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"It's JUST a Slap..." The Effects of Hitting your Children
Today we will be speaking about what happens when you hit your children and it will effect them long term.
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My teachers in kindergarten and 1st grade would write in my report cards: "she's excelling and doing so well with her school work......but she's quiet. Too quiet. Is she ok?" I always got my ass whooped since 2 years old for things as little as breathing wrong. Of course this was in the early 90s so things are different now. I'm 36 now and realize I've carried this well into my adult hood because people tell me I'm super quiet. My parent claims they were beat as a kid so that's why they did it to me. 🙄 i remember them going over math homework and they would have a belt on the side so if I got a problem wrong, I would get it. Now my siblings do the same to their kids. Passing on generational curses and traumas. I am going to address these traumas before I bring my own kids into the world.
@bdidbwvolume2.230
Жыл бұрын
Good on you for not only making it through, but working to break the cycle. I'm sorry to hear your siblings are now carrying on the cycle though. I hope things change for them and you have luck in bringing children into this world with love and affection and can make them feel safe.
@wyrdscynce
Жыл бұрын
imagine if i beat my now old and vulnerable parents for getting something simple wrong
@Hellion47
Жыл бұрын
I'm an atheist, raised Christian, and I just got triggered by your use of the word "Generational Curses" There are no Generational Curses. NO. GENE-FUCKING-RATIONAL CURSES!!!! While I sympathize with you (I was spanked myself) I don't sympathize or empathize with your, apparent, still reliance on "faith" and god. Can I ask you something? Why the fuck, do you still apparently believe in god? And to think, all that because you used the phrase "Generational Curses" Hope to hear back from you.
@diegodiaz1445
10 ай бұрын
@@wyrdscynceVengence! On a Serious Note I would NOT Recommend in any way whatsoever.
@JustAnotherPerson4U
10 ай бұрын
That's insane to hit you for every incorrect answer. Like pain makes you more intelligent somehow. In fact, statistically it would actually cause the opposite effect. There is a negative correlation with lowered IQ and hitting kids as discipline. Negative in this case means that the more a child is hit the lower the IQ goes. Man, I hope you're NC with your parents. And I feel sorry for your nieces and nephews.
Majority of people just use the word "spank" to make what they actually do which is beating, sound less violent
I completely disagree with hitting children. I was hit as a child and was terrified of my mother. Im not close with her at all. Ive brought up 2 lovely boys who are now grown men and never once hit them. If they misbehaved i would talk to them and explain why it was wrong behaviour. We'd hug then move on. We're really close and have great family times. My mother never gets how she hurt and scared me, but i learned not to repeat her mistakes
@joey6451
9 ай бұрын
good on you
I hate my parents more and more when they beat me
@ITALZONLY89
11 ай бұрын
What do you consider a beating a slap or multiple whacks
@soulnobu
10 ай бұрын
@@ITALZONLY89 its hard whacks with a belt that go over and over until they get all their anger out. im 13 and just got beat over a math homework asignment. im black but right now my hands are bright red and my left leg hurts to stand on and i cant stop shaking.
@GloriaMarmon
6 ай бұрын
It’s hard to love my parent when he beats me
@michaelmurray7199
3 ай бұрын
@@ITALZONLY89 Again with the “ThErE’s A dIfFeReNcE bEtWeEn SpAnKiNg AnD bEaTiNg” 🐂💩! 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
@vimalaramoutar7677
Ай бұрын
me to this is my moms pic Every night my shoulder hurts am 10 since I was 4,5,6,7,8,9 I whould have got beated
Is hitting people okay? “Yea but only if it’s a toddler and they can’t hit you back” ….Do these people even hear themselves? They do things like hit their kid to teach them that hitting is wrong
@8kat
8 ай бұрын
True tho💀💀💀💀
@hyzerfl1p
2 ай бұрын
Well said
I hate it when people call it a love tap.
@joey6451
9 ай бұрын
same. my face looks like this when i hear it 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
@michaelmurray7199
3 ай бұрын
“I didn’t hit you, I *SMACKED* you.” Sounds every but as absurd as saying, “I wasn’t driving, I was TRAVELING.” 🙄🤬
@shawnmendrek3544
24 күн бұрын
@@michaelmurray7199 very good
@Random_Internet_User13
16 күн бұрын
@@michaelmurray7199 “I didn’t murder, I was trying to decrease the number of people due to overpopulation!”
My parents hit my brother, context they do child psychology. Also, they said their parents hit them and they turned out fine but they have ptsd, anxiety, and depression like what 😭😭😭
@girlstopthat
3 ай бұрын
They’re practically BEGGING to be dumped in a nursing home
@sienekebd
2 ай бұрын
That's acc crazy 😭😭
I’m 30, I’m traumatized
@neonkuromi
2 жыл бұрын
im 29 and so am i
@sanjanam1484
2 жыл бұрын
@@neonkuromi We are strong
@grizzlycharizard0017
Жыл бұрын
Im 22 and still traumatized.
@Bannanaaan
Жыл бұрын
I’m 13, I’m not traumatized?
@mattmonteith2175
Жыл бұрын
I agree me to I'm 42 . Dad stop hitting me after he knows I could hit him. He knows not to hit me now he knows I can kick his ass
When I was little I saw my mom hitting my younger sister and I was angry so when my mom left the house I locked it she could not inside and I did not let her in and I was smiling
@sharonanderson3868
Жыл бұрын
Time outs.dont.work.i was.spanked.ànd.slapedas.a.child.nobody.ever.told.my.parents.they.couldnt.spank.or.slap.me
@sharonanderson3868
Жыл бұрын
My parents would tell you.dont tell me.how.decpline.my.child
@sdlkfjhasiodf1477
Жыл бұрын
@@Lucas_70 Maybe the beating is the reason, why you grew up to be someone who has a crusader picture as a profile picture.
@TmHudsonArt
9 ай бұрын
@@Lucas_70 yeah you're still a kid lol....funny how you approve of being hit yet still seem to happily engage in behaviours that will cause you to be hit. You don't realise how ridiculous your statement even sounds lol!!
I showed my mom this and she didnt care at all she thinks its okay to slap children
@zBPS
Жыл бұрын
wait till she’s old and defenseless, then smack her
@grizzlycharizard0017
Жыл бұрын
@@nutellanuts9321It is not easy to get a job.
@andylynch473
8 ай бұрын
It's not easy to be brutally honest with self and apologise for wrong doing. By admitting it's wrong, you have to look inward and stop blaming the external for our failures.
Beating does conduse us as children. I was beaten a lot when I was young and it destroyed my soul. I do not use violence against other people.
Apparently they say the old people are the wisest Apparently not
@Shroom_Playz
3 жыл бұрын
@@thethethejdgj6592 Same
@jamesstreet228
Жыл бұрын
They damn sure didn't have any school shootings when they were young. Apparently they are.
@JamesStreet-tp1vb
3 ай бұрын
With the increasing number of school shootings your claim is a bit flawed.
My mom says spanking is discipline but I disagree she says I don't know what abuse feels like but yet spanking is less than a beating but it still is. I don't want contact with her at all when I get older.
@Mr.Goodkat
Жыл бұрын
Do not get caught up arguing the "word game" it does NOT matter if it's "abuse" or "discipline" or "punishment" or if it's "spanking" or "hitting" consider if you had a different universe and in one it is abuse and in another it is not and in one it's hitting and in another it's not instead it's just spanking in that one, it's the same thing in all universes, a slap by any other name hurts just as much and the psychological effects/outcomes would be identical in all of the above universes, changing the name of something does not change it's nature, it's what Shakespeare was driving at when he said a "rose by any other name would smell just as sweet" we change names/labels not to change the nature of the thing but to change our perceptions of it, it's self brainwashing, it's perception control and is disingenuous. Instead argue any inconsistences in logic, how it breaks the golden rule of "treat other's how you'd want to be treated" how it's a prejudicial double standard against minorities, how it conditions us with a dangerous/destructive conflict resolution ideology (which leads to war btw) how it conditions an external morality compass and various other psychological issues, antimony robbing it bad for everybody and it does that, unequal protections is gross and disgusting and discriminatory and it would be seen as such if it was against blacks, against women, against gays, against foreigners etc, even criminals have protection from corporal punishment no matter how vile, hardened and cruel they are but a child no matter how kind, selfless, warm hearted and loving they are does not. Consider also it's a fact that all those above groups I listed people care about treating equal ARE all being discriminated against here since it's making it legal to hit black people, gays, women etc, for many years of all of their lives so this hurts ALL groups instead of just one and all people instead of just a "minority".
@Lucas_70
Жыл бұрын
I'm a kid and I approve of my mum beating me
@lcs3687
Жыл бұрын
She should have had..
@maybenot9737
Жыл бұрын
@@Lucas_70Unfortunate how they have gotten you into the Coping Mechanism of the Slave Mindset due to being fearful of being beat.Ive Went through that phase. Got diagnosed with IED and BPD.Showing signs of Schizophrenia.
@wyrdscynce
Жыл бұрын
i hit my mum back once, that was the end of anything physical from her, she still emotionally abuses from time to time
i was smacked with objects because my primary caregiver would get a sore hand from hitting me, then when i stopped hugging her and love was off like bad milk she got really upset, in some ways i cant blame them as back then child abuse was normalised and they were lacking in parent skills, as i had realised young that my parents were actually violent toddlers i raised myself.
Up until today i hate my father for abuse an i also be depressed most of the time thats jus something i have to live with for the rest of my life
I have agree I was smacked as a child, my mother says I was good girl unlike my son. I wasn't good because I wanted to be it was due to fear and fear alone as I new punishment would come otherwise. Due my parents I sometimes do strange things example if someone comes from behind me and touches my back I jump in air or , flinch, conditioning system due to my father use to hit me on back of the head.
I’m angry at my sister they constantly tell me why can’t I be like her. But when I see them hit her I cry inside and my soul shrivels a bit
MY mom doesnt listen shes like they are dumb they dont know anything
@Merlinistisch
2 жыл бұрын
Tell your mom to say that to the police(that people who think violence is wrong are stupid)
@somozamaria
4 ай бұрын
Call 911
Parents shouldn't be surprised if the child "naguru" (殴る) their parents back and/or end up violent towards other people due to their bad parenting. And isn't it ironic when the child plans on cutting off their parents when they learn that their parents are abusive and manipulative and the oblivious parents are like: "Why are you leaving us?" The lack of self-awareness is laughable.
Regarding Argument #1. I’ve heard that excuse of “I didn’t beat you, I *smacked/spanked* you so many times it isn’t funny. Did getting “spanked” trigger my self-reflection? In short, *NO!* What did the “spanking” teach me exactly? It taught me that I was a bad person, that there was something wrong with me, and that I shouldn’t get any “bad marks” on a daily chart I had at school that showed how “good” I was being, that I shouldn’t get one too many of these “bad marks” throughout the day at school, nor should I do *anything* that would anger my mom and dad. Heck! The only thing I comprehended from these “bad marks” was that if I got too many of them, say I get a 6 out of 8 or less, a 10 out of 14 or less, etc. that it meant I was going to get my butt swatted and I ended up not wanting to go home from school, nor did I want to GO to school in the mornings. In regards to Arguments #3. I actually have flashbacks whenever I see a black leather belt or a wooden cooking spoon, even though it had been about 18 years since the last time my dad used either one to “discipline” me. I put discipline in quotations because of how people continually (and annoyingly) insist on that “spanking is not abuse” BS, which I’ve grown sick and tired of hearing. Additionally I never understood why it was okay for people to to hit me, but I was expected to not hit anyone in return. Or when I hit somebody, it was assault, but when someone hits me, it was “discipline”. Regarding Argument #5. I had been “disciplined” so many times as I was growing up it isn’t funny. Exponentially more often than my 2 older siblings combined. And yes, I admit it, I was also prone to being violent with either one when provoked. And then, about 13.5 years ago, I was violent towards my dad as well. I’ve also dealt with anxiety that was rather severe at times, further compounded by the struggles that I lived with as someone who’s Autistic and has ADHD. Regarding Argument #8. I’ve heard that excuse of “I was spanked when I was a kid and I turned out fine.” Uh, no. You *DID NOT* turn out fine if you think it’s okay to hit a defenseless child. Regarding Argument #9. I’ve been having recurring bad dreams for nearly 6.5 years now where I blow off on angry rants saying that I hated my Autism and wished that I was “normal”, and even blaming my Autism for all of my family’s problems. I had to work up a great deal of courage to tell my mom and my dad about these dreams, but they and just about everyone that I talked to about said dreams couldn’t really understand why I was having these dreams or why I found being “normal” so enticing.
@auburneytuckerson2959
10 күн бұрын
Are you me? Even now, I still cringe when I see a belt. I'm so used to seeing those used as a weapon to hit kids. I always figured I was bad and deserved to get beaten with a belt. Even jokes surrounding whoopins makes me cringe. To be honest, I'm glad I can't have kids, cause I have anger issues. I'm starting to think I behaved out of fear.
My opinion slapping your kids is VERY BAD. Because the kid's growth makes it unhealthy. It makes the kid turn more aggresive and violent when making friends. Parents should know that making your kids cry is NOT discipline. Parents should know that doing these behaviours is also very bad because you should know that kids are very sensitive. God Bless Yall.
if slap is not violence then why cant we slap our parents when they slap us. it's not violence either way
I had to pull my pants down and bend over the couch, so my ass was bare. I would get multiple wacks with a leather belt at full force. If I flinched or started crying after being struck, then the whooping was prolonged. I had to just bite down on my lip and take it. I think there's a difference between a spanking and a beating. I think that striking a child with a leather belt as hard as you can is a beating. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety, generized anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and major depressive disorder. Don't beat your children.
@JasonWatkins-cn7bw
5 ай бұрын
That wasn’t discipline it was something else making you strip and bend naked was violent sexual abuse battery and who ever did that was wrong and hope you get help cause I know that can cause mental damage or if you don’t see it as that you do see. Look up Tom Johnson’s the sexual dangers of spanking.
And told by my uncle that I get hit by my abusive mother, because I do not know how behave. I even been taught in school that parents whoop us to teach us how to behave. No, they are only doing to transfer their pain on to us.
I show it to my mom but she don't care she just beat me 😔
@Merlinistisch
2 жыл бұрын
Go to the police.
@simonewolfe9472
Жыл бұрын
Ich youu would go to Police the would HELP you
@simonewolfe9472
Жыл бұрын
GO TO THE POLICE
@simonewolfe9472
Жыл бұрын
PLEASE GO TO THE POLICE
@Person-ef4xj
Жыл бұрын
@@simonewolfe9472 Sadly going to the police would likely not help. It's legalized abuse unfortunately.
My mother used to destroy my room as a child when she was angry. My mother used to get my father to whip me with the handle of a flyswatter. I wasn't even in preschool at the time. My parents stopped the physical abuse when I got older. But chose to shout and belittle me instead. As... you may have guessed. I'm not super functional.
Part 3 my father every time I would say something against what he believes is the right way vs. The wrong way would get very aggressive hateful and belligerent to the point that there would be fist. It wasn't until I was sixteen or Seventeen where I started running straight into him. We started hitting shoulders together as hard as we could. To the point that more than two hours have passed and we had kept hitting our shoulders to the point that my dad was starting to cry from the pain. I kept running into him he kept running into me cuz we're both stubborn. It wasn't until my mother said stop. I overheard my mother screaming when my dad took his shirt off his entire right side was completely bruised. Mine was a little bit bruised so you could see which one of us was putting the most Force into the other. But putting that aside I remember this like it was yesterday my mother was trying to get the kitchen cleaned in the country home that we used to live in but she couldn't clean the kitchen very well and she knew that most of us kids were too young and didn't really understand what she wanted mostly because we didn't like her and we didn't want to be around her because we knew that she was a mean woman. So I walked in the kitchen and she asked me to help her I started wiping off the counter but did it wrong she freaked out and then went outside to my dad and lied to him saying that I had been disrespectful to her when I did not. I was then called outside I walked to the barn my mother passed me saying you're going to get it. When in reality I had done nothing to her. She would do this from time to time she would make up false information and then blame us so that way Dad would hurt us thinking that she had power over us again this is a manipulative narcissistic woman. So I went out to the pole barn. My father asked me if his wife was lying to him. A few days ago my dad told me that if I tell him the truth that as long as I tell the truth I would not get spanked so me being a naive child thinking that my father was actually being honest told the truth I said yes her mom's lying he freaked out lost his temper it was like a nuclear bomb had exploded in front of me I was about thirteen at the time he picked me off the ground by my neck and repeatedly hit me in my lower back and buttock region with his hand carried me to the front porch of the house which is literally about a hundred meters away from the barn. That's a pretty fair distance. When I got into the house he told me to go to his room. I knew what that meant my brother who had very sensitive hearing at the time told my dad please stop yelling you're hurting my ears. My father said are you trying to attack my authority to period and proceeded to grab my brother and throw him into his room. He looked everywhere for the whip that he would use on the Hogs but he wasn't going to find it. Because I had taken it so that way he couldn't use it on us anymore. He then proceeded to take his belt off. Now he had just bought that belt that very day. So it's a brand new belt. I was big for my I'm 63 now. Back then when I was 13 I was pretty tall. But I was still a kid. He tried to maneuver my but in a way he could start hitting it with the belt but I wasn't going to let him because I knew he was wrong for trying to hurt me. He proceeded to slam the belt into my arm and into my leg so that way I could no longer stop him from getting to my butt. The beating lasted four minutes to the point that my arm and my leg were black and blue I could no longer feel them but the impact in the screams of my father were so overwhelming. That my mind shattered. I had went completely insane period after losing feeling in both limbs I went limp. He then proceeded to hit my butt and lower back bruising them both severely. Then he dropped me headfirst off the bed into it hardwood flooring. To give you an understanding of how hard he was hitting me the belt almost broke in half. He kept the Belt It wasn't until recently that he youth pastor that I knew who was a bodybuilder. Who I told this to saw the belt and ripped it in half. My father and mother. To this day will not admit they ever abused me or my siblings in anyway. Spanking I always thought spanking was a good thing at taught children discipline. But now that I'm in my thirties. I have to be honest it breaks you down it makes you less cognitive less able to speak your mind honestly to your parent it makes you into a drone that they can manipulate so that way they can control it it's abuse guys. And to this day both of my parents are probably two of the most narcissistic psychotic people you'll ever meet. It took me years to overcome the damage that was done to me by my parents. And I still have problems today in some areas. My brother this last year tried to kill himself three times. His issues are pretty bad. This is not a laughing matter and should not be ignored what abused us to kids after that day I wore a bag over my head for a complete week. I developed a split personality disorder which I kept from my parents for years I battled it period and tried my best to hold onto my sanity. When you see a kid getting abused don't ignore it. Trust me he'll thank you for one day.
@Lucas_70
Жыл бұрын
Props to the people who read this whole thing
@ProdNapoleon
Жыл бұрын
Man I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m 20 now but I remember My mom whooped me when I was 10-12 a few times my dad was never the physical type towards his kids he probably whooped me like 2 times but it was very brief 10 seconds max he never really whooped me out of frustration it was due to me actually doing something bad so I completely understand even though I don’t condone getting whooped, But my mom used extension cords while being high on meth and she would put alcohol on the cords while my clothes were off i still remember how it felt and sworn to never hit my kid if I ever have one. Then they say there favorite line “this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you” but i felt as if she enjoyed “disciplining” me I bet it didn’t hurt her emotionally at all. I noticed a change in my moms behavior when she stopped doing meth she didn’t whoop me for the rest of teenage life which was cool. Sorry for bad grammar
@ProdNapoleon
Жыл бұрын
@@inthedark334 but yeah man abuse sucks it teaches nothing if anything it makes you violent towards others because you have this built of anger.
@inthedark334
Жыл бұрын
No it's okay I'm glad your mom stopped doing meth but when it comes to abuse in general parents who abused their kids I really think one of the main reasons why my father was so abusive and my mother it's because they're both narcissists my father literally thought angel of God appeared in front of him when he was high as a kite he currently lives in a very self-deluded mindset where he believes that God chose him. And if his children didn't measure up to that they need to be punished as a result to this day my father won't let go that he saw an angel he's his height is 6 to and he says at the time when he saw the angel he weighed 95 lb I don't think that's possible to a 95 lb in 62. You would pretty much be dead. But I digress my father after his little experience on acid I think that's what he was taking. Decide if he was no longer doing drugs but because he's such an illiterate person the man has no understanding of science no understanding of History. He's a typical baby boomer with his mindset and how he thinks trying to educate him or my mother of what actual biblical Christianity is according to the Apostle Paul recently both of my parents including my mother came out and said they deny the teachings of Paul so my father is so wrapped in this delusion of his. That anything that contradicts his experience including the Bible itself must be ignored while he's quoting the Bible so my father is so down-the-rabbit-hole of his own narcissism and self-delusion that he won't listen to reason. Including my mother, because in the scriptures Paul is preaching the gospel of the uncircumcision that was Kept Secret since the world began they deny this they deny everything Paul says and that he was given a new gospel and that salvation is by grace through faith alone today because of this they have no Authority to do the things they've done or to try to push works for salvation today when salvation is by grace through faith at this time as well as trying to force Old Testament things for Israel on us today. They literally had me and my brother circumsized they cut pieces of us off in order to honor traditions that was a part of the Old Testament Covenant that was only meant for Israel in time past. But my parents know nothing of right division according to 2nd Timothy 2 verse 15 and because of this they literally believe the whole book is talking to them they have no intellectual knowledge of scripture at all. Spinballs even denied all of the abuse the doctor's visits the time I went to go get my brother out of the psych ward for 1 a.m. himself the beatings everything they've denied every single abusive thing they've ever done and they want grandkids they want me and my brother to find wives so we can give them grandchildren my mother even went out on Facebook and told everybody things that happened in the past deserve to be in the past. It got so bad that recently my brother had to see a therapist and my brother opened up about his therapy sessions to our little sister who my parents threatened to cut her off of any financial help for her and her daughter and so every time my brother told anything about his therapy to my little sister. My little sister would then tell Mom and Dad everything which is a direct violation of HIPAA and is considered a crime according to the law I should know I worked in the medical field for 10 years. And so right now we are seriously considering a lawsuit and filing a restraining order against both of them
@aspenreed2795
Ай бұрын
This was heartbreaking to read. Your parents sre sick people. My heart breaks for your brother. Dont let him do it. You're the only one who can save him cause you're the only other person who knows what he went through back then. You have an obligation to make him understand rhat he is worthy of love in this life. If he doesnt figure that out he will be alone until he is unable to stand it anymore and succeeds in taking his life without having even felt real love. Dont let that happen. Its been some time since this comment was posted, i hope he and you are doing well and continue to heal from such wicked treatment you have described here. ❤❤❤
I see so many people online coping hard with their abuse. Like they feels it was good and healthy that they couldnt walk after their caretaker beat the living shit out of them. These people are more than likely lacking in compassion, empathy and more than likely ( i would say 100%) did more illegal shit than the kid who was raised with love and care
@captainfalconmain6576
2 ай бұрын
good.comment
I was raised with violence from the time I was 3 until about 13 or so, which was the last time my father hit me. We were camping and he slapped my leg for some reason or another. I finally snapped and lunged at him with a firewood log, barely missing his head and went after him with my homemade club, cussing him out with every combination of the f word I possibly could. My mother, who never once stood up for me, got between the two of us (probably more so to protect him from me) and I promised that was the last time he'd ever put his hands on me or I swore I'd kill him in his sleep. He just stood there with a stupid grin on his face. We stopped speaking anything above the superficial basics until I was 18 and then never spoke after I moved out for about 25 years. We have a better relationship these days as we are both much older, but it definitely caused us to lose out on a lot of years we won't get back.
I've been abused and beaten by my parents when I was a child, both my father (until he died luckily, when i was 4) and my mother. The abuse was going on until I was 12 and decided to hit back, and I hit back hard. Sadly only the physical abuse stopped. Now I am 31, have almost 0 contact with my mother and I am much happier.
This happened to me alot when I was a child I got spanked with a belt, switches, wooden spoons, hands now as an adult I get silent treatment, get gaslit, treated like a doormat, made to feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells, questioning everything, being kept secrets, made to feel like I don't even matter, bullied and made fun of, etc.
I was hit since as long as I can remember. I developed high anxiety and was always a very quiet girl. I was scared to do anything and I felt very lonely as I struggled hard to make a friend. Still do due to my social anxiety. I’m always under the impression that other people perceive me as dumb and too ugly to even look at just by looking at me once. I would skip lunch in the restrooms during school from 5th grade to 12th grade because I had no one to eat lunch with or talk to. No one ever noticed I was missing. I would get home and I would get a beating almost daily from my father for the smallest things. I couldn’t come home with grades less than a 95 or I would get told I was very dumb and no brain capacity. I couldn’t defend myself or I would get hit. Whenever I didn’t understand a math problem, I would ask my dad because he was very smart with math and I truly wanted to understand the homework but my dad would have the belt next to him so I had to understand it the first time, so whenever I didn’t I would lie and say I did thank you papa and leave the room. I would be locked outside all day until it was time to eat, and would get locked outside again. If I didn’t wake up at a specific time during the weekend my dad would just go to my room and slam the belt on me, it could land anywhere multiple times reallly hard I would jump from the scare of waking up to a hard hit on the back of body and would run as the belt kept hitting me. I was also not allowed to cry. Whenever I tried to make myself look pretty my father would make fun of me. He was white skinned and I was very dark brown so I always felt ashamed of my skin color, I would later try to put baby powder to lighten my skin but it would look like little dirt on me. I had a sister who was 1 year younger than me who was white skinned and I remember feeling so jealous seeing my dad hug her and kiss her, as I was never hugged or kissed. I would just stand in a corner watching and smiling thinking I want to be hugged too and imagining myself running to my fathers arms like my sister, ironically I was always running away and hiding under the table from my dad and my heart would beat so fast and my hands would tremble as if I was seizing from how scared I was trying to escape him. I just thought it was my skin color and that I was born unlikeable and dumb and so ugly and that’s why it was hard to be loved . I accepted that as a child. Now as an adult, I cry because I was only a little girl who was abused by a racist narcissistic father, and a mother who could never look at me once and tell me nothing was wrong with me, she just laughed at my fathers bullying. I would pray to God to take me with him so I could stop all the pain.
@Liz-sc5dg
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you went through that. It was wrong. You deserved to have a happy childhood. So did I. I was hit too. I still feel shame and guilt for how I was treated. We deserve better now but I'm still hurting. Thanks for sharing your story, it resonates with me. I was always wrong. It was always my fault. I saw my siblings get praise for everything but I was told to try harder. I still feel that I'm not good enough. Sending love and light to you.
@Legend_Evve
10 ай бұрын
That was very sad. You deserve justice God bless u
When my parents hit me I sometimes get violent
@L.J.T.T
2 жыл бұрын
Wow
@louie.idkone
2 жыл бұрын
Me too , but I’m 16 now and they won’t do anything anyway and it seems they know the truth now
@itsmahdaisy9063
Жыл бұрын
its the same for me
@blacklyfe5543
10 ай бұрын
And they will get more violent
I don't have any children yet and would never ever lay my hands on them, I would be absolutely ashamed of myself if I ever got to the point where the thought ever crossed my mind The only time I would ever lay my hands on my kid would be if I absolutely had to. For example to restrain then for their own or someone else's safety. I would make sure to talk to them, telling them it's alright, I'm there and that once things have calmed I'll let go and I'd make sure they were okay mentally and physically before any of us went anywhere and if I ever saw my partner hitting them I'd pull them aside, help calm them then tell them I still love them however if it happens again I'll be reporting it
I’m 10, I’m depressed
@user-od4ry7ch2z
4 ай бұрын
I was the same an up until this day am still depressed I have suicidal thoughts because I think everyone hates me for some thing I didn't do well wat can I say life is unfair we didn't ask for this in the first place
@itzpri2949
22 күн бұрын
Oh no... you're too young for this 😭😭😭 may God give you strength 🙏🏻
Part 2 for me I had to put up with the constant physical and emotional abuse my father put me through my entire childhood the beatings were pretty regular whenever I didn't measure up to his perception of righteousness. I remember when he would grab my pinky finger and squeeze it and I could feel the joint dislocating. And so I punched him in the face because the pain was so bad he then proceeded to punch me back. At one point I realized inside me that what they were doing was wrong and that I didn't have to listen to them so I got on my bike and I wrote down the road this was when the brainwashing was starting to fade a little bit. I just wanted to get away from their insanity. My father found me and proceeded to scream and yell at me. I remember he picked me off the ground and slapped me around a bit. I decided to ride home because he wasn't going to put my bike in the back of the truck. I remember the face of a lady who drove by me asking me if I was okay tears streaming from my face. I completely ignored her. She looked back at my father my dad looked away from her. But she did nothing. The beatings continue throughout most of my childhood whenever I wouldn't hold up to what he wanted the point of beating your kids and by doing all this is to brainwash them with a perception of who they are period if I wasn't masculine enough period or if I didn't hold up to his standards I would get a beating. If I back talk to him or try to assert my will in order to try to get my voice heard in the house there was none of that it was a complete dictatorship I started to develop a false perception where whenever I was around my parents I would act like a nice boy when in reality it was a complete fake persona I wasn't being real and my parents knew this but they didn't care my brother did the same thing. I remember when I finally got out on my own and was away from them they said what happened to the nice boy raised I looked at them and said it wasn't real I made it up so I could survive your guys's narcissism. But putting that aside. The religious aspect of what my dad believed was not biblical at all and usually narcissist love to use the aspect of religion as a means to control children especially children who have learning disabilities. My dad did not care how much damage he caused. He would go to the store and buy his toys and that would cheer us up. But if your 11 year old kid wants to kill himself because he would rather kill himself then get punished I would say that's a red flag because me and my brother warrant maturing in the ways they wanted. Or learning in the ways they want it. My mother looked at me and my brother and said my education matters more than yours at this point we were being homeschooled. She immediately walked away from me and my brothers homeschooling. Everytime I would bring it up in conversation or try to set it up to where we could go to actual Public School my dad would say no. This is because they didn't want the truth of their abuse to get out.. so me and my brother we're without any help. I started schooling my brother and trying to school myself with what I could learn. I took an IQ test recently and found out that this idiot that my parents would call me actually has an IQ of 160. So I guess I'm a bit smarter than they thought. And part 2
My dad born in 1956 hit spanking me as child and turned out anger probs and controling and More. I gave that up long time ago I never hit my kids I'm happy I didn't follow spanking. Power Trip I see it now my dad was on and still yells at me I'm 42 years old I don't put up with that
I sometimes don't even wanna live anymore
I got hit as young as 1 years old and I’m still the worst
My heart skips a beat when they beat me up. EVEN MY MOM THREW A FLOWER POT AT ME AND MY ARM GOT INJURED RIGHT NOW! Ive been through whole sh1ts in my life and my mother is THE REASON! IM TRAUMATIZED BECAUSE OF HER. My life is just a piece of sh1t. I get it. Life sucks get used to it, im already USED TO IT.
@captainfalconmain6576
2 ай бұрын
sorry about that
My mom watching this: Hmmmmm, okay Me when I get a whooping: *AQAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA* My mom: That's what I call.... NORMAL
Thank you for all the children ❤️
I'm 30. I'm dating a 34 year old woman with a 4 (almost 5) year old son. He's spoiled. Like VERY spoiled. Each time we go out it's "i want this, I want that, buy me this, buy me that", even though most of the time she doesn't buy him. But often times (like almost everyday) he cries, gets angry, and even aggressive when he doesn't get his way. And I understand the modern way of "talk to him like an equal and explain why", but then he just gets her into this loop of why he can't get what he wants....and it turns into "I want this", "you can't have it", "why", "because etc.", "but I want...." and so on. He also yells a lot without any consideration for her or anyone else. He's the most important one. Everybody needs to listen to him. It becomes insane at some point. And I see her having this conversation with him like 10 times a day, everyday - "don't interrupt people when they're speaking, speak more quietly etc.". And it doesn't fucking work! Question is - at what point do you establish your authority and show that "no, we're not equal. If I say you shut up, you shut up. If I say you go, you go"? Yesterday, after we didn't buy him a new hot wheels car, he was pretending to not be able to carry his scooter up some stairs (which we know he can, because he's done it plenty of times), he was just trying to compete for second price "hey, they didn't buy me that, but at least I can make them do something for me". And she wanted to wait for him until he decides to take it up the stairs himself. 30 minutes of waiting around for that. At the end she took it from him and grabbed him, making him go. Smacked him on the ass once too. Of course he loves he scooter, so he started crying about that. He even grabbed it and tried to pull it away, which as I told her, was pure aggression. Yes, people might grow up as decent people IN SPITE of being hit, but that just means that there is a certain amount of physical actions, which a kid can take and turn out just fine. Of course, that is not to be confused with abuse or just hitting the child because you're in a bad mood or lost control. I'm talking about controlled discipline and establishing authority, when you see that the child does not learn from being told the same thing 10 times a day, everyday.
When I was younger I was really violent and I would punch a pillow and imagen it was my parents and I would scream in my mind. And I still hate them, but not a much as I did when I was younger.
Im 11 and im traumatized
My mom and a dad hit me with metal
@jessiealexi7094
Жыл бұрын
METAL!? good lord, wtf..?
I can't tell how many times I got beat.... By my mom. Not my father tho but he was a drunk out of my life. I think once she hitted it sooo hard that she finally apologized. Sure I was doing something annoying, but I was so happy before she hit me. Our relationship is.... Like a turbine. It heats up somethings, and sometimes just die down.
It does not mean that not hitting your children makes you the perfect parent, but not hitting them only means that you do not harm your child. Parents should not think of their children as equals, but as fellow human beings with some shortcomings. Would you hit a mentally handicapped person if they did not behave the way you wanted them to? Children are not able to fully process arguments, nor can they truly reflect on their behavior, but only fragments of it. His mother needs to slowly teach him how society works and how people need to interact with each other. Of course, it can be hard to teach a child, but remember that you were once a child too and didn't always understand when your teachers or parents wanted you to understand something. Would a spanking have helped you more in such a situation, or a gentler but still serious approach? You should understand that kids who misbehave often don't get their needs met, and since they can't express that, they protest in different situations, but if you have a stable relationship structure, give them healthy food, patience and love, and a regular routine, your kids will trust you a little more each day. If you take the easy way out by beating your children into obedience, you are actually taking the hard way. They will be obedient when they are little, but either they will hurt others to release pressure, hurt themselves, become disobedient as teenagers, or have a mid-life crisis later in life.
This whole spanking thing is a waste of fucking time it’s what made me become a bad influence to my own peers.
I was also beaten by my mom since childhood. She used to beat me because I used to get average marks in my exams. I still remember my mom used to close the door and beat me so hard. And the fun fact is that my younger sister gets below average marks than me but she never beats her ( I am happy that atleast she is not going to through what i have suffered) Now my parents are asking me why I am not happy around them and why I always wants to be with my frnds. But they doesn't know that they are reason that I am not really happy when I'm with them. Next month I'm turning 17 , still my mom beats me ( her beatings now is so terrible, she beats me as you see hero beats the villan in the movie, its that terrible) Yesterday she beated me for the silliest reason ever. Anyways for college next year I will leave this house but the only person i will miss will be my sister.
@captainfalconmain6576
2 ай бұрын
🎉
“spare the rod! spoil the child! proverbs 13:24” i hate the fact this is in the bible
What I did: leave the WHOLE COUNTRY without telling my father anything and go no contact 🙂
24:30 total BS! The child does not contribute a thing to this house. That signing over to the government via social security numbers is crap. My house my rules. And if you had loving parents you know that.
My dad hit me because "i broke my moms knee" i was fucking 5 how can a 5 year old break someones knee?! My mom still blames me for it.
Okay. Please excuse my writing I'm talking into a phone. I'm also born with dyslexia. Please understand I'm not stupid I have an incredibly high IQ. But I am dyslexic so just understand. This is going to be a multi-part post. I hope it's not deleted but we'll see I was raised in the late 90s early my father and mother period both did a tremendous amount of drugs in their youth. When I was born my father told me that he had an angel appear in front of them telling him that he was saved at that moment. When in reality my father was taking multiple different hard drugs. Having sex with two women so he could stay at their place. When I was born I thought that my father was the center of the universe period as a child who was raised in a family of five my parents sucked at anything that came to finances they ignored virtually all their responsibilities they put us under a very strong religious upbringing but with no doctrinal context. Because of this I was very dyslexic when I was younger and my parents taught me how to see the world through the Bible but only through their perception. Well my father believed she was chosen by an Angel. But according to the Apostle Paul we walk by faith not by sight and if any Angel preaches any other gospel let him be accursed so my father put himself under curse through the things that he saw outside of Doctrine. I was never taught these things. I was beating probably more than a thousand times growing up as a child my father would use the extenders for the Mighty Mite period which was a vacuum cleaner he would use pieces of wood or he would use. Whips that we would use to hit pigs with think of a long narrow whip that leaves lash marks. That's what my father would use on me and my siblings and when he was really upset he would pull his belt off. We were taught from a young age to hate sexuality and I hate sex in general and to have no perception of sex at all until we became adults or got to a point to where we could make those decisions. But this level of brainwashing was so bad that I learned to hate sex as I got older to the point that I'm 31 and I have never had sex. But putting that aside when it comes to spanking my father my father would tell me it was for my own good looking back on it I realized that it was just my father trying to hurt me because he could not actually fix the problems cuz he was severely abused his entire life so he decided to pour that abuse out on me and my siblings whenever we did not measure up to what he wanted. It got so bad that my elder brother left the house and told us that one day you're going to figure out just how full of crap your parents are my little sister the moment she got out of the house immediately had sex with the first man she could have sex with which was a sixty-year-old man and she was 20. My big sister became a Wiccan and is currently a lesbian with her her partner at her house. For me and my brother because we had learning disabilities my dad was really hard on us we thought it was because he cared or because he wanted us to succeed whenever we didn't succeed at the level he wanted he would verbally scream yell. Addis repeatedly. Later my brother he had a full-blown panic attack because he burned a burrito in the microwave because my mom was coming home and she almost caught us watching Dragon Ball Z. This was because of all the stress he had been put under he was actually going insane at the age of 11 I had to stop him from cutting his own throat. And part 1
Human being are scarey
The feirce tto gentle is what my adoptive mother did!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@simonewolfe9472
Жыл бұрын
OMG where und ok ?
Indian parents warming up their slippers while watching this 🔥😎.
@abdiqanihashi484
Жыл бұрын
🤣
No butts were harmed during the belt
I agree with you I 14 now
You know what That slap the child is bad for you and me I'm not sure if you slap the child You're Child abuse
My parents are long gone, but I used to get hit, now my sister didn't as the argument was you raised boys and girls differently. I've worked harder, physical jobs, and a more physical upbringing. Our world is naturally more physical and violent, and I'm glad my parents prepared me for that.
Everything in moderation and you also have to be level headed and not slap then while caught up in emotion...
@Mr.Goodkat
Жыл бұрын
Said the husbands regarding hitting wives for millennia.
@Lucas_70
Жыл бұрын
I approve of my mum hitting me and I will do the same to my kids. I will not hit them for the fun of it but only when they are not listing and doing something stuiped. I will still love them, more than anyone in this comment section ever would, but I will still beat them because I don't want them to end up like you
@bdidbwvolume2.230
Жыл бұрын
Did you even watch the video? You have to not slap them at ALL. Would you accept me smacking you "in moderation"? Of course not. That's not a way to behave.
@KingMark33
Жыл бұрын
This literally never happens. No “happy” parent is going to beat their kid. “Hey little Johnny, I’m beating your ass right now because I love you and this is the best way to teach you about life 😃”
@sowo7136
11 ай бұрын
there is no such thing as level- headed beating, when a parent is upset or frustrated with a child because they're not listening or doing something wrong, they beat out of anger.
I don't think it's right I mean they receive the same pain as childs
12:53 this is why murderers exist
Dang you guys just a hand I got spank by a belt or go outside and get a stick
@putmeinamovie6886
Жыл бұрын
I got that and also a small whip and a fucking hanger 💀
@auburneytuckerson2959
10 күн бұрын
Same. Belt or stick but mostly belt.
Cap. I got the belt. My father would talk to me and my brothers and ask me WHY I did the things I did. He would give us the lashing and go and cry to himself. Because it would hurt him to have to punish. But he knew the consequence of not doing his job.
I got two pops on my butt and then got set down to talk to about why I got popped on the butt and then told that I shouldn't do it again and it was explained why I shouldn't do it again
@bdidbwvolume2.230
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, and your parents are bad parents for it.
This video does not seem well made. Most of these arguments you are debunking seem like they are not being addressed. The few arguments that are addressed are addressed using vague, if not deceptive, evidence. For example, you mentioned statistics about kids growing up to be violent when they were beaten as a child, but this includes children who were abused as a child as well as children who were spanked. Obviously, if someone is beaten for no reason they will grow up with a "might makes right" attitude. By including these people, the numbers are getting skewed in your favor, making the study invalid as evidence.
Yo my G's wassup bitches and gentlemen I have come along to help ya'll decide where you are at, by hearing from a extremely further evolved member of the species and where he is at on the whole philosophy of a father and his son spending some quality time together and the father expressing his love for his son by breaking his jaw etc..well is it big, is it clever, does it make you into a big hardman and does it mean that your son will be better equipped with the tools needed for a life in brahmans maya? More when I return so stay tuned
Nothing wrong with spanking for severe disciplinary infractions after other means are exhausted.
@bdidbwvolume2.230
Жыл бұрын
Theres actually a lot wrong with it. If you watch the video, it shows why that's wrong.
@KingMark33
Жыл бұрын
cool, practice this on your wife
@jamesstreet228
Жыл бұрын
@@bdidbwvolume2.230 If you look at all the school shootings it'll show you how wrong this shit vid is.
@andylynch473
8 ай бұрын
Especially in extreme circumstances as the ability to be in control through anger in reaction has gone, rational does not exist and violence of some nature is the action taken.
Disingenuous. Sorry but you conflate all physical correction as gross abuse. The subject is about open hand smacking, but you then talk about how beatings etc is horribly wrong -no one disagrees with you! Watch again -so many *punching fists* drawn. And a backseat driver -no alternative answer to what's acceptable punishment, so many conclude they shouldn't punish at all, hence we see a rise in society of arrogant, self entitled, disrespectful brats ...who throw tantrums when the police arrest them. There's good physical discipline and bad physical discipline. Most kids don't need to be, and shouldn't be, spanked. However, nothing wrong with spanking for severe disciplinary infractions after other means are exhausted.
My parents punch me in the face
@colinchampoli9022
11 ай бұрын
Sorry for being late, but your parents probably won't punch the police, if you get what I'm hinting at.
@joey6451
9 ай бұрын
ok.. that is not ok! get the cops involved ASAP!
@captainfalconmain6576
3 ай бұрын
then their acting like children
There's a big difference between spanking your child and beat them this is designed to confuse a person but yet too there's parents out there and I know one personally that uses cell phones and electronics to keep an eye on her kids and that's just a strong but I don't think that's going to be said in this l Victoria
@bdidbwvolume2.230
Жыл бұрын
No there's not a difference actually. They're both abuse. If you watched the vid, you'd know that. It's objectively the same thing.
Well, it's one day of getting a snot nosed brat to stop acting like a snot nosed brat. Brats tend to shut up real quick when parents make it known that bratty behavior is not something to be tolerated.
@greeneyeballs
Жыл бұрын
they don’t. they just do it behind your back to avoid being further traumatized.
@yrmendiratta4475
11 ай бұрын
@@greeneyeballs Yes. I live in a university area. I have firsthand seen the effects of spanking. Kids who were spanked at home come here and indulge into bad habits...
what is up with immigrant parents saying “oh I’m not from Australia (example) so I don’t need to follow the stupid psychology shit”