We all miss you guys soo sooooo much! Hope you're all doing well, and have all the blessings in the world.

My foster son wanted me to post a comment on here for you guys. He wants you to know that he watched this video and it helped a lot. He went through a very similar process when he entered the system. As for me, I really appreciate your videos. As a single foster dad, you were an inspiration for me when I first started. This is my first and it has been a whirlwind, but I would never give up the time I've had with this amazing kiddo. ❤❤❤

Robert has had some major trauma at a young age. I'm so happy to see he's still trusting and loving and a great young guy!

Robert, it's so good to hear you working through those feelings as time marches on. I was in a very similar situation as yours, and now 45+ yrs later still have to confront feelings from early childhood that will randomly pop up out of the blue. My biggest suggestion would be to not become jaded and turning inwards. It took many many years to let go of the pain and considerable amount of anger and hurt....it's an ongoing process. Be well my friend!

He is so mature now and definitely a good communicator!

I am glad your back and feeling better. I’m glad Robert smiles and seams to be a normal teenager. I am just into taking the classes but it helps me to watch how you interact with Robert and how much he has changed. I hope when it’s my time it works out as good as the two of you have.

You look really healthy; I’m glad you’re back home spending time with your children, both adopted and foster.

It's so concusing to me why they wouldn't make it easier on a kid by explaining a little bit about whats happening. I can't imagine waking up one morning and the authorities knock on the door and place me in a completely unfamiliar environment without a word. What a cool kid. Here's to a bright future for Robert🥂 he deserves it.

Growing into a great young man!!

God bless you both. I am touched that "after your (dad's/Nick's) near-dath experience" both of you are recommitted to helping others more deeply. I sense you will help hundreds, if not thousands, in their life journeys. Robert, I can see you are maturing well. Keep at it . . . I hope you are developing a deeper faith in your relationship with the Lord and you have enough life experience now to see how important that is and will be. Keep the faith! Be strong and powerful men of God, together.

Robert you are growing into a nice young man with the help of your dad, it's so nice to see your relationship, take care of each other

Sending love to Robert from,MN ❤ you are a very special teenager...

Glad to see you guys back.

So glad you’re back

Glad to see Robert again . He is a very mature young man. I am sure you are very proud of him.

He’s such a cute likeable boy! You must be so proud 💙💙💙💙

Following up on the medical stuff you shared, you have not posted in a while, are you doing ok, Nick?

Thank you, Robert! I think your honesty will touch a lot of lives. I hope other teens will be able to watch your interviews and feel supported in their own growth. Congrats on the maturing you've worked hard to achieve! Let's go!

So glad you guys are back! Nick, thank you for sharing what you went through the last year. I’m sure it was a tough decision to make, but I’m really happy you have decided to continue the channel. the two of you are a really valuable example of what can happen when care givers are trauma informed. Robert, you’re an amazing kid, so self aware and way wise beyond your years. You inspire me to keep keep working on myself. Keep kicking butt!

Just found your channel tonight. I'm glad I did! A few months ago I started the process to adopt from foster care. Hearing your insights from the both of you was/is really valuable! I'll definitely be back to your channel!

thanks for the video, its helpfull to see the difference and what robert thinks / is like even between the first video and now. im still wanting to be a single foster dad, but i realize that i need more support to make that happen, and im taking the steps to hopefully make that happen. you guys are an inspiration

I'm so happy to see you guys back! I currently have my first placement. Love your channel, and I look forward to seeing more videos.

Pls post more videos

Thanks for sharing. A much deeper voice and a mustache, it’s been a while.

Hope you guys are ok.

Pls post a new video. We all miss you posting new videos.

What a great update! Let’s Go Dad you are amazing in how you’ve assisted in Robert’s healing process! What a God send. I’m single and in my 40s (no kids of my own) and would love to do something similar. Dad, I would love to hear more of the story that brought you here. Were you ever married? Would you consider marriage in the future? What if she had kids, etc. Or will wait until Robert is grown? Much love to both of you!

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Well I'm not alone at least. I'm 41, and single without any kids...however my situation permanently bans me from being a foster parent or being able to adopt....I have a felony for grand theft....so that banned me from being able to be a foster parent or adopt a child...my grandparents were foster parents for many years, but finally quite because of the piss poor way the system is ran, and it hasn't got any better 50+ years later.

Your child looks incredibly to my godson. As time goes. My adoptive son will make me grandfather again. Your health is fine .

You guys are awesome! I haven't checked in for a while - you've grown and matured so much, Robert. I love that you are brave and you share your experiences, to help other people. I can't foster (I don't meet all the requirements), but I am trying to find other ways to offer support. In my area, there is a group that helps with birthday presents and parties for kids in foster care, just so they can know there are adults in the world who care about them, and want them to have a little sunshine in their day. I may try being a mentor too, to some older kids. Now that you're older, do you think things like that make a difference too, for kids who don't yet have a forever family? What are the most helpful things adults could do, if they aren't able to foster or adopt, but they do want to support kids who are waiting in the system?

How are you guys. It’s been a wile. I hope everything is going great in tour lives

I have a question for Robert. What would you chance to te system. What did you miss en how should the system be better for the children from your point of view? In my country the problem is not listening to the child and parents and put children in fostercare without any real reason.

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A child typically doesn't have any say in what happens to them, and what I've been told is they're not even allowed to go stay with a relative or a friend when they've been removed from their biological parents' home....reason being is due to the child's safety, in their parents could go over to that family member's home and take the child(ren) and take off with them, and continue doing whatever it was they were doing to the child, or other activities that got the child(ren) removed in the first place....so they are taken and placed without communication to the family, and oftentimes the child isn't really given much detail either so they can't spill the beans to their parents during authorized visitation. The problem here in the US is a lot of the foster parents shouldn't be allowed to be foster parents either, yet the system once again turns a blind eye....plenty of people out there that love kids, but don't have any of their own who would be great foster/temporary parents for these kids, but the system doesn't look at it like that, they gotta have a bunch of nonsense paperwork and politics tossed into the mess instead. The system needs a total cleaning from top to bottom, and people running it that actually care for the kids instead of their paycheck and being able to hide behind the system to cover up their own bad behaviors.

Robert has come a long ways since being taken from his biological family...you can also feel it wouldn't take much for flashbacks to return, and horrible thoughts and feelings to return if things suddenly spiraled out of control, even for a short moment. After your last video regarding your illness and surgery, a few questions had come to my mind....I'll post them here in hopes you find them and can address some or all of them in a future video. 1. Is there anything that people who are not foster parents can do to help and assist foster parents with their foster kids in a public setting? I wouldn't think a person would know that you are a foster parent or that the kids that are with you are foster kids most of the time, so, if for example one of your foster kids just happens to have a mental breakdown at the grocery store and takes off, would it be ok if someone in the store helped the child until someone could find the foster parent? I would assume, that would be an absolutely, just as with any child that needs help. But given some of the guidelines and rules of foster kids and parents, I'm curious as to how some of that works in the real world with other people in public settings where a foster child may act out, or for some reason go running up to another adult in the store and talk to them, or ask for help with something. 2. Do foster kids get to enjoy social media and internet like other kids, or are they restricted due to being in the foster system? 3. Can you travel with your foster kids, or do they have to be temporarily placed with another family? 4. What happens if you become ill and are in the hospital and can't take care of the kids any longer? In the case of most foster parents where they don't have anyone else in the house that could step in like your parents do. Is there some sort of a timeline where the foster system supervisor decides ok, we've got to take the kids to a different home because you've been sick for over a week, type thing, or is it more based upon the type of illness and outlook? 5. Can your foster kids invite friends or neighbors over for a sleepover, or to hang out like other kids? Can foster kids go over to a friend's house or neighbor's house and do the same? Or are they restricted to you house and only the kids you happen to have in your home at the time? 6. Given the conditions many kids come into the foster care system from; are there help groups in place for those kids to help them cope and work through those traumas, experiences, etc.? What are their options outside of those help groups? Are they able to seek immediate help from anyone around them, or are they physically just stuck with having to deal with it themselves until they get home? Kind of relates back to the first question in regards to outside help when the foster parent(s) aren't immediately available, like if they're at school, on the bus, at the store, etc.

Roberts eye roll is better

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