When you find the right people, they'll love you regardless. We are our own worst enemy when it comes to peace of mind. Also, in my 50 years on this rock, I've found that there is a huge dichotomy between men & women when incontinence is an issue. The acceptance of female incontinence is much greater, whereas for male incontinence it's often combined with some degree of impotence. IMHO, men are typically more accepting of an incontinent female partner than vice versa. This isn't to "bash" anyone! We are all natural animals and evolution gave us our innate bias & predilections and it can be very difficult to "logic" our way past them when dealing with deep-seated feelings of arousal or repulsion.

Intimacy is a loaded topic. Typically it's equated to sex/orgasm/eroticism, which is missing a whole lot. To me at least, it's about vulnerability. Something like being changed by another person is far, far more intimate than sex. Likewise being able to communicate needs without shame or fear is an intimate act. A good partner listens and adapts while being that supportive anchor. Being incontinent and trying to have sex should involve the same levels of communication, adaptation, and negotiation that all encounters should have. You should always be able to say things like "this doesn't feel good to me" or "I want to do this and here are the circumstances out of my control, how can we work with that to have mutual enjoyment". For personal reasons, sex is triggering for me and as such I've de-prioritized it. However I still seek intimacy more than anything in the varying forms it can take. The idea of self-intimacy to me boils down to self-acceptance and grace. You might not always like who you are, but it's an act of intimacy again to be vulnerable with yourself on that and extend grace to say that's ok sometimes and believe it will get better.

@christopherables4235

6 ай бұрын

this... this is excellent food for thought. Your insights show a level of growth and maturity that is too rarely seen in spaces like this. Thank you for sharing your take on what so many of us find an incredibly thorny topic!

Diapers *can* be intimate when paired with certain aspects of you. If you pair fishnet tights or a lacy bra with just a diaper, there's intimacy generated between you and a partner. But there's more to intimacy than just apparel. I mean, come on, you have folks that would love to have someone like you as their girlfriend. Someone who, despite their trouble with their bodily functions, smiles through it all. Get you someone who can make the most of your condition, cause it can lead to things like diaper changes, which when paired with a partner you trust can make you very happy. Don't let incontinence cloud your strive for intimacy with that special someone. It's best to explain your incontinence ahead of time before getting too far into a date, but more importantly, you should be able to explain it in a way that the person understands and can look past your condition and see the true you under all the padding. Let your light shine, girl, you have more bravery than most in the ABDL community do.

Pree, Intimacy doesn't have to be the exact same thing for everybody. I am a biological male and a widower. My wife developed diabetes and the side effects of her medications for diabetes and some other prescription medications which resulted in digestive and kidney/bladder disruptions. The final year or so of her life we had to adapt and intimacy took on different forms and timings which worked for both of us. The end of this month will mark eight years that death did us part after a happy marriage of over 38 years. I truly hope you will find people to date, and if things click with both of you, I hope that both of you can work out what is meaningful intimacy.

Happy New Year, Pree! 🍀You are right, there´s no intimacy without confidence: confidence in yourself and other people. If a diaper makes you feel confident and a thong (or whatever that black thingy in your hand is called) does not, then go for the diaper. Besides, what makes me confident of your videos is that you are a smart, intelligent and caring person - character traits that add to one´s natural beauty, too! 🤩

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Happy New year to you too!! 🖤

Hi BP . LOL , that short at the beginning was great !! Yes , intimacy and incontinence can work with understanding and caring . There are so many ways to be intimate , a gentle hug , a soft touch can be so much more than -- the thing . My ex told me and we kind'a had a great understanding and that was in a time when no one even mentioned incontinence and fear was everywhere . Today there are so many ways to love your self and still be happily intimate . Thanks for the video , I am sure it will help many . Take care , Dreamer 

This was a great video. I never thought about this, but I'm glad you bought it up.

Great video Pre! Intimacy is a topic people rairly talk about. Thanks for bringing it up in a way that is matter of fact, and still watchable.

Hi Pree, hope your new years and holidays went well! As for the topic of this video, intimacy is all about depth and vulnerability. While it may not have been pointed out, most of the content you release, you show a very intimate side of yourself. And honestly, I’m sure many people here, and a few other communities, would also agree that anyone would be lucky to have you, should the right person come along. You are brave, smart, funny, and while you may not think so, you show much more confidence than many of us here. I think that shows as a testimony to how truly wonderful you are.

It's definitely a struggle, it's complicated so many relationships and it sucks when can't wear cute stuff and match. Best I've been able to do is temporarily wear a pullup and a white lace bra so can some what feeling attractive and match.

I think that having incontinence can be actually good for finding true love. If somebody refuses to date you, even if you otherwise get well together, just because you have to wear diapers, it means that person is shallow. It could literally save you time with idiots.

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

What a way to dodge that bullet! 🙊

@bobharris5670

7 ай бұрын

Well said

As a DL, intimacy and diapers go hand in hand :D But I see the problem dating someone outside of our bubble. I was dating a DL girl last year but it only lasted 3 months or so. Now I´m kinda torn to rather find somebody outside the bubble to introduce into diapers or to still cling to the finding-the-perfect-DL-partner-idea.

Thanks for baring your heart and soul once again. You continue to be an inspiration to me.

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

🖤🖤

Happy new year beautiful! 🎉 love your videos!

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awe happy new year to you too!!! 🖤

As a guy, I haven't given this much thought, but now that I think about it, I can only imagine how the ladies may feel about what they wear. I never think about dips being a turn off or turn on because I see them as underwear. So, like the seduction dip or something colorful would be nice! Basically it would be like a guy wearing cammies.

Happy new year, Pree! thanks for your fabulous videos

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

Awe thanks and Happy New Year to you too! 🖤

@ficklekid_ed86

7 ай бұрын

thanks, keep up the good work

your videos are great. and your adorable you deserve to be happy!

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awe thank you! I’m happy as of now! 🖤

Loved the video, I am kind of in the frame of mind that I cannot bring myself to even think about dating just because i don't want to explain to people that I am incontinent. Guess something i need to work on. Keep up the videos as I love your energy and you always give me a laugh

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

Awe I feel you on the not wanting to explain yourself. It gets tiring having to repeat yourself 🤦🏽‍♀️ Awee!!🖤🖤🖤

Great video and a interesting subject. I'm lucky that most of the women i've been with were supportive and accepting of my condition, but i've also been rejected a lot of times for it.

Thank you so much Pree for addressing this issue. Since my incontinence came about in 2012 after my motorcycle accident.l haven't dated or had any relationships of any kind. I still find it to emabarrasing to discuss. Of only there were an incontinence dating site it would be helpful....but only thing I've seen are kink sites 😢😢 But thank you for addressing this subject Pree.❤❤❤

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awee oh noo! It’s definitely not something that’s easy to talk about.

I feel you have to accept yourself confidently and be able to disclose that with your partner or significant other. After dating and eventually marrying my now wife I made a point of positive communication and being honest and my incontinence was one of the first things disclosed right out the gate, and have been better off having started the relationship with those values as I would not want to be in a relationship where my significant other didn't accept me.

You've got to accept the person for who they are😊

@davidrlogana5964

6 ай бұрын

Thank you very much

I agree with what you said, confidence in what you wear makes a world of difference.

@BumblePree

4 ай бұрын

🙌🏽🖤

Great video 🖤 Self love is so important 🖤 you need to love yourself, before you can be confident when sharing a part of your life, like incontinence. 🖤 I hope you are doing well 🖤🖤🖤

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

Well said! 🙌🏽 I’m doing much better now thanks and I hope you’re doing good! 🖤

@toygeekasaurus

7 ай бұрын

@@BumblePree I am doing really good 🖤🖤🖤

All incontinent people struggle with the same thoughts.... We all feel ashamed and the reaction of many people just makes everything worse. But it´s not that big of a deal for even more people. Of course not too many want to get too intimate and you just have to accept that but there are many people who honestly don´t care if the partner leaks or doesn´t. It took years but I found my perfect match. You only have to take the first step and don´t care about opinions you don´t share 🙂

As a incontinent diaperlover it would be a benefit to have a incontinent partner since we would be in the same boat i love your videos soo much they help young incontinent ppl to feel confident and to take away taboo and stigma against incontinence and diapers ❤ I wish u a happy New year hugs from Norway ❤🇧🇻

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Experiential Intimacy doesn’t sound so bad! Happy new year to you too!!! 🖤

It shouldnt matter what you wear. You are still beautiful. Im a male i am dependant on a foley catheter so i get where you are coming from

So my wife and I have figured it out . This is a good video.. This is a good topic for your partner. You are positive. Great VID! You will find the correct person. I have and my wife makes me feel not broken.

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awe you both are too cute and I’m glad you found your person! And I’m not wanting or looking to be in a relationship currently. If it happens then it happens but as of now I’m at peace with myself!

As someone who has been needing to wear diapers only at night due to stress wetting but not actual incontinence, I truly think a woman with actual incontinence "Does Not" need lingerie to be beautiful or to be intimate. As the saying goes beauty is only skin deep, there is much more to women than their looks or what they wear. I tell plenty of women I've dated or been intimate with that they don't need all that make up to be beautiful, some women told me the make up wasn't for me, but I guess for them to feel better about themselves, they were defensive about it. But I think women are too worried about what we men think and should be more concerned about what makes them actually happy. And I think 1 real true ice breaker is not wearing lingerie but imagine a woman with incontinence doing a strip tease in the bedroom to arouse her partner and she is left in diaper after taking everything off. 1 it would be funny not cuz its hilarious to make fun of her but it would be silly cuz its not the usual thing to see and it would be like ripping off the band-aid finally showing the real you towards the end of the dance but it would be a way for both people to smile, break the awkwardness and to appreciate one another for real. If a woman wore medical diapers or barnyard, megamax or whatever to bed and that's all she wore I would not care cuz I want her to be herself. Even as a person who wears diapers at night I do worry about what I would do if I got a partner and had to tell them about my night issue and wonder if they would accept me. But I was always told be yourself and not someone your not but is that really the truth or do people mean be slightly not you but mostly you?? In the end real love is about acceptance not for desires only or lust.

Hugs are more intimate to me

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

Awe! 🖤

You have a wonderful personality, you are intelligent and you have confidence, not to mention that you are attractive so intimate clothing isn't necessary. Besides, people who wear lingerie, don't keep it on for long. Being sexy isn't just your underwear, it is how you act and talk towards your partner. You have a lot to offer and will find someone when you are ready. You are not broken, you are amazing!

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awe thanks! 🖤 “People who wear lingerie don’t keep it on for long… “ 😂 hadn’t known! It’s just moments where I get COVID or get sick is when I feel broken. It becomes debilitating when you’re unable to function.

@dprboy

6 ай бұрын

@@BumblePree You have a rough journey for sure. Getting sick affects you much more when you have MS. You have a wonderful disposition despite the obstacles you face each day. Hugs to you!

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

@@dprboy It’s been rough but been learning a lot a long the way! ☺️

@dprboy

6 ай бұрын

@@BumblePree I can't imagine all you go through, but I admire how you do it.

To me thongs and such is not sexy. But on the right partner I think the diaper can be sexier than the other clothing women wear. It is really in the minds of the individuals and not the clothing. If you think you are sexy wearing a diaper then you will act more comfortable with it and it will show to the other person. Same goes if you hate wearing something, your attitude will reflect it and will be transferred to your partner.

I'm looking for a guy to be partners with, but I have the bladder control of an infant and the bowel control is not much better.

I think it would be cool if you were to do a video on your favorite diapers (top 10, 5, or however many you feel like talking about.) since you have tried so many varieties now or even maybe ones you have changed your opinion of since being a DL. Maybe a list of least favorite or worst diapers in your opinion could be fun too lol

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awe I’ve written tht under my list of videos I plan to film! 🖤

The tag is the back

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

I thought so too but then the V in Victoria Secret makes it look like the tag is supposed to go in front. But then again I am the one that put the diaper on the wrong way the first time around. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ive never dated or try to get intimate with anyone, its just not for me, maybe its an autism thing, but if had and would see that the lady would be in a diaper, my first thought would be "JACKPOT!!" followed by " hubba hubba!" and a toss up between 2 90s songs, either "wiggle it" or hearts "how do i get you alone".

Not gonna lie... that first belted undergarment did not look like it offered adequate absorbency

sono stato fidanzato per anni con una ragazza incontinente. per quanto abbia cercato di farle capire che per me non fosse un problema e che mi piacesse comunque non mi ha mai nemmeno creduto.ovviamente lei non si è mai piaciuta.

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awe maybe she felt tht things were too good to be true?!

@user-lb5xo2ek5e

6 ай бұрын

@@BumblePree perchè troppo bello? tutti quanti abbiamo dei difetti , se lei accetta i miei non vedo perchè non dovrei accettare i suoi.

do you play video games? any mmorpg's?

Personally intimacy doesn't always mean sexual. Now if i had a girlfriend who wear diapers for what ever reasons i would accept her and love every part of her

It took me weeks before I would even try.

I don’t think you need that anyway

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Nope!

There's diapers with lots of cute prints...that might help...

Confidence is sexy, regardless of whether you're wearing a diaper or a thong.

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

Confidence is everything! 🙌🏽

Hi Pree, you’re a pretty woman

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

Awe thanks! 🖤

@danielgartin-oh9ik

6 ай бұрын

@@BumblePree You’re welcome sweetie

@danielgartin-oh9ik

6 ай бұрын

Any siblings beautiful woman?

I think Prevail has an incontinence product in the form of a thong

@BumblePree

7 ай бұрын

Awe no way!

@TeamStudNation1280

7 ай бұрын

@@BumblePree yeah. I think it's called the Prevail Belted Shield

diapers are intimate for me.

Should not matter what you wear

@darrenwilson9017

Ай бұрын

I have been wearing diapers for 15 years

@BumblePree

Ай бұрын

@darrenwilson9017 Awee!

@darrenwilson9017

Ай бұрын

@@BumblePree been in a few relationships and my diapers having never been a problem single now 😆

I think diapers are sexy in general and when a woman wears them comfortably and confidently that's extra sexy

All you gotta do is find a guy that likes diapers and there's plenty of us Out There.

Just get diapers with hearts, your super beautiful the way you are! No need to stress about it, hey just prance arround in your diaper!

It would be a pleasure to date you. Incontinence does not matter to me. I want to know the person. That is what is important to me. ❤

@peoplethesedaysberetarded

7 ай бұрын

And if she shit herself halfway through Le Luvins, no big deal, right?

❤

@BumblePree

6 ай бұрын

🖤🖤