky or a millionaire, the girl will drag you through mud. Most cheat and will dump you the moment something they think is better comes into their lives. So what's better being lonely or going through heart break like that? You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't.

@mushypork2132

3 жыл бұрын

@@bane3991 heartbreak is nothing compared to losing your house and becoming a slave to alimony while she uses your money to fuck around

@umiluv

3 жыл бұрын

@@bane3991 - just don’t marry a girl that expects to be taken care of. Find a girl who isn’t asking you to pay her rent or buy her stuff. One that’s willing to work to build up your wealth together. And for God’s sake, don’t knock someone up on accident.

@CONEHEADDK

3 жыл бұрын

Didn't it "just" break a piece of you.? You are alive, you are here - there is life, there is hope. Luck is (can be) when good preraration lies ahead of a good chance - go prerare your self, to be ready and able, when (if - I'm realistic as fuck) your next chance comes by. And fucking REACT, when (if again) it does. Good luck from a danish coaching expert

@pariah825

3 жыл бұрын

You will get better man, there's time. Avoid meeting women online like the plague. You will know when you meet the right person, and it'll probably happen when you least expect it. As long as you are a good man, you're getting out into the world and you find a way to love yourself, you won't be alone forever. God bless.

Ben Shapiro being silent for 8 minutes straight just listening to Jordan Peterson is as powerful as the messages Jordan Peterson tries to share with us.

@reasonablyserious

2 жыл бұрын

He usually seems to be interested in what his interviewees have to say.

@TheMexicanVII

2 жыл бұрын

@@reasonablyserious I guess this is how someone's behaviour looks like when he/she gets a decent education where virtues like good listening, not interrupting each other, acceptance, thinking rational and not emotional, being courteous in general are being enhanced.

@intosomethingsometimes2193

2 жыл бұрын

I’m half way in the video and wow I’m surprised too

@AR-jp5pm

2 жыл бұрын

U said it.

@KatyaVasilivna

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I read your comment because I was second-guessing whether or not to watch the video. Absolutely loved that Peterson was given the opportunity to speak his mind on this topic.

My friend laughs at me for putting value on the act of sex. She tells me that sex is not a big deal, basically means nothing. I just can't agree with that. Sex to me is not just an empty act. To me it is intimacy, closeness, a way to connect. Ultimately to me it is sharing, giving up a part of myself to the person i love.

@LaneLift

3 жыл бұрын

Not just "to you." Sex and intimacy cannot be separated, as much as society wants to believe it can be. Every sexual partner carries a piece of us, and we wonder why society and people are so broken, and the divorce rate is basically higher than marriages who make it. Sex is meant for a husband and wife, not BECAUSE certain religions say so. The opposite, certain religions say so BECAUSE it's the truth.

@theoschoendube

3 жыл бұрын

You should show her how mistaken she is. Sex is a big deal! Not just for the people copulating but also because it’s the means by which humans procreate!

@adannanmezi3672

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe your friend is trying to convince herself more than you

@FiddleYourTiddle666

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, especially when I was at college (a year ago lol) I just got so tired of the hook up culture. My roommate got raped twice from her “hook ups” my family was very promiscuous and it led to nothing but mental illness and now those illnesses are genetic. I despise this

@aman8086

3 жыл бұрын

Well your not alone! I think it’s very sad to use others as disposable and how this is normalised in society especially within the whole university culture x Sometimes you feel like a weirdo for feeling like this, but you are not.

The way Ben just shuts up and lets Jordan speak.... demonstrates his respect for JP and his humility.

@nikokapanen82

3 жыл бұрын

Actually he does that with every guest, he lets them speak.

@kingdingaling781

3 жыл бұрын

@@nikokapanen82 you can tell his interactions with Jordan are different though. When I listen to this it sounds more like a Jordan lecture on the topic instead of a conversation.

@tymanning2832

3 жыл бұрын

He’s a really good interviewer/host generally speaking.

@koyotecow7102

3 жыл бұрын

Ben knows Jordan is never at a loss for words. Better to not ruin Jordan's flow.

@ashgreen3574

3 жыл бұрын

If you'd watched the whole thing you'd know he did stop like 8 times for ads. It was pretty annoying

There are over 8000 languages and Jordan Peterson decides to speak facts

@beautifulwithbrain8827

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/pnaao6yjeJyXkbg.html

@BullyGarfield.

3 жыл бұрын

buy his books you won’t regret it

@benjaminrhodes9611

3 жыл бұрын

That could be Facts, with a capital F.

@stupidanon5941

3 жыл бұрын

@@KrisVic91 Ah, a worshiper of Sam Harris I see.

@berniepina860

3 жыл бұрын

Lol nice

Ben is not my favorite person, but notice how is able to sit and listen to Jordan patiently and attentively through his entire statement without interrupting. Hats off for that.

@FutureAbe

3 жыл бұрын

Yea, it is very rare for a conservative bigot

@katelewis536

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Wisdom, the truth has a calming influence on people who are seeking it. I would place myself in the noisy vexatious Ben type category but it’s a journey and the more I seem the truth and am prepared to listen the quieter I become.

@SinaRan301

3 жыл бұрын

my thoughts as well. but lets not forget its in his self-interest to keep his audience happy

@EdwardSnortin

3 жыл бұрын

@@FutureAbe You're a sad little person and will never be successful in life.

@FutureAbe

3 жыл бұрын

@@EdwardSnortin gonna cry?

I've heard people who engage in this behavior say they felt disgusting, uncomfortable and sick to their stomach after engaging sexually with a stranger, without even bothering to ask for their name or connect with them in some sort of level. What Mr. Peterson said about "rejecting" human nature in order to be able to carry out this conduct is absolutely true, you're treating another human being like an object and letting yourself be treated as such as well. That must damage the psyche eventually, no matter how in control of the situation you think you are.

@ephapax1

3 жыл бұрын

Accurate

@eliascontreras1951

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, this new generation is doomed

@killerqueen7489

3 жыл бұрын

@Justin Hernandez I'm neither a conservative or a liberal and I don't particularly like how one's thoughts or feeling about a subject are always labeled under these two boxes as to dismiss an argument. That being said, the people I was talking about that engaged in this behavior ARE "liberal", and they said they felt "primitive" and like they'd lost control of their bodies and felt disgusted with themselves after giving in. And I can undersand why, that is all. I'm no one to judge.

@killerqueen7489

3 жыл бұрын

@Justin Hernandez I'm not american, which is why I don't label everything as conservative/liberal. As I said, I'm neither. I personally don't feel comfortable engaging in hook up culture because it would make me feel undervalued as a human being, that is all, for me human connection is important. That being said, I have friends who are active participants in this (some more than others) and I don't judge, belittle or try to push my lifestyle down anyone's throat. I don't particularly think that people with a "liberal mindset" are automatically "smart" because I've seen firsthand what hook up culture has done to them. For some, I believe it is a defense mechanism that comes from a fear of abandonment, fear to commit and fear of being alone. Hooking up doesn't solve those problems, it just emphasizes them.

@trey2735

3 жыл бұрын

@Justin Hernandez You sound hurt. And as if you've adapted these ideas. I believe you believe these ideas and won't be convinced otherwise. And attempt to use "knowledge" to tell everyone else they are wrong with their conflicting opinions. Testosterone levels are high pushing men to find a mate/reproduce in their earlier years. Testosterone lowers with children, likely from more stress but also with aging in general. More of your testoserone is aromatized into estrogen as we age, likely to promote a more nurturing, nesting man. Listen to endocrinologists speak on this. Lol evolutionary psychology sounds like your god. Yet no one wants to be a part of your religion. I'm sorry you were hurt buddy. Don't bother replying, I won't see it

I got zero respect from my peers for refusing to engage in the hookup culture, my aim was to have one committed and meaningful relationship. I've been married for 30 years now with absolutely no regrets.

@daebak7370

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome. I applaud you sir 👏

@bratzsnoopy

3 жыл бұрын

Respect! I wonder where all these men who pressured you currently are in their relationships. Failed marriages….Probs still single and with a different girl every week

@neutralgirl8997

3 жыл бұрын

Great job!

@Eserr7856

3 жыл бұрын

How did you meet her? What advice can you give for a lasting relationship?

@aojbooker8650

3 жыл бұрын

Same.....I have a promiscuous friend who teases me for wanting one committed relationship and advising him to do the same. I’m 18 and haven’t found that relationship yet......but I intend to, and I’m sure that like you, I’ll have no regrets in the end.

Thank God Dr. Peterson’s alive and well!

@just_a_turtle_chad

3 жыл бұрын

He just spreads his cultural marxist conspiracy theory that is anti-semetic.

@patrickjohneby1306

3 жыл бұрын

@@just_a_turtle_chad send me any video/book passages to back that up

@zoeeeeee13

3 жыл бұрын

@@just_a_turtle_chad how? lmfao back that up then

@pageribe9412

3 жыл бұрын

@Patrick John Eby God Bless him!

@johnf.kennedy5904

3 жыл бұрын

@@just_a_turtle_chad You know when you make such a statement evidence is required.

"If you are an attractive male and you have an endless array of willing females - that's a gateway to psychopathy, as far as i'm concerned." Damn, our doc here knows how to cut deep

@anglodoomer5995

3 жыл бұрын

haha yes

@jamiehershon

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Candace said something not too different awhile ago regarding women though. CO mentioned that showing sexy photo s of yourself on IG will get you male attention and you will have men want to have sex with you, but in the end that's all they see in you. I'm glad Jordan didn't put all the blame on women because men are a part of the problem too and he nailed it.

@kahere8345

2 жыл бұрын

That’s deep if you are an female and you have an endless array of willing males that’s a gateway to palaychopathy

@reniesails9903

2 жыл бұрын

Another Dorian gray for that matter

@wess3426

2 жыл бұрын

He killed both the fuckboys and the incels in one speech.

I love how two men are talking about the importance of marriage. You don’t hear this much anymore. Most men just want to be with as many girls as possible.

@AaronCMounts

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to hook-up culture, and the world of Tinder...

@Illlium

2 жыл бұрын

Number chasers have entered the chat. Wall Street got boring.

@miscerswetdream

2 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with that ...

@cananary

2 жыл бұрын

@@miscerswetdream you think there’s nothing wrong with sleeping with as many women as possible?

@miscerswetdream

2 жыл бұрын

@@cananary yes

“She felt as stymied in her freedom of speech as much as she did in North Korea” Holy cow! We’ve got to wake up.

@cedrickiiza2310

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry man can you say that again

@skitzochik

3 жыл бұрын

i was really hit hard by those words too, i told my boyfriend about this and he had to look it up & watch it. he was nodding his head in agreement the whole time.

@5up3rm4nMy3r5

3 жыл бұрын

That was a mind blowing revelation.

@Student17625

3 жыл бұрын

Man o man, woke left's ideology is resembling more and more to north Korean facists.

@bullythebooks

3 жыл бұрын

What sucks is half of the people in our country will say you're full of sht because they are allowed to say whatever they want and get celebrated for saying the most hateful vile things possible.

This is NOT a man who is emotionally repressed as that British "journalist" claimed. This is a courage human to his core.

@sabni8668

3 жыл бұрын

As someone from the UK, we have a lot of things figured out .. but our media is NOT one of them. So far we are lucky to not be as cancelled as most of the US but I fear one day soon they’ll leak through because of our shitty media

@ac17055

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@brethitmanhart275

3 жыл бұрын

@@sabni8668 we don't have that much figured out. I fear we are actually going backwards, with our eyes closed.

@LeGeND-12

3 жыл бұрын

People love to bash those with morals and values. Because they don’t have any.

@raybans8712

3 жыл бұрын

@@brethitmanhart275 my thoughts exactly, not to sure what we have figured out either

“Man does not live on bread alone”-Jesus Christ 🙌🏽

@sueblack5794

3 жыл бұрын

Said by the man who never married, never had kids but had a very fulfilling life. Then in the NT Paul himself says it is better to not marry at all. None of that is mentioned of course by Dr. Peterson.

@AceDeclan

3 жыл бұрын

@@sueblack5794 listen sue. I don’t know if anyone’s told you this. But Jesus WAS God in human form. He was not bound by his human brain, or human flesh. He knew things before they happened. He knows how things will end. Yet you think He, the creator, doesn’t know a simple thing like this. Come on Sue. Think.

@JewTube001

3 жыл бұрын

@@AceDeclan think? a man isn't a god simply because you say he was. shapiro certainly doesn't believe your idol was a god.

@Tbets

3 жыл бұрын

@sue black yes dr Peterson disagree with Paul about marriage, that's why he doesn't mention it , but jesus married and had kids before he died

@sueblack5794

3 жыл бұрын

@@AceDeclan He was in human flesh right, the Bible says he was tempted like all men in the flesh. He was human as well and had the choice to be human and make human choices. Take your lips off the azz of the church and your minister. Read the Bible as is without the influence of your minister and religion. Really read it, I have, and it plainly says it better to not marry if you are in the faith.

When you sleep with someone, you join physically and spiritually.

@scintillam_dei

2 жыл бұрын

In theory. My ex-wife refused to look at me when I joined her body. If my face was George Washingon's painted green, then I would see her eyes open with love.

Watch the dudes eyes and listen to his voice by the end, he straight up cares about humanity..... damn what a being

@Hungabrigoo

3 жыл бұрын

He actually loves humanity, unlike most "intellectuals", who just want to control it.

@honkyjesuseternal

3 жыл бұрын

Seems like he is more concerned with getting money from his MAGA followers.

@Jason-kv7cm

3 жыл бұрын

@@honkyjesuseternal oh, you fool.

@ebronator86

3 жыл бұрын

@@honkyjesuseternal Oh shut up. Keep telling yourself that. I suppose you believe no one on this planet classifies as a good person.

@honkyjesuseternal

3 жыл бұрын

@@ebronator86 Damn. MAGA crowd is feisty tonight.

The sheer lack of meaningful relationships in the current day is quite scary, and it’s the reason why is haven’t entered a relationship as of yet. If I’m going to be with someone, I want it to mean something, have substance. An empty relationship is not a relationship at all, it’s an illusion.

@DeathsInverse

3 жыл бұрын

You might just be fat

@mushypork2132

3 жыл бұрын

That's what every woman on tinder says while navigating between 100 matches she just got.

@MasterMayhem78

3 жыл бұрын

@@DeathsInverse Another Democrat projecting 🤦‍♂️

@DeathsInverse

3 жыл бұрын

@@MasterMayhem78 all I see is about HUMAN making excuses for their current situation

@van_creative

3 жыл бұрын

well said

People's feelings get super hurt when you point out hookup culture and the downsides of it.

@AllsortPassport

3 жыл бұрын

I don't get hurt because I don't care what people think about something I engage in that has nothing at all to do with anyone but myself.

@sofiabravo1994

3 жыл бұрын

@@AllsortPassport yet you’re here...🤔

@AllsortPassport

2 жыл бұрын

@@sofiabravo1994 Which proves absolutely nothing. Just because I post my own opinions on something doesn't mean anything anyone is saying hurts me. I've got a thicker skin than that.

@avengersana

2 жыл бұрын

@@AllsortPassport lol right

@eggmanslimz

2 жыл бұрын

@@AllsortPassport by definition of responding, ( you had to care to respond) you ironically made this persons point valid.

“...have to divorce your sexuality from the humanity of the people your sexual with.” This is one of those comments where the truth grabbed me with both hands and shook me. So powerful.

"You will never have the opportunity in your life to have as high quality relationship with anyone, as you could potentially have with your child". Red Skull

@MmmMulholland

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, this is a ruse. The vast majority of people are not well developed enough to not repeat generational trauma. He is talking in a biased way. Most people don’t self reflect or heal. And to get two who do that and make good parents? EXTREMELY rare.

@lukenukem1207

3 жыл бұрын

This should be a thing, we post JP quotes like this and put - Red Skull at the end. The juxtaposition shows just how fucking ridiculous the red skull comparison is.

@homosapiensinvictus3238

3 жыл бұрын

@@lukenukem1207 What?

@hkumar3218

3 жыл бұрын

@@lukenukem1207 it's already happening all over JP's videos on KZread. But kudos to you for independently thinking of that

@savag3guardian

3 жыл бұрын

I am someone who is single and does not plan to have children. I'm happy with my life the way it is, and I think that the constant pressure on people to produce children that they may not want is doing a lot more harm than good.

Proud of Ben for recognizing the power of the moment and just letting Jordan talk.

@melanieb2132

3 жыл бұрын

He probably is annoyed at times that he cant just talk.. the nice thing about an interviewer who gets interviewed often.

@youtubehatesfreespeech2555

3 жыл бұрын

He does that with people he agrees with. In fact, everybody does that when they want to hear something that they agree with. How is that something unique exactly?

@Achilles94627

3 жыл бұрын

He's doing what all great conversationalists do - just listening and letting the other person speak.

@buttlicker7670

3 жыл бұрын

"I'm proud of Ben for shutting his trap for once"

“If you’re really cynical, you move past cynicism” PREACH

@prateekgupta7544

2 жыл бұрын

How about beyond that that you past cynism and you past that and again become cynic😩

@Illlium

2 жыл бұрын

I guess I've got a little more to go, but why change a good habit? The critical mass of cynic should be right around the corner, I can smell it, woof woof!

@scintillam_dei

2 жыл бұрын

"If you're really vague, you can sound profound"

What he said about high male promiscuity inevitably leading to some form of psychopathy blew my mind!! It’s so true!! I just paused it and thought about for a minute. Brilliant stuff!!

@Illlium

2 жыл бұрын

I never would've thought about it myself. Maybe that's also what pornography does. Could benefit from some investigation, we'd just have to get people routine brain scans.

@syahiraamran2800

2 жыл бұрын

Perhaps that s why so many male celeb have miserable life..

@theboombody

2 жыл бұрын

@@Illlium Pornography, even though it's legal, can be very damaging I believe. Even best case scenario, it steals a lot of your time. I stopped looking at those kinds of magazines and websites about 10 years ago, and I don't regret it one bit. I WOULD regret it if I returned to it.

@Illlium

2 жыл бұрын

@@theboombody You could say that for every entertainment-adjacent activity. Partying steals your time and it can be very damaging even regardless of what you'd ingest. Same goes for sports. Life is complicated and full of bad and worse choices. Congrats on the goal reaching, ten years is a long time.

@s0nofg0d2

Жыл бұрын

Why is that so? I thought about it and I agree with it, cause I see the effects all around. But what's the reason for this "turning into psychopathy"? 🤔

Listen to the pain in his voice at the end. This is a man who knows that we’re going down a dark path we’ve never gone down before. And this man truly cares about it in a way that most of us probably can’t comprehend. God Save us..

@stardustgirl2904

3 жыл бұрын

To many have forgotten GOD, it might be to late for some people to change, and come unto God! I pray it will end well!

@shatner99

3 жыл бұрын

Well said.

@shirleycathcart5502

3 жыл бұрын

His caring is so highly absent in so many. He explains why the current statistics are nation rocking as we descend into paganism.

@jamesk3612

3 жыл бұрын

God save us from what? If you don't like the direction you think our country is going you should try to change it instead of relying on your god

@missmegan3694

3 жыл бұрын

You are very foolish to think that we can dig ourselves out of this wretched hole without the help of God.

THIS : "You can't divorce something as miraculous as sexuality from your life. Well, you can trivialize it and say, "Well, it's nothing." Ok, it's nothing. So, you have nothing. Good luck with that. You're going to take one of the deepest sources of meaning available and make it into nothing."

@garenthal9638

3 жыл бұрын

- Red Skull

@willpushback4874

3 жыл бұрын

Is that not just sex, and you can pay for that if you want it or need it?

@willpushback4874

3 жыл бұрын

@ImmaGirarfe 'You can either have something that is nothing or nothing'-not an argument worth repeating.. A future with a significant other who may or may not take you for all you have and all you worked for and leave with the kids?? BTW the matriarchy which robs fathers and is enshrined in feeble western law is so ridiculous it is robbing men of any agency and contributing greatly to men's disenfranchisement.. Don't take my word for it, ask any divorced man, there's plenty out there.. As a man, why get married and have kids when the risks are so great?? This is why men are soooo very reluctant to get married and it will continue until family law is radically overhauled..

@Bartolucci711

3 жыл бұрын

@@willpushback4874 I wouldn't disagree with your concerns, but rather than swear off relationships this just means that you have to be honest about what you want, maybe even brutally so. If you're honest about what your looking for and don't give them what they want without something in return (whatever that is) then you'll scare off the women that weren't worth your time anyway. Only the good ones will stick around when you put up standards. It worked for me and I have an awesome wife. As Jordan and Ben say, not perfect, but your relationship's quality is going to oscillate with how you uphold your standards and values that you hold yourself and your partner to. But I do agree that courts are heavily in women's favor. However, there are plenty of women that are looking for quality men. So be quality: don't give people something for nothing, promote virtuous loving, and above all be honest about what you want.

@Cenkolino

3 жыл бұрын

This only applies to men! Women can have sex anytime anywhere they want. There are no incel females for they can have sex by simply chosing to do so or not. Incel men want it but cant have it because they are incapable of attracting a female.

I'm 27 years old and a Christian, I've remained in abstinence in my entire life. I've had many opportunities to "lose my virginity" to quite a few women (I don't say that as pride, that means nothing to me, it's just flattering at times). However, I haven't given into that. Because I know if I was to go down that road it would lead to a pit of despair for myself. I know I would always seek it and want it when I'm alone or in my thoughts. It's not just some easy road you stop going down once you've done it. It can consume you and heart tremendously especially if someone doesn't love you and just uses you. I can honestly say I'm thankful in the fact that I've never given myself away because the day I give myself to my wife, I will know no one but her and who is she emotionally, physically and spiritually. I don't think there is nothing more beautiful than that. Because I'll never think of another woman, my heart will belong to her and there is a joy in knowing you heart belongs to someone who you only know and no one else. There's a certain peace to it. That being said, God can deliver anyone from anything and I'm not opposed to marrying someone who isn't a virgin. But for me, I'm just thankful I'll be able to give myself to her and my heart will not be despaired to the level it could be. There is also an excitement in learning how to love someone in that. It'll be a constant journey and one that I believe will be very satisfying in my marriage some day. Our society has taken away any seriousness of sex and I've been often made fun of by men and women for staying this way. But I'd rather be this way than seeing my friends beg or chase their heart out for sex and satisfaction only to lead into despair. This post is way more in-depth and serious but this is all I got for now. And I'm not judging anyone who isn't a virgin or anything in that regard, etc. But the "hook up culture" that we are taught is garbage and destroying people.

@joeking433

3 жыл бұрын

That's the real "win", meeting the Lord and following him. You can't depend on anything else.

@HunterRouth

3 жыл бұрын

@@joeking433 Amen.

@matheusf.alpoin3489

3 жыл бұрын

Hey man, 21 years old Catholic here. You summed it all up in a moving way. As abstinence seems like too negative a label to my ears, I would label it chastity, but just to confirm what you say: it's worth living chastely. The hookup culture is painted as way better than it actually is. The pleasure it brings is so artificial as it is flickering and deceptive, and can lead to multiple evils - abandoned children, sexual diseases, abortions.

@joeking433

3 жыл бұрын

@@matheusf.alpoin3489 The problem with the Catholic church's view on chastity is that they make it mandatory for their priests. There is no Biblical or Godly reason to demand that and it has led to terrible consequences in the RCC. Your view of chastity and the hook up culture are spot on, though.

@JewTube001

3 жыл бұрын

oh jesus

I’m not even very religious but have felt this way as far back as I can remember. Sad to see that many in our culture are so obsessed with such fleeting short term pleasure.

@tingle2323

3 жыл бұрын

I think thats why nowadays ppl cant manage to know. We take somw values which needed to be preserved as religious or conservative but never see its value in our lives

@facelessandnameless

2 жыл бұрын

Same here.

@theboombody

2 жыл бұрын

Fleeting pleasure at a large potential cost. It leads to a lot of pain if an unwanted child is the result.

@johnblah1040

Жыл бұрын

@@theboombody and higher risk of STDs

@synerg1st

Жыл бұрын

@@theboombody for sure, and the pain within oneself when one gives away their precious sexual energy for little to nothing. The pain that’s usually suffered unknowingly.

When my wife and I were planning our wedding, my mom always told us: “you know how you spell ‘love’? W.O.R.K.”

@lucasleon7191

3 жыл бұрын

Only work if you're with the wrong person

@dougsmith6262

3 жыл бұрын

That's a good way to put it. Another good piece of advice I got was that marriage isn't 50/50, but 100/100. Both have to be all in.

@maubraymzoma6616

3 жыл бұрын

@@lucasleon7191 That's "Prison" mate.

@Riosgirl98

3 жыл бұрын

@@maubraymzoma6616 So many choose prison though, it's very disheartening.

@frqbkpsa4594

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/pnaao6yjeJyXkbg.html

I'm a 36 year old man, raised by single mother... and i just want to say, that Jordan Peterson is literally the father i never had growing up. And for that I will forever be grateful!

@bighands69

3 жыл бұрын

It is up to you to start the next generation with a balanced and well structured family. Fantastic you got this far in life. And have the next 35 years to build a family and do something great.

@danieldornyo3041

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 21, raised by a single mother too and Jordan has been my father since I watched him first.

@TressBraga

3 жыл бұрын

Please check out the book IRON JOHN (Robert Bly, 1990). This helped me tremendously, too, being raised by a single mother.

@Wiffernubbin

3 жыл бұрын

Yikes.

@thexartchan3299

3 жыл бұрын

This I can't take anything this man says seriously when he was too weak to deal with death in his family, got addicted to drugs, then fled to Russia to be put into a coma to get off of them. One of the most pathetic, weak things I have ever seen someone do who criticizes drug users. The man is and was a drug addict, can't deal with the consequences, and isn't intelligent enough to deal with it himself. If you have respect for this idiot, I feel bad for you.

This is so powerful! I just turned 17, (teenage girl) and I really feel strongly about waiting until marriage. I want to keep my religious values sacred. Thank you for this video, it really moved me. I didn't realize how many people replied. To clarify I'm not blindly following religion there are a ton of practical reasons to wait, other than doing what feels good and living impulse to impulse. Risk of STDS is zero if your partner also waits, as a young women heart break is common and not letting your brain go crazy with bonding hormones from sex is a great way to have an objective view of who you are with. And I personally am not ready and would perfer to wait until I am completely comfortable with a person, and by the time I want to spend the rest of my life with them I'm definitely ready. Thank you to everyone who supports the idea and sent links about the practical benefits, much love. To people who think I'm a crazy prunish nun think about other perspectives. 😊

@Baileyy99

2 жыл бұрын

You got this ! 🙌🏼

@mrangles3402

2 жыл бұрын

Once you enter college it's going to be insanely hard. Remember why you do it. Remember why it's worth it. Your not alone. It will seem like you are. But your not alone. They want you to be like them, but they can never be like you.

@zimdollar3229

2 жыл бұрын

Stay a virgin and Marry young < 24

@dsciulli

2 жыл бұрын

Lol horrible idea in my opinion But good luck on your journey.

@20thcentury_toy

2 жыл бұрын

But really think about it, rationalize your decision, or in the future you'll be bitter blaming society and the world for your decisions

every time JP is on the verge of tears you can feel his empathy through the screen. It's more or less a tragedy in and of itself to be aware of all the tragedies in life.

@intouch8789

2 жыл бұрын

He is still in constant pain. I can understand why he is constantly passionate and empathetic about the well being of humanity, especially due to his past with clients and being in a tough place where he has all the answers but is dealing with very unfortunate health issues.

@Illlium

2 жыл бұрын

I feel it when I listen to it. Not emotionally, more like spiritually. My world hurts.

Peope look at you crazy when you tell them you don’t like hooking up with people.

@shinjuku96jackson4

3 жыл бұрын

Never "hooked up" with anyone Everyone who I have talked to who has hooked up says they wished they never did it because they have no self esteem anymore

@beautifulwithbrain8827

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/pnaao6yjeJyXkbg.html

@XconnorX11

3 жыл бұрын

@@shinjuku96jackson4 its true. I fell into that culture the past few years and it made me miserable. Completely sold myself out in search of a few minutes of sex with a stranger. I downgraded myself and gave up self respect in order to get into the pants of people I had zero romantic interest in and always felt shame immediately after orgasm. Imagine if I spent that time bettering myself or truly searching for deeper connection? Instead here I am, alone and questioning what I want out of life, but hey at least I have a large number of bodies to brag about. Hookup culture is toxic and depressing. Thankfully Ive recently realized this and changed my ways

@classickalmusick431

3 жыл бұрын

@Bill Brasky same. It's also for the best because people who "hook-up" spread STDs like wild fire.

@Jellyfish60

3 жыл бұрын

like you even can :D

"You will never have the opportunity in your life to have as high quality relationship with anyone, as you could potentially have with your child". Jordan Peterson

@Hungabrigoo

3 жыл бұрын

Damn, I literally wrote that one down.

@apebass2215

3 жыл бұрын

@GlobalMan Lite you disowned your son at 14 and have the audacity to criticise the man he's become?

@apebass2215

3 жыл бұрын

@GlobalMan Lite I'm sure he is, just like his father.

@mirzar8695

3 жыл бұрын

@GlobalMan Lite maybe you should question your own parenting and the environment you raised him with. Influence is everywhere and as a parent thats your part to guide them. Not blame them. Its a common logic. Blaming your child is like the dog ate my homework

@paulmoss7940

3 жыл бұрын

@GlobalMan Lite I have a son ,26, a fine human being, college grad ,business owner, Christian. I am single now ,he is my most valuable thing . Its not always bad. So sorry ,Sir.

“ It’s a *gateway to psychopathy* “ That is SO true. People have really deluded themselves nowadays

@s0nofg0d2

Жыл бұрын

Why is that the case? Searching for a good answer.

@manuteboler

4 ай бұрын

​@@s0nofg0d2 because psychopaths see other people as objects, not as people. If you're having sex with strangers, you are treating yourself and another person as something to be used.

Most people give up having kids so they can make their boss's kids rich

@NoCreativeNameGirl

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that’s a powerful statement

@queenstrategy4790

3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@Carolina.T

2 жыл бұрын

So true!

@goldstein10493

2 жыл бұрын

What does that even mean? By working, we're also making ourselves wealthier. So what's the ideal alternative then, being unemployed? While having kids? And a wife that potentially cheats on you as well? My biggest fear is that the person I trust the most isn't trying as hard as I am. Who can I trust? But even if I find a person that I can trust, what can I offer? I don't think I have anything to offer. Almost all men out there are better than me.

@kumarshivam1234

2 жыл бұрын

@@goldstein10493 then start developing a skill ,so that you can value to your life, firstly you have to make your self image better , otherwise your insecurities will give you mental health problems

Thank you Dr. Jordan Peterson for your care for humanity!

@jimbothegymbro7086

3 жыл бұрын

He cares when humanity itself doesn't

@-zy-2826

3 жыл бұрын

@Michael Cueva 1a1

@JamchesterBoozle

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you manage to escape the PC culture in America

@Ribbitplease

3 жыл бұрын

Yeonmi! 🧡🧡🧡

@hopephiri

3 жыл бұрын

You’re amazing, Yeonmi❤️🙏🏽

Jordan Peterson is one of the most important minds of our age. His lectures have radically changed my life for the better

@patientlywatching7775

3 жыл бұрын

I'm staggered that my folks, smart ppl, 73yrs old n wise too.....didnt know who Dr. P was. Legacy media+big tech's smokescreen, plus limited access to JP unless u know what 2 look 4. Sad IMO.

@daweidaweibljat1928

3 жыл бұрын

Yap. Same here!

@jude8943

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah man.

The only time I started hooking up was when a girl broke my heart. After some time I realized hooking up was the worst mistake of my life. I took some time to heal and thanks to God I am repulsed by the thought of sleeping around. I learned to be a loyal and loving man and have never looked back. I am proud of that🙏🏽

I love the passion he puts in explaining everything because it actually hurts him to see what the society has come to.

@doubleo8260

2 жыл бұрын

For a second I thought how my front camera shifted here! Change your profile pic 🤦🏽‍♂️bro 😅😄

@akbar8427

2 жыл бұрын

@@doubleo8260 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@s0nofg0d2

Жыл бұрын

That's so cool seeing people caring about society and not only about themselves! 🤩🔥

"If you're abstinent because you're incapable that is not a virtue" Jordan Peterson.

@anastasiat1481

3 жыл бұрын

Where are my incapable girls at 😔🤚? I wish he'd talk about the woman's side of dating and how to avoid being scared of relationships, even if it ends. That's the only thing i envy about the hookup culture - the boldness.

@---bs9bi

3 жыл бұрын

@@anastasiat1481 same

@mistercontroversial

3 жыл бұрын

Disagree. “Incapable”? What does that even mean? We are all capable to some degree. It may take some people longer, but if they work out, work on their personality, and save up, they can get someone.

@umiluv

3 жыл бұрын

@@mistercontroversial - meaning, you’re not worthy for a meaningful relationship because you don’t work on yourself in a way that makes you attractive to others. Everything you noted are things that would make someone capable of having a relationship.

@AlmostAeroGauge

3 жыл бұрын

@@anastasiat1481 The man is open to a lot of things, you can probably email him about it and he'd make an hour long video on the matter. Hell, he'd probably invite someone who knows more about the woman's side of things than he does (which makes me think is one of the reasons he isn't going there, being a man and all).

so blessed and grateful for Jordan's return 🙏

@Mezzi04

3 жыл бұрын

Jordan “red skull” Peterson, MSM are scumbags.

@BullyGarfield.

3 жыл бұрын

i have both of his books. haven’t read the second one yet

@beautifulwithbrain8827

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/pnaao6yjeJyXkbg.html

@irishboyrants8086

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mezzi04 You got that right!!

@beautifulwithbrain8827

3 жыл бұрын

👆

"One does not live by bread alone." So very true. Everyone who thinks family is not important because only your career matters is blind to the truth. Had to learn that lesson, too.

@pontiacGXPfan

3 жыл бұрын

There's more than one kind of family

@punchbowlhaircut

3 жыл бұрын

That's actually a quote by Jesus. Peterson has been seeming to take a keen interest in him lately. 1Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted a by the devil. 2After fasting forty days and forty nights, he was hungry. 3The tempter came to him and said, “If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread.” 4Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’ b ” 5Then the devil took him to the holy city and had him stand on the highest point of the temple. 6“If you are the Son of God,” he said, “throw yourself down. For it is written: “ ‘He will command his angels concerning you, and they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.’ c ” 7Jesus answered him, “It is also written: ‘Do not put the Lord your God to the test.’ d ” 8Again, the devil took him to a very high mountain and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and their splendor. 9“All this I will give you,” he said, “if you will bow down and worship me.” 10Jesus said to him, “Away from me, Satan! For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only.’ e ” 11Then the devil left him, and angels came and attended him.

@tabithaesau9077

3 жыл бұрын

@@punchbowlhaircut I know!! How cool is it that he quotes scripture! You can tell that the word of God is working in him.

@punchbowlhaircut

3 жыл бұрын

@@tabithaesau9077 Amen!!

@theboombody

2 жыл бұрын

At my son's own request, he started to go to the gym with me this summer. I'd much rather have that than an extra 50 grand a year that I don't need if I'm already making enough to live on.

37, never married, no kids, super chill career, low income, small apartment, don't drink or smoke, no drugs, healthy diet and exercise, and am feeling blessed. I have 13 years of meditation and a deep spiritual practice to back me up though

@isaorozco778

3 жыл бұрын

Just wondering, do you believe in marriage or are you planning to have kids? Again, just wondering? Lol

@peaceplayinsumgames

3 жыл бұрын

@@isaorozco778 Hey Isa, I have no problem with marriage or having kids, they're just not for me. Currently working on the Best Uncle award though :)

@isaorozco778

3 жыл бұрын

@@peaceplayinsumgames ahahha! Well thanks for replying. Maybe one day you will meet the one lol...I get it tho. Good for you! You are clearly following your own path :)

Imagine how society would be like if every educator would have the passion and interest JP has.

@garrywindshield1

3 жыл бұрын

@John Sebastien lol, they don't

@joeking433

3 жыл бұрын

I always thought he was a bumbler who blew a lot of smoke up people's rears.

I've never seen footage of Ben just sitting and doing nothing other then absorbing what's being said, magical

@Amateur_Pianist_472

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah the only time he listens is when he’s hearing what he agrees with.

@karolakkolo123

3 жыл бұрын

@@Amateur_Pianist_472 that's true, but don't we all? At least to an extent

@Amateur_Pianist_472

3 жыл бұрын

@@karolakkolo123 a professional listens and takes notes. Then replies when it’s appropriate.

@karolakkolo123

3 жыл бұрын

@@Amateur_Pianist_472 that's true, but Ben Shapiro is not an intellectual as much as a public speaker and a show host and well, he obviously has ideas that he likes more than others, and same can be said about almost every individual

@Rotinaj37

3 жыл бұрын

It looked like Ben was uncomfortable that Jordan Peterson went off topic and started a weeping rant about people who have more sex than him.

Its so sad that we live in a hook up culture. I was told at the age of 17 to go out, have fun and that one night stands are okay. There's such a big pressure amongst peers from a young age to go out and have sex. It leads to nothing but emptiness and unfulfillment. Even before I met my partner, people were still telling me that having a one night stand is okay, but for me they're not, as they just made me feel dirty and empty. My biggest word of advice would be to save yourself for someone special and not for someone you've just met in a club!

@Jcon4002

Жыл бұрын

I'm only 18 and I think it's sad how normalized hookup culture is, to me it just shows that alot of people nowadays don't have morals anymore and that degeneracy should be praised even though it leads to negative consequences

I spent the last 4 years at Barnard/Columbia. Honestly, if someone saw me watching this video, I would probably get attacked or yelled at. I'm a centrist and couldn't even express my ideas there

@dragginmedown

3 жыл бұрын

Really? That’s fucked. I never went to University/College, I’m a bricklayer. No way I could deal with that shit

@rakimhinds6388

3 жыл бұрын

It's really sad how extremist idiots have so much control over every institution in this era.

@black-aliss

3 жыл бұрын

Yeesh. Looking into different points of view is a crime now.

@alecdorasandler6690

3 жыл бұрын

@@rakimhinds6388 You can thank social media for that.

@charzard1000

3 жыл бұрын

I go to Berklee College of Music which is even MORE liberal and in Boston which is also more liberal than New York. I already know that conservatives don't publicly "exist" there which is scary in and of itself. I'm not even conservative, I'm more moderate but I watch this shit there, I don't give a fuck. I'm lgbt which balances me out in the victim hierarchy. what a world we live in.

“If you’re abstinent because you’re incapable, that is not a virtue.“ Everything this man says has such a concentrated dose of profundity.

@killerboba

3 жыл бұрын

He overdid his doses tho...

@Ignasimp

3 жыл бұрын

@@killerboba you underdid them.

@ProjectUnsoundDineen

3 жыл бұрын

The whole nofap movement lmao

@horemopik2152

3 жыл бұрын

thats common sense lol,how is that so deep?

@killerboba

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ignasimp hmm. I cant remember going to russia. To be put into a come to become less drugaddicted? Then again, u lot are as usuall making shit up. I recon ur still stupid enough to belive in the big steal, antifa did the 6 jan attack, someone named god and any other tales u have been told.

"think about it for 15 mins and see where that takes you" Peterson's empathy is in another level.

@arkine11

3 жыл бұрын

I truly can't believe people call this man hateful, when all he does is care with all his heart.

@MusicaDelCaribe

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao ... empathy? The man is a high traumatized gritter and given his narcissism he probably has either very depleted empathy or none at all

@kittentacticalwarfare1140

3 жыл бұрын

@@MusicaDelCaribe being traumatized doesn't take empathy away from you, as for him being narcissistic, i don't know him personally to claim it so. You can see his body language showcase emotions and you can see pain and even tears crawling from his eyes when he mentions horrifying stuff like that woman having to sell her mother to survive a shit commie regime.

@szepenszoloszolo5177

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately most people don't sit and think 15 mins about anything! Let alone about hard ethical or moral questions! People get upset just from being away from their phone from 15 minutes!

@kittentacticalwarfare1140

3 жыл бұрын

@@szepenszoloszolo5177 don't blame them but despise those who look away, we all should very aware of how bad things are to appreciate how good they are, and become better. 5 mins actually thinking about some human made horrors can drive you insane, not everyone can return safe from chapel perilous.

Jordan mentioning Yeonmi Park is so wholesome. I've read her book recently. It's brutal, I highly recommend it.

We need to bring more of these values back. He is so on point! I appreciate his insight so much!

I usually don't cry for even for the most sentiment events in life but I almost teared up because I could feel Mr.Peterson's frustration and sadness

@nadinedominique414

3 жыл бұрын

Glad I wasn’t the only one!🖤🥺

@nunyabidness6820

3 жыл бұрын

@@nadinedominique414 how often do you watch Mr.Peterson's videos?

@elchuntaro5878

2 жыл бұрын

Same here, if you really do take 15 minutes, and think about these things, they really can get to you, and upset you. The students and children used to be taught that they will become the future leaders of this nation. Now it seems that they are being told that they are nothing, and will most likely become nothing

@lowiq3409

2 жыл бұрын

It was powerful.

@leslielewis7286

2 жыл бұрын

He actually seem choked up by his own words. His compassion for the people he is talking about and his passion for his own message is so powerful. There is honestly no one like him.

I am moved by Dr. Peterson's passion at the end telling the story of the North Korean woman's negative experience at Columbia. About 25 years ago I read an article in Teacher's magazine on a study where high school children who practiced casual sex suffer most not just from STD's or pregnancy, but from the emotional harm of feeling "used" and bereft of deep emotional intimacy that was lost through recreational sex. This is why I hate TV shows like "Friends". Adults acting like immature juveniles going to bed with each other and suffering no consequences of emotional damage from ongoing casual sex , STD's, or pregnancy. Joking about enjoying pornography as if it doesn't color their attitude towards women, or cripples their will to remain loyal to one partner through thick and thin.

@spacecowboy1438

3 жыл бұрын

It's sad when we realize the cultural degeneration in society. Hook-up culture is just another symptom.

@mattm7798

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I mean Friends is a well written show, but there is no such thing as casual sex. There just isn't. It wasn't meant to be. Sex binds people whether they want it to or not. And it binds at a very deep level. You can try to suppress that, but it will eventually fail. It's almost like a drug where the only way your emotions tell you to handle it is just have more sex, to keep trying to fill the bucket that has 10 leaks in it. And that's leaving out all the consequences like spritual health, stds, preganancy, abortions etc.

@ionatana59

3 жыл бұрын

I hate how pornography was spread like a virus to children at high school by the other older children. And i think the problem begins from pornography and the softer stuff spammed in the media and tabloids. Now we have deviants on youtube music disrupting the youth further. They r doing the D E V I L s work

Imagine being so backwards you can dislike/hate someone like JP. This man is an absolute legend.

@killerboba

3 жыл бұрын

Taking life coaching from a drug addict? Good luck with that....

@celinefye384

2 жыл бұрын

In some ways I really like his insight, but in other ways I very much dislike him because he is very generalising sometimes and sometimes can be very stuck in the past on certain subjects.

@damiantirado9616

2 жыл бұрын

JP is indeed backwards tho. He is the typical crazy grandpa

I love how Ben listens and soaks in what is being said without any interruption whatsoever. This is wisdom.

The fact that North Korea survivor compared the attacks on Freedom of Speech in Western universities to those in NK scared the crap out of me...

@RenegadeRanga

3 жыл бұрын

They are bringing communism by the backdoor and political correctness is the tool.

@bighands69

3 жыл бұрын

The difference between North Korea and the west is that the move to Marxism in the west is one of a top down approach rather than a bottom up rebellion. What is happening right now in the west is all centred around propaganda that is trying to convince people that human nature does not exist.

@DanTarrant1

3 жыл бұрын

Eh, that quote struck me as a severe exaggeration. What is the worst thing that is going to happen to an Asian woman at Columbia simply for expressing a view that isn't considered PC? Probably nothing, certainly not being sent to a "re-education" camp or prison.

@thehavoccompany-a3

3 жыл бұрын

@@DanTarrant1 If recent events haven't taught you anything, then bless your naivety.

@CharlieBates47

3 жыл бұрын

@@DanTarrant1 I disagree, she said “stymied” environment. It is the PC atmosphere not the degree of punishment that dictates the emotional environment. In N Korea, One doesn’t think about what to say, you just repeat the training, for fear of death... no thinking involved. At Columbia, you think about what you believe then respond with what the culture allows. I find the later to be more stymied.

The story of the girl from North Korea should make people think hard about the path our society has taken

@Nnlly

3 жыл бұрын

which one?

@Nnlly

3 жыл бұрын

nevermind just got there in the video lol

@ziudra91

3 жыл бұрын

Or just stay away from college

@kueapel911

3 жыл бұрын

The north korean girl's channel is Voice of North Korea by Yeonmi Park if anyone is interested.

@Scottish-Batman

3 жыл бұрын

Actually disgusted... I want to throw up

Man! Ben can seriously let someone talk on interviews. I so appreciate that. He doesn’t interrupt once!

@scintillam_dei

2 жыл бұрын

I also didn't interrupt you. I am impressive too.

I having a conversation about this the other day on KZread. The video was something about sex/porn habits per country and all I did was point out how harmful porn/hook up culture can be, NOT ONE person tried to counter my points. They immediately tried to attack me personally, or tried to flip it on me. No one addressed my points. They just attacked me. People are so addicted to porn/sex and baser pleasures, I seriously think we're devolving as a species.

@shrodingerscat4191

3 жыл бұрын

Take the attack as a badge of honor... Love from Canada

@AllsortPassport

3 жыл бұрын

I had several years of purely just hook ups or fwbs, I didn't want a relationship, I was happy single, but I wanted to have sex. I took the necessary precautions and when I wasn't engaging in hook ups I was studying, working, being with family and friends etc. I was fine and am still fine as are many many other people who do the same thing. Its not all that deep and I don't think it calls for the amount of despair in this comment section where people are ready to practically write off humanity.

@konanxhidan3202

3 жыл бұрын

I *never* watch pornography. (which was an incredible healthy decision) But it can be very difficult because it is basically EVERYWHERE ! In movies, series, ads, music, social media etc. That's the reason why I always avoid social media, dumb movies/series and pop music.

@Feber2001

2 жыл бұрын

Fundamental Attribution Error on their behalf. Just because you disagree with them, they start attacking your character. It's weakness. It's good you stood your ground. Stand to your values even if you stand alone.

@theboombody

2 жыл бұрын

The Bible often speaks against "the world" and the importance of not going down the path "the world" is going down and that really confused me as a kid. Now it makes a lot more sense, and it appears you're seeing that too.

I'm 23 and have only ever had 1 partner, and that's my partner today who I have 2 kids with and getting married in September. But this Generation makes me feel so ashamed of the fact I've only ever been with 1 person and that I'm wrong for doing it. I've never had a desire to be apart of the hook up culture and I'm proud of that, it's just sad that today It's shunned upon if you're not in it.

@JewTube001

3 жыл бұрын

nothing shunned about it really. perhaps you're trying too hard to stay in contact with kids from school.

@Faery_Witch422

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Been with only 1 partner myself and he's my fiance. We've been together for 7 years now actually. But I remember the first 4 years alot of women kept trying to influence me to dump him to see if the grass was greener and telling me "how do you know he's the one if he's all you ever known" or "if there's a 1st there's usually a 2nd and 3rd". And to have my "hoe phase" and "play the game" while I'm still young Lol I thought finding a partner was about finding a soulmate, not monkey branching frome dude to dude until you're all dried and used up to where you turn desperate. I'm already in love and the chemistry we have is real and much more valuable than meaningless attention from differen't dudes. If a woman wants to find *love* then she needs to start looking deeper than just what a man can financially do for them. Love him for HIM, and not what he can give you. Be his best friend, his safe place.

@JudgmentallyRS

3 жыл бұрын

@@Faery_Witch422 couldn't have said it any better! It's a shame where our generations views lay

@bigmonkee639

3 жыл бұрын

Huge respect mate. You're a lucky fella

@KiRetteCouture

2 жыл бұрын

Please, know this. There is NOTHING to be ashamed of. The hook up culture has a dark side many don't want to talk about. Loneliness and pain quickly follow the so-called high.

That was deep. And the fact that the Korean woman said is freaking scary.

@iggyg1370

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing.

@Secretfiles999

3 жыл бұрын

@@ivatrump6000go away you bots. Nobody cares about your spam links

@shelaughs185

3 жыл бұрын

Read her book. It's eye-opening. N. Korea has her in their sights.

@AerysTMD

3 жыл бұрын

"She said that she felt just about as stymied in her freedom of speech at Columbia University, studying humanities, as she did in bloody North Korea." Deep & quite unfortunate indeed. America's suppose to be the bastion of freedom & liberty but the widespread indoctrination in schools toxifies the next generation to become the drone NPCs subservient to the hive, the radical identitarian totalitarian wokecists.

@chickadychick

3 жыл бұрын

@@shelaughs185 what is the name of her book? And her name? Not sure I caught her name

One of the many things I will always love about this man is his ability to speak from the heart in such an unfiltered manner. His incredible ability to say things that are so hard to say, where most people would just avoid the thought if it was too intense or controversial to deliver, or try and deliver it in a sugar coated version. He's not afraid to be vulnerable to criticism and say it like it is.

One thing is clear: the American higher education system needs serious change.

@scintillam_dei

2 жыл бұрын

In most cases interent makes it obsolete since internet provides the same misinformation but far cheaper.

"If you are really cynical, then you move past cynicism. You doubt your doubt and you start to notice, and you engage in your life." (4:25) A quote if there ever was one!

@33Jenesis

3 жыл бұрын

Anger, doubt, and hate dont come from true cynical minds but adaptability and a sense of freedom do.

@jebby16

3 жыл бұрын

I suffer from severe cynicism. I can't seem to shake it. 😞

@grzegorz9690

3 жыл бұрын

English is not my primary lang. Can someone explain what this quote means exactly? @Daniel Stöbener

@gel3009

3 жыл бұрын

@@jebby16 i used to be really cynical but i dug deeper and it took a long while but the suffering lead me to truths that set me free

@TressBraga

3 жыл бұрын

"Doubt your doubts" is one of the most powerful ideas I've incorporated in my life.

We are living in awful times in regards to relationships, i find hookup culture genuinely gross. The problem is it is such a widespread common thing these days. I even got called an incel by some people who support it for wanting to have a meaningful, more traditional relationship. It is really depressing.

@umiluv

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t think those people understand what a relationship even is. I feel sorry for them.

@Untitled182

3 жыл бұрын

Some of those people who just accuse people of being incels are insecure and have been hurt in the past. So they try to improperly cope by attacking others. The people who defend hookup culture don’t realize how much damage it’s doing to both the people constantly hooking up and the people trying to pursue relationships.

@natc1463

3 жыл бұрын

There are still people who believe in meaningful relationships and marriage. I got married at 18, and we'll celebrate our 10th anniversary this summer. Marriage is not easy but so worth it if you put the time into it. I think people in the hook up culture feel bad and lonely, and just like when a crab tries to escape and the others pull him back in, they are trying to keep you in their miserable environment. It's much nicer knowing who you're going to wake up to each day, because you've both made the commitment to be together for better and worse no matter what happens for life.

@Hungabrigoo

3 жыл бұрын

Just don't forget that you need to get into relationships if you actually want to find a meaningful one.

@lm6501

3 жыл бұрын

It’s not an either or thing. You can enjoy having casual hookups and still find someone to have a romantic relationship. The true tragedy is pigeon holing and not experiencing everything life has to offer.

This one hurts. Relationships have always ended for me because my partner simply never actually loved me and was just searching for another person to use as a sexual object. I love to live and I live to love but all I've found is people who just use sex like a drug. Life has been quite difficult for someone who puts so much value into things that people actively hate like simply being a religious, I don't know what to say I just hope and pray that other men and women are able to stay strong and not got hurt and used like me.

@johannvorbei189

2 жыл бұрын

maybe its you

You can see the love in Ben's eyes for this man lol. I love them both so it's okay. Thank you for giving us 20 year olds a foundation for life.

Numerous times during 2020 I thought to myself alone in my house “I wish I could hear what Jordan Peterson has to say about this”. I’m glad he’s back. We need him and people like him.

I respect this man so much you can hear the passion and the empathy in his voice on how people are being robbed of their future

@pennyappellatia

3 жыл бұрын

Trying to understand who is being robbed of their future. Aren't they all responsible for their own outcomes?

@vondred

3 жыл бұрын

@@pennyappellatia When you invest in a person and they give you information and you go out and you see that that information correlates with watch on the news and websites and then you find out that they lied to you all for the sake of profit it’s hard to understand you’re getting manipulated if you were never taught before therefore you are getting robbed

And Shapiro was quiet, attentive and never interrupted once. That's a great interviewer. This video would have been 4 times as long had it been Oprah interviewing.

Ben's silence is really deep, as if Jordan was speaking to his heart.

@scintillam_dei

2 жыл бұрын

Bathroom break.

I love how Ben just listens and doesn’t micromanage his interviews. I get he’s known for debate and commentary, but he definitely deserves credit for his interview skills.

@jacobj3491

3 жыл бұрын

Debate Ben is like a completely different person than interview Ben

@tonyredgrave3839

3 жыл бұрын

@Becs McKay agreed

@just_a_turtle_chad

3 жыл бұрын

Jordan Peterson spreads his anti-semitic conspiracy theory.

@glassmw9823

3 жыл бұрын

@@just_a_turtle_chad 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

@noobjitsu1743

3 жыл бұрын

@@just_a_turtle_chad Your joke aint that funny

Love it: "Man does not live by bread alone is not religious claptrap." Amen.

@sgbabie

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t get it

@kolt9307

3 жыл бұрын

@@sgbabie As humans we need more than just food and shelter. that can only get us so far. its important we have relationships and love as well

@byronloves7472

3 жыл бұрын

@@kolt9307 and most importantly, a relationship with our originator and Creator: God

I think the problem is that when you are young, there is a huge amount of pressure to lose your virginity. And if you didnt have an upbringing which taught you the kind of lessons Jordan talks about, its easy to feel like a loser or that your missing out if you dont start sleeping with people. As an older person, I kind of wish I could go back and tell my younger self that sex should only be for meaningful relationships and its ok to not have sex and to wait.

@taleoftwowolves74

2 жыл бұрын

Relationships give you something to lose and come with a lot more difficulty and pain I think people overexaggerate the 'damage' that hook ups do

This man is a modern day Aristotle. Even though his words will be immortalised, we need to take advantage of his wisdom as their are but few humans in this world alive today that truly care. You can see his pain... It's incredibly inspiring... Thank you Jordan Peterson.

@Illlium

2 жыл бұрын

Never has a comparison so apt been made.

I currently go to one of the Ivy League schools and live in its dorms. The other day my computer's headset broke, and the dorms here have "thin" walls and you hear a lot of the stuff going on in your dormmate's rooms. Because of this and the fact my headset broke, every time I watch one of the videos from creators I enjoy like Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro, Steven Crowder, and others, I put the volume on very low so only I can hear it and none of my dormmates can for fear of them ostracizing me for the content I chose to engage with. It's the same thing while in public, I have one conservative friend, and whenever we discuss politics we are constantly mindful of who is around. It can definitely feel like a mild version of a censoring authoritarian regime. A few years ago I would laugh at someone acting like this and see it as they overreacting, but the climate is changing so fast at my school that this and worse may be the norm surprisingly soon.

@stupidanon5941

3 жыл бұрын

Get out before someone accuses you of something you didn't do.

@armandolapeda5367

3 жыл бұрын

Watch your 6 boss

@charliecinnella9090

3 жыл бұрын

Fuck them, listen to what you want.

@ethank.3201

3 жыл бұрын

Which Ivy do you go to? I’m going to Rice and but am very familiar with Penn and Columbia.

@christopherarmstrong2710

3 жыл бұрын

What you just described is referred to as the ‘chilling effect.’ 95% of all higher education these days is a corrupt form of brainwashing. Keep your mind open and please don’t forget to read books for the pleasure of learning about topics which you want to read about - not only the ones prescribed in the classroom. I recommend joining Goodreads to find other passionate readers and to find new book recommendations. Reading has changed my life!

Hook up is just another word for escaping loneliness... People fill their void using people which can never be filled by others but only by self.... Stay single... Love yourself and the right ones will come by... To find the right one... You must be the right one...

@Riosgirl98

3 жыл бұрын

Amen to that!!!

@DoppaD

3 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@assistanttotheregionalmana3002

3 жыл бұрын

@@KrisVic91 That sounds like denial.

@jebediahkerman8245

3 жыл бұрын

The solution to loneliness is meaningful connection with other humans. Yes, hookups are not meaningful connection, but neither should you be isolating yourself from people, either. The advice of “just love yourself” is both ineffective and highly narcissistic. The self is not sufficient, and JP would agree.

@jebediahkerman8245

3 жыл бұрын

​@@KrisVic91 If you don't like JP's personality for whatever reason, I suggest you instead go directly to the source and educate yourself about the social science surrounding the issue. JP is mostly just a delivery vehicle for social science, and the fact that so many people ignore everything he says because some of his opinions are shit shows that these people prioritize their ideology over science, which says a lot.

I am so thankful for Jordan Peterson. His lectures and his lessons are an invaluable source of guidance in my life. As a woman who was raised by a single-mother who embodied the archtypical negative feminine characteristics he talks about, I really needed some sort of good masculine example to show me the way to heal from past trauma. SO SO THANKFUL.

Jordan seemed near tears at times. This topic is really important to him...to all of us.

@theboombody

2 жыл бұрын

It probably is the direct cause of A LOT of problems we currently have that initially seem unrelated.

You can see the intense passion and emotion within his eyes and his tone. This guy really cares and this guy is really smart. He’s rarely ever wrong and is one of the best men that has walked this earth in quite some time. This man is pure gold.

@LeavingCaladan

3 жыл бұрын

brainwashed

@san8508

3 жыл бұрын

@@LeavingCaladan at least there’s a brain to clean

@gug8774

3 жыл бұрын

Why would it matter if he is mostly right. Just because he said something doesnt mean everyone should follow.

@C3rdito

3 жыл бұрын

@@gug8774 i'm guessing you couldn't follow his advice even if you tried. Not everybody can handle the truth, especially those that think truth doesn't matter. i'm guessing this is a coping mechanism for those that know how lost they are and don't want to go through the hardships that correcting their ways inevitably brings.

@gug8774

3 жыл бұрын

@@C3rdito k

You can tell from the passion in Dr. Peterson’s voice how much he cares about our country.

@tomquimby8669

3 жыл бұрын

Humanity, does not live in one country. he speaks to all who are wise enough to listen.

@umiluv

3 жыл бұрын

He cares about people and he cares about the success of the classical liberal western world. He knows a lot about the horrors of human history.

Every time Jordan speaks so passionately he easily brings me close to tears. He gives me hope.

There's no value in quantity when it comes to sexual encounters. I ALWAYS felt empty after random hook ups, Making love is criminally underrated.

"Being abstinent because you're incapable does not make you virtuous". That really hit hard

@charlesbell5500

3 жыл бұрын

That's what he means when he says stuff like "you have to be a gentle monster" or something like that. Basically, you have to be capable of it, but you should choose not to do it. In other words, the reason you don't get casual sex shouldn't be that you CAN'T get it, it should be that you don't want it because you're pursuing something more meaningful (marriage).

@ClaudiusJovianus

3 жыл бұрын

The Stoics treat this subject extensively, too.

@noo343

3 жыл бұрын

@@ClaudiusJovianus prostitutes aren't cheap and some of us are non religious and conservative..where the fuck is a women lol

@karolakkolo123

3 жыл бұрын

@@abbiealverez2960 have we really evolved past basic human needs? Just because we have technology doesn't mean we still don't fight in wars with each other, that we aren't more lonely despite being more connected over the internet, that we don't need a romantic partner to be able to bear the weights of our lives. And sex, well, maybe it's not necessary to have tens of children like long time ago, when few of them weren't predicted to survive, but it still connects you deeper with a romantic partner. You might argue that sex actually makes you more remote from the person, but that's not true if both of you are essentially friends and romantic with each other as well. Sex just by itself is obviously empty, but it's the integration of it in your successful relationship that makes it even more meaningful. And there are plenty of studies on the positive mental aspects of sex as well

@valthiriansunstrider2540

3 жыл бұрын

@@karolakkolo123 Sex isn't a basic human need, it's a basic human urge, i.e. to reproduce. Sex by itself or in a relationship, is almost always empty because it is degrading when used outside of its intended purpose: the creation of new bodies.

The man is something special, his feelings/beliefs are genuine and it’s evident by watching him talk for 2 minutes..

Jordan Peterson and Ben Shapiro coming together are most definitely my favorite conversations to observe. So much substance to these conversations. Real substance.

@will6058

Жыл бұрын

A conversation? It's just JP monologuing lmao.

“True freedom can’t lean on anything. It’s transient, lonely and arduous, you can't hope for security or reward beyond it.” Kazuho Yoshii - Texhnolyze

@triphophoney2981

3 жыл бұрын

Oooooh, good one!

@basiaszendrei1603

3 жыл бұрын

What does it even mean? What is true freedom??

Hookup life is like chasing a high that rarely comes, and even when it does, leaves quickly

@Sh0n0

3 жыл бұрын

So much like all addictive and expedient pleasures

@LordSantiagor

3 жыл бұрын

Hook up with better people and do it properly: sober, mindful, honest. It's like enjoying a prime steak vs binge eating Cheetos.

@SAMSARALIVEEEEEE

3 жыл бұрын

@@LordSantiagor Good people are very hard to find fam

@briansardinas1359

3 жыл бұрын

@@LordSantiagor what is honest about sleeping with a person one day and leaving them the day after? It going back on the intimacy that was expressed mutually through your bodies.

@blingboyalex4239

3 жыл бұрын

Only girls can hook up often

My son becoming a truly good man is my life’s dream. I hope I can influence him more than the culture that surrounds him.

How is sex “not a big deal” when the act of making love creates a child. I will never understand people. It hurts me on a spiritual level.

I'm so worried now about Jordan. He's been sick and here he is so emotional. So upset and frustrated. He strikes me as such a good man. He doesn't deserve to have to watch society be destroyed like this.

@masterdevoe2519

2 жыл бұрын

He'll manage. If the society is destroyed, then thete won't be anything left to worry about anyways.

I'm single in my late 20s and never had a one night stand. I tell people I'm waiting for the right person to marry and they look at me like I'm weird. This culture is depraved for sure.

@van_creative

3 жыл бұрын

the ones who think it's weird have no respect for their souls or their bodies. Essentially they have no standards and would make horrible marriage partners. Better to be alone until you find someone who shares your values

@pariah825

3 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with that at all. By the time you meet someone, you will be very grateful that you were patient. God bless.

@divine0enigma

3 жыл бұрын

Involuntarily abstinence is not a virtue.

@firingallcylinders2949

3 жыл бұрын

@@divine0enigma It's voluntary not involuntary.

@GreenGearMood

3 жыл бұрын

@@pariah825 Chances that he's not gonna meet someone. I didn't.

I’ve dealt with a lot of this myself in my dating life. I haven’t met anyone who really wants something deeper than a superficial relationship.

@arighteousname5882

3 жыл бұрын

You're probably just lame.🤷🏾‍♂️

@jj_grabes

3 жыл бұрын

@@arighteousname5882 it’s possible. I’ve also realized I’ve had a lot I can sort out with myself and am taking more time to this past week and from here on out.

@crispyhoneybun1607

3 жыл бұрын

You’re not lame. If you want to find someone interested in getting married you really need to connect on a religious and political level and also have important goals with each other. Like buying a house or having kids.

@jj_grabes

3 жыл бұрын

@Dindu I’m a guy. Last girl I met who showed interest in me was simultaneously dating another guy without my knowledge.

@arighteousname5882

3 жыл бұрын

@The higher arc My insecurities? How's that?

I like so much the passion both of you put when speaking about something, it really gets me thinking and I am so glad my family follows each of you because they get great knowledge from hearing you!! Thank you so much because it is really necessary to do something about our young ones who get to see only tv series and play games, instead if they read, study, listen to your podcasts and great interviews,etc will make their minds brilliant instead of just following programs that just leaves them void of wisdom!! Thank you!!!

Great to hear two legends speak on something that is so important. It is always encouraging to see the number of people who are listening as well increasing over time. It's depressing to witness- to our children's detriment- some of the brightest spotlights are on those who spew verbal filth all over them in their classrooms, on Social Media, music videos, movies, the News, commercials, on college campuses, etc. I would love to hear both of them discuss the topic of _The Teachers Union_ . What is happening in schools is extremely disconcerting, and I believe it's vital for the mass majority (who will not have their children attending private schools) to know how to deal with this issue. It is a very touchy situation, as it feels as if there is no reasoning with those who are so immersed in this disturbing way of life. To "poke the bear" could result in them digging in deeper, behaving even _more_ erratically. I've heard many stories from teachers who even lost their _jobs_ because they wouldn't comply with these new courses, or were uncomfortable with the new guidelines of how they should speak or behave in front of the students. Anyways- sorry for the novel! haha

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

@Isaiah53_John3.16_ChangeUrLife

3 жыл бұрын

Yes❤ that's why people shouldn't have sex before marriage.

@DeathsInverse

3 жыл бұрын

And then they get divorced and lose half of what they worked for

@TotallyJoel

3 жыл бұрын

@@Isaiah53_John3.16_ChangeUrLife Absolutely not

@mistercontroversial

3 жыл бұрын

@@Isaiah53_John3.16_ChangeUrLife Exactly.

@lfemme1075

3 жыл бұрын

That means forgive your parents for their mistakes so your traumas arent brought into the marriage, particularly from mama. Words of wisdom: Mother's "love" will destroy the union. Move FAR away from the parents & create a new life w a family. It's God's order.

Damn, Jordan getting choked up at the end really lets you know how disappointed he is with the education system today. On JRE he literally told Joe to send his kids to trade school, that coming from a man who is himself a professor.

@lancedolphmalsi8146

3 жыл бұрын

May you provide to me the link of that interview or at least a clip of it? I feel sorry for myself I did not get to watch as much JBP vids as I could..

@AxemanMessiah

3 жыл бұрын

I had similar feelings along with other factors which led to dropping out of college; I went to a trade school after but at the end got into entrepreneurship. I regretted dropping out for the first 10 years since doing so, then after seeing similar-thinking people who did attend, it provided clarity about my choices. It turned out just fine, this divine intelligence is always taking care of us!

@morenitomoreno1282

3 жыл бұрын

This guy is supposed to be an "alpha"? He's constantly crying, he's clearly still not over his depression. He should be dealing with that first

@Smi77y1

3 жыл бұрын

@@morenitomoreno1282 emotion does not equal depression.

@MachoMaamRandallSandwich

3 жыл бұрын

@@morenitomoreno1282 Well I mean both him and his wife came inches from death so yeah I'd probs be emotional too lol

Today’s culture in relationships, it’s so sad. People now just hooking up for sex, and not realizing there is more to being with someone. Left my ex 2yrs ago, and never had the desire since to “hook” up with anyone. I focused on myself, and if I meet someone it will never be a hook up, it will lead to marriage and romance. This is me, but not everyone will understand the deep connection to be with someone not just for sex, but for everything else.

@MusicaDelCaribe

3 жыл бұрын

You need to study the history of human relationships, im sorry to pop your romanticized view of society bubble.. but relationships for most of western society were not about love.. and all about property rights.

@princesspeach7496

2 жыл бұрын

What if i told you people DO realize there is more to being with someone, but they are for whatever reason incapable or uninterested in a relationship at that time being. You are not a respectable person for not wanting casual sex, just like you aren't a respectable person for wanting casual sex, so i'm not sure why you're on a moral high horse looking down on people who do engage in casual sex while boasting about not engaging in any.

@vb2806

2 жыл бұрын

But people don't want to be with someone, they want to be with everyone. If someone gave you an option of eternal youth what would you do? Settle down with someone or be promiscuous?

@Feber2001

2 жыл бұрын

Ignore these other comments. It's a good thing that you're seeking a healthy and stable connection with someone

I don’t see how dehumanizing someone down to an object of sexual pleasure isn’t considered taboo or wrong.

@hyperteleXii

2 жыл бұрын

Your statement contains so many negatives I can't actually parse what you're saying. You... see how humanizing sexual partners *is* considered a taboo?

@toji6952

2 жыл бұрын

@@hyperteleXii no. How is humanizing your sexual partners considered taboo?

@hyperteleXii

2 жыл бұрын

@@toji6952 So can you rephrase your original statement to make it more understandable?

@toji6952

2 жыл бұрын

@@hyperteleXii I don’t understand how in todays society, hookup culture, having sex with strangers, and things of that nature are being wildly accepted and is considered a good thing, but in reality when you have sex with strangers and live a promiscuous lifestyle like that you are essentially reducing both yourself and the other person down to a sexual object for yourself and/or for the other person. People are obviously more than just that but when you do stuff like that on a consistent basis, you are removing the humanity or the connectivity in sex that really makes it so great in the first place (hence why I said it’s dehumanizing), you’re just looking to get off ,which is fine, but I don’t understand why that’s being portrayed as a good or a healthy thing to do that often. Removing those said connections makes it hard to reattach them when you want to (like when you’re in a serious relationship for example) It just seems backwards to me that it’s being promoted rather than seen as a taboo thing( not taboo enough to be ostracized but taboo enough to be it’s own niche or community I guess)

@hyperteleXii

2 жыл бұрын

@@toji6952 Thanks, now I understand :)