I have been told off SO MANY times for dressing too nicely for someone who is supposed to be ill. Mostly my mum telling me off for wearing makeup because people will think I'm rude, as if I'm lying about being ill because I tell them I'm struggling to go out, yet I managed to spend five minutes putting on eyeliner and mascara (all I ever wear). If I'm ever a quarter of an hour late for something, it's because I'm in a lot of pain and that's as fast as I can go - NOT because I put on a pair of hook earrings. If I'm expected to perform for people no matter what and sacrifice feeling good about myself - or even feel/be CLEAN (apparently wanting to shower is wrong of me too) - then maybe I don't have the energy to go out. Maybe I don't WANT to go out under those circumstances.

@otherarcher9620

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for writing this. I was wondering why Jessica never mentions the outright hostility you can get if you are in a wheelchair and dressed up in any way. Then I realized that she seems to be trying to focus on the positive in this video and it also seems to be her signature style to say everything with a positive attitude and style. But I do hope that when she does more videos about style she touches on the fact that for some reason people who are ill are not supposed to care about that anymore.

@tochterchenfrost4784

4 жыл бұрын

wish i could give you more likes :) i have depression and when it's really really bad i slowly do less and less and then less and less selfcare but hygienics (did i spell that right?) is like the last thing i give up on. i might not eat properly for days but i often still manage a shower.

@brit9662

4 жыл бұрын

@@tochterchenfrost4784 Well done you! I've personally found personal hygiene really difficult the past few years. I am now showering (and changing clothes) every few days, which is the most frequent for the aforementioned last few years. That said, it must be hard to shower on not much food! If I'm feeling faint, I ask my mum to make me a milkshake 😋 Anyway, thank you x

@brit9662

4 жыл бұрын

@@otherarcher9620 🙌

@tochterchenfrost4784

4 жыл бұрын

@@brit9662 thanks :) i was basically reacting on the absurdity of people judging you for wanting to be/feel clean. guess everyone has their own little ways of staying alive ; ) congrats then to the every few days! sometimes its the little things we have to acknowledge and value

I’m going to be in pain either way, so I might as well look good while I’m at it!

I’ve dyed my hair bright red for almost six years now and it makes such a big difference. It’s self care for me. When my hair is faded or too dark, it can darken my mood by extension, whereas looking in the mirror and seeing bright red curls makes me happy. It’s the little things!

@GenocidexDreams

5 жыл бұрын

A. Rose I am the same! I’ve been doing my hair hot pink for nine years. If it fades ir the roots start showing, I feel less like myself.

Your smile and amazing personality is just so contagious! Thanks for sharing this video. =D

@jessicaoutofthecloset

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you x

Yes I feel so happy when I’m well dressed. Although I have mobility issues, it’s important to me to feel good. I love your style, truly inspirational. I also love 50s, and swish my petticoats even with a walking stick lol xx

I also loved makeup, jewelry and bright colors before I got sick and that certainly didn’t change once I became disabled, although learning which skirt lengths I could do comfortably with a wheelchair was a bit tricky at first. Once I wasn’t running up and down the soccer field with my friends all the time and was watching from the sidelines, collecting and wearing jewelry and getting joy out of makeup and clothing became even more important to me. Realizing I couldn’t do headbands or braids anymore because of my chronic migraines was a bummer but I could still do certain really cute hats or some fun hair clips with my low ponytail etc. I’ve always loved matching my jewelry and lipstick to my outfit as being matchy matchy with accessories just makes me happy and I’ve noticed the more I got rid of smithing I didn’t feel wonderful in and wore my brightly colored, fun prints and switched up which part of the outfit I was matching with my jewelry, the more people at church told me how pretty my outfit etc was and how happy I was looking even if that was my only time to get out that week and it was like OF COURSE I’m happy to be there and to have felt like doing something different with my eye makeup. When my need for a cane became daily before needing to use my wheelchair more, I also searched online for ages for a non collapsible, dark purple cane with a specific handle so I wouldn’t just have to use the black one all the time. In the end I found a pink, white and purple paisley cane that looks like it was made to order with my favorite paisley handbag and I just LOVE that because pink and purple make me happy and my cane and my bag just look so cute together! It is definitely about wanting to present ourselves as we are! I’ll still have days where a concert T shirt and colorful leggings and huge slip on shoes because my feet are too swollen for anything else

@emmymorris7648

4 жыл бұрын

But even on those leggings days I’ll still wear my favorite eggplant paper boy style hat and a pair of statement earrings that match my leggings and shirt design and makeup even some bright red or hot pink lipstick and I am already smiling more once we leave after I have the earrings, hat and lipstick on because they make me feel more like me and anything that can do that is great! 💄💄

Yes, I do want to see more videos about your style, please! I'm already following your instagram and I wish I could like every picture twice. :) I just love your style so much!

@jessicaoutofthecloset

7 жыл бұрын

Noted! Will do. What sort of video would you like to see: Reviews? 'How I Put This Outfit Together'? 'Look What I Bought'? I realise that last one is called a 'haul' video but that makes me think of big trucks too much! x

@Pecas_Love

2 жыл бұрын

@@jessicaoutofthecloset i would like to know what you buy and where 😁 so we can also buy those beautiful clothes

I'm not sure if you made a video about this specifically; but what got you interested in wanting to wear vintage clothes ? Have a vintage style? Was it a particular old hollywood movie? Was it seeing photographs and old magazines of the 1940s and 1950s era? Is there any other period clothing you would love to try and wear daily but doesn't make sense to in the time were in?

I like your style, I really do. My sis and I were watching a movie made in the late 50s, and we agreed that women really *dressed* back then. However, for me, it isn't livable. Instead, I could live in Claudia's wardrobe. My parents told me once that nice girls didn't wear dresses whilst climbing trees, so I ditched the dresses.i own a couple, just for weddings and funerals. I would love a video about the brands that Claudia wears, as i think she's always well out together. Thanks for all you do to raise the spirits of those of us who have disabilities or even just breathe and are human. The world needs you.

I love your style, you are a great inspiration❤

I love the dancing outtro.

I love dressing weird, and I live your channel, you are wonderfully unique 😍😘

THE BLAIR WALDORF PICS.....SAME

Your style is fabulous, and I like the way you don't hide your disability aids.

You give me hope. Such a beautiful person.

@jessicaoutofthecloset

8 жыл бұрын

+Nancy Joll-Ramirez Thank you Nancy! Very kind x

Great one Jessica! Maybe make a video about how you do your retro hairstyles? :)

@jessicaoutofthecloset

8 жыл бұрын

+Clara Minguet will do! With a separate one about rolling your hair? x

Yes would totally love to watch that😊😊..your personality is what makes you beautiful and so approachable.you don't care what others think..and I respect that. #rolemodel #hero #fighter #HearingAidPride🙋🙂🙂

@jessicaoutofthecloset

8 жыл бұрын

+vivian v Thank you, Vivian! Such a lovely comment x

Since M.E./CFS effects energy and mobility; tips on how to roll your hair if you can't raise your arms above your shoulders; or how you might need to do things more incrementally now that you are ill; in other words; addressing the specific changes a chronic illness has caused you to make in your style routines would be great. I don't think their is anyone else disabled who is talking about that. Also please find a way to comment on the negative response one sometimes gets to being dressed up and in a wheelchair; because it is relevant and someone with your sparkly outlook must have some interesting thoughts on this phenomenon. (Was I supposed to stop being myself when I got ill??)

thank you for introducing griege into my vocabulary ha

I have chronic pain and sometimes I’ll dress comfy

Cool as think I've watch before x love lindsey

I would entirely endorse the compliments about your delightful dress sense Jessica. Often it recalls, very pleasantly for me, the classy female dress style of the 1950`s but you have developed your own very individual sweetly old fashioned style. The last time I was a dedicated follower of or otherwise gave a damn about (male) fashion was during my time in London in the early 1970`s. I could then be seen typically tottering down the King`s Road in stacked shoes that elevated me from 5ft 5 to at least 5ft 8, tight flared trousers of great vulgarity, tight jacket nipped in at the waist with lapels 5 inches wide, shirts with high wide collars and ties with huge wide knots. Absolutely ghastly of course, but at the time the height of male fashion and so typical of how males dressed. Your look though is so charmingly timeless. Yours and that of the Duchess of Cambridge, whose dress sense I also greatly like and applaud! (^_^)

@jessicaoutofthecloset

8 жыл бұрын

+toff358 Your outfit sounds marvellous and I hope you took pictures! Thank you for the wonderful compliments about my look, I do so enjoy putting outfits together (and I would adore access to the Duchess of Cambridge's wardrobe!) x

Yes, please. :)

What decades mainly do you wear and what do you suggest for men? Your instagram is amazing, great looks every single time

I'd love to know some of the brands and places where you get your clothes from. I love vintage style clothes but I'm not sure where to look except for when I went to a vintage clothes festival yrs ago when I was away at Uni.

Another Great vid X . More more more yes please ; X fabulous dress where did you get ? Love Lindsey X

@jessicaoutofthecloset

8 жыл бұрын

+Lindsey loves Blog Thank you Lindsey! Glad you enjoyed the video. The dress is from Lady V London. They have some truly gorgeous pieces x

@lindseylovesblog

8 жыл бұрын

Ta X Very cool dresses " 😀

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I dress the way I do so I’m not invisible as a disabled person, I only get helped by brave people, people that help without asking and just feel the need to do good out ways actually doing good stay away from me. I’m a goth and proud.

Would have been nice if you showed more the fashion, than the talk as your title said

You may not have picked a specific time period, but your dresses, hair style, and even that flower all scream late 1950s. You will stop caring about what others think of you when you realize how seldom they think of you. Not sure where that came from originally, but whoever it is, they sound intelligent. I only cared about how I look once ever and that was to take the 7 year old picture right next to this comment. That is the one and only picture I went out of my way to take because I needed one for...well everything. I do not attempt to attract a mate so I never try to look good. Therefore, I am very lost when you talk about a sense of identity by appearance.

@jessicaoutofthecloset

8 жыл бұрын

+Jesse Sisolack Ah, thank you for letting me know- late 50s it is! That's a wonderfully profound quote, thank you. My experience of needing to maintain a sense of identity by appearance really came from being so ill and thus not able to truly communicate with others in any other way. Now dresses and bright colours make me very happy.

@brit9662

6 жыл бұрын

Jessica Kellgren-Fozard Oh my gosh! I completely relate to that in a way that I don't believe has been put into words before! Being too tired to interact with my natural gusto make it even more important to me that I express my personality through my collection of novelty earrings, for example. I may not be able to hold a conversation but so long as I'm wearing googley-eyed aliens from my earlobes, perhaps some impression of who I am is getting noted

@otherarcher9620

5 жыл бұрын

People who enjoy dressing up in this sort of way rarely do it to please anyone else. Someone who is not interested in expressing themselves through style or clothing will never understand those who do; and this is okay. We don't do it for you; and we certainly don't expect you to be as interested in it as we are. You do what feels natural to you. But your subtle hostility was not lost on me; I've encountered it before and what you need to understand is that our sense of style or desire to dress up in no way reflects any sort of value judgement on those who do not care to express themselves through their appearance. Her style has elements of 1950's fashion mostly in the colour range and nowhere else; what I mostly see is a 1940's influence; particularly in the long, curled and styled hair and in the narrow; slightly pronounced shouldered dress. Incidentally, by the 1950's women's hair was worn much shorter and the "new look" narrowed waistlines and widened skirts; neither of which is in her current outfit. The flower definitely hearkens from the earlier period. Perhaps you are not familiar enough with the nuances of these periods to see the difference; but a costume or fashion historian can spot them a mile away. Rather your comment; especially the use of the word "screams" seems to be motivated by a desire to pigeonhole her wish to be stylish as a function of the roles women seem to have been relegated to in the fifties; when they were placed back into home and hearth by their husbands returning from the war. You seem to be saying that she cares about what other people think of how she looks; and you are superior because you do not; when the reality is that because you don't understand the impulse to dress up you've always been a little intimidated by it. But it's really okay if it's just not your thing. There's no need to be even subtly hostile, however. You do what feels right to you. We honestly don't usually care how other people dress; this is just how WE feel comfortable. All in all; she looks more like a pin up that a serviceman might have had above his bunk than a house wife from the fifties. But you can relax; her excess of style does not reflect negatively on your lack of one.