I’m an INTJ and I recently hired my two most favorite co-workers of all time. Then I had them take the personality test and they are both INFJ 😂😂😂😂😂

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a great work environment. Keep pushing them INTJ ✊

@TokyoTaisu

Жыл бұрын

Oh no now they gonna compete who is the better INFJ. Drama incoming.

@SmooochyFace

Жыл бұрын

@@TokyoTaisu 🤣😂🤣 you’re not wrong.

@redhairgrneyes

Жыл бұрын

The competition is real! 😂

@followme6482

11 ай бұрын

Same here, except for the fact they happened to be my friends, too

INTJs mean everything to INFJs as well 🖤

@justcallmejon22

9 ай бұрын

"Two peas in a pod" 🙂

Wait... I'm an infj and I actually want to cry. Hearing someone telling me "I notice you and I appreciate what you do" it's something I needed, even though I didn't know I needed it before. Thank you so much💝

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

❤

@jakobblazko9015

Жыл бұрын

I don't need any external validation. Maybe I like it...in my darkest hours. But...at the end of the day.... I will feed the crows and die alone.

@romikizz

Жыл бұрын

@@jakobblazko9015 Of course everybody will die alone, that's not the point, the point it's the process, so, when you die, you know that during your life you had people who cared for you, and gave you external validation because you were someone special for them, that way you can die happy, it's like everything had meaning and was worth it.

@romikizz

Жыл бұрын

Needing too much external validation It's not really healthy either, but as humans we actually need that at least a little

@Third_Camp_fellowship

Жыл бұрын

So true. Thank you

I'm an INTJ married to an INFJ, we watched this together and laughed the entire time. Spot on.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Happy to hear that it resonates 😀

@mschuch

2 ай бұрын

I am an INFJ Girl who have crush on INTJ. In my friendship circle, all of my INTJ friends are hopeless romantic. they are not able romanticizing any relationship, and the worst one doesn't even want to get married, they tend to focus on their goal and career. I am so afraid that my crush will be the "similar INTJ" too, But, reading this reply give me a little hope that he will have an eye on me sooner or later. please pray for me and my INTJ crush.

Also, as an INFJ, INTJs are my favorite people. They offer clarity, and stability that my sometimes overly sympathetic/empathetic self really struggles with. They understand me, but they offer balance that I need. It’s a treasure. They are rare and hard to befriend, but worth the effort.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

INTJs feel the same way about you guys ❤

@andonbailey9656

Жыл бұрын

Ha, well it seems like you hit the motherload of INTJ's here Christy

@yaozhao4150

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 I respect intjs! Intjs are the best❤

@Nnn_k

Ай бұрын

As an INFJ I agree ! Actually my best friends are intjs , I’m looking for a romantic partner 😂

Twin flames of different colors

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Poetic 😉

@PaleGhost69

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 Thats why i stole it lol

I was a shy INTJ in H.S. Met a girl and we hit if off as friends. We would have long conversations and always felt a connection. Lost contact after H.S and found each other through social media 10 yrs later. Had her do a personality test and found out she is a INFJ... our connection makes so much sense.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I love hearing stories about things making sense especially in friendship/relationships after you learn about MBTI

@marsofia5549

Жыл бұрын

Ikr, I’m an INFJ girl and my INTJ friend has a crush on me 😂

@LordHaragnok

Жыл бұрын

​@@marsofia5549Rip bro

@kate-mq2fz

Жыл бұрын

I am an INFJ woman with an INTJ husband. We've been together for 20 years and we often feel that neither of us could never have lived with anyone else. I wish you all the joy and happiness in the world with your new-found-again friend.

I dated an INTJ in college. Lasted 8 years. Great compatibility mentally and I loved his mind but main issue was he was always a bit emotionally unavailable and undemonstrative with his love. He never even told me “I love you” although I know he did. He was so reserved with emotions that eventually I just had to move on. I desired more affection and emotionally I gave a lot more than I got.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Do what makes the most sense. INTJs really aren't the most emotionally expressive people and it's okay if you need more than what we can provide. I hope you find/found what you're looking for ✊

@zola5653

8 ай бұрын

8 years! Must be really hard for you to break up... Being an INFJ in a relationship with INTJ I completely relate. I hope you've found what you've wanted ❤

@duchessdelarue5983

8 ай бұрын

@@zola5653 yes very difficult to break up. Now I’m with an INFP and I can honestly say it’s very good and feels more reciprocal.

@zola5653

8 ай бұрын

@@duchessdelarue5983 Glad to hear that you're doing good! :D

Thank you! I’m an INFJ & one of my bestie’s an INTJ. I totally agree everything you said. I appreciate the INTJ’s honesty and brilliant mind. As well as reminding us, INFJs, that we are not responsible to carry and to solve everyone’s problem to the point that we, INFJs forget to care for our own well-being.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

It sounds like you two make a great pairing! Please take care of my INTJ family 🙏

@colleenmitchell5208

5 ай бұрын

Wow spot on!

“We are able to perceive multiple realities at once.” YES! YES YES YES! That’s me ALLLL THE TIME! As an INFJ, it’s so FREAKING hard to communicate at face value with most of the world 🤦🏻‍♀️ (sensors). They are so direct and you can tell that they think of one thing only whenever they talk. I have to FORCE myself to be one-dimensional in my communication with them. It feels so unnatural and almost like I internally cringe every time! The more concrete the description, the more I internally suffer lol! That’s why I always feel like people don’t know the real me most of the time and struggle to be felt understood. Being an Ni dom is so freaking weird, but it’s a fantastical mess. It’s like you can think of so many things at the same time that all make sense in the weirdest interconnected ways. I don’t even know how to explain it. Most of the time, I’m not staring at anything in particular; I just perceive the world in an abstract sense-I think of it in colors, feelings, “vibes”, music, symbols, archetypes, tropes . . . I will always be drawn to look beneath the surface and tie everything together. The world is a big mystery and it is MY mysterious oyster! With my INTJ, communication is SO freaking effortless! That’s one of the things I absolutely FREAKING love about him. He’s the best and he just gets me. We can be our cursed, natural forms, without having to dumb ourselves down or excessively explain anything. Long live the Ni doms!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

That's how I feel around my Ni user friends as well. It really is a different language talking to Sensors and I agree that it can be tremendously exhausting. Still love them though 🙃

@TheEmpressNyx

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 YES! I work in nursing, and most nurses tend to be sensors (usually SF types). Our communication styles don’t match. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I have to tailor myself to them while they have no idea how to tailor themselves to me. I come home feeling tired a lot of the time just from the social interactions.

@hfortenberry

4 ай бұрын

@@TheEmpressNyx I totally understand. I’m an INTJ female and my boss is ISFJ. We interact multiple times daily because our team is small so it’s clear to me that, although I love her, we just don’t mesh well and she rarely tries to understand me. I have to mold to her.

As an INFJ, the only time I feel like I’m not insane is when I talk to an INTJ.

@justcallmejon22

6 ай бұрын

I'm happy to hear that you have an INTJ in your life ❤️

I cried when you said "you can do it" I've always wanted someone to tell me that and believe in me. Thank You so much Jon.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome. INTJs will always support INFJs, go find one of us if you don't have one yet 🙂

@JL-eq1uf

Жыл бұрын

Me too 🥲

@jakobblazko9015

Жыл бұрын

Pfff. What is this? Crutches for cripples? INBJb for VBL for KLGH?. Fuck that

Oh my goodness! I am a 31-year-old female INFJ and I’ve been with my male INTJ for 14 years and he’s 32. Thank you so much for that video! I can’t even tell you how many times I teared up throughout it, because of how true it was! I just wanna let you know I just said a prayer to God thanking him for creating you, you beautiful piece of artwork! 🎉

@justcallmejon22

8 ай бұрын

Glad to hear that you enjoyed the video and congrats on marrying an INTJ! I hope the best for you two and please take care of him for us 🙏

@DanielByers-qf9qi

6 ай бұрын

He is fortunate to have you in his life. I am glad to know that some INTJ males find a worthy match.

@hfortenberry

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment, Nicole. I’m an INTJ female who’s always adored INFJs but was afraid they’d never like me due to my poor Fe skills (and an INFJ broke my heart when I was 19 - I’m a lesbian and she is bisexual and went back with her ex boyfriend after 2 years off and on, stringing me along). But I am 55 and still would love to be with an INFJ. I just love our conversations and think we can get each other better than anyone else. ❤ And I’m affectionate and love to let people know how much I love them (through my words and physical touch) which is important to feelers. I used to wonder if I’m a feeler but actually I think I’m just a “jumper” in the OP system, so more in touch with my feelings than most INTJs. It probably helps that I’m female and have the cultural support for that. I’ve had two long-term relationships (8 and 12 years) with INFPs; and, although I adore them, I always feel they don’t appreciate my strengths or craving for music and aesthetics (mainly my Te or Se). And they don’t care about my Ni master plan, beyond just being surface supportive but not really getting it, which hurts. I feel encouraged that it’s possible after seeing yours and a few other similar comments, for an INFJ-INTJ pairing to work.

I logged in just to give you a like. INFJ

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you 😭

I'm an INFJ and I cried at 14:16. Thank you for seeing us...😭😭😭😭 We appreciate it a lot.. Thank you INTJ's...

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

❤

@leech1355

3 ай бұрын

“I’m an INFJ and I cried” Fax 😂

I'm an INFJ and my husband is an INTJ. He's my favorite person.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I surely hope that you husband is your favorite person 😅. I'm sure he feels the same way about you INFJ!

What I love about INTJ's is the "INTJ Rant" i.e., 13:13 to 14:08, it's so refreshing, relatable, and passionate at the same time. Thanks for existing INTJ ☺

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

"INTJ Rant" = just me speaking my mind 😂

@RheaOfSunshine

Жыл бұрын

YES!

As an INFJ woman, my INTJ sweetheart keeps me grounded. He’s my favorite human! 💜 It is a very special bond. Great video! Thank you! 🧡

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Happy to hear that you both found each other ❤

I’m an INTJ with an INFJ grandma and whenever we’re together we talk for HOURS, just enjoying each other’s souls. Truly beautiful.

@justcallmejon22

Ай бұрын

Sounds like a great relationship 🙂

Im intj and my gf is infj, we have been together for 4 months and im impressed by how caring she is, nobody treated me this good before

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You're one of the lucky few! Take care of your INFJ Queen 👑

Awh, this is such a sweet video. Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad despite you being an INTJ that you have the heart and insight to let INFJ's know they're appreciated. It really means a lot. ❤❤❤

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You don't understand how many times I wanted to take down this video because I felt like I was being too sappy 🙃

@katherinewilson1853

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 Thank you so much, I really needed this video today. I know it sounds weird, but I have had a rough day. I appreciate you and this video.

@RheaOfSunshine

Жыл бұрын

​@@justcallmejon22 please don't take it down! WE NEED to be SEEN and know that we aren't invisible! Your words are exactly what INFJs need to hear! And especially after hearing that we are seen telling us to GO FOR IT is really important. The thing is we wouldn't be able to hear you tell us to go for it if we first hadn't felt seen! You did an amazing job!

One of the most stand out things to me as an infj is when an intj just bluntly calls me out and says something along the lines of “then don’t go” “ if you don’t want to then don’t. you don’t have to have a reason just say you aren’t going” no personality type ever puts it to me so blatantly. most empathise with me which makes it worse because then it validates my Fe worries that i’m going to disappoint people. but intjs cut out my Fe so strongly in those moments it sort of jolts me. and i feel brave enough to push for my own wants more. something i really appreciate about intjs that is hard to put into words.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the insight! It's so funny to hear that telling INFJs just to say no to things that you don't want to do is helpful because it feels like an automated response for INTJs 🙃

@katebrookes2068

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 yeah! haha I thin my that’s what makes it stand out more than when said by others. because infjs are really good a ready people’s intentions. so when an intj says that to me. i can tell. they really mean it. like black and white. “if you don’t want to.. don’t. simple” haha

My best friend is my younger sibling who happened to be an INFJ. And MBTI just made us closer. As the older sibling (INTJ), I find fulfillment in helping her out when indecisiveness gets to her (blindspot Te). Funny story: my father asked me the other day if I contact my sister (she's studying from afar), and I said, "No." He was surprised because we are almost inseparable when she's at home, but apparently, we dont message each other unless we need something. We are like telepaths to each other. We never needed to elaborate our thoughts and we get the signal when one needs their own space. We also feel safe sharing our thoughts to each other because we know the other is listening without prejudice.

@XZ858XZ

Жыл бұрын

WOW, this sounds like me and my little sister. I’m an INTJ and she’s INFJ. She gives the BEST perspective, most thoughtful gifts, and I value her opinion almost above all else, but we also don’t message each other unless we have an express purpose. Although lately, in my sentimental old age of 31, I have been making more efforts to have phone call dates while she is on the other side of the world. By temperament, I probably get along better on a day to day sense with my little INFP brother because he is just such a sweet and gentle soul, while me and my sister tend to be a bit more edgy/ornery, but I love them both equally and appreciate both of their rare and precious traits. It is so funny tho, when i talk to her that’s when I become INTENSELY aware of my lack of Fe 😂 she has set me straight many times calling me out for my inconsiderate and Fe-blind nature especially in dating situations (and I’d say I’m a pretty feelings-focused and considerate INTJ when i compare to your typical INTJ in the wild)

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

That sounds like a great childhood! I wonder if things would've been different if you were the younger sister, if it would be more chaotic because she's trying to teach you to calm down more (aggressive Te) 😅

@XZ858XZ

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 that’s honestly such a good question! I’ve thought about our dynamic often because in a lot of ways I feel like the younger sibling when it comes to the realm of feelings but when it comes to hard-nosed practical/ logical stuff I am very much in the role of the older sibling. I always thought our personalities are accounted for by our genetics and then are further developed by experiences and in my case especially the polarity in our family and relational dynamics. E.g., my Te intensity and lack of Fe probably set some examples for her of how not to act in her own life, and her lack of Te probably galvanized my existing Te tendencies.

You read me like a book! As an INFJ, you REALLY captured the dynamic including my faults and advantages I had with an INTJ ex boyfriend. Even the part about how INFJs begin to understand themselves in their 30s makes total sense. I appreciate the encouragement too. 🙏🏼 Thank you for this video and thank you for seeing me. 😊

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm just happy to hear that you're engaging with your Fi 🙂

Me an INFJ: cries because I feel understood

I had many INFJ friends when I was child and younger. Conversation with INFJ are so natural, direct, I don't need to translate the ideas or find the right words, it take no effort, it save my energy, no need to put a filter. With INTJ, we don't need to talk, we understand each other just by observing the eyes, face and body language (sort of telepathy) We understand each other without effort, as if we know each other for the eternity.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I also love how deep INFJs are. They're not privy to who they are due to the lack of Fi but we see it clearly, who they are, their beautiful soul. INFJs really are lovely.

@andonbailey9656

Жыл бұрын

"I don't need to translate the ideas or find the right words," Sounds wonderful, I wish I knew what that was like.

Sooo true 😊 this INFJ here love the INTJs in my life. I love not having to be sooo worried about how they feel bc they will always be true and tell me like: stop thinking about how the whole world will feel and start thinking about how you do 😅 no drama ❤ INTJs are the best ❤

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

We feel the same way about INFJs too ❤

Im an INTJ and my younger brother is an INFJ.. I often refer to us as opposite sides of the same coin.. He is absolutely my favorite person to be around in a social setting.. We have an unspoken language that really freaks people out because we can just look at each other and start laughing.. When I need an emotional perspective on a situation I always go to him.. I truly appreciate him as my brother and my best friend!

@justcallmejon22

9 ай бұрын

You lucked out my INTJ brother, it sounds like a blessing to be born next to your best friend 😊

I never comment on videos, but your video made tears pour from my eyes because I have never felt so seen in my life! Thank you so much for showing us INFJs that we do matter and that people do see us and understand us. I could feel your love and appreciation for us through the tv. Thank you. I love you and I appreciate you💚😇🙏

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

The love and appreciation goes both ways INFJ ❤

@claytonia1586

Жыл бұрын

I'm in tears too. I wish I had an INTJ in my life. I need so much help with Te and it would be awesome to have the Ni Te perspective on things. Everything said about strengths and weaknesses is true. ❤

One of my best friends since childhood was an INTJ and I am an INFJ. We were really close for many years, rarely having any conflict or problems and I always appreciated his brilliant mind and the ability to discuss abstract things and concepts with him for hours on end. The kind of discussions you don't seem to be able to have with anyone else even though you try. He could be a little cold and aloof sometimes but we got along well with each other. He was one of my best friends and someone I really enjoyed spending time around. He committed suicide a few years back after having his business fail and getting into opiod drugs due to surgery for back problems. We also had a falling out over money he borrowed and didn't repay before he died so we weren't on speaking terms for the first and only time in our entire history when he died. I miss him despite how things were at the end and I have a ton of great memories that I often reflect on. I think these two personality types are very complimentary and make a great combination for relationships of all kinds. 🤙

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

My condolences hearing about your INTJ. Mental health (which I group addiction into the same category) is something that I think the world needs to pay closer attention to. Although your relationship soured during the finale, I'm glad to hear that his memory brings more positive memories than negative ones. I'm sure he felt the same about you as well even if he's never been vocal about it ❤

@theprinceofcrows8691

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 Thanks! Yes, he needed help from mental health professionals but unfortunately he wasn't willing to try any of the things they recommended or prescribed when he did get to see someone. I think a lot of that is the stigma that surrounded mental health for so many years and that still does to some extent. It was tough to watch. You cannot make someone help themselves and that was why I had to remove myself from the situation at the end. I just know that my friend wasn't the person he was at the end. That was due to addiction, desperation, depression, a lifetime of disappointment, feeling he failed in the great game of life, and other associated problems. I just prefer to remember him when he was how he was for many years. The stuff at the end was like trying to rescue a desperate drowning man. The end was something of a mercy for him unfortunately. Now he is no longer hurting like that so I find solace in that.

Being an infj who was in a relationship with an intj, I can say this is the best breakdown I’ve ever heard on this MBTI combination. You got everything right. The dynamics of the relationship, the comrade, the depth of conversation, the meeting of two misunderstood minds who come together and feel so comfortable and complete with each other and feeling like they can take on the world together and just be themselves. And when that happens, the physical relationship is through the roof. Being with my intj was the most refreshing thing I’ve ever felt. I felt like I was home. And at 13 minutes, wow that spoke to me. Thank you for your videos.

@justcallmejon22

10 ай бұрын

Sad to hear that the relationship didn't last but happy to hear that you met someone that made you feel heard ❤

@pimpgurlmarth

7 ай бұрын

why did you guys break up then? i’m a INFJ

i am INTJ and my boyfriend is INFJ, and this was all spot on. the reason why i liked him in the first place was how caring he was and how he just got people in a way i could never do. we had a few laughs watching this video together because we saw ourselves in many of the things you said, including the advice to INFJs towards the end of the video (which are things i am often telling him myself.) Thank you for making this. on a side note, have you ever considered making a discord server? it would be nice to talk to other INTJs (and other types) about these topics :)

@themischa

Жыл бұрын

🥰💜✨

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear that you two can relate! In hindsight, I wish I went more into detail about how cute they are when they engage with Fi because it really does make us proud. I haven't made a discord server because I've heard horror stories. I might one day when I find a mod I trust but no discord until then 🙃

@andonbailey9656

Жыл бұрын

"nice to talk to other INTJs" god yes i love that idea

Infj here. Fe and stuff: Other peoples emotions just float into me like a wave. It happened that I cried for no reason, I wasnt really sad over anything and had a great day but I felt sadness. Then I asked myself: whose sadness is this? And I could detect it by remembering who I met some hours ago or a day prior . I do not have a choice, and I cannot force it or stop it. Fe just does whatever it wants.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

It sounds like what happens when an INTJ realizes that we're feeling emotions. It's usually delayed but we usually have a difficult time pinpointing where it comes from.

as an infj I appreciate and admire intj

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

It goes both ways 🙂

This INFJ wants to thank you for speaking up! ❣️ Now I want an INTJ friend 😊😁

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Not really sure where you can find us but my recommendation is to use Ni as bait 😂

As an INTJ who rarely meet other INTJs (met a few ppl who got INTJ, but they usually relate to what INTJs are stereotyped as and we just can't vibe as well), thank you for talking about how you process emotions, problems, solutions, and general thoughts. It's so hard for me to explain to people how my brain works, and how I still care for them. INFJs, INFPs, and INTPs are the few people I usually tend to have long-term friendships with, so this hits the mark. I love INFJs, they're very entertaining and inspiring. I find the way they express themselves to people especially admirable.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Friends that makes you feel comfortable are truly hard to come by. Make sure you continue to nurture those relationships ✊

This is my first comment under a youtube video ever: recently met an INTJ friend, so far I can honestly say he is a big blessing in my life for inspiring me to do my best. A huge 'thank you' for making this video. p.s. as far as the reason why we operate the way we do - it's just nature, we're "wired" this way, it's cliche but it's true.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I feel honored to get your first comment! Don't feel like I'm pressuring INFJs or expecting you guys to change as a result of this video, we love you guys the way you are ❤

@user-iq1uj1cc6t

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 Aww, thanks. I just realized something - me giving you my first comment is an actual example of how you guys (the INTJs) can make us come out of our shell and take more action, it's pretty amazing to see how MBTI works in real life. We love you guys too

As an INFJ I too absolutely love you INTJs and appreciate all that you guys do, even though most people will never know, understand, nor even see it. I am glad to have gotten to know a few INTJs and yes, we are very similar yet very different at the same time. Although both the similarities and differences seem to work perfectly between us. It is rare for anyone to see me at the depth that I reside but you INTJs can reach that depth for you yourselves reside there as well. It is funny, it only happened after I became comfortable with not being seen, not being noticed, and not being understood that I found people that saw me, noticed me, and understood me, seems all IN types can do that. It took me to meet an INTJ online to actually finally feel like there is someone I can truly open up to and feel heard and seen like i do for everyone else. We INFJs are the more feeling versions of you INTJs and you INTJs are the more logical version of us INFJs in a way. I have an INTJ mother and an ENFJ father and sister. The only reason why I don't fully open up to them is they are family and I don't want them to worry about me. I have been finally learning about what I want and need in my life and I understand how you need to Fi into your Fe because I need to Ti into my Te and kinda mix it to use my Te. I can also do the same with my Fe into my Fi. Funny how we need our main functions to transition us into our shadow functions, huh. I feel every INFJ needs an INTJ in their life, you guys just need to watch out for when we go into our extroverted mode, which at least only lasts a few hours, you know, the whole extroverted introvert thing. But at least it will be a few hours of deep conversation and barely any to no small talk. It is always good to have our Ni brethren to understand our struggles.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the insight on how INFJs use Ti to Te and Fe to Fi. I had an idea that you guys did that as well but never had it confirmed. Trust me when I say that I understand what you meant when you said you don't want to discuss too much with your family because you don't want to worry them. My ISFJ siblings complain about me not opening up all the time and it's basically that. I'm glad you found your INTJ and I'm sure your INTJ is glad that they found their INFJ. Please take care of them and feel free to utilize their Te power as much as you need it, they'll enjoy it more than you'll ever understand 😁

@nickolaszissimos1189

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 It is difficult still to use my Te since it being my blind spot, that is why I mix it into my Ti, still not too well yet. However, combining my Ti with an INTJ's Te would be a bit easier. My Fi is still a bit limited but I can use it when I need it. It takes a while for me to know my own feelings on things, but it is possible at least. For my Ne, all I need is an Ne user around and it is used to help me keep up then organize it with my Ni. Si though, not sure if I will get the hang of that one, I still need to improve my Se yet. And yes, we are both glad we found each other and I know I feel I am truly talking to my equal. And I don't mean to sound condescending nor narcissistic, we just have much to learn from each other. By watching each other, perhaps we can both improve much of our own weaker areas from each other's stronger areas.

@andonbailey9656

Жыл бұрын

Ah, nickolas such a sweetie

@nickolaszissimos1189

Жыл бұрын

@@andonbailey9656 We INFJs are known for that, and I meant every word both spoken and unspoken.

@andonbailey9656

Жыл бұрын

@@nickolaszissimos1189 I know. I think the genuine Fe is what I've been looking for in a relationship. While Tj's certainly feel, expressing it outward is difficult. Mostly because we just don't think about it or assume others can see it, which isn't always the case. Challenging ourselves and others comes very naturally which helps work the Fi, although we can get a bit overzealous and become jerks about it. Having a relationship with someone who can meet our IN and helps us challenge or even see our own Fe is immensely rewarding.

I am old enough to be your mom so take this comment as such. You are adorable! I am an infj and I got so much joy listening to you today.. You are spot on and I love intj's. You are completely awesome!

@justcallmejon22

11 ай бұрын

Thank you Auntie! I'm glad you enjoyed it 🙂

INTJ female here. "I don't want to rule the world, but I would like to help rehabilitate it." I had an INFJ neighbor some years ago, and we would met up for meandering chats and emotional processing. He was also my sanity support in dealing with some other neighbors. I could come to him with my feelings of frustration about the lack of cooperation and logic I saw in our neighborhood.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

INFJs really are one the primary reasons why I appreciate Fe so much. Fe is our blindspot and yet, INFJs knows how to use it to make INTJs feel comfortable. I hope you still keep in touch with your INFJ and I hope he's doing well ✊

I’ve noticed a big difference between INTJ and INFJ is that INFJ tends to dress better - they are very attractive. They put effort in their looks. INFJ are very good with their words I’ve seen them outmaneuver people and being in top management positions easily. I love all the I-J types INTJ ISTJ INFJ ISFJ Signs you are an I-J type 1. A strong desire to plan ahead and to know what’s coming up 2. A strong relationship to safety 3. Preferring to fly under the radar 4. Need for alone time and processing time

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I agree that all the types that you listed are amazing in their own ways ✊

@jessicariddell1976

Жыл бұрын

True. INTJ tends to be more "function over fashion". I like low-maintenance clothes in darker colors. It's nice to blend in.

INTJ here. I transferred to a new workplace last year, met this colleague. We didn’t talk much but I somehow felt comfortable to be around. Told her about MBTI test and asked to take the test. I guessed that she was INFJ even before she took the test. And I was right.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Ni is so easy to recognize, we just feel it 🙃

As an INTJ I dated an INFJ. Although we broke up 2 years ago and I still miss her. I have never had a relationship as strong as I had with her.

@rolexshadow

2 ай бұрын

Update: A new coworker that I took a liking to, I got her to take the MBTI and she is also a INFJ and I’m just having issue telling her how I feel about her, I’m 80% sure she like me too.

This is how I feel about my INTJ in my life, I feel constantly misunderstood. No one knows me, yet I'm friends with everyone. but my INTJ is the one person whos ever tried to know *me* and all of me, not just the parts are convenient to him. he isn't the always best of words, but hes so kind, and has a good heart. Im glad to know my INTJ as a INFJ, I feel seen. though like you said, I'm definitely the more poetic emotional rambling about how good they are type LOL

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Congrats on finding an INTJ! Please take care of him because I'm sure he values the friendship as well ❤

Yes, yes, yes! I love you INFJ here and your video is very helpful You explained this so well And the abstract communicating IS our norm so much that it’s hard to remember that everyone doesn’t think that way. Something just clicked for me in hearing your discussion on this subject Thank you so much And btw the reason INFJ doesn’t know exactly what we want is because our desire to have other people happy can cause a moving target. You are 100% right that we care a lot about other people. And those other people aren’t limited to those close to us. We care about the whole world.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You guys caring about the world is easily one of the qualities that INTJs admire the most 🙂

Thank you. You truly know and understand INFJs! - From a random INFJ

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

I can sense an INTJ a mile away. They have an energy that attracts me, they are strange creatures and that's why I like them so much.

@justcallmejon22

4 ай бұрын

We're the most normal people we know 😂

INFJ here. Been Married to my INTJ husband for 12 years and have known him for 14 years. 💕🙂 He’s my best friend and we compliment one another so well. He’s strong in the areas I’m not so good at , and vice versa. Yet we agree on fundamentals. We have both gone through things as a couple and as individuals that would have probably broken most people and most relationships. All it did was make us stronger. Cliché, but true. Thanks for the great video.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you enjoyed the video and I'm always happy to hear stories from this pairing ❤

@pimpgurlmarth

7 ай бұрын

❤❤

Wow.. thanks for explaining why my situationship felt so right. Before I knew his MBTI I thought, “this man can help me get the strategy I need to accomplish my goals.” As an INFJ you just made me miss my INTJ even more. 😢

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Dont look back INFJ Queen, you'll find someone that knows your worth ✊

Amazing video, I felt the love from all the INTJ's in the world jaja INFJ here soon to be marry with an INTJ ✨ there are no words (search for implicit meaning) to describe how grateful I am that we found each other.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Early congratulations on your marriage! I'm truly happy to hear that you two found each other. Please do me a favor and take care of my fellow INTJ 🙏

I'm an INTJ, and my husband is an INFJ. We have been married almost 20 years. It's amazing how we compete each other.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Always happy to hear about a successful relationship between the two 🙂

@SarahAnneStuff

Жыл бұрын

I'm INFJ, husband is INTJ. We've been married a little over 10 years, and I don't see that changing anytime soon. Best relationship ever

I started a new job recently and it just felt right. My boss and boss’ boss came by and we started talking about plans, etc and it was so enjoyable. Somehow we started talking about Myers-Briggs and they said the entire team took the test. I said I’m an INFJ. Found out my boss is also INFJ and boss’ boss is INTJ. It all made sense.

@justcallmejon22

11 ай бұрын

It sounds like a comfy position to be in! I always seek out introverted managers because they just...get it 😅

My best friends are INTP and INTJ and im INFJ couldn’t ask God for a better combo. They balance me so well and help bring these weaknesses of mine to my attention. I love them

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm sure they feel the same way about you 🙂

My husband is an INTJ and I’m an INFJ and our relationship is insanely compatible. 🥰

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like an amazing relationship! Please take care of my fellow INTJ King 👑

@tayyabausman8871

Ай бұрын

Could you please sharecsome pointers like do's and dont's

@Amoscrts

Ай бұрын

@@tayyabausman8871 Yes, INTJs are very logical, so you can persuade them to do things with logic. My husband and I divided up our household chores according to interest, and our home functions beautifully. Also, ask INTJs how they feel, and they will tell you. But they are not going to volunteer that information; you have to ask them. Don’t take it personally. They do care, they just don’t express it without prompting sometimes. They are amazing problem solvers, so be prepared for them to offer you lots of solutions. It’s how they show that they care.

My little brother is the INTJ to my INFJ. He asks me for insight for all his relationships & he inspires me to take my goals seriously.💚 he doesn’t know it but he should thank you!! I’m gonna be way nicer to him now. This made me see our relationship a little differently.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear that this video provided positive insights! Ya'll can thank me by being kind and continue taking care of each other 🙂

I am an infj in my early 20s and I actually what is my passion when I am 17 or 18. When I was younger people were always telling me what to do and I can't say no. But in my teenage I had to go through many traumatic incidents which made me find my sanctuary in my passion. If I love something I give all the energy I have to it. It has always been all or nothing. Really hard to take a middle path. And yes I am incredibly slow to action. I think a lot, and rethink and re-rethink.... Thank you for the kind words in the video. It really means a loooooot!

@justcallmejon22

Ай бұрын

I got you ✊

❤ I finally got my INTJ male counterpart and I am so excited. Thank you for being so sweet to us INFJs. Really needed to hear that.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Congrats on finding your own INTJ! Please take care of him for us ❤

Woow that was sweet and also very helpful in improving our weak spots!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

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I’m an INFJ….. thank you for the pep talk. Much appreciated.

Wow. You verbalize my internal monolog and thought process. Far better than any article I've read or video I've seen before. I'm genuinely impressed. Keep up the good work!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

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We appreciate you INTJs more than you know. The part about the Fi realization and how proud you are..as an INFJ in my mid 30s finally getting ahold of it..that made my heart swell. THANK YOU

This video feels like a big warm HUG 😢🤗 Thank you Jon 🥰

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I got you 😀

Glad to find a channel dedicated to INTJs, it's hard to find info on this type. Thank you for your content!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the community! There's a bunch of INTJs here that I'm sure are willing to help answer any questions you have about the INTJ 🙂

🥰🥰🥰 Thank you so much for seeing us and saying this! I think INTJs are awesome too! :)

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

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Oh I needed this today! Ive been feeling so spread thin, like I've been the energy feeding source of an unrelenting tornado for far too long. Only to be cut down and told how wrong, weird, hurtful I am when I try to enforce boundaries of solitude. Then the new Taylor Swift song "Hi, Its me, im the problem its me" becomes a repeated intrusive thought/mantra in my mind (which isn't even freaking true!) I digress.. Thank you so much for creating and posting this video, I actually feel seen, understood, and most importantly kind of appreciated for being who I am. Rare things to feel indeed, you've been a blessing ❤

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm always happy to hear that my video made an impact! Don't stretch yourself too thin INFJ, you're not required to fix other people's problems, and feeling like you need to set boundaries is your mind/body telling you that something is wrong and things need to change. Listen to it 😀

This was SO awesome and helpful! Thank you for SEEING us and SAYING it! Also, awesome advice that I needed to hear! Thank you!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I got you ✊

Jon, I can't say it enough. You are the frickin bomb. A lot of times when I listen to you, I put my guy into your place and think back on past convos. I really like seeing my thoughts come to some semblance of ... Help me out INTJ lol. I have'nt know G for long, but I have picked up so many things. What you're saying about abstract thinking and no one understanding you. Oh that hit home. My ex used to get so very angry with me bc I often disassociate and shut down with him and spoke in such abstract thinking that his narcissistic personality just went crazy. I literally feel less depressed when I listen to you and I just now realized, it is because you hear me and G hears me. Bloody hell, I need a cupa tea. I did not go to school to become a counselor because I had worked all my life in medical. I knew what you had to do to get a psychologist's degree. And I rebelled and refused bc it makes no sense. Do you look back on your childhood and see your INTJ in you? I've been doing that lately and it's crazy. Thank you for making this video and all your videos. I so appreciate your hard work. One last question. I don't have a problem at all with my man not being all lovey dovey (yuck). You say INTJ show little emotion and that is true. For me, it just makes you more perfect. I don't feel pressured. Is that typical of INFJ?

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm not sure if it's typical of INFJs but I'm also aware that you guys tend to be pretty patient in waiting for an acknowledgment (that might never arrive). I don't think G will mind if you tell him that you need attention or emotional validation, I actually think he'd appreciate you being straightforward. Thanks again for the kind words and please take care of my INTJ family 🙏

The closing statement made me cry. Thanks for doing this video #infj

@justcallmejon22

9 ай бұрын

Keep shining INFJ ❤

YES!! thank you so much for making this video! You put so much effort into your videos. thank you thank you

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome 🙂

I wiped the tears off my INTJ friends and hug them. They feel safe and understood with me.

@justcallmejon22

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for taking care of them 🙏

This was fantastic, thank you 🥰 Listening to you describe how you feelings is adorable in its own right As a currently struggling 30y infj this was incredibly encouraging needed helpful thank you dear intj.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You got this INFJ, I believe in you ✊

That was an awesome video. A lot of it went over my head as I don't know much about Myers Briggs personality traits. I can speak to the last part of the video and say that I agree with you about the INFJ never feeling motivated or prepared. I find that I really have to push myself and tell myself I have to meet goals and get things done. It seems like a cruel world to an unhealthy INFJ as myself at times but then I remember that I am a work in progress. I appreciate you taking the time to share this video with us and expand our knowledge on this subject. 🎉

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for commenting! I always appreciate hearing people's perspectives. INFJs will probably not get as many things done compared to an xNTJ but boy do you guys shine when you're finally ready to make a move ✊

You sir, are a heaven sent. Thank you for this video❣

You explained exactly what’s going on between me an INFJ and my best friend an INTJ 🤗

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a wonderful friendship 🙂

@tess...

Жыл бұрын

Yes, when we initially became colleagues, just as you explained I felt if he was more self centred but soon enough he opened up to me with his life story and we became best friends. He’s literally my soulmate. He could understand me like no one ever had and we help each other in everything we do. I came to know my personality type only recently and told him about it and got him do the test and knowing our MBTI types finally made sense to us why we function the way we do 🤗

Whoah! Finally! I was waiting for your take on this! Aha Daria and Jane! I am an infj and my bestie is intj. She and I really clicked immediately saying we could just understand each other! Then, I discovered mbti and we we both took tests. There we have understood our deep and amazing complicity! I have also recently made friends with two other intjs! And both said it was this energy that drew them in. I could say the same as I could understand what they talk about that are damn interesting to me. I love how they INTJs do care a lot but they show it in a more practical way. For me, my intj pals are super! They are the people I can trust the most. They say infjs are the warmer versions of the intjs! Salamat Jon! Spot on!!! Keep on going!!!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You guys are easily the warmer version of an INTJ. Please take care of my INTJ fam 🙏

Lol, your description of reverse engineering Fe with Fi had me rolling. I do the same exact thing. Once again, you're giving away all of our secrets! :)

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

The world has to know! 🙃

On point. Everything, on point. I'm an INFJ with a INTJ bestie. Love my bestie so much cause it seems like we get each other, even when we don't 😊. Liked and saved your video. Thank you for creating this!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

❤

Aw, this warms my heart.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤

Thank you, sir :,) This might be what gets me out of my self loathing. I met an INTJ who recommended me your channel and I will let her know how thankful I am. God bless you all for seeing us. We don't know how to receive acknowledgement but do know that you changed someone's heart.

@justcallmejon22

10 ай бұрын

Don't ever feel like your kindness or your hard work goes unnoticed INFJ. We INTJs appreciate you guys and we're always rooting for you. Now, go kick some ass ❤

Dude, you're a F'n Rockstar!! Really needed to find this video tonight. Thank you 👍 👍 Cheers to you 🥂

@justcallmejon22

9 ай бұрын

I gotchu brotha ✊

This was the pep talk my little INFJ heart needed!

@justcallmejon22

3 ай бұрын

Keep showing up INFJ, you got this! ✊

INFJ here. this is a great pep talk for me, thank you. I work with INTJs that I really like and other INTJs that I struggle to relate to. I feel (ha ha) like maybe we will find our way forward, in understanding and working together. rock on, Jon. awesome message

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I admit that INTJs are tough to handle at times but the struggle is worth it once you get past our shell. It's probably the same way we see INFJs 😁

Boy, you are on point. Soon to be 40 INFJ here, in a relationship with a 43 yrs INTJ for 10 years now. You are so insightful. This video is amazing. I felt so seen, and it's true, I feel the same with my INTJ, although I sometimes feel unseen from him because I would love so much more feeling-ish reassurances that he actually appreciates me. But he watched this with me and nodded the whole time. So great. Oh, and by the way: my INTJ made a huge difference in my life, made me much more grounded and effective. I made him much softer and open. We fight sometimes, I think I got some Ti fixation, so I want to apply my logic to everything (while still doubting it) so you can imagine the outcome, but we're still here, still standing...

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Just tell him when you need attention. He might seem annoyed but we're Te users, it's easier to get us to do something if you just straight tell us to do it 😅

@Levigna1983

Жыл бұрын

I just wish he could anticipate me so I didn't have to ask and feel like he's just making it out of obligation. To which he usually answer he is not the type to ever do anything out of obligation or guilt if he didn't want to. Which is so out of my character that I struggle to believe it sometimes

I’m an INFJ and I appreciate this message. Thanks for the encouragement.🤍🤸🏼‍♂️💫

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You got this INFJ ✊

Wow thank you. So glad I found your channel. - a more understood and appreciated and happy infj :)

@justcallmejon22

9 ай бұрын

Welcome to the community. Stay as long as you need, you're welcomed here 🙂

This really did feel like a love note from my friend. Thank you ❤❤

@justcallmejon22

5 ай бұрын

You're welcome ❤

I’m an INFJ and you made me cry man. Thankyou for seeing us and appreciating us.

@justcallmejon22

10 ай бұрын

INTJs see you INFJ ❤

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO I'm an infj and I'm researching everything I can to be the most supportive friend and healthy presence to my INTJ !!! Thank you for the encouragements in your video

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad to hear that you enjoyed the video! INTJs are easy, don't be pushy and just be there to listen when we need you. INTJs are low maintenance 🙃

@TailedThief

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 I agree with that. And INTJs are fun to be around. Thank you!

I'm an INFJ, and my two best friends are both INTJs. Couldn't be more true.

Thank you for the love u just gave us, I felt it🥰 I’m obsessed with Intj, so I’m sending love right back at you🤗❤️

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

(Mariah Carey voice) "Why you so obessed with me?!" 😂

@MVVV3.3T1V

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 Straight to the point, open minded, driven & intelligent kind of people✨🙌🏻💕 and I could go on, I have NO SHAME😅

Aaawwww that's so beautiful! Really touched my heart!🥰 I'm an INFJ who's dealing with a lot of emotional overwhelm from all the suffering in the world. And all the craziness. Like, whoever I meet, I will immediately start caring for them. If I meet someone who most people would perceive as annoying/disturbing, I just feel sadness for them instead. It's like I see their history, I see a child who hasn't been shown love, I see trauma, I see fear. It's hard to be truly angry at someone when you always see this bigger picture of ancestral trauma, like it's noone's fault, things just happened and became what they became. The chain of events can be tracked back to the beginning of everything, and then who's to blame? Gosh.... this world😅😅 It's so crazy to live in it. But I've started to pretty seriously prioritize my Fi and give less fricks about stuff. Like, it's actually ok to just think about myself and always put myself first. I don't have to fix everything and help everyone. I can just chill instead, and make space for all the FEELS that come with this life experience....... I'm telling you, what's saving me is metal!😆🤘❤‍🔥 It's so interesting to hear your perspective on the INTJ-INFJ relationship as I also have an older brother who's an INTJ. We're very similar in our life intentions (=making the world a better place) but so very different in our approaches. Hearing you talk makes me understand him better, and then I can better communicate with him and make him understand me better! Thank you!🙏✨

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear that you're prioritizing your Fi! People and the world needs fixing but that doesn't have to be only your burden to handle and I'm glad that you realized that. Take care of your older brother for me, INFJs are one of the only types that we respect enough to fully listen to ✊

This was Soooo wonderful to hear! Someone told me I am INFJ. Your discussion was so spot on! I learned so much about myself...how and why I function the way I do. I'm a new subscriber!😊

@justcallmejon22

9 ай бұрын

Welcome to the community! There are lots of information to ingest to fully understand yourself but don't forget that MBTI is a tool for self-discovery and not your identity, so don't use it to justify bad behavior! With that out of the way, stay as long as you need to, you're always welcome here 😁

@aaa-di2lc

9 ай бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 Thank you!😊

Thank you for this. Really appreciate this video.

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! 😁

This was interesting and felt very true to ppl I’ve met that are INTJ. They tend to be more steadfast and not let emotions from others affect them as much. Very cool breakdown

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

That was really refreshing! You’ve no idea how freeing it is to have someone shaking you saying, “Wake up & snap out of it!” I enjoyed what your video.🍪

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Glad to hear you enjoyed it 😁

I love that you pointed out that even when we are upset with people, we are nice enough not to hurt people!. My passion is often viewed as angry, mad, mean... no matter how much tact I use (in a case by case scenario), it's viewed harsh or strong. Which makes it even harder to move forward in life because you have to deal with people who, in many cases, are not self-aware at all. 🤦🏾‍♂️ I'd probably do well living in England just based on the fact that people are passionately expressive people. Americans, rather you give them honesty in a "polite" way ALL THE TIME rather than look taking in the content that was shared. Maybe it's just me. 😂 Thanks for the kind words bruh.❤

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

Self-awareness is not common and the sad trust is that most people don't care about it enough because it might conflict with the identity that they built their world around. INFJ, we see you guys, as I said in my video, F* the haters, keep doing you. INTJs will support you the entire way ✊

Thank you so much for this. I'm an INFJ and have chronic health issues that have been really affecting my self-esteem & belief in finding work I care about, where I'm not further sacrificing my health. It's very interesting hearing your descriptions and thoughts in this video. I appreciate this so much. Hope you have a lovely day ^_^

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I hope things gets better for you INFJ, I'm rooting for you ✊

@MasterPCTech

Жыл бұрын

IXFJs tend to hold on to emotional pain, in their bodies, like a wound up rubber band, often leading to all manner of odd, long lasting health issues. These stored tension is usually related to people giving you too many reasons not to trust…it becomes your walls. 😞

@aiuchiha111

10 ай бұрын

How are you now? :(

INFJ. I feel so understood right now....thank you! ❤

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

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Respect. Also thank you for putting into words what i never could about inf SE - NO PREJUDICE!

@justcallmejon22

Жыл бұрын

I stole it from someone who commented on an earlier video of mine so feel free to use it as well 😁

@mokari9268

Жыл бұрын

@@justcallmejon22 yeah, it’s not that we aren’t prejudice per se but in the context of Ni we just cannot be bothered by Se when it comes to looking at “the bigger picture”. Anyways thanks for sharing about the different types through the INTJ pov, it’s very much appreciated to learn about you guys and how you see/experience the world.

I’m an infj-t and listening to you describe us and how you understand melts my heart and soul. To this day in life i cannot find someone who understands me or sees me without judgement. It’s very difficult being an infj, actually it’s tiring. When i meet certain people they often tell me they feel alive when they are with me and can freely talk because I’m a natural safe place for them, i often wonder how that would feel. I appreciate this video. Every word you said is spot on. 😊

@justcallmejon22

10 ай бұрын

You're not alone in that feeling INFJ, even the INFJs in my life say something similar about wanting to feel the same safe space ya'll provide everyone else. I think it starts with learning what your Fi values are and then allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Or find a healthy INTJ, we love to listen also 🙂