Sometimes talking, gets others talking. If you tallk a lot then they start to talk. Also, pepple need to know you. If you talk a lot they get to know you if you are honest, or think they do. Also it makes it easier for them to know if you are or are not honest. You need to talk to them. Also apologising forr things helps them to know you. I used to think I wouild sound as if I were just making excuses if I excused myself but doing so, your reasons or excuses allow people to know you better in the long run, so to enjoy your company more.

You said somewhere else, that Tammy was averse to you being too rough on your son while you felt you were teaching him what you needed to teach a young male,.how to be rougher in preparation for adult male life. Maybe rough, like having what you have said changed by those who take one sentence out of context in a long talk of yours and so make you look extremly iiliberal as Sam Harris mentioned happenibg to him. People lying to get rid of competiers. . I listened to your whole piece on sex change operatio s and found you liberal though I have heard people speak as if you were being extremly illberal on the subject. those who only read the introduction thought you very rough about it. I watched the whole of t and you said, you thought psychiatrists allowed people to have such an operation after just one visit to a psychiatrist when this is an operation that will leave them sterile. You only thought psychiatrists should be more careful about such a decision. You were not insensitive to their desire to be of the other sex. I listened to a tallk of yours in which you were talking about your son, you talked of making him sit on a rock to think forr some longish time or some such. The only thing I remember well about it was that I thought that you were being a bit rough on him, more especiañly so as you said that you could not in general pay much attention to him as your daughter, who was ill, took up so much time I thouggt this meant that you needed to be more slow and careful with him. . I also thought that he was a bit young for that bit of disciplining. You talk here as if Tammy could not have been right about such things. I think that maybe, on occasions, she could have been the right one. Also, I know that men have never explained to me that necessary toughness you say you need to teach men. You do not want them to take the reins? So how could Tammy understand your points of view. It was perhaps your fault that she did not get it. If you had taught her to have a mans advantage she would, maybe have understood you. You seem to me to be very good in some ways at the horrible dangerous world of opinion to be good at tge necessary toughness. I have never heard one person always being right. You sound here, as if she wete never right.

Petersen. Your married life sounds terrible. It sounds as if you cannot talk to her and as if she is never reasonable. Do you know how psychiatrists, are sometimes useful to people, when these learn new ideas but dont jetison old contradicting ones or work out the apparent contrasiction in such. Psychiatry has so many feikds. Psyciatrists ask them to look at the two ideas and jettison one. You have dealt with men and women in your practice, you sound happy enough when you talk of such but when you talk of marriage you sound terrible inefficient. When you talk of interelationships between husbands and wives I loose my admiration of you. . The woman might be married to a narcisist. Then what would you explain to her? . If you talk of marriage, do you relapse into some old fashioned attitudes that you learnt as a child and have forgotten to tidy out of your world veiw. I read a book that relates to a branch of psychiatrt that holds the opinion that we try to live our adult life in the ways we have been taught as a child are right for adults of our sex and this brings people problems. It was a book called, "Opinions men hold,"and said such things as some men feel their job is to bring home the cash and then the wives have a bad time because they would like the man to also help keepig the children occupied as well as bringing home the cash. The wives of such leave them and the man feels confused. He feels that as he bought hme the cash he did right. What would you explain to the wife of such a man when she spoke of her problems getting him to intereact with her or the kids. Another male type they gave was the seargent major, a disciplinerean. Of course the wife of such will want to walk, Faced with such a person, do you like being marched around? What would you say about her complaints? You talk asif the wife never haf something valid to say, her husband mght be the same and feel she shoud find a sargeant major fine In marriage such things as being ignored and shut up at time, happen. Also getting your limbs broken. The wives are making reasonable complaints. Yo say it is just impossible to understand them.