I just found you and immediately subscribed! You have no idea how overjoyed I am at discovering the name of your channel! For whatever reason in the past when I would suffer somniphobia bouts and my circadian cycle would fall off it's own bike path, I never thought to look for help on KZread, which is one of my major pastimes! I would always Google for chat rooms for someone to text with and self soothe that way. But today marks a major win for me; in that you're out here for us as a support system, providing us wisdom and encouragement in dealing with this form of anxiety! Just listening to your 12 minute lesson and tips was extremely beneficial and soothing to me, especially now, as I'm dealing with fear of falling asleep at this very moment. hat you explained hits the nail on the head, and I can't wait to watch some more of your videos! Thank you. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!!!

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, such a wonderful message 😊 this means the world and you know, I want to say big welcome to the community!! Be in touch and let us know how things go!

@bobjohn435

2 жыл бұрын

How are u know and what did u do

@igortakesabride1139

2 жыл бұрын

@@bobjohn435 I kept watching various videos for information here, and was successfully able to "not care" or be attached to the outcome. Are you still suffering from sleeplessness isssues? If so, keep watching and ingesting the information on this channel. It's bound to help you. The philosphies here are sound and perfectly helpful.

@bobjohn435

2 жыл бұрын

@@igortakesabride1139 thx u give me hope 🖤

@superoli5308

2 жыл бұрын

Hello. Did you overcome it? How are you? I am also have this anxiety. 😢

I find it really scary to feel slowly loosing control and going into nothingness, randomly... : (

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

This often can become something we think is a threat, that is scary… the brain is so creative… I think seeing that we are scared though, this in itself is so helpful. Because then we can also teach teach the brain about perceived threats and that we are safe…

@phoebe-py6hc

Жыл бұрын

hey i have the same fears. did u manage to overcome this?

@user-alicel9nf4e

3 ай бұрын

Me too . When i close my eyes , i suddenly open it and say omg where im going? No ishouldnt become unconsciousness, in other hand im really tired and like to sleep.

I also get scared when I became aware that I am falling asleep, if I am not aware, there is no fear, then I sleep peacefully. Thanks a lot ❤️

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Anytime LT, so glad you found value here. We call this hypnic awareness and if you’d like to learn even more there’s a playlist on this in the description. Best!!

@lt5600

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you so much, your video helped me a lot!

@igortakesabride1139

2 жыл бұрын

This solves for fear of death, not just the fear of sleep. Well said. Thankfully, death and sleep cannot possibly be the same thing. but if they are, natto.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

All fear at the end of it is fear of death isn’t it? And when we no longer fear what inevitably happens to all of us, then I think things become easier 😊

@igortakesabride1139

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, and what's exciting is that this is a novel way of addressing the problem with a viable solution that religion or mythology or secularism used to be the only domain for. It answers from a different place, from self aware, psychological, but practical self-wisdom. From understanding how the brain creates anxiety; the engine of it, fully blueprinted and under our control for truly perhaps the FIRST time, yeah? No blaphemy of Jesus intended, but are we really sure HE was Natto, even? (Jesus wept!) And it's a practical toolset that genuinely works, if understood. There's a lot of manmade dross and rebuttals before you can wield the tools, but the solution is there. It's interesting. Pardon this joke, but it's everything that Scientology WISHES it were. Not Xenu. but Natto! haha.EATPIE! Whoever! I love it!

I used to have panic attacks at night because I was scared of being unconscious in my sleep. This helped me a lot! Thanks 😊

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

So so glad you found this 🙂! Thanks for letting us know!

@phoebe-py6hc

Жыл бұрын

hey did you overcome? i’m struggling w same issues

@catromic9903

Жыл бұрын

@@phoebe-py6hc Yah I did actually. It’s kind of hard to pinpoint how I overcame my fear but I’ll give you some things that helped me. One thing that helped was knowing that if I can’t sleep I’ll be fine. I had books in my room so that I knew that I wouldn’t be bored if I couldn’t sleep at night. I never used them as It kind of made me feel secure and helped me go to bed. Another thing that helped me was knowing that our brains aren’t really inactive when we are asleep. Are brains dream and even think a little while we are dormant.I hoped this helped and I hope you can recover! :) Sorry for long reply by the way. Have a great rest of your day!

Tha k you Daniel For this. Been going through a rough pt h again. I almost started to forget about sleep all together and sleeping okay like 5-6 hrs straight wake up and go back to bed but now it’s like all the fear has resurfaced from the past! Thai video has helped to calm me down again

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

You got it Ernest. And you know, for each wave that passes, the brain realizes that there’s actually no danger… glad you found this helpful, and thanks for being in touch 👍

Hi Daniel great video so just a quick update last night I decided to sleep in my own room and I was way less anxious than before for some reason . I didn't get like deep sleep and what not and spent a lot of the night tossing and turning but I wasnt anxious . Well maybe a little bit because of the heat in my room but that's alright. I convinced my self that even if I didn't get deep sleep I got little micro sleeps in-between cuz u can't just keep their in bed lying down without getting any sleep at all. So so far so good I'll keep u updated

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Very glad to read this 😊! You know, when someone says “I slept!”, that’s nice of course, but what really makes me encouraged is when someone says “I didn’t sleep so much, but this didn’t bother me much”, because that’s where freedom is. When we look at being willing to have some discomfort as success, then there’s no pressure, as opposed to when sleeping or sleeping a certain amount is thought of as success. Sounds really nice, and yes do let us know how things go!

Im also getting over this. What has helped me a lot is a shift in how I view the fear. I have learned to just feel all emotions, choose not to struggle with it. Accept that as of the moment sleep may not be optimal, but it comes anyway! Also, trying to spin the fear into excitement. Rather than seeing sleep as something scary, try thinking of it as an exciting adventure each night. Close your eyes, just rest, and be ok with whatever happens

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

This is the way 😊

@nkundwashanice574

Жыл бұрын

I enjoy the whole process but when the time for crossing to unconsciousness reaches;I even fail to get what to think about or feel. I end up getting terrified. My eyes literally turns to my head straight. Help!

@rahulpardeshi6646

Жыл бұрын

Hey..have you experienced heart palpations just when you are about to sleep ? How you overcome that

@gracekiter8320

Жыл бұрын

@@nkundwashanice574 have you been able to get over this?

Wonderful episode. Thank you so much. I needed to hear this.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Scarlett, so happy it was helpful and timely 😊 Thanks for commenting!!

Great episode Daniel as usually. I just want to let you know that since I left my comment on one of your videos with Karl, and by thinking about your approach, I really started to sleep MUCH better again. For last 4 or 5 days I was sleeping 7h+ and this night I got my 8h of refreshing sleep. It's really amazing for me and a huge step forward when I compare myself with like 1 month back where I was sleeping for 4 hours a night or getting through all nighters. I was convinced that I'm dying from Fatal Insomnia (oh how silly I was jesus) and now I'm sleeping 7-8 hours again which seems will happen on regular from now on. Yesterday I went to a psychologist/therapist which also helped me with my approach to sleep, she was basically preaching very similar ideas like you do in your videos. But it seems that I'm finally gaining freedom when it comes to my sleep quality. I know there will be some nights of bad sleep which is pretty normal but I'm just very happy that I do not have to endure my days with bloody eyes, constant headache and tiredness. I wish you the best Daniel. And I'm still gonna lurk on your channel and will try to change minds of similar people who really think that they are SFI/FFI "pacients" here in the comments. ✌️

@cristiansg2433

3 жыл бұрын

I haven't got 7-8 hours in months :( ur lucky

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Daniel! Wow this is sooo wonderful to read 😊!! And thanks so much for sharing! I’m also very glad your therapist echoed the same message, it can be so tricky when you get conflicting ones. I always like to point out that sleeping well comes from teaching the brain that being awake is safe. Well done teaching the brain 👍 Oh now one thing to add, it’s very typical and normal to have speed bumps, some residual fear leading to a night of little sleep even when you’ve done well. It doesn’t mean anything! It’s just an opportunity to see that if we don’t respond, just keep doing what we’ve been doing, sleep comes back. Super glad again reading this and yes please stick around and leave a comment here and there, much appreciated 😊

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Hang in there Christian…you’ll see peaceful sleep come to you as you’re here learning 🙂

@daniellengyel6486

3 жыл бұрын

@@teresahoang6593 I've stopped thinking about sleep as a necessity to function. I watch a movie on Netflix every night before I go to bed with ny mom (which I know isn't recommended because of the blue light but it is what it is and it works for me so far). And when I'm tired I go to bed and I'm relaxing there, I'm not thinking about "I NEED TO SLEEP NOW" like I used to before. If I'm having problems falling asleep then I'm just relaxing in bed thinking about what I'm gonna do tomorrow or so. And before I even realize it I fall asleep. I'm still taking CBD oil, melatonin, lavender extract pills and beta blocker for my blood pressure but I'm not on anything serious, no antidepressants, no benzodiazepines, no z-drugs... I'm just overall more relaxed throughout the day and I stopped thinking about sleep as something that I NEED TO DO but rather as something that will eventually happen haha. For example day before yesterday I slept for 8+ hrs. Today I slept only around 6 but I'm okay with that. I just don't care about sleep no more. 😁 As I've stated in my comment around month back I was crying multiple times in my day, I was scared how I'm going to die because of sleeping very little and that was such a stupidity. You just have to let go completely. Don't care about sleep. Some soldiers when they are on missions or special trainings sleep 4 hrs on regular and even when they come back from their deployment they get PTSD and their sleep never comes back to normal. Does that necessarily mean that they are going to die? No... Just relax and enjoy other things in your life, forget about mechanically telling your brain to sleep. That won't work.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

This is the way, love reading this Daniel.

This was a very good and informative video, not just for somniphobia but fears in general. Thank you very much

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Anytime, and exactly, it’s actually all about that same approach to anything we’ve been afraid of 🙂

Yeess It's all about not fearing I was having many jerks everytime I went to sleep,and the more scared I was of the jerks the worse and intense they got. once I stopped caring if I would sleep or get a jerk,my sleep got so much better

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

At the end of the day… this is all. Just like you said Diego. Thanks so much for sharing and I’m soo happy to read that things are so much better!

@shorfan

3 жыл бұрын

How did you decide to not ”care” about them? Initially going to bed I don’t really care or worry about these jerks but then when they happen continously i’m thinking ”when will this ever stop?” And the fear and worry starts to come in. Would appreciate some advice!

@rosiegartland308

2 жыл бұрын

@@shorfan my thoughts exactly. When it’s happening it’s so terrifying. Logic goes out of the window.

@user-mp9lq3xv5b

2 жыл бұрын

@@shorfan how is your sleeping now ? I’m suffering from this

Thank you i felt very understood. Really appreciate this

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

😊

GREAT episode Daniel!

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Riley!! Thanks so much 🙏😊!!

Very glad I found this video. I have struggled with my fear of sleeping since I was a kid and it has periodically popped up here and there as I’m now in my early adulthood. Even now as I’m typing this I have spent majority of my night dealing with my form of somniphobia which I believe generally comes from my fear of losing control of my conscious experience. As I begin to feel the effects of being tired/sleepy and slightly begin drifting off I almost catch myself before I can fully fall asleep, which I believe is my brain signaling to me that my fear of losing consciousness is happening and I should be on high alert and not allow myself to doze off. I both struggle with having this fear of losing conscious and also fearing the impact that lack of sleep has on my body. It’s a bit of a catch 22 situation; afraid to sleep but also afraid of being in this sleep-deprived-awake state. I appreciate your advice on acknowledging the fear signal as it happens, but I wonder what/how specifically to acknowledge it? For instance, when I start to doze off but then get fear signal that “oh no you are losing your precious conscious experience, don’t let it go” do I simply just say to myself “you are correct to feel this way” ? Or remind myself “this is a perceived threat, and not an actual threat” or something? Im just not sure how to exactly acknowledge it in a way that is meaningful or comforting to me. I usually handle my general anxiety in a similar wya by stating that I’m not in any “real” danger and that this feeling is just a “perceived” threat, but I dont think this way works when it comes to my fear of sleep because I perceive it as unknown. Sorry for the long post, but hope some of my thoughts are clearly communicated here.

@marcelaqq

Ай бұрын

Hi! How are you these days? Did you manage to handle your fear?

@WellfareToys

Ай бұрын

@@marcelaqq Hello. Doing better now than when I typed out the previous comment, thanks for asking. I've managed to find a comfortable way of easing into sleep that allows me to not actively think about the "moment" I fall asleep which was often the issue for me. I do still struggle with getting enough sleep each night and I am working to hopefully get more comfortable with the idea of "letting go" of my controlled conscious state slowly but surely through meditation, short naps, and various other practices. Therapy also helps with staying consistent in those practices.

@marcelaqq

Ай бұрын

@@WellfareToys Thank you so much for your response, right now I can see hope to recover from this as I have one to one the same symptoms like you and still struggling, wish you all the best and keep fighting ❤️💪 if you would like to talk ping me 😊

I feel calmer everytime I watch your video, Daniel! My sleep has improved a lot with like 1-2 weeks of good sleep, following with 1-2nights of bad sleep. I know this is a journey, but do you think there is a way I can move forward and improve my sleep altogether? Thanks a lot!

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Aaron, I’m so glad to read this, thanks for the encouragement 🙏 And I just answered a very common question with this reply, let me share it! It is common to wonder how long you’ll have some worry about sleep even though you slept well or understand why you had insomnia in the first place. It can be tricky because it can feel like “if I don’t stop worrying even when I sleep well and understand, how will I stop worrying”. But you know, it’s totally normal. It is simply that the brain has been scared for sometime, and it just takes a little time before it truly understands that there’s no danger and no threat. How much time is “a little more time” you may wonder. Well, this is another one of those paradoxes where the faster you want to not be worried the longer it takes. And the more you go towards “yes I am worried but that is normal and I can still live my life and do meaningful things even when I’m worried”, the sooner the worries fade. So yes, when you are no longer trying to brake the cycle or get away from those 1-2 nights, when you abandon the struggle altogether… then there’s peaceful sleep and peace of mind 👍!

@mrchan0514

3 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you Daniel! I think that makes sense. Like dealing with most problems related to insomnia, just let it be. I will try not to care about the cycle as much. Thanks again!

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

This is the way 😊

Hey Daniel. Love your videos, thank you for sharing. I have a question for you. Do you have any advice on how to deal with the state of the mind where the mind is active just enough to leave you in an in-between pre-sleep limbo state / and it lasts for so long that you have to get up and go to the bathroom anyway. "Bathroom break" sometimes resets the mind enough so i can hit the bed with an empty mind but when it doesn't, then the mind starts to think about ways to bypass this roadblock, which makes it worse since the source of issue gets more focus on it and it just becomes a rolling snowball. I usually just try to stay as indifferent as possible and trust that staying empty will get me there, but once the initial sleep "attempt" goes south, a part of my brain simply doesn't shut off and even if my mind is blank, the subconscious active part will cause constant hypnic jerks when the body is falling asleep and won't allow the transition. The only thing that sort of helped is identifying that it's not happening early enough to break it, get up and do something chill for an hour, then try again and shut down the mind as soon as i hit the bed (or meditate before and carry over that vibe). If i don't break the attempt, 3 to 4 hours pass which feel like an hour and i just keep floating in that limbo never catching sleep. Btw my insomnia type is not being able to fall asleep, once i do it's all smooth though. Thanks.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Navtyr, thanks for the encouragement! Yes this is a common way of experiencing insomnia. It’s like an all/nothing thing, it’s similar to “if I don’t fall asleep by this time then I don’t sleep at all”. I call this a surfer window, it feels like you have to catch a wave. Let’s take a look: It is very common to think “if I don’t fall asleep by this time, I won’t sleep at all” (or very little). It can seem like there is a window of opportunity. In reality it is simply that during an earlier part of the night you have less pressure to sleep. When it’s getting late, you feel more pressure to sleep. And this is why it feels like if you fall asleep early you have caught the wave, you have caught the wave like a surfer and you’ll be fine. If you missed the wave you won’t sleep at all. When you understand this, you are less afraid of missing a window because there is no real window! But in addition to understanding, what helps is going timeless and not knowing what time it is. Then things get much more fuzzy and there’s less pressure. - Now in addition to this we see some trying here, trying to reset the brain, to bypass the roadblock, to break the pattern. It’s tricky to see but trying to break the cycle IS the cycle. When there’s no trying, by rather you are in bed just resting, having something enjoyable prepared for when you’re awake, with an openness to the fact that no human has control… then things become easier and sleep happens. Hope this helps and do let us know how things go!!

Omg Daniel I just missed this video! So good that you talk about this! I am so happy that we talked about it. I hope it helps others. I overcame it so everybody can! :)

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

It’s been super helpful Marina! This one was by request, it shows how important the topic is!

@AaaAaa-rf9pf

2 жыл бұрын

Marinaa i have the same fear of losing control , i have the same story that you had please can you help me :)

@AaaAaa-rf9pf

2 жыл бұрын

i really need your help

@neginjamshidi7381

2 жыл бұрын

It's so hard I can understand you imagine have university you should wake up in morning and having somniphobia , it's so hard and I dont know whe women have this phobia more than men

@neginjamshidi7381

2 жыл бұрын

@@AaaAaa-rf9pf me too I have this problem too so finally do you sleep? Or not ? You know the worst part is when all people near you sleep with noise but you are still fighting with somniphobia 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♀️ this will make me crazy

so thats why the only meditation thats been helping me lately has been a surrender meditation - fully accepting that i feel gross and thats okay. good to know im on the right track 🥰

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it’s the surrender they truly helps, I’d say not the surrender meditation per se (which can help to know so we don’t go “this stopped working!”)… but yes, anything that makes surrender easier I say is nice 😊

I’ve been suffering from hypnic jerks. Lately i’ve really been dreading them and being afraid of them and now there is more anxiety going to bed and the jerks are more intense. It is so hard to not fear and so hard to just accept these jerks etc.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Shorfan, Thanks for sharing and you know, so many here can relate I know.. it’s easy to accept jerks when they happen rarely and don’t bother you.. much harder when they happen with intensity… but you know, simply knowing that when you’re looking at them as a sign that sleep is about to happen they don’t bother you so much… just knowing this in itself is the way to peaceful sleep.. hang in there, you have great understanding and this will help much!!

@shorfan

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thank you Daniel. It’s really hard even with logic and knowing my body has been through rough anxiety which started these intense jerks, and try to tell myself they aren’t dangerous and knowing that fearing them will only make them worse, I still can’t help the fear and worry I get at night and even during the day I worry about them in the back of my head.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Oh yes you, nobody can control their feelings, like fear… but when we aren’t criticizing ourselves for the fear, then things become easier and lighter….

I used to have a fear when I was younger ( still pops up now and then ) that Im going to hurt someone in my sleep. Id be freaked out and thought that I would fall asleep one day and I would wake up covered in blood and do something terrible. For about a year , I wouldn’t want to go to sleep. Id keep knives away from me, and absolutely not keep anything that could harm anyone in my room. Id literally sometimes have to tell my mom to block my door from the out side so I wouldn’t be able to get out just so I could go to sleep with a little peace. This was the start of my anxiety. While the somniphobia pretty much is non existent I still battle with anxiety everyday. Sure glad to not have the whole sleep thing to worry about anymore.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jordan! This does sound very scary, and to have this sense of responsibility for what you may do when you’re not conscious.. that’s a heavy thing.. glad it’s in the past! Now you know, if you has been not willing at all to accept that you may not sleep or don’t have control.. you could still be struggling. It’s the resistance to discomfort that maintains it. Seeing how your willingness to have discomfort is freeing can really help with something like anxiety. It’s the blue print! Hope this helps and thanks for sharing!!

Hey Daniel great vidio, my sleep was getting on tract I was not sleeping very good but last few days I slept way better than before but I would sleep 4-5 hours than wake up sometime can't fall back asleep. I don't really think much of sleep and don't check time but subconscious thinking maybe now again due to some important work next day yesterday I just can't asleep but not fear of sleep.i also don't remember my dreams now but I do dream is REM sleep really happening.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Samar, this sounds really nice. You know, when that fear fades, then soon enough there will be no struggle at all. The fact that you’re not thinking much about sleep shows how you’ve done a great job teaching the brain that there’s no danger and sleep is falling off the safety radar. Thanks for sharing this and be in touch!

Hi Daniel, A couple of weeks ago I developed a fear of experiencing hyperarousal symptoms such as jerks. This fear and effort to avoid them made them a bit more frequent. Once I practiced acceptance and welcomed them at night, they significantly reduced. However, I am still fearful of experiencing them during the day. It happened a few times while meditating or dozing off, which made me avoid meditating for long periods or taking short naps. According to the video, would you say this is more a case of jerkophobia rather than somnophobia? I initially thought that my brain was developing a fear of falling asleep. But truthfully I am not scared of falling or staying asleep at night at all, that is in fact what I want. I am fearful of developing a fear of sleep, which I know might sound confusing. But I believe to true underlying fear is not being able to sleep. During the end of the video you mentioned that if you fear somnophobia you can run into trouble, but then you sort of corrected yourself afterwards. It still left me a bit confused. Could you elaborate on that a bit more? Thank you!

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

The human brain is a survival machine and it takes its job very seriously. Whenever I think something is dangerous it alerts us in the form of an emotion. If the item that it thinks is dangerous is something edible, that emotion will be disgust. If it thinks that a dangerous item is impossible to get away from, the emotion will be sadness (we will play dead to be safe). If it thinks that we have a good chance of defeating the dangerous item the emotion will be anger. Most commonly however, the emotion will be fear. A version of fear is anxiety which is the fear of something that is unknown or poorly defined. Fear makes us run away or fight. Now here is the thing, this survival machine can become confused. When it comes to insomnia the confusion is that being awake is dangerous. A brain state (wakefulness) has become something that is looked at as a threat. When you see things this way, it becomes very clear that there’s a confusion going on, but there’s another example when it becomes even more clear that some misunderstanding is happening - when we become scared of an emotion. Fear of fear. “I’m so scared of being anxious tomorrow” “The hyperarousal scares me” I think it is so helpful to see this because when we realize that we are scared of something that in reality has absolutely 0 chance of hurting us, we can often see things become more peaceful simply thanks for the understanding. When the brain sees how confused it has been, it can learn and change its ways! Now jerkphobia is also really a fear of fear. Or rather, a fear of a manifestation of fear. And I think the same applies to all these fears, when we see that the thing we are scared of is totally harmless, then the fear fades. Now, you’re pointing something out here which is this territory is a bit tricky! I wanted to say this video that somniphobia alone won’t cause much trouble if left alone, but if we are scared of somniphobia then there’s some trouble. But then I realized that wording it this way can create some fear of having fear of somniphobia, which is why I backtracked! Risheet, did this make sense?

@risheettalim3288

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you for your reply Daniel. I am still slightly confused. I got a bit worried about developing somnophobia based on what you said. Although what I'm ultimately fearing is that this "new" fear would get in the way of me continuing to make good progress with my insomnia. Until a couple of days ago I did not even know what somnophobia, and wasn't concerned with it at all. But now that I learned this information, my mind started rambling a bit lol. I'm following an ACT-based program at the moment and also reading your books. Until now my focus was on insomnia, and I have been feeling much better about my sleep and hyperarousal symptoms. This is just a new concerning thought I need to deal with I guess.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Anytime Risheet, and I’m sorry I can get lost in technicalities. Basically what you said at the end here I think is all that matters. “this is just a new concerning thought”, exactly, it’s just a thought, an idea… and thoughts cannot hurt us, and they only become sticky if we try to make them go away. Learn from ACT, learn from the books and the channel here… and you’ll see things become clearer and easier

Hi Daniel, something strange happened to me last night all of a sudden I had intense anxiety about 'dreaming' as dreams are random and anything can happen in them right which got me very anxious and never happened to me before so I was up all night with hypic jerks, is this somniphobia or dream anxiety? And i fear tonight will be the same

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Mel, You know as I was reading your comment I thought “this is similar to somniphobia”, and you had already made that connection! I think we humans can become afraid of anything that we can imagine being afraid of, dreaming included. We could call this dreamphobia. But I think what matters most is that it’s nothing strange or unusual, and the way with these fears is always the same, when we are willing to experience it and don’t try to avoid or control, then soon the brain learns that there’s nothing fear.

Hi daniel. The past 3 months I’ve developed terrible insomnia/ anxiety. I essentially have anxiety attacks that last all night. It started when I would get a rush of adrenaline right as I was falling asleep. I’ve been on different antidepressants and sedatives to help. I don’t know what to do! Every time I lie down now I have physical sensations of fear. Do you have any practical advice for me? Please, I am beyond desperate. I also have a two year old and a baby to take care of. What can I do?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Mike, So sorry to hear about this but glad you’re here. There’s much to learn from these experiences that can really help. The thing that can make it seem strange that you have surface manifestations of fear like palpitations or breathing fast is that it is out of context. Imagine that you’re playing this intense game of volleyball. There’s a lot of emotions there! You can be super excited in one moment and then really scared that they will win in the next. Your heart may be pumping hard, you may be breathing fast, you may be sweating, but that doesn’t seem odd at all. You don’t even take note of this because it is in context. But when you are awake at night and feel this way, it seems strange because you can’t see any type of threat. The threat is internal, the brain has started to think that being awake is a threat and something you need to get away from, but you obviously can’t see that so your automatic response seems strange. It can be really helpful to see this because then there’s less mystery and whenever we normalize an experience it bothers you less and less. And just understanding it often leads to it fading.

@mikesnyder7961

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 so what practical steps can I take to normalize this and overcome it? Please I’m so desperate and scared.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

You know Mike, the practical thing we can do is learn, this is so very helpful. And I think these are great places to start: This is natto - the perfect place to start learning! kzread.info/head/PL6RQ1GS7B1cik8Xr8iVdxmKB9FYieevYj Success stories - if you need hope and inspiration, this is for you. kzread.info/head/PL6RQ1GS7B1cj68v9hdoXYv_fpOR65oI3U

Lately I've started being really afraid of getting sleep paralysis. I've never had it before, but i hear that anyone can get it and I tick all the boxes for when someone can get sleep paralysis. I'm really scared that I might see a ghost at night cause I'm terrified of ghosts.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there, sorry to hear about this fear but glad you’re here. These are very common worries, I would say for the sleep paralysis and hallucinations and jerks, they are transitioning events that are common. And when we learn more about something it’s less scary. So let’s learn about hallucinations here. Hallucinations are a common thing clients worry about. Just so you know that being worried about experiencing them is common and normal of course. Now why is it scary? I would say anything that doesn’t happen often in our lives, that has an element of loss of control, when we don’t know what it will be like… that can be scary. So yes totally normal that the thought of having hallucinations is scary. So how do we feel less scared? It’s often simply from learning more, from making something less unknown. So let’s spend some time learning! What is a hallucination? It’s really when we experience something that isn’t real. It is when we see or hear or feel something to later realize that it was a product of our imagination. Now, when does we have all have hallucinations? Think about it for a second… That’s right when we dream! I think of dreams as hallucinations. We can be entirely convinced that we are in a situation… only to wake up completely and go… “it was just a dream!”. And you know, this is how hallucinations often happen in the context of insomnia. You know nothing here is medical advice, always talk to your doctor when worried about your health (!), but hallucinations are common when we have fragmented sleep and hyperarousal simply because there’s much overlap between sleep and wake and dreams. You are about to fall asleep but the brain is hyperaroused and there are a lot of thoughts…but you’re also sleepy… and you fall asleep for a second but you’re half asleep and you see a shape and think it’s your husband… but then you wake up and it was just a shadow from the lamp! Or you’re sleeping and actually dreaming, but wake up, and you’re in half sleep, and the dream content becomes a thought and your hear your phone ring… but wake up completely and it didn’t ring! These experiences are not uncommon and you know, it can help to think about it as turbulence. Let me share an analogy I often use when there’s a concern about hallucinations or other sleep-wake transition events.

Lately when Im about to fall asleep I hear myself snore and then it makes me wake up, this happens multiple times within a couple minute and the fear of the snoring as I fall asleep has spiralled into insomnia. I was getting better but once I started hearing myself snore again, I right back to fearing hearing myself snore, falling asleep and wakefulness. I would fall into terrible nightmarish thoughts as I drift and jerk myself awake multiple times an hour. I know the hypnic jerks can disappear but hearing myself snore doesn't and it's causing me stress.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Hi, thanks for sharing and of course no medical advice here, but you probably snored before as well and it didn’t keep you up. That’s a big difference between waking up briefly from snoring and waking up, then being afraid and then having some trouble

Im even scare to close my eyes for one min, i dont know how to deal with myself its so stressfull when i close my eyes the stress become more and more that i open it and look at the ceiling and in other hand im nervous about not sleeping because its necessary for body i dont know what should i do . I think i have somniphobia and insomnia both of them at the same time . DR daniel do you think im strange and sick?😔

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Samantha, What you shared here are very common experiences on our channel, I think there’s much here that can help. Hang in there

@samantha-et5wi

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 🌼

Thank you Daniel for this,but i always anxious everytime i will sleep because i might like dying that every time im gonna sleep

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Ariana and thanks for being here. This does sound similar to somniphobia, but you know in a way it doesn’t matter. What helps is to see that we are afraid - that fear is what is being so much discomfort and suffering. When we see that this is all, it’s fear, then we can meet this in many ways. We can start by taking a look at the thoughts behind the fear (remember emotions come from thoughts!) and we can explore if it’s likely that we will die and sort of challenge the thoughts. Or we can do the opposite of letting the thoughts be there and see that when a message is heard, the brain sees less and less need to send this message. But either way, you’re insight and willingness to see what’s happening on the inside helps much!

@arianacarbonel4383

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thank you so much but can i ask if having anxiety and somniphobia can take a sleeping pill?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Anytime! I think anything we do that makes us more ok with experiencing discomfort can really help, because it teaches the brain that there’s no actual threat. I think generally speaking medications are pretty harmless physically speaking and if we see that whatever become easier for us - this happens because we delegate the “work” then there’s no harm to our confidence that nothing is wrong with us! The tricky part with sleeping pills is that they can create an idea that they can make us sleep! As long as this idea doesn’t happen, then theres not much trouble!

@arianacarbonel4383

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 ok thank u again daniel, but i really have a last question is there a possibility to die just because of this phobia?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome and you know, thoughts cannot harm us at all!

Your video has helped and stuff but how do I stop being scared of sleeping like that thought of not being here for 6 hours is scary to me what should I do

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi! Glad they’ve helped and you know, we call this Somniphobia, the fear of sleeping. Check insomnia insight 394 and Talking insomnia 54, I think those will help!

@cristiansg2433

2 жыл бұрын

Hey, have you fixed this fear? Is there something that has worked for you? I have the same problem

@AaaAaa-rf9pf

2 жыл бұрын

@@cristiansg2433 saame how are you now

@cristiansg2433

2 жыл бұрын

@@AaaAaa-rf9pf I'm doing really bad, sleeping very little because of this fear :(

@AaaAaa-rf9pf

2 жыл бұрын

@@cristiansg2433 same ( how we can contact ; do you have reddit or any messenger

Can you talk deeper about how to overcome somniphobia because you had amazing points that I would love to see you expand on

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Bob! I was smiling reading this because this episode was made when someone asked me pretty much exactly what you asked here 😊 I’d be happy to though as the is topic resonates with many. Do you have any suggestions or pointers?

@bobjohn435

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 sorry I took long to repsond but what I meant was that u talked about the 3 way to help with somniphobia but besides the “aha my brain is scared of sleep that makes sense” I felt as if their was nothing that I can do and practice to better accept the somniphobia.(not to say it didn’t help it most definitely did but I just need something more practical that I can use or say)

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

No worries thanks for expanding! And you know, I think maybe you’ve already seen what helps most. This said, here’s an expansion with some things I hope are more practical. - Our brains communicate with us using various signals. Worry thoughts are signals intended to make us safe from a potential threat. Anxiety is a signal that there’s something we should look out for that may potentially hurt us. Pain signals to us that we are getting hurt and we should do something to avoid harm. All our emotions and physical sensations are signals. Now there’s never anything wrong with the signal itself. For example if someone is afraid of spiders, the fear is totally appropriate, because the brain thinks that there’s a real threat. Now what happens often however is that we start looking at the signals as the problem, not seeing that it’s the confusion that is what we should look at! For example, we may start to think that anxiety (a signal) is something that we shouldn’t have so much of. Then what happens is that we try to get away from this signal, which to the brain means… we aren’t hearing the signal! What does the brain do when we aren’t hearing? It sends more of the signal! Now the question becomes this - the signals often are very unpleasant (which is of course the point!) so how to have less signal? It’s to show the brain that we hear the signal. We do this by being willing to experience the discomfort without judgement, without trying to make it stop, just acknowledging it without action. When the brain sees that we are hearing the signal, it stops signaling! So how can we listen in practical reality? Here are three ways! 1 Thought download Write your thoughts and feelings down for 10 minutes daily at a specific time. With no intention but to show the brain we are listening. This can really give the brain an outlet and you can find that it starts postponing warning you until this time. 2 Going there in the mind Imagine the scenario the brain is trying to warn you about. This is a bit scary, but really shows that you’re listening! For example if the brain says “what if I you get fired?” then you can imagine this in detail. The call from your boss, leaving the work place etc. When we are willing to experience something if even just in our minds, then the brain sees that we listen. 3 The Aha method I think this is very practical and effective. When you have a stressful thought you go “Aha! My brain is trying to warn be about losing my job. I see what’s happening here” or “Aha! My bear is racing, that’s normal and expected when there’s some fear!” Literally any thoughts or emotions or physical sensations of hyperarousal can be met with an “Aha!”. It’s a very practical way of listening. -

@bobjohn435

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thank you so much this is something I will use now and I really love your dedication to your subs is there anything I can do to help you.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

So glad to read this 😊 and you know, if you come across someone struggling with sleep, tell them about the channel! This helps so much, thanks for thinking about this!!

Hi Daniel, how are you? Thanks for this video. I have experienced sleep paralysis for twice. First time when I had it wasn't scared but after second Time I am scared to sleep. How I can calm my mind and get over it? It's been a week couldn't sleep properly. Thanks 😊

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Preet, all well thanks! You know, it’s when we try to calm ourselves that we become tense, it’s tricky but knowing this can helps so much. And so can learning aboit sleep paralysis! - It is common to have sleep paralysis when we are waking up or in transitional sleep. We are normally paralyzed in REM sleep and sometimes this paralysis spills over into wakefulness. This has never been shown to be harmful but it can be scary! And once we have taken note it can happen more often. Let’s see why. What happens with insomnia is that there is some component of anxiety and that makes us more perceptive. We now take note of things which is part of hyper arousal, that heightened alertness that happens when we are anxious. So then you may notice this paralysis more. It can seem odd and often a bit scary. What happens next is that you may become more hyper aroused and you have more awareness and you also take note of it more frequently. As you can tell, what often helps is simply to understand that the paralysis is a common part of transitioning out from sleep. When you do, then there’s less mystery and less anxiety which is always very helpful. Understanding this also leads towards not investigating and not trying to stop it. And just like with insomnia in general, the less attention the better. A helpful analogy that I have started using is one of an airplane landing. There is often some turbulence and some shakiness when the airplane touches the ground. Which is completely normal! If the pilot would abort landing because of turbulence, then the landing would be delayed. But if they proceed, the airplane is soon on the ground. Similarly, when we transition from sleep, there is some normal turbulence (like paralysis) there. Nothing strange or unusual!

@preetrandhawa2712

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you Daniel for brief explanation. very helpful.👍

I still didn't watched the video but I'm planning on doing it tonight because I have been struggling with this problem for years now and it's getting worse and worse, I hate it and I always feel like It can't handle this much more but I'm trying to keep strong and positive, I'm thinking about talk about this to my psychologist do u think they can help or its useless?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Anyone who understands emotions can help!

Daniel, my somniphobia started when I started taking benzodiazepines. Do you think there is correlation between my somniphobia and taking benzos? Would taking benzos causes anxiety disorders (rather would it make the existent anxiety just worse)?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Hi Jong I think chemicals can’t create or undo complex thoughts like a fear of falling asleep. But education does 🙂

@toniangelo555

Жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you so much Daniel! So actually it's in our minds instead of taking chemicals?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Anytime! A client of mine once said “education is better than sedation” - and you know of course I have nothing against chemicals but, I think it’s education that truly matters

I'm afraid to sleep alone , whenever I'm alone in my room i keep thinking like wat if something happens when I sleep then onwards my body starts sweating my palpitations get increased and all even if I'm tired I couldn't sleep. How can i overcome this problem

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Hi Riya, Hang in there. What helps is to see that all our inner struggles come from a form of phobia, being scared of something that’s perfectly safe… with clarity comes peace

For me, the fear is "What if i don't wake up?" And that stops me from sleeping, its so irrational but i also suffer with health anxiety so that doesn't help either

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 ай бұрын

Hey there! Thanks for sharing your experience. Just a quick heads-up: we're hosting live Q&A sessions most weeks and we'd love for you to join us! It's a great chance to ask questions, share insights, and connect with others in the community.

I have struggled with both somniphobia and the fear of not being able to sleep.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear, but glad you’re here Jonathan, much here that I think will help

@jonathanc4166

2 жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thanks! I appreciate that.

@jonathanc4166

10 ай бұрын

@javier7782 Still working through it.

I feel someone standing in the dark watching me and I can't 😴. Is it the same ? I can't sleep and routine becomes interrupted . Plz answer to my query . Whom shall I visit ? Is it scary ? Do I need someone to talk ?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Surbhi, We often experience fear of not sleeping in different ways, I think there’s much here that can help. Hang in there

Hello coach.. When I drift off to sleep that moment I get so fast heart palpations & I suddenly become aware..is that symptom of somniphobia? I am having insomnia already 😫

@38riyajoseph19

Жыл бұрын

Mee too

@thesleepcoachschool8192

Жыл бұрын

Hi, we call this Hypnic awareness… we have a playlist on these experiences that can hekp

Hello si Daniel, I love your video. But can I ask? Is it possible to overcome this kind of anxiety? 😢

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks!! And yes, when our ideas change, everything follows

what if the phobia is caused by sleep walking and sleep paralysis?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Robert! You know, nothing here is medical advice of course, but my general thoughts are these: sleep walking and sleep paralysis are normal experiences that happen when there’s some overlap between wake and sleep. It’s when we think we are in danger that they really bother us! So in other words, often we have a phobia (or fear) because a worry about another phobia (or fear). It’s like fear of fear. And whenever we see that we are actually safe, there’s no real danger, the fear can fade and things become peaceful.

Hi Daniel, I still remember the very first day I couldn't fall asleep.i was under some stress then the fear of inheriting sleeplessness from my mother engulfed me , was awake throughput that night.post that I was even scared to disclose to anyone one about my condition,I Managed that condition for about 8years. After marriage, my ability to fall asleep has improved but.always waking up with irritability of not being able to get sound sleep. I have lost 8years of time,is there a way out to get back my early days of sound sleep.😭

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Suresh, sorry to hear what’s been happening but glad you’re here. Your story is very familiar and I think you can learn much here that will take you to a place where you don’t struggle sleep soundly and peacefully. I think a great place to start is Talking insomnia 58 with Betul. Then check the This is Natto and success stories playlists in the description of any new video. Let us know how things go!!

@kamparaju1

3 жыл бұрын

I'm super fortunate to find your channel. I completely agree the fact that, wanting or desire to sleep makes insomnia to sustain. How do you explain, my situation of not being able to fall asleep for first few years then slowly pattern transitioned to the state of hyper arousal. To overcome this state of hyper arousal what is your advice. Want to go back to the sleep days of naturally feeling drowsy after waking up &my mother using all her weapons to make me wake up. I know again I'm trying to strengthen brake over gas part of it.what is your perspective and advice. Thank you very much for all the work you do. 🙏

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

I’m very glad you found the channel! And you know, understanding what you do now.. this is the foundation 👍 I think they key to hyperarousal is to see that it’s a signal. When we try to beat it or even overcome it, it gets s bit stickier. When we no longer try to get away, it goes away. Let’s take a look! Our brains communicate with us using various signals. Anxiety is a signal that there’s something we should look out for that may potentially hurt us. Pain signals to us that we are getting hurt and we should do something to avoid harm. All our emotions and physical sensations are signals. Now there’s never anything wrong with the signal itself. For example if someone is afraid of spiders, the fear is totally appropriate, because the brain thinks that there’s a real threat. Now what happens often however is that we start looking at the signals as the problem, not seeing that it’s the confusion that is what we should look at! For example, we may start to think that anxiety (a signal) is something that we shouldn’t have so much of. Then what happens is that we try to get away from this signal, which to the brain means… we aren’t hearing the signal! What does the brain do when we aren’t hearing? It sends more of the signal! Now the question becomes this - the signals often are very unpleasant (which is of course the point!) so how to have less signal? It’s to show the brain that we hear the signal. We do this by being willing to experience the discomfort without judgement, without trying to make it stop, just acknowledging it without action. When the brain sees that we are hearing the signal, it stops signaling!

@kamparaju1

3 жыл бұрын

A signals of anxiety ,fear should never be challenged like why am I getting this signals which may lead to suppressing the source ability which produces it, but it's essential in maintaining the healthy autonomous control. Instead acknowledge them(signals) and REACT FAIRLY. This is what I understood from your lessons so far. Am I correct!

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

Hi! I would say yes, the signal itself is never wrong. But it can be produced because of a confusion. For example fear when we meet a raging bear is logical, fear when we think being anxious is going to harm us and we should get away from it comes from a confusion. So yes, never a reason to challenge the signal, but we can be aware of why it happens and acknowledge it. That’s a way to react fairly!!

Hi Danny, remember me ? First of all thanks for making a video on somniphobia ! It is something what I was experiencing as you may know some time back . Well 2021 has been much much better for me. It just has been 2-3 bad nights per month compared to almost every single bad night the previous year. My somniphobia does keep showing up sometimes..but I believe it should get milder as time continues.

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Akshay! Of course! Anytime, thanks for the suggestion. And for being in touch 😊 so so glad to read this snd yes, when we leave things be, that fear fades out. And you know, you don’t see things get easier without some willingness to learn and finding some courage within, well done 👍! Be well and in touch!!

@mistercosmin3542

2 жыл бұрын

please if you could share how you dealt with it, it would be awesome

@rahulpardeshi6646

Жыл бұрын

Hi Akshay can u tell me symptoms of somniphobia

@AkshayBarge1

Жыл бұрын

Hey guys sorry for the late reply .. was occupied with other stuff So I think , the major symptoms I can relate to are as follows : 1) Spending your day thinking about how the night will go 2) Having racing thoughts , worsening anxiety as the night arrives . 3) Experiencing jerks as soon as you try and drift off to sleep. Since well your body wants sleep but you are afraid of it at the same time so you try to resist it. This is the biggest pain in my opinion 4) Your brain continously tracking if you are going to sleep now or not during the night Ways to overcome ( that has worked for me so far ) 1) Going to bed around same time. Not exact but approx. Having a buffer sleep window gives you the confidence, that there is still time if things go haywire this night and makes you feel more relaxed. 2) Reading books before sleeping has personally worked out for me. Also , meditation / yoga may help. I haven't just tried it out yet 3) I don't think there much you can do honestly when those jerks happen especially when trying to drift off to sleep. I think improving the way you react to them or simply not caring is the best way, but that is easier said than done. Daniels videos will help with it 4) Don't avoid going to bed . This is a major issue with Somniphobiacs , they completely avoid hitting the bed. You have to face your demons if you wish to overcome them someday. 5) Add exercise in your routine. Other suggestions not related to sleep but help with life in general 1) Having a general positive attitude in life . It feels very generic advice or something that you are hearing for the 100th time. But we forget to implement it. Somniphobia is associated with despair. Having positivity would negate that. Thinking of yourselves as someone great , someone who is very successful in life , who cannot be defeated. Just thinking bit highly of yourself , thinking of yourself as a prodigy that no challenge can stop will take you a long way does help 2) Have goals in life. Have hobbies. Something that you can always look forward to. These keep you busy , give you a sense of accomplishment. Plus you don't care much about how the night went if you have something to always look forward to the next day . Tbh my personal ambitions always had a huge impact in always keeping me motivated despite my Insomia / Somniphobia whatever you wanna call it. Hope this helps :)

Its 2 am and im litteraly crying rn cus i cant get to sleep and i have mutiple tests to do tomorrow at school

@thesleepcoachschool8192

6 ай бұрын

So sorry to read this, how did it go? Often we find we can do well even with little sleep… rooting for you!

Sonmifobia started last year and now I depends on medication to sleep :(

@thesleepcoachschool8192

7 ай бұрын

Hang in there Ann, and do know both Marina and Kreuza have shared their stories here, hope this can help

I have had 4 weeks of good sleep using cbti naturally I was willing to sacrifice my sleep for the long run I have reinstated on my sedative it has been 2 months since and I just can’t get my self to do it again after that setback scared of going trough the heavy eyes and extreme fatigue again I need a reason I’m doubting the program even tho it has worked for me for 4 weeks straight don’t know what to do a little bit lost

@thesleepcoachschool8192

3 жыл бұрын

James, traditional CBTi is like Russian roulette imho. Sooo many have experienced it just the way you did. Check out Talking insomnia 30, Trevor went through what you did, and he’s doing great now! Let me know how that episode resonated 👍

Can somniphobia kill people?

@thesleepcoachschool8192

7 ай бұрын

Oh no, but the point of fear is to make us feel like we are in serious danger. So it can definitely make us feel this way.

@user-mj5md4me3g

7 ай бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 🙏 thanks

I have fear of sleep because of nightmare that my soul remove on my body i don't want to sleep i don't want to die

@Jasmine-wu1rb

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for bad english

@thesleepcoachschool8192

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Jasmine, sorry to hear but glad you’re here. There are so many things we are afraid of that aren’t actual dangers, learning about how to meet them can help so much

No not everyone expereiences fear