RECLAIM: The Retreat www.reclaimtheretreat.com

@swasom

Жыл бұрын

I am pleased to participate in this women dis6

I think a good first step is: Forgiveness We need to forgive ourselves for defining ourselves by everything outside of ourselves. We need start living inside out, and not outside in.

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

YES to this Tawanda! We sometimes have a hard time showing ourselves the same grace we show to others.

This was right on time. I've been selfless all my life and it's done nothing but harm me. I'm ready to be selfish 2023 and every year following

@AdaliaAborisade

Жыл бұрын

It's time to choose yourself.

@dews3340

Жыл бұрын

I have been very selfish all my life. I was the first one in my family to get a USA Passport and leave the USA in the 1970s. My life has been amazing..... Child free

@notjessica828

Жыл бұрын

@Dews I am 31 and childless (one cat though), passport ready to go. 2023 is looking like the year I finally part with this life and country.

@notjessica828

Жыл бұрын

@@AdaliaAborisade I will never be able to express my gratitude for you ladies. You guys show me that it is possible and obtainable. I'm forever grateful.

@brenYah2020

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

I've had all of those adjectives assigned to me from "different" ,"weirdo", "funny-actin'", etc. However, in exercising my power to define myself, I prefer the word, AUTHENTIC!

@AdaliaAborisade

Жыл бұрын

I love "authentic"

"no ones checking for your hasppiness" we have to take care of ourselves so true

BLACK WOMEN ARE GORGEOUSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

@Originaltuber

Жыл бұрын

Omg yes! ❤

I was reflecting yesterday how Black women regardless of sexual orientation are OWNED by Black men & the Black community. The whole script for who we fall in love with & the community servitude that follows. I see Black women perpetuating it most by being attached to dating Black men in an OBLIGATORY sense "For the Race"....when Black men aren't checkin' for Black Women like that yet in the same breath enforcing that Black women maintain their posts.

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

I'm not loyal to anything not loyal to me. Not a job. Not a man. Not a country.

@catmouse2882

Жыл бұрын

This💯 All of this💯 I cringe when I here Black women talking about dating Black men like it's a stint in the Army....or because they want Black babies. As if there are NOT other races and ethnicities in the world that can give you brown babies BESIDES Black men. I don't desire Black men and looking back on my life I never did. I knew I wanted a life of ease and softness. And being tethered to Black men would NEVER give me that. EVER!!! And living withing the Black community, would NEVER allow me to at ease and soft. Black women DESERVE to selfish, carefree, soft, and taken care of. 🥰

@deew1160

Жыл бұрын

Black men DON'T care anything about the well-being of Black women.

@chocolateradiance7216

Жыл бұрын

I am owned by no one..I have detached. The only ppl I am currently loyal to are my children and sometimes that's a struggle for me. I always thought I was odd and had something to prove because I come from a very unstable black single mother and we didn't have much. So I fought to have based on what my family thought of us but then I realized regardless of what I had (material wise) they would judge me anyway and I eventually stopped caring. That made everyone mad but I don't care

@user-eu2me4bp7j

Жыл бұрын

Not only are BM not checking for us but they are constantly tearing us down while uplifting nonblack women. Why BW remain loyal to a group of men that dont GAF about you as a collective is beyond me 🤷🏽‍♀️

Start with showing yourself "self compassion first."

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! 💗

I have two words for 2023: BREAKTHROUGH and DISCOVERY

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

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Fearless is my word and I'm nolonger telling people what I do, I'm going to say whatever I want. I just love your channel. I'm introvert, moody and weird.

@AdaliaAborisade

Жыл бұрын

It is very freeing to say "I do whatever I want"

@234forte

Жыл бұрын

@@AdaliaAborisade Yes it is, you ladies are an inspiration!

@Crip4lyfe

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@jeanettesdaughter

Жыл бұрын

You may be moody, IDK but don’t be your own best critic. Here’s the thing, you Jay be like me INTJ - introvert ( rich inner life not externally motivated; N for intuitive ( often mistaken for moody!) ; thinking ( no women allowed especially not Black) and judging as in discerning not judge mental, and the response to us doing that is how dare you ⁉️ Well, some of us , we dare. It’s called choice. You may not be Neuro divergent INTJ like me but you may not be weird or moody either - just countercultural. A swan among geese. Whatever. Have it your way. Black women are already so deserving of the good life.

I am so happy to see this channel come across my "third EYE"!! The so-called world is falling apart due to black women are not suffering anymore. And upholding this system. Let others hold up this madness!!! BYE

Take time to schedule relaxation to mitigate stress and definitely get away from toxic situations. Too many of us are stroking out and it's not worth it.

@dews3340

Жыл бұрын

Not me......... Still child free at age seventy

When Adalia say “funny acting” I Hollered! So relatable ! im the same I’m funny acting too and I am embracing it.

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

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I'm quitting my job next month, because it's so stressful and moving in with my mom in another State, so I can work part-time and work on my business. I also love to travel so cutting down on work would give me peace and allow me to focus on exploring more. I'm a Therapist of 13 years, so it's time to focus on my own mental health.

My new mantra is, "I am NOT long-suffering." Saying that to some folk in my community circle gives me an experience of their silence. I love it; their silence let's me know they've heard me & I've not just planted a seed but also watered it.

My 2023 word is Delight (Instead of regret). I will delight myself in the Lord. I will create opportunities to change regrets to delights. This meeting was so on time. I’ll be 60 in September and I plan to change some things around for sure.

BLACK "EXCELLENCE" = SELF SACRIFICE

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

We're so over it.

My word for the year is “thrive!!”

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

I love it Audrey! 🌿

"Failure is not fatal." Thank you, I needed that!

Such a rewarding video. I’m so happy to see black women creating the new wave of ease. This movement is going global ❤

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

ISSA MOVEMENT!!! 🙌🏾 🙌🏾

@Tinab275

Жыл бұрын

It really is Hav Inspires. This is a whole movement long overdue. I love my tribe ❤️.

Another topic I love and can relate so much to. I’ve felt so unappreciated by family, jobs and friends. I’m approaching 40 soon and have promised myself that the next decade is all about my happiness 1st, including traveling alone and not waiting on others.

I am asserting the mastery of my real self I turn 70 past Dec.

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the Real You! 💗

@yes_anotherone3260

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! It's inspiring to see black women at ALL AGES take ourselves on. I'm about to be 58.

@solacemarddia6364

Жыл бұрын

Thank you , I am so glad that I could communicate with you all for myself I have moved from state to state looking for where I could settle 1977 it started. There was Always someone or something to bring me back and now with your help and the new found me I Got It

@solacemarddia6364

Жыл бұрын

Oh maybe I can start from 5 years old that is all I can remember, life begins that's it this is where my story begins yes I have earned this journey my sister's

@chavaliernsharps159

Жыл бұрын

@@yes_anotherone3260 yes I just made 35 last week and I've always been so enamored with the wisdom and energy of older Black women throughout my lifetime! I really love Black women who love Black women! ❤️

My Daughter, her daughters and her friends have been traveling since she was her early 20's. She always invited me but I had a very demanding job, couldn't go somewhere and get stuck. Now I am retired and I want to travel, I have ever gotten rid of my biggest fear Airplanes 😄🤣.

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you've worked on getting over that fear and are LIVING!! 💗

@furaha1855

Жыл бұрын

I too have a big fear of flying but looking forward to travelling, anyways. Thanks to Stephanie & this community for the inspiration.

@chocolateradiance7216

Жыл бұрын

Alright now!!!

I enjoy being around older women. They are positive and share wisdom and truth which I love.

My word for 2023 is Clarity. ❤

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

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Shout out to the BW in the live chat and comments section! So much encouragement. I choose me!

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!! 💗

Beautiful community of black women. Thank you so much ladies. 💗 💗💗

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for joining us @Love Supreme! 💗

"our minds are on our side." wooooooow!!!🔥🔥🔥

EXACTLY where I am!! I’m working night shift and HATE IT!! Tired of having no work life balance and ALWAYS being tired!! I know what I want and my word is LIMITLESS ALSO!!! I’ve been considering getting it tattooed. My concern is having a toddler and the guilt of taking him away from Dad to move where I want to be. And I don’t know how to get there… This is why these videos have been sent. 🙏🏾

I thoroughly enjoyed this TED talk, I mean conversation. Stephaine the trailblazer and amazing facilitator. Ivana the breath of fresh air. And Adaila is just BAD (in a very Good way)! This conversation resonated with me in so many ways! Tfs

Joy! I'm going to do everything that brings me joy ❤️

@travisscott2678

Жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@dews3340

Жыл бұрын

I have been giving Joy to myself all my life... age 70 speaking 3 foreign languages French Russian and Spanish and child free

@sharoncoleman2836

Жыл бұрын

@@dews3340 that's amazing! I'd like to talk to you more about how you were able to make those choices for yourself.

@dews3340

Жыл бұрын

@@sharoncoleman2836 late seeing your reply. Sharon I knew early in life I wanted to travel and live abroad back in the 1970s. I was the first one in my family to get a USA in. My parents were supportive and encouraging to me as their only child. I had good parents. I'm an only child. Being selfish is very comfortable to me. I never cared about what others think about me. It's my life. I enjoyed living in Montreal Canada, solo. my life has been amazing. Lots of leisure fun and money! I was in Central America in 1999...... Stay safe traveling

ALL 2023 AND BEYOND!!

@dews3340

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Thankfully I left blackistan decades ago. My life has been amazing.... Child free for life, age 70 speaking 3 foreign languages French Russian and Spanish

@brwnhilarybanks9953

Жыл бұрын

@@dews3340 amen dews!!! well I turned 33 in oct, am child free right now. And I really hope with how this Auston shit is unfolding and his brethren coming to the comments opens black women's eyes this year! Fox Houston just posted him and passport bros are now mainstream like they wanted.

@dews3340

Жыл бұрын

@@brwnhilarybanks9953 agree. However I married only, foreigners, no regrets, again, child free for life, lots of leisure

My two words are mindful and hopeful.

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

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Boundaries

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

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I’m a new subscriber and I love it here! So many gems dropped in this video. I love how Stephanie said we need to unlearn the thought that we only hold value unless we have achieved something great that places us in the category of “black excellence.” That was so freeing to hear.

My word for the Year is -- BREAKTHROUGH-- With specifics to financial independence/freedom & abundance.

I'm just starting this video, but I just love to see you melanated beauties 😍😍😍. 3 unambiguous black women - I love to see it. ❤️

Had to pause this video...to replay the beginning and take this IN.. I mean really hear this .. This is on so many levels the gospel

Yes black women deserve happiness too! I don’t do anything that doesn’t make me happy

Good morning Sistas! Great to see positivity! I move between the States, France, and Africa (with actual homes in two places). I agree that it is time for the younger generation to start focusing on self-improvement. Starts with loving self. Before I leave keep growing, be confident, it's ok to be solo (with some true "squad members for support), and be safe.

My first time watching this video. 12-23-2023. I am so enjoying it. Stephanie, I personally think you are an amazing woman. I've NEVER known Black women to get along properly. I'm 74 years old. I know what I'm talking about. I'm so glad that I have always liked myself. I 'm a loner and I can keep myself company. Your channel is too good to be true. It's no wonder that some of the ladies are afraid to take the first step. Thanks for sharing.😊

The new Word for my life FEMININE finding my feminine for the first time in my life.

My word for the year is "truth".

Regret ain't nothin' but a learning experience! Give thanks for the lesson!

My word is free

This was SO great Stephanie! And right on time after our 1-1 yesterday. Many of us have the same concerns and it gave me a lot for my own coaching biz & starting my channel. Btw- I meant to tell you that my son calls your Summit ‘The international summit of successful black women.’ because we’re all becoming successful at embracing ease, travel, & supporting each other in our endeavors. I really appreciate all of these ladies & how we uplift, encourage & buildup one another ❤.

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

I love that Tina! Your son is so right. 💗

@mar-linaustell7505

11 ай бұрын

This is my favorite video! So many Gems

Adalia, I so relate to not deserving to be treated the way I was from my family, took me a minute but I clearly understand that we choose our family/friends, tribe, makes life more enjoyable!

Right on time Queens, much love to all of you!!!👑🙌🏾

Safe yourself black woman beautiful 💙❤️👍🏾.

My words going forward even beyond 2023 are courage and intentionality.

Yes, choose you. Be different. I love me and being with me. I don't care what others think anymore and it bothers them. I'm good. Peace is great. Yes, that family by choose. I grew up mostly unhappy in my family but free of that feeling now. I spend time with people that are good to me period. Like if an event is coming up and my chest or stomach gets tight because I thread dealing with certain people. I won't do that to me anymore . I know I will be an expat in the near future. I love topic Ladies!!

@dews3340

Жыл бұрын

I have never cared what others think. I started traveling back in the 1970s, solo. My life has been amazing.... Child free for life

"You can't learn the truths of the universe if you're always at work. You need time off to do that" . Whew! THIS!!!

My phrase for 2023 is: do it anyway!

I know this video is over a year old but it speaks to me today. My word for 2024 is reclaim. Life started out rough during childhood and the damage continued through adulthood. But there came an awakening point where I realized I didn’t want to die a mess and broken and shattered. Healing has been exhausting and frustrating at times but I’m hoping that there are plenty of good years ahead of me to thrive and enjoy life. I’m not sure who I could’ve been before the damage but I am figuring out who I want to be in the future. I’m reclaiming my power back and the energy joy peace self love I deserve ❤

Thisssss y’all inspire me!!! Feel blessed to have come across your page at 25. I quit my job as a teacher about a year or two ago because it wasn’t my passion. It was TOO demanding and taking away from other aspects of my life. I feel so much uncertainty right now as I continue to pursue my dream and freedom life of living in between Ghana and the U.S. this was a reminder that I’m doing what’s necessary to live based on my own standard, not the world’s. My phrase does this year is “Who can I connect with?” Very much so like our sister on the right - DONE shrinking myself and underestimating my ability, essence and value offer.

Um! When you broke it down and said what happens if I DON’T execute my plan for me to live in ease! That hit differently!!! Keep this clean content coming! I appreciate it! ❤️❤️❤️✨

I continue to choose ME but it has not been easy but i am NOT giving up. I am happier. Thank you .

I’ve been following your content for over a year Stephanie - you’ve given me the vocabulary to the transition I’ve been experiencing. Thank you. Sending you love & light from U.K.

Love your platform, not interested in leaving the USA, but will travel with you guys and with your retreats

I know I’m a year late but I know I found your channel right on time My word(s) for this year 2024 - “radical self acceptance” and “always forward”

I'm not evn through w/listening... but I am hearing so much truth on here and so much validation. THANK YOU SISTAS!!!❤❤❤

I started the new year reciting the following each day: "It'll be mostly about me in 2023" and "Since God made me perfectly imperfect, failing my way to success is part of my road map to happiness."

I feel like crying. This is for me. This is meant for me. I am leaving the US this year.

Clarity & Obedience I really have 2 words for 2023

@sage-in742

Жыл бұрын

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Really enjoying this conversation and I loooove Adalias hair 😍

Yes Adalia - CHOOSE ME first

This video was recommended. I usually have KZread on mute playing in the background. My initial thought was Oh look it's Wanda Sykes hosting a talk on *Black Women in Hollywood*

I'm unlearning that failure is not fatal.

Ivana. I too retired at the peak of 2020 COVID without plans but I heard God say go and I did and i have no regrets. This session is enlighten to and for me. Very helpful/clarity

I love this conversation. I want to redefine what Black Excellence looks like because you ladies embody what I would call Black Excellence

I thoroughly enjoyed this convo!

I love what Adalia said about being “Normal” & trying to fit into that standard way of life. Its too much to be something other than who you really are. I am no longer “normal” and I’m okay with that. The black excellence thing is so exhausting, I’m so thankful I am no longer striving. Bliss is my word in 2023. Love this conversation so much! ❤

You all look so radiant!! Inspirational, truly! ❤❤❤

My word for the year is ELEVATION

On the verge of tears watching this especially the conversation around “family.”

You ladies don't know how I needed this today.

Great conversation! ❤️ Really needed to hear this 🙏🏾 Time to get radical 😊

This is what I LOVE about US. And I could name so many things. ❤❤❤❤

I agree with what the lady on the right said about family but the one in the middle not so much. Yes, your parents chose not to abort you but if your parents took good care of you, protected youmetc, essentially what would be consider good parents, if you don't feel a desire to reciprocate when they are in need and you are able to help, I think that says a lot about you as an individual.

"Simplicity."

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

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wow I was just told that move in silence

Great show; thank you Stephanie!

@StephaniePerry

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! 💗

Thinking of of me new beginning

I printed off some vacation picures. Ive been postponing my joy. My next project is to get a 16x20 poster made with frame of me n the effiel towerr. I'll let u know when its done. I also want to shed wight n get in shape. Im working through the trauma n negativity of this n doing well .

@zanetawrightsell8527

5 ай бұрын

❤ keep it up Z! 😊

@zanetawrightsell8527

5 ай бұрын

Stephanie, Are there any travel groups or travel books you recommend?

I started a new job and had to take a pay cut in order to work full time with benefits. This job is making me depressed and I have anxiety everyday. I feel like I'm starting from the bottom all over again for less pay just to survive. This is not living 😟😭

@elenawalker517

5 ай бұрын

I’m seeing t this comment a year later, but I hope it’s gotten better for you. I’m in that same situation now but moving towards making it better.

Grateful and willing to accept what needs releasing

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Divine timing!!!! So grateful!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Heh from the future! So glad I caught this replay. So much here resonates with me. Learning how to break down goals and take a step at a time... Like eating elephant one bite at a time

A whole WORD!!!! Thank you ladies!!!🙌🥰

Thanks for the conversation

Hello everyone 😊

Thank you so much for your channel, Stephanie. I really appreciate you. I am a former over-giver. I'm still trying to balance out because I'm raising teenagers and soooo ready to let go of over-giving with them because it has created such an environment of ingratitude and disrespect in them towards me. BUT prayer and the fire within me for truth and justice will bring me to where I need to be. And when they are 18, they'd better HOPE I make time from my living my dreams! 😂

My new word is Manisfestation

Hello and good evening for the great conversation. I can totally relate to the 'acting funny ', personality description. We are alike in several ways. Although I also embrace myself, it is refreshing to hear it's not just me. In my high school yearbook, I wrote, "I am who I am." I've always noticed I was a weird and different, funny-acting, introvert. Wishing you all the best for 2023 and more. Thank you 😊

Great uplifting conversation!

“Funny acting” OMG that’s me. And I really want to not care what others think.

my phrase this year is being in peace

It's the conditioning of expectations of not failing that creates fear. Actually, the fears we except creates wealth for others. We are conditioned to only go so far. Now, that sounds so good but how do I get unstuck?

Watching the replay & I'm loving the message. I'm definitely a weirdo even though my family referred to me as an "odd duck" lol! My word for 2023 is Experience...I want more experiences in my life in every way shape and form!

I am very in this show, which fits what I believe about being you