It’s actually so nice you can now openly say “you were a wild animal!” Shows the progress that was made. I’m into 7 months and it’s still very hard, so it’s nice to hear that it was hard for you during that time period.

@letsgodad

3 жыл бұрын

7 months in was rough! We'll be thinking of you on this step of your journey!!!

You two have such a good relationship I can only imagine the hard work you both have put into it, take care of each other

Love seeing the attachment between you two. 😍

It is lovely to see the relationship the two of you have built

Every child should have someone who never gives up on them. It may be hard but it wins through so often. Well done Nick for the one who never gave up.on Robert.

Great interview, Robert! I had no idea that nose-stealing and tickling were such effective interview techniques! :-) Good Q&A too, of course. I'm so glad you and your dad stuck together, even through the tough times, and you have become this wonderful family now. You do have a big heart. Even all of us strangers on KZread can see that.

When can we see more of these two such a lovely Father and Son.

I'm a former Foster parent with, SAFY, specialized alternatives for youth. I'm subscribed and have watched every video you've put out. I fostered from 1986-2004. The youth that I had in my home last is now twenty-nine years old and living with me. I loved listening to the song that you wrote. It was heartwarming ! Now at 56 years old and single, you have inspired me to give it a go again as a single dad. God bless you and your family

Great job guys! I feel happier having watched this.

Such a joy to see this great love between you two. Very nice vídeo. Love 💓

I can't stop smiling watching the interactions between you two. so heartwarming. You are a great father and he is a great kid.

Your care for Robert through his not so easy periods reminds me so much of the Lord, how He wanted us, adopted us through His Son’s sacrifice and loved us (at least me certainly) through my not so easy (and downright disobedient) seasons. Yet He’s still with me, as you are with Robert. Robert what a great dad you have

This made my day!

This was awesome.

I have a question for you guys. So, one of the things I like about how you relate to each other, is that you're comfortable hugging or having other playful silly physical contact. So how do you negotiate healthy physical contact with foster kids? How do you know what they will be okay with, and what might feel threatening even if it's not? I have an adult friend who had a lot of disruption in his family while growing up, and somehow (not intentional) it turned out that from age 10 to age 27, nobody touched him - no hugs, kisses, high-fives, anything. He didn't say anything about it during those years, but it profoundly affected him - he felt "untouchable", maybe a little unlovable, and struggled to make connections with people sometimes. Then when he got sick once at age 27, a friend visited him in the hospital, and impulsively gave him a hug, and it felt like a miracle. I just hate that he suffered in silence all those years - but I also know hugs are not always welcome or the right thing in all situations, and you'd would have to be especially careful with kids in foster care. So, any tips on navigating that?

@letsgodad

3 жыл бұрын

Great Question! I knew a young child that was having terrible behaviors at school. It turned out that his parents didn't believe in showing physical affection. After intervention occurred the behaviors disappeared! Touch is important, but, I am really slow to touch foster kids (i.e. a pat on the shoulder for a chore well done). Often, I wait and allow foster kids to make first contact. With young kids (4-12) I ask something like... "I am so proud of you for that! Can I hug you?" Even then, it would probably be a side hug until/unless they initiate a normal hug. Some kids, especially those in foster care, have something called sensory processing disorder. One type of this disorder makes it painful for a child to receive touch of almost any kind. Another issue is that some children in foster care have had their boundaries violated in sexually inappropriate ways. Contact with these kids can be triggering. I should also say that I am very careful around these kids, because often they attempt to initiate inappropriate touch as that is what they were taught. So sad! All that said, I think it was UCLA that did a study a while back which determined that everyone seems to need physical contact 8 times a day in order to be emotionally and psychologically healthy. 8 "Fist Bumps" or "High Fives" don't usually cause any harm. They are a great way to test the water to see if someday you can build up to giving your foster child a hug. :)

@lrigdrenlrigdren2147

3 жыл бұрын

@@letsgodad thank you! Great detailed reply. Wow, 8 times a day! I know an awful lot of adults who don't get nearly that - I wonder how much anxiety and depression might disappear from the world if there were more healthy appropriate ways for adults to get their "vitamins", and be recharged to pass that along to their kids? I love your suggestions for ways to gauge what your kids are okay with.

The question and answer sessions are always incite full, enjoyable and shows the bond you guys have. As far as tickling is concerned, I have looked up human rights law, and it states that you need to do as much as possible, daily! Sorry Robert on this one you lose and dad wins!

@letsgodad

3 жыл бұрын

Good to know we are following the necessary human rights directives!

you have inspired me to get my foster care license, thanks. Robert is a great kid, how old is he if I can ask>

I watched all your videos.. and saddenly I thought that I also want to adopt.. I'm 47 single. 🇵🇭❤️❤️❤️

@letsgodad

3 жыл бұрын

Why is that sad? My friend is 55 and currently has an older child placed with him for adoption. Are the rules different where you are?

@vicbusacay4787

3 жыл бұрын

@@letsgodad I don't know what the rules for adoption are here..

No. The tickling must continue

Robert dad needs to tickle you more. Are you going to watch the new LEGOS on Fox tv ?

i think you should tickle Robert every chance you get 😄😛