Annie asked a valid question I'm 31years now, I remember an old man trying to use his age to disrespect me on my right at first bank few weeks back, with my calm voice and smiles I told him Sir, I know you of my Father age but you are rude. He was so mad, but another elderly man told him he was wrong with his actions. Truly we need to bring back respect both adult and little ones

This generation needs to reenforce the importance of Respect, boundaries, etiquette and moral values. Truth be told. Things like this are gradually slipping off and it’s bad!! You’re not old mama Layefa❤️I totally love this topic

The school I attended we weren’t allowed to call our teachers ma, we called them by their names.. we were taught etiquette as a subject then..in my house we call our older siblings by their names but we are so respectful and understood boundaries .,,some people just have bad character sha

Someone just needed to talk about this for real! I feel like the ones that even say “hi dear” are still “polite and well mannered”. Some of them just walks into a room with their RBF (Resting B**ch Face) and just gets the conversation started without any form of pleasantries exchanged. In my head, heheheheh 🤣😂 with my marital status and number of kids! We really need to do better. Like Layefa said, I don’t care for the auntie, Ms, Queen, Mrs, elder, sister whatever. Just act right and have sense ✌️

Most Millennials not being able to express themselves, is so true.

The definition of boundaries can mean different things

Honestly, I think respect is a two-way thing because some adults go too far. For example, I had an adult in my life who will call me unprovoked and insult me. Call me all sorts of names and I'm always too shocked to respond or insult me in the presence of others and belittle me and I got tired and I blocked her because if you're not going to understand my boundaries, why should I keep answering your calls or seeing you? Because at this point you're just straight up bullying unprovoked oo.

It’s Maya Angelou; the poet that Layefa was referring to. In formal situations, one is required to address older people as Ms. Or Mr. For informal situations some people don’t mind being addressed by their names.

For me respect is earned not Force and also reciprocal I'm a Nigerian staying here in Egypt and i can tell you that i use to carry that Nigeria respect thing on my head, like every person you meet that you're older than should be calling you auntie but here i realized that it doesn't work that way you have to be a member of their family first they just don't go around calling everyone auntie & which is what many Nigerians be expecting because it's something we're use to but here is different for example my ogah grandchildren call him by his name, here even your children can call you by your name for them it's normal the only call the bigger person in the house aunt like if you're in your 70s but when when you're in your 20s 30s 40s even 50s you get called by your name. me to don Learn& accept am and it's normal na only we Nigerians carry the respect thing for head which is ok but most times we over do it abeg 🤣🤣

I thought It was just me that felt that way about this “Hi dear”matter because boy have I had to really tell people I am not your dear a lot, not sure what’s happening with this new generation and dear, sometimes it even sounds so condescending like 😒

Yeah humans should be considerate and polite,I love you Layefa,Bola,Anita

I work with a lot of young kids. I do not expect them to put Ms in front of my name. They do it when they get to know me and when I respect them first. When they see I care they respect me. Respect earned period

@Fluuuv

5 ай бұрын

Exactly. It's something that Nigerians are always missing. Respect is earned. Humans don't deserve respect just for being old(er).

@favouratta6047

5 ай бұрын

Exactly

I agree with Anita, a lot of Black cultures, African or not have a common ground when it comes to Respect. In America, The southern Blacks do not play when it comes to respect.

I feel like most genz do not know exactly what respect is

@fingerlicksandfriends

5 ай бұрын

This is so true😢 I honestly need help, while growing, in school we were taught only the definitions of respect, I don’t particularly know what to do to show respect and what not to do, I’m not disrespectful by the way but I see some people and I want to behave like them, I want to be calm like them but most times, I don’t know exactly what to do

Why do Nigerians carry respect by greeting on their heads? How does "Hi" vs "Good Morning" signify disrespect? I think it depends on your attitude. You can say "Good Morning" with a bad attitude and that's is a problem as well. I think we need to lose the notion that greeting by the time of day signifies respect. Also, what is the big deal with calling someone by their first name? What is then the purpose of your name if it isn't for people to have something to refer you by?

You can put people in their places without being rude by being calm and firm.

Please and thank you is important, however respect is earned.

Till date I still have respect 😊 My mom was a very strict person I learn the hard way 😅

I love this conversation, realistic and honest views

I thought it was just me who finds it weird when someone younger than me and has no real connection nor rapport with me addresses me as "dear"! Like it's so off!!! I on the other hand, even those people from secondary school who we used to address as "Snr" this or that, I will not and cannot see them now and for any reason call them straight by their names, not that I'll call them snr, but I'll be very much hesitant to call them by name, that cause I still regard them as seniors! But not the younger gen o! They go dey call you like sey ona baff together for hostel😂😂

I love this ❤ it's so enlightening 😊 We learn everyday and from anyone Remember some years ago I can't say sorry to anyone esp if I'm right 😂 A girl once offended my roommate and I but she rather was acting a victim crying Next thing, my roommate called me aside that we should kneel down and just apologize to her so she can stop crying That it won't take anything away from us 😮 since that day, I say sorry a lot just for peace sake

They don't want to learn and that is how they will be making a lot of mistakes

Very nice video.

Lovely to see you and bola ❤❤

I love this vlogmas intro ❤😍

Ahh I love this video Bestea…this was a necessary conversation I hope persons really listen to what you are saying and not just watch for watch sake. A soft answer turns away wrath…that soft response will have a more lasting effect on them.

❤❤❤ nice topic 👏

🎯🎯 BOUNDARIES 🎯🎯!!

Why were people hating tho.. just do u babe.. forever a fan girl❤❤❤❤

Thank you Layefa, i loved the way you exoressed yourself This topic definitely woth its diverse points eill not be agreed by everyone Your key points were definitely noted amd there's room for improvement for both Gen z's and millennials.

Beautiful conversation

Layefa your answers are very good 👍

Respect doesn’t feed nobody. Your reputation is what matters but maybe it’s me, im half sa & half Israeli. Though my mother is Nigerian. And my whole work technique IS WESTERN. it doesn’t change who I am. Know who you are & these stuffs will be nothing. I definitely enjoyed this sit down video regardless.

@jasiel__

4 ай бұрын

Exactly how I feel too. If you are well mannered and you act right and everyone acts right and is well mannered I don’t think this needs to be a big thing.

Thank you so much ❤ like I thought it was just me oo 😂 I really hate that hi dear shit 🤦🏼‍♀️ Thank you 😊 I enjoyed the video much love ❤️ 🥰

How will we know how to train ourselves when we lack some home training

One thing people need to realize is that culture evolves whether we like it or not. I believe everyone should be respectful to one another but to 'demand' a type of respect based on cultural belief is not practical especially in this era where people are constantly moving across borders

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I feel like you should communicate how you feel and your boundaries to people and it would help. Personally I don’t like being greeted by younger ones, “Hello” or “Hi” is good enough for me as long as you’re not coming with attitude but it doesn’t mean that I don’t greet people that like being greeted. And for people that aren’t your family members, I feel like you should be more open minded with them because everyone is raised differently, in my family only the uncles and aunties are being greeted and not called by their names, between us the cousins we really don’t care and we’ve never had issues concerning disrespect, my friend’s was taught that you call family members sister or brother and outsiders miss or mr, so I feel like even if it’s not something you’re use to you should understand that people are raised differently and because you’ve used your actual name as your brand name it going to be common for people to refer to you as “Layefa” or “Bola” instead of aunty. If you wanted it then you should have implemented it from the beginning like Aunty Fumi Desalu Vold, from the first day I watched her channel she referred to herself as Aunty Fumi because her name is also her brand and she knows people are going to call her Fumi and she’s 54.

It’s how Bola keeps agreeing with you 😂

Nice one layefa, we are Afrcans and our culturale heritage screams respect no matter where we are leaving. Besides respect earns you more than disrespect can. Nice one beautiful 3

I’m readyyyy!!😂

Annie is right. Most white ppl don't do the Mr/Mrs thing. I live in a predominantly white community and I'm 32 yo millenial. I call my friends in their 70s and 80s and my inlaws their name because that's what they asked me to call them 😂

@favouratta6047

5 ай бұрын

True it's really a Nigerian thing we carry the respect thing so much someone might call you auntie but still disrespect you while others call you by your name but respect you and everything you stand for

Respect is overrated. My God just because you are an age over does not mean I owe you respect. When you say good morning to a person and that person doesn't greet you it's not about you. That person could be going thru something. Has nothing to do with respect.

@mahfomunyam3400

5 ай бұрын

Nonsense talk

@sose9601

5 ай бұрын

You are such a foolish person,I am totally shook. Who raised you???

@sose9601

5 ай бұрын

Between let me tell you. When you show this kind of attitude,you will only draw the people at the lower food chain to yourself.. No respectable CEO, straight talking man/woman, will take you seriously. Because you have shown you don't even respect yourself enough to act with the basic decorum. Respect yourself and be cordial. You WON'T DIE.

Me sef that’s a gen Z if I see sb I’m older than pass without greeting or being polite it use to shock me😑 I even hate that dear thing from a younger person.. mind you I’m 19😂

@jemimabalami

4 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

Random question I’m 29 I’m kind of in the same age range as Layefa do I call her Layefa or miss Layefa lol I grew up here and left there quite early so Im just curious lol.

As for me I am the reverse.i don't like people calling me Anty .just call me by my name even if you are younger than me

But how will you know the person is older than you?

Anita is just saying You see why I don't want to be in this video You guys are attacking Anita o😂

It's mostly a female thing

I think the name calling is not our fault as Gen-Z, it's our parent (millennials) that don't bring up their children that way.

Finally

But you guys should be truthful to yourselves, when we watched nollywood as kids did you ever say Aunty Ini Edo or Uncle Olu Jacobs?, I feel like it’s different for socialites because your name is your brand, it’s going to be weird to say Uncle Louis Vuitton but he’s definitely not my age mate but that’s his brand so I think celebrities should understand that out of excitement people might call you by your names without thinking about your age. To me the respect of back then was traumatizing because what do you mean by “you can’t say your senior is lying” “you can’t sit when your senior is standing” “you can’t look your senior in the eye when their talking”, It gives room for people older than you to ride over you all in the name of “I’m older”. I’ve lived in Warri all my life and I know I’m definitely not raising my kids like this because some of the things we did in the name of respect was very painful. I believe if everyone was trained to be well mannered, polite, and have etiquette we’ll respect each other and there will be no need for “higher respect”.

But ladies common sense is not common

Wait Layefa and Bola should take it easy with Anita biko🥺🙏

@sose9601

5 ай бұрын

Take it easy on what? Learn and be better abeg. Politeness is so important. Bad character nor dey pay ever.

First of all parents should never talk in front of their kids about certain things

Ebike did not respect layefa talkless of anita

After all the big talk about etique about respect Layefa proceeded to pick up her phone mid conversation ON VIDEO and even left it inside the video that is ultimately the rudest thing you can do

@Fluuuv

5 ай бұрын

Right? 🤣🤣

You bola that you are talking why can't you respect layefa you know that she senior you is it because her sisters is calling her by her name

Anita is right about white people calling themselves by name

No whalurrd

@user-ey3og2cl6l

5 ай бұрын

😅 which kind English be dis?? If you check oyinbo dictionary now, you go see sey na “whahalurdtt” dem write there

Hello layefa why did you allow your sister's call you by your name after all you senior them

Third to comment 😂😂😂

Seriously ladies just have unnecessary attitude and unseen competition: A guy walks into a room and greets everyone on the table including the ladies but we ladies might just manage to greet the guys and ignore the ladies on the table and proceed to keep this rest bitch face on. We Gen Z do the most sometimes sha 😂 i also think environment matters aswell, i remember vividly when i newly moved to Onitsha Anambra state they hardly reply greetings except you shout on lungs that they can't pretend not hearing cus they were not used to it but it was not same where i had moved from. You barely pass an elder or even anyone without greeting them in Edo state, inshort they will draw your attention to it but with time i have noticed the value is now dropping... Seriously, in this time and age is just a conscious thing and i do call myself to order to remember my home training and not get carried away with our whole Gen Z thingy.

Hello, Layefa, how are you? I’m asking genuinely, please respond if you can. Speaking about respect and boundaries, did you choose to live alone due to this? I’ve been following you for a while and I know you live with your Sisters, now you live alone, please respond I actually need your insight. Thank you. 🤍

@jessy_jed

5 ай бұрын

She said she needed privacy and now she regrets it

Thank you for making this video.🤍