too upset to say i need help but i am an INTJ girl and had a crush on an INFJ boy do you think I'll ever have a chance with him ???
@BeyondPersonalityКүн бұрын
Im goad someone said it. But please dont talk bad about Kanye his music is dope and hes an inspiration. Loool 😂 Jay Z is an overrated rapper and I domt agree hes an INTJ. Jay is an Si type. If you want a great example of INTJ 50 cent is one.
@prezhenz6969Күн бұрын
OMG the back of the head comment! I wish I never discovered the back of my head 😂. Was standing in line at the store today and thinking “I forgot to check that this morning”
@Ztef68282 күн бұрын
I was diagnosed with ADD 1.5 years ago in my 40s. I’ve always questioned my doctor if my so called ADD behaviors are really just because of my INTP/INTJ personality (I’ve recently confirmed to be an INTJ). I’ve taken meds finally after a long struggle for a couple of months now but they do nothing to me. I even asked the doctor to increase my dosage so that I can see if I will really see any results from the meds. As of now, still none. I believe I’ve just been in the Ni Fi loop for the past two years as my life turned upside down and I quit my job. I figured all I need is to find my goals again and find a way to execute them. It will not be easy switching careers but I tell myself if I like what I will be doing, my old INTJ self will be back soon!
@kennethheres56432 күн бұрын
Can we have how to improve Te more? Though there are videos out there, we just wanna hear your thoughts and discussion about it
@solideogloria0072 күн бұрын
Thank you..this is so funny...and so true!
@JerelMcCollum2 күн бұрын
This was a great video. I’m definitely an ENFJ but I have grown the ability through personal development to focus on my own worth, goals and how to manage all of these traits. Even using more TI when called upon and then use extraverted feeling. I have a really good INTJ friend and I have noticed us growing closer through our interactions and appreciation for each other via our conversations.
@DiLu-o3p2 күн бұрын
Well said. Also INTJ gay male here.
@DiLu-o3p2 күн бұрын
Thanks uncle Jon!
@housecarolina3 күн бұрын
As an INTJ i tried to watch this but i couldn't because the guest talked about a rap BEEF as if one artist was supposed to help the other artists become a better person after that person disrespected them n their family......like what???? You woulda thought Drake never said anything with the narrative he was pushing around 28:00
@DeezyRYG3 күн бұрын
I understand your perspective, I was just also stating mine. Like I understand rap beef is what we have known it as to this day. I guess I just saw Kendrick to be above that in a way..? Yes. Family was spoken of, and it wasn’t right. But I guess it also reminded me of when I was a child and other classmates would say things about my African mom. I would get mad and wanna fight them. But my father was like “Why? They don’t know your mom. Why do you let that get to you? It’s their own insecurity showing. Don’t stoop to their level.” Again, it’s just my perspective. I’m sorry it kept you from watching the rest.
@housecarolina3 күн бұрын
@@DeezyRYG nah there's no need to apologize and I will prolly watch the rest i just personally feel invested in this beef (on Kendrick's side) for YEARS like pre Control to Hip Hop Awards Cyphers til now so when I heard your point of view being from the Bronx which is the home of Hip Hop I'm like HUH?? This is what we all wanted and what the culture NEEDED. Drake has crossed n sneak dissed sooooo many people over the years that policing how he gets dissed just isn't logical to me. Once you speak on somebody's family all bets are off THIS IS HIP HOP n Kendrick TOLD him not to do it n he did so Kendrick's integrity shouldn't be stained when he was taunted Lied on n disrespected to astronomical levels. Idk this triggered me I'm sorry if I offended you I just feel strongly about it
@DeezyRYG3 күн бұрын
@@housecarolina Nah from this vantage point I do feel you and your perspective is totally valid! I tend to speak a bit more on Drake's behalf only because I feel like Kendrick's side is heavily populated and so I mainly try and play devil's advocate in these situations, but I am not necessarily trying to excuse Drake or support him either! 😅 And I also know that my own personal values of what I view as maturity and effective yet patient ways to handle such an issue while still being assertive play a part here, but I also definitely know that this is not all of what it is and especially in what we know Hip-Hop culture to be, it is not a very popular outlook. My ISTP friend even said to me "Mannn this is HIP-HOP!! Niggas ain't tryna be mature!" Lol so I get it. And even aside from the maturity, I was really just still alarmed by the death wishes....because Drake from what I can see mainly spoke of Whitney allegedly cheating, which is wild but I was just unsure where it could leap from that to wishing death on the man? But even with all this, I am still continuing to gather perspective and understand where I truly stand. I appreciated you sharing yours if anything!
@housecarolina3 күн бұрын
@@DeezyRYG your friend is me 100% literally verbatim 😂😂😂😂 I guess it's a situation to where from the outside he's wishing his death but he prolly knows so much more than we do or will ever know so honestly with the p3do alleg. N Kendrick being somebody who doesn't strike me as a liar I can understand him having that POV although it may be extreme I get it . I apologize if I came at you wrong
@DeezyRYG3 күн бұрын
@@housecarolina Haha it’s all good! Yeah I really wish we could get more things verified and I could feel more comfortable with fully unloading against Drake as well in the same way but I guess it’s the uncertainty of what truly has gone down that has me hesitant. You definitely could be right though. Anyway, yeah! It’s all cool. No bad blood here. Thanks for the discourse!
@kellikakes813 күн бұрын
Drake clearly was in Fe-Ne loop messing up on his last song, getting the abuse allegations from Mr Morale wrong. Didn't fact check his Si. And made his loss even worse
@DeezyRYG3 күн бұрын
100%!!!!
@kellikakes813 күн бұрын
Irony of the the Taylor Made thing is, Drake wanted to incite Kendrick, and HE DID! 'You literally asked for it. And now you got it (drake).'
@kellikakes813 күн бұрын
I appreciate the Fe Ti breakdown (Taylor Made convo), because I needed understanding around that too. Thank you
@christianmoulart3 күн бұрын
Yo guys the biggest rapper in the world is Eminem… what are you talking about??? 😂
@DeezyRYG3 күн бұрын
😂😂😂 I think his era has come and gone, but he definitely did reign the charts for quite some time. I love him though! ISTP king. And his latest album is sooooooo Ti.
@mary.outis.3 күн бұрын
Omg as passionate as i am for hip hop and mbti I'm totally in for all of it! As for Kendrick's possible type, i clearly see ni in him (in the last part of the video you Jon explained it pretty well), so i don't see how he may be an infp even tho it is totally possible, but i think he rather is an intj (or maybe infj)
@DeezyRYG3 күн бұрын
I personally say INFP for him! But I do agree that he exemplified a lot of Ni in how the process of this all played out. Unsure how much was his team, or just him tapping into his witch function.
@DeezyRYG3 күн бұрын
Always a pleasure to chop it up with you, Jon! Thanks for the invitation and great conversation!
@kellikakes813 күн бұрын
Right 11:20 (drake not understanding how rap culture goes). Kendrick did nothing different than what older rappers did. It's part of the culture. You're not supposed to get in your feelings about a rapper saying he's the best and coming for the crown(or not present that to the world anyway lol)
@kellikakes813 күн бұрын
Yes!! So excited to hear about cognitive functions regarding this beef!!! Especially, if you guys end up touching on the Fe ti axis and Fi Te one.
@kellikakes813 күн бұрын
Yes!! Glad yall brought that up Fi-Te thing at 16:26!!! (Meet the Grahams)
@timoaray3 күн бұрын
I love this movie so much as INTJ woman I feel her very much
@macronomicus3 күн бұрын
Its sad that some dont embrace their authentic self, absolutely every "type" has value, all humans are amazing beings brimming with potential! The value of MBTI is seeing our flow, building upon & working with that, not to hamstring ourselves with some ego satisfying notions of what we think we must be... those are fleeting anyway... our cognitive function preference is a vast neural network (including non-local mind!), thats not going to change on a mood or whim... lol! INFJ-A male here. 😜
@judithgockel10013 күн бұрын
Thank you! Love this.
@rstroh21053 күн бұрын
'cuz thats my auntie bahahahaha
@mor30854 күн бұрын
Wow, love this video and can relate to all. As Intj who pass through all the levels(but still not perfect) people always think that I am different type. But its true, You are healthy if you not on the stigma of your type . Now I think about how we can split every function to different sides like you did to Se, its so interesting, thank you and keep with the videos!
@CarnivoreConvention4 күн бұрын
Can you give me a couple examples ( physical and verbal ) of subconcious Se and Superego Se for intjs?
@aufderscholle4 күн бұрын
Living a full life equals engaging all your first four functions. You are spot on. Carl Jung developed his typology by watching his patients who had mental problems because they overdid one function in their preferred attitude.
@AhmadaliMajdi4 күн бұрын
Thank you so much I find this video so helpful for me.
@_Thunderball_4 күн бұрын
First of all, this ia a great video. Explains most of what I've figured out myself. This is a very personal topic for me. This is one of the issues that will kinda fix itself later in life for you, but know that you dont have to wait for it. 1) As Jon said - you have to accept that there is another way of doing things besides your Ni. You have to ackknowledge that it exists, it's a part of you and that you want to do it. Things are going to go way off plan, you might get embarassed but that's the point. For me it was an literal fight with me internal self telling me all the horrors of not following my intuition and telling me that it's not me. 2) Motivation. This imo is the most important topic for the life of any INTJ in general but you need a reason to engage with Se, at least for practice at first. For me the solution was arguing myself into it. I could never fool myself so when it convinced myself that there's no other way of getting what I want other than Se way things started working. 3) Satisfaction from the results. Tbh I'm still working at this. I'm mostly still at the point where it all comes down to Te for me, so I enjoy fixing problems and accomplishing goals. I still dont know wtf "runners high" is even though I have been running almost everyday for 3 years at this point. I dont enjoy hanging out with other people or doing spontaneous stuff even though I know that I want to do it. The part about developing motivations for talking to other people is actually the exact same for me. I figured out the most important thing that other people can give me is perspective. I figured out I dont wanna talk about their opinions, knowledge or accolades because that's going to cause a debate which they wont like, but perspective I'm always a sucker for. Si people talking about how people I changed or how people keep changing all the time is the source of endless debate for me. I figured out that we're just talking about different things. For an INTJ we look at what people are, so people never change for us. INTJ will never become an INTP. Si people see people for how they're presenting (because that's how they see themselves as) so if the presentation changed that means the person has changed internally for them. You're never going to explain to an Si person what the difference is and how they're getting fooled by people performing their presentation all the time.
@macronomicus4 күн бұрын
😭🙏💚💚💚
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
💙
@harmoni.e4 күн бұрын
I am so inspired by you ❤
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
I appreciate the kind words ❤
@robertparsons3134 күн бұрын
11:36. Bless you! "The end doesn't justify the means." You said it correctly. I cringe when I hear this said backwards. It's even in "Oppenheimer" backwards!
@skinnyguy77735 күн бұрын
how does one make friends? haha can't leave us hanging by leaving out this issue
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
You're in luck! I already have a video for that: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZoejqJt-mt2ddbQ.html
@robertparsons3135 күн бұрын
I got on a airplane at age 18 and left home for five years. Not because anything was wrong at home. I just had to go.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
I did something similar when I was 21.
@robertparsons3135 күн бұрын
19:40. The reason I never liked Seinfeld.
@robertparsons3135 күн бұрын
INTJ here. Most of my attempts at conversations fail. People don't understand what I'm saying. They assume the most literal meanings to words and have no capacity for abstract thought. They rarely express any curiosity about my thoughts or at least meet me halfway. They just don't care.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
I understand the pain and lonliness. The cure is to continue searching for like-minded people because they really are out there, you just have to find them. I hope things improve for you soon ✊
@robertparsons3134 күн бұрын
@@justcallmejon22 Thanks. You are doing great work.
@siegniteyt10965 күн бұрын
This explains why I am so passionate about my violin when I was in high school. Why I am in love with music in the first place. It's because I love the sensation of a sound coming from the high pitch note. It's pleasing to my ears. I was able to express my emotions through it. By the help of my Ni dom, I was able to learn the music theory quickly. I discovered circle of fifths before knowing that it already existed. My Se strength comes from hearing. It shows why I am relaxed when I hear the sound of the rain from our rooftop. Se in general is awareness from the external world. I'm INTJ and I might be wrong describing Se.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
You did a great job describing Se and it's alignment with Fi 😃
@EngellenaBoomer5 күн бұрын
I am an INTP... While i don't use reddit but i pass judgmental comments to my INTJ friends a lot! But just for fun and to trigger them and I'm pretty sure most of them did the same. I can see most of them are pretty chill about INTJs and don't mean what they are saying but I agree, few INTPs are showing stubborn enemosity towards INTJs.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
INTJs usually appreciate the blunt honesty if there's no malicious intent and if we can learn from it so it sounds like you're doing something right with your INTJs 🙂
@5moreminutes1175 күн бұрын
Im so glad this youtube account exists. I dont have to search for anything specific on your page. I just click the video in knowledge it WILL work for me and gives me Value. Thanks you keep it up even if that Video was hard to do. It teached me a lot <3
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
Thank you for the kind words and let's continue improving, my friend ✊
@nelliel33725 күн бұрын
I watched a video on KZread from one of the INTP users. In all the videos where the topic of the personality of the INTJ was touched upon, this person openly said that he did not like this type. Even while listing the advantages, he managed to bring out the negative. It is very sad to hear such statements. The funny thing is that recently I had a very strong quarrel with my INTP friend, completely disappointed in him. Over the years, I turned a blind eye to many flaws in our relationship, but in the end I finally decided to break up with him. To be honest, I blamed myself for what happened for a very long time, I thought that I was so cruel and did not do enough to change everything, maybe I was too demanding or misunderstood something. But as it turned out, I did everything right. We had a lot of things to talk about, we had a great time until we started living together in the same house and until our goals in life became completely opposite. I was ready to support all his initiatives, but there were none at all, he did not strive for anything, which turned out to be unacceptable for me. I don't know why I wrote this (this is probably stupid because this video was posted a month ago and the fact that my story doesn't really relate to the topic of the video). Sometimes it seems to me that I am not an INTJ at all, because I see so many comments where people are happy with INTP. We've known each other for about 9 years and this breakup makes me feel very strange. P.S. Sorry for the bad English in some points. I don't speak English and used a translator.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
You explained it well and I appreciate the comment! I'm sadden to hear about your experience with your INTP friend, I'm still trying to accept that people you care about deeply won't always be there with you as your mature. You know you made the correct decision if you chose internal peace because you have to take care of yourself before you can care for anyone else. Chin up, my INTJ friend, you two will reconnect if the friendship was strong enough ✊
@nelliel33723 күн бұрын
@@justcallmejon22 Thank you so much for your support, it's very valuable to me now. I think I can figure it out and get over it. And also thank you for the content that you create, it is very useful for self-development. Keep up the good work!❤️
@Daver25175 күн бұрын
You should do more videos like the last part of your video. It felt more genuine at the end. I also like how you incorporated the mic in hand for a video on Se.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
I tried dude, my Ni won't make sense unless I write it down or if I'm Te ranting about something 😅
@trauma2happiness5 күн бұрын
Thanks Jon. You make understanding the cognitive functions so easy.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
Thank you for the support ❤
@anju51245 күн бұрын
As an infj, i also would love to improve Se. And i also need an aim for it, otherwise i won't feel like i should do it.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
#Niproblems 😅
@DeezyRYG6 күн бұрын
Fantastic video. As an ENFJ, although my Se is tertiary, I had trouble loving it myself because I had always received messaging that it is an immature function, overly indulgent and impulsive, shallow, etc. Now I really have learned to embrace Se especially knowing that these descriptions are very 1 dimensional and not at all getting the true value of the function. Reading body language, staying fit, quick responses in the heat of a moment, getting into action with my Ni plans, seeing life for what it is and still enjoying its daily pleasures, appreciating art and visceral experiences, acting, fashion sense, and much more. I think the examples you gave such as the movie Interstellar, and even something as simple as a well-timed joke, all of it are things that an INTJ can benefit from integrating into their own lives. Also, you bringing up the importance of Fi valuing certain things before Te will hold to it, and then that bleeds into the Se was great to point out.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
I feel like I'm preaching to the choir talking to an ENFJ about Se but yeah dude, Se encompasses so many aspects of our lives that I feel like basic descriptions don't do it justice 😅
@jenniferhanses6 күн бұрын
Huh. I've never let fear of failure stop me from doing what I want to do in the moment. Who cares if other people don't like my dancing? I wasn't doing it for them. The impulsive kind of things, I'm more inclined to follow my impulses. I'm sure I've got plans that will cover me if I fail on such a small scale matter. I'm more likely to not do something out of fear of failure if the thing I want to do is more complex. Because then I want to come up with a plan to do it reasonably well the first time.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
Whatever works for you ✊
@jenniferhanses4 күн бұрын
@@justcallmejon22 LOL Thanks. Though I wouldn't say failing to do things on the long term is really working for me. :P
@The-Labbed-Life6 күн бұрын
Great video Jon! As an INTJ, my closest friend the last 5 years is an ESFP and dang I learned a lot about Se and Fi. I think that it truly pushed me in a good way to have her as a friend In 2022 and 2023 I decided that I had to improve my Se a lot in alignment to my goal so I socialized a lot with people until they started to think I was an extrovert. It took me a while but now I make it seem natural. I think Se reminds me to live in the present moment and it makes life more satisfying for me. One of the great points you talked about is failure and how we don’t want to show our vulnerability. Second hand embarrassment is so real for me 😬 I decided that 2024 was the year I put myself out there and that’s exactly why I created my KZread channel around learning things. It’s primarily a selfish way to push me outside of my comfort zone and get comfortable with failure but also a way to show that you are not a master at something directly, you start as a beginner. My daily guitar journey has been fun so far and it showed me that people are more positive and cheering that I thought. You explained Se very well, thanks Jon! -Nadia
@Qdawwg5 күн бұрын
"Until they started to think I was an extrovert" but are you? Did you successfully become an extrovert, or are you just pretending like a "fake it 'til you make it" strategy? My problem is I used to trick all my friends into thinking I'm an extrovert but on the inside I was still an introvert and having a terrible time. So should I sacrifice my innate urges in the name of pleasing others and fitting in? And on the flip side it's also bad to completely indulge my instincts and then would only be alone all the time. I was actually someone who was over socialized as a child with tons of friends, so I have had the opposite experience of reducing my friends (many were surface level) and social interactions, which has lead to me living a more fulfilling and less fake life. But if I am not careful then I will end up cutting off all contact and living in a mountain somewhere lol. It's a delicate balance and a tough situation for us INTJs :)
@The-Labbed-Life5 күн бұрын
@@Qdawwg You misunderstand what I said. It's not about being an extrovert or pretending, not at all actually. It is about being comfortable in social skills, having the capacity to talk to anyone naturally from my own strengths. When I said: "until they started to think I was an extrovert", it meant that they saw I was comfortable enough to talk to them to think that I was an extrovert. Because people make the connection between being social and being extrovert automatically (even though, it's not always the case). My goal never has been to become an extrovert or pretending, it was to have the social skills that I want to be able to talk to anyone in any situation based on my own personality. I never tricked anyone, I'm just being myself more and more using all my functions. That's a big difference with what you said because I'm having a great time being myself. I have extremely high standards about the people who are close to me. All my close friends are people that bring value to my life. I have no time to have BS people around me so I cut off everyone like that in my life a long time ago. I was alone for a long time but it's a must to go through If you want to attract people that you really like. Having the capacity to communicate, express yourself and be social is something that as INTJs we struggle with so we have to work on acquiring them and be natural about it. Having Se as a function is actually a blessing because we have the capacity to do it, it's just practice. I will never be an ESFP but I can be an INTJ with Se that can work for me, because it's just different and different doesn't mean one is better than the other. That's why for me, discovering that I was an INTJ was the best thing that happened to me. I finally have the knowledge to know what I need to work on in my life with more clarity. Knowing how you are helps you to challenge yourself. People see the MBTI functions as categories and limitations, I see it as possibilities.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
ESFPs really are the best at helping us improve and I was lucky enough to be surrounded by them at an early age. Good work on your youtube channel and getting outside of the comfort zone! We'll continue to improve together ✊
@MackBXIII6 күн бұрын
Ugh, get out of my head
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
😈
@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes6 күн бұрын
You go a little hard, don't push INTJs ^^ 😆 I agree Se encompass a lot of things (personal, people, physical...) I improve Se alone at home, with Te and Fi, doing the things I like. When use Te, it automatically involves/brings Se. (making video, write, paying attention to the details & words, drawing, painting, exercice, observing the details in the present, be in the present physically...) Every INTJ is different and will improve their Se in different way corresponding to them. I guess your advice correspond for typical INTJ, and who are not enneatype 5. However, if Neurodivergent : Gifted, Asperger, ADHD and if on spiritual journey : _I don't recommend to go outside (sensitive nervous system, sensory issues, overload, hypersensitivity) or only at night. _Don't need to have Sensors friends, or to talk about meaningless things (not fulfilling for our Ni, annoying, boring, depressing, feel empty). _Don't use Se inferior the same way Se dom use it : it's not yourself, you may end-up exhausted, stressed, not satisfied, burn out. Follow your intuition, listen to yourself. We can do it in your 10's, 20's when our functions still develop, but after, it's more enjoyable to come back to our natural functioning. Definitely feel better, happier, at peace. Also depends of the enneatype and instinctual variants. That's why I asked in the past your enneatype if you know it. An INTJ e8 ADHD friend, was too pushy/impulsive forcing other INTJs to go outside & socialise. Be aware of the limit of our own Se capacity can be great, every INTJ have different Se tolerance/capacity.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
I'm 5w4 and I think you misunderstood the message of the video. I'm not telling anyone to do anything if they don't want to. There has to be an Fi value attached to progress and if an INTJ doesn't care about improving Se, then don't. I still recommend engaging with Se and having sensor friends for those that want to improve because it's probably the easiest way to progress in the journey of Se mastery 😬
@pyraxusthelutarian72766 күн бұрын
Hi Jon, as always, love your videos. They give me new directions of thought and help me identify my own strengths and weaknesses as a solid INTJ. I say "solid" because I have taken the MBTI test approximately once every decade (I'm almost 60 now) and I have always come up INTJ. The latest stats are I-93% N-80% T-71% J-81% and A-69%. The only stat that ever changed was the last. I initially tested as turbulent as opposed to assertive but A seems to be steadily rising as I age. You once replied to a comment I made on a previous video of yours that you thought I sounded as though I was pretty in touch with my Se. I gave it some thought and I think that there are two main factors which may explain this. One is that I love being out in nature. And I adopted an early habit of consciously engaging ALL my physical senses when being outdoors. Not only seeing things, but examining textures, listening to the cacophony of sounds present, identifying and tasting various wild edibles and of course, stopping to "smell the roses". The other factor is that I also adopted early on a habit of trying to put myself in the shoes of others. Trying to figure out why people do the things they do as I observe them and even when I disagree with their methods or actions, making a sincere effort to see things from their perspectives. Don't get me wrong, when I see people doing things "the hard way" (especially at work) it still drives me absolutely batty internally, but I have learned to let go of my control freak tendencies and mitigate my Fi impulses to avoid too dominant attempts to "educate" them. I fortunately learned to adopt a sense of humility and accept that there are more ways than one to "skin a cat". 🙂 Anyway, thanks again for another insightful video sir.
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
I remember the previous comment about you mentioning that you enjoy being outdoors. Keep commenting my friend, there are lots of younger/ underdeveloped INTJs that you can help with your knowledge 🙏
@pyraxusthelutarian72763 күн бұрын
@@justcallmejon22 Well, thank you for the kind response. 🙂 Truth is, I have been considering creating a playlist on my own humble little channel and calling it "An INTJ's perspective on..." and addressing various topics as many of my friends/family have told me that my views are rather unique and insightful. That of course would be for others to decide for themselves though. Far be it for me to tell anyone else how to live their lives or what to believe, but I would be honored to provide any new avenues of consideration for others who are interested.
@kimtopology42576 күн бұрын
My mom was a Se dom when I was little she would enroll me in swimming lessons and Jazz dancing because I was the type that stayed in my room read books and engaged with my imagination as an INTP she definitely had a strong presence I think she was an ESTP she would tell me to get out and do something outside so that burst my bubble lol! .
@justcallmejon224 күн бұрын
My mom forced me to go to parties and social gatherings with her as a child. I used to hate it but I appreciate it now since I've learned so much during those moments 😅
@unknown9990-n9n6 күн бұрын
Hey thank you for making this video i think it will help me in the future 😊
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too upset to say i need help but i am an INTJ girl and had a crush on an INFJ boy do you think I'll ever have a chance with him ???
Im goad someone said it. But please dont talk bad about Kanye his music is dope and hes an inspiration. Loool 😂 Jay Z is an overrated rapper and I domt agree hes an INTJ. Jay is an Si type. If you want a great example of INTJ 50 cent is one.
OMG the back of the head comment! I wish I never discovered the back of my head 😂. Was standing in line at the store today and thinking “I forgot to check that this morning”
I was diagnosed with ADD 1.5 years ago in my 40s. I’ve always questioned my doctor if my so called ADD behaviors are really just because of my INTP/INTJ personality (I’ve recently confirmed to be an INTJ). I’ve taken meds finally after a long struggle for a couple of months now but they do nothing to me. I even asked the doctor to increase my dosage so that I can see if I will really see any results from the meds. As of now, still none. I believe I’ve just been in the Ni Fi loop for the past two years as my life turned upside down and I quit my job. I figured all I need is to find my goals again and find a way to execute them. It will not be easy switching careers but I tell myself if I like what I will be doing, my old INTJ self will be back soon!
Can we have how to improve Te more? Though there are videos out there, we just wanna hear your thoughts and discussion about it
Thank you..this is so funny...and so true!
This was a great video. I’m definitely an ENFJ but I have grown the ability through personal development to focus on my own worth, goals and how to manage all of these traits. Even using more TI when called upon and then use extraverted feeling. I have a really good INTJ friend and I have noticed us growing closer through our interactions and appreciation for each other via our conversations.
Well said. Also INTJ gay male here.
Thanks uncle Jon!
As an INTJ i tried to watch this but i couldn't because the guest talked about a rap BEEF as if one artist was supposed to help the other artists become a better person after that person disrespected them n their family......like what???? You woulda thought Drake never said anything with the narrative he was pushing around 28:00
I understand your perspective, I was just also stating mine. Like I understand rap beef is what we have known it as to this day. I guess I just saw Kendrick to be above that in a way..? Yes. Family was spoken of, and it wasn’t right. But I guess it also reminded me of when I was a child and other classmates would say things about my African mom. I would get mad and wanna fight them. But my father was like “Why? They don’t know your mom. Why do you let that get to you? It’s their own insecurity showing. Don’t stoop to their level.” Again, it’s just my perspective. I’m sorry it kept you from watching the rest.
@@DeezyRYG nah there's no need to apologize and I will prolly watch the rest i just personally feel invested in this beef (on Kendrick's side) for YEARS like pre Control to Hip Hop Awards Cyphers til now so when I heard your point of view being from the Bronx which is the home of Hip Hop I'm like HUH?? This is what we all wanted and what the culture NEEDED. Drake has crossed n sneak dissed sooooo many people over the years that policing how he gets dissed just isn't logical to me. Once you speak on somebody's family all bets are off THIS IS HIP HOP n Kendrick TOLD him not to do it n he did so Kendrick's integrity shouldn't be stained when he was taunted Lied on n disrespected to astronomical levels. Idk this triggered me I'm sorry if I offended you I just feel strongly about it
@@housecarolina Nah from this vantage point I do feel you and your perspective is totally valid! I tend to speak a bit more on Drake's behalf only because I feel like Kendrick's side is heavily populated and so I mainly try and play devil's advocate in these situations, but I am not necessarily trying to excuse Drake or support him either! 😅 And I also know that my own personal values of what I view as maturity and effective yet patient ways to handle such an issue while still being assertive play a part here, but I also definitely know that this is not all of what it is and especially in what we know Hip-Hop culture to be, it is not a very popular outlook. My ISTP friend even said to me "Mannn this is HIP-HOP!! Niggas ain't tryna be mature!" Lol so I get it. And even aside from the maturity, I was really just still alarmed by the death wishes....because Drake from what I can see mainly spoke of Whitney allegedly cheating, which is wild but I was just unsure where it could leap from that to wishing death on the man? But even with all this, I am still continuing to gather perspective and understand where I truly stand. I appreciated you sharing yours if anything!
@@DeezyRYG your friend is me 100% literally verbatim 😂😂😂😂 I guess it's a situation to where from the outside he's wishing his death but he prolly knows so much more than we do or will ever know so honestly with the p3do alleg. N Kendrick being somebody who doesn't strike me as a liar I can understand him having that POV although it may be extreme I get it . I apologize if I came at you wrong
@@housecarolina Haha it’s all good! Yeah I really wish we could get more things verified and I could feel more comfortable with fully unloading against Drake as well in the same way but I guess it’s the uncertainty of what truly has gone down that has me hesitant. You definitely could be right though. Anyway, yeah! It’s all cool. No bad blood here. Thanks for the discourse!
Drake clearly was in Fe-Ne loop messing up on his last song, getting the abuse allegations from Mr Morale wrong. Didn't fact check his Si. And made his loss even worse
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Irony of the the Taylor Made thing is, Drake wanted to incite Kendrick, and HE DID! 'You literally asked for it. And now you got it (drake).'
I appreciate the Fe Ti breakdown (Taylor Made convo), because I needed understanding around that too. Thank you
Yo guys the biggest rapper in the world is Eminem… what are you talking about??? 😂
😂😂😂 I think his era has come and gone, but he definitely did reign the charts for quite some time. I love him though! ISTP king. And his latest album is sooooooo Ti.
Omg as passionate as i am for hip hop and mbti I'm totally in for all of it! As for Kendrick's possible type, i clearly see ni in him (in the last part of the video you Jon explained it pretty well), so i don't see how he may be an infp even tho it is totally possible, but i think he rather is an intj (or maybe infj)
I personally say INFP for him! But I do agree that he exemplified a lot of Ni in how the process of this all played out. Unsure how much was his team, or just him tapping into his witch function.
Always a pleasure to chop it up with you, Jon! Thanks for the invitation and great conversation!
Right 11:20 (drake not understanding how rap culture goes). Kendrick did nothing different than what older rappers did. It's part of the culture. You're not supposed to get in your feelings about a rapper saying he's the best and coming for the crown(or not present that to the world anyway lol)
Yes!! So excited to hear about cognitive functions regarding this beef!!! Especially, if you guys end up touching on the Fe ti axis and Fi Te one.
Yes!! Glad yall brought that up Fi-Te thing at 16:26!!! (Meet the Grahams)
I love this movie so much as INTJ woman I feel her very much
Its sad that some dont embrace their authentic self, absolutely every "type" has value, all humans are amazing beings brimming with potential! The value of MBTI is seeing our flow, building upon & working with that, not to hamstring ourselves with some ego satisfying notions of what we think we must be... those are fleeting anyway... our cognitive function preference is a vast neural network (including non-local mind!), thats not going to change on a mood or whim... lol! INFJ-A male here. 😜
Thank you! Love this.
'cuz thats my auntie bahahahaha
Wow, love this video and can relate to all. As Intj who pass through all the levels(but still not perfect) people always think that I am different type. But its true, You are healthy if you not on the stigma of your type . Now I think about how we can split every function to different sides like you did to Se, its so interesting, thank you and keep with the videos!
Can you give me a couple examples ( physical and verbal ) of subconcious Se and Superego Se for intjs?
Living a full life equals engaging all your first four functions. You are spot on. Carl Jung developed his typology by watching his patients who had mental problems because they overdid one function in their preferred attitude.
Thank you so much I find this video so helpful for me.
First of all, this ia a great video. Explains most of what I've figured out myself. This is a very personal topic for me. This is one of the issues that will kinda fix itself later in life for you, but know that you dont have to wait for it. 1) As Jon said - you have to accept that there is another way of doing things besides your Ni. You have to ackknowledge that it exists, it's a part of you and that you want to do it. Things are going to go way off plan, you might get embarassed but that's the point. For me it was an literal fight with me internal self telling me all the horrors of not following my intuition and telling me that it's not me. 2) Motivation. This imo is the most important topic for the life of any INTJ in general but you need a reason to engage with Se, at least for practice at first. For me the solution was arguing myself into it. I could never fool myself so when it convinced myself that there's no other way of getting what I want other than Se way things started working. 3) Satisfaction from the results. Tbh I'm still working at this. I'm mostly still at the point where it all comes down to Te for me, so I enjoy fixing problems and accomplishing goals. I still dont know wtf "runners high" is even though I have been running almost everyday for 3 years at this point. I dont enjoy hanging out with other people or doing spontaneous stuff even though I know that I want to do it. The part about developing motivations for talking to other people is actually the exact same for me. I figured out the most important thing that other people can give me is perspective. I figured out I dont wanna talk about their opinions, knowledge or accolades because that's going to cause a debate which they wont like, but perspective I'm always a sucker for. Si people talking about how people I changed or how people keep changing all the time is the source of endless debate for me. I figured out that we're just talking about different things. For an INTJ we look at what people are, so people never change for us. INTJ will never become an INTP. Si people see people for how they're presenting (because that's how they see themselves as) so if the presentation changed that means the person has changed internally for them. You're never going to explain to an Si person what the difference is and how they're getting fooled by people performing their presentation all the time.
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I am so inspired by you ❤
I appreciate the kind words ❤
11:36. Bless you! "The end doesn't justify the means." You said it correctly. I cringe when I hear this said backwards. It's even in "Oppenheimer" backwards!
how does one make friends? haha can't leave us hanging by leaving out this issue
You're in luck! I already have a video for that: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZoejqJt-mt2ddbQ.html
I got on a airplane at age 18 and left home for five years. Not because anything was wrong at home. I just had to go.
I did something similar when I was 21.
19:40. The reason I never liked Seinfeld.
INTJ here. Most of my attempts at conversations fail. People don't understand what I'm saying. They assume the most literal meanings to words and have no capacity for abstract thought. They rarely express any curiosity about my thoughts or at least meet me halfway. They just don't care.
I understand the pain and lonliness. The cure is to continue searching for like-minded people because they really are out there, you just have to find them. I hope things improve for you soon ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Thanks. You are doing great work.
This explains why I am so passionate about my violin when I was in high school. Why I am in love with music in the first place. It's because I love the sensation of a sound coming from the high pitch note. It's pleasing to my ears. I was able to express my emotions through it. By the help of my Ni dom, I was able to learn the music theory quickly. I discovered circle of fifths before knowing that it already existed. My Se strength comes from hearing. It shows why I am relaxed when I hear the sound of the rain from our rooftop. Se in general is awareness from the external world. I'm INTJ and I might be wrong describing Se.
You did a great job describing Se and it's alignment with Fi 😃
I am an INTP... While i don't use reddit but i pass judgmental comments to my INTJ friends a lot! But just for fun and to trigger them and I'm pretty sure most of them did the same. I can see most of them are pretty chill about INTJs and don't mean what they are saying but I agree, few INTPs are showing stubborn enemosity towards INTJs.
INTJs usually appreciate the blunt honesty if there's no malicious intent and if we can learn from it so it sounds like you're doing something right with your INTJs 🙂
Im so glad this youtube account exists. I dont have to search for anything specific on your page. I just click the video in knowledge it WILL work for me and gives me Value. Thanks you keep it up even if that Video was hard to do. It teached me a lot <3
Thank you for the kind words and let's continue improving, my friend ✊
I watched a video on KZread from one of the INTP users. In all the videos where the topic of the personality of the INTJ was touched upon, this person openly said that he did not like this type. Even while listing the advantages, he managed to bring out the negative. It is very sad to hear such statements. The funny thing is that recently I had a very strong quarrel with my INTP friend, completely disappointed in him. Over the years, I turned a blind eye to many flaws in our relationship, but in the end I finally decided to break up with him. To be honest, I blamed myself for what happened for a very long time, I thought that I was so cruel and did not do enough to change everything, maybe I was too demanding or misunderstood something. But as it turned out, I did everything right. We had a lot of things to talk about, we had a great time until we started living together in the same house and until our goals in life became completely opposite. I was ready to support all his initiatives, but there were none at all, he did not strive for anything, which turned out to be unacceptable for me. I don't know why I wrote this (this is probably stupid because this video was posted a month ago and the fact that my story doesn't really relate to the topic of the video). Sometimes it seems to me that I am not an INTJ at all, because I see so many comments where people are happy with INTP. We've known each other for about 9 years and this breakup makes me feel very strange. P.S. Sorry for the bad English in some points. I don't speak English and used a translator.
You explained it well and I appreciate the comment! I'm sadden to hear about your experience with your INTP friend, I'm still trying to accept that people you care about deeply won't always be there with you as your mature. You know you made the correct decision if you chose internal peace because you have to take care of yourself before you can care for anyone else. Chin up, my INTJ friend, you two will reconnect if the friendship was strong enough ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Thank you so much for your support, it's very valuable to me now. I think I can figure it out and get over it. And also thank you for the content that you create, it is very useful for self-development. Keep up the good work!❤️
You should do more videos like the last part of your video. It felt more genuine at the end. I also like how you incorporated the mic in hand for a video on Se.
I tried dude, my Ni won't make sense unless I write it down or if I'm Te ranting about something 😅
Thanks Jon. You make understanding the cognitive functions so easy.
Thank you for the support ❤
As an infj, i also would love to improve Se. And i also need an aim for it, otherwise i won't feel like i should do it.
#Niproblems 😅
Fantastic video. As an ENFJ, although my Se is tertiary, I had trouble loving it myself because I had always received messaging that it is an immature function, overly indulgent and impulsive, shallow, etc. Now I really have learned to embrace Se especially knowing that these descriptions are very 1 dimensional and not at all getting the true value of the function. Reading body language, staying fit, quick responses in the heat of a moment, getting into action with my Ni plans, seeing life for what it is and still enjoying its daily pleasures, appreciating art and visceral experiences, acting, fashion sense, and much more. I think the examples you gave such as the movie Interstellar, and even something as simple as a well-timed joke, all of it are things that an INTJ can benefit from integrating into their own lives. Also, you bringing up the importance of Fi valuing certain things before Te will hold to it, and then that bleeds into the Se was great to point out.
I feel like I'm preaching to the choir talking to an ENFJ about Se but yeah dude, Se encompasses so many aspects of our lives that I feel like basic descriptions don't do it justice 😅
Huh. I've never let fear of failure stop me from doing what I want to do in the moment. Who cares if other people don't like my dancing? I wasn't doing it for them. The impulsive kind of things, I'm more inclined to follow my impulses. I'm sure I've got plans that will cover me if I fail on such a small scale matter. I'm more likely to not do something out of fear of failure if the thing I want to do is more complex. Because then I want to come up with a plan to do it reasonably well the first time.
Whatever works for you ✊
@@justcallmejon22 LOL Thanks. Though I wouldn't say failing to do things on the long term is really working for me. :P
Great video Jon! As an INTJ, my closest friend the last 5 years is an ESFP and dang I learned a lot about Se and Fi. I think that it truly pushed me in a good way to have her as a friend In 2022 and 2023 I decided that I had to improve my Se a lot in alignment to my goal so I socialized a lot with people until they started to think I was an extrovert. It took me a while but now I make it seem natural. I think Se reminds me to live in the present moment and it makes life more satisfying for me. One of the great points you talked about is failure and how we don’t want to show our vulnerability. Second hand embarrassment is so real for me 😬 I decided that 2024 was the year I put myself out there and that’s exactly why I created my KZread channel around learning things. It’s primarily a selfish way to push me outside of my comfort zone and get comfortable with failure but also a way to show that you are not a master at something directly, you start as a beginner. My daily guitar journey has been fun so far and it showed me that people are more positive and cheering that I thought. You explained Se very well, thanks Jon! -Nadia
"Until they started to think I was an extrovert" but are you? Did you successfully become an extrovert, or are you just pretending like a "fake it 'til you make it" strategy? My problem is I used to trick all my friends into thinking I'm an extrovert but on the inside I was still an introvert and having a terrible time. So should I sacrifice my innate urges in the name of pleasing others and fitting in? And on the flip side it's also bad to completely indulge my instincts and then would only be alone all the time. I was actually someone who was over socialized as a child with tons of friends, so I have had the opposite experience of reducing my friends (many were surface level) and social interactions, which has lead to me living a more fulfilling and less fake life. But if I am not careful then I will end up cutting off all contact and living in a mountain somewhere lol. It's a delicate balance and a tough situation for us INTJs :)
@@Qdawwg You misunderstand what I said. It's not about being an extrovert or pretending, not at all actually. It is about being comfortable in social skills, having the capacity to talk to anyone naturally from my own strengths. When I said: "until they started to think I was an extrovert", it meant that they saw I was comfortable enough to talk to them to think that I was an extrovert. Because people make the connection between being social and being extrovert automatically (even though, it's not always the case). My goal never has been to become an extrovert or pretending, it was to have the social skills that I want to be able to talk to anyone in any situation based on my own personality. I never tricked anyone, I'm just being myself more and more using all my functions. That's a big difference with what you said because I'm having a great time being myself. I have extremely high standards about the people who are close to me. All my close friends are people that bring value to my life. I have no time to have BS people around me so I cut off everyone like that in my life a long time ago. I was alone for a long time but it's a must to go through If you want to attract people that you really like. Having the capacity to communicate, express yourself and be social is something that as INTJs we struggle with so we have to work on acquiring them and be natural about it. Having Se as a function is actually a blessing because we have the capacity to do it, it's just practice. I will never be an ESFP but I can be an INTJ with Se that can work for me, because it's just different and different doesn't mean one is better than the other. That's why for me, discovering that I was an INTJ was the best thing that happened to me. I finally have the knowledge to know what I need to work on in my life with more clarity. Knowing how you are helps you to challenge yourself. People see the MBTI functions as categories and limitations, I see it as possibilities.
ESFPs really are the best at helping us improve and I was lucky enough to be surrounded by them at an early age. Good work on your youtube channel and getting outside of the comfort zone! We'll continue to improve together ✊
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You go a little hard, don't push INTJs ^^ 😆 I agree Se encompass a lot of things (personal, people, physical...) I improve Se alone at home, with Te and Fi, doing the things I like. When use Te, it automatically involves/brings Se. (making video, write, paying attention to the details & words, drawing, painting, exercice, observing the details in the present, be in the present physically...) Every INTJ is different and will improve their Se in different way corresponding to them. I guess your advice correspond for typical INTJ, and who are not enneatype 5. However, if Neurodivergent : Gifted, Asperger, ADHD and if on spiritual journey : _I don't recommend to go outside (sensitive nervous system, sensory issues, overload, hypersensitivity) or only at night. _Don't need to have Sensors friends, or to talk about meaningless things (not fulfilling for our Ni, annoying, boring, depressing, feel empty). _Don't use Se inferior the same way Se dom use it : it's not yourself, you may end-up exhausted, stressed, not satisfied, burn out. Follow your intuition, listen to yourself. We can do it in your 10's, 20's when our functions still develop, but after, it's more enjoyable to come back to our natural functioning. Definitely feel better, happier, at peace. Also depends of the enneatype and instinctual variants. That's why I asked in the past your enneatype if you know it. An INTJ e8 ADHD friend, was too pushy/impulsive forcing other INTJs to go outside & socialise. Be aware of the limit of our own Se capacity can be great, every INTJ have different Se tolerance/capacity.
I'm 5w4 and I think you misunderstood the message of the video. I'm not telling anyone to do anything if they don't want to. There has to be an Fi value attached to progress and if an INTJ doesn't care about improving Se, then don't. I still recommend engaging with Se and having sensor friends for those that want to improve because it's probably the easiest way to progress in the journey of Se mastery 😬
Hi Jon, as always, love your videos. They give me new directions of thought and help me identify my own strengths and weaknesses as a solid INTJ. I say "solid" because I have taken the MBTI test approximately once every decade (I'm almost 60 now) and I have always come up INTJ. The latest stats are I-93% N-80% T-71% J-81% and A-69%. The only stat that ever changed was the last. I initially tested as turbulent as opposed to assertive but A seems to be steadily rising as I age. You once replied to a comment I made on a previous video of yours that you thought I sounded as though I was pretty in touch with my Se. I gave it some thought and I think that there are two main factors which may explain this. One is that I love being out in nature. And I adopted an early habit of consciously engaging ALL my physical senses when being outdoors. Not only seeing things, but examining textures, listening to the cacophony of sounds present, identifying and tasting various wild edibles and of course, stopping to "smell the roses". The other factor is that I also adopted early on a habit of trying to put myself in the shoes of others. Trying to figure out why people do the things they do as I observe them and even when I disagree with their methods or actions, making a sincere effort to see things from their perspectives. Don't get me wrong, when I see people doing things "the hard way" (especially at work) it still drives me absolutely batty internally, but I have learned to let go of my control freak tendencies and mitigate my Fi impulses to avoid too dominant attempts to "educate" them. I fortunately learned to adopt a sense of humility and accept that there are more ways than one to "skin a cat". 🙂 Anyway, thanks again for another insightful video sir.
I remember the previous comment about you mentioning that you enjoy being outdoors. Keep commenting my friend, there are lots of younger/ underdeveloped INTJs that you can help with your knowledge 🙏
@@justcallmejon22 Well, thank you for the kind response. 🙂 Truth is, I have been considering creating a playlist on my own humble little channel and calling it "An INTJ's perspective on..." and addressing various topics as many of my friends/family have told me that my views are rather unique and insightful. That of course would be for others to decide for themselves though. Far be it for me to tell anyone else how to live their lives or what to believe, but I would be honored to provide any new avenues of consideration for others who are interested.
My mom was a Se dom when I was little she would enroll me in swimming lessons and Jazz dancing because I was the type that stayed in my room read books and engaged with my imagination as an INTP she definitely had a strong presence I think she was an ESTP she would tell me to get out and do something outside so that burst my bubble lol! .
My mom forced me to go to parties and social gatherings with her as a child. I used to hate it but I appreciate it now since I've learned so much during those moments 😅
Hey thank you for making this video i think it will help me in the future 😊
Enjoy the journey 🙂